Life as a transgender woman
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It's harder as a trans woman instead of a trans man. I feel sorry for any trans woman who struggles and gets bullied. As a trans man myself I've noticed that my best friend (a trans woman) is constantly gets harassed and I hate to see it. I get a lil teases here and there but i really do envy trans women for their confidence and not being scared of what someone else says. I'm always there and so is she.
Why it’s trying to change biology if your genetically a male and you want to be addressed as a female i would ridicule you as well
@@untamedvoid8895 I would ridicule you for not knowing the difference between "your" and "you're". Yet apparently you are more qualified than innumerable health professionals who have scientifically and medically determined that gender transitioning is the most effective treatment for gender dysphoria.
3.14159265358979323846 26433832795028841 please tell me where i attempt to be more qualified biology is biology and hence can not be changed if your born male i will always refer to you as such
@@untamedvoid8895 Because your entire explanation rests on flawed logic. Transgender people are not claiming to be the opposite biological sex, but they are merely presenting as though they are. And if you saw a passing transgender individual without genuinely knowing that they are transgender, then chances are, you would refer to them as their preferred gender regardless of how much you think biology contradicts that.
I agree trans women do have a hard time with being accepted. I always give my support
This as got to be the least toxic comment section on a video about a trans person I've ever seen in my life! Props to you guys!!
Send Nukes it's better than most videos
It's disappointing that all of the hateful comments seem to be from the last few months. Why is hate the cost of visibility?
@@forivall On the bright side, these are the same type of people that history will not take well to. In a hundred years, people will look back, and they will realize just how idiotic people who were that bigoted truly were.
@adam zarbon Transitioning is documented as being the most effective method of treating gender dysphoria. Additionally, the high suicide rates are attributed to people who are anti-transgender, such as families who reject their transgender children, people who constantly bully transgender children, businesses who deny employment to people simply for being transgender, and doctors who deny services to people for being transgender.
It's the music! :p
Her voice is perfect. I want to know her secret
+junior ussery oh wow sorry someone poured concrete up your bunghole and let it solidify. Her*
+junior ussery You are a terrible, insensitive person and you have a special little spot in the deepest, darkest spot of hell reserved for you. Hope you rot.
agreed
+Rebekah Delay, hormones blockers, early transistion, voice training and voice surgery maybe.
Voice therapy! Look it up and find yourself a speech pathologist. We can do wonders :).
Mad respect, I hope all goes well for her
Agree on the mad respect part!
Him! It's still a him no matter what he looks like or does!
love and be loved. we're all more similar than we think.
HIM
Erick Ballesteros I hope he gets help for his gender dysphoria
aww she calls her mom “mommy” that’s so adorable
1:25 - when I was a kid I was in love with bodyswap plots. For similar reasons.
It seems to be a reoccurring psychological effect... same
I love Vox the most, the videos are always interesting and I always get seeped into the atmosphere.
Spot on. I agree all the way.
Bob Robberts MIT KUN Thank you so much for watching!
MIT KUN what other channels you love?
+MIT KUN HE CANT GET A WOMEN SO HES GOING TO TURN HIMSELF INTO ONE LMAO!!!!!!
+MIT KUN They're too short ! Certain subjects are complex and nuanced & thus need more than 5 minutes to explore thoroughly !
I have to say this person is beautiful on the inside and out
I'd date her, and I'm a straight guy. I find her personality of being a humble person attractive.
I'm a straight guy and I find her attractive, she is a woman, I don't care if she's trans, her personality and inner strength are amazing
Look you homophobic person. She is a woman through and through, reguardless of the male gender she was born with. She is a beautiful woman inside and out. So you are a terrible person for calling her fake.
dana munir Good point
Awyatt Mann I am pansexual. I admit that, but how can you be so fucking homophobic...transphobic really. If you know anything of biology, which I'm guessing you don't...than educate yourself.
This just warmed my heart alot this was a good video,I hope Lily's dad can accept the fact that this is who she is and eventually come to terms.
The disparities between sorting by Top v New is demonstrative evidence that the recent wave of transphobia is manufactured and doesn't intellectually extend beyond mass circulated talking points.
Funny a dream really pushed me towards being trans too. I had a dream where I was a female and everyone was so accepting and I felt warm and happy.
Me too lol
Skaleks same here, i guess tho i realised through a dream and friends and i just new
Skaleks I guess the dream was way more accepting, right?
Shye no you are not if you have XY chromosomes you are MALE
Asher Jayson even your chromosomes show if you are male or female, at the end of the day, anyone can identify as who they want to be if it makes them happy. Why do you need to care so much about the chromosomes? that only tells you what gender and sex you were asigned at birth. Who cares what chromosomes of X and Y you have?! If they are a man and want to be a woman, let them. If they are a woman and they want to be a man let them! Let them be who they want to be! You don't control their lives so shut up!
lol
I knew her DS9 comment would get people ragin''! And you know what...that's a great sign that things are improving for transfolk. Think about it: when the primary YT comment rage on a transwoman's video deals with her choice of nerdy TV fandom and NOT her status as trans...you know that things are slowly getting greener out there. :)
It matters not if you're straight, gay, bi, trans, or anywhere in between. What does matter is that THE ORIGINAL SERIES WAS THE BEST
*This* ❤
Vicarious_ Me that won't happen
TNG beats them all... :(
From the moment you realized you were a girl, and even prior, you were always a girl. You were a little girl, you were a teenaged girl, even if you felt like you didn't get the whole experience. Being a trans woman doesn't make you any less of a woman. You are equal to all women.
Nearthe2nd Very well said, and thanks for doing so!!
If I dress up as spiderman I'm spiderman
I believe yesterday I was fired yesterday for being transgender,I was called in the office and let go for no reason at the end of my shift
File a complaint. Regardless of anyone's personal beliefs it is illegal for any form of discrimination to take place in the workplace.
finally, someone else who gets how much we lost, by not getting to be the little girl and the teenage girl. we miss out on the mother daughter bonding, playing with dollies, playing dress-up, we miss sweet sixteen, we miss homecoming queen, slumber parties, prom queen, cheerleading, Etc. and once these things pass, you can't get them back. They're just memories that never get to happen. there's such a sense of loss over these things that normal girls take for granted every day. It's heartbreaking.
The Absolute Madman Probably because by that comment it seems she’s transgender, and while she knew she was, she kept it all in herself making her miss all these fun times in her life other girls got to experience
Actually Judy prenatal androgen exposure in the womb has the greatest effect on what type of behavior, and activities a person is going to have, and like. A human brain that is exposed to high levels of androgens regardless of it's chromosomes is going to prefer stereotypically masculine behavior, things, and activities. So of course that's why we see more males than females exhibiting masculine gender biased traits, and behaviors, and vice a versa for feminine gender biased traits, and behaviors. How much androgens the brain was exposed to in the womb is the reason we see gender biased traits, and behaviors in males, females, and non-binary people. Interestingly though androgen exposure doesn't seem to play much of a role in the formation of a person's gender identity.
However, we can tell how masculinized a brain in the womb was by using a hearing test called otoacoustic emissions test\OAE. A brain that is less masculinized can hear higher pitches than one that is more masculinized. We see these differences right at birth before any behavior can be learned. The average baby girl will spend pretty much all their time looking at the faces of those around them, and very little to no time looking at objects. The reverse is true for the average boy. It is the reason why the average boy prefers mechanical toys like a truck over toys like a baby doll. It's also why women\feminine people tend to prefer jobs with people, and elements of nurturing, and why men\masculine people prefer jobs working with objects, or solitary work like computer programming. That's not to say that we can't overcome our evolutionary biology. However, it's not going to be easy as I believe it was Denmark found out.
For years now they have been trying everything they can think of to get more women into STEM field jobs, and yet despite girls being raised in a very progressive country that very much encourages them to get into science, and math still overwhelmingly preferred jobs that dealt with people, and some element of nurturing such as a social worker, a lawyer, or a teacher. My point is not all of our gendered behavior is the result of it being taught to us as children. We know now that in terms of gender identity, and our gender biased traits, and behaviors that we are not born blanks slates that have to have it all taught to us. We are born with a certain innate amount instinctual knowledge. Gender is not a 100% social construct. For one thing gender is really just an outward expression of our sex, which given most people are born cisgender
on-transgender is why most people see sex, and gender as being inexorably tied to one another. In reality it is a mixture of social construct, and our individual biology. Biology absolutely plays a role in all parts of our gender (gender identity, gender expression, and gender roles). Androgen exposure to the brain is why we see stereotypical masculine, and feminine traits, and behaviors in people. Down below are links that show the effects that prenatal androgens have on gender biased traits, and behaviors that people exhibit.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7209510
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18803959
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21397624
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15811504
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7039447
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17875490
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27576114
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25038289
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17195880
Also Judy I don't think for Tabitha it's about stereotyping women. Just like I don't think a trans man is stereotyping men if he were to say that he feels sadness, regret, or that he wished he could have experiencing growing up, and being socialized as a boy, and man. As humans we want to connect to people through shared experiences, and we want to be a part of a group. It also sucks being raised in a way that is fundamentally not who you are as a person. Tabitha is no different than the girl who grew up with parents who never let her do any of that stuff such as going to prom, and then as an adult she looks back on it, and wishes she could have had similar experiences growing up as other women.
Also not every female are against all these things. I don't know why you feel like you can speak for all girls, and women in the world. I think beauty contests are outdated, and just a little bit vain should go away, but there are girls, and women who love doing it regardless of men's involvement with it. Who am I to tell them not to do it because they are enforcing gender stereotypes. All I can do is try to dissuade my daughter from doing it, but if she wanted to I would support her in it. Though while at the same time making sure she understands that her worth, and value in this world as a woman are not, and should not be tied to her external appearance.
judy lapointe Now That’s What I Call TERFY. 🖕🏽
She’s not reducing the entire gender down to stereotypes. She is simply expressing the things she wishes she could have experienced. There’s nothing wrong with that. Some people actually like those “stereotypically girly” things and some don’t. Both are still women.
I’m a girl and I have never had any of those. That’s not what it means to be a woman.
This plays into the harmful stereotype that all trans women find the beach boys' music meaningful
Alori White not all of us do. I'm more hard rock Jackal Black Stone Cherry
The fact that there are any people out there that do not find great power in the beach boys' songs is a very sad state of affairs
HAHAHA truuuue! I get the most out of almost anything else to listen to lol
Big mood
Who said that please listen to urself. She likes that beach boy song. She never said that other trans woman liked that song!!! OMG
Best wishes for your surgery honey! 💋 I finally got mine last year! Life is much better for me, but SRS has not changed my Public Acceptance. For myself however, I am happier than I have ever been in my life! 😄. So keep pushing on and you will get there too. Lovely video and impressive production! ❤️ I subscribed. Bravo!! 💋💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🏳️🌈🌹
I'm a straight man and I see transgender women nothing less than naturally born women, I would date a trans woman if she was pretty and had a nice personality, I don't care about shaming I just do what I see is right
+saif jordanian You are a saint for saying thinking that. A true model for society.
Brandon Veenstra exactly
Brandon Veenstra What he can't change are his XY chromazones
Brandon Veenstra also men and woman think differently
+saif jordanian you're gay bro
The second she said DS9 is the best Star Trek ever, I immediately knew she was cool.
He*
+Its KrysHD (ItsKrysHD) **she
TerraTerra ***he
+Its KrysHD (ItsKrysHD) ****she
LittleDuck Yellow ********biologicaly is a he
Btw, Lily Carollo is a she, not a "he"
+usctrojansable "he"
"he"
“She”
It's a dude bro, you can't change chromosomes
@@christineayres5339 she
Wow, for someone who has only been transitioning for 2 1/2 years, you look remarkably good. Your best asset by far is your 100% cis-female voice. There isn't a trace of baritone in your voice, it sounds very natural. Also, I like the way that you dress, so naturally. A lot of transwomen over do the makeup and sexy clothes in an attempt to by hyper feminine and sexy and this can work against them, but you dress very nice. That beautiful pink dress compliments your body which is pretty feminine. You were lucky to have been born with a small body frame.
+Rayarena HE CANT GET A WOMEN SO HES GOING TO TURN HIMSELF INTO ONE LMAO!!!!!!
Speaking as a straight male, I would totally date her. At the end of the day she seems like a wonderful person and that is all I really care about.
you are awesome :)
I agree transwoman can make me swoon.
i would totally not as he is a male.
cloe bullough well at least i stayed one
cloe bullough He called her a male, which is a scientific fact. Does it make me less of a woman to say that?
I was both sad and ecstatic to see that 57% of transgender people surveyed experienced family rejection. Sad because it is 57%. Ecstatic because I though it would be in the 80-90% range.
bless. When I was reading this comment, I thought you were going to say "because they deserve it." Bless you, child. Thank you for making my day on youtube.
bless. When I was reading this comment, I thought you were going to say "because they deserve it." Bless you, child. Thank you for making my day on youtube.
In European immigrants, Mexican Immigrants, Asian immigrants, Islamic immigrants, etc., it's well above 90% rejection.
You got your work cut out for you, don't worry.
And in Westerner immigrants like Southern Europeans and Mexicans, "acceptance" is typically defined as _"still let's you come home from Christmas, but won't let you speak to children, and father won't speak to you."_
In Islamic cultures, acceptance is your father not cutting your head off to save the family honor.
Your obviously not welcome back home during Muslim Christmas.
She just wants to be what she wants to be, just it. She wants to be herself. I know what her feelings because I am a transwoman. I very supportive to all transgenders.
He wants to be something he isn't and can never be.
@@Apistevist No, she did and she succeed
@@Apistevist shut up
The pink dress is so beautiful!!!
OMG I'm trans and I look at little girls the same exact way. I haven't heared any other trans people say that they envied girls who got to go through girl stages of their life that we didn't.
bobby Spence same :)
My gosh your voice is so pretty though... Was it all training?
My guess is training and or she started early
Trans Marshmallow from what ive seen hrt doesnt change the vocal cords for trans women (but it does for trans men) so probably training, surgery, or both
practice
A terrific story of a terrific person. Thank you, Lily.
I was 100% on board with her until she said DS9 is the best Star Trek. Now I have no respect for her at all. /s
+Chrome Trooper HE CANT GET A WOMEN SO HES GOING TO TURN HIMSELF INTO ONE LMAO!!!!!!
Chrome Trooper I SEE YOUR VERY A WEAK MINDED LITTLE SHIT AND CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!!
The Angry General Fuck! Yeah... you got me. :(
+Chrome Trooper I liked voyager more...
ikr
I was born female. I think I might be transgender. I feel male. It's hard to explain. I want to get diagnosed with dysphoria before making major choices I might regret later on. I need access to a medical professional, but I haven't told my parents yet about this. Any suggestions to help me come out?
Keep in mind, still not positive, but my plan is to present as male, and if I like that, start binding, if that makes me feel good, go to a professional, etc.
Binding sounds majorly unhealthy. I'd avoid it as long as possible.
@@simonsimonsimone I came out about two years ago! My mother and stepdad were very accepting, and my dad and stepmom needed some time but eventually understood. I'm looking to start HRT soon. I have a girlfriend who recognizes me as her boyfriend. I'm happier with myself than I've ever been before.
It must be very stressful to her...
Hamster Nipples It*
I don't think you guys understand the word "transgender".
Hamster Nipples It's not about just one person it's about everyone. Most of the diffrent persons commit suicide just because of the other people thinking they are wierd and don't deserve to live . They don't commit suicide because they are in the wrong body. I don't like transgenders but it's happening and we have to accept it.
Hamster Nipples They're not obsessed with themselves and they won't commit suicide if we would accept them. They sometimes commit suicide before showning everybody else what they think because they know they won't be accepted. Their emotions and thougts is what drives them to insanity.
+splitwitch HE CANT GET A WOMEN SO HES GOING TO TURN HIMSELF INTO ONE LMAO!!!!!!
she's beautiful
he is ugly
She's a whole snacc
Mr. Makaveli What the hell is wrong with you. SHE is GORGEOUS.
He is not beautiful
@@untamedvoid8895 *she
she's so beautiful, i'm so happy for her.
HE
I never really understood why someone would feel the need to change genders, but I'm fine with it. As long as they feel happy the way they are theres no problem.
Not all trans people face dysphoria, some deal with "gender euphoria" in which you don't experience dysphoria, but gain a sense of happiness presenting as another gender.
@@unused.dontgohere.9564 Now I think I have both...
Respect for people like you.
Bless your soul, i wish there were more people like you on this planet.
I can't tell if adam was being transphobic or serious.
This video was like...really, really deep. Thanks Vox, for doing amazing videos like this.
One of the worst feelings in the world that you can ever experience is the inability to accept who you are - be it your gender, your height, your face, your body, your personality etc. You are constantly fighting against yourself. You can't feel fine. You can't avoid yourself. You can't escape yourself. The thing that you hated the most in this world has to always be with you, like a shadow that follows you whenever you go. It's this feeling that makes you hope that the life you're living is just a nightmare you can wake up to.
And it’s really sad too but that doesn’t mean anyone can be forced to accept that and no one should be forced to accept anyone’s culture. A person can think that they’re an offspring of Alaxander the Great or the queen of America that deserves respect but no one can be forced to believe and acknowledge someone else’s delusions. It’s an extremely sad time that this society has come to and I think a lot of people supporting this have gotten confused between the digital world and the real world.
"Life as just a normal human being trying to exist in the world who used to be a man but is now a woman"
The title is about as exciting as drinking water, when you think about it
When ur a trans woman honey ur life is not as normal as people think. When u tell people ur trans there like oh ....... OH. its harder than it looks.
@@diamond-mi7kj
Well...
I mean they chose to be trans soooo
@@keyboardjustice3624 even if they chose to be trans (which they didn't do, transgenderism is not a choice), it still doesnt justify all of the struggles that the trans people go through. it doesn't justify discrimination.
I see trans people like any other people
Satyam Singh YES
No
@@Gigachad-kb1pp Why I-
she looks like a french person
As transgender my self im so proud of u keep doing what makes u happy
Transgender doesn’t exist. Neither does trans racial or trans age or trans consensual or any of it! No one should support the ability to totally hide yourself and not be able to be held accountable for crimes committed and it be accepted as normal and justified! A lot more women could let predators into the bathroom all because they were okay with it instead of pushing the man out to prevent any assault from happening!
I didn't know about this Beach Boys song, thank you. Hope you continue to have more years of happiness and love. This is the only life you have, be yourself.
she has some damn nice hair! give me your tips !
Adam Hamzaj that's most likely not a wig, lmao
***** did she say so,?
***** LMAO PROVE IT!
***** wtf troll, it's not a wig unless she says so. Unless she got some disease that made it unable for her to grow hair, it isn't. Anyone can grow long hair lmao
***** prove it
You have to be alright: you love kittykats, as do I. be strong, you can't win 'em all it's YOUR life be yourself. from Canada
Thank you so much for making this video.
Wohoo time to look at a the warzone of the comment section
Nvm its actually pretty cool
The transphobic people hide in the replies.
Read the comments if you're looking for an awful time. Otherwise, GTFO. You were warned.
*****
as a gay man - who's 54.....married now 5yrs ..together 15........and my hubby's aunt was his uncle..I don't pretend to Understand fully what makes one trans..I like to stay informed on the subject.....and Im not judging anyone....we should all - live and let live....if I was rich and had the money- Id pay for her surgery
rextrek I've known I was a girl and now a woman my whole entire life, and yet being pressured by not only the world but my own fears over the approval of others, it has taken me my entire life to finally be open and admit who I am inside; who I should be on the outside. It's understandable that you don't know what it is to be trans -- I'm trans and I don't even know!! All I know is its killing me on the inside to be silent...
You just know who you are on the inside. And it's SO different for everyone in the trans community. I know because I spend a lot of time with my fellow trans, woman, man, and inbetween. But the point is, life isn't as simple as boy or girl, gay or straight -- it's WAY more complex than we as humans allow our minds to come to terms with.
Sometimes it's combinations of both male and female. Or one day you're a girl, one day a boy, one day a neutral and quite asexual being. Genderfluidity. I know a good number of people who identify with gender in this way, so really understanding trans people is barely even understanding the tail end of LGBTQIA. And the differences are VERY different. Like get a room full of us together and will any of us fuck? It's just too different. Everyone wants different things. It's no longer this homogenous alt scene. Gay doesn't even really even begin to explain homosexuality and bisexual doesn't mean I'm attracted to all people. And am i transgender or genderfluid? I feel more transgender but I definitely go through fluid moments.
Point is, it's not black and white.
+Veronica Mars unfurtunatly its not .... perhaps
It's mainly just users from the Chans that like to bash other people just because they either have miserable or no lives hiding as anonymous; when you call them out on their bullshit, others swarm in defending their bigotry. Being triggered or offended is what they want, when they refuse to reveal themselves since they are cowardly cucks that are mad about their micropenises.
Alan Munguia I totally agree
A very touching video. I feel when people transition from one being to another being, they’re evolving their energies
She passes so well omg
Lucky Snack Creations ikr
absolutely not dude lol
@@sarahfaith86 theres no way u could tell if she didnt say that she was trans do not lie
Hi @Vox,
It would be much more respectful to use Caitlyn Jenner's preferred name in the description box.
Thanks
Sarah S stfu you snowflake
Agreed
dude. why cant they show normal people like her more? why does it have to be rupauls of the transgender community? oversexed, overfeminized
Well, RuPaul isn't even transgender, according to himself, or at the very least he "doesn't care". He's a drag queen. That's a type of performance art, and people of all stripes do it, regardless of their identity. The art of drag literally includes as one of its defining features "exaggerated femininity" - that's the reason it's interesting as an artform.
Someone being transgender could not be farther from that in definition. It's merely someone who has a different gender identity than their chromosomal sex. While a transgirl could certainly choose to dress and behave that "exaggerated" if she wanted to, most don't, and if she did, that would just be her taste! And everyone deserves to be able to show their own self and their own style.
I have a problem with this video. She said Deep Space Nine was the best Star Trek, but it's obviously The Next Generation.
VOYAGER
GhostedShots she* use her pronouns
@@untamedvoid8895 she*
hi I loved this video did yall a full like 40-60min vid on her or just this short vid ? thanks :)
beautiful. Just like Lily.
how cute ^^
Sweet
She's so pretty!
i get a maternal vibe from this woman.
THANK YOU for helping me be strong life can be hard sometimes
Respect. Respect. Too much suffering for any one person. So much courage.
I can see the Vox social media team like "God damn it we wanted to educate people not start a flame war over Kirk Vs Sisko"
Shower at night to let it air dry and save your hair from torturous blow dryer heat, and get that frizzless day after hair in the morning then you can flat iron or style it if needed!
This video gives some good preview of the outer elements of being transgender, but only scratches on the inner struggles that really make up the experience (for me). A little glimpse of a huge, deep iceberg...
:( I cried, i have the same feelings sister.
If you'r well in your body that all it count.
Love her hair so much (and voice)
Can someone create an analogy for me to understand the reason for changing one's own gender.
***** Assuming you are a guy, imagine if at puberty, instead of growing facial hair and your voice getting lower, you got breasts and hips and for all physical purposes, you were female. Your doctor tells you that it was just a mistake that you were labeled as male at birth and your body is actually 100% female. Imagine that your parents tell you that you have to be a girl because as your body clearly shows, that is how God meant you to be and any belief you hold that you are still male is just some confusion that you will outgrow. Most people you speak to agree that your insistence on "pretending" to be male is a sickening affront to nature or an attention seeking act.The difference between sex and gender is important here. In this hypothetical scenario, your sex (body) was changed to female but your gender (mind) was still male. For someone who is transgender, sex and gender disagree from birth. Because they were always told they were male or female based on their sex, it often takes them a while to realize that their mind and body disagree. Studies show subtle differences between the structures of male and female brains. For trans people, brain structure tends to be in line with the gender they identify with and not the overall sex of their body.
Thank you, that's a good perspective I could use to support transgender.
As an analogy, imagine you had to choose whether you liked cats or dogs. You're meant to stick with the choice your whole life and people get angry and make fun of you for going out of that binary. But your tastes can change as you grow up, your experiences can change what you like. Some people can like both cats and dogs, others can prefer other animals such as snakes, rats, or birds, while others might not like any animals at all.
I hope that was a helpful analogy of gender.
***** To paraphrase another analogy that Lily told me that didn't fit in the video: Assuming you identify as a man, Imagine I offered you $1,000,000 to have a vaginoplasty - an irreversible surgery to turn the penis into a vagina - would you take it? How about $5,000,000? Most men would answer no, that just would not feel right. That kind of question is a great proxy for figuring out what gender you identify with. For many transgender people, it's the exact opposite situation.
***** Simple. Say you are a guy that likes women, You try and convince yourself you like guys but it's just not in you. Same thing, She can wish and hope and pray to be a guy but it's just not in her.We are what we are and it has been this way since the beginning. There have always been gay, lesbian and transgender people in the world. It's just more out in the open now. I'm a strait guy and I can't change that. The hardest thing in the world to be is yourself, I wish her all the best.
This video has to be fake because no one things DS9 was the best series!
bigmatt500
Actually quite a few people do. Myself included. Made me smile when that popped up.
bigmatt500 i thought it was a fresh take on the series. kinda tired of the travel and meet new people in costumes gig. Also, loved the characters.
That hair is really something
I agree with her; DS9 is totally the best Trek series!!!
What was the song she connected with?
+PrincessNadira80 "Surf's Up" by The Beach Boys. Such a masterpiece
She is so pretty
Pet Sounds is way better than Smile.
Well one was completed and the other wasn't. Even then, Smile is still better.
Imagine if "Heros' and 'Vibrations" and "Surf's Up" had been om Pet Sounds..
I LOVE that story of the transporter accident.
Love the positivity of the video .
Shows realism
She is very beautiful
Rohan Ghosh argeeeee
Isn't it amazing that people really didn't put her down until she said DS9 was the best? Who cares what you are, just don't dis any form of Star Trek. BTW, I'm very straight and was having impure thoughts about her. She is beautiful and has great taste in TV!
Maybe you should pursue the next trans-girl you feel a connection with. You're a straight man and that wouldn't change at all. You seem kind, and straight transwomen are having trouble finding guys like that.
*star wars fan screaming internally *
*he
I just came to ask why they deadnamed Caitlyn in the description.
What song is the one played on 00:17 love it!
@Jude MacPherson because i don't know the song? And that is a reference when people can start listening it? So they can help me find it?
@Jude MacPherson why come here and start this conversation, criticize how i write, if you are not going to help me find the song?
At this point in my life, I kinda wish I didn't have a gender or sex. I just wish I didn't have to worry about it. With all the feminism I've been learning, and from trying to see the world through a woman's eyes, I have this terrible fear now that half the world sees me as an emotionless rapist. I don't feel like a woman, and I don't think I'd feel any better if I was one, but I don't feel comfortable being put into a gender box, no matter which one it is.
DaaaahWhoosh maybe you're non-binary.
Go to church my guy it’s jus evil thoughts you are having
shut up
gender is a problem today. there should be no genders.
Sounds like you're agender.
If I could I would be sending a heart.... thank you for sharing. I am right there myself.
So soft spoken and kind sounding
I honestly don't understand what he/she wants.
She doesn't want to conform to the male gender but DOES want to conform to the stereotypical female gender.
Don't we usually see it as a bad thing that girls want to wear pretty pink dresses etc.
and boys want to be tough and emotionless.
I can imagine a VOX video following this one to say how bad it is to follow gender stereotypes, and it would be hailed equally highly. Kind of a confusing thing this subject.
*(perhaps I'm wrong about Lily wanting to be a 'stereotypical' girl, but still, my point is that she wants to be more 'girly' than 'boyish')
dana munir
so what does it mean to be a woman then. Let's say she wants to be a woman who likes trucks and belching and wearing jeans and t-shirts and who is attracted to girls. Then what exactly is she changing? Just her physical body?
dana munir
I just don't understand what she thinks she is lacking. Is it simply that she doesn't feel comfortable in her body, because it's a male body?
I'm male, but I don't really know what it feels like to 'be male'. I'm just me and I have certain habits. If I changed into a woman, I don't know what would be changing other than my physical body. I'd have the same brain and way of thinking which is neither male nor female.
Of course I'll support people going through this, but I literally have no idea what they are fighting against or for.
I just read a news article about Bruce Jenner coming out as a transgender woman. The pictures show him with long hair and saying he enjoying putting on his mother's clothes as a child. Does wearing dresses and having long hair have something to do with FEELING like a woman, if so it's a little confusing because those things are just superficial fashion. In some societies men have long hair and wear dress-like clothing. Does that means a transgender woman in those societies would avoid that behaviour?
So many layers to this
dana munir I agree there is a difference between gender roles and the biological gender. But if a person puts make up on, they are doing something associated with female gender. I think it has everything to do with society's stereotypes. There's nothing innately feminine about make-up and long hair. It's something gender roles have created. It's as feminine as the colour pink. (ie. only in society's view)
So if a biological man says they FEEL like they are a woman. To me it just sounds like they are saying, I don't feel comfortable following male gender roles, I'd rather follow female gender roles. Which raises questions about transgender women who prefer to follow male gender roles. If their body is still male, then in what way are they women?
Sorry if I am offending you or anyone reading this. Keep in mind I am so out of the loop with this, mainly because it's not a topic that has made the mainstream yet. So I may sound like an asshole, but I'm really just trying to wrap my head around the concept. It's hard to sympathise with it as a problem if I don't understand what is happening in these people's minds. There's a good chance I'm lacking vital information which has caused me to say some things which may be totally wrong.
dana munir
But for that to be true, the colour pink would have to have something to do with femininity. A couple weeks ago Vox actually released a video showing why Pink is associated with girls. Blue was actually seen as the girly colour at first. Fame and chance gave pink it's current link to femininity. Nothing innate to it. I would argue the same with dresses. There is nothing innately feminine about a one piece clothing.
Surely it's more convoluted than just the choice of a child/inclination towards one gender from an early age. There are so many influences.
Thinking about all this makes me need to ask questions like; Is there a link between boys and ACTION figures and rough play and dirty etc.
If there is, when does this become relevant? Shouldn't it be after puberty once hormones start to take effect?
I won't ask you to respond to these questions, probably things I need to look into myself. There seems to be a lot to all of this
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Well that makes sense to me. But I guess I just need help in distinguishing gender expression from gender identity.
What does it mean to identify with a gender?
What is a gender if not the expression of that gender?
DS9 and Smile Sessions. A+ taste =)
Agreed. DS9 is definitely the best Trek series!
it's a very beautiful video and she is so strong and inspiring ! wish her the best...
I love her.
I hate her. We are the opposites. You can think who is on the good side. Goodbye Earl.
@@noname-bt9ky do not hate, all are creatures, from lord
Shes beautiful!😘
I very much enjoyed this
People seem to get really uppity about all this transgender stuff, but I tend to go by a simple rule. If you look like a girl, I'll call you a girl, if you look like a guy, I'll call you a guy. If you wanna be called some other special snowflake term that i need to remember specifically to address you, I'm just not going to bother continuing the conversation.
I feel like it'd be a simpler rule to refer to people as what they identify as. One cannot consistently determine someone's gender based on that person's appearance, even some cisgender people - or people identifying as the gender assigned to them at birth - blur the lines of traditional gender traits. I believe it's best to be respectful of people's gender identities and treat them how they want to be treated.
kuhataparunks don't use that word to refer to transgender people, it's a disrespectful slur.
Hamster Nipples Gerry Mandering said that men constantly affirm their heterosexuality by making comments about their sex lives. Since men are heterosexual and also cisgender (identifying as the gender they were assigned at birth (or, in terms I assume you'd understand, a man who has a penis)), men affirm their heterosexuality by saying how well they inserted their penis into their woman sexual partner's vagina.
If you are talking about sexual preference as being the type of women these men are attracted to rather than their sexuality, then it has to do with the genitalia involved in heterosexual, cisgender intercourse. These men are socialized by society to believe that all men have penises while all women have vaginas. A woman with a penis changes this rigid paradigm. To men, they are a confusing mixture of genders, acting feminine while having a penis. Heterosexual men want to have heterosexual sex, which in their minds consists of a penis entering a woman's vagina. Or a woman's mouth or anus, but they still want the woman to have a vagina. Because if the woman has a penis, then the man's boxed logic dictates that she is actually a man, but in actuality the woman is a woman because she says so. If the man accepts the woman for who she is, then they are a heterosexual couple.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that when men say they love fucking a woman's vagina, they are affirming both their sexuality and preference towards cisgender women.
Hamster Nipples It sounds like you have a problem with people who brag. Most gay people aren't running around telling everyone because most people really don't care
Hamster Nipples It is good that you bring that up, it is a major issue in the gay community. The men who write "masc 4 masc" or "no blacks, asians, latinos" do so because they're actually transphobic and racist. They just want to hide behind the veil of "personal preferences". Lots of the preferences in dating profiles basically boil down to "I want to have the perfect trophy of a person for me to claim in a relationship."
so if a woman is pregnant and the scan shows a boy can the woman call it a boy or does the baby have to decide
+Harry Gardiner She can call it a boy but if the child later says different, then respect that.
+Faraz ikr
+Faraz I agree 100% w that
Bruh first off it's not a scan it's a ultra sound and second wtf is this backwards ass thinking that you're pulling out your ass?
well everyone starts off with female anatomy so does that mean that since we were all female to begin with we are all female cause we were female at one point
2:30 - I often wish I could have lived an innocent girlhood. Even to have been a teenage girl... I suppose I might have had a chance to.
wow a non toxic comment section
my gay transman self is v happy
very passable:-)
Fix your description. Call her Caitlin!
Gonna listen to some beach boys now
I went through transition, wasn't that rough because i was super feminine to start with lol. I can't believe how well i pass and how happy i am now.
why are you sexist?
Q. Are trans-women real women?
A. Follow the science.
That would be a yes then
*follows the science*
Yes then
@@MarshalaYams Bwah hahaha! Sorry honey, wishing it don't make it so.
@@mayormccheese6171 following the science isn't the same as wishing. I followed the science
@@MarshalaYams you can lie to yourself all you want.
I have a theory and wonder if transgender people are just more in touch with their past lives? Perhaps they were a different gender and are wondering if they can relive that gender again.
You live once. Once you're dead, you're gone.
Don't try and bring pseudoscience into something scientific please
@@silver4831 as much as I appreciate you having such strong convictions for science, if you ask any transgender person, much of their basis for transitioning is on feelings of the heart and soul, a.k.a very UNscientific.
@@rayb63 as a Christian I must say, there is no proof of that. After all Jesus did resurrect.
@@simonsimonsimone Cult is another word for Religon. It just has a negative conatation now , didn't in the past.
she's really pretty~ I hope she's doing well
I think I wouldn't even title it transgender or male or female I think human expression
GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES, YALL!!! WE DO.
God doesn’t exist yall!!! We do.
So god killed that five year old kid with cancer on purpose?
You're right, God doesn't make mistakes. That's why trans people are valid.
everyones a victim lol