Sola Sobowale talks about what leaving Nigeria to do menial jobs because of her kids felt like.

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  • čas přidán 26. 07. 2022
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Komentáře • 958

  • @bolasworld5425
    @bolasworld5425 Před rokem +494

    “The moment you decide that you want to have children…you don’t bring them to this world to suffer, you don’t bring them for someone else to take care of”…I can so relate.

    • @tobiashaolu9755
      @tobiashaolu9755 Před rokem +2

      Me too. God bless her.

    • @mariathomas9810
      @mariathomas9810 Před rokem

      @@tobiashaolu9755 11111²

    • @lyndaonyewuchi4488
      @lyndaonyewuchi4488 Před rokem +7

      I love the part she said "you stay and take care of them"

    • @irenimoyanirenimi398
      @irenimoyanirenimi398 Před rokem +2

      My mum brought us to suffer

    • @rayyabdul2822
      @rayyabdul2822 Před rokem +5

      @@irenimoyanirenimi398 why would you say such? Be grateful and hope tomo can be better. I can relate with you but wont say such...your words are scary

  • @myob4743
    @myob4743 Před rokem +425

    Saw her in Peckham once. She was shocked and stopped me from kneeling down to greet her. Her dignified humility is unattainable for most basic humans.

    • @rarutemgbeke3867
      @rarutemgbeke3867 Před rokem +5

      A true mother and friend to her children, you are amazing and may you reap the fruits of your labour as the Lord grants you great health of mind and body as you age gracefully.

    • @rahrahz123
      @rahrahz123 Před rokem +3

      We are all uniquely brilliant. Some allow their brilliancy to be dimmed for whatever reason...

    • @benardmensah7688
      @benardmensah7688 Před 5 měsíci +1

      Definitely a strong woman, I saw her multiple times in Woolwich (London).

  • @wajufor
    @wajufor Před rokem +111

    I can confirm I saw Aunty Sola sitting proudly on a bus somewhere in south east London dressed in a uniform. I am so proud of her. Well done, You are such an inspiration. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @teeteeme5752
    @teeteeme5752 Před rokem +101

    My father did that too. My sister and I were idylly sitting at home doing nothing. He bought our tickets and said to us...I will have none of my children wasting away under a useless government that cannot provide for their children. My mum followed us to UK. We didn't let our father down. We all graduated.

    • @ojay1543
      @ojay1543 Před rokem +3

      Congratulations. Look after them.

    • @teeteeme5752
      @teeteeme5752 Před rokem +11

      @@ojay1543 I already have. I'm married we are all working.

  • @sundaysophia662
    @sundaysophia662 Před rokem +308

    Am proud to be a cleaner here in Germany 🇩🇪. The best is yet to come.

  • @feyi4103
    @feyi4103 Před rokem +436

    Now she’s reaping the fruits of her labor 👏🏾. She has a great relationship with her children, they are successful and she’s an even more successful actress now than before when she took a break from acting. God bless all the women who sacrifice for their children 🙏🏾. Your reward awaits!

  • @sayitasitisnn6785
    @sayitasitisnn6785 Před rokem +346

    I don’t know why people always want to belittle you when you do menial jobs. So far as it is honest and I have a vision, I will do it. I worked for 4 years cleaning and working in kitchens. Now I can tell you that God has blessed the work of my hands. I don’t do that anymore, but the lessons I got while doing it, has helped me for where I am now and where God is taking me. I love this woman and her grit.

    • @tinuoshunkoya
      @tinuoshunkoya Před rokem +9

      I Taya ooo.. sometimes Nigerian view get me off jare

    • @degambz8826
      @degambz8826 Před rokem +8

      Honestly..the term "menial job" still baffles me....especially when you know the difference between the salary (not proceeds of 'roger'/under the table deals) of a director in a federal government ministry in Nigeria and a cleaner in McDonalds/KFC; a train cleaner in London; etc...Nnnaaa...we need to redefine this term oh

    • @adefolakeadedoyin6367
      @adefolakeadedoyin6367 Před rokem +1

      Hmm d mistake i made was leaving my kid with those I trusted,but anyway God knws best,thank God they forgive me and life move on

    • @odinuuzoma5953
      @odinuuzoma5953 Před rokem

      It is the Nigerian mentality. They consider you below class when you do certain jobs as if it is spirits that will come to do those jobs. Funny thing is, you might even be doing far better than the people who are supposedly doing "classy/choice jobs" but Noooo, just becos he/she isn't sweeping people's rooms, or washing plates, it means he/she is living a successful dream life and job. Very stupid mindset to be honest

    • @StarInc7
      @StarInc7 Před rokem +3

      @@tinuoshunkoya Make sure when you make the money, you enjoy first! Those who spite you for working anywhere still beg you money! You then decide whether to give or not.
      However I DO NOT agree and I KNOW its NOT only Nigerians or in Nigeria that people think that way. Even abroad, some doctors look down on nurses,same nurses you hold in high regard and same in several other professions. God created all colour ALIKE. Abroad, people do many disgusting things, you don't don't want to know, but they do it SUBTLY...not loud about it but it will still be obvious at some point either way. Many can't come out just because of the laws, if they could, some of them can even spit on your face. The way people discriminate may defer but its THE SAME behaviour....DISCRIMINATION, STIGMA e.t.c. Lets make our point, many problems in Nigeria exist in other places...let's focus on the problem. Being foreign is not automatic "common sense", or "good manners/reasoning"

  • @Gloradiant
    @Gloradiant Před rokem +514

    So so proud of Sola Sobowale, I remember seeing her in Peckham (South East London) humbly buying her food stuff from the market maybe 15 years ago and back then she was already a Nollywood star and very easily recognisable. Lovely to hear her story, love to all mothers that sacrifice for their children 💕💕

    • @saa9410
      @saa9410 Před rokem +19

      @Gloria Afolabi. You're very correct, she was around Peckham frequently around 2006. Very humble and lane minder

    • @geraldineokoye6786
      @geraldineokoye6786 Před rokem +2

      Please 🙏 Mt Chude , how do I get the contact of My Star Woman Sola Sobowale

    • @honeyrichies6816
      @honeyrichies6816 Před rokem +4

      Am highly motivated.

    • @bobchimeze7060
      @bobchimeze7060 Před rokem +5

      I met her at Dalston Market once but she's very humble and accommodating. I really like her.

    • @jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518
      @jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 Před rokem +1

      @@geraldineokoye6786 Follow her on Instagram and then DM her...

  • @SuperJummy1
    @SuperJummy1 Před rokem +15

    "....there's nothing this woman cannot do, there's dignity in labour...." Sola Sobowale you are a true inspiration!

  • @ManieNoel
    @ManieNoel Před rokem +36

    I am Haitian and I saw her on King of Boys and I fell in love with her skills as an actress. This video makes me love her more.

  • @olaola7887
    @olaola7887 Před rokem +382

    This is a deeply rooted woman. Not superficial in any way, real to the core. Raised by a school Principal , good parents gave her the firm foundation in life. I greatly admired your courage, you are the kind of people Nigeria needs. I hope you decide one day to be a blessing to the Country and hold a public post....I am sure we will not be let down. There is surely dignity in labour and that is what most people nowadays don't know.

  • @estherelufowoju3166
    @estherelufowoju3166 Před rokem +265

    This is just me this reminded me of when I had to relocate from UK to Nigeria to give my son sound education, morals, culture etc. Most people drop their kids in boarding but i sacrificed the 10 years stayed with him, resigned from my banking job here just to make sure everything went the way I had wanted and planned. Today we are back and everybody could tell and see the difference in him.My main reason relocating then was because of him being a single mum I hated the idea of dropping him off at child minders or with friends just running after money, not only that bring up a male child alone in this environment is very challenging but, back home I set up my my own business and had full custody of him today it's all history and he is a 24 year old successful man, graduate and now work in his chosen career. Now am back pursing my career and he is forever grateful, i mean so much to him and he is glad having both worlds.

    • @Bukolaanney
      @Bukolaanney Před rokem +13

      This brought tears to my eyes. God bless u ma.

    • @TheMARYOMOTOSOShow
      @TheMARYOMOTOSOShow Před rokem +3

      Weldone mama 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @emmanueljames2253
      @emmanueljames2253 Před rokem +9

      May you continually reap the labor on your son my dear daughter of the "source " . It was a sacrifice that really worth, may we the sacrificial and caring mothers enjoy the fruits of our labour in good health and longevity of life. Shalom!!

    • @estherelufowoju3166
      @estherelufowoju3166 Před rokem +2

      @@emmanueljames2253 Amen 🙏🏽and you too.

    • @lolaispure4296
      @lolaispure4296 Před rokem +1

      My sister. Thank you.🙏🏿🧡

  • @ojay1543
    @ojay1543 Před rokem +151

    I salute the courage of this woman. She saw where Nigeria was heading years ago. That's called foresight! She decided to relocate her children out of the mess Nigeria had become. She did all that was legally necessary to maintain herself and her children in a foreign land. Job is job, white or blue collared, it doesn't matter. There is dignity in labour, and that is what matters. Well done Mrs SOBOWALE. You'll live long to enjoy the fruits of your labour.

  • @shilohdiamond9578
    @shilohdiamond9578 Před rokem +39

    Abiyamo tooto. God bless you ma, no child asks to be born. Some leave their children behind to gain stardom elsewhere, you did the exact opposite and guess what? It is as though you never left! Your star is shining brighter now than ever before. I celebrate you Iya rere. E jere omo loruko Jesu.

  • @Pamela-sx7zh
    @Pamela-sx7zh Před rokem +185

    When Nigerian politicians destroyed the educational system because their children are not in Nigerian schools, I don't blame those who can afford good education elsewhere. I did 2 menial jobs at the same time while studying in the UK and I am glad I made that decision. It changed my life.

    • @MaddyCircle
      @MaddyCircle Před rokem

      It’s will of be well with the politicians & their generations

    • @bidemiasuqwo2070
      @bidemiasuqwo2070 Před rokem

      I have always wanted to meet you ma and u came this close to me still I did not even see your shadow for once. I wish i meet you on the train/bus/Street by chance. You so remind me of my mum. With this story, i love you even more. Long live our good mothers!

    • @Pamela-sx7zh
      @Pamela-sx7zh Před rokem

      @@bidemiasuqwo2070 Is your comment for me?

    • @Belladonna_363
      @Belladonna_363 Před rokem

      @@Pamela-sx7zh I don't think so, but mine is for you. Good Afternoon, how are you doing?

    • @lilbeth4804
      @lilbeth4804 Před rokem

      I did about 8 jobs like that. My mental health was completely destroyed and I will probably not be the same person who left Nigeria but what is one to do. Nigeria is really a disadvantage to us nigerians.

  • @jecintaaghedo1195
    @jecintaaghedo1195 Před rokem +265

    God bless all mothers who have genuinely stood up for their children. They will reap the fruit of their labour.

  • @trinaija
    @trinaija Před rokem +91

    I honestly love her. I met her in a lobby the other day and i almost started crying. You can feel her energy. You can feel her life. Wow.

  • @margaretbola117
    @margaretbola117 Před rokem +10

    Yes ma!! I saw you once ma at vauxhaul Station, you greeted with such a sunny smile and a hug!! You were about to get on a bus, I cherrished that meeting forever got home and told everyone who would listen that I met aunt Shola Shobowale!! Agba yin a Dale ma, e o ni fi igba kankan je ikoro ni aiye yin, thanks for being so real, love you greatly 😘 💖

  • @khadhrikhan1549
    @khadhrikhan1549 Před rokem +57

    My respect for this lady has just multiply 1000 folds.
    I absolutely adore good mothers and wise women

  • @mariambalog5460
    @mariambalog5460 Před rokem +196

    This is a show that opens wound. This is a show that digs deep into sensitive topics. One necessity that this show must and should have is a tissue box where it is reachable, it should be put where the guest can assess it before a tear drops.

    • @helped.2318
      @helped.2318 Před rokem +5

      You simply read my mind. having a box readily available to the guest on all shows is more honorable.

    • @ikeodeniyi
      @ikeodeniyi Před rokem +5

      The tissue box was made available in good time, I think?

    • @bnu872
      @bnu872 Před rokem +9

      True. Such a distraction each episode when he reaches across the camera for a box of tissue 😞

  • @somie4040
    @somie4040 Před rokem +26

    A mother indeed, I salute u ma.u brought tears to my eyes.she actually worked with my mum in London. So I can confirm what she is saying is all true. God bless u Oba.

  • @bolanleayokanmi3713
    @bolanleayokanmi3713 Před rokem +95

    I'm crying because I could relate very well to this, today I'm thanking God for the decisions I made because of my kids. God bless you ma.

  • @oboroobagbemi9603
    @oboroobagbemi9603 Před rokem +69

    Chude always keep tissue box b4 ur quests are seated for ur program. I suggested during kaffs interview, she cried almost all through the show.

    • @Annie-bq1iv
      @Annie-bq1iv Před rokem +6

      I tire .. don’t understand the management team at all . So annoying .

    • @xavierbako396
      @xavierbako396 Před rokem +1

      I remember you did. Abi dem no dey read comments?

    • @abosederachael3671
      @abosederachael3671 Před rokem +5

      It happens all the time....there should be a box of tissue on ground.

    • @laurap7624
      @laurap7624 Před rokem +9

      I think they are doing it on purpose..when u bring thr tissue..After the person starts..the audience seems to notice more....they know what they doing. Ol

  • @floe240
    @floe240 Před rokem +34

    There is dignity in Labour. This is a role model the new generation of artists should model after. She has class, finesse and what have you!

  • @BlessedToyin
    @BlessedToyin Před rokem +228

    This is the reality of most Nigerians abroad and other migrants alike. At one point or the other, you will have to do these jobs but the good thing is that there is dignity in labour in these countries. Every legit job is good and no one shames the other because of their jobs. God bless you Mummy Sola, your labour shall never be in vain🙌

    • @easyware
      @easyware Před rokem +13

      @Grace & Mercy Not necessarily. The unemployment benefits that the citizens receive is often more than they pay of these menial jobs so many don't even bother to do these jobs... even of they wanted to. Once they start working, their unemployment benefits would be stopped or reduced, so it's often better for then to remain unemployed than to do the menial jobs. That's why it's mostly immigrants who do them.

    • @mk-jt5mn
      @mk-jt5mn Před rokem +3

      God bless you mummy! You are an inspiration to our generation May God give you good health ,prosperity . We love you❤️🙏🏾🇨🇦

    • @BlessedToyin
      @BlessedToyin Před rokem +1

      @Grace & Mercy Yeah, was just pointing out the reality of immigrants. For citizens, it is a different scenario.

    • @tinuoshunkoya
      @tinuoshunkoya Před rokem +3

      Sometimes Nigerian will say ah ,I can't meanwhile the citizen to do it tooo
      .so I wonder why...

    • @v.a.l.5165
      @v.a.l.5165 Před rokem +2

      People most definitely shame or look down on certain professions. Classism is real everywhere. The difference is that it is easier to maneuver on several tiers because the classes can be more fluid and are determined by more than financial status.

  • @marysetorglo1177
    @marysetorglo1177 Před rokem +125

    You’re an inspiration to me Madam, am doing same in the US to make life better for my children. I had my own office as hotel supervisor back in Ghana but came here and realized the hotel business wasn’t paying and time consuming, I couldn’t have time for my children especially on weekends, I noticed I was loosing the bonding with my children, I left my entire career to become a CNA so I can have a flexible schedule in order to to be there for my kids.God bless you for all you did for the sake of your children.

    • @tosiojo3916
      @tosiojo3916 Před rokem +2

      God bless you ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Onahnneze
      @Onahnneze Před rokem

      God bless you for your sacrifice

    • @cocobutterchin6768
      @cocobutterchin6768 Před rokem

      Amen ❤ 🙏 CNA Making Over $70,000 A Year Doing One On One Private Duty. Monday To Thursday With Pride. House paid Off Here In USA 🇺🇸 Mortgage And Rent Free. Building Retirement Home In Nigeria. Definitely Going Back To Nigeria In 5 Years After My Retirement

    • @fansuh1
      @fansuh1 Před rokem

      God bless all good mothers ♥️♥️♥️

  • @EbonyRivers1
    @EbonyRivers1 Před rokem +63

    Much respect to her. A mother does what she has to do to sacrifice for her kids. Absolutely nothing wrong with humble beginnings. That’s just more room for God to bless and elevate you when you are humble.

  • @oluwasoulstar
    @oluwasoulstar Před rokem +152

    As a child who was part of a generation of children of West African descent fostered out to white families in rural England in the 60s, 70s & 80s, severed from our cultural roots and connection to our community. Hearing this message warms my heart.
    When the transmission of culture is disrupted through these separations early on in life it makes it much harder to hold on to a sense of pride and to create a positive identity that can withstand the anti black racist narrative that is part of the fabric of Western society.
    The love she has for her children is palpable. We cannot underestimate the power of healthy parental bonds 💓

    • @abosedemusa6436
      @abosedemusa6436 Před rokem +7

      When you are good mother, you are a good mother;When you are a good parents you are a good parents period. Children don't deserve less really.

    • @globalhottrends1267
      @globalhottrends1267 Před rokem +7

      Wow fascinating...were you able to ever reconnect with your birth parents or your family back in Nigeria at a later age?

    • @MovingT5
      @MovingT5 Před rokem +6

      Me too! things were tough for many african parents

    • @oluwasoulstar
      @oluwasoulstar Před rokem

      @@globalhottrends1267 I did reconnect with them later on, unfortunately despite best efforts we are estranged.
      A film came out about this in 2019. It's a true story based on Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje childhood. I'd highly recommend.
      czcams.com/video/q0uIvUqf_Jo/video.html

    • @Drando1989
      @Drando1989 Před rokem +6

      You literally spoke the African diaspora’s plight.
      We don’t know our tongues or nations per the Europeans who colonized our ancestors.

  • @BukolaRY_TV
    @BukolaRY_TV Před rokem +45

    Aunty Sola is a BORN STAR. I remember seeing her in London in 2008. She was very humble and down to earth. She's also funny. God bless you Ma'am.

    • @angelaumeh6383
      @angelaumeh6383 Před rokem +5

      You're right. I can testify to what she said cos I do see her in the UK around Woolwich for sight seeing or shopping and she walks straight and high and not ashamed of who she is or what she does. I am very proud of her. See her today she has the best investment, her kids. God bless you ma

  • @tonniegeorge321
    @tonniegeorge321 Před rokem +119

    This is what I needed to hear I was thinking about the sacrifices I make for my children and I pray that it pays off JESUS 🙏. This testimony is real.

  • @annisikhan2084
    @annisikhan2084 Před rokem +93

    So true, once you decide to have kids, be ready to make sacrifices to make sure they do not suffer.

    • @khadijascorner.
      @khadijascorner. Před rokem +17

      Absolutely true! Kids don't owe us parents anything but instead, we as parents owe them everthing in our absolute capability.

    • @PascalineKelechi
      @PascalineKelechi Před rokem

      @@khadijascorner. so true.

  • @horlarh4539
    @horlarh4539 Před rokem +11

    Thank you OBA, I am doing the same right now for my daughters in the UK whilst pursuing my MSC. Thank you for the inspiration.

  • @Ifu_nanya
    @Ifu_nanya Před rokem +29

    One of my best interview with chude.... my respect for her just increased. “There’s dignity in labour”... when you become a parent your first priority are your kids.

    • @adeolagbadamosi3799
      @adeolagbadamosi3799 Před rokem +3

      There is absolute dignity in labour here in the Uk do a good job and you get paid for it! I’ve been there and I’ve done that! And it yielded great results for us a family! Even as a Carer which a lot of Nigerians look down on it there is dignity as a cleaner there is dignity! You do whatever you have to do within the ambit of the law to put food on the table and look after your family and God will reward you! Amen🙏🏾 Kudos to Sola Sobowale 🌸🙏🏾

  • @Cometohellwithme
    @Cometohellwithme Před rokem +162

    People at home don’t really know how tough life is for those in Europe…. If Nigeria isn’t what it is, many wouldn’t hesitate to go back home

    • @berlsallure7216
      @berlsallure7216 Před rokem +4

      Suffering

    • @dancing523
      @dancing523 Před rokem +13

      Haitians are the same way. Some really thinks we are walking on streets of gold in America and London.

    • @jonescosbi3002
      @jonescosbi3002 Před rokem +4

      For your information there are many types of people abroad and don't just generalise.
      There are people without staying or paper, these are nit entitled to anything.
      There are people that are citizens and are entitled to everything.
      There are uneducated, unskilled people.
      There are many educated and skilled people as well.
      So understand things before you start saying rubbish

    • @chidinwachukwu8233
      @chidinwachukwu8233 Před rokem +9

      Leave the hardship of Europe and come back to Nigeria, simple.

    • @jonescosbi3002
      @jonescosbi3002 Před rokem

      @@chidinwachukwu8233 Who told you there is hardship in Europe compared to you people being kidnapped, raped. No water , no electricity, no hospital, no jobs, universities closed.
      No nothing
      Keep suffering and smiling

  • @damilolagrace3566
    @damilolagrace3566 Před rokem +45

    This is what the youth and teens of today do not want to do ' hardwork' . Thanks for sharing ma.

  • @olaitanogunkinle5916
    @olaitanogunkinle5916 Před rokem +25

    I love you King of Boys. Truly, there is dignity in labor.

  • @olamoonable
    @olamoonable Před rokem +18

    Omg exactly what my mom did for me and my siblings she left a very good job in Nigerian to come and care for us in the US

  • @folaopeaiye645
    @folaopeaiye645 Před rokem +10

    "There is dignity in hard working " much respect for this beautiful woman

  • @jaystephneytv3294
    @jaystephneytv3294 Před rokem +42

    I am a cleaner here in Italy and i understand how she feels....... I am also a mother. God bless you Toyin Tomato 🍅🙏

    • @Puzzle_lulla
      @Puzzle_lulla Před rokem +2

      I applaud you and your children will never forget your sacrifice 🙌🏽. Well done ❤️🤗

    • @obaoba6313
      @obaoba6313 Před rokem +1

      My dear u are doing well. The money u earn in a week can even pay d salary of some oil company workers in Nigeria today . Please continue working with your full chest 👏👏👏😍

    • @outlyfe7570
      @outlyfe7570 Před rokem

      @@obaoba6313 you feel good now that you've making more than a office worker in Nigeria.

  • @TheYakee
    @TheYakee Před rokem +73

    "Now, it's history..." Such a powerful woman! When GOD has HIS hands on your life, no matter what you go through, know that one day you'll reminisce about those tough moments and say, "Now, it's history..." such a great lesson!! Always keep your head up and uphold your dignity; GOD will honor you in the end... always!

  • @paulasinsight
    @paulasinsight Před rokem +5

    Building Nigeria at the end is the best goal.
    Than crying like the Israelites in the deserts to go back to Egypt because of the preps.
    It's not okay for our graduates to be doing menial jobs overseas.
    Build Nigeria while we can.
    God give us wisdom.

  • @hot_rekindled9368
    @hot_rekindled9368 Před rokem +13

    My respect for Aunty Shola Shobowale just grew multiple folds after watching this video. My God continue to bless you ma.

  • @hortenseclarke2589
    @hortenseclarke2589 Před rokem +46

    Oh My! This lady inspired me. She is speaking my language. It doesn't matter what type of job you are doing; do it well.

  • @mko9110
    @mko9110 Před rokem +8

    I am based in the US with my family but I live everyday thinking of how I can find my way back to Nigeria...…..despite all the challenges, it is not true that the case of Nigeria is a hopeless one. I have seen parents send their kids abroad to study or greener pasture without adult or parental guide, its tricky and often boomerang on those kids with some turning out worse than they left Nigeria...…..On that I give it to her for staying around to guide, nurture and also mentor them practically on ground.

  • @zeenimy8037
    @zeenimy8037 Před rokem +116

    I can confirm what she said about working here is true. I was at a head dressers and a Nigerian movie was on and a lady saw her on telly and said she saw her working at a particular place doing a particular job and Africans here class it as menial because it’s not the type of work we are proud to tell people.
    Honestly, I didn’t believe.
    I applaud her because she is a hard working woman 👏🏼👏🏼

    • @ayomideolotu146
      @ayomideolotu146 Před rokem

      Indirect slavery.

    • @kayodedickson5596
      @kayodedickson5596 Před rokem +4

      Thanks for your comments! If that is the angle you are seeing it from " indirect slavery" or whatever you need to learn lessons from what she did sacrificing her stardom to take a good care of her children worth it... honestly, l salute her courage of her humility. Today, she is enjoying it & hoping to return to what she knows best....l advise next time, you can rephrase the word " indirect slavery" l thought it must not be heard from you. Ain't good enough rather learn something from her disposition.

    • @ayomideolotu146
      @ayomideolotu146 Před rokem

      Kayode don't lecture me, it is what it is...indirect slavery. It's not in the West best interest to have a prosperous Africa where citizens of developing countries desire and decide to stay in their respective countries. Then, the West wouldn't have enough cheap labour to exploit. African leaders are puppets to neo colonialist masters and your mentality exposes you and your future generations to never ending slavery.

    • @kayodedickson5596
      @kayodedickson5596 Před rokem +1

      Hi Mr. Ayomide..l understand your drift about your plight of the use of word" indirect slavery". I take it if you say , Neo colonialism bcos l got that from the author of the book, " Underdeveloped World" . My take is she did it bcos of what she want to achieve taking care of her four beloved daughter. Of course, she knows that it's advanced slavery. But what l'm saying is don't let her feel bad bcos of the decision she took... Reason explained by Madam Sola sobowale.

    • @geraldineudobia6869
      @geraldineudobia6869 Před rokem

      @@ayomideolotu146 hmmmm, indirect slavery how mbok? Was she force? Was she paid? Those that sweep roads in Naija are they also slave? Was she held back not to return to Naija?

  • @addykins100
    @addykins100 Před rokem +27

    "Now it's history" love you ma'am. Chude, you are doing a great great job!!

  • @antoniawilliams2627
    @antoniawilliams2627 Před rokem +38

    People don’t understand how hard some work to take care of their families. Sometimes we look at people doing certain jobs but we don’t know why. Everyone has a story.

  • @justicejoycetv
    @justicejoycetv Před rokem +16

    *I don't know her but stopped to say I'M HAPPY & PROUD that she tells the realities of US living. As a Black American I'm flabbergasted as to how many believe it to be easy or stress-free.*

    • @cocobutterchin6768
      @cocobutterchin6768 Před rokem +2

      Maybe It Is Not Easy For You. My Parent Relocated From Nigeria To USA With 7 Children. All Of Us Did The Right Courses. We Are All Doing Very Well Financially. Own Our Own Houses. Some Of Us Have Paid Off Our Mortgage Including Me.

  • @beea.9435
    @beea.9435 Před rokem +9

    Love love love her. She reminds me so much of my mum... Indeed there's dignity in labour.... These are the real celebrities and role models God bless you ma'am.

  • @SheIsAdmireMemuna
    @SheIsAdmireMemuna Před rokem +16

    I LOVE......this lady. And to see that she and I have aligning principles in life....🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾. Any type of honest earning that will put food on your table and help you pay your way through life is the way to go. Empty pride is one of the issues Africans have. So many people want to be boss without the work.
    Flaunt your 👑 ma'am.

  • @fragrancedeparadiso443
    @fragrancedeparadiso443 Před rokem +7

    This woman! She's a rare gem! This kind of confidence could only stem from above. God watched her deny herself, took up the cross of motherhood, and God decided to reward her openly.
    All glory be to God Almighty

  • @WendyMinnah
    @WendyMinnah Před rokem +40

    Thank you Mom for sharing this with us. ❤

  • @samuelafolayan7056
    @samuelafolayan7056 Před rokem +49

    Sir, thanks for bringing my mom to the show; all what she's telling you are nothing but the fact because it's not easy in overseas countries right now because if you say you're big man in Nigeria, here in overseas countries nothing like that but to hustle for yourself.

  • @sheyimacksontv8369
    @sheyimacksontv8369 Před rokem +27

    This is commendable. God bless you Ma. Thank you for sacrificing stardom, time and resources to train your children.You will reap the fruits of your labour. I am inspired 👏👏👏

  • @TheTaybob
    @TheTaybob Před rokem +19

    I love that sentence There is dignity in labour. I remember seeing Mrs Sobowale at Heathrow airport rushing to go catch her plane. She looked harried and her cream-colour blouse was rumpled. I recognised her and gave her a hug to let her know she was a loved artist. I hope that gave her some joy as it did me.

    • @adenikeb6295
      @adenikeb6295 Před rokem +1

      You must be a writer. That brief description gave enough mental picture.

    • @TheTaybob
      @TheTaybob Před rokem +2

      @@adenikeb6295 Hahaha. I am not a writer but that would show you how vividly i remember the occasion even after about 2 years. It’s not every day you meet a star of that stature, especially one whom you admire.

    • @adenikeb6295
      @adenikeb6295 Před rokem +1

      @@TheTaybob I agree.

  • @Adeyemiphunmie
    @Adeyemiphunmie Před rokem +2

    I have met her in London before and she was the most humble and calm mother I've ever met .Her skin is perfect .

  • @Temiigold
    @Temiigold Před rokem +9

    I love her confidence so much. She is so down to earth. I understand what Mama Sola is saying.

  • @dachomoyusuf3301
    @dachomoyusuf3301 Před rokem +3

    Thé problem in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is that we don’t dignify labour.

  • @ja-kenyan580
    @ja-kenyan580 Před rokem +8

    A true Mother’s love. Wow! What a mother would do for the ones she bears. The hardships she endured to give her children the best. What an impressive story. Much love 🇯🇲🇰🇪

  • @kingamar8780
    @kingamar8780 Před rokem +6

    Superb Actress....Chude, Again you have got these erudite Nigerians to your cofessinal..we hail oooh!

  • @Oyinda4lfe
    @Oyinda4lfe Před rokem +10

    I honestly cannot love this woman less. "Children did not ask to be born, once you decide to have children you have to take responsibility for them". You're awesome ma!

    • @femim.4796
      @femim.4796 Před rokem +1

      "I honestly cannot love this woman MORE" is what you wanted to say.
      It means you love her so much that you can't love her more than that.
      "I can't love this women LESS" actually means that you dislike the person in question so much that you can't even dislike her further.("love her less")
      These expressions honestly confuse so many people.
      Have a nice day.

    • @Oyinda4lfe
      @Oyinda4lfe Před rokem +1

      @@femim.4796 No, I said what I was suppose to say. I can't love her less, meaning I can only love her more. Saying you cannot love her more, is basically saying your love for her can only decrease and not increase from that point. Think about it, it's basic English.

    • @femim.4796
      @femim.4796 Před rokem

      All you need to do is to look it up in a good standard dictionary.
      Have a lovely day.👍🏽

  • @abiolakareem5236
    @abiolakareem5236 Před rokem +6

    You are a real mother Aunty, I remember speaking to you couple of times in front of Lloyds Bank in woolwich. Thanks for sharing this ma l believe people will learn.

  • @isaaconah1495
    @isaaconah1495 Před rokem +2

    This is touchy, this woman blessed me so much,am so inspired, she really understands what real parenting and sacrificing for your kids means, my respect and love for her just moved to another level, thank you mama Sola for inspiring us.

  • @omolabakeyemisialabi5820

    Mummy Sola Sobowale is the true definition of motherhood.
    I wish her endless joy and happiness.
    Much love from me to her and all she stands for.

  • @kanmi59
    @kanmi59 Před rokem +14

    I did exactly what she did for my children in 2001 when I moved them to the USA. I went through a lot to get them good education. Today, I have two registered nurses, one senior auditor and one network engineer. Genuine sacrifice for one's family is always rewarding and fulfilling. This is a lesson for all parents to give their children good education if they can, not minding your personal comfort at the time.

  • @hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287

    So proud of you and of myself too. I did same to the US in 2002 , as a Vice Principal in a Secondary school to forgo the idea of getting to the peak of my career in order to secure the future of my children as a single mom. My first daughter was already in her 1st year at FUTA, Akure and I was already taking loans from Cooprative societies due to non payments of salaries and allowances!! Lord! I return all glory to God and thanks to my 2 siblings who God used for us to facilitate and ease the relocation. May God intervene in Nigeria situation in Jesus's name. O ga!

  • @tijaduno3417
    @tijaduno3417 Před rokem +7

    This made me teary-eyed. God bless all good mothers/parents. The sacrifices we make shall not be in vain.

  • @dorothymichael2179
    @dorothymichael2179 Před rokem +5

    Madam I salute & respect you for what you did for your kids, Kudos Blessings strong Black Nigerian woman

  • @0lillyzone386
    @0lillyzone386 Před rokem +3

    Aww, watching this interview l cried too but happy tears for you ma. @ Shola Shobowale and look at where you are now. Blessed, highly respected and successful in life + l love you in and out of screen ma. You are one to emulate. When l see my brothers and sisters in diaspora being lazy and choosy about menial jobs. l shake my head at them. A few years down the line they become depressed and blame the system when their mates have gone very far. Then whose to blame? Rome wasn't built in day. The good Bible states about the works of our hand with due diligence the good Lord will Bless it one-day.

  • @olatribsdt911
    @olatribsdt911 Před rokem +4

    I love this woman even more watching this. Women please always keep a job and help raise these kids. They need us - moms, no matter what their dads do or don’t do. It’s our responsibility.

  • @KiRetteCouture
    @KiRetteCouture Před rokem +9

    What I heard was the power of sacrifice and the true definition of dignity.
    Yes to having tissue boxes. This set is like a therapist's office.

  • @toniaiwobi1783
    @toniaiwobi1783 Před rokem +1

    Sp proud of her for this interview!
    The BEST AND MOST IMPACTFUL INTERVIEW, I have ever watched!
    Thank you!!!!
    And you and your children, REMAIN BLESSED!

  • @NgoziAtitiVlogs
    @NgoziAtitiVlogs Před rokem +18

    Dignity in labour 👍🏾 self respect ✊🏾

  • @sholzywolzy1706
    @sholzywolzy1706 Před rokem +3

    Thanks madam, you’re inspiring. Good mothers will sacrifice their lives and pleasure for their kids... by God’s amazing grace I quit my banking job in mid 90s to raise my kids, I’m proud of who they all are today.... To God be all the glory 🙏🙏🙏

  • @donnapemberton2474
    @donnapemberton2474 Před rokem

    Beautiful lady, beautiful testimony. Love this dear lady her principles for life ,her mannerism, her love n care ,devotion commitment ,just to name a few .Wow what a mother d sacrifice ,what even adds to her beautiful testimony her children did not waste it or disrespected her ,they appreciated all she did .GOD bless u n your family mommy Sola.Listened n shared from Trinidad .

  • @zeea6507
    @zeea6507 Před rokem +6

    There is dignitiy in labour! Love her, she is a great vibe. Honesty and interesting stories shared.

  • @ElaToby
    @ElaToby Před rokem +31

    This gave me goose pimples! Very inspiring and thought-provoking 💯❤

  • @yewandeolupitan3795
    @yewandeolupitan3795 Před rokem +8

    This is sooooo inspiring..
    To all Mothers out there, who wear the armour of courage daily in sacrifice, so that those coming behind have a better chance at winning in life..
    Your labour will not be in vain, it will not go unforgotten and your heart will be rewarded with abundance that no material blessing can define.

  • @adeleketemitope3723
    @adeleketemitope3723 Před rokem +1

    This is my kind of woman who put her children first instead of career and money, our children are our future. Bless you

  • @kunuprecious5536
    @kunuprecious5536 Před rokem

    This is beyond inspiring! This interview has made me see Sola Sobowale in a very different light. I respect you ma!

  • @E-baba971
    @E-baba971 Před rokem +3

    The Queen of boys is a really mother, compassion, strong 💪 and beautiful, may God bless your daily efforts love love love ❤ 😍 💖 ❣ 💕 ❤ 😍 💖 ❣ 💕 ❤ you you truly know our difficult life in Europe

  • @Ayshat
    @Ayshat Před rokem +22

    This rings home, I was talking to a co-worker some days ago, and we talked about this. I made my mind up that I wouldn't be bothered by sad attitudes. And hopefully, I would share this with someone one day!

    • @BB-tu2bq
      @BB-tu2bq Před rokem +1

      fingers crossed for you ayshat, the abroad life is not easy.

    • @Ayshat
      @Ayshat Před rokem +1

      @@BB-tu2bq No it is not, and home people be like we are lucky and living in pure luxury!

    • @BB-tu2bq
      @BB-tu2bq Před rokem +2

      @@Ayshat well honestly we can’t blame them 100% because I had the same mindset with my uncles when I was much younger, untill I got here and saw that it’s not all a bed of roses, so untill they experience before they know what’s up, till then most peeps at home will still always believe it’s good and diamond here

  • @Seun-Ajayi
    @Seun-Ajayi Před rokem +1

    This video has loads of contents that is so dear to me.
    Back in 2003 at boniwuji cyber cafe, Chude would come in, spend countless hours researching contents, then Funmi Iyanda was the rave. Right there at the same cafe, was where i started my software engineering journey. This is 2022, 19 years later, Chude is a big shot doing what he loves graciously. I didn't fail too, I still code for a company here in New Jersey, and hope my startup will kick off this year. As for Mrs Sobowale and all the REAL mothers out there, thank you for enabling our dreams come true.

  • @folukeadeniran2815
    @folukeadeniran2815 Před rokem

    Down to earth as ever! That's Shola Sobowale for you! This is quite inspiring and I wish many young/old mothers will learn from this....mothers should be selfless in their approach to motherhood so that the labour of love can be rewarded by the Maker who gives children 😀! I salute your courage and sacrifice Ma. Remain blessed always IJMN 🙏.

  • @keji5848
    @keji5848 Před rokem +13

    It’s great to hear your experience! What a sacrifice to make for your children, you will surely reap the fruits of your labour in Jesus name. I’m a long time fan aunt Sola 😘

  • @abiodunayanyinka3393
    @abiodunayanyinka3393 Před rokem +3

    Inspiration to all parents!!! God bless you, ma'am.

  • @ayoaluko8643
    @ayoaluko8643 Před rokem

    The best inspiration for any woman is her child. Thanks for sharing your piece. Love you so much Sola sobowale for showing there's dignity in labour. ❤️❤️

  • @samsonomorogbe429
    @samsonomorogbe429 Před rokem

    Wow! Good to see sola sobowale. Humble, selfless and a strong woman indeed. You will definaltely eat the fruit of your labour.

  • @Sinmisola20
    @Sinmisola20 Před rokem +7

    There is dignity in labor always! Love Aunty Sola.❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @JARUMISTUDIOS
    @JARUMISTUDIOS Před rokem +8

    Wish all parents can reason like you when it comes to their children. Most parents honestly don't deserve to be parents but God still gave em the Grace n they still neglected the children n allow em to suffer. Some have to be the ones to Carter for their parents from a young age. GOD Sha abeg.

  • @bayofisher5393
    @bayofisher5393 Před rokem +2

    This woman Shola Shobowale isn't a star, that's way beneath her. She's an enigma and an Icon. Kudos to her. Well done maam 👏 💐

  • @evelynalpha4062
    @evelynalpha4062 Před rokem

    Oh dear. She was one of my best actress of the older Nollywood stars. I have been wondering where could she have been not seeing her in movies for many years. Thank you for letting me see her again and hearing her story of a noble parent. You will surely live to enjoy the fruit of your hard labour and sacrifice made to raise up your children. Parents please take responsibility for your children!!. I hope you start showing back in movies. I love your movies Ms Sola.

  • @olusholaolubunmi2726
    @olusholaolubunmi2726 Před rokem +21

    "Now it's history". That's my takeaway from this interview.

  • @chelsearobert9724
    @chelsearobert9724 Před rokem +15

    Wow, that's what motherhood is about, making sacrifice for your children. A message to her children, please don't allow anything or anyone to stop you from caring for your mom even if she does anything you don't like. Always remember all her sacrifices. I love her so much and always like to see her in movies. Very energetic woman. You will live long to eat your efforts on your children in Jesus name.

    • @remiomokhudu4571
      @remiomokhudu4571 Před rokem

      You a mother indeed. Won o ni fi elomi se yin loruko Jesu. This is what some mothers can’t do. to pay this kind of price . You will eat the fruits of your labour in sound health n you will not use your hands to bury any of them in Jesus. Isu omo a jina fun yin je loruko Jesu. A big congratulations. You can now come back to what you know and love to do . Acting. Ko si igba ta ran’so ta rii wo. . Shalom

  • @kamorulateef1497
    @kamorulateef1497 Před rokem

    This is a great ,realistic and mentor woman .
    May God continues blessing you Madam Sola Sobowale

  • @remioluwabiyi6
    @remioluwabiyi6 Před rokem +1

    It is truly possible for people to see your glory without knowing your story. My respect for Madam Sola Sobowale just increased after seeing this interview.

  • @jelilatdabiri5816
    @jelilatdabiri5816 Před rokem +4

    True talk from a good mother

  • @oluyemisiB
    @oluyemisiB Před rokem +8

    I love her soo much!

  • @aleija12345
    @aleija12345 Před rokem +1

    I LOVE SOLA SOBOWALE THIS WOMAN AS IF SHE IS MY FAMILY
    I FIRST SAW HER IN KING OF BOYS
    AND INSTANTLY FELT A CONNECTION TO HER
    SHE HAS A PASSION A SPIRIT A LOVE THAT SHINES ALL AROUND HER...THOUGH SHE IS IN CHARACTER IT'S EASY TO SEE HER TRUE SPIRIT...SHE REMINDS ME OF MY AUNT WHO I LOVE LIKE A MOTHER...IM TRYING TO FIND OTHER MOVIES SHES IN TO WATCH BUT ONLY HAVE BEEN ABLE TO SEE HER IN KING OF BOYS...
    PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO FIND OR BUY THEM...
    I WISH HER CONTINUED SUCCESS AND
    BLESSINGS IN ABUNDANCE

  • @localjess838
    @localjess838 Před rokem +1

    Hmmm...
    Dignity in labour, great message!
    No shame in honest work.
    This is the best so far Chude.