2 Types of People To Distance Yourself From In Life
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- čas přidán 10. 06. 2024
- Do you have energy vampires in your life? In this episode, Patrick Bet-David breaks down the two types of people in your life that can add value and the two types of people that can drain you.
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Do you have energy vampires in your life?
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fuck yea and i love it because i just take their money
Only my mom
I gave 3 thumbs 👍👍👍 but I was upside down when I gave them 😅😅
You have played a significant role in my life PBD, during the lockdowns your videos help inspire and ultimately choose what i want to do.
Long story short, I opened my own pawnshop in January 2021 and Business is Booming especially Now in 2023, I opened the store for less then 10,000 dollars Now i have over 100k in inventory for sale and a loan base that fluctuates around 20 to 25k yielding 22 percent interest a month. Its just a small business, but you played a role in help starting it.
Had a friend for 15 years that I recently had to separate myself from. Very difficult but, they were such a drain emotionally. I was very stressed out trying to help and motivate them. Also, would constantly lie about their results to appease me. Couldn't tell what was real about them anymore. It was tough and still is but, I feel so much better not having to worry about them all the time.
Had a friendship that ended due to how toxic he got and started to treat me shitty over the fact that my life was going pretty well while his was going downhill for years. I tried everything to help him but his alcoholism was so strong that it altered his mental state to make him feel like victim over anything I did that he was jealous of and even at one point claimed I abandoned him all because I went on a vacation me and him planned to go on only for him to not save a cent due to drinking everyday. He was a subtractor and it showed by the end of the friendship especially when he tried to steal from me
@@alexioiancu I can relate to some of that as well. It took me way too long to realize that you can't help someone that doesn't recognize they need help. Sorry you had to go through that. That is a very rough situation. Happy to hear you came out on the better side of it.
Wow. All of this is amazingly so relatable. Both sad & happy to see that I'm not alone. ✌😔
@@moneyblade5 it was wild but to think he would throw away a 15 year long friendship over drinking but hey to each his own but currently he's been trying to brainwash my sister into disowning me in a sense and pretty much having him and her brother figure. It's getting wild but I had a huge conversation with my sister about it and the sheer amount of lies he told her was insane he literally told her I was calling her a whore when his buddy tried to rape my sister and he came to the rescue to help her be safe all while I told her that is incorrect and me and my sister who was also there has to reassure her that he said he didn't care let his buddy do what he wants to her. It's fucking insane to think he tried to take the credit for saving my sister from getting raped when I reality it was me saving her. When I found that I almost drove to his house over an hr away to fuck him up but kept my cool because that guy's life is honestly getting very very pathetic. But I'm glad he's gone from my life just as you are happy your friend is gone from yours but it does hurt to think someone was only friends with someone to manipulate them
I had to cut a friend out of my life too for similar reasons. It was hard, but wish I had done so sooner.
Don’t forget it is also your responsibility to move on from relationships that are toxic or psychically draining not just for your own sanity and the sanity of the community but to desist from enabling bad behaviors of other people. The reality is you are not helping the other individual, you are in fact, harming the other individual by enabling them in persisting in non-productive and divisive behavior so if you truly have love, you have to call them on it and if they can’t get over it, you must move on, and in hopes that that final action of moving on you will inspire them to self reflect, and self improve
I finally realized this in recent years and that also by distancing myself they now have to deal with their own problems and work on healing and also sometimes its best for me to work on my problems without any distractions also as when I have things I need to work on and fix in my life and heal from its best not to be around too many other distracting people and it can keep me from my goals etc.
I wish I had heard this 20 years ago instead of the 2 decades of hard lessons. One day I woke up and started to become self aware enough to know that I was being careless with my energy and giving it away to subtractors and dividers. First I pissed and moaned about being in my particluar position. Then when that season ran its course, I took ownership of the fact that I was allowing it to happen. I'm on this side of the jail, so no one else is in control of who I have relationships with. Now here comes Patrick breaking it down in 4 simple categories. I hope, at least, other younger men are watching this and saving themselves the headache. Great content boss!
This message should taught early in life. I wished someone told me this in my teenage years. Not sure I would understand it, but I would need to hear it.
This hits home. I was doing great until i met someone and we became friends overtime i realized my life getting worse until i had depression and lost a unique opportunity didn’t know whats wrong but then he started mocking me for it and i realized he was the problem so i blocked his messages and calls from the phone never spoken to him since and now i’m in a better place
Awesome news…you done right
I wish that I understood this early in my life. Thank you for the clarity.
Great advise! Side note I usually listen to videos at 1.25-1.5 speed and I had to check this because it was fast! I almost turned it down to .75 to soak it in more 😂
I feel like I’m seeing this at the exact moment I needed to hear this
This is hard when its a person you cant ditch, like a spouse. Modern mentality is that everything and everyone is disposable if ‘youre just not living your best life’, but no. You made a committment. You already committed to that person, so you stick it out and find ways to support your children and each other. They make you a better person and maybe you make them a better person.
But with business and mere friendships, yeah. Toss that out.
Pat is an uncle that I need in life and business.
I love how you have started to sum up these topics so quickly!!!! And the pace that you have taken is phenomenal!
Thank you for this, just made huge changes in my life in recent year because of this reason. I understood this but I couldn't put it into words. Thank you for all the support you're giving out there!
Gold. Pure gold.
I have had many friends, that I would listen to their problems for an hour or more and the minute, that I start to vent a little bit, they either take another call, start yawning in my ear, start talking to others in the background or the phone mysteriously gets disconnected.
Please keep away from these unhappy, toxic people.
Pat, you're a wise man. Thanks for putting so much effort into creating great motivating content.
Pat, I want to Thank You & let you know that You are So Frkn’ Amazing!!…A very Kind & Generous Soul willingly Sharing so Much Valuable Secrets/Knowledge in ALL Areas of our Life !! Blessings to your Lovely Family !!
Love your program and your team. It’s so fun to watch the reactions among your team and guests. I have shared many of your video and we all have learned a lot. I guess you fall into the Multiplier!!
Great video! Helped me identify that i needed to cut off some bonds with the people who only take and drain you.
Great content PBD! Thank you so much 🙏
Another Valuable Video. Well Done, PBD
Really appreciate all of these videos. Thank you very much.
True words. I learned the hard way over many years. So true.
Loved it! God bless you Patrick
Great advice, I wish I knew this when I was young
One of DBTs best videos.
Those who keep the right people around end up winning.
Thank you for the Values added!!!
Needed this. Thanks
This is so spot on 👌!
Pat thank you so much. These video always help me
This one is a re-watch for sure, excellent explanation at the end with poor investments pulling down the whole of you, makes good sense to me now.
This is awesome! 👏🏽
Great advice! Thank you 💚
A real assessment is examining whether you personally fall in any of the negative person types.
Love you Bro and all your advises❤
Thanks Pat!
Right on sir!!
Thank you pat for your insites and advice. It challenges, instructs and inspires. Thanks
This is my ĺife and my greatest regret even though I ended up fairly successful I was left totally exhausted and angry at myself my loyalty was my biggest stupidity.
I love this never stop
Normal people stretch their videos to 8 minutes for monetization. PBD reduces 8 minutes of Golden Nuggets down to 6. Just so you spend 2 minutes removing bad influences from your phone without wasting any time. *flies away*
I love your channel...Pure common sense!
Great video Pat
Great insight!
You put it in a very assertive way that makes me feel comfortable and motivated.
This man is dropping bombs!! 🔥🔥🔥
One of the best pieces of advice in life. Thanks man.
Ps- I don't agree with the majority of your other stuff, but this was gold.
Holy shit. That was some real good advice!
I just supported a friend for almost 12 months, the last 3 to the point where he was living with me. I had drug dealers showing up the house, "strays" looking for some where to stay, random people call me saying I owe them money. This isn't even all of it, or I am not even trying to make it sound bad. But as I write it. Yeah. I nearly went down with his ship. I recently cut all ties. Only for him to call me a "traitor" in a text to someone else.
Pay attention to this video. My assistant gave me some wisdom the other day also.
"Is this person an asset or a liability."
Wise words.
I love this guy
2 types people who share thoughtso, & people who force them always be a sharer !
Thank you
Great video, Thank you.
Great video, amazing value!
What an amazing video. Thanks
very helpful
Great video
This a a banger 🎉
I speak on this alot with people 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 shared with my 24 year old.
known people like this (energy suckers); negative, draining. We live and learn. Thank you for all your great content!
Great Social Content 👍👍
Love it!!! ❤
This is 🔥
Fantastic Video!
VERY IMPORTANT
On point Sir .....
This was awesome because in life there are these ppl in are life and we don't even know....
Greatings from the Netherlands
life lesson! Everyone write that down. Subtract, Divide are no go. Add and Multiply are go!
I’m not sure 🤔 but I’m all in !!!! 2:47 THANKS AGAIN 🙏👍
You are amazing bro
Checked your stuff because of the offer to Tucker. You seem to focus on sucess and I think Tucker is on the cusp of repairing society from a long long sleep. It is nice to get an idea of who you are. BTW, I like to think I'm a multiplier in my field. I am old enough now to give grace and smile on the dividers or subtractors.
If you're interested in a deeper look into this, the 42nd law from 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green titled "Strike the Sheppard and the Sheep will Scatter" is all about pin-pointing toxic people in social situations and finding ways to eliminate them while also building a more powerful circle around yourself.
U da man bro🎉
I only have my family and my closest collegue who’s an engineer. We’re both engineers.
We’re building, and we feed each other ambition and drive.
Your the JERRY Maguire of the Internet of the things you come up with to help people have the tools and the knowledge is definitely helping!!! and I’m just getting started as far as getting into this place of enlightenment and wellness because in my life there’s been significant up-and-down but as far as the traumas my body that has been somethings that I have gone over my head as far as him always have an excuse to step out of the spotlight or what!! 3 very 2:08
This was gold ! There are only a few comments here, so why are you not responding to some of them ?
I remember I didn’t necessarily cut people out of my life just put boundaries and preacher got mad because I distance my self because he didn’t want to workout another because I was tired of spending money going out and doing nothing and his father was a pastor as well and they say never cut people out because we have to go the extra mile and love everyone.
Best video iVe ever seen. and I think you might start getting followers, because frankly most of the videos are so long, and there is alot of good ones, but frankly who has time to watch them hem and haw as the spell out thier message,, and
wow!!, you were so clear, showed a major lesson for all people, fast , clear, and amazing....! You are truely the BEST!!! in 6:05 mins. !!!
Thank you for this video,,,,, continue this great work… mamnoon 🎉
Hello dear professor
Thank you so much for your intersting information,i do appreciate your job.I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity. Take care and have a good time. All the best.
Your Student from Algeria.
Love pat
Valuedrillment 🔥🔥🔥
I get so much value out of listening to this good man!
Since the pandemic, I'd be thrilled to have anyone in my life !
maybe not the devil or his agent mate you dont want that, you r better alone in peace than people who destroy you
I’m 21 years late but I’m free now from people who divide and I’m running my life!!
Fantastic
Good video
My son is a subtracter: he complains, doesnt do his laundry or clean up after himself, eats/nap all day, and has no clue how to plan for his future. Thanks Patrick I’m definitely cutting him off my life
Forgot to mention he’s 3 yr old.
Yup cut him out he is definitely is going to grow up like his tool father! leaving dumb comments on CZcams 💯!
Very high quality video.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can also benefit from them.
All the best to you!
great content.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can also benefit from them.
All the best to you!
I got point
I subtract and divide my enemies and I add and multiply my friends.
Amen. 🙏
The determining factor of who is in our lives must be determined by our relationship to God. Humility and trust in Him and what He has determined is valuable must be out measure of life and all its boundaries.
Genius
If they were able to take constructive criticism, they would not be subtractors or dividers. Most of those people think they have never done anything wrong in their life. Could you do a video on narcissism?
My colleague is a multiplier. Great personality he can easily change the energy in a room. He is always positive and barely complains. So full of ideas and energy. We shared an apartment last year and in my history of communal living that was the best arrangement ever. Halfway through the third quarter his young brother visited. My colleague left the country just two months after his arrival. Dude I have never seen someone so paranoid. He is an energy vampire. Always asking for stuff, always whining, destroying friendships. Trust me you do not want to be under the same roof with a despondent person for months. We tried talking it over but it was clear we were not on the same page.
That is the kind of environment that will kill your ambition and drive. You only realise how bad the set up was after you have gone separate ways. I decided not to renew the lease and i got something smaller instead. In a just a few days at a new place i realised that i was slowly becoming anxious. It set me back a little but I am glad to be back on track.
Reminds me of Xerocan San Fran w Dandapani - Conscious Accounting. Energy vampires...
This is very insightful. i need to become a multiplayer