7 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Attractive

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  • 7 Weird Reasons Why Introverts are So Attractive to Others
    Are you, as an introvert, attractive to others without even realizing it?
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  • @FrankJames
    @FrankJames  Před 3 lety +1010

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    • @tikaardhany7568
      @tikaardhany7568 Před 3 lety +4

      110% agree that introverts are attractive

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk Před 3 lety +1

      I am introvert+ Extravert . . . . and I am so F***** ATTRACTIVE ! ! . . . . . . . . . . . .

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk Před 3 lety +1

      Anytime at the end, when you say "stay cool & attractive ", you have that kind of smile+ sight that the soft Dominatrix have, like Heather Locklear or Bo Derek

    • @Julia-LArt
      @Julia-LArt Před 3 lety +1

      M_ Lion this made me snort laugh seeing you’re comparing Frank to two women!

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk Před 3 lety

      @@Julia-LArt he's actually compared to TWO Big Stars !

  • @mightytinkaton
    @mightytinkaton Před 3 lety +9365

    _Imagine being the "mysterious and cool introvert type"_
    -this comment was made by the "mysterious but nerd and awkward" gang-

  • @adelwalid9402
    @adelwalid9402 Před 3 lety +11070

    "Why Introverts are so attractive"
    Me: Don't do that... Don't give me hope.

  • @christianhunt8009
    @christianhunt8009 Před 2 lety +685

    Being an introvert myself, I always found it funny that my high school peers would freak out when ever I spoke up or when ever I laughed about something in class. They would always say " I have never heard you speak or laugh before" .

  • @imnik98
    @imnik98 Před rokem +474

    The problem is that some people just don't understand introverts and they often judge them superficially. I consider myself an introvert but if I have the right person in front of me I became really open. People cannot imagine how big is the universe in a mind of an introvert. Give chances to introverts to converse with you, insist also if the situation becomes awkward and you will see that you will not be disappointed.

  • @moonchild430
    @moonchild430 Před 3 lety +9506

    "İntroverts are good listeners"
    Me who zones out in the middle of conversation: 👁👄👁

  • @newlovetv8212
    @newlovetv8212 Před 3 lety +19072

    Introverts can talk a lot when they are with people they are comfortable with

  • @clap-melior8294
    @clap-melior8294 Před 2 lety +55

    "people are really attracted to those who can go out on their own from the crowd and be okay with it"....I'm so glad to hear this.

  • @moonTerfixx.
    @moonTerfixx. Před rokem +90

    To all extroverts out there, please dont ask us too many questions. Idk about other introverts, but too many questions just make me uncomformtable. Also when we dont talk much, it means we are uncomformtable and dont feel like talking. Im not attacking any extrovert, im just saying. Have a great day/night :)

  • @aviralsinghal1274
    @aviralsinghal1274 Před 3 lety +5060

    And still we are single. And without friends.
    Are we really cursed or something ?

    • @roulis640
      @roulis640 Před 3 lety +234

      I feel you 🤣

    • @vatsalaykhobragade
      @vatsalaykhobragade Před 3 lety +385

      I feel attacked as an introvert. Sometimes i feel like only if i could just talk to people.

    • @roulis640
      @roulis640 Před 3 lety +303

      Personally, I think people are attracted to us because we look mysterious but when they get to really know us they realize we really are just normal people 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @saraamnadis4218
      @saraamnadis4218 Před 3 lety +60

      @@roulis640 GOOD ONE😉 YEP we are just like the others.....but a little weird....like Albert Einstein😉❤👍

    • @winterdragon560
      @winterdragon560 Před 3 lety +56

      Damn your comment describe ma whole life , but we are independent and mysterious, people find me intimidated, alot of people told me after we talked and am like what am simple and just living btw am INTJ.

  • @user-fc9eb6wm7o
    @user-fc9eb6wm7o Před 3 lety +5433

    "Introverts are attractive"
    People to me: Why r u so weird?

  • @violetp100
    @violetp100 Před 2 lety +27

    I am an Introvert, though once I feel comfortable in your presence I will talk more and my full personality will show. I usually don't just go up and talk to people. If people come up and talk to me I will be quiet but I will talk back. When you first meet me you might think I'm shy. But in reality I'm just with new people I don't know. If your in my friend group then you know your special to me. And if I come up to you first then your really special to me.

  • @kevinsantos8439
    @kevinsantos8439 Před rokem +211

    why introverts aren't attractive:
    -being mysterious is usually seen as being weird (in my experience)
    -being a good listener makes you a good friend (& nothing else)
    -powerful (others can take advantage of silent people, since they don't talk back/doesn't seem like we got much power)
    -not annoying (I definitely embarrass myself a lot, but idc/there's more ways to be annoying than saying dumb things)
    -introspective (having a clear vision of how life should be doesn't mean your life is actually that way/example: I wanna go out more; have a hobby; find a girlfriend; start a family. reality: I sit at home; watch a youtube video; comment what's wrong in the video; watch the next video)
    -people complain about me staying inside, not having a life, being a loser (they clearly don't think I'm cool/having a party by myself?)
    -people usually don't want me to be there & invite me mostly out of politeness (if they invite me at all, which is usually not the case)
    I did like the positive side about all of these that you mentioned, but as an introvert/pessimist/realistic thinker, I know this isn't the case most of the time (or maybe I'm extremely unlucky & I just happen to meet all the wrong people & live at the wrong side of the planet)

    • @princetraxk
      @princetraxk Před rokem +17

      I believe there is atleast some truth in what ur saying even tho I don't agree with it completely

    • @I_Yogita
      @I_Yogita Před rokem +24

      We are on the same page dude. People always manipulate me, assume me as a dumb. They would ignore me if i put forward my opinion. They don't want me to even talk with them (if i message someone with whom i have not interacted much , they would just block my number). Don't know why they behave like this, it sometimes breaks me to think that i am of no value for others.
      However, fortunately i have 3 good friends who understand me and talk with me.

    • @tobiaswiest
      @tobiaswiest Před rokem +16

      It seems that way to you bro, because you are pessimistic and look at things with a negative twist. I used to be extremely pessimistic (it's still there), but no one likes a downer. This video has a lot of truth to it with the right approach. Just because you are introverted does not mean you are all those things he said. You might be invited more, well received, and appreciated if you kept the pessimism to yourself and try to speak more positively. Yes it sounds cringe but people don't always want to hear how the cup is half empty. I'm a realistic thinker too and that's good, keep it. We need more thinkers like that. But pessimism isn't as helpful with friends. I've found life to be more enjoyable when I make an effort to see the brighter side of life, and accept that theirs a lot of awful things but to not make that my focus. We have the rare ability to make a difference since we easily see the problem. I hope this helps 👍

    • @tobiaswiest
      @tobiaswiest Před rokem +7

      @@I_Yogita Those kind of people aren't worth your time. Move on and focus on others who give you their own time too. Don't worry about the others, life is full of jerks, it's our responsibility to ignore them and accept people who aren't.

    • @kevinsantos8439
      @kevinsantos8439 Před rokem +4

      @@princetraxk that's fair, this is just my experience after all

  • @mr.silver1614
    @mr.silver1614 Před 3 lety +2593

    *After watching this video*
    Self-esteem: *Improved*
    Confidence: *Improved*
    Optimism: *Improved*
    Reality: "YOU THOUGHT"

  • @sususnandes
    @sususnandes Před 3 lety +1886

    “hell is other people“ this is such an introvert thing to say

    • @weirdwolf888
      @weirdwolf888 Před 3 lety +21

      And animals, I think they'd agree with that! I believe Nietzsche said something along the lines of 'if animals have a devil, it would be in the form of man'. So, introverts, and animals (and probably nature as a whole!).

    • @sususnandes
      @sususnandes Před 3 lety +9

      Weirdwolf wild animals yeah, my dog would be extremely sad though
      as for nature, the problem relies with the kind of people that don’t respect it, we see many great kind hearted people trying to do justice to our nature, unfortunately they are not as many as they should be ♥️

    • @lidial9299
      @lidial9299 Před 3 lety +2

      Sartre said that because he was ugly and he felt that people were looking at him that way.

    • @shilpapatel6493
      @shilpapatel6493 Před 3 lety +3

      Yeah 😂
      I found a new line to say now

    • @believewomen165
      @believewomen165 Před 3 lety +2

      Yessss👏🏽👏🏽

  • @oliverspiler9101
    @oliverspiler9101 Před 2 lety +22

    0:24 Mysterious
    0:39 Good listeners
    1:04 Powerful by being quiet
    1:32 Less annoying overall
    2:11 Introspective
    2:41 Cool?
    3:25 When u speak to em u feel special just like TWICE

  • @1982Alycia
    @1982Alycia Před rokem +13

    "This introvert 'has it together'!" Best line in the whole video. 👌😂 I humbly believe that I do, so if that's what others perceive... Perfect!

  • @lilacphile2439
    @lilacphile2439 Před 3 lety +3181

    "Introverts are attractive"
    People to me: She looks so scary and serious

    • @hirokimura1316
      @hirokimura1316 Před 3 lety +143

      I'm a boy but I can relate, everybody thinks I came from a funeral of my bloodline and rejected by my girlfriend. And I don't have a girlfriend.

    • @aakriti3116
      @aakriti3116 Před 3 lety +59

      Agreed and they think I am angry with them

    • @fik8453
      @fik8453 Před 3 lety +81

      I agree. People around me always thought I was angry because my face was serious and expressionless.

    • @charmelledelrosario1556
      @charmelledelrosario1556 Před 3 lety +8

      True🤧

    • @masterdanielm5821
      @masterdanielm5821 Před 3 lety +10

      @lilac Phile yep they also think that im serious and scary

  • @juliajewel_ee_a5479
    @juliajewel_ee_a5479 Před 3 lety +3088

    Other people: "This introvert has it together"
    Me: *screaming internally*

  • @Heer4
    @Heer4 Před 2 lety +15

    The thing about making others feel special...one of my friends told me about it. She told me how happy she was when she could be my friend. She said that "she admired me". I felt embarassed suddenly, and I still get the same embarassment when I think about it, because I'm just a normal person, not a star or something. I had a pretty good academic history and I was also a quizzer. But that doesn't make me special, or atleast I thought so. This friend of mine, she used to tell everyone around her soo proudly about how she's close with me. It made me laugh sometimes. I had no idea why she's so happy about it. She also told me that she thought I looked distant, yet somehow cool before becoming friends with me. I thought she was joking. But after watching this video, I wonder if it was indeed true.
    I'm now watching more of such videos to know what others think of me. I think it's not really as bad as I think of it 😆

    • @leona41ife
      @leona41ife Před rokem +1

      It's definitely true! My friend told me as well, not only one of them but a few, that they think I'm special and feel good to be my friends!

  • @TechOverFlow
    @TechOverFlow Před rokem +4

    I'm always in my head. Thinking, processing, questioning, and improving!

  • @okya6399
    @okya6399 Před 3 lety +3494

    "Why introverts are attractive"
    Every introvert in the world: *DOUBT*

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 Před 3 lety +16

      Not me:(

    • @SwaggerToast
      @SwaggerToast Před 3 lety +11

      True

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 Před 3 lety

      @@SwaggerToast hey

    • @SwaggerToast
      @SwaggerToast Před 3 lety +2

      @@jofunny7425 are you, like, simply wanted to say hi or are you not liking me for saying 'true'

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 Před 3 lety +1

      @@SwaggerToast why you say true i don't get it😤 do you know Albert Einstein was introvert

  • @ghostydraws3732
    @ghostydraws3732 Před 3 lety +2639

    Strangers:she's so quiet and mysterious
    My best friends: dhfjesj no she's a loud ass crackhead

    • @peika8324
      @peika8324 Před 3 lety +32

      Accurate

    • @atomcat5242
      @atomcat5242 Před 3 lety +51

      Well at least you have friends

    • @thefoolsfavorite
      @thefoolsfavorite Před 3 lety +19

      @@atomcat5242 yup. I'm new at middle school and in the first 6 weeks, I still don't have a friend because people think I'm antisocial because of how quiet I am. It sucks.

    • @atomcat5242
      @atomcat5242 Před 3 lety +9

      @@thefoolsfavorite omg really?
      I AM having the same problem too

    • @rm-hr1yx
      @rm-hr1yx Před 3 lety +1

      me 😂

  • @joannedmello6204
    @joannedmello6204 Před 2 lety +5

    Why do all of these points apply to me! Thank you for saying these things in a positive way instead of you know, saying they are just shy n choose to say in or nerdy. This makes me feel good about myself. I'm glad i got your videos as yt recommendations!😃💛

  • @jacquelinemolony2778
    @jacquelinemolony2778 Před 2 lety +2

    Omg I can’t believe you just made me proud to be an introvert, it’s something I’ve had insecurities about especially how much time I want to be alone and because of that I find it hard to maintain close friendships

  • @perfectmatter6599
    @perfectmatter6599 Před 3 lety +4866

    Introverts are extroverts when they start talking to their best friends.

    • @nick5zone827
      @nick5zone827 Před 3 lety +141

      THIS!!!

    • @ShijioHirojima567
      @ShijioHirojima567 Před 3 lety +130

      True, and also for me its anyone that has played or watched what I have.

    • @Sari-ip1uz
      @Sari-ip1uz Před 3 lety +38

      So true 😂

    • @naminegirl21
      @naminegirl21 Před 3 lety +58

      I'm an introvert around people I feel very comfy with (literally only 2 people at my job) and only on Christmas or New Years for like 5 min.
      I'll kinda sorta scream "Happy (insert holiday here)!!!" a few times and go WOOOO and then it's back to my bed eating chips and coke all day

    • @cherryphoenix9083
      @cherryphoenix9083 Před 3 lety +7

      Yup

  • @nilllukka
    @nilllukka Před 3 lety +9281

    "Tension creates attraction" -- that's awesome news because I'm tense all the time ahaha... ha...

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 Před 3 lety +54

      🤣🤣

    • @simplepsyche4919
      @simplepsyche4919 Před 3 lety +91

      Me too...I'm worried I might get high bp

    • @di3486
      @di3486 Před 3 lety +12

      LOL

    • @awkwardzoltar3529
      @awkwardzoltar3529 Před 3 lety +109

      Just pull a gun out on a person and the tension between the two of you will cause him/her to forever be in love with you.

    • @awkwardzoltar3529
      @awkwardzoltar3529 Před 3 lety +23

      Elise S not a dude. Don’t reply to me. Why would I care what you think if I don’t know who you are?

  • @vit.budina
    @vit.budina Před rokem +15

    I am an introvert. I hate talking to people and starting conversations. I never liked going out and would always spend the whole day at home and alone. Yet when I got into high school, our class was so well assembled that every time I entered the classroom I suddenly became one of the most extroverted students. Introverts can become very open if you give them time to make themselves comfortable around you.

  • @HealthandFitnessCentral
    @HealthandFitnessCentral Před 11 měsíci +1

    Hey there! Just watched your video on "7 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Attractive" and I absolutely loved it! As an introvert myself, it's refreshing to see our strengths being celebrated. Keep up the great work and keep spreading the introvert love! 👍

  • @isaamaandaa
    @isaamaandaa Před 3 lety +2831

    "why introverts are so attractive."
    me, being one : *aRe yOu sUrE aBoUt tHaT?*

    • @Rezzmari
      @Rezzmari Před 3 lety +34

      To me, they only are if they are good looking. If not, good luck. Just being real.

    • @worldwidehandsome52
      @worldwidehandsome52 Před 3 lety +13

      Army 😏

    • @laylakunis7881
      @laylakunis7881 Před 3 lety +13

      @@Rezzmari attraction isn’t always looks, curiosity plays a role too and I believe that’s what this video is referring to why they say introverts are attractive

    • @s_ckem6846
      @s_ckem6846 Před 3 lety +3

      Everyone is good looking

    • @moretrenmoreben2523
      @moretrenmoreben2523 Před 3 lety +6

      To me, I like that they're challenging to talk to since they had either soft or avoiding attitude towards talking and idk why but they do speak softly and a lil different to others. Which is a turn on. And also for how they dress, ain't revealing.

  • @rainevalmonte2085
    @rainevalmonte2085 Před 3 lety +3265

    Expectations:
    Vs
    Reality: Too nervous to make friends, people think your snobby and mean, doesn't interact with people because afraid of judgements, actually wants to socialize but is scared of what people would think if they made a mistake

    • @clomyst
      @clomyst Před 3 lety +87

      If only you knew how cool you are ;)

    • @svetajkp
      @svetajkp Před 3 lety +91

      Same, plus I'm afraid to speak English more,bcz it's not my native language, and I just moved to English school so.....
      I'm akward af

    • @harumi6198
      @harumi6198 Před 3 lety +15

      true

    • @a.u.m.4489
      @a.u.m.4489 Před 3 lety +8

      So true ;(

    • @a.u.m.4489
      @a.u.m.4489 Před 3 lety +25

      @@svetajkp awww its okay you'll get the hang of it 👏👏👏
      I was you like 8 years ago 😂

  • @june8658
    @june8658 Před rokem +1

    This video is the most accurate for true introverts among all other videos on CZcams, you did a really good job man 👍

  • @Himal_1
    @Himal_1 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thanks so much for this. You really spoke to my heart!

  • @dishasrinivasa3212
    @dishasrinivasa3212 Před 3 lety +1778

    to all the bullys and people who tease introverts for being quiet
    REMEMBER-
    'no on plans a murder out loud'

  • @panlis6243
    @panlis6243 Před 3 lety +1890

    "introverts are good listeners" - me, an introvert, who skipped the whole video and just looked for the key points

  • @vasu7520
    @vasu7520 Před 2 lety +1

    want to create me own destination without caring what others think of me or about my age.
    feel intense shyness inside, outward appear grim.
    hesitation stops me to think one more time before doing things.
    conscience is my best friend in helping making decisive steps.
    staying calm is the best option rather than leaving superficial topics.

  • @shookmin_rv1376
    @shookmin_rv1376 Před 2 lety +16

    The "the power cuz they don't know what your thinking" is so true 💀 happened to me earlier with my friends
    I was just too quiet and when we played truth or dare, someone dared my friend to make an eye contact with me for 10 sec and she just can't stop laughing or keeping herself cuz when she stares at me, she feels like there's some sort of demon behind my eyes if you dig deeper like xkdjxjdn 💀 she complains that i was just too calm that makes it seem impossible😭

  • @iveology_
    @iveology_ Před 3 lety +15968

    "Why introverts are so attractive"
    * Looks in the mirror *
    *Ya no.*

  • @matthewnick693
    @matthewnick693 Před 3 lety +1632

    Extrovert: Hey, you wanna hang out this weekend?
    Introvert: * actually has nothing better to do this weekend* Sorry, I already have plans, maybe next time
    Extrovert: Wow, I guess he's too cool for me

    • @mar9183
      @mar9183 Před 3 lety +83

      Jajaj we really do that! We tend to decline making them think we haven't it clear. But in our head we know from the minut one we're not going. It's an akward situation. Sometimes in my head I think...maybe I cannot have it so clear? But 99% of the times I finish really not going because I really feel I prefer to be on my own that day. Sometimes when you finally decide to let yourself go and give it a try! there you finally end up thinkining...what am I doing here? I would be better home alone. Luckily in some situations you end up having a great time but it's not what happens most of the times.

    • @di3486
      @di3486 Před 3 lety +58

      I don’t decline those invitations because they are so RARE!

    • @violetdusk1968
      @violetdusk1968 Před 3 lety +48

      Yes my plans are doing nothing but I'd rather do nothing then go out and socialize.

    • @yonathanrakau1783
      @yonathanrakau1783 Před 3 lety +4

      Ugh... no literally thats not what we think or at least not what i think we would just say this person is not for me and just ask for other extrovert to hang out with us especially for me ENTP i dont mind being alone and hanging out with myself probably forget you exist few weeks later

    • @LegoDude568
      @LegoDude568 Před 3 lety +2

      Damn this hurts when it’s a girl because I can’t tell if she’s rejecting me or what

  • @NTAunofficialGOV
    @NTAunofficialGOV Před rokem +1

    Introverts are the most calm people and have a great heart !!

  • @marsyadchannel1110
    @marsyadchannel1110 Před 2 lety +1

    *BIG APPLAUSE for those that being an introvert's person & had given a quality comments. THANK YOU, FRANKJAMES for all of your informations are so true & I'm so glad that out there, I'm not alone & others will gain knowledge about us neither they misjudged us as Antisocial/Ego/Negative's person. By the way, I'm already hit your subscriber. Keep up the good work!!!*

  • @christinekobzeff
    @christinekobzeff Před 3 lety +8235

    “Introverts are good listeners...”Me: trying to listen but half way spacing out lost in a cloud of thoughts. “or at least they appear to be good listeners.” Me: Snaps back to reality, feeling personally attacked.

    • @tehxing4703
      @tehxing4703 Před 3 lety +90

      Ayyyyy twins!

    • @sankalpsingh2117
      @sankalpsingh2117 Před 2 lety +15

      @Divya Divyanshi me to introvert

    • @sankalpsingh2117
      @sankalpsingh2117 Před 2 lety +6

      @Divya Divyanshi from where you are from India

    • @VibingMeike
      @VibingMeike Před 2 lety +36

      @Divya Divyanshi Lol I have this too, it's annoying because I have genuine great conversations with my best friend, but I just can't concentrate for too long. Same thing for studying, I just can't concentrate for long enough.

    • @hannahgrace920
      @hannahgrace920 Před 2 lety +4

      No Bc literally same

  • @raebutler1407
    @raebutler1407 Před 3 lety +608

    "Hell is other people". YES! 🤣

  • @solomontruthlover5308
    @solomontruthlover5308 Před 2 lety +1

    I consider myself an introvert but in a one on one conversation I love talking and talking and talking

  • @shaddyraddyworldmusic
    @shaddyraddyworldmusic Před 2 lety +1

    Being an introvert is a blessing in disguise 🔥

  • @pebbsiie
    @pebbsiie Před 3 lety +667

    “They wonder what’s going on in your head”
    *whats going on in my head*
    Wii music

  • @limbs8468
    @limbs8468 Před 3 lety +1369

    "introvert are good listener"
    Me daydreaming during math class : •-•]

  • @loikcarothers
    @loikcarothers Před rokem

    It's all about who will give you the most energy and be the most interesting. Because we like to receive but not to give(mostly).

  • @nobody7011
    @nobody7011 Před 2 lety +2

    i was an ambivert before pandemic....but now i am more into introvert....i was wondering why i became like this, even my friends were asking...thanks for comforting me through this video 💞🥺

  • @myrtila
    @myrtila Před 3 lety +642

    When I don’t talk, people find me scary not attractive lol

    • @marcosbrenner140
      @marcosbrenner140 Před 3 lety +15

      How do u know what they think of u?

    • @kiyoshi5430
      @kiyoshi5430 Před 3 lety +3

      I was gonna say something but I don't know how to spell the word so nope

    • @dottiet6688
      @dottiet6688 Před 3 lety +44

      I was told I am creepy for staring at people, I just like people watching. I don't like PEOPLE I like PEOPLE WATCHING.

    • @kurumifuyumiya300
      @kurumifuyumiya300 Před 3 lety +28

      Yes. Same. A lot of people afraid of me too because I'm quiet and look cold. But, it just my normal face. ( ̄へ ̄)

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 Před 3 lety +2

      Same here 😐

  • @the_wolf9997
    @the_wolf9997 Před 3 lety +1753

    This guy is the most extroverted introvert ever.

  • @NUGGet-3562
    @NUGGet-3562 Před 2 lety

    This was a great confidence booster. Thanks Frank!

  • @_l.w.a.
    @_l.w.a. Před 4 měsíci

    As a fellow introvert I love your extremely informative content! Great hair btw!

  • @MrTrickster5
    @MrTrickster5 Před 3 lety +1072

    Disclaimer: These are only true if you are visually attractive

    • @iTzProLike1
      @iTzProLike1 Před 3 lety +98

      Umm no but actually yes.

    • @chereo1888
      @chereo1888 Před 3 lety +58

      So much truth to this comment here. Not that I'm complaining though.

    • @a.s.8679
      @a.s.8679 Před 3 lety +260

      True. If an introvert isn't good looking, people think they are just boring, but if someone is attractive, they become "mysterious" in people's eyes.

    • @MrTrickster5
      @MrTrickster5 Před 3 lety +37

      @@a.s.8679 yep accurate

    • @Emily-rj1ij
      @Emily-rj1ij Před 3 lety +6

      Yeah!

  • @cryjello
    @cryjello Před 3 lety +975

    I'm an introvert who says ONLY annoying things
    so talking less doesn't help at all lol

  • @lavmatthew7283
    @lavmatthew7283 Před rokem

    Very well said.. introverts are always there to listen not thinking twice to stay with you.. until u feel better.

  • @rashaalftaih9966
    @rashaalftaih9966 Před 2 lety +2

    Wow this really gave me a confidence boost

  • @sakshichand4204
    @sakshichand4204 Před 3 lety +3116

    When introverts gets comfortable with their fav person they become extroverts...😁

    • @mohammedsami9996
      @mohammedsami9996 Před 3 lety +18

      😂😂

    • @mikael355
      @mikael355 Před 3 lety +306

      And then they stop being cool and mysterious and get really annoying
      ~ Me, a professional introvert

    • @Jewel351
      @Jewel351 Před 3 lety +138

      @@mikael355 Exactly...then we talk too much and become annoying...😒

    • @sarahk6996
      @sarahk6996 Před 2 lety +3

      🙋🏽‍♀️😄

    • @sarahk6996
      @sarahk6996 Před 2 lety +10

      @@Jewel351 🤣🤣🤣

  • @imimposter5424
    @imimposter5424 Před 3 lety +1179

    Introverts in a conversation with another introvert: ....
    3 hours later: sooo

    • @blackeagle5217
      @blackeagle5217 Před 3 lety +10

      😆😆😆😆

    • @zionjohn6048
      @zionjohn6048 Před 3 lety +6

      😂

    • @reznovvazileski3193
      @reznovvazileski3193 Před 3 lety +31

      You'd be surprised how much of a conversation I can have with my friends each just speaking like 3-5 words an hour :') We call it mental chess because we're bouncing thoughts of each other yet though we don't share most of them and elaborately we still end up with the same conclusions in the end.

    • @aquazz1
      @aquazz1 Před 3 lety +9

      It’s not even a conversation it’s standing and looking at each other in awkward silence 😥😅😂

    • @MedicalParasitology
      @MedicalParasitology Před 3 lety

      Yup

  • @dksdmusic
    @dksdmusic Před rokem +5

    Back in the school days, I used to be the hot, mysterious musician introvert guy and people were curious about me. Now in adulthood, everybody just thinks of me as the creep that stands by the window in parties🤣

  • @ZakHumphreys
    @ZakHumphreys Před 2 lety

    You know , Your helping many people with these videos frank , Thanks brother hope life is bliss and prosperous !

  • @Beanie--
    @Beanie-- Před 3 lety +1191

    Me who does all of these: I'm such a boring person. People probably think I'm weird.
    *Sees an Introvert with all the same traits as me*
    Me: wow they're so cool and mysterious 😍😍😍

  • @ceilinh6004
    @ceilinh6004 Před 3 lety +395

    "...or at least they appear to be good listeners."
    I'm dead.

    • @berlizgonzalez6736
      @berlizgonzalez6736 Před 3 lety

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @sensimania
      @sensimania Před 3 lety

      😂😂

    • @ayanokouji5784
      @ayanokouji5784 Před 3 lety +18

      ikr, my teacher thinks im a good listener because i always look people in the eyes when they talk and used me as an example of how to be a good listener infront of the entire class, i had to stand infront of him and listen to what he says, and after he finished, he was like "see this is how to be a good listener, look at the speaker in the eyes while they talk, *my name* could repeat every word i said if he wanted to", and i literally couldn't remember a single thing he said, good thing he didn't tell me to repeat it

    • @ceilinh6004
      @ceilinh6004 Před 3 lety +5

      @@ayanokouji5784 I relate to that a little too well. People assume I'm a much better listener than I actually am.

  • @susan8576
    @susan8576 Před 2 lety

    This is the first positive review I'm watching on introverts. Thanks Frank👏🏽 going to look for "Quiet" now🚶‍♀️

  • @Introvertedalpha
    @Introvertedalpha Před rokem

    Great points, especially appreciated the one about introverts being introspective.

  • @eunoria2437
    @eunoria2437 Před 2 lety +3061

    Me being an introvert.
    Students in class: Why are you so quiet??
    *My mind: because I don't want to talk.🤷‍♀️

    • @VibingMeike
      @VibingMeike Před 2 lety +178

      Yes. One time a teacher walked to me and she asked if I was okay because I was so quiet. I just smiled and said 'It's alright, I'm just not a very talkative person.'

    • @SilvaDreams
      @SilvaDreams Před 2 lety +111

      @@VibingMeike Me being an introvert.
      Students in class: Why are you so quiet??
      Me: *shrugs and goes back to whatever I was doing*

    • @GoPackGoBaby
      @GoPackGoBaby Před 2 lety +51

      I’m an ambivert it’s both, I can get energy from social interaction depending on the circumstances but it can also really drain me. It’s a very interesting tug of war

    • @user-nf1bz3sn4z
      @user-nf1bz3sn4z Před 2 lety +38

      Or just say 'Why are you so loud?'

    • @TheBlueInvader
      @TheBlueInvader Před 2 lety +47

      I hate this question. Then it makes me think so quiet is wrong¿ Then I think we don't have to talk all the time. But give me a beer or to and I'm not quite.

  • @cynthiamartinez9804
    @cynthiamartinez9804 Před 3 lety +505

    I'm introverted to a point where people find me intimidating and well that sucks because they don't talk to me and of course I'll never start a conversation so I just end up alone lmao :(

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es Před 3 lety +10

      I know exactly how u feel it's a sad feeling 😣 do u have snapchat ??

    • @cynthiamartinez9804
      @cynthiamartinez9804 Před 3 lety +9

      @@JohnCena-wv9es I'm sorry Mr. John Cena, but I don't

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es Před 3 lety +1

      u don't have any other platforms I could reach out to you

    • @demetrarossi4212
      @demetrarossi4212 Před 3 lety +37

      classic introvert interaction going on here lol

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es Před 3 lety +3

      @@demetrarossi4212 uncover your face lmaoo

  • @nickfernandez853
    @nickfernandez853 Před rokem

    this video is so unique not just only for the topyc , it's also interesting because of all the great and realistic comments I have found

  • @uniteddreams7065
    @uniteddreams7065 Před rokem

    I've been an introvert myself for a long time. That's something I'll always be proud of. Whenever I'm outside by myself of a small group of people I usually just walk or stand around contemplating life and hear myself breathing with my mouth closed listening to the sound of the ocean. 😊😊😊

  • @meerasomasundaram8564
    @meerasomasundaram8564 Před 3 lety +4080

    When he says introverts does a lot of internal processing to figure things out. Me arguing with myself and creating imaginary situations and day dreaming all day.

  • @lisa_9608
    @lisa_9608 Před 3 lety +481

    The “introverts give themselves fewer chances to say annoying things”- not true for me because every time i say something it turns out being annoying and i regret having opened my mouth once again

    • @clintdona4586
      @clintdona4586 Před 3 lety +50

      lisa_
      The few times I actually speak I say dumb things so same lmao

    • @mysticfellow9843
      @mysticfellow9843 Před 3 lety +8

      Yeah it happens. I have ADD so I do it more often that usual, despite appearing to be a good listener.

    • @anjaliroy1139
      @anjaliroy1139 Před 3 lety +1

      @@mysticfellow9843 what is ADD?

    • @m3rl1n4
      @m3rl1n4 Před 3 lety +1

      @@anjaliroy1139 Attention Deficit Disorder

    • @bishiw2949
      @bishiw2949 Před 3 lety +5

      Same. Then I'd reflect and blame myself and say less.

  • @azariahthealkhemist2665

    These videos make me feel understood. I appreciate it!

  • @stories-of-elle
    @stories-of-elle Před rokem

    This is eye opening, thanks

  • @hummingbirdcity
    @hummingbirdcity Před 3 lety +868

    Only people I'm not attracted to think I'm attractive.

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 Před 3 lety +114

      that is the law of life.

    • @shanapreston_
      @shanapreston_ Před 3 lety +12

      @@raygengamer8440 aw shucks

    • @raywang7995
      @raywang7995 Před 3 lety +47

      jokes on you no one even likes me

    • @themadhatter8178
      @themadhatter8178 Před 3 lety +52

      @@raygengamer8440 The ugly ones chase, the pretty ones run away. Makes me wonder why mankind hasn't gone extinct.

    • @optimus2183
      @optimus2183 Před 3 lety +6

      Tell me about it

  • @UmLammyJammer
    @UmLammyJammer Před 3 lety +1736

    It’s like a roller coaster with this channel
    FJ: INFPs are the best girlfriends
    Me: :) aw yay
    FJ: are INFPs dumb?
    Me: uhh....
    FJ: why introverts are attractive
    Me: : , )

  • @amish344
    @amish344 Před 2 lety

    Honestly, you presented really nice points ! Well done 👍

  • @aryatripathi2486
    @aryatripathi2486 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Subject matter is sooo accurate!! I wonder if you're an introvert too and process your thoughts about mbti

  • @TestaRosssa_
    @TestaRosssa_ Před 3 lety +835

    As an extrovert who loves introverts.... I humbly request a video about what introverts like and don't like about their extrovert friends/partners. Though I'm scared, I'm more curious... hahaha! 😆

    • @FrankJames
      @FrankJames  Před 3 lety +156

      Great suggestion!

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ Před 3 lety +18

      @@g.i.r.l. that's not true at all...
      My cousin who is an extrovert watches.
      So that's at least 1 other person... ;)

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ Před 3 lety +13

      @@g.i.r.l. I was joking Haha! There are way more than just 2, I actually feel like I see a lot of ENFPs here gushing over you beloved introverts! 🥰
      We love you guys!
      There are so many introverts in the comments though, I agree hahaha

    • @XxKawaiiCookies
      @XxKawaiiCookies Před 3 lety +26

      I love that extroverts are easy to talk to because it’s hard for me to continue on a conversation

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ Před 3 lety +14

      @@XxKawaiiCookies that's really nice to hear! I like to make introverts feel comfortable and see what's inside when they're quiet Haha I have a lot of introvert friends. I appreciate you guys. 💖

  • @EmmaR
    @EmmaR Před 3 lety +289

    The idealized version of an introvert, sadly. Most people don't put much thought into why a introvert skips out on a party

    • @lovingkokichi4159
      @lovingkokichi4159 Před 3 lety +54

      Lmaooo “too cool to go to a party” more like “I’ll be alone and have no one to talk to and I’ll be too nervous to talk to someone new and maybe start crying if I go to a party”

    • @lilly3923
      @lilly3923 Před 3 lety +9

      loving kokichi fr and then I just have a meltdown when there’s too many people

    • @twisted-art8009
      @twisted-art8009 Před 3 lety +1

      “Lazy ass”
      Yes hun im lazy and dont want to interact with people 👄👁

    • @abhishek8987
      @abhishek8987 Před 3 lety

      Coz they are busy with their "assignments".

    • @twisted-art8009
      @twisted-art8009 Před 3 lety

      Abhishek .G gurl thats a flaker not an introvert

  • @hiteshisrani5342
    @hiteshisrani5342 Před rokem

    I stumbled upon this video discussing the reasons why introverts are attractive and found it to be an interesting perspective. The video offers a refreshing take on the positive qualities that introverts possess, It was a thought-provoking and uplifting watch that reminded me of the unique strengths that introverts can bring to any situation.

  • @tsukimicore
    @tsukimicore Před 2 lety

    This made me so happy about myself, thank you.

  • @wesrm1
    @wesrm1 Před 3 lety +163

    Don’t you just love it as an introvert when you say something profound, like say in a class, and then later someone comes up to you and says, “that was so interesting! You should talk more!” (Cringe)

    • @jose91807
      @jose91807 Před 3 lety +15

      This used to happen all the time to me in school hahaha

    • @QUARTERMASTEREMI6
      @QUARTERMASTEREMI6 Před 3 lety +2

      I had the same thing said to me plenty of times, though if that someone who says "that was so interesting!" is your crush, I'd guess that makes it more special(?) More of a guess I suppose.

  • @primeemperor9196
    @primeemperor9196 Před 3 lety +747

    "Introverts are attractive."
    Me, an introvert: LIAR!

    • @i3ignorantidelweb43
      @i3ignorantidelweb43 Před 3 lety

      Me

    • @ME-nw7er
      @ME-nw7er Před 3 lety +15

      I have always been extremely shy and introverted and I also don't think I'm attractive that way😂 I mean I interact like an autistic person🤷‍♀️

    • @omegle9925
      @omegle9925 Před 2 lety

      @@ME-nw7er same

    • @erenb.2806
      @erenb.2806 Před 2 lety +2

      Idk some people have told me that, i still hardly believe it.

    • @suja605
      @suja605 Před 2 lety

      @SpeedyArrow_420 that's really nice

  • @shravya422
    @shravya422 Před 2 lety +4

    Worst thing for introvert is that when your best friend leave you because he/she finds new one 😢😢

  • @aayushipal4023
    @aayushipal4023 Před 2 lety

    Thankyou so much sir, you shared such useful insight. I came to know myself, preferably MY OWN POWERS because of you. I'm an introvert . And thankyou for explaining myself to me so well. 🙇🏻‍♀️👍🏻

  • @LeFxxckingMoustache
    @LeFxxckingMoustache Před 3 lety +572

    „Why introverts are so attractive?“
    Me, to myself : WE ARE??

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade Před 3 lety +10

      Me: I wasn't aware of that and, i don't care if i am or not actually.

    • @codyw1
      @codyw1 Před 3 lety +5

      It was news to me also...

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade Před 3 lety +2

      ​@Oliver Windsor Just a guess but maybe because it makes you feel empathic as you realize how much people have little trust in their appearance? There are people who write based on their own experience so their strong opinion isn't going to change easily because a CZcamsr says the contrary.
      I'd suggest, if i am any near right, to stop reading these comments. You'll only ruin your self-confidence ; remember you ARE not the person you're reading.

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade Před 3 lety

      ​@Oliver Windsor In that case, my apologies. I did went ahead of myself with my answer. Sorry once again and thank you for taking the time to explain yourself.

    • @SssagaBenches4U
      @SssagaBenches4U Před rokem

      Sudden realization only to be crushed down by girl you ask out.

  • @yobiyobi8138
    @yobiyobi8138 Před 3 lety +652

    FJ: "Introverts are mysterious. This is simply by virtue of them being . . . quiet."
    My crippling tendency to overshare: Am I a joke to you?

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 Před 3 lety +14

      Relatable 😭

    • @chi6454
      @chi6454 Před 3 lety +34

      @Warda Siddiqui damn same when I get comfortable I start talking I don't stop and then I start talking about my childhood then Leads to awkwardness😂😭

    • @alexs6746
      @alexs6746 Před 3 lety +21

      I’ve somehow found a way to over share yet share nothing

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 Před 3 lety +9

      @@alexs6746 Teach me please-

    • @mikatosis
      @mikatosis Před 3 lety +5

      me trauma dumping on the bus

  • @loniwatson8110
    @loniwatson8110 Před rokem

    Party of one! Yeehaw!
    Love it, live it ❤️

  • @sgr2864
    @sgr2864 Před 2 lety

    I completely completely agree on the last point

  • @fiorellalescano
    @fiorellalescano Před 3 lety +756

    If you want another reason: because you tell us to stay cool and attractive, haha 😎. I remember I had a conversation with another introvert and he told me that I was the least annoying person of our group of friends and that's why he felt so comfortable with me. I really felt flattered about that. :3

    • @fiorellalescano
      @fiorellalescano Před 3 lety +4

      @@smalltownvvitch 💖

    • @nobody_fadhhlanndy7
      @nobody_fadhhlanndy7 Před 3 lety +12

      How is this comment is from 15hrs ago, when this video is uploaded literally 7minutes ago?

    • @Mia-de8xf
      @Mia-de8xf Před 3 lety +12

      @@nobody_fadhhlanndy7 it's a mystery

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 Před 3 lety +4

      did you get his phone number?

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 Před 3 lety +3

      @@nobody_fadhhlanndy7 FJ puts out an early view of Ko-fi.com for subscribers.

  • @tvirusnoodle8608
    @tvirusnoodle8608 Před 3 lety +1538

    “Why introverts are attractive”
    Random person: “Why do you look so depressed all the time?”
    Me: literally just glances at them
    Them: “I’m sorry, I’m sorry if I offended you really! I’m sorry” *runs away*
    Legit happened today 😂

    • @cool_7391
      @cool_7391 Před 3 lety +77

      Same.. people that are not close to me, are just scared everytime I'm staring at them, and I'm literally not doing anything wrong tho. :))

    • @heathheather9805
      @heathheather9805 Před 3 lety +34

      This is so me!!! Im not sure why people feel like im depressed. Im just happy with no expression. But it bothers people

    • @edenzysk2906
      @edenzysk2906 Před 3 lety +6

      Same here.. and I don't even understand why they get scared by someone with social anxiety 🙈

    • @bimzzyamzy9621
      @bimzzyamzy9621 Před 3 lety +6

      It happened to me too😂😂😂😂😂I felt bad tho cuz I meant nothing 👀🌚I was abt to smile I was just a little late

    • @wagwanpifting154
      @wagwanpifting154 Před 3 lety +2

      @@edenzysk2906 probs cus u creepy

  • @Peter540Parker
    @Peter540Parker Před rokem

    I just found that before watching this video, I hadn't realized I am an introvert, but then I found I match all these 7 traits you mention. haha

  • @Mikkimouseclubmane
    @Mikkimouseclubmane Před rokem

    him causually validating our feelings

  • @leah8894
    @leah8894 Před 3 lety +793

    “Introverts are good listeners or at least they appear to be”
    Did he just call me out like that-

    • @AmnaAli-ci7lg
      @AmnaAli-ci7lg Před 3 lety +30

      Mate I zoned out in middle of the video what else do you expect from me!

    • @kerrymartin7557
      @kerrymartin7557 Před 3 lety +9

      😂😂😂

    • @etelebulcsumarton2234
      @etelebulcsumarton2234 Před 2 lety +4

      🤭

    • @meliamedaverman3558
      @meliamedaverman3558 Před 2 lety +3

      🤣😂
      I'm am an introvert and I appear to be a good listener but I am actually not.😂🤣 They think I am listening but they don't know I'm overthinking what they're telling me.lol

    • @MsSecretbitch
      @MsSecretbitch Před 2 lety +1

      😂

  • @wap6029
    @wap6029 Před 3 lety +1199

    "Why are Introverts so attractive?"
    Me: *So who's gonna tell him?*

    • @protorhinocerator142
      @protorhinocerator142 Před 3 lety +57

      That's just mean.
      ...and accurate.

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 Před 3 lety +7

      I didn't get it.
      Can you explain it to me

    • @phoenixangel5073
      @phoenixangel5073 Před 3 lety +39

      @@mohithhoney9630 we all ugly as fuuuu

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 Před 3 lety +15

      @@phoenixangel5073 I know that. Everyone is ugly in their own way and everyone is beautiful in their own way

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 Před 3 lety +2

      But I don't understand what @The Duck is saying

  • @bobspencildrawings6928
    @bobspencildrawings6928 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you so much for this video. I live it, I’m an introvert.

  • @ryukjoga
    @ryukjoga Před rokem

    Ty for making me feel better about myself ^-^

  • @GrumbleGamer18
    @GrumbleGamer18 Před 3 lety +482

    “Introverts are attractive”
    Me: “don’t believe everything you see on the internet...don’t believe everything you see on the internet...don’t believe everything you see on the intern- WHY CANT THIS BE REAL”

    • @rexdemon1590
      @rexdemon1590 Před 3 lety +11

      Yeah I would have so many friends I wouldn't talk to for a year. Because reasons.

    • @ilbuzdi
      @ilbuzdi Před 3 lety +1

      C'est la vie (same here)

    • @abstract0014
      @abstract0014 Před 3 lety +1

      Saying I am attractive is like saying jabba the hutt is Beautiful

    • @imjust8644
      @imjust8644 Před 3 lety

      @@rexdemon1590 same situation 🛌

  • @uditgor
    @uditgor Před 3 lety +4543

    What he's saying - what people perceive/what it actually is.
    1. Mysterious - Weird/awkward.
    2. Good listeners - inattentive/nonchalant.
    3. Powerful - closed off/anxious to make a mistake.
    4. Not annoying - shy/again, anxious to make a mistake.
    5. Introspective - narcissistic/love myself. So, basically, yeah. Narcissistic.
    6. Cool - reclusive/seriously? Us nerdy geeks? Cool?
    7. Presence - okay, maybe this might be true.
    Edit : Thanks for the 1k likes. And the narcissistic thing was a joke, jeez guys. Calm down.

    • @djefk7788
      @djefk7788 Před 3 lety +74

      @@sunandinighosh6037 that sounds way more like an extravert tbh

    • @sunandinighosh6037
      @sunandinighosh6037 Před 3 lety +51

      @@djefk7788 I can assure you I am very much introvert and I talk cut into the only conversation I have with my best friend

    • @Caedes69
      @Caedes69 Před 3 lety +33

      Seems...suspicious.
      But i vibe casually by myself

    • @unpseudototalementnormal517
      @unpseudototalementnormal517 Před 3 lety +98

      Well i hate myself so i guess i'm not narcissistic xD

    • @julianesteban4405
      @julianesteban4405 Před 3 lety +38

      I've never gotten so mad at something that I totally agree with

  • @anon9715
    @anon9715 Před rokem

    wow I've never felt this attractive before ! thank u