INFP + INTP = "Like being in a room with two Yodas of somewhat different flavors" - as someone with an INFP wife and INTP son, THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT IT'S LIKE! Great as always.
As an (E/I)NTP, I tend to see INFPs as, for want of a nicer way to put it, the only touchy-feely people I can communicate with or even stand to be around. They're healy-feely, crystal-worshipping new-age types, but they seem to do it in a weirdly logical way.
INFP here 🖐️, personally it's the Fi Ne Si fairness, objectivity, investigatory, exploration of it all. I need to take Everything into account. Everything because Ne. Everything is valuable because Fi and Si. (That's still shakey though bc I haven't delved as deep into the cogni funcs as I would like yet haha. Let's say I'm mid-leg deep into the mbti ocean haha.)
INFJs are exactly what you described. As an INTP, Fi and Demon Ti is hard to deal with. But tertiary Ti and Auxiliary Fe plus the Ni which makes them often have novel and unique ways of seeing themselves, a logical framework and strong desire for harmony and to make sure everyone is listened to. I don't think you're talking about INFP
INFP mom (50) who's always hoped her kids would grow up to be their own people; ESTP daughter (27) & ENFJ son (23) - among their many wonderful qualities, they're both their own people, I'm happy for them - I love them smmm ♥️♥️
@@lovewho cool 🫶🏼 I always think "Nailed It" when it comes to your INFP content - you actually see us which shocked me at first.. now I just enjoy being genuinely understood & ingeniously represented.. as well as my interactions with & perceptions of other types that seem to be aptly rendered & closely match here!! I'm sure everything will be brilliant & look forward to it!!!
You're the first I've heard admit how much INFPs and ISTJs have in common. Thank you. I'm an ISTJ, and my ESFJ sister has always said that her INFP daughter is just like me. And she is, though she also isn't.
When it comes to quadras (i.e. groups of 4 types that have the same functions in common e.g. INFP, ENFP, ISTJ and ESTJ) I tend to think that they can resemble each other, depending on the situation, quite easily at times. INFPs and ISTJs are both introverts with the same functions and many of the same preferences ~ Nathan
I have an istj friend and it's interesting to see the similarities between me and him, he certainly has strong principles and knows what he likes. I really like the description "of similar spinal fortitude".
Came here to say this too. I’m INFP married to ISTJ. I remember saying this to someone and all they could say is "ohh… that won’t last, you have so little in common" like hello? We have been together since high school, twenty years this year. That unmovable part you mentioned rings true. I feel like we’ve retreated to the same introvert hole all these years and that’s a big part of why it DOES work. And he definitely provides that external structure that gets me out of the inertia.
As an ISTP, I think this video sums up pretty well my seemingly lifelong attraction to and struggles with the INFP type. I had to learn how to maintain and enforce strong emotional boundaries with them precisely because we have so much amazing chemistry and mutual respect. We feel drawn to each other, but because we're both extremely individualistic, we can't really influence each other very much, and this can make compromise a sticking point and source of conflict. More often, I end up feeling as though I am doing all the compromise, while the INFP feels that I'm not doing enough. We're pretty much forced to set boundaries at the outset, and for unhealthy or immature INFPs, this completely undermines their desire to feel emotionally close. It's not called a "growth pairing" for nothing.
@@paigeheartly8936 same but I don’t know why lol. Most of my fictional crushes are estp and istp. With nfj’s it always seems like there is an ulterior motive like they are trying to pull something on your or prod you emotionally. I like how stps are straight forward etc
This is an eternal dilemma when both parties in a relationship are highly independent. In theory, a relationship is something in which both people need to compromise in order to make that relationship a more powerful entity. However, maybe that doesn't always need to be the case. After all, we become attracted or fall in love with the individual, not the individual who was already in a relationship. So in a sense, the compromise makes the person less themselves too ~ Nathan
Some of my best friends are INFPs and I love them! We can clash at times, but we always have an underlying respect for each other and can always talk it out. Y'all are so sweet, strong-willed, and authentic 💕 Love, ~ ENFJ
I'm an INFP with an ISTP sister. It's the funnest and most ridiculous relationship. I don't think we would have understood each other if we didn't grow up together. But she is the person that i have random road trips with and do irresponsible things with. We're both so free and independent together. I know not to expect a deep conversation from her and she knows that I'm a bit moody. It's the greatest though. Also, being in a relationship with INFJ male is perfect for me too. He is so harmonious while I tend to be a rebel. We both value the authenticity and closeness of the relationship but there's a little bit of spice because of our differences. This video is very accurate.
Maybe you can also do " how 16 personalities see INFPs" 😅 Edit: If this suggestion offended anyone as I read a comment that other people’s opinion are their own business. I apologise & I agree. Sorry for blurting out the first thought in my mind watching this. Should remind myself that this is the internet. I just got excited. Only love ❤️, hope everyone is doing okay and everyone is healing & growing according to their own pace.
In each of the videos of this series, there is a part that explains how type X sees INFPs. So far there are 5 other personality types and how they might see an INFP (in case you are interested).
I think the type overlap you describe with INFP / INTJ authors is because a lot of the time INTJs can be INFPs when they let their guard down eg crying over fictional characters more than people in real life. I think INTJs have a very sweet and vulnerable soft spot for sensitive things and maybe that's why there's ambiguity in what their actual type preference is.
Yeah what makes us similar is Fi. But i really had bad experience with infp. For me my Fi will never override Ni or Te. That is i will not let my emotions to stand in a way of achieving my vision For infps? They will do anything ( or not do) for their "feels"
I’ve actually got the pet theory that CS Lewis may actually be INFP. Yes, he wrote books with a lot of logic and philosophy but when we have a purpose and belief in what we are doing, INFPs can easily play that game too. Plus as an INFP (amateur) writer I’ve also been mistyped by people who only saw my writing online as an INTJ myself, because they’re seeing the edited and coherent final product and not the dose of weird and the inconsistent impulse to work that went into it, or the raging emotions that I caught and filtered out before putting it in writing for the world to see.
As an INFP with an ISFJ family member the ISFJ was spot on. I’d only add that there’s a weird way in which their dom Si can get under our skin sometimes. They NEVER forget about the physical reality we live in. They’re always reminding people about things that must be done (taking pills, watching out for cars on the highway, etc) and sometimes I find it quite overwhelming. 😂😭 Like yes, I know we sadly live in the physical world can you stop reminding me for five minutes?
Yep, my mom is an ISFJ and she’s always getting on me about stuff I need to do in the physical world. I know it needs to be done but does it have to be done RIGHT NOW? I’m in the middle of something! I do love her though and appreciate her looking out for me even though she doesn’t get me.
As an INFP with an ISFJ sister, I completely relate. Also, she's often valuing things through that Si-Fe thinking of "Is that socially acceptable/legal/appropriate?", whereas I'm just like "I really don't care if that's acceptable/legal/appropriate if it alings with my values and doesn't hurt anyone else."
@@linmonPIEol this exactly! Like the dishes won’t run away 👀😂 also, the fact that if you’re not physically doing something they assume that you’re not doing anything and immediately assign tasks. They’re very gentle about it but still, it feels like groundhog day sometimes haha. 🥲
@@Rambo454this is so true! I think that INFP and ISFJ values mostly don’t clash, we tend to keep to ourselves, but when they do it’s mostly related to that Fi Fe difference.
That's hilarious. It can indeed be annoying to be reminded of those things, and even more annoying that you know they're right to bring them up most of the time! ~ Nathan
ISFJ with INFP bestie here. I think we don't find them particularly "weird" but more like child-like, so our parenting alarms go crazy. I think we have pretty much a Frodo and Sam dynamic. But I must admit, my bestie's train of thought confuses me sometimes because she forms some thoughts in her head but when she says them out loud, even she can't make any sense of them. Maybe it's a matter of expression? But there was a tiny error in the video the moment he is referring on ISFJs. We are not protective with ALMOST everyone. We are protective with EVERYONE. 🤣🤣🤣
INFP here. for starters, well, you said it yourself, we're child-like, & being child-like when you're a grown-up, or just being close to being a grown-up, is what most in the world would see to be weird, to some types, even unthinkable. it's also no surprise that your friend's train of thought confuses you. we INFPs often confuse even ourselves, like thoughts just click into place at some random moment, yet half of the time, such thoughts would be so fragile that it's like trying to pick up tofu (the soft squishy types, not the hardened ones) with chopsticks when we try to express it. we poke at it & it just falls apart. personally, i see that to be one of the reasons why a huge number of INFPs tend to be writers. we just ain't half as good at expressing ourselves through spoken words, & writing allows us to solidify those thoughts before actually expressing them at least. if i were to tell you all that i've written here verbally, it wouldn't have come out half as fluid as i'd like it to be.
@@lovewho (that comment made me blush, thank you!) What can I say, we are admittedly the type that asks their mum to take a jacket with her, so she won't catch a cold, legit adults to call or text when they get home safely after we part and put others in the inner side of the sidewalk. Been there, done that.
As an INFP, I found many of the things in this video curiously accurate. Here are some of my personal experiences: My dad is an ISTJ and your description is spot on. Sometimes I can suprise him with a new perspective, which he hasn't thought of before and I occasionally get impressed by his ability to recall detailed information and experiences or implement very practical plans. My mom is an ENTJ, I her ability to focus on a single task or goal for hours on end is beyond me. On the other hand, she doesn't get how I manage to neglect chores or live in an unorganized environment. My best friend who I love beyond comprehension is an ENFJ. Although I cannot possibly understand how she manages to see good in every single person, I admire her ability to stay positive, yet also organized, energetic and active in social situations. My sister, who is an ISFJ, is literally as slow as me when it comes to everyday tasks, we both like to take our time and also need that occasional recharge of social battery. I sometimes when we're wathing series notice how she's got that Si-Fe vibe of "That's not acceptable/that's against the rules/that's against social expecations.", whereas I am just saying "I don't really care if it's societally whatever, as long as it aligns with my values". I also have an ISTP friend who literally told me once: "You should not make all your decisions based on emotion. Sometimes we gotta do things we don't like for the sake of it.", which is basically his whole mindset. We do like each other's company and honestly sometimes I whish to have some of his aloofness. We often relate to things like motivation (my desire for and his immense amount of) and a desire for an individualistic lifestyle. I also know an INTJ to whom I can relate to pretty well when it comes to Fi things like worldview, values etc., although once again, he's often the one to tell me to get my shit together through that Ni+Te energy. There are a million other experiences as well, but... EDIT: typo fixes.
Wow, my mother is also an ENTJ and my step-father ISTJ. I don't think I would have accomplished nearly so much without having a mother who had so many expectations. My best friend is also and ENFJ and I think without her, I would probably never leave the house!
I can't remember if I've done a video comparing those two types. Feel free to check that out if so. I I haven't then... well... I'll have to make one soon! ~ Nathan
I love you guys! Creative but NOT a total clod like I am. I sit there with ideas for music but no coordination whatsoever to actually play an instrument, or imagining being able to dance but looking like I’m having a standing seizure if I try it. 😂 I can kind of draw but it does NOT come naturally. Sometimes you guys take risks I wouldn’t but I SO appreciate you not being bullies or laying on the peer pressure about it. -INFP
It took a long time for me and my ESTP brother to learn to understand each other properly. I misinterpreted his sense of humor as bullying and disrespect while, in his mind, he was treating me the way he treats his closest friends. He always struggled to understand why I would cry so easily or why I would stay mad at him for days while I genuinely thought he hated me and, since I was pretty convinced he also had mind reading powers, there's no way he could see through me that thoroughly and not understand why I was upset. It was only after our narcissist sister finally revealed her true, unfiltered insanity that we both took a step back and reevaluated our opinions on everyone in our lives. My brother finally realized that my ongoing conflict with our sister was not just girls being girls, but genuine emotional abuse that made me ultra sensitive to every little slight or criticism that was directed at me and teasing me the way he did had had the opposite affect he'd been wanting. I also realized that I had taken too much negativity to heart over the years and saw every single moderate to low opinion of me as a challenge to do better or risk losing everyone I ever knew and loved, missing the important fact that not everyone is like my bullies, my sister, or my boss. My brother can be a butthead but he's always had my back when it really mattered. He kept trying to connect with me long after I'd given up due to my own insecurities. He's since learned to mellow out around me a bit so I know any jokes he makes are unintentionally malicious and I've gotten some therapy and a thicker skin so I can meet him somewhere in the middle. We talk a lot more now. I've actually come to seriously admire him not just because of the mind reading thing, but also because he is genuinely funny and can learn complex mechanics just by watching youtube videos. And he somehow thinks I'm the smart one just because I read a lot of books. Being able to read for long periods of time and overthinking everything doesn't make me smart. I wonder if this is why we both admire our younger brother (ISTP) so much since he's the perfect blend of both of us in one glorious stoic package.
Yes, that rough or tough love is something I've seen from ESTPs very often. Sometimes they can be oblivious to how some types of people don't respond well to that kind of thing, at least not for a long time ~ Nathan
The ENTJ part really resonated with me because I have a friend who seems to always be on top of everything (Te) and all of the sudden they are like "I don't really know what I want to do with this person" and that's such a weird thing to hear for an INFP. Like "what do you mean you don't know how you feel? It's the easiest part!". It really shows how we see things through our own lenses and what is natural to us might not be to others and vice versa. It's obvious but we often forget it.
Very well said. The divide between people's natural strengths and weaknesses can be shockingly abrupt at times, especially when it comes to types who seem like they have things figured out ~ Nathan
I’ve never really understood the clashes between ESTP’a and INFP’s. I do tend to really not get along with some of them, but my best friend growing up was an ESTP and the healthy ones are great. Although I guess at the end of the day it just depends more on the two people than type. We’re both in that F-S loop so we’re not on as different a wavelength as you’d think; Fi-Si and Se-Fe.I think a good example of a really good INFP-ESTP friendship is Luca and Lorenzo in Luca.
I’m an infp and I *think* my husband is an estp . We do clash at things and he does try and push me to do things though (simple things like going for a walk somewhere etc) but I always push back lol. It makes things have an intense flow sometimes but i rely on him a lot sometimes (basically he does whatever I don’t want to do) and he relies on me for different things as well. Anyways I could go on but it works for some reason lol.
Can't help you. All the experience I got with ESTPs where like ESTPs = Cocaïne. They never had an Healthy Lifestyle always too energetic too extraverted , risk prone , thrills seekers like the sun will not rise tomorrow. unecessary Punchy in conversation. Always want to be seen. Still waiting For the promised healthy version. INTJ 5w6
It's particularly enjoyable to me when people watching have already thought of similar lines to describe type relationships. Good to know we're on the same page! ~ Nathan
That's weirdly true. I'm an INFJ and when I played a guessing game with my INFP friend he almost directly got what I meant without me trying much. Usually people struggle with seeing how I see things even when I think I have made it overly simple for them, but he doesn't seem to struggle much regarding that, which I find very comforting for some reason. Another thing is that our skill sets overlap great though we go about the same things differently. for example, we both are fans of linguistics, but it's apparent how I see things as a part of a grand mainframe that connects everything together, while he is more inclined to understand concepts individually.
As an infp dating an istp this is exactly what is happening between us. One is overflowing with emotions and the other has it but doesn't practice it or know how to show. Yeah I can't really do those deep meaning conversations all the time but when I rarely do that he also surprises me with his point of view. Istp s are like an independent bulldozer that just goes straight up in their way not bothered by anything. We both kinda matured so we understand our differences and kinda fill in each others blind spot. I struggle to be practical and out of mind which he helps me with and pulls me out of my shell while I help him manage and understand his emotional sides and feeling side and help him sometimes sit down and see things in a different lense. So yeah we kinda helping each other grow , compromising , responsible yet irresponsible together and just wanna do life together as a beloved friend and partner.
@Lovewho I am an ISFJ. My husband is an INFP, and this is super accurate. I do see him as weird at times ❤😂 but his habitual nature and my organizational skills/strong memory balances us very well. We both love our time to recharge and share similar interest. I enjoy hearing his perspective on topics through a different lense, which are less grounded at times 😂😊
16:11 I think a really cool INFP-ISTP dynamic is Barry Allen (the flash) and Oliver Queen (the green arrow). They admire each other as heroes; Barry for Oliver’s badass stoicness and competence and Oliver for the inspiration and passion Barry brings. They short conversations once in a while but as you mentioned, are usually at a distance because of their differences.
Your clarifications remove so many questions. As an INFP I am sometimes drawn to ISTJs like a cat seeking comfort, nurture of ideas, and rest. However, I have to run if they turn their attention on me too strongly.
Me and entps tend to get along very well. Im on the more confident and social side of the infp spectrum(well developed functions) which I think contributes to my ability to get along with all different kinds of types. We tend to balance eachother out with the dosage of logic vs the dosage and feeling in ways we can both understand bc of shared Ne. They're also a lot of fun to fall in love with.
This is pretty accurate. I've always seen ENFPs as "INFPs out loud", but I like fast forward better. I also LOVED the ISTJ description. I never had the words for the kinship I felt XD And YAAS regarding ESTJ. My sister is one and she's amazing, but baffling. We're good for each other though -- and she's the only one who seems to completely understand me which is so weird given how polar opposite we are. Tbh she understands me better than I do her, which is not the norm for my relationships.
Always fearful of my istp daughter's safety even as a baby but never a dull moment with her and intrigued by my intp son's thinking of same thing but different perspectives
I used to be friends with an ISFP and I think our respective approaches to confrontation really showed our function differences. When I see a situation that bothers me, I don't jump into confronting the people involved or trying to change it, and instead mull it over and think of alternate points of view on the situation, to see if one of them might seem more pleasant to me. They, on the other hand, would always face it head on, jump into the action and say exactly what bothers them. In some ways I found them admirable, but also in some ways stupid. I'm sure they would've had a similar dichotomy about me, either seeing me as respectful or in a constant state of Copium. -INFP
Respectful vs copium is a hilarious way to characterise it. That really is how people will see it depending on their type. I like that description of mulling things over (Ne) vs jumping in (Se) too. Both approaches obviously have their benefits and drawbacks, but it's good for both types to be able to dip into the other one when the situation requires it ~ Nathan
Ok, I wrote a response to this comment and my internet connection died, so I'm giving it another go... My descriptions tend to fluctuate between being practical and straightforward or poetic and abstract. I'm often tentative about leaning into the latter, so it's really nice to hear that you enjoy them! ~ Nathan
My friend group is made up of an INFP, INTP, and me (an ENFJ). It's like having two caring people face palming every time I do something stupid and then conceding and joining me in silly land. Love those two
I can get on with any type but I have had the most negative experiences with ESFJ's, INFJ's and ENFJ's, I often feel they try to control me or try and get me to do things which I don't want to do, I feel the most misunderstood by them. I admire the ENTP/ENTJ the most their intuitive plus logical nature is my favourite and we tend to get each other the most. Depending on the INFP I also tend to get on with other INFP's the best. Openmindess, good boundaries and a loving nature.
That's interesting since those three types are all high Fe types. It makes sense that you'd feel like they're trying to control you in certain ways, especially in the social realm ~ Nathan
@@lovewho I would actually say interacting with those types in the social realm I don't feel forced at all. I'm quite stern when it comes to declining social interaction or social invitations if I don't want it. Also, I'm socially adaptable (can fake it to a certain degree). I'm either reserved and observant feeling quite comfortable or I can choose to assimilate depending on the situation/my mood. I can actually use my charisma quite easily if I feel the need to blend in. The way I feel forced by those types is in situations when they feel the need to try and help me, when I don't need help or think they know what's best for me/ try and take control of a situation. It's the 'my way is the best way, do it my way instead of yours' which I don't like. No matter how much I explain this to some ESFJ & ENFJ (I've known a few of each) they seem not to understand this point of view. Would be interesting to know why my individuality is challenging for them to comprehend at times. That's my biggest pet peeve. I have an ENFJ Mother and I love her dearly, so this no way hate to those types. Just something I've picked up on
This has been my exact experience with these aswell and is why I need to maintain distance in the end. We’re drawn to each other but the boundaries become confused and they were trying to manage me in ways I perceived as interfering, dishonest and covert. It became toxic and unhealthy
As an INFP have an ESFP mother and an ESFJ father, and they were just like the video suggests, this video gave me a realization of how ridiculously lucky I have been to have exactly them as my parents
That's a pretty epic duo for parents! I haven't deeply pondered this, but I imagine that kind of upbringing would unlock different sides of you that wouldn't be typical for most INFPs ~ Nathan
as a isfp , i think a lot of people get confused between infps and infps , however i think you can clearly differentiate isfp and infp just by talking with them , i used to think that infps are actually not shy and super introvert , they put on a act to gather attention hahahha i know it sounds funny but before i knew about mbti i used to think that about just infps , because i knew that other introvert pro max like intps and intjs are just bad at socializing and talking with people , but i saw infps as people like them , its just like they act shy to look cute and gather attention , but now i really am starting to like infps , because they are good at dealing with ghosting , like as a normal isfp i sometimes ghost people when i am unhealthy , other mbti just come to talk to me even if am ignoring them , like espcially isfjs like wtf , i left you on seen why are you messaging me againnnn , and also infj , they think i am not respecting them by ghosting so they try to manupulate the situation so that i talk to them , they are like super annoying , they dont manupulate for bad things also they are actually nice people so i cannot directly fight with infj cause i dont wanna fight good people , then again their manupulation tricks for small things like omgggg but infps is like normal they just keeps quite till i recover
Intj who loves spending time with my infp friend. Our conversations can go in many directions and always submerged with great depth and unending possibilities. Unlike spending time with most people my time spent in conversation with my infp friend energizes me and broadens my perspective.
I've been looking forward to this video! I think it's pretty funny the way you describe ESTJ and INFP relationship because of how accurate yet different it is to my experience with one. My dad is an ESTJ and you were spot on in the things we have in common. I think we both have a strong sense and understanding of what duty, responsibility, and passion for what we want is. But it presents itself in very different ways. My dad basically tries to answer the "hows" whilst I indulge in the "whys" I think is the best way to put it. Obviously there is overlap but they are still our respective strengths. Usually conflict arises when he does try to push me to be "quicker" in my way of achieving my goals... which is a big way to tick me of. BUT i appreciate its a fair criticism given my passivity when I need to be active. Also sometimes I dislike how he doesn't take the time to indulge in important questions and moments which, in my opinion, could help him, instead dismissing them.
My mom is an ESTJ and while sometimes we butt heads, sometimes we also just VIBE in a way I don’t always with my ENTJ dad. Have you found too that sometimes the ESTJ sense of humor can come out without warning and catch you off guard with how surprisingly wacky and Ne it can be? In describing my mom I’ve called it the equivalent of sticking her foot out in the aisle and tripping you when you aren’t looking. But with humor. 😂 She also sometimes makes jumps from topic to topic in conversation that throw my ENTJ dad for a loop but I get exactly how she got from point A to Point Ne. It’s not as blatant as the weird stuff I do but I think I bring out the goofy in her. 😂 -INFP (Note: She is an EXTREMELY well rounded and balanced ESTJ that seems to have all four of her functions honed and ready to go. Though I do think she needs a little creative hobby. 😂)
@@nerysghemor5781 loll I absolutely understand that. My dad is kinda known for being so extroverted, he can talk for hours on end and is quite entertaining with his humour. To be fair I always thought his humour was weird because it’s always based on how he grew up but it may just be an ESTJ thing.
It's a fun challenge to try to see types through the eyes of another type. I always assume that some of the specifics and details won't quite be right, but I always aim to get the broad strokes as close as possible ~ Nathan
You’re dead on about how I see the types. Ultimately I can can respect how every type thinks but some are more “you can stay over there and do your thing” and others are more “oh I like you. You can come sit by me”.
As an INFP I know ESTJ who has very strong beliefes, and watch how that ESTJ just can make everything work according to that principles are truly magical
I'm regularly blown away by their ability to get things done. It's such a simply thing, but it gives you a huge amount of momentum in life. Action often leads to more action! When they're acting from a place of principle that's even more beautiful ~ Nathan
Uhm, as an ISTJ, I have once an online INFP friend, a cousin INFP and a favorite British actor INFP (how any British actor is usually INFP??? 😂). I did interact with the online INFP friend in the past, just found out INFP cousin through test, and watch interviews of British INFP actors .... They strike/surprise/scare me with their Ne, like how the hell they always share/react many ideas in a day, at a time?? And the way the understand, synthesize ideas, stories, of course more fluid that i would find hard to catch up and fascinating. And through interaction with the 2 INFP - online friend and cousin, they said they're in LGBT+ terms - which is not a thing I expect, but well, understandable (kinda a common thing to INFP??). INFP are often nicknamed as "snowflakes", but they're not. They have Si Te and practice that and sometimes they're unwavering with their beliefs as well, as i hardly don't want to mess with 😅
Thanks for sharing ! And it's quite an interesting question about LGBT+ tendencies for INFPs. As an INFP, and bi-something myself, I wouldn't be surprised my typemates would be more often this way, given the "no-barrier" approach to life and the universe I figure we share. At least I guess INFPs would be more keen to live that way if they feel so. But I don't have a clue about it and it's just a conjecture. I'd be glad to learn about it.
Infp's are introverted but if you ask them about their beliefs they will show you their world and perhaps even motivate you with it, they like to inspire people's soul
My best friends are INTJ and INTP and you hit the nail right on the head, like, how did you do that?! Your description of INTJ is precisely what I admire about my INTJ friend!
This is so good! As an INFP, it also helps me figure out what types others in my life are. I can tell that so much work went into this. And there were moments of pure poetry as well. I teared up at a few of your descriptions. ❤
I appreciate this comment a lot. I'll avoid changing the habit of a lifetime and will shamelessly self-promote by blog too if you want to see more words of mine. You can find the link to that in the description of the video in the Linktree one! ~ Nathan
infp here......this validated and perfectly described why i have such a hard time at my current job (having to be enfj), why im really missing the intp who left there, why programming was my most comfortable job (its fairly easy for me to "intp"), and my connection to my brother and father who are both istp.
I imagine it's really difficult to sustain being in ENFJ mode without it getting unhealthy for yourself. That being said, it is excellent that you have the ability to adopt that approach when needed. I'm all in favour of being able to channel the various types when the situation demands it, but it is also important to position yourself somewhere that doesn't require you to act contrary to your own nature ~ Nathan
@@lovewho thanks for the support, nathan! totally agree....decided a little while back that i'll be looking for a new job this summer. fingers crossed for a good infp find. keep up the great work!
I just remembered...how about a video on types that are "siren songs" for each other? I have found that out in the wild, I start out well with ESFPs, and for a while, they get a kick out of my quirks and quips. It never lasts, but whoooo we have fun for a minute!
My younger brother is an ESTP and we are practically best friends. During family get together I am not the most social person and he’s always there to save me, because I end up hanging out with him haha. Definitely my anchor.
I can see why I was mistyped as an INFP after hearing the INFP and ISFP bit, had me questioning my mbti for a sec lol But that's mostly because I tend to go inward before outward. And I resonate with both decision making. I am comfortable with a result made from either facts and action, or emotions and values (Preferably both). But in most cases, the decision/action that works, works. -ISFP
It's always good to keep questioning your type. As you develop and mature it makes sense that you'd resonate with more types as well since you will have integrated things that used to be weaknesses! ~ Nathan
Spot on and very, very insightful analysis. As an INFP, mirrors my experiences of others exactly. You put words to my experiences and helped me understand myself better. Truly excellent video. Thank you.
Wow, the way you describe infp and infj is so true! My cousin who is my best friend is infp, she is more sure about who she is than me. She have some difficulties dealing with her parents cause she is determine in being single. I always listen to her and try to find ways to convince her parents that we can choose to live a life we want😂. As an infj, I hate conflicts and continually compromise in small things in daily life. But overall, we both feel comfortable to stay together and have deep conversation. So I think it’s ok that we will eventually go to different destination, the time we spent together is invaluable.
This is a great description. I particularly liked the part where you mentioned compromising on small things in daily life. That is certainly true of INFJs and can be a big issue they need to deal with. I'm not sure whether you've seen any of the other INFJ videos on this channel but if you do check them out definietly feel free to let me know what you think of them in the comments! ~ Nathan
I have a very close ENFP friend and this was dead accurate. Often I've come to the conclusion that both INFPs and ENFPs do a impressive amount of exploration in finding who they want to be, sometimes going around in circles and getting lost in the process. The difference being that INFPs do this wandering internally, in their own mind and in their safe spaces because that's how they're used to making decisions on pretty much everything. ENFPs do this externally, doing new things in new ways, new places and environments as that's what stimulates them and they believe you can't know if you don't experience. In reality, the INFP appears stagnant and unchanging, whilst the ENFP looks erratic and unfocused. INFPs are stuck in limbo and ENFPs are lost in the woods.
@@WhyCZcamsWhy That's just based on my experience, we're all bound to do things a little differently. Sorry to hear about that, I wish you all the best though. You make sure to take care of yourself 😊
Yup, you nail it. I can only talk for myself and for my perception of people I know to match certain types, but your words match my experience very well. However, as someone who gets INFP-typed about all the time, and identify myself well with it, I feel more like my super-sayen version would be ENFP (when I take my own life in hands) rather than ENFJ (which is more when I have to work in a mediative way with people. I feel like I'm quite good at it, so it is rewarding, but this is clearly NOT what I want to do/be/be dragged to do all the time, "gimme space and please fare well on your own, please".) Btw, I've always felt like I was a mix of my two parents, who happen to type as ENFP (mother) and ISFP (father). I obviously took a big bunch from each other, which oftentimes gets contradictory. I wonder if some fellow INFPs are in the same case, and how your own parental environment can impact yoir personnality type. (I would be immensely intersted on seeing mbti studies comparing children and parents)
Makes total sense to me. Entering ENFP mode would involve you shuffling your functions around only a bit. That means you'd be able to inhabit that way of being for longer periods if you ever wanted/needed to. ENFP and ISFP parents with an INFP child. That seems like an awesome blend since you'd be able to relate to both of them, and both of them to you in certain ways! ~ Nathan
INFP + INTJ = Imaginative Visionaries = World Builders. Yes. The use of Tolkien and Martin as ones building the world each wanted, whether or not others might like it, is an excellent example.
OH NO the part when you talked about INFP AND INTJ so gooooooood TT thank you for making me even more firmed into believing in creating my own world of fantasy ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I don't know if this is something any1 else would want to see. But I think it would be fun to hear your theories regarding how the different types changes their behaviour while being drunk, or high. Do the personalities stay the same just amplified, or do they perhaps start resembling totally different characteristics.
Huhuhu. I'd like to hear about it. I hope there are some scientific studies conducted about this somewhere, it must be fun to watch. As an INFP, I've been completely drunk only once, and it was all about documenting what was happening to my INTJ soulmate. She kept notes. I was very cute, according to her. My elocution was the thing who stayed intact the longest, even in the period of time who blacked out from my memory.
INFP 4w5 here; I haven't gotten drunk quite yet but when quite tipsy... I am apparently cracking all the jokes and sometimes getting sentimental, but mainly the jokes.. almost made my buddy pee his pants on three such occasions. I get extremely playful, too... the child to wander free and quite wild! It's a great time! Oh, and I am a Gemini as well.. I don't know if that has anything to do with it but I just find it interesting 🤔
I don't drink but everyone in my life does. So I have a lot of data to draw upon for this one. I could probably make an hour long video on the behaviour of each type when they're drunk in the back seat of a car (I'm the eternal designated driver) ~ Nathan
getting lost getting home not by choice is so accurate 😂😂I was in charge finding a restaurant n we ended up going around the entire mall n ending back at square one😂😂 was using Google map too n still failed.
The attraction is definitely understandable. It's nice to have some things in common and other things that cause a bit of tension or a spark. Those two types have that! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho totally! I feel like while growing up I was very detatched from ISFPs because I couldn’t quite relate to them. Now I find their artisty and lifestyle more intriguing as opposed to fellow INFPs art and thoughts that feel redoundant to me
"The bridge between authenticity and action" that's how I view an ESFPs! It's so accurate, I love that. I don't know if I've met ESFPs in rl but I love to observe them on movies or anime. For example: Shoyo Hinata in Haikyuu. There's something in ESFPs that I find inspiring; it's their optimism and confidence to do what they believe. You guys are so cool!
I definitely will make many more ISTP videos in the future. If you haven't seen the previous ISTP videos on the channel feel free to check those out in the meantime! ~ Nathan
My own personal notes: INTP: Very much like me, although they sometimes do weird stuff, with a logic that either seems stupid, or amazingly distant. Also, not goof with emotions. ISTJ:Practical. Organised. Hardworking. Not into emotions. Conventional. ESTP:Same as above, but wayy energetic and pushy (why must I come tooo😢) also more street smart. ESFJ:Fluffy paradise! (Except when he gets extroverted).
I'm ESTJ. I had an INFP on one of my boards. He would constantly be pulling me into new perspectives with "To be fair...." statements. I found it kind of funny that he had a template for me. I appreciated his input so much because, even if it didn't always change what I did, it would often make me more compassionate in how I executed my plan.
I will definitely do the ISFP episode of this series at some point! If you haven't watched the other ISFP videos on this channel feel free to check those out in the meantime ~ Nathan
ohhh man when you were talking about how INFPs could appear like ENFJ - that's literally what happened with me. there was a time where i felt like i had to take on a role as peacemaker in the family just to make sure the family didn't just collapse even though it wasn't natural to me at all. that was also around the time i got into mbti so that's why i typed as ENFJ when I was first reading through the cognitive functions. but i'm definitely, obviously not an ENFJ lol
Good video 🙂 Wish I could meet more people similar to my type in real life again.. I'm almost 50/50 on T/F but usually always get INTP I know it doesn't help being a hermit lol. I've thought about trying out apps for that again
Re: getting lost - INFP not having a say in the matter... As someone who uses feelings to find my way around anywhere, I feel attacked. Edit: I don't forget the way home, I just took a longer route than usual. :p
Thanks for the video. Some good obersavtions. Regarding the ENFP or in general, I dont think the first function "represses" the second. They rather work hand in hand while one generally leads. Repressed could rather be the 5th function when totally focused on the first function. And I rather see ENFP´s turned up with the dials to maximum exuberance (mentally speaking) than weirdness. Weirdness is what both bathe in indulgingly.
I normally hear Tolkien typed as INFP, so it was kind of funny for me to hear him called an INTJ in an INFP video. The point still stands though, since usually CS Lewis is typed as INTJ, and the two were close friends and writing buddies.
I remember when I first found out I was an ENFJ, and I asked my friends what their types were. After testing, most of them ended up being INFPs. LOL. We vibe quite well.
INFP here, thank you for your work as always! But boy, do I not agree with this whole INFP - ENTJ dynamic. Maybe it's just my personal experience, but I really don't see how these two types could work together in anything but convoluted theory. Literally nothing in common.
I personally think INFP - ESTJ work a lot better than ENTJs. Nonetheless, one of my close friends is an ENTJ and we get along very well. We're quite playful with each other, it feels like my Ne and his Se activate when we're together though underpinned by Fi/Te + Ne/Ni serious conversations about the future, our ideals and more. But then again my enneagram is 6w7 and his 8w7 so we have that common w7 which makes us approach life like an adventure and fun though his Ni and my e6 respectfully makes us quite cautious at first.
I'm an INFP atm (was INFJ for a long time but as I got older type changed) and my dad is ENTJ. Got him to take the test haha. My sister is and has been INFP too so the stuff I mention I think will have overlap with her. I love my dad to bits and know he loves me. We used to butt heads a LOT (my dad and sister too) but as we've both gotten older things have mellowed out and are much calmer. Healthier ENTJ learns how to relax and be a little silly sometimes in my observation. Both I and my sister have learned that when our dad pesters us to do something or is being controlling we don't always have to take it to heart so much. Humor helps de-escalate between us a lot. Our dad knows we do genuinely care about a lot of the same things he does--success tied to happiness, independence, hitting milestones--and we know that while our way of getting there might be different both in method and timing, our dad does want us to be okay and this is how he shows he loves us basically. We communicate with sincere attempts to understand and empathize with each other. I've gotten an understanding of what my dad values, what he worries about, how he expresses things differently. He doesn't always think about the emotional effect he'll have on others when he communicates or even is just going about his business, and sometimes that causes conflict for him. He knows he can trust me because even when he's been really difficult, I've had a lot of times I've taken him aside, let him know I get where he's coming from, and talked about how he can get the outcomes he wants with less conflict/more success. I think he's also been surprised to learn that if someone is treating him badly and he doesn't know how to navigate it, my sister and I are 5000% ready to kick ass to protect him. My sense is those things mean a lot to him. He's been protective of me at times I didn't always expect him to be, recognizes when I'm working hard to get something done this end, and has gotten a lot better at learning to be encouraging over the years. He also is good at expressing what he considers strengths of mine and my sister when he tries to urge us to take one path or another. While we might not always agree about using those qualities the same way he envisions, it's definitely appreciated that he sees strengths and lets us know about them + that he believes in us. Basically, imo ENTJ can have a good and honest heart but doesn't always express it in ways that are immediately obvious. Once communication is understood, mutual respect is established, and both are on the same team--it can be very sweet I think.
I think it's quite fascinating how they will do everything to succeed in the things they want to succeed in, the thing for me is that these are usually not the things I (infp) want to succeed in, and I also don't want to go through life in that way (highly organized and effecient)...so yeah listening to an ENTJ I might learn a thing or two but I doubt the lifestyle.
@@janedoe885 Thanks for sharing ! It's very interesting to see how this relation developed and worked. Writing this response, I pay attention to your name/nickname. Did you happen to make videos ? (If yes, I just wanted to say I loved them. If not, nevermind me. Nevermind me in any case.)
How do you do this?!! I don't know whether or not I buy into this system... It just seems a little simplistic. Still, I love watching your videos and I think your observations on real-life people, combined with your view of this framework are ingenious. Oh, and some of your comments are hilarious! I'm curious to see what this knack of yours will evolve into...!
You're right to be skeptical of it. Ultimately, people are too complex to be captured by any descriptions of these kinds. However, it is natural to want to classify people - it's useful too. Although all of us fluctuate fluidly between many ways of being in the world, typically one archetype will capture us best on average, even if it's just the broad strokes of us. So my advice is always to use such systems for as long as they're useful to you! ~ Nathan
INFP + INTP = "Like being in a room with two Yodas of somewhat different flavors" - as someone with an INFP wife and INTP son, THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT IT'S LIKE! Great as always.
I am infp and my son is intp….. so right on!
😂
surreal
someone get an app for this
As an (E/I)NTP, I tend to see INFPs as, for want of a nicer way to put it, the only touchy-feely people I can communicate with or even stand to be around. They're healy-feely, crystal-worshipping new-age types, but they seem to do it in a weirdly logical way.
xNTP
INFP here 🖐️, personally it's the Fi Ne Si fairness, objectivity, investigatory, exploration of it all. I need to take Everything into account. Everything because Ne. Everything is valuable because Fi and Si.
(That's still shakey though bc I haven't delved as deep into the cogni funcs as I would like yet haha. Let's say I'm mid-leg deep into the mbti ocean haha.)
INFJs are exactly what you described. As an INTP, Fi and Demon Ti is hard to deal with. But tertiary Ti and Auxiliary Fe plus the Ni which makes them often have novel and unique ways of seeing themselves, a logical framework and strong desire for harmony and to make sure everyone is listened to. I don't think you're talking about INFP
INFP mom (50) who's always hoped her kids would grow up to be their own people; ESTP daughter (27) & ENFJ son (23) - among their many wonderful qualities, they're both their own people, I'm happy for them - I love them smmm ♥️♥️
That's beautiful! I think you just gave me an insight into the parenting style of INFPs! You might have just inspired a video too ~ Nathan
Good news. Your comment inspired him so much that he made a video!
He uploaded it not long ago. Check it out.
@@lovewho cool 🫶🏼 I always think "Nailed It" when it comes to your INFP content - you actually see us which shocked me at first.. now I just enjoy being genuinely understood & ingeniously represented.. as well as my interactions with & perceptions of other types that seem to be aptly rendered & closely match here!! I'm sure everything will be brilliant & look forward to it!!!
Two Yodas of a different flavor 😂 Thank you for that, better compliment hardly exist
I'll be honest, that was a particularly fun line to say ~ Nathan
Timestamps, because I couldn't find any.
ESTP: 0:04
ENFJ: 1:36
ENTP: 3:18
ENTJ: 4:37
ISFP: 5:56
ESFP: 7:32
ENFP: 8:30
INFP: 9:41
ISTJ: 10:37
ESTJ: 12:09
INTP: 13:21
ESFJ: 14:38
INTJ: 15:37
ISTP: 16:43
ISFJ: 17:49
INFJ: 18:53
Thank you!!
@@cdko You're welcome :)
i needed this
You're the first I've heard admit how much INFPs and ISTJs have in common. Thank you. I'm an ISTJ, and my ESFJ sister has always said that her INFP daughter is just like me. And she is, though she also isn't.
When it comes to quadras (i.e. groups of 4 types that have the same functions in common e.g. INFP, ENFP, ISTJ and ESTJ) I tend to think that they can resemble each other, depending on the situation, quite easily at times. INFPs and ISTJs are both introverts with the same functions and many of the same preferences ~ Nathan
I have an istj friend and it's interesting to see the similarities between me and him, he certainly has strong principles and knows what he likes. I really like the description "of similar spinal fortitude".
Came here to say this too. I’m INFP married to ISTJ. I remember saying this to someone and all they could say is "ohh… that won’t last, you have so little in common" like hello? We have been together since high school, twenty years this year. That unmovable part you mentioned rings true. I feel like we’ve retreated to the same introvert hole all these years and that’s a big part of why it DOES work. And he definitely provides that external structure that gets me out of the inertia.
As an ISTP, I think this video sums up pretty well my seemingly lifelong attraction to and struggles with the INFP type. I had to learn how to maintain and enforce strong emotional boundaries with them precisely because we have so much amazing chemistry and mutual respect. We feel drawn to each other, but because we're both extremely individualistic, we can't really influence each other very much, and this can make compromise a sticking point and source of conflict. More often, I end up feeling as though I am doing all the compromise, while the INFP feels that I'm not doing enough. We're pretty much forced to set boundaries at the outset, and for unhealthy or immature INFPs, this completely undermines their desire to feel emotionally close. It's not called a "growth pairing" for nothing.
That makes a lot of sense!
My boyfriend is an ISTP ☺️ I’m more attracted to STP types than NFJs
@@paigeheartly8936 same but I don’t know why lol. Most of my fictional crushes are estp and istp. With nfj’s it always seems like there is an ulterior motive like they are trying to pull something on your or prod you emotionally. I like how stps are straight forward etc
This is an eternal dilemma when both parties in a relationship are highly independent. In theory, a relationship is something in which both people need to compromise in order to make that relationship a more powerful entity. However, maybe that doesn't always need to be the case. After all, we become attracted or fall in love with the individual, not the individual who was already in a relationship. So in a sense, the compromise makes the person less themselves too ~ Nathan
@@paigeheartly8936 I find that too! Well not ESTP though lol. It's more like NT or SF and maybe ISTP in my case.
Some of my best friends are INFPs and I love them! We can clash at times, but we always have an underlying respect for each other and can always talk it out. Y'all are so sweet, strong-willed, and authentic 💕
Love,
~ ENFJ
I think I could have guessed this was from an ENFJ even if you hadn't signed off as one ~ Nathan
I'm an INFP with an ISTP sister. It's the funnest and most ridiculous relationship. I don't think we would have understood each other if we didn't grow up together. But she is the person that i have random road trips with and do irresponsible things with. We're both so free and independent together. I know not to expect a deep conversation from her and she knows that I'm a bit moody. It's the greatest though. Also, being in a relationship with INFJ male is perfect for me too. He is so harmonious while I tend to be a rebel. We both value the authenticity and closeness of the relationship but there's a little bit of spice because of our differences. This video is very accurate.
One should always have people to do irresponsible things with ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Thank you for validating my irresponsibility. That's what I needed today.😈
Maybe you can also do " how 16 personalities see INFPs" 😅
Edit:
If this suggestion offended anyone as I read a comment that other people’s opinion are their own business. I apologise & I agree. Sorry for blurting out the first thought in my mind watching this. Should remind myself that this is the internet. I just got excited.
Only love ❤️, hope everyone is doing okay and everyone is healing & growing according to their own pace.
In each of the videos of this series, there is a part that explains how type X sees INFPs. So far there are 5 other personality types and how they might see an INFP (in case you are interested).
Waiting for all the roasts i feel like no one has a good thing to say about us, just my opinion
"I did not know they exists . Are they ghosts ?" - all to INFPs
That would calm down my insecurities 😅
@@pastelpink1234
We're seen as unrealistic quixotic Pu$$l€$ of no worth.
I think the type overlap you describe with INFP / INTJ authors is because a lot of the time INTJs can be INFPs when they let their guard down eg crying over fictional characters more than people in real life. I think INTJs have a very sweet and vulnerable soft spot for sensitive things and maybe that's why there's ambiguity in what their actual type preference is.
That makes a lot of sense to me. I can see both types getting more attached to fictional characters than flesh world people ~ Nathan
Yeah what makes us similar is Fi. But i really had bad experience with infp. For me my Fi will never override Ni or Te. That is i will not let my emotions to stand in a way of achieving my vision
For infps? They will do anything ( or not do) for their "feels"
@@maxb5640 Because your vision already integrate your Value. So there is no need To override anything.
I’ve actually got the pet theory that CS Lewis may actually be INFP. Yes, he wrote books with a lot of logic and philosophy but when we have a purpose and belief in what we are doing, INFPs can easily play that game too. Plus as an INFP (amateur) writer I’ve also been mistyped by people who only saw my writing online as an INTJ myself, because they’re seeing the edited and coherent final product and not the dose of weird and the inconsistent impulse to work that went into it, or the raging emotions that I caught and filtered out before putting it in writing for the world to see.
As an INFP with an ISFJ family member the ISFJ was spot on. I’d only add that there’s a weird way in which their dom Si can get under our skin sometimes. They NEVER forget about the physical reality we live in. They’re always reminding people about things that must be done (taking pills, watching out for cars on the highway, etc) and sometimes I find it quite overwhelming. 😂😭 Like yes, I know we sadly live in the physical world can you stop reminding me for five minutes?
Yep, my mom is an ISFJ and she’s always getting on me about stuff I need to do in the physical world. I know it needs to be done but does it have to be done RIGHT NOW? I’m in the middle of something! I do love her though and appreciate her looking out for me even though she doesn’t get me.
As an INFP with an ISFJ sister, I completely relate. Also, she's often valuing things through that Si-Fe thinking of "Is that socially acceptable/legal/appropriate?", whereas I'm just like "I really don't care if that's acceptable/legal/appropriate if it alings with my values and doesn't hurt anyone else."
@@linmonPIEol this exactly! Like the dishes won’t run away 👀😂 also, the fact that if you’re not physically doing something they assume that you’re not doing anything and immediately assign tasks. They’re very gentle about it but still, it feels like groundhog day sometimes haha. 🥲
@@Rambo454this is so true! I think that INFP and ISFJ values mostly don’t clash, we tend to keep to ourselves, but when they do it’s mostly related to that Fi Fe difference.
That's hilarious. It can indeed be annoying to be reminded of those things, and even more annoying that you know they're right to bring them up most of the time! ~ Nathan
ISFJ with INFP bestie here. I think we don't find them particularly "weird" but more like child-like, so our parenting alarms go crazy. I think we have pretty much a Frodo and Sam dynamic. But I must admit, my bestie's train of thought confuses me sometimes because she forms some thoughts in her head but when she says them out loud, even she can't make any sense of them. Maybe it's a matter of expression?
But there was a tiny error in the video the moment he is referring on ISFJs. We are not protective with ALMOST everyone. We are protective with EVERYONE. 🤣🤣🤣
INFP here. for starters, well, you said it yourself, we're child-like, & being child-like when you're a grown-up, or just being close to being a grown-up, is what most in the world would see to be weird, to some types, even unthinkable. it's also no surprise that your friend's train of thought confuses you. we INFPs often confuse even ourselves, like thoughts just click into place at some random moment, yet half of the time, such thoughts would be so fragile that it's like trying to pick up tofu (the soft squishy types, not the hardened ones) with chopsticks when we try to express it. we poke at it & it just falls apart. personally, i see that to be one of the reasons why a huge number of INFPs tend to be writers. we just ain't half as good at expressing ourselves through spoken words, & writing allows us to solidify those thoughts before actually expressing them at least. if i were to tell you all that i've written here verbally, it wouldn't have come out half as fluid as i'd like it to be.
Totally agreed
"So our parenting alarms go crazy", that's amazing! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho (that comment made me blush, thank you!)
What can I say, we are admittedly the type that asks their mum to take a jacket with her, so she won't catch a cold, legit adults to call or text when they get home safely after we part and put others in the inner side of the sidewalk. Been there, done that.
The best part of this video was hearing the term “the flesh world.”
That is indeed how I refer to it ~ Nathan
As an INFP, I found many of the things in this video curiously accurate. Here are some of my personal experiences:
My dad is an ISTJ and your description is spot on. Sometimes I can suprise him with a new perspective, which he hasn't thought of before and I occasionally get impressed by his ability to recall detailed information and experiences or implement very practical plans.
My mom is an ENTJ, I her ability to focus on a single task or goal for hours on end is beyond me. On the other hand, she doesn't get how I manage to neglect chores or live in an unorganized environment.
My best friend who I love beyond comprehension is an ENFJ. Although I cannot possibly understand how she manages to see good in every single person, I admire her ability to stay positive, yet also organized, energetic and active in social situations.
My sister, who is an ISFJ, is literally as slow as me when it comes to everyday tasks, we both like to take our time and also need that occasional recharge of social battery. I sometimes when we're wathing series notice how she's got that Si-Fe vibe of "That's not acceptable/that's against the rules/that's against social expecations.", whereas I am just saying "I don't really care if it's societally whatever, as long as it aligns with my values".
I also have an ISTP friend who literally told me once: "You should not make all your decisions based on emotion. Sometimes we gotta do things we don't like for the sake of it.", which is basically his whole mindset. We do like each other's company and honestly sometimes I whish to have some of his aloofness. We often relate to things like motivation (my desire for and his immense amount of) and a desire for an individualistic lifestyle.
I also know an INTJ to whom I can relate to pretty well when it comes to Fi things like worldview, values etc., although once again, he's often the one to tell me to get my shit together through that Ni+Te energy.
There are a million other experiences as well, but...
EDIT: typo fixes.
I love reading people's real life experiences interacting with the types. Awesome examples! ~ Nathan
Wow, my mother is also an ENTJ and my step-father ISTJ. I don't think I would have accomplished nearly so much without having a mother who had so many expectations. My best friend is also and ENFJ and I think without her, I would probably never leave the house!
I absolutely love this. So much of this resonates with me. After hearing the INFP-ISFP dynamics, I’m at peace with knowing I’m an ISFP. ❤
I can't remember if I've done a video comparing those two types. Feel free to check that out if so. I I haven't then... well... I'll have to make one soon! ~ Nathan
I love you guys! Creative but NOT a total clod like I am. I sit there with ideas for music but no coordination whatsoever to actually play an instrument, or imagining being able to dance but looking like I’m having a standing seizure if I try it. 😂 I can kind of draw but it does NOT come naturally. Sometimes you guys take risks I wouldn’t but I SO appreciate you not being bullies or laying on the peer pressure about it. -INFP
It took a long time for me and my ESTP brother to learn to understand each other properly. I misinterpreted his sense of humor as bullying and disrespect while, in his mind, he was treating me the way he treats his closest friends. He always struggled to understand why I would cry so easily or why I would stay mad at him for days while I genuinely thought he hated me and, since I was pretty convinced he also had mind reading powers, there's no way he could see through me that thoroughly and not understand why I was upset. It was only after our narcissist sister finally revealed her true, unfiltered insanity that we both took a step back and reevaluated our opinions on everyone in our lives. My brother finally realized that my ongoing conflict with our sister was not just girls being girls, but genuine emotional abuse that made me ultra sensitive to every little slight or criticism that was directed at me and teasing me the way he did had had the opposite affect he'd been wanting. I also realized that I had taken too much negativity to heart over the years and saw every single moderate to low opinion of me as a challenge to do better or risk losing everyone I ever knew and loved, missing the important fact that not everyone is like my bullies, my sister, or my boss. My brother can be a butthead but he's always had my back when it really mattered. He kept trying to connect with me long after I'd given up due to my own insecurities. He's since learned to mellow out around me a bit so I know any jokes he makes are unintentionally malicious and I've gotten some therapy and a thicker skin so I can meet him somewhere in the middle. We talk a lot more now. I've actually come to seriously admire him not just because of the mind reading thing, but also because he is genuinely funny and can learn complex mechanics just by watching youtube videos. And he somehow thinks I'm the smart one just because I read a lot of books. Being able to read for long periods of time and overthinking everything doesn't make me smart. I wonder if this is why we both admire our younger brother (ISTP) so much since he's the perfect blend of both of us in one glorious stoic package.
Yes, that rough or tough love is something I've seen from ESTPs very often. Sometimes they can be oblivious to how some types of people don't respond well to that kind of thing, at least not for a long time ~ Nathan
The ENTJ part really resonated with me because I have a friend who seems to always be on top of everything (Te) and all of the sudden they are like "I don't really know what I want to do with this person" and that's such a weird thing to hear for an INFP. Like "what do you mean you don't know how you feel? It's the easiest part!".
It really shows how we see things through our own lenses and what is natural to us might not be to others and vice versa. It's obvious but we often forget it.
Very well said. The divide between people's natural strengths and weaknesses can be shockingly abrupt at times, especially when it comes to types who seem like they have things figured out ~ Nathan
Yup I’m that ENTJ! So much empire but not entirely sure why I’m building it 🤔
I’ve never really understood the clashes between ESTP’a and INFP’s. I do tend to really not get along with some of them, but my best friend growing up was an ESTP and the healthy ones are great. Although I guess at the end of the day it just depends more on the two people than type. We’re both in that F-S loop so we’re not on as different a wavelength as you’d think; Fi-Si and Se-Fe.I think a good example of a really good INFP-ESTP friendship is Luca and Lorenzo in Luca.
I’m an infp and I *think* my husband is an estp . We do clash at things and he does try and push me to do things though (simple things like going for a walk somewhere etc) but I always push back lol. It makes things have an intense flow sometimes but i rely on him a lot sometimes (basically he does whatever I don’t want to do) and he relies on me for different things as well.
Anyways I could go on but it works for some reason lol.
It goes to show that if the types involved are mature, any of them can get along great! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho true!
Can't help you. All the experience I got with ESTPs where like ESTPs = Cocaïne.
They never had an Healthy Lifestyle always too energetic too extraverted , risk
prone , thrills seekers like the sun will not rise tomorrow.
unecessary Punchy in conversation. Always want to be seen. Still waiting
For the promised healthy version.
INTJ 5w6
I (an INFP) totally think of INFJs as using different means towards a similar end so this was wild haha
It's particularly enjoyable to me when people watching have already thought of similar lines to describe type relationships. Good to know we're on the same page! ~ Nathan
That's weirdly true.
I'm an INFJ and when I played a guessing game with my INFP friend he almost directly got what I meant without me trying much. Usually people struggle with seeing how I see things even when I think I have made it overly simple for them, but he doesn't seem to struggle much regarding that, which I find very comforting for some reason.
Another thing is that our skill sets overlap great though we go about the same things differently. for example, we both are fans of linguistics, but it's apparent how I see things as a part of a grand mainframe that connects everything together, while he is more inclined to understand concepts individually.
As an infp dating an istp this is exactly what is happening between us. One is overflowing with emotions and the other has it but doesn't practice it or know how to show. Yeah I can't really do those deep meaning conversations all the time but when I rarely do that he also surprises me with his point of view. Istp s are like an independent bulldozer that just goes straight up in their way not bothered by anything. We both kinda matured so we understand our differences and kinda fill in each others blind spot. I struggle to be practical and out of mind which he helps me with and pulls me out of my shell while I help him manage and understand his emotional sides and feeling side and help him sometimes sit down and see things in a different lense.
So yeah we kinda helping each other grow , compromising , responsible yet irresponsible together and just wanna do life together as a beloved friend and partner.
@Lovewho I am an ISFJ. My husband is an INFP, and this is super accurate. I do see him as weird at times ❤😂 but his habitual nature and my organizational skills/strong memory balances us very well. We both love our time to recharge and share similar interest. I enjoy hearing his perspective on topics through a different lense, which are less grounded at times 😂😊
MBTI Bible VersUs below :
ESTP 0:47
ENFJ 1:36
ENTP 3:18 (MEHH)
ENTJ 4:37
ISFP 5:56
ESFP 7:31
ENFP 8:31
INFP 9:42
ISTJ 10:37
ESTJ 12:08
INTP 13:21
ESFJ 14:38
INTJ 15:38
ISTP 16:44
ISFJ 17:50
INFJ 18:53
VersUs thank you
hey, the INTP should be at 13:20
16:11 I think a really cool INFP-ISTP dynamic is Barry Allen (the flash) and Oliver Queen (the green arrow). They admire each other as heroes; Barry for Oliver’s badass stoicness and competence and Oliver for the inspiration and passion Barry brings. They short conversations once in a while but as you mentioned, are usually at a distance because of their differences.
It's also quite comical that it's the INFP in this case whose superpower is speed! ~ Nathan
Your clarifications remove so many questions. As an INFP I am sometimes drawn to ISTJs like a cat seeking comfort, nurture of ideas, and rest. However, I have to run if they turn their attention on me too strongly.
Me and entps tend to get along very well. Im on the more confident and social side of the infp spectrum(well developed functions) which I think contributes to my ability to get along with all different kinds of types. We tend to balance eachother out with the dosage of logic vs the dosage and feeling in ways we can both understand bc of shared Ne. They're also a lot of fun to fall in love with.
Me too. I get on best with ENTP's or INTP's
This is pretty accurate.
I've always seen ENFPs as "INFPs out loud", but I like fast forward better.
I also LOVED the ISTJ description. I never had the words for the kinship I felt XD
And YAAS regarding ESTJ. My sister is one and she's amazing, but baffling. We're good for each other though -- and she's the only one who seems to completely understand me which is so weird given how polar opposite we are. Tbh she understands me better than I do her, which is not the norm for my relationships.
As an INFP I must say that I don’t dislike any of the types they all have something good to offer the world UwU❤
Always fearful of my istp daughter's safety even as a baby but never a dull moment with her and intrigued by my intp son's thinking of same thing but different perspectives
I used to be friends with an ISFP and I think our respective approaches to confrontation really showed our function differences. When I see a situation that bothers me, I don't jump into confronting the people involved or trying to change it, and instead mull it over and think of alternate points of view on the situation, to see if one of them might seem more pleasant to me. They, on the other hand, would always face it head on, jump into the action and say exactly what bothers them. In some ways I found them admirable, but also in some ways stupid. I'm sure they would've had a similar dichotomy about me, either seeing me as respectful or in a constant state of Copium.
-INFP
Respectful vs copium is a hilarious way to characterise it. That really is how people will see it depending on their type. I like that description of mulling things over (Ne) vs jumping in (Se) too. Both approaches obviously have their benefits and drawbacks, but it's good for both types to be able to dip into the other one when the situation requires it ~ Nathan
''The wise old oak tree whose shade they can sit and read a book in.''
Elegant metaphors like this is one of the reasons I watch your channel.
Ok, I wrote a response to this comment and my internet connection died, so I'm giving it another go...
My descriptions tend to fluctuate between being practical and straightforward or poetic and abstract. I'm often tentative about leaning into the latter, so it's really nice to hear that you enjoy them! ~ Nathan
@@lovewhoRest assured, my INFJness savors them.
13:21 “Two Yodas” 😂 love this. You guys are adult yoda we’re baby yoda.
My friend group is made up of an INFP, INTP, and me (an ENFJ). It's like having two caring people face palming every time I do something stupid and then conceding and joining me in silly land. Love those two
@@gabri_cheesellamasneeze9006 lol sounds fun
one of my favorite coworkers was intp, and i had a pair of yodas in my mind before he even said it. 🤣🥰
Once me and an INTP friend went to a Halloween party and I’m not even kidding that we both went as Yoda without planning it 🤣🤣🤣
I should have used the adult / baby Yoda example in the video! ~ Nathan
I can get on with any type but I have had the most negative experiences with ESFJ's, INFJ's and ENFJ's, I often feel they try to control me or try and get me to do things which I don't want to do, I feel the most misunderstood by them. I admire the ENTP/ENTJ the most their intuitive plus logical nature is my favourite and we tend to get each other the most. Depending on the INFP I also tend to get on with other INFP's the best. Openmindess, good boundaries and a loving nature.
That's interesting since those three types are all high Fe types. It makes sense that you'd feel like they're trying to control you in certain ways, especially in the social realm ~ Nathan
@@lovewho I would actually say interacting with those types in the social realm I don't feel forced at all. I'm quite stern when it comes to declining social interaction or social invitations if I don't want it. Also, I'm socially adaptable (can fake it to a certain degree). I'm either reserved and observant feeling quite comfortable or I can choose to assimilate depending on the situation/my mood. I can actually use my charisma quite easily if I feel the need to blend in. The way I feel forced by those types is in situations when they feel the need to try and help me, when I don't need help or think they know what's best for me/ try and take control of a situation. It's the 'my way is the best way, do it my way instead of yours' which I don't like. No matter how much I explain this to some ESFJ & ENFJ (I've known a few of each) they seem not to understand this point of view. Would be interesting to know why my individuality is challenging for them to comprehend at times. That's my biggest pet peeve. I have an ENFJ Mother and I love her dearly, so this no way hate to those types. Just something I've picked up on
This has been my exact experience with these aswell and is why I need to maintain distance in the end. We’re drawn to each other but the boundaries become confused and they were trying to manage me in ways I perceived as interfering, dishonest and covert. It became toxic and unhealthy
Entps ftw aswell. Love em!! Ne is life food 🤤
My sister is an INFP and I always tease her about it to lol I'm an INTP btw... We usually play Fortnite or watch personality tests on CZcams 😂
As an INFP have an ESFP mother and an ESFJ father, and they were just like the video suggests, this video gave me a realization of how ridiculously lucky I have been to have exactly them as my parents
Seriously, you got like, the best combo for parents!
That's a pretty epic duo for parents! I haven't deeply pondered this, but I imagine that kind of upbringing would unlock different sides of you that wouldn't be typical for most INFPs ~ Nathan
as a isfp , i think a lot of people get confused between infps and infps , however i think you can clearly differentiate isfp and infp just by talking with them , i used to think that infps are actually not shy and super introvert , they put on a act to gather attention hahahha
i know it sounds funny but before i knew about mbti i used to think that about just infps , because i knew that other introvert pro max like intps and intjs are just bad at socializing and talking with people , but i saw infps as people like them , its just like they act shy to look cute and gather attention ,
but now i really am starting to like infps , because they are good at dealing with ghosting , like as a normal isfp i sometimes ghost people when i am unhealthy , other mbti just come to talk to me even if am ignoring them , like espcially isfjs like wtf , i left you on seen why are you messaging me againnnn , and also infj , they think i am not respecting them by ghosting so they try to manupulate the situation so that i talk to them , they are like super annoying , they dont manupulate for bad things also they are actually nice people so i cannot directly fight with infj cause i dont wanna fight good people , then again their manupulation tricks for small things like omgggg
but infps is like normal they just keeps quite till i recover
I used my fingers today to say: "Nathan, you are a poet and a shining star! This was very beautifully put together.
Thank you for this video! 💕"
I greatly appreciate the use of your fingers ~ Nathan
Intj who loves spending time with my infp friend. Our conversations can go in many directions and always submerged with great depth and unending possibilities. Unlike spending time with most people my time spent in conversation with my infp friend energizes me and broadens my perspective.
I've been looking forward to this video!
I think it's pretty funny the way you describe ESTJ and INFP relationship because of how accurate yet different it is to my experience with one. My dad is an ESTJ and you were spot on in the things we have in common. I think we both have a strong sense and understanding of what duty, responsibility, and passion for what we want is. But it presents itself in very different ways. My dad basically tries to answer the "hows" whilst I indulge in the "whys" I think is the best way to put it. Obviously there is overlap but they are still our respective strengths.
Usually conflict arises when he does try to push me to be "quicker" in my way of achieving my goals... which is a big way to tick me of. BUT i appreciate its a fair criticism given my passivity when I need to be active. Also sometimes I dislike how he doesn't take the time to indulge in important questions and moments which, in my opinion, could help him, instead dismissing them.
My mom is an ESTJ and while sometimes we butt heads, sometimes we also just VIBE in a way I don’t always with my ENTJ dad. Have you found too that sometimes the ESTJ sense of humor can come out without warning and catch you off guard with how surprisingly wacky and Ne it can be? In describing my mom I’ve called it the equivalent of sticking her foot out in the aisle and tripping you when you aren’t looking. But with humor. 😂 She also sometimes makes jumps from topic to topic in conversation that throw my ENTJ dad for a loop but I get exactly how she got from point A to Point Ne. It’s not as blatant as the weird stuff I do but I think I bring out the goofy in her. 😂 -INFP
(Note: She is an EXTREMELY well rounded and balanced ESTJ that seems to have all four of her functions honed and ready to go. Though I do think she needs a little creative hobby. 😂)
@@nerysghemor5781 loll I absolutely understand that. My dad is kinda known for being so extroverted, he can talk for hours on end and is quite entertaining with his humour. To be fair I always thought his humour was weird because it’s always based on how he grew up but it may just be an ESTJ thing.
INFP here...your insight is amazing!! I thought..there's no way another type will accurately guess how I see each type, but each one was spot on!
It's a fun challenge to try to see types through the eyes of another type. I always assume that some of the specifics and details won't quite be right, but I always aim to get the broad strokes as close as possible ~ Nathan
I love this. Me, an INFP, with my INTP husband, being wise Yodas together and people-watching. It’s true!
You’re dead on about how I see the types. Ultimately I can can respect how every type thinks but some are more “you can stay over there and do your thing” and others are more “oh I like you. You can come sit by me”.
Indeed.Every type's approach should be respected but in some cases, at a distance ~ Nathan
As an INFP I know ESTJ who has very strong beliefes, and watch how that ESTJ just can make everything work according to that principles are truly magical
I'm regularly blown away by their ability to get things done. It's such a simply thing, but it gives you a huge amount of momentum in life. Action often leads to more action! When they're acting from a place of principle that's even more beautiful ~ Nathan
Uhm, as an ISTJ, I have once an online INFP friend, a cousin INFP and a favorite British actor INFP (how any British actor is usually INFP??? 😂). I did interact with the online INFP friend in the past, just found out INFP cousin through test, and watch interviews of British INFP actors .... They strike/surprise/scare me with their Ne, like how the hell they always share/react many ideas in a day, at a time?? And the way the understand, synthesize ideas, stories, of course more fluid that i would find hard to catch up and fascinating. And through interaction with the 2 INFP - online friend and cousin, they said they're in LGBT+ terms - which is not a thing I expect, but well, understandable (kinda a common thing to INFP??).
INFP are often nicknamed as "snowflakes", but they're not. They have Si Te and practice that and sometimes they're unwavering with their beliefs as well, as i hardly don't want to mess with 😅
Thanks for sharing !
And it's quite an interesting question about LGBT+ tendencies for INFPs. As an INFP, and bi-something myself, I wouldn't be surprised my typemates would be more often this way, given the "no-barrier" approach to life and the universe I figure we share. At least I guess INFPs would be more keen to live that way if they feel so.
But I don't have a clue about it and it's just a conjecture. I'd be glad to learn about it.
Infp's are introverted but if you ask them about their beliefs they will show you their world and perhaps even motivate you with it, they like to inspire people's soul
Awesome hearing an ISTJ's take on INFPs. Thank you for this comment! ~ Nathan
My best friends are INTJ and INTP and you hit the nail right on the head, like, how did you do that?! Your description of INTJ is precisely what I admire about my INTJ friend!
What is your type?
@@saranonimus9211 INFP (Which is the point, this video is about INFP seeing 16 types)
It really is so cool to hear from people that the descriptions have some accuracy to them! ~ Nathan
I love this series, can't wait to see all 16 personality types.
Eventually I'll get through every type for this series! ~ Nathan
This is so good! As an INFP, it also helps me figure out what types others in my life are. I can tell that so much work went into this. And there were moments of pure poetry as well. I teared up at a few of your descriptions. ❤
I appreciate this comment a lot. I'll avoid changing the habit of a lifetime and will shamelessly self-promote by blog too if you want to see more words of mine. You can find the link to that in the description of the video in the Linktree one! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho more words of yours? Yessss! Checking out the link now!
infp here......this validated and perfectly described why i have such a hard time at my current job (having to be enfj), why im really missing the intp who left there, why programming was my most comfortable job (its fairly easy for me to "intp"), and my connection to my brother and father who are both istp.
I imagine it's really difficult to sustain being in ENFJ mode without it getting unhealthy for yourself. That being said, it is excellent that you have the ability to adopt that approach when needed. I'm all in favour of being able to channel the various types when the situation demands it, but it is also important to position yourself somewhere that doesn't require you to act contrary to your own nature ~ Nathan
@@lovewho thanks for the support, nathan! totally agree....decided a little while back that i'll be looking for a new job this summer. fingers crossed for a good infp find. keep up the great work!
My kids are an INFP, a fellow INTP, and an ESFP. This video nails why we're lucky to have our ESFP kid in the mix 😂
That's such a fascinating trio to have! I'm picturing the INTP and INFP sitting there quietly letting the ESFP run amok! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho there are many moments of uncanny awe. It's fun 😂
I just remembered...how about a video on types that are "siren songs" for each other? I have found that out in the wild, I start out well with ESFPs, and for a while, they get a kick out of my quirks and quips. It never lasts, but whoooo we have fun for a minute!
My younger brother is an ESTP and we are practically best friends. During family get together I am not the most social person and he’s always there to save me, because I end up hanging out with him haha. Definitely my anchor.
I can see why I was mistyped as an INFP after hearing the INFP and ISFP bit, had me questioning my mbti for a sec lol
But that's mostly because I tend to go inward before outward. And I resonate with both decision making. I am comfortable with a result made from either facts and action, or emotions and values (Preferably both). But in most cases, the decision/action that works, works.
-ISFP
It's always good to keep questioning your type. As you develop and mature it makes sense that you'd resonate with more types as well since you will have integrated things that used to be weaknesses! ~ Nathan
I Died of laughter at the INTP description 🤣Sages, complete sages!
Spot on and very, very insightful analysis. As an INFP, mirrors my experiences of others exactly. You put words to my experiences and helped me understand myself better. Truly excellent video. Thank you.
This is the best video well done Nathan. As an INFP who has dated and INTJ, INFJ, INTP and ISFJ I can say these are ridiculously accurate.
I can see the introverted pattern XD
Wow, the way you describe infp and infj is so true! My cousin who is my best friend is infp, she is more sure about who she is than me. She have some difficulties dealing with her parents cause she is determine in being single. I always listen to her and try to find ways to convince her parents that we can choose to live a life we want😂. As an infj, I hate conflicts and continually compromise in small things in daily life. But overall, we both feel comfortable to stay together and have deep conversation. So I think it’s ok that we will eventually go to different destination, the time we spent together is invaluable.
This is a great description. I particularly liked the part where you mentioned compromising on small things in daily life. That is certainly true of INFJs and can be a big issue they need to deal with. I'm not sure whether you've seen any of the other INFJ videos on this channel but if you do check them out definietly feel free to let me know what you think of them in the comments! ~ Nathan
This is now one of my favourite videos on the internet!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
High praise indeed. Feel free to share it with anyone else you think would like it too. I really appreciate comments like this ~ Nathan
I have a very close ENFP friend and this was dead accurate. Often I've come to the conclusion that both INFPs and ENFPs do a impressive amount of exploration in finding who they want to be, sometimes going around in circles and getting lost in the process.
The difference being that INFPs do this wandering internally, in their own mind and in their safe spaces because that's how they're used to making decisions on pretty much everything.
ENFPs do this externally, doing new things in new ways, new places and environments as that's what stimulates them and they believe you can't know if you don't experience.
In reality, the INFP appears stagnant and unchanging, whilst the ENFP looks erratic and unfocused.
INFPs are stuck in limbo and ENFPs are lost in the woods.
I think that's a good distinction! ~ Nathan
Nah. I do both internally and externally. Ok maybe not externally since I got into depression and arthritis, but I used to.
@@WhyCZcamsWhy That's just based on my experience, we're all bound to do things a little differently.
Sorry to hear about that, I wish you all the best though. You make sure to take care of yourself 😊
@@slipskolt7300 Yes indeed, the types are even on a spectrum sothere's always gonna be differences. Thank you for your wishes 😊
you're brilliant in your assessment of personality types and how they perceive and react to each other.. Thanks for the depth on insight
I’m and INFP with an ESTJ brother…don’t know how that happened. But he gets very amused at me stressing out over the meaning of life.
I was so excited to see this in my recommendations
IT'S FINALLY MY TURN
Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan
Yup, you nail it.
I can only talk for myself and for my perception of people I know to match certain types, but your words match my experience very well.
However, as someone who gets INFP-typed about all the time, and identify myself well with it, I feel more like my super-sayen version would be ENFP (when I take my own life in hands) rather than ENFJ (which is more when I have to work in a mediative way with people. I feel like I'm quite good at it, so it is rewarding, but this is clearly NOT what I want to do/be/be dragged to do all the time, "gimme space and please fare well on your own, please".)
Btw, I've always felt like I was a mix of my two parents, who happen to type as ENFP (mother) and ISFP (father). I obviously took a big bunch from each other, which oftentimes gets contradictory.
I wonder if some fellow INFPs are in the same case, and how your own parental environment can impact yoir personnality type. (I would be immensely intersted on seeing mbti studies comparing children and parents)
Makes total sense to me. Entering ENFP mode would involve you shuffling your functions around only a bit. That means you'd be able to inhabit that way of being for longer periods if you ever wanted/needed to. ENFP and ISFP parents with an INFP child. That seems like an awesome blend since you'd be able to relate to both of them, and both of them to you in certain ways! ~ Nathan
INFP + INTJ = Imaginative Visionaries = World Builders. Yes. The use of Tolkien and Martin as ones building the world each wanted, whether or not others might like it, is an excellent example.
OH NO the part when you talked about INFP AND INTJ so gooooooood TT thank you for making me even more firmed into believing in creating my own world of fantasy ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
As an INFJ, I fear where that world of fantasy would reach XD
@@moonspine6236 haha 😆
I don't know if this is something any1 else would want to see. But I think it would be fun to hear your theories regarding how the different types changes their behaviour while being drunk, or high. Do the personalities stay the same just amplified, or do they perhaps start resembling totally different characteristics.
Huhuhu. I'd like to hear about it. I hope there are some scientific studies conducted about this somewhere, it must be fun to watch.
As an INFP, I've been completely drunk only once, and it was all about documenting what was happening to my INTJ soulmate. She kept notes. I was very cute, according to her. My elocution was the thing who stayed intact the longest, even in the period of time who blacked out from my memory.
That would really be interesting!
INFP 4w5 here; I haven't gotten drunk quite yet but when quite tipsy... I am apparently cracking all the jokes and sometimes getting sentimental, but mainly the jokes.. almost made my buddy pee his pants on three such occasions. I get extremely playful, too... the child to wander free and quite wild! It's a great time! Oh, and I am a Gemini as well.. I don't know if that has anything to do with it but I just find it interesting 🤔
I don't drink but everyone in my life does. So I have a lot of data to draw upon for this one. I could probably make an hour long video on the behaviour of each type when they're drunk in the back seat of a car (I'm the eternal designated driver) ~ Nathan
More INFP content, nice!
There'll be many more INFP videos in the future rest assured! ~ Nathan
The best mbti Channel!
This is awesome to hear. Thank you! ~ Nathan
Can you pls make the next one about ISTPs 👉👈
I will definitely do this episode at some point! ~ Nathan
INFP with and ESFP mother, sometimes it's just... too much
INFP with ESFP friend. I concur.
Love them but I agree! Out of respect for them and myself there’s only so much I can take.
I would agree that ESFPs might need to be in the "small doses" category for INFPs ~ Nathan
@@lovewho How does your type mesh with ESFPs? 🤔
Please do ISFP next… I need to understand my gf
getting lost getting home not by choice is so accurate 😂😂I was in charge finding a restaurant n we ended up going around the entire mall n ending back at square one😂😂 was using Google map too n still failed.
I always admired and was attracted to ISFP but couldn’t quite tell Why. In a few seconds this explains a lot
The attraction is definitely understandable. It's nice to have some things in common and other things that cause a bit of tension or a spark. Those two types have that! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho totally! I feel like while growing up I was very detatched from ISFPs because I couldn’t quite relate to them. Now I find their artisty and lifestyle more intriguing as opposed to fellow INFPs art and thoughts that feel redoundant to me
"The bridge between authenticity and action" that's how I view an ESFPs! It's so accurate, I love that. I don't know if I've met ESFPs in rl but I love to observe them on movies or anime. For example: Shoyo Hinata in Haikyuu. There's something in ESFPs that I find inspiring; it's their optimism and confidence to do what they believe. You guys are so cool!
Please, do more videos about ISTPS
I definitely will make many more ISTP videos in the future. If you haven't seen the previous ISTP videos on the channel feel free to check those out in the meantime! ~ Nathan
I think I need an ENTJ in my life
I think we all do... in small doses... ~ Nathan
My own personal notes:
INTP: Very much like me, although they sometimes do weird stuff, with a logic that either seems stupid, or amazingly distant. Also, not goof with emotions.
ISTJ:Practical. Organised. Hardworking. Not into emotions. Conventional.
ESTP:Same as above, but wayy energetic and pushy (why must I come tooo😢) also more street smart.
ESFJ:Fluffy paradise! (Except when he gets extroverted).
My crush is ENTJ. And fck this described so well. I am so much inspired by him.
Yeah, the INFJ thought I, INTP, would be bad at math like him.
I'm INFP, my girlfriend is ISFP and best friend is INTP. I love how you described chemistry between me and them! Its so accurate, I'm crying😢
I'm ESTJ. I had an INFP on one of my boards. He would constantly be pulling me into new perspectives with "To be fair...." statements. I found it kind of funny that he had a template for me. I appreciated his input so much because, even if it didn't always change what I did, it would often make me more compassionate in how I executed my plan.
He's moved to a new state. I still have a good board... but I miss him.
Please do isfp next!!
I will definitely do the ISFP episode of this series at some point! If you haven't watched the other ISFP videos on this channel feel free to check those out in the meantime ~ Nathan
ohhh man when you were talking about how INFPs could appear like ENFJ - that's literally what happened with me.
there was a time where i felt like i had to take on a role as peacemaker in the family just to make sure the family didn't just collapse even though it wasn't natural to me at all.
that was also around the time i got into mbti so that's why i typed as ENFJ when I was first reading through the cognitive functions.
but i'm definitely, obviously not an ENFJ lol
Good video 🙂
Wish I could meet more people similar to my type in real life again.. I'm almost 50/50 on T/F but usually always get INTP
I know it doesn't help being a hermit lol. I've thought about trying out apps for that again
If you know about a MBTI-based app, I'd be curious to try.
@@lc1138 usually people mention ur my type for that, there's also the birdy (?) app i believe
Everything was very right well maybe fe users sometimes annoy me and se users fascinate even though that's what you said anyway 😅
Re: getting lost - INFP not having a say in the matter... As someone who uses feelings to find my way around anywhere, I feel attacked.
Edit: I don't forget the way home, I just took a longer route than usual. :p
My mother is a hardcore version of INFP, so let's expose her opinions~
Hopefully this gave you some mother related insights! ~ Nathan
Wow. I did not know that INFPs see ENTPs like that. No wonder im an INFP magnet. I love em.
The best series on your channel!
That's fun to hear! This is one of my favourites to do ~ Nathan
Cool video. I was kinda just watching, but then you explained how infp sees istj, and I just said "HES SO RIGHT"
I've always like infp n istp characters.. especially infps disguised as istps 😊
“ISFP’s tend to get lost. . . By choice.”
Truer words I’ve ever heard
Thanks for the video. Some good obersavtions. Regarding the ENFP or in general, I dont think the first function "represses" the second. They rather work hand in hand while one generally leads. Repressed could rather be the 5th function when totally focused on the first function.
And I rather see ENFP´s turned up with the dials to maximum exuberance (mentally speaking) than weirdness. Weirdness is what both bathe in indulgingly.
I normally hear Tolkien typed as INFP, so it was kind of funny for me to hear him called an INTJ in an INFP video. The point still stands though, since usually CS Lewis is typed as INTJ, and the two were close friends and writing buddies.
I love that those two were friends. Would have loved to have been a fly on the wall for conversations in the pub between those two! ~ Nathan
Thank you 🤩 (from an INFP) 😉
Hope you enjoyed it! Feel free to check out the other INFP videos on the channel if you haven't already ~ Nathan
As an INTP whose friends, yes, every single one of them, are INFPs, i just clicked on this video to see what they might think of me 😂
Thank you for mentioning the ISTJ mistype. I thought I was an ISTJ, I related to a lot but something didn’t quite fit
I remember when I first found out I was an ENFJ, and I asked my friends what their types were. After testing, most of them ended up being INFPs. LOL. We vibe quite well.
INFP here, thank you for your work as always!
But boy, do I not agree with this whole INFP - ENTJ dynamic. Maybe it's just my personal experience, but I really don't see how these two types could work together in anything but convoluted theory. Literally nothing in common.
I personally think INFP - ESTJ work a lot better than ENTJs. Nonetheless, one of my close friends is an ENTJ and we get along very well. We're quite playful with each other, it feels like my Ne and his Se activate when we're together though underpinned by Fi/Te + Ne/Ni serious conversations about the future, our ideals and more. But then again my enneagram is 6w7 and his 8w7 so we have that common w7 which makes us approach life like an adventure and fun though his Ni and my e6 respectfully makes us quite cautious at first.
I'm an INFP atm (was INFJ for a long time but as I got older type changed) and my dad is ENTJ. Got him to take the test haha. My sister is and has been INFP too so the stuff I mention I think will have overlap with her. I love my dad to bits and know he loves me. We used to butt heads a LOT (my dad and sister too) but as we've both gotten older things have mellowed out and are much calmer. Healthier ENTJ learns how to relax and be a little silly sometimes in my observation. Both I and my sister have learned that when our dad pesters us to do something or is being controlling we don't always have to take it to heart so much. Humor helps de-escalate between us a lot. Our dad knows we do genuinely care about a lot of the same things he does--success tied to happiness, independence, hitting milestones--and we know that while our way of getting there might be different both in method and timing, our dad does want us to be okay and this is how he shows he loves us basically. We communicate with sincere attempts to understand and empathize with each other.
I've gotten an understanding of what my dad values, what he worries about, how he expresses things differently. He doesn't always think about the emotional effect he'll have on others when he communicates or even is just going about his business, and sometimes that causes conflict for him. He knows he can trust me because even when he's been really difficult, I've had a lot of times I've taken him aside, let him know I get where he's coming from, and talked about how he can get the outcomes he wants with less conflict/more success. I think he's also been surprised to learn that if someone is treating him badly and he doesn't know how to navigate it, my sister and I are 5000% ready to kick ass to protect him. My sense is those things mean a lot to him. He's been protective of me at times I didn't always expect him to be, recognizes when I'm working hard to get something done this end, and has gotten a lot better at learning to be encouraging over the years. He also is good at expressing what he considers strengths of mine and my sister when he tries to urge us to take one path or another. While we might not always agree about using those qualities the same way he envisions, it's definitely appreciated that he sees strengths and lets us know about them + that he believes in us.
Basically, imo ENTJ can have a good and honest heart but doesn't always express it in ways that are immediately obvious. Once communication is understood, mutual respect is established, and both are on the same team--it can be very sweet I think.
Me personally think that the question asking habit of entj makes me happy. Also they value learning.
I think it's quite fascinating how they will do everything to succeed in the things they want to succeed in, the thing for me is that these are usually not the things I (infp) want to succeed in, and I also don't want to go through life in that way (highly organized and effecient)...so yeah listening to an ENTJ I might learn a thing or two but I doubt the lifestyle.
@@janedoe885 Thanks for sharing ! It's very interesting to see how this relation developed and worked.
Writing this response, I pay attention to your name/nickname. Did you happen to make videos ? (If yes, I just wanted to say I loved them. If not, nevermind me. Nevermind me in any case.)
How do you do this?!!
I don't know whether or not I buy into this system... It just seems a little simplistic. Still, I love watching your videos and I think your observations on real-life people, combined with your view of this framework are ingenious. Oh, and some of your comments are hilarious! I'm curious to see what this knack of yours will evolve into...!
You're right to be skeptical of it. Ultimately, people are too complex to be captured by any descriptions of these kinds. However, it is natural to want to classify people - it's useful too. Although all of us fluctuate fluidly between many ways of being in the world, typically one archetype will capture us best on average, even if it's just the broad strokes of us. So my advice is always to use such systems for as long as they're useful to you! ~ Nathan
Waiting for an isfp video:((((
I have taken the test more than once….I have gotten INFP several times, but also INTJ! Go figure