That’s how I keep asking my children assistant class teacher when she will deliver her baby. I never knew she wasn’t pregnant until the day I saw her and asked when she will going on maternity leave.😂😂😂. She told me she wasn’t pregnant. I was deeply embarrassed
Same thing happened to me, some time they will call me out to pray for me in front of the whole congregations in the church it is heartbreaking, God in his infinit mercy has broke the York last year after 9 years of waiting, taking All kinds of insult from people he blessed me with a bouncing baby boy. My golden baby.
Your information is on point. I was in a waiting room to see my doctor and a lady who came with a big stomach did not have a seat. I told her excuse me since you are pregnant, let me offer you my seat. She said I am not pregnant. Everyone looked at her to hear her response, I have a HERNIA ! I apologized and she said it is okay everyone thinks I am pregnant. From that day I learnt my lesson
It happened to me at a tailor's shop, when she told one of her client to "give this pregnant lady a seat"😮😮😮 I turned around, and realized that it was me that she was referring to 😂😂😂😂... I collect seat o
Thank you for the education and congratulations to Baby #5. I recently found out I was pregnant from a church member few weeks ago... She said " Nnem are you pregnant " Hmmm I looked at her and said God forbid... I already have 3 kids Under 4 yrs old and I am struggling with school, 14:53 work, family, house chores, the list endless... I came home and took a pregnancy test..... My sister, it was positive... I wanted to die... I called planned parenthood only to find out abortion is now illegal is texas... I cried... Then I remember 2 friends who are still waiting for the fruit of the womb, I just started praying for them... Asking GOD to use me as a point of contact...If I can transfer this pregnancy to them, I will do it instantly.. So yes, I'm keeping baby #4 and I am praying that GOD blessed all my sisters who are still waiting on GOD to bless them..
I remember after getting married in 2021, the following year almost every woman in my church in Nigeria will be looking at my stomach to see if I am pregnant, so will even touch it. I was so pained because I was trying to be pregnant, I did IVF but failed. To break the camel’s back in 2023 I was called in front of the church for the whole church to pray for me to get pregnant. Why are we so insensitive to people feeling in Africa? Children are from God.
Neze you have said it all. 3months after being married. A colleague of mine said to me, we have not seen anything o....., how come you are not yet pregnant, what have you and your husband bring doing. I remembered I went home and I cried bitterly. Those words really got me sad for some period, but I never knew I was already pregnant.
Tell them oo if they will hear. I personally have suffered in the hands those insensitive people I have 2children back to back immediately after marriage and for seven years now I have not given birth and I also lost the first one, there is nothing people have not told me with their mouth, all manner of pressure
I am a small size lady and i had a fibroid situation, few months after i got married , each time it's that time of the month, i blot a little more than usual and oh my Lord, my mother - n- law, my pastor's wife, some ladies in the church, some friends will start congratulating me. It got so bad i had to do a surgery to get rid of the fibroid. You can imagine. The unfortunate thing was i married late so they feel i should start producing babies right away. Pressure! But the good thing is, i am not stress about it. God is the giver of children. My mom had my youngest sibling at the age of 50, after she had had 6 children and stopped giving birth for over 9 yrs. If God decides to bless you with children, nothing can stop it. People, no one is giving anyone a reward for noticing a pregnant woman first. Stop trying to ask or tell if you think someone is pregnant. It could be fibroid, health situation just like NENE said😮.
Apart from education, social media exposure, or enlightenment, normal Nigerians are insensitive to other people's feelings. As Nigerians, we have a long way to go to be psychologically smart. Thank you Neze for that lecture.
Thank you Barrister Neze this is so true. I experienced this in an oppostite fashion. My water broke at 34weeks due to mental and physical stress. After 2days admission and monitoring i had an unplanned C-section. Offcoirse baby was in the NICU and i was not ready to announce to the public but somehow people got to know. 4days after i was discharged while baby was still in the hospital. Calls started coming in "you had a baby and you dont want to tell us, what's our offence. I cried for days because these people didnt even know what i was going through. People should learn to mind their business, i mean imagine if something terrible had happened and they are still questioning me. To the glory of God baby is 1+already.
That's how someone ask me yesterday,wen u go born follow this your pikin,i tell am say na God dey give children,n i squeeze my face answer her,she respect her age sharperly,my son is 8+.may God remember all of us ttc.Amen
My Neze!! You are too much❤ I think people do this because they think it’s an achievement to be the first to detect someone’s pregnancy and even the baby’s gender. If the person is indeed pregnant, they now beam with pride and say ‘I knew it! My eyes are so good that it can detect a 2 week pregnancy’. I pray these fallopian tube soldiers focus their energies on bettering themselves.
About 12 months after my wedding , one minister in church squeezed a piece of paper into my hand reading "u are not barren, u are just a waiting mother". Me that agreed with my Odogwu to not get pregnant as i was working on my Master's degree program. 😂
I have been in a situation where I did not see my friend for months and only for me to go visit her and realized she was pregnant, I greeted her normally with soo much joy in my heart and quickly started helping her out in chores and asked her to relax. It was after some hours she was like see what your brother has done to me and I was like he did well naa😂. I did not act surprised when I saw her because it is expected that a married woman can get pregnant at any time. I think people need to learn more about emotional intelligence. Thank you soo much for this video Nezepeperempe❤️
Even Neze is not immune to the womb monitoring done by the association of womb watchers, per usual you addressed this annoying issue that is very prevalent in our society very gracefully. Thank you Barrister Neze.
Thank Barrister Neze, for the education lessons, with education knowledge is gain an things will be done in wisdom. Congrats Oooo you did have a glow taught was the glory oooo. Much love from us in ,🇹🇹💯💃💃💃😮
Thanks Neze my friend is experiencing the same thing she has been married for six years without a child or even miscarriage her husband is living abroad wen ever her husband comes some people will tell her that she should not waste her husband’s ticket she should get pregnant this time which use to make her cry her eyes out as if she’s the one giving her self babies that’s not nice at all
Hummmmm that exactly what I told a woman who knew a particular sis that was not married at 48yrs we were at a naming ceremony and she just open her mouth to tell the sis you are the next oooo u go carry your child. the sis just stood up and walked away. This may be an innocent and harmless prayer but it was not needed at that time. This is exactly what you are talking about. We must be mindful of what we say to people.
You are right, I have been avoiding marriage ceremonies these days because whenever aunties see me, instead of asking how am doing but they will just be asking me when am getting married.. Sometimes it's irritating.
This is very well articulated. Not people looking at my son and asking when he’s having younger ones, and they don’t know if I’m probably fighting quiet battles or I’m just chilling and enjoying Oga. The worst part is these womb watchers start suggesting and even lecture you on calculating ovulation 😂😂😂
I remember a colleague of mine had fibroids and her belly was like she's having a baby, so people everywhere she was were saying, congratulation! Asking if it's a boy or girl 😢 she would cry about it everyday. Indeed let's mind our comments.
My sister I am a 72 yea old woman who have seen all kinds of life. Thank you for your voice of wisdom, you are so happy in your own skin. The fact that you love yourself you can take these unhealthy comments with grace.
I tire OOO . I expressed same during my time of waiting that at some point, I stopped letting people know that I'm not feeling fine or even call anyone I know that would come up with such insensitive encouragement 😊
Thank you Neze, I added weight in 2020 and I can't lose the weight around my tummy. I look pregnant. ...it is called hormonal imbalance. Yet I am waiting on God for the fruit of the womb.. Thank you for this information
I actually got attracted to this video thinking you were pregnant. You’re a good storyteller. 4 kids in this part of the world is plenty my dear. I have 3 kids and nothing can make me have number 4 even with their dad begging for more
V@NDchurchgirl but she is joking na. Did you hear where she said if you are in the abroad and you can wash napkin and clean popo, drop your application? Who does that in the abroad? Who uses napkins nowadays?? She is joking jare.
Well done for raising awareness about this & enlightening those who think it’s ok to talk anyhow. You’ve said it all. I often wonder why some people can’t show simple etiquette when it comes to issues like this. Women need to learn to be kind & sensitive to each other.
I never knew I was already too worried, finally took in same here of wedding, but in our 11th month of marriage and lost it in first trimester, hmmm I almost fell into depression. Neze thank you for teaching this, Children comes from God. It is grace only him can give
From the beginning of the song I know Neze is taking us somewhere. The problem is a lot of women will still not learn or hear. Don't be surprised that the same people will still go elsewhere and drop the same comment.
That was how after i had a miacarriage years back and was still trying to heal only for one lady to start asking me wat are you still waiting for? I went back to my bed and flood it with tears. But i thank God after ao many miscarriages, still miscarriage en etopic pregnant, God finally blessed me wit 3 children. People can be so mean and insensitive.
Neze there are so many reasons I like to watch your channel. Thank you for this video. I pray God answers all the TTC Mum this season in Jesus Christ Name Amen
When I saw the title I thought to myself Neze isn’t 4 children enough. Then when you said in the video that if your sole purpose on earth was to have children, haven’t you fulfilled that purpose, I just burst into laughter 😂 😂😂😂. That statement made my morning.
@@iampraise_ you see that statement “NEZE ISNT 4 CHILDREN ENOUGH “ is insensitive. She can decide to birth as much as she wants. Na this kind talk and matter we Dey try to settle for this video. I come in peace ✌️
@Befe_Space, she meant it as a thought, actually. She only thought out loud. We cab have these thoughts...although we also need some work to refine our thoughts. We are all a work in progress
@@isiomageorge-adedeji3139 I totally understand but typing it out here whether jokingly or not isn’t healthy. It can affect the emotions of someone that has 5,6,7 kids. I totally understand where she was coming from
Nezenwa you almost made me believe you were pregnant from your first comment. I feel your weight adding is because of a relaxed mind.That was how they were congratulating me the last time I added weight and when I worked on it and lost weight the still complained that I had lost so much weight that I was stressed. I don't know how we mummies can keep up with all these talks.
Yes I have gone through that, after giving birth 1,2,3 n 4 I gained a lot of weight n my tummy was big, I was asked several times if I was pregnant 😂😂, Heaven is the goal.❤
That part u gave them 5knocks made me laugh😂😂, Labour room nor be joke, plus fallopian tube police them plenty.before u know,it will go viral.good to clear the air.congrats,some people get eye sha,even from screen them see the womb #respect
I totally agree with you, Neze. I was a victim of congratulations, iyabeji, wherever I went back then (in my twenties and thirties). Meanwhile, I was suffering from Fibroid, and I was on the slim side then. I got married very late (almost 40 years of age), and I gave birth to my son, with a fibroid in the womb, but God did it ((after two fibroid surgeries). When I had this child, people asked me when I was having the next one (I had this child when I relocated abroad and was over 40). I tried having another one, but it was coming (miscarriages). Caring for a child abroad is not moinmoin o (daycare fee alone!). Even now, I still look pregnant, and this is due to weight gain and some mental issues. People need to be careful of the way they address other people, especially when it comes to mental and personal issues. Remain blessed, Neze♥
Well said my able Barrister. People need to understand the emotional effects of these pregnancy comments. There are many women who have spent millions to have a baby without success. I'm happy that you have used this comment as an educational moment. Education is key.
People typing ‘congratulations’ in the comments didn’t y’ll watch the video to the end? Omo no matter how you educate some people barrister neze they’ll remain dense cos they keep running faster than the sense that’s chasing them! 🤦♀️
Neze you are very correct. I remembered 13 years ago after I had my twins, I added for almost two to 3 years my tommy was big as a lepa woman my tommy was big and at that time I will really working it . But surprisingly, people still ask me to please do my work small small o because of my pregnancy😂. Others will say.... Thank God another baby is on way when am not even pregnant. That's people for you, they talk before thinking. I love your educative talks. Weldone
Thank you Neze for this enlightening video, my daughter will be 10 this December, we've been trying to conceive for a while now after I lost a her brother after giving birth prematurely at 27 weeks and another baby girl at 22 weeks pregnancy which few people knows about, the amount of, ahh do you want your child to be the only child, some people will even tell my child to ask me or her dad for siblings. It just crazy and sad.
She made a valid point to be honest, but guys, don't be carried away by her gorgeous smile. She knew Anything can happen, especially when you are least expected. Canada is really cold to hold the body. I swear.😄😄😄 Well done mama Peperenpe. One love from the UK
Brilliant video very teachable moment. So true, I’ve had a friend that lost a baby took her a very long time to loose the weight and folks were congratulating her. My dear Neze, you are beautiful and so brave for having this conversation.
Neze dear. Just getting to know you. And I appreciate how you spell it out. God bless you, for educating and telling the plain and simple truth. I have been on the TTC journey and conceiving my two kids was a miracle. But bc I have a big tummy due to PCOS and childbirth, I cannot count the number times people thought I was pregnant. I learnt to ignore them and their thoughts. But the truth is that it does take its toll. I was already insecure because I was overweight, and their perception did not help. I’ve learnt to keep my peace and my happiness, and be grateful to God.
Emotional intelligence is very important,read the room,it’s important you think before you talk I don’t know why some persons just open their mouths to ask inappropriate questions
Even me sef wey get 2, if anyone suggests or ask me when I'll be having my next baby... I'd jokingly reply cheeky cos it's mine and hubby's decision and trust me you'd not dare ask me again. A whole four children is not enough??? When I saw NEZE's notification I said to myself (again kwa!) 😂😂
You are very wise in the way you dealt with the statement. People need to educate, learn, or better still think before you open your mouth. Neze, thank you, very well said.
Neze, this is an excellent and on point video. People need to know their place and understand boundaries. A person will tell you what she or he wants you to know, otherwise mind your business. Thank you for saying it direct and straight. No sugarcoating! Some conversations are inappropriate and can be very offensive, we need to learn as women! Let's honor privacy!
Neze, honestly you are a genius! The way you treated this issue is just super. People don't mind their own business. Moreover, it's not our culture as a Nigerian, to be announcing pregnancy.
This is first time to say something on this space but I always watch and laugh, I think you just said my mind Neze, I have been married and i just have one child who is 10years and i we have been trying, done everything to get pregent again but not yet, and everyone around just keep saying what are you waiting for, ah your son is 10years already ooo but they don't even know what i go thru everyday, if not for husband who support me and encourage me when i cry secretly, they do not know how I feel, sometimes I know some of them mean well but they donot say it well, and sometimes they just laugh over it and think it is ok and I just look at them...
Years ago I fell into the trap of congratulations to a woman I didnt even know for her pregnancy. She broke down crying. I felt so bad. Only to find out that she had out of control fibroids and she didnt even have any kids. She couldn't conceive. To date I do not say anything about women's bellys, weight, suspected pregnancy, nothing. Unless I am told, I mind my business
Kudos for acknowledging & making amends. Its appalling when adults who should have a progressive mind to learn & unlearn adamantly remain stuck in their ways.💕
I was a victim of this later 2022 and early last year. People were just making comments that show that they think I'm pregnant, when I was struggling with fibroid. It really affected me. And esp because I'm actually looking for the fruit of the womb, but haven't gotten it yet. Took out the fibroid last year tho. Still expecting God's blessings. Thank you for this video. I'm one of your subscribers, but I've never commented. Just to let you know you're my best CZcamsr, when it comes to real life stories. I actually love your storytelling, plus I have learned a lot of legal matters from you. Keep up the good work Neze Nwa.
Sincerely, when I watched that video, I thought so to myself too but I am not the type to be forward with things like that. Besides, towards the end of the video, she gave us a full view of herself at the park, at that point, I doubted what my initial thought. In all, do you! Forget people! They will talk regardless!
So many" What If",,, that some people don't give a thought on before uttering such words.. May God strengthen many passing through negative utterances from people..
I had my baby and shortly after lost my husband. Not only am I being asked when I am getting remarried, I am also asked when baby number 2 will come. One went as far as asking me what I am doing with my life.
The way you’ve handled this just proves what a bright and joyous light you are! Happy woman like you?! May you not suffer and enjoy the fruits of your womb and may god keep you for very very long! ❤️❤️❤️
YES OOO MY DEAR AUNTY, YOU ARE RIGHT OOO. JUST LIKE AFTER MY TWINS, 3 CHILDREN ALTOGETHER, SO CALLED PEOPLE WILL NOT LET ME REST. UNSOLICITED ADVISERS EVERYWHERE, SILLY JOKES, ALWAYS WATCHING MY STOMACH. I HAD A NASTY GO AT MY BOSS RECENTLY AND HE STOPPED IT. GOD HELP US ALL
4 months afer my wedding, i was chatting with a woman i respected a lot and she said, please take care of the baby in your womb. I was taken aback because first, i was trying to conceive that period, second, i never told anyone i was pregnant. I tried to be polite and laughed it off by saying thank you but deep down, i was hurt. Fortunately, i got pregnant that same month. Imagine the pain i would have still been feeling if i still couldn't get pregnant after she said those words. Being sensitive to the feelings of others is extremely important. You don't know what they are going through, so don't make it worse for them.
Thank you so much. God bless you. I wonder why some people aren’t diplomatic in their approach to things like this. These issues are so sensitive yet people are so careless in their utterances. I hope they see this video and advise themselves
I was pregnant with multiple large intramural fibroids so my belle was big ooo. A week after putting to bed I went with the baby to the clinic for her 1st check up & because of the fibroids situation my tummy was still really big, a lady there asked how far along I was😅😬the awkwardness when I told her I wasn't pregnant!!!😂to be a woman!!!Lord have mercy chai!!!!!!
That’s how I keep asking my children assistant class teacher when she will deliver her baby.
I never knew she wasn’t pregnant until the day I saw her and asked when she will going on maternity leave.😂😂😂. She told me she wasn’t pregnant. I was deeply embarrassed
Same thing happened to me, some time they will call me out to pray for me in front of the whole congregations in the church it is heartbreaking, God in his infinit mercy has broke the York last year after 9 years of waiting, taking All kinds of insult from people he blessed me with a bouncing baby boy. My golden baby.
Sigh !! 😭😭
Congratulations mama I’m next to be congratulated Amen
@@ukamakaezeoke340 Amenn He will surely do it, by his mercy this year will not pass you by you will testify in Jesus name amen.
Is not about making children, is about raising them right and providing them with all their basic needs
This is the most important part for me!! Taking care of them well
Your information is on point. I was in a waiting room to see my doctor and a lady who came with a big stomach did not have a seat. I told her excuse me since you are pregnant, let me offer you my seat. She said I am not pregnant. Everyone looked at her to hear her response, I have a HERNIA ! I apologized and she said it is okay everyone thinks I am pregnant. From that day I learnt my lesson
It happened to me at a tailor's shop, when she told one of her client to "give this pregnant lady a seat"😮😮😮 I turned around, and realized that it was me that she was referring to 😂😂😂😂... I collect seat o
Thank you for the education and congratulations to Baby #5. I recently found out I was pregnant from a church member few weeks ago... She said " Nnem are you pregnant " Hmmm I looked at her and said God forbid... I already have 3 kids Under 4 yrs old and I am struggling with school, 14:53 work, family, house chores, the list endless... I came home and took a pregnancy test..... My sister, it was positive... I wanted to die... I called planned parenthood only to find out abortion is now illegal is texas... I cried... Then I remember 2 friends who are still waiting for the fruit of the womb, I just started praying for them... Asking GOD to use me as a point of contact...If I can transfer this pregnancy to them, I will do it instantly.. So yes, I'm keeping baby #4 and I am praying that GOD blessed all my sisters who are still waiting on GOD to bless them..
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I remember after getting married in 2021, the following year almost every woman in my church in Nigeria will be looking at my stomach to see if I am pregnant, so will even touch it. I was so pained because I was trying to be pregnant, I did IVF but failed. To break the camel’s back in 2023 I was called in front of the church for the whole church to pray for me to get pregnant. Why are we so insensitive to people feeling in Africa? Children are from God.
Hmmm... Sooo soo sorry about this. Can be painful. May God take your pains away in Jesus name.
God is with you.
My God. That's so insensitive and prying.Do you still worship there?
Oh noo...hugs to you precious one
For this level of shame, God will beautify your life in His glory! Children as much as you desire IJn🙏
Wooooooi, that is too much.they can't find me in that church .
Neze you have said it all. 3months after being married. A colleague of mine said to me, we have not seen anything o....., how come you are not yet pregnant, what have you and your husband bring doing. I remembered I went home and I cried bitterly. Those words really got me sad for some period, but I never knew I was already pregnant.
Can you imagine, people can be so insensitive
Just imagine how insensitive some people are
Tell them oo if they will hear. I personally have suffered in the hands those insensitive people I have 2children back to back immediately after marriage and for seven years now I have not given birth and I also lost the first one, there is nothing people have not told me with their mouth, all manner of pressure
This is very bad!! Why are some people so insensitive
I am a small size lady and i had a fibroid situation, few months after i got married , each time it's that time of the month, i blot a little more than usual and oh my Lord, my mother - n- law, my pastor's wife, some ladies in the church, some friends will start congratulating me. It got so bad i had to do a surgery to get rid of the fibroid.
You can imagine. The unfortunate thing was i married late so they feel i should start producing babies right away.
Pressure! But the good thing is, i am not stress about it. God is the giver of children. My mom had my youngest sibling at the age of 50, after she had had 6 children and stopped giving birth for over 9 yrs.
If God decides to bless you with children, nothing can stop it.
People, no one is giving anyone a reward for noticing a pregnant woman first. Stop trying to ask or tell if you think someone is pregnant. It could be fibroid, health situation just like NENE said😮.
Apart from education, social media exposure, or enlightenment, normal Nigerians are insensitive to other people's feelings. As Nigerians, we have a long way to go to be psychologically smart. Thank you Neze for that lecture.
You are right. Our EI on social media is very poor. We are really insensitive
NEZE IS THE BEST BLACK FEMALE STORYTELLER. SHE KNOWS HOW TO KEEP ONE GLUED🤣. Our barrister at large😀
Thank you Barrister Neze this is so true. I experienced this in an oppostite fashion. My water broke at 34weeks due to mental and physical stress. After 2days admission and monitoring i had an unplanned C-section. Offcoirse baby was in the NICU and i was not ready to announce to the public but somehow people got to know. 4days after i was discharged while baby was still in the hospital. Calls started coming in "you had a baby and you dont want to tell us, what's our offence. I cried for days because these people didnt even know what i was going through.
People should learn to mind their business, i mean imagine if something terrible had happened and they are still questioning me. To the glory of God baby is 1+already.
There is nothing wrong in behaving like Nigerians. We are our brothers and sisters keeper. People are concerned. It is not about gossip .
That's how someone ask me yesterday,wen u go born follow this your pikin,i tell am say na God dey give children,n i squeeze my face answer her,she respect her age sharperly,my son is 8+.may God remember all of us ttc.Amen
My Neze!! You are too much❤ I think people do this because they think it’s an achievement to be the first to detect someone’s pregnancy and even the baby’s gender. If the person is indeed pregnant, they now beam with pride and say ‘I knew it! My eyes are so good that it can detect a 2 week pregnancy’.
I pray these fallopian tube soldiers focus their energies on bettering themselves.
very senseless set of people
About 12 months after my wedding , one minister in church squeezed a piece of paper into my hand reading "u are not barren, u are just a waiting mother". Me that agreed with my Odogwu to not get pregnant as i was working on my Master's degree program. 😂
😂😂😂😂 some people they can't just mind their business 😂😂😂😂😂 Africans 🙌🙌🙌
Omo!! The effrontery !!😮
The way people don’t mind their business ehn!
I have been in a situation where I did not see my friend for months and only for me to go visit her and realized she was pregnant, I greeted her normally with soo much joy in my heart and quickly started helping her out in chores and asked her to relax. It was after some hours she was like see what your brother has done to me and I was like he did well naa😂. I did not act surprised when I saw her because it is expected that a married woman can get pregnant at any time. I think people need to learn more about emotional intelligence. Thank you soo much for this video Nezepeperempe❤️
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is key.
Even Neze is not immune to the womb monitoring done by the association of womb watchers, per usual you addressed this annoying issue that is very prevalent in our society very gracefully. Thank you Barrister Neze.
Thank Barrister Neze, for the education lessons, with education knowledge is gain an things will be done in wisdom. Congrats Oooo you did have a glow taught was the glory oooo. Much love from us in ,🇹🇹💯💃💃💃😮
Thanks Neze my friend is experiencing the same thing she has been married for six years without a child or even miscarriage her husband is living abroad wen ever her husband comes some people will tell her that she should not waste her husband’s ticket she should get pregnant this time which use to make her cry her eyes out as if she’s the one giving her self babies that’s not nice at all
Oh my goodness 🥺🥺,this is so insensitive
NEZE IS THE BEST BLACK FEMALE STORYTELLER. SHE KNOWS HOW TO KEEP ONE GLUED🤣.
As in ehn.
I love her so much 😂❤
Hummmmm that exactly what I told a woman who knew a particular sis that was not married at 48yrs we were at a naming ceremony and she just open her mouth to tell the sis you are the next oooo u go carry your child. the sis just stood up and walked away. This may be an innocent and harmless prayer but it was not needed at that time. This is exactly what you are talking about. We must be mindful of what we say to people.
You are right, I have been avoiding marriage ceremonies these days because whenever aunties see me, instead of asking how am doing but they will just be asking me when am getting married.. Sometimes it's irritating.
@@Debby142 don’t mind them my dear. God time is the best
This is very well articulated. Not people looking at my son and asking when he’s having younger ones, and they don’t know if I’m probably fighting quiet battles or I’m just chilling and enjoying Oga. The worst part is these womb watchers start suggesting and even lecture you on calculating ovulation 😂😂😂
Story of my life
So cheerful and educated too…very beautiful how can I forget ,love from Gambia 🇬🇲
Nze is always intentional in all she does. With so much poise and Grace❤
I remember a colleague of mine had fibroids and her belly was like she's having a baby, so people everywhere she was were saying, congratulation! Asking if it's a boy or girl 😢 she would cry about it everyday. Indeed let's mind our comments.
Fallopian tube armies indeed. Neze you are fast becoming a wordsmith . Love you dearly nne.
My sister I am a 72 yea old woman who have seen all kinds of life. Thank you for your voice of wisdom, you are so happy in your own skin. The fact that you love yourself you can take these unhealthy comments with grace.
Hi cc, I hv never seen a CZcamsr who tells stories like you do... Very joyful... Very infectiou. This is your niche on youtube. Love u cc...
My first baby is only 21 months, every small sluggishness, and sneeze, encouragement everywhere, "jisike" here and there😂😂😂😂.
I tire OOO . I expressed same during my time of waiting that at some point, I stopped letting people know that I'm not feeling fine or even call anyone I know that would come up with such insensitive encouragement 😊
@@annugonna3126 It's tiring, honestly.
😅😅😅😅😅, I love your way, Neze. A woman with the best charisma❤
Thank you Neze, I added weight in 2020 and I can't lose the weight around my tummy. I look pregnant. ...it is called hormonal imbalance. Yet I am waiting on God for the fruit of the womb.. Thank you for this information
I actually got attracted to this video thinking you were pregnant. You’re a good storyteller. 4 kids in this part of the world is plenty my dear. I have 3 kids and nothing can make me have number 4 even with their dad begging for more
Thanks for the talk Neze! People should watch to the end before typing congratulations. Neze is not PREGNANT! Womb watchers BEWARE!!!
Thank you. I watched just the beginning.
She did say at the end that baby number 5 is here and her daughter is going to have a sister at 14:20min.
V@NDchurchgirl but she is joking na.
Did you hear where she said if you are in the abroad and you can wash napkin and clean popo, drop your application?
Who does that in the abroad?
Who uses napkins nowadays??
She is joking jare.
Well done for raising awareness about this & enlightening those who think it’s ok to talk anyhow. You’ve said it all. I often wonder why some people can’t show simple etiquette when it comes to issues like this. Women need to learn to be kind & sensitive to each other.
Congratulations Mrs Neze waiting for baby number 6
Congratulations you’re highly blessed and favored 🤍🤍🤍
I never knew I was already too worried, finally took in same here of wedding, but in our 11th month of marriage and lost it in first trimester, hmmm I almost fell into depression. Neze thank you for teaching this, Children comes from God. It is grace only him can give
From the beginning of the song I know Neze is taking us somewhere. The problem is a lot of women will still not learn or hear. Don't be surprised that the same people will still go elsewhere and drop the same comment.
Sad but true
You’re so wise. I love how you educated people about their congratulations.
That was how after i had a miacarriage years back and was still trying to heal only for one lady to start asking me wat are you still waiting for? I went back to my bed and flood it with tears. But i thank God after ao many miscarriages, still miscarriage en etopic pregnant, God finally blessed me wit 3 children.
People can be so mean and insensitive.
People are not mean and they are only showing concern because they care
@@chinyeluobiasor6862 with the wrong approach?
@@chinyeluobiasor6862even if they care there is a way to communicate not asking "what are you still waiting for"?
You have shown the world again that you are a WISE WOMAN...
Thanks for sharing your WORDS of WISDOM!
You're such a wise woman! Thank you for the correction, people need more of this. Congratulations!
Neze there are so many reasons I like to watch your channel. Thank you for this video. I pray God answers all the TTC Mum this season in Jesus Christ Name Amen
Neze Peperenpe is my best educative and inspirational tori-teller of this generation! 🎉🎉🎉
When I saw the title I thought to myself Neze isn’t 4 children enough. Then when you said in the video that if your sole purpose on earth was to have children, haven’t you fulfilled that purpose, I just burst into laughter 😂 😂😂😂. That statement made my morning.
Aswear 😂😂😂😂
@@iampraise_ you see that statement “NEZE ISNT 4 CHILDREN ENOUGH “ is insensitive. She can decide to birth as much as she wants. Na this kind talk and matter we Dey try to settle for this video. I come in peace ✌️
Exactly😂😂😂😂
@Befe_Space, she meant it as a thought, actually. She only thought out loud. We cab have these thoughts...although we also need some work to refine our thoughts. We are all a work in progress
@@isiomageorge-adedeji3139 I totally understand but typing it out here whether jokingly or not isn’t healthy. It can affect the emotions of someone that has 5,6,7 kids. I totally understand where she was coming from
Nezenwa you almost made me believe you were pregnant from your first comment. I feel your weight adding is because of a relaxed mind.That was how they were congratulating me the last time I added weight and when I worked on it and lost weight the still complained that I had lost so much weight that I was stressed. I don't know how we mummies can keep up with all these talks.
Indeed, you are special woman with huge emotional intelligence. Thank you for schooling us. Not all we see must we say. You are blessed.
You had me fooled at first. I like that you use your platform to enlighten, not just entertain. Weldone sis.
Thanks a lot Neze for enlightening people. People need to stop making assumptions about others being pregnant.
Yes I have gone through that, after giving birth 1,2,3 n 4 I gained a lot of weight n my tummy was big, I was asked several times if I was pregnant 😂😂, Heaven is the goal.❤
That part u gave them 5knocks made me laugh😂😂, Labour room nor be joke, plus fallopian tube police them plenty.before u know,it will go viral.good to clear the air.congrats,some people get eye sha,even from screen them see the womb #respect
I totally agree with you, Neze. I was a victim of congratulations, iyabeji, wherever I went back then (in my twenties and thirties). Meanwhile, I was suffering from Fibroid, and I was on the slim side then. I got married very late (almost 40 years of age), and I gave birth to my son, with a fibroid in the womb, but God did it ((after two fibroid surgeries). When I had this child, people asked me when I was having the next one (I had this child when I relocated abroad and was over 40). I tried having another one, but it was coming (miscarriages). Caring for a child abroad is not moinmoin o (daycare fee alone!). Even now, I still look pregnant, and this is due to weight gain and some mental issues. People need to be careful of the way they address other people, especially when it comes to mental and personal issues. Remain blessed, Neze♥
Thank you for always using your platform to enlighten people… I pray we all learn to listen, learn and show empathy.
Well said my able Barrister. People need to understand the emotional effects of these pregnancy comments. There are many women who have spent millions to have a baby without success. I'm happy that you have used this comment as an educational moment. Education is key.
😂😂😂😂 See me as I dey prepare to shout CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎉😅.We still thank God for blessing our wombs 🙏
Neze, the awesome & highly intelligent story teller! Kudos 👍🏾
God bless your soul lovely Neze, I just wish those narrow minded people would hear and listen to this message and make a change. Strong message !
People typing ‘congratulations’ in the comments didn’t y’ll watch the video to the end? Omo no matter how you educate some people barrister neze they’ll remain dense cos they keep running faster than the sense that’s chasing them! 🤦♀️
This is a masterclass and the message is also relevant to men too. Thanks for speaking with your usual clarity and lucidity
I totally agree Neze. Indeed you are very sensitive. People unfortunately lack decorum , etiquette, manners. Blessings always
Neze you are very correct.
I remembered 13 years ago after I had my twins, I added for almost two to 3 years my tommy was big as a lepa woman my tommy was big and at that time I will really working it .
But surprisingly, people still ask me to please do my work small small o because of my pregnancy😂.
Others will say.... Thank God another baby is on way when am not even pregnant. That's people for you, they talk before thinking.
I love your educative talks. Weldone
Thank you Neze for this enlightening video, my daughter will be 10 this December, we've been trying to conceive for a while now after I lost a her brother after giving birth prematurely at 27 weeks and another baby girl at 22 weeks pregnancy which few people knows about, the amount of, ahh do you want your child to be the only child, some people will even tell my child to ask me or her dad for siblings. It just crazy and sad.
She made a valid point to be honest, but guys, don't be carried away by her gorgeous smile. She knew Anything can happen, especially when you are least expected. Canada is really cold to hold the body. I swear.😄😄😄 Well done mama Peperenpe. One love from the UK
Brilliant video very teachable moment. So true, I’ve had a friend that lost a baby took her a very long time to loose the weight and folks were congratulating her. My dear Neze, you are beautiful and so brave for having this conversation.
Great message. Congratulations Neze 🎉❤
The way I shouted Ah when I saw thumbnail.😂😂.
Then burst out laughing when your poker face came on.
Congratulations 🎉
Neze Peperempe I just love you ma. You are such a positive vibe any day!❤
Thank you Neze for addressing this!! Very thoughtful of you
Your laughter got me on the floor 😂😂😂😂😂well said sweetheart
You're doing a great job 👏 instead of taking offense, you use it to educate them 🥂👏👏👏
We're waiting for a baby number 6 too oooo 😅😅😅
Neze dear. Just getting to know you. And I appreciate how you spell it out. God bless you, for educating and telling the plain and simple truth.
I have been on the TTC journey and conceiving my two kids was a miracle. But bc I have a big tummy due to PCOS and childbirth, I cannot count the number times people thought I was pregnant. I learnt to ignore them and their thoughts. But the truth is that it does take its toll. I was already insecure because I was overweight, and their perception did not help.
I’ve learnt to keep my peace and my happiness, and be grateful to God.
Thank you, Neze. You have taught a good lesson. I believe in boundaries. You nailed it.
You have spoken so well. People don't know what others are going through.
If they didn't tell you, don't ask. Except you are very close to them.
God bless you Neze for this education❤We all need to be careful and more sensitive.
Emotional intelligence is very important,read the room,it’s important you think before you talk
I don’t know why some persons just open their mouths to ask inappropriate questions
Even me sef wey get 2, if anyone suggests or ask me when I'll be having my next baby... I'd jokingly reply cheeky cos it's mine and hubby's decision and trust me you'd not dare ask me again. A whole four children is not enough??? When I saw NEZE's notification I said to myself (again kwa!) 😂😂
Thanks Neze darling for the approach you took. I am truly proud of you. Respects sis
You are very wise in the way you dealt with the statement. People need to educate, learn, or better still think before you open your mouth. Neze, thank you, very well said.
The funniest woman on earth
Congrats auntie. Uncle well done oo. Canadian citizen on d way. May u have healthy triplets
Neze, this is an excellent and on point video. People need to know their place and understand boundaries.
A person will tell you what she or he wants you to know, otherwise mind your business.
Thank you for saying it direct and straight. No sugarcoating! Some conversations are inappropriate and can be very offensive, we need to learn as women! Let's honor privacy!
Neze, honestly you are a genius! The way you treated this issue is just super. People don't mind their own business. Moreover, it's not our culture as a Nigerian, to be announcing pregnancy.
This is first time to say something on this space but I always watch and laugh, I think you just said my mind Neze, I have been married and i just have one child who is 10years and i we have been trying, done everything to get pregent again but not yet, and everyone around just keep saying what are you waiting for, ah your son is 10years already ooo but they don't even know what i go thru everyday, if not for husband who support me and encourage me when i cry secretly, they do not know how I feel, sometimes I know some of them mean well but they donot say it well, and sometimes they just laugh over it and think it is ok and I just look at them...
Is well with you
God is able. Would fulfil the yearnings of your heart
Neze, thank you for doing this. Thank you for standing in the gap for others. God bless you!
Years ago I fell into the trap of congratulations to a woman I didnt even know for her pregnancy. She broke down crying. I felt so bad. Only to find out that she had out of control fibroids and she didnt even have any kids. She couldn't conceive. To date I do not say anything about women's bellys, weight, suspected pregnancy, nothing. Unless I am told, I mind my business
Kudos for acknowledging & making amends.
Its appalling when adults who should have a progressive mind to learn & unlearn adamantly remain stuck in their ways.💕
@@NezePeperempe It truly is a shame, but platforms like this will educate and hopefully they will start to change their approach.🙏🏽
@@NezePeperempeam a victim of that. Lord have mercy.
Good one sisterly. We learn every day. God bless you.
Take care of yourself ❤️
In my dialect there’s an adage that says NOT EVERY THING THE EYES SEES THE MOUTH WILL TALK 🗣️
I was a victim of this later 2022 and early last year. People were just making comments that show that they think I'm pregnant, when I was struggling with fibroid. It really affected me. And esp because I'm actually looking for the fruit of the womb, but haven't gotten it yet. Took out the fibroid last year tho. Still expecting God's blessings. Thank you for this video. I'm one of your subscribers, but I've never commented. Just to let you know you're my best CZcamsr, when it comes to real life stories. I actually love your storytelling, plus I have learned a lot of legal matters from you. Keep up the good work Neze Nwa.
God bless you Neze, you just spoke the truth, women keep hurting other women this way, May we learn better and do better as we learn o❤❤❤❤.
Mrs Neze You are looking beautiful. Canada looks good on you.
Your laughter is so Beautiful and Infectious❤
Sincerely, when I watched that video, I thought so to myself too but I am not the type to be forward with things like that. Besides, towards the end of the video, she gave us a full view of herself at the park, at that point, I doubted what my initial thought. In all, do you! Forget people! They will talk regardless!
So many" What If",,, that some people don't give a thought on before uttering such words.. May God strengthen many passing through negative utterances from people..
I had my baby and shortly after lost my husband. Not only am I being asked when I am getting remarried, I am also asked when baby number 2 will come. One went as far as asking me what I am doing with my life.
So sorry about that. Be strong and do take care of you.
The way you’ve handled this just proves what a bright and joyous light you are! Happy woman like you?! May you not suffer and enjoy the fruits of your womb and may god keep you for very very long! ❤️❤️❤️
YES OOO MY DEAR AUNTY, YOU ARE RIGHT OOO. JUST LIKE AFTER MY TWINS, 3 CHILDREN ALTOGETHER, SO CALLED PEOPLE WILL NOT LET ME REST. UNSOLICITED ADVISERS EVERYWHERE, SILLY JOKES, ALWAYS WATCHING MY STOMACH. I HAD A NASTY GO AT MY BOSS RECENTLY AND HE STOPPED IT. GOD HELP US ALL
4 months afer my wedding, i was chatting with a woman i respected a lot and she said, please take care of the baby in your womb. I was taken aback because first, i was trying to conceive that period, second, i never told anyone i was pregnant. I tried to be polite and laughed it off by saying thank you but deep down, i was hurt. Fortunately, i got pregnant that same month. Imagine the pain i would have still been feeling if i still couldn't get pregnant after she said those words. Being sensitive to the feelings of others is extremely important. You don't know what they are going through, so don't make it worse for them.
Some people are talkative and busy bodies. Never mind their business. Thanks for your enlightenment. Remain blessed.
Hi Neze, thanks for sharing and enlightening us...much appreciated...❤❤❤❤❤🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
I love you Nneze. Your dexterity that I admire a lot gave birth to my CZcams channel. Thanks you are an inspiration
Channel name pls
@@SuezNuggets NatureSpeaksTv. Thank u
Thank you Neze for the enlightenment. Keep it up
Thank you so much. God bless you.
I wonder why some people aren’t diplomatic in their approach to things like this.
These issues are so sensitive yet people are so careless in their utterances. I hope they see this video and advise themselves
I was pregnant with multiple large intramural fibroids so my belle was big ooo. A week after putting to bed I went with the baby to the clinic for her 1st check up & because of the fibroids situation my tummy was still really big, a lady there asked how far along I was😅😬the awkwardness when I told her I wasn't pregnant!!!😂to be a woman!!!Lord have mercy chai!!!!!!