I Never Thought I Needed Help | EP 355
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A burden shared is a burden halved.
It's an old saying but it's true. Thanks for being so open, there's a lot of people who will benefit.
Thank you for your supportive comment. We (as a family) have always been a strong proponent of mental health. Now that our kids are entering the dating age. They are also using mental health as a criteria for compatibility. We are doing what we can to aid ourselves and to demystify the process. I mental health is a muscle which tales work to stay strong. I needed a reboot. and I am a better person for it. I am 100% grateful for everyone in my life who supports me, especially Jessica and the kids.
As Americans and Canadians, we are taught that our purchases, successes, and adventures will make us permanently happy. The problem is that the bar keeps getting raised ever higher. No sooner has one goal been reached, than one is planning the next. There is no time to be content. One doesn’t get happy inside, by looking outside. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences. I hope that you find your inner path to happiness.
Exactly. We left the material world and the constant upgrading behind a decade ago which helped a lot and gave us space to work in the rest of us. Great perspective. Thank you.
Man, that was tough to watch. I (Rob), suffer from very similar things, and thats all on top of PTSD and Depression from my time in a war zone....I very happy for you Will,
and I hope you feel way better. I am at the beginning stages of doing something about my issues too, and this video gave me some extra motivation. Thanks for sharing.
Right, I lived it with him and it was still so hard to watch. Big hugs Rob, I hope you go forward with getting help for PTSD and depression, it really works and I have seen great improvement in Will since we shot this some 6 months ago. ooops, a bit behind on editing, but mental health first. Good luck. You can do it!
Will- You are vulnerable and teachable- 2 of the most difficult things to be. We are learning with you with all of you. Keep healing friend! 😘🙏
Largo sets the bar so low 😂. "The boat's not sinking, so...." 😂
I know, right, but I can't imagine if Will came home to a sunk boat. Largo, my forever comic relief.
Think it's great that Will sought help when he needed it! We can't take care of everybody else until we take care of ourselves! Largo "the boat didn't sink". lol Great job Mom & Largo!
Exactly! Take care of yourself first. I know, Largo the ever comic.
People need to see more people talking about this. I have had mental health issues in the past it got so bad that my wife gave me 24hrs to get help. I found faith also helped me I pray the same for you.. As there are 6 month between then and now I hope the help you got is working if not there are lots of people out here sailing that you can speak to. I think as a sailing community it’s important to have boats that we communicate with and talk to , kid boats for our kids, wives husbands that you can’t talk about what’s going on and feel safe to do so.
YES, we need more people talking about this for sure and talking about it on their platforms to reach a greater audience. Yes, it has been 6 months and he has made great strides. Life is much better for him. Thank you.
Thank you both for sharing such a personal and intimate episode. Simon and I have been full time liveaboards for five years now (in the Med) and we absolutely love the lifestyle and the freedom it has given us. However, unless you actually live this life, no one can really appreciate and understand the stresses and strains it can take on you at times (let alone if you have other deep emotional stuff to deal with). We’ve become increasingly aware that we have simply settled into those clichéd roles of ‘pink’ and ‘blue’ on our boat. The result of that is that it puts a significant and relentless pressure on the captain. We are a great team in an emergency and both now know exactly what to do but the rest of the time Simon is constantly thinking about the boat, our battery power (you know how the list goes on and on…). He is under constant pressure in that sense so I need to take more of an interest in the vital systems of our boat and not just be adding fresh veg and pasta to my shopping list. Again, thank you for sharing, you have been an inspiration to us since you started sailing and we sincerely hope that you continue with your adventures! In the meantime, we are sending you all our loving thoughts 💕 💕💕
It reads, as someone who has experience of liveaboard boating, like you have analysed your situation clearly and identified a very balanced action to bring about a working solution. Best of luck and fortune.
Thank you so much for sharing this journey/ process you are going through. You can't heal what you don't speak. I admaire your family so much. I have recommended your channel to a lot of people. You make me smile on days when I am having a tough time. I have watched you for years now and have memories just like I was part of your family. I know persinally about the I'm not good enough tape that plays in your head. I want to tell you you are more then enough.
Cindy, thank you for your words of support and recommending us to others. Big hugs. Stay strong. You are enough as well.
Thank you so much for sharing this and I hope it continues, this is what healing is and I for one applaud you for the vulnerability and honesty in this vlog. I know you all got this and even if one person is helped by this sharing it is all worth it. Thank you so much it is hard to show your self.
Thanks Becky. Yes, if one person is helped this was all worth sharing.
Thank you for sharing this with us…and being vulnerable. It takes a lot of strength and courage to dig deep… what we find can be scary. Good for you Will. ❤️
Yes to all of this. Thanks for your support. Sometimes we need to go to a dark place to come back in a better place.
Very humbled that your shared your situation and inner thoughts and feelings with us. I am sure a lot of people have the same issues and may be suffering in silence. I am happy to see that you decided to face your demons and get help so you can be finally happy. Praying for you 🙏
A lot do, you would not believe the messages we have gotten. And that is why we share, to normalize talking about this stuff. Thanks for your kind words and commenting.
Thank you so much for sharing!
Thanks for watching! Anytime, keeping it real so we can all grow together.
You guys are awesome!! Thank you always for sharing!!
Thank you for commenting. Missing Japan!!! We will be back for more surf lessons.
Thank you, Will!
I’m so grateful for my program too. I now have peace and harmony in my life and I thought I’d always be living in anxiety and stress. I’m living in the moment now and most of the time I don’t regret anything from the past or worry about the future. Regrets, stress, and anxiety steal the joy from today and I am so grateful to have been relieved of it. One. Day. At. A. Time. Congratulations Will. Lesley xoxo
We know you get this. Thanks for your support and smart words. We subscribe to all of it. xoxo
Full time travel is exhausting, but you guys make it look easy! You do so much planning for the future, I hope you are content living in the moment too :)
full time travel is exhausting, but it is the gift that brought all this to light otherwise it might have been buried forever. He is grateful for that. And yes, the goal is always to live in the moment while being responsible for our future. Thanks for sharing and your support.
@WorldTowning that's true, it's great he sought help, you guys are honestly the dream team the way you support one another! Much love from England :D (Unfortunately not near Kent haha). Also just want to say from seeing your instagram post, i think you are very empowering for women! I'm sure you are used to hate comments from doing CZcams for so long but just know there are lots of viewers who admire you, they are just less vocal :p
Bless you, Will ❤
Thank you
What I found was that a very lengthy solo Camino, my 1994 from Paris was a 1,800K job -- whilst being no kind of magic bullet solving everything at once -- at least got me looking honestly both into and out of myself.
And, really, connecting for the first time with God.
I hope you find what you're looking for !!
Yep, the Camino works magic, he just needed a little more magic. So glad you found your way on the way and with God.
Lots of love to you, my brother!
Very brave to share. Glad your journey is still going ston(ger).
Thanks, yes, it was very brave of him. That is some major strength.
Thanks for sharing. Really great reminder that tge internal journey is just as important as the external one.
Appreciate you sharing to help normalize the importance of mental health and always taking care of yourself. It would have been easy enough to keep behind the scenes.
Big hugs to all. 🤗
Thanks for your support. Yes, normalize is his goal, but it surely was not easy for him to share. However, he felt it was necessary. If those before him had shared it might not have taken him so long to take the plunge.
Life and happiness is a blessing from God. Even the American Indians knew of the Great Spirit that created man and the earth. If you can’t love yourself and know your self worth. You can never love another human being. It is like walking barefoot or watching a sunrise or seeing a newborn baby born. People miss the simple things in life. Awesome job Will. May God bless you with true happiness within yourself.
Yes to the simple things in life. Thank you for sharing.
It’s really tough to see and know you’ve been suffering. Looking back I think I’ve seen it a bit,but just figured it was the frustration of boat stuff. I know when the storm calms you will come out stronger, kinder, and more focused on whatever your passion is. Yes Jess, even if it turns out to be a cow farmer in England.(cows are really cute) stay strong You got this.
Well, there is a bit of boat stress too, but we are used to lifestyle stress. Thanks for your support and kind words. True, I can pretty much be convinced of anything so it might be a cow farm. Who knows!
Thank you Will and jessica. Your story is so beautiful, and such an authentic reflection of our shared human condition. I too have found so much opportunity for healing in these middle years of life. Its my hope that, though these middle year reflections (or any years, but it seems particularly strong in these middle years) each of us can become sources of wisdom, change, encouragement, and love for ourselves and future generations. It's my observation that whatever is happening inside of us, is an extension of what is, or has been, happening on the outside of us...in society at large. By shining a light on our inner wound, we simultaneously expose the broader societal wound.
So yes...let's open this dialogue and hope that as we forge towards our elder years we collectively leave behind a network of kinder, wiser, and more lovingly worn paths. I have come to see that this is the work and gift of these years. To heal a wound is no small thing. It is everything. and most importantly it is as communal in its nature, as was the wound and the wounding itself. Thank you for your willingness to share and to heal. ❤️
The middle years, ah, that is so true. Gosh, loving all you said here. I hope everyone reads your comment. I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! We MUST not age and be angry and harmful to the younger generations. We have to be the light that gives them to courage to take care of their mental health and talk about it way before they hit the "middle years!"
Thats a great 👍 thing to do ! You guys are an inspiration, live is very different. I have excellent qualifications and experience unemployed since the pandemic. It took a massive hit to my mental health, on the verg of losing everything,
questioning everything about myself that I worked at for 20 years at PhD level. Thankfully I'm single, if I was married it would be divorce, and losing access to my children.
Thank you for your kind thoughts. And a big hug to you and a high five. You can do this, just remember change is not a bad thing, maybe the questioning is because a part of you wants a different path. Good luck. We understand this so much.
the wonderful family in world ♥️♥️
Thank you!!! Big hugs
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So much of what you said Will…..resonates. I hear you 150%.
This seems to be a very consistent comment here. You are not alone. Good luck in your healing.
My husband and I took courses called Omega Vector. Parts one and two. We called it 20 years of counseling in 4 days!!! Many couples had to do the sessions separately, too intense for their relationship.
Yes, I have heard you should not do personal development together unless it is for marriage counseling. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this Will it not only helps you but you are reaching many who are struggling and they are not alone. I suffered full blown depression in 1989 ,beautiful life 3 healthy children but I ended in the black box. Like you I had an amazing doctor who told me it’s not an overnight thing it’s been years in the making BUT I will make it through with counseling I did . The mind is a very powerful thing in it can deceive you until you realize how it can control your thoughts 😳it controls all your hormones and releases them accordingly to your thoughts. 18 years later we lost our oldest to an automobile accident I can tell you that I honestly was afraid of how it would affect me 💔but because of the grace of my therapy and our love of our family and the support of our community we are still standing 18 years after this. We truly appreciate and love each day as it comes because tomorrow isn’t promised, every day brings new challenges and opportunity to do better ❤️ Thank you for sharing your time and family with us ❤️sending you all lots of love and hugs as you continue your journey in life❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Exactly, to share helps many others and that has always been our goal with any sharing we do. Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts so candidly. And we are so sorry for the loss of your son. Your strength and commitment to your wellness is admirable.
Yes is so hard to look after yourself or put yourself first in our situation. But I realised, how can I give to others if I don't have anything to give. U can give from empty jar, your jar needs to be full, so u haply give to others, not out of resentment. So we do have to look after ourselves
yes, the empty jar can give nothing.
When u r raised by narcistic people u become Codependent. U r giver but by over giving and doing thing's for other people u busting your own self-worth, self-esteem because u feel not good enough. U bottle things inside and usally first place that u let thing out and actually have a first cry-is therapy. Well done Will for doing it! I did it too, and it was in UK too
yes and he is busting it all out and making great strides. So proud of him.
Yeah -- there's doing ; and then there's being.
Exactly
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thanks
Will, thank you for sharing your struggles with all of us. Reaching out for help is the best thing you can do. I can guarantee that if you pick up a Bible and ask God for him to help you, then open the Bible to any page, that book will come to life and He will speak to you! Satan will lie and deceive you that you are not worthy but The creator of the universe has made you unique in his image and he loves you! Seek and you will find! Blessings to you and your family!
Thanks so much for your support. He is finding his way and already doing much better. There will be an update in the future for sure.
Opening up and being transparent in your self journey is interesting and hopefully helpful to some others. Each of us address this differently. For me I find it's about me, never has been and never will be. It's about my relationship with my Lord Jesus Christ. He gives me purpose and knowing I'm not walking alone through the lows and the highs (cause there are and will be plenty of those), it's a freeing experience. So I hope the revelations you have found will give you peace and purpose that fits you. If not, try mine.
That is what he hopes, to heal himself, but normalize self care for others so they too can love themselves and be their best version.
Jessica’s turn for a similar program
Right now my focus is on Will and the children (and the cat), but who knows what the future holds.
Whitney Houston Greatest Love not Dolly Parton?
Congratulations to your self discovery. All fhe best. ❤
oops, he is not really up on his Whitney or Dolly. Ha! Thanks for your support. He is making great strides.
@@WorldTowning ❤️❤️
Actually it was written by Michael masser/ Linda creed and George Benson recorded it first. Stay well you are making great progress.❤
i see that this all happened 6-to 8 months ago. did you end up sailing across the pacfic ocean, where are you at this present time. hope will is better now.
We did not, but not because of this. We will address it in a future vlog, but we delayed it by 1-2 years so we could focus more on time with Largo, our group trips and some land travel. We still plan to cross though in the near future.
Why not starting a farm somewhere ? You can always make vlogs about it or start practicing it by joining some W Woofers where you can help other farmers in exchange for food and shelter.....
Well, to be honest I can be convinced to try just about anything. Ha. I never say NO.
I would not be sharing these personal feelings publicly, only with my best friend..
But this is part of the problem, we are all too scared to share the reality and no one heals that way. We share to normalize self care and mental health. Just with this one vlog we have had a handful of people say they are now going to take the plunge into self care. It is worth it! And some people have been looking at this exact program and now have someone speaking about it's value and they are going to join it. That is a big win!
My best to you 4
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You were NOT living your life. You were living someone else's life. I am not a therapist, or a life coach. Just someone who subscribes to sailing channels who live vicariously through you guys travels and see things and lean things through you sailors. For sometime I could tell behind that always happy face facade there were issues. I saw you as someone relegated to fulfilling the happiness of someone else. Both you and your wife put on a good show, but some of us who have had similar life experiences could see it. Being partners in life is OK. However just like in a business partnership,. it can't be 50-50. That is why many business partnerships are written up contractually as 51-49. Someone always has the veto power to eliminate a stalemate.
In your relationship I saw a man who is not in charge of anything other than someone who is happy to be second in charge at everything. You have been that 49 percent partner. Maybe a little switching of roles may be healthier. You become that 51 percent partner for a change. Just venting from a distance with opinions that may be welcomed or rejected. That is OK.
HI - The joy of Social media is that you see what we show and you can comment on what resonates to you. Unfortunately we don't show the whole story of our lives. Some things need to be just for us. And a lot of things are just not that interesting. As far as me not living this life for me and being on someone else's agenda, you could not be further from the truth. The best thing about Jessica and I are that we encourage each other, support each other and challenge each other to be more than who we currently are. This is what makes us perfect together. Keeping our lives going the way it is is a 12 hour a day 7 day a week effort. Are we 50/50 on everything. No. We each have our strengths which we utilize to make our lives uniquely ours. I am honored to be with a strong, confident woman who does not play the meek, submissive role because it fits well for social media.
inspirational - thank you for the rawness. 🫂💙💙💙
You are most welcome. We don't do fake, keeping it real so we can all benefit and heal.
I started to see your demons few years ago. I believe you finally need a cozy home in a beautiful place, let’s say like Hyeres, and have a rest. You look tired.
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Thanks Brandy.