Burnout REALLY wrecked me, but I (finally) cracked it's code...
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- čas přidán 8. 04. 2022
- Hopefully the last video I ever make about suffering the very real consequences (even on a bio-chemical level!) of burnout...
.... but not the last on lessons learned in the dangers of hustle/productivity culture gone wrong and actually USEFUL ways to tell what really counts as "work-life" balance.
From here on out I'm determined to treat myself and how I work my way through life differently. Goals? Still there - but my mindset and how I pace myself around them are entirely different.
I'm still working out the details live - because aren't we all? - but I feel like this is a real new foundation to start working from. So...
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I've recently been trying to get back into my writing (my ultimate career goal), and this is so important. Writing takes so much energy out of you *so* quickly, and those moments of celebrating small victories are very important to keeping the energy going consistently. Did I write 1600 words today? Did I finish a NaNoWriMo challenge? No, absolutely not. But I have a paragraph more than I did yesterday, and it makes me feel so, so good rather than feeling guilty and anxious about the time that passes and passed for years where I felt too fatigued and cynical about my work to so much as open the word document.
Seri and other people if you're struggling with this type of burnout please read it might help: This sounds exactly like what my friend is going through. She got her dream job that she goes to super early in the morning, goes to classes all day, works a second job after school, then does homework. More working and internship things on the weekend. Constantly running around doing tons of stuff because her anxiety says she has to. I'm trying to help her with this and maybe my advice can help you too. (I have a psych minor). This comes form a mentality of finding your purpose and self-worth in your accomplishments. Usually from a childhood of being told you're never good enough and you need to work harder. Maybe trying to "earn" someone's love through those accomplishments. "Look you should love me because i'm capable and did all these great things. Look I'm not lazy or worthless." And the sad part is it never works. Usually those figures in your life will never see you as "good enough" because they have their own demons and struggles they're going through that blind them. But they make you see yourself in that way. Thinking you're only good enough if you achieve all these to-do-list things. And that mentality leads to burn out and depression because it doesn't work. Happiness, self-worth, etc. truly do come from intrinsic things. Working on how you view yourself and life and focusing on people/things you love. You'll never feel "good-enough" from a to do list. And accomplishments are short-lived serotonin boosts. You feel good for a few moments, and then it's on to the next thing. It doesn't last and can cause an addiction mentality of always looking for that next "hit" of serotonin by accomplishing more things, all the while becoming more and more depressed because deep down you realize it isn't working and you're not actually any happier. My advice is to (other than therapy which is great for most people!) focus on what is important in your life and what you want from it, not just what you can accomplish. Time with loved ones, hobbies, traveling, whatever matters most to you. Work on seeing yourself as worthy and good just because you're a person and you exist, not due to any accomplishments. And making sure you're enjoying life, not just trying to achieve as much as possible. Okay i'll stop rambling now haha. Hope this helps!
The part where you talk about not celebrating reaching your goal actually gave me shivers and broke my heart. I don't know many people on youtube or in real live, who put as much effort and passion into their work, who post that many videos every day, have so many projects going on.
I really hope you had a celebration in the end after all because you so deserve it. In fact I think you should celebrate every day how much you have achieved here, how many lives you have touched and how many people you have inspired. You certainly have inspired me, and that alone is worth celebrating in my opinion! Please take care of yourself and know that you are and always will be (good) enough, no matter if you manage to pump out all those videos and no matter what anybody else says or what games they want you to play.
Sending love and hugs from Vienna and I really hope you can find a healthy way forward and celebrate the big and even (or especially) the small things!
You deserve all the best and all the joy! 🤗💚🌻
I've experienced burnout from doing too much school work. I used to have a tiring day at school and come home and carry on with it. After a couple of months, I would just stop doing school because I'd burnt myself out. Now after school, I take a break between coming back from school and doing some more work.
Seri, I hope you are recovering well and have found that balance in work and enjoyment to keep yourself going so that you don't have to experience burn out again.
Edit: I just had an idea of having a jar with a daily mission or goal just to do something that will cheer you or someone else up. I feel as if it would really help with having the feeling to need to accomplish something daily.
Thank you for explaining this is an easy way to understand. This helped me realize some things I was doing to add pressure on myself. Glad you’re feeling better! :)
I'm also going through burnout. With school, piano, art ... etc and as you said, even if I enjoy those activities it still builds up. I appreciate you making this video, it helped me understand what I can do to make a positive change in my life and how to keep trucking along. I hope you're doing well sage!!! Thanks again. ❤
I love your way of describing burnout...makes it super relatable and understandable...and it's a very kind and gentle way to help everyone remember that burnout is something that anyone can experience for a variety of reasons! This has helped me better recognize my burnout and fight/flight struggles and signals. Hugs!!!
Great video. One thing that's helped me is I heard a psychologist (therapist? It was a while ago aha) say that most people can get seven things done in a day. Limiting my daily to-do lists to seven things - even if they're simple, they're still a task! - has really made me acknowledge my boundaries and not overwork myself, as well as making me reflect on the things I HAVE done that day. Sounds arbitrary perhaps, but hey, if it works it works.
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I’m super happy that you got through burnout. My mum suffers from burnout from too much stress as well, and it’s slightly scary to just see my mother suffering like that. I personally think that you should slow down posting videos and take your time, maybe even uploading 1 video per day. Of course, this is just a random recommendation from a stranger, but I think that doing that would make your more happy? I suppose? But anyway, I’m really glad you’re feeling better! Love you, Seri!
Thank you for being so transparent on everything you went through and have learned about burnout, Seri! This will be a video that I carry with me forever. My entire life I have been solely about my studies for school, and even when I've gotten breaks for the summer, etc. I always have a lingering thought in the back of my mind that I should be studying. I graduate in less than a month (May 7th) from Nursing school and have already accepted a position I am so excited about as a BSN-RN!
I've had to remind myself that studying is not the only thing I can do and that even when I do have an exam coming up, I can still take time off for a dinner date with Elliott or can go to our local minor league baseball games with my sister. I have decided that with the end in sight with college just how important it is that I focus on me and what I want to do to enjoy my life and enjoy my time with my loved ones! My sister and I have booked a trip to Atlanta for a week in August to celebrate us both graduating this year, and it will be our first solo sister trip! I'm so excited to begin traveling more widely and hopefully one day very, very soon travelling outside of the US to see other cultures and countries!
Sage, you inspire hundreds of thousands of people, and I hope you know how much you mean to us! I know that you will overcome this burnout because you are such a strong individual! You are enough, and we see you and will meet you where you are in life, wherever that may be at that point in time. ❤️💚❤️💚
💚💚💚 we love you seri
And we hope you feel better :(
Loved this video, I am glad you are feeling better. As someone who is almost always in fight or flight this was very helpful.
The admin at our schools have been preaching "self care" at us all year... while putting things on us that makes that impossible. The stress has been unreal. We needed time to help students reacclimate to school but instead they've just pushed more work, tests, etc on us. I haven't even had a planning period because we are short of teachers so I teach face to face 4 blocks a day and then teach a virtual class until the end of the day. So we are tired. The kids are acting out. We have the public yelling about conspiracy stuff that just isn't happening. We've had so many teachers in our State just finally throw up their hands and walk out. I am the only breadwinner since my husband passed. So I can't just walk out. I could change jobs but it would lose retirement which I will finally qualify for after next year. I'd take a 14% reduction if I retire next year but at least I'd get something while still young enough to start something new. I just need to somehow make it that far. I LOVE teaching... I just don't think I can make it another 5 years to get retirement without a penalty. I've been waking up at 4:00am just to get things done. That is something I have to fix. I did tell my family that for this weekend to pretend I don't exist because I fill the weekends up too. I won't make it another year if I don't find some releases.
Do what is right for you. Sometimes we as humans forget our limits and forget to take time for ourselves. We have habits of setting goals that are to high for ourselves which put alot of pressure on ourselves. So take time for yourself and do things that help give you a peace of mind. In other word do something that you enjoy. Btw i love your earrings!
I hope you have a therapist you can see to help you work through this and prevent more severe burnout. I'm not correcting you or anything because mental health is such a personal thing and how it effects people varies from person to person but your burnout sounds so much like my depression. I never really feel sad or anything when I'm depressed. I just straight up don't feel. Not sad. Not happy. Not anything. Its kind of creepy when I think back on it after it eases up especially because I tend to lose time when its bad too. Like I'll sit down to do something specific and suddenly its hours later even though it feels like I just sat down.
This is suddenly becoming 'Alex thinks depression is weird and rambles about it' hour, so, TLDR: I hope you have an amazing therapist and amazing support structure and that you're feeling amazingly better now and are gentle with yourself and focus on getting better before you focus on work (as much as you can financially and such).
This video came just in time, thank you so much Seri
I’m so glad you are back 💚 burnout is a very real thing that can hit everyone in everything you do. Thank you Seri. 🌲
Hey, Seri, you're doing the best you can. That's all we can ask for. Please take care of yourself
Informative and emotional, im glad you are figuring things out for yourself i just wish it wasnt preluded by pain.
I love you so much. Take care of yourself my dear.
Thank you so much for having the courage to share this, I am so sorry you experienced such intense burnout but I am so glad that you found answers that have helped you! This past year, I was in a similar situation where I felt like my mind was so difficult to understand and I had no idea how to unravel the thoughts in my mind and all the things I was extremely passionate about doing I forgot how to do with joy or do them at all?? Haha, I had no idea why but I had started to feel a little crazy and discouraged that the things I was once so excited to do turned into such a difficult chore and added stress to my life! My life has been so busy this year and though I eventually hadn’t felt that way as much anymore and started finding things that helped me, I had just kept going and going until I physically hit a wall and realized that I wasn’t taking care of myself at all, especially with the amount of times I was active during the day with dance classes and teaching and wanting to write so many stories. Sorry for rambling, I didn’t expect to haha! I just wanted to share that I began to find moments of peace in my life through learning how to rest, drink water, and give myself times during the day to understand my mind with a lot of journaling and to just teach myself how to not live on auto-pilot mode where I’m just trying to get through my day and end up getting burnt out. Now - I truly feel like I have found ways to take care of myself, to be excited again, and to slow down when I feel like I am beginning to feel the candle running out again. I’ve started taking time to, instead of being afraid of my mind, laying out my thoughts first thing in the morning with journaling and even expressing my fears when it comes to the stories I write, so that when I go to write it feels like it’s already a bit farther away from the front of my thoughts. Also, tea has been a big part of helping this process, haha!
I could talk for hours more about this topic because I experienced a lot of it this year, but I am thankful that it has taught me to search out ways to appreciate life and to not be so overwhelmed with stress and exhaustion. Thank you again for your beautiful words & I am so glad you are finding answers in this area of your life! Hope you are getting rest! I appreciate you and your videos so so much.
I'm a caregiver for a family member. It took me literally leaving the country and taking myself offline for 2 weeks to realize just how burned out I was. It really felt like I was emerging from underneath a ton of rubble and I was finally able to just breathe.
I thought that I just had a severe bout of depression last year. Didn’t realize it was burnout. But it makes so much sense now. I barely remember the first part of last year other than trying to do my college work. And my mom having health issues. I recovered by removing myself from the stress and doing my stress relieving activities.
I’m having a burn out with school and my sports that I play, I’ve struggled with depression through the last few years with COVID and all. Going back to school was hard for me since the last year I was bullied and I lost trust in so many people that I hardly tell anyone my secrets or anything.
This made me think i NEED to figure out the pressures in my life as i didnt think i had any pressures or more just shrugged them off and didnt think they where stresses as i do "hardly anything yet i'm still so tired even with my anxiety and depression i should be able to do more"
Slither.io has been a stress-relieving game for a long time for me, even before the pandemic. I appreciate you explaining your journey and process, and I'm very happy to see you again!
Thank you for explaining this is an easy way to understand. This helped me realize some things I was doing to add pressure on myself. Glad you’re feeling better! :)
Can you please do old friends dog game and the red lantern? :))
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