Are You Choosing to Finally Heal? | Dear Future Wifey S6, E606
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- There comes a time when one must face the trauma of their past and heal. We have the power to become our healed selves. Isaac Davis bravely shares the pain of his past and how he became intentional with "Overcoming Hurt."
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It's unfortunate what happen to this man. Powerful interview. Suggestion -Stay away from “why didn't you report it “... It sounds accusatory. Instead, ask...what
was your reason for not reporting it. It allows a person to not feel judged.
I appreciate that advice. I like your phrase better.
Totally agree with everything. This type of things need to be reported , to ensure it doesn't happen to anyone else.
Thank you for sharing this priceless tool.
@@DearFutureWifey the willingness to grow🙌🏾this is how revolution happens
Yesss
“If you truly want to be healed, you have to be vulnerable.” FACTS!
In my heart I believe Isaac hasn’t truly grieved what happened to him. In his nervous laughter, I felt his tears.
You are right Kimberly... That laughter says alooooot. There's no way you fully become whole without therapy, or counseling
Counseling, yup, did that. I can laugh because I reclaimed my power. This happened 30 years ago. Not saying that lightly but we decide how long they hold the power over us.
@@isaacdavis6716 Sir, I do believe you're lying to yourself but carry on. There's still hurt and pain in your voice. And the nervous laughter speaks truth. We are all praying for your continued healing in the Lord. And please call your ex-wife. You owe her an apology. You should have spoken to her before telling the world. The fact that she has to find out details on the internet is hurtful.
@@mizzrita01 How dare you come on here and attempt to shame him! SMH You should be ashamed of your words in the beginning of your comment!
Agreed. I pray he gets the healing he needs and Laterus gives him a do over on his show because this interview was hard to watch.
Laterras has a knack for drawing people out to show their true self...I have a thought that whoever I want to marry, I would like Laterras to interview them, so I can see the stuff that comes out. He sure has a gift in interviewing people.
Count me in... Even if it's on Zoom
@@DearFutureWifey well dang me too please lol 😁🙋🏾♀️
Absolutely 💯. Me three Laterras!!!😂
Looks like the birth of your new ministry LRW!
I love how discerning the women following this podcast are. And thank you Laterras for being discerning and asking the important questions in a graceful non condemning way.
Oh I need his level of forgiveness. I’m still battling forgiveness in that area 40 years later. 😮
Please unpack it I’m trying to understand that
This was a complicated interview. You handled it masterfully with the right mix of accountability and respect for your guests self determination
Well said Fatima :)
Facts
Bc he didn’t have to keep digging but he chose to follow T in that authenticity!
Do men realize that emotional intimacy is a stronger bond than physical? You’ve created a soul tie with this female best friend and you don’t think a wife will give you a side eye.. I don’t think that’s insecurity; that’s testing the spirit.
I concur. And I honestly think that's who he'll end up with lol
I have maintained an association with my high school boyfriend.
When he married his first wife, I exited.
They divorced.
She remarried, and died.
He's now married to his second wife.
About six to nine weeks ago, he text me -- always a friend vibe.
Holy Spirit BLATANTLY said, do not respond.
You are going to respect the boundary of the covenant.
There is nothing you need to talk about, even on a friendly basis, he is married.
I did my own self deliverance to abolish the emotional soul tie.
I also cancelled the familiar spirit.
Any time I meet a man interested in me, he contacts me.
We don't live in the same city.
Why does he know to message me, because of the emotional tie.
It's out of order.
I'm not participating in it anymore.
To thine own self be true.
What I know is, if I would say on any day of any year, we can date, be a couple and marry -- he would leave her.
He is not my husband.
He never will be.
He is not my friend.
When I marry, I want to bring in blessings.
I can help create this by honoring other people's marriages.
My daddy told me a man always wants what he cannot have.
When he was my boyfriend in high school, I finally had enough sense to know at that young age -- this ain't who God has for me.
i was wrong all these years to keep the 'emotional connection' through conversation only.
To help myself, I took a break from my corporate career, to go to a ministry school for biblical healing & deliverance.
This is how I know how to do self-ministry now on myself; and, lead others through ministry.
I know trauma.
I know abandonment.
I know a half-baked cake.
I know multiple identity.
I know DID.
I know compartments.
I know hyper spirituality.
Lord, may we each choose to be washed in the water of your word.
Lord, may we all have laser discernment to be covered in right-relationship with safe people.
Lord, may we all have uncanny wisdom to not launch before the four corners are our character are grounded.
Lord, may we each choose to be in marathon-mode to learn your biblical tools of healing & deliverance [which is not limited to prayer].
Lord, may we have the audacity to let our hearts break at the feet of Your Cross.
Lord, may the stored trauma in the cells of our bodies and the pathways of our literal brain be supernaturally dispelled through Your blood.
Lord, may their be a reckoning revival of repentance for church leaders living and deceased.
Lord, may you add to the remnant of us [globally] who are safe havens for people to receive confidential healing & deliverance ministry.
Selah.
I love you all digitally.
@@latashiamoody8872Exactly! That's what happened with Blaire Underwood. He's now ENGAGED to his best friend of 30 plus years.
I know I do
Preach.... I said the same thing. I came to the comment section to see if others were discerning the same thing I was. And sure enough, many see through his nervous laugh & it doesn't make him bad or anything, he's just not ready for a meaningful relationship that will lead to marriage at this point, as hard as he was riding for his best friend is the red flag for a potential mate if he doesn't course correct. Hopefully, he'll rewatch this interview and see what the rest of us see. May God continue to deliver him and he be real honest with himself. 🙏
Hopefully Issac will be a returning guest. Once he watches this episode, my prayer is he'll recognize where he still needs to heal and grow. Praying for you Isaac.
Agree
Agree
Yes indeed
Denial is very different than forgiveness… praying for him and all of his healing and future relationships 💚
Yes! He is in denial.
Deep
It was unrealistic to forgive a man immediately who just rape you in an unnatural manner. He said he forgive immediately. The he said when he went to car. The level of violation will almost be the same measure of time for forgiveness and healing. I would respect him more if he said he hated the pastor for a While but to forgive same time. No. No way that is humanity possible
Well done for calling that whole best friend thing out! I laughed so hard when you said you might have a girlfriend and not know it 😂. I had a male best friend we spoke about everything, took trips, but in reality when we both got into committed relationships the dynamics changed, they had to change to make our significant others comfortable and implement some boundaries. People might say yeah yeah that's fine but once you are in the same house and your wife/ partner is on the phone to their best friend of the opposite sex jealousy naturally creeps in.
Please come back to this guest in the future for a “Where are they now?” In fact, add this segment when applicable because healing is a journey. This brother is not being transparent and 100. He may be giving 100 in the moment but there is more to uncover or as you say, UNPACK. It may not be for the world to see but please give him after care. I love this MENistry. Its more than a platform. God heal all of is that we may honor you by healing the world that we have influence in/around. May have scars but I am healed!
T, I so respect you giving Isaac patience and dignity while being vulnerable! And seeing he still has some knots to work out but acknowledging the work he’s doing right here in front of you. That’s grace. That’s love.
This episode was stressful to watch. I am glad to see Laterras hold him accountable to his answers throughout the interview. May God continue to heal.
i thought i was the only one... ohhhh my goodness... very stressful...
SO VERY STRESSFUL. I almost felt like I was irritated with him, but it's moreso pity for him that he thinks he's healed, but he really has not processed that genuinely. For him to say that any real man responds to sexual assault by going to have sex with a woman was appalling. That's such toxic logic and he believes it wholeheartedly. But never quite realized that it was shortly after that that he started cheating on his wife. He was overcompensating for the sense of losing his manhood.
On top of that, if this is the first time it's coming to light, how many other men, women or children did that Pastor and set of deacons assault that way in the last 20-plus years? This is not good!
😢whew. Dating? Sir seek help. That happened on the 1st wife and she didn’t know? Baby, I don’t know what I would have done!
I am so glad someone else felt this way.
Beyond stressful! Jesus help
I appreciate Laterras holding him accountable in this entire episode .... #TrueBrotherhood
Amen! I definitely agree.
Yes!
Like all the way
Amen.
Agreed! He definitely was looking out for the ladies.
I feel Issac still has a way to go in healing, but admitting the pain is an initial step forward. Good luck on your journey, sir.
Amen!
I agree with you…he not healed yet…he calls a stingy man, intentional 🤔🤔 Lateras my brother…let’s not repeat this error in guests selection 😂😂🥴
So do we all
He didn't even admit to that..... The entire thing was very difficult to watch.
@@DaddyzGurl how many times have you admitted that you were wrong... We need to learn grace honestly
As a Christian LPC, I want to thank you for asking the challenging questions that were racing through my mind. I'm still pondering on the female best friend discussion due to not hearing any clear boundaries that will be established when a wife comes along. Healing is a journey and I'm glad that you are using your platform to help so many. P.S. that prayer in the middle of the podcast for those who have been sexually assaulted was POWERFUL!!! To God be the Glory. :)
Come on now... I said the same thing 🔥🔥🔥
And prayers for the men who watched this take place. Are they seeking therapy??
Some of the questions early on that are intended to clarify appear to be retraumatizing.
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I pray he gets therapy. It seems that he has never truly dealt with that trauma. That’s a tragic situation. My prayers are with him.
I think Isaac has a lot more healing to do, but I applaud his openness with sharing his story. Thank you for this episode, Laterras!
Dear Isaac's BFF,
Thank you Sis, for allowing God to use you in such an eloquent way... and for you being YOU... For having the STRENGTH to COVER our Brother.. For the strength to endure and walk with Isaac on this journey...
The enemy is using your friendship to deflect from the TRUE purpose of this video...
I KNOW that its a HEAVY cross to bear..
You are a VALUED part of KINGDOM CURRENCY... We appreciate and honor you Queen🤗❤!!
Isaac seems like a great guy who’s done alot of work but hes showing some major red flags here. A lot of healed and intentional women looking for a true partner will likely run the other way. The emotional connection with his best friend leaves no space for a wife. Cheating/infidelity is not just physical. I could be wrong but I suspect that Isaac fears true intimacy which is why he creates so many boundaries and rules throughout his dating process… there’s a certain rigidity that leaves no room for a true connection. Having said that, I do wish him the best and pray he finds what he’s looking for. We all want to love and be loved. ❤🙏🏽
You know I couldn't agree with you more on this. I've just been sitting here watching the rest of this episode and was literally thinking the same thing. Laterras was on it though... thoroughly on it... but prayerfully Isaac gets what he is looking for.
yes! Laterras was respectfully holding him to task. @@ms_fearfullyandwonderfullymade
I agree, once he started talking about dating it seemed to go downhill for me. Something wasn’t clicking for me and it gave a huge red flag
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I thought it was only me lots of red flags!!
I applaud him for sticking it out as the only male in that LIT society 👏🏽. I think he does not realise that the violation changed him tremendously. Forgiveness does not mean you leave the process behind. You will still have to go through it. He is meeting the wrong ones, we love intentional brothers 😝.
Thank you! Yes, it changed me for the better. This is only an hour interview and we didn't want the entire episode to be about that trauma. Please realize this happened almost 30 years ago.
@isaacdavis6716 your transparency was refreshing, through your laughter I hear your willingness to be healed. I pray your continued strength. Bless you for being LIT
I’m so
@@isaacdavis6716 it was courageous of you to share your story.
@@isaacdavis6716 thanks for sharing. Be blessed King!
When he said God asked him how long was he going to hold on to the offense of his wife cheating and that he was making that situation an idol.. I felt that!
Another great episode!
He cheated too so I was confused
@@DaddyzGurlIt appears he cheated in the first marriage and not the second. I could be wrong but I believe that is what I heard.
He's still has some growing and healing to do. He has opened up but there's still a lot more to reveal to HIMSELF. He's going to have to be willing to do a deep dive into it all to allow him to fully heal. He can get married again but I pray she, whomever he chooses, is willing and able to support him through it because it won't be pretty.
I totally agree with this👌
I beg to second that!! A lot of healing/growing. He is NOT yet ready to be a husband.
Exactly, he is not ready
The fact that he was married 21 yrs and that violation happened in the 4th yr of his marriage, and he didn't share that with his wife, but sharing this openly with the word is perplexing to me. That should have been something he shared with his wife within the confidence of that marriage. Not her finding out with the rest of the world. 😥🙏 I pray for all parties.
This episode was really touching. Mr Whitfield kept it real with Isaac, he needs to go ahead and be one with his bestie. The words he used to describe her without thinking about it are words one would use to describe their significant other. It has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy from a potential new spouse, he lights up when speaking about his bestie.
🎯‼️
😁😁 you will have to know the FULL story and you have to understand purpose.
@@isaacdavis6716 alright but ijs... Your best friend had you hype just talking about her 🤷🏾♀️.
I noticed that, too!
@@aurareid5652 I think he should watch the episode himself so he can see what so many people have mentioned. UNLESS she's a lesbian then and only then it will make sense.
I appreciate Isaac for opening up and it sounds like he is still healing. I pray for your continued healing and to those encouraging him to get married a 3rd time...just let this brother properly heal. Marriage is not the solution 🙏🏿
Preach 🔥 🔥
You are so right. If anything marriage exposes who you are at your core. I appreciate that Isaac was vulnerable enough to share in this forum.
I applaud his ability to share what many men will never share...to publicly do so takes unimaginable courage. I also applaud his will to stand strong on his faith and beliefs...he just still has a way to go to be ready to see himself unfiltered. He still has some walls up and he doesn't see that even though he's protecting himself...until those wounds are COMPLETELY HEALED AND FORGIVEN he will not ever be ready for the wife he claims to want. She will see the red flags and run...its not them that's not ready...they have discerned its him that's not really ready.
Glad to hear Isaac a childhood friend address the issues of the pain from his past. We never know what people have gone through in life and it should be our primary reason to have more compassion and understanding for one another. The journey of healing is an ongoing process and Isaac still have a journey ahead but opening up about being violated is about to definitely heal in a way you haven’t experienced. It takes courage to open up about being sexually violated. That’s why I shared my story when I was interviewed here on the Podcast. Now other men that’s been suffering in silence can come forward and heal as well. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you Lestine!!! We are in this fight together.
I love this
@@nissihuni7823 Thank you 🙏🏾
@@LestineBellTV no problem sis 🤗
I enjoyed the conversation. Thanks for the prayers. I needed that. Was violated around age 19, by a friend's co-worker. The guy liked me, but he was a little too old for me at the time. Will spare you the details but I am now 64. We all worked at a government agency. My friend and I were summer employees. She and her boyfriend, and another lady are the only ones who knew. They guy retired a few years ago and I heard the ceremony was awful. Many women showed up and spoke about what he had done to them. His wife was horrified. I understand he is a minister, married with children. I pray he has not done anything since becoming a minister.
Sis, I am so proud of you for opening up and sharing. God will use you to heal many just like He is using me. I am praying for you to continue to walk in freedom and wholeness. 💜🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I understand Isaac and his ability to forgive..but forgiveness is separate from justice. I pray he is able at some point to or that he already has, exposed these men who violated him. As a survivor I can say that if there’s no exposure they’re still in that church doing the same thing. Prayerfully a group of men will expose this evil. I understand what I’m saying very well, in me exposing the truth my family and I are estranged and have been for decades. I am at peace with it because I wouldn’t stand by and allow anyone else to be hurt. I applaud Isaac’s courage. Unfortunately this happens in church a lot.
Laterras!!! Sir!! That prayer was so powerful. 😭I truly felt God moving in the hearts of those men. My God!!🙌🏾🙏🏾
I pray for healing for Mr. Isaac. As I myself healing too and I respect him being very vulnerable but……..I pray the light of JESUS truly truly shine in your life. Thank you so much for being very loving and professional to him. As I watched you keeping everything together is amazing.
This man sounds delusional. He needs to ask God who He himself is. God is not an author of confusion, and his whole conversation is all over the place. I pray God’s clarity over him.
Yes he sounds very confused & fickle. He’s the type that would wake up & break up with u just because
He would wake up and break up with you because he finally realized that he's in love with the best friend, lol.
I applaud you for talking about your experience. Thank you so much.
This was hard to watch, tho.
The blind… unprocessed pain 😢 whew
I became asexual as a result of childhood sexual abuse. When I got saved I cloaked it in spirituality thinking it was a “gift” from God in order to remain sexually pure. I wrote books taught sermons etc under the guise of sexual purity when in fact I was subconsciously afraid of intimacy because of the violation. Unlike Laterras, very few challenged my view. I don’t think it was because they didn’t care but because I wasn’t ready. I had built this whole protective doctrine around the violation so nothing they could have said would have changed it. But when God finally reached my heart, JESUS… is all I can say. I thank God that when those broken areas of Isaacs heart awakens and begin to speak, he will have the healing balm of Jesus to make it through. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾❤️♥️
Amen!
Thanks for sharing..I. Be strong... many blessings
Amen.
Thank you for sharing.
I applaud the gentleman in sharing a deeply hidden trauma that may free someone else but I think it's going to open a wound that never really healed...I pray his strength in the Lord.
Sexual assault is hard to talk about period. Then add being in the military AND being a man… I am so proud of for talking about it publicly! I don’t care how long it took. You’re helping others. 💜💜💜💜
I’m trying to figure out why in the world the BFF isn’t the spouse, too. In the beginning, Isaac said the spouse should be the BFF, too. Lord, if the BFF is the one, open his eyes. *Laughing, but serious* 1:04:35
Amen. I respect Isaac for sharing that tough part of his past. There is no correct way to do that.
I’m like hmmmm your wife is probably your best friend. Lord open his eyes 🙌🏾🙏🏽🙌🏾🙏🏽
Because Isaac may still be mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually not healed and, if so, wouldn't be able to handle that level of accountability in a close intimate relationship such as marriage. As friends, he can escape whenever he's feeling overloaded emotionally. Observing this interview, I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole because he's clearly unbalanced in his being.
I feel so heart broken for that man, no one deserves that. He needs deliverance. I pray God exposes that so called pastor and his assistance, so disgusting. 😤
Isaac thank you for your bravery. You truly were a big brother to us in the LIT society; lifting us up as your sisters while at the same time sharing the male perspective
I pray that you that each time you share your testimony you move a step closer to complete healing 🙏
Thanks, Candice.
It is possible that he is extremely uncomfortable with publicly sharing such sensitive info. Also, its possible he has not dug deep enough into the issue to have the level of resolve that solid healing brings. It would have been wise to disclose to the kid's mother before going public. She needs to know and go through her feelings and eventually be ready to handle the kid's feelings ince they know. Anyway, Jesus, therapy and honesty go a long way. Be healed and blesssd.
I used to say I am very forgiving and forgive very quickly. Watching this episode made me question myself for the first time ever. (It be your own spiritual leader, when church is supposed to be the hospital it at times make you leave more damaged then you came.) Was it really me forgiving or me not allowing myself to process the trauma? Thank you Laterras for the respect, space, accountability and grace you demonstrated!
He was traumatized for sure because there is NOOOO way something that brutal can happen and forgiveness is your first thought.
I was led here after my cousin Whitney’s wig fiasco lol and I’ve been watching ever since. Very informative content. People and their life stories are so complex. It’s amazing to hear people open up this way!! Praying for him on the rest of his life journey 🙏🏽💕
Isaac, my LIT brother, I am so proud of you. Fully who you are in front of the world. God was intentional about you being the only male in the group. It is healing grounds. When the doors of my prison opened up when I shared my story, I did not expect for you to walk out behind me. Look at what the Lord has done. I am still in tears. This time tears of joy for your freedom. Like Laterras says, “Free men free men.” You, my brother are a chain breaker. Listen to the sound of the chains falling. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Keep being extraordinary my brother. It looks amazing on you! Well done, King! 💜👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you
@@isaacdavis6716 You are welcome 💜🤗
WE LOVE YOU ISAAC!!!!🤗🤗🤗👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@kingdomkrafted6200 💜
YASSSSSS!!!! Love you Bro🤗🤩😍@Isaac Hey Sisters!!! Hope you Ladies are well!!
Healing and love toward our brothers
Many people are saying this man needs healing, but what they feel to realize is that God has given each of us a measure of grace.
I think there's a danger in limiting what God can do. The same way, God gives some joy and others peace, he can give the grace to forgive quickly. We are just so used to forgiveness being a process when in truth, and in fact, if we are moving in God's imag, it can also be instantaneous though the flesh may go through a process.
I'm grateful for this man's testimony and the grace upon his life.
Outcomes. People tell others and themselves many things, but outcomes tell the truth. I applaud the gentleman for sharing what happened in an effort to help others to heal and in seeking healing himself. However, the narrative about easy forgiveness juxtaposed to the harsh "standards" imposed on women seems incongruent with total healing. Sometimes we tell ourselves we are over something so that the something doesn't cause us to feel overwhelmed and so that we can cope with day to day life. The outcome of being hard on women now just doesn't speak to being healed and whole. Standards are great to have and we all need them. This sounds less like standards and more like fear.
Well stated! 👏🏽
Omge I'm 25 minutes in and this episode makes me want to cry smh. Sir you were a victim! This is definitely a state of numbness because protection will down play what one has went through. There is still alot of healing that needs to take place for sure. Jesus. This is no joke. God bless him 🙏🏻 Also, I commend him for even sharing. Sometimes that's the first step so this may be it my goodness. Healing is your portion!
Agreed. There are levels of numbness... I've been there...
Crazy part is... I haven't returned to "church" in 11 years..... when I was 14 ...I was verbally sexually harrased by a 51 year old man as I worked with him as a teen at my 1st job. Fast forward Years later this same man ended up being a pastor at the Church I was apart of I was told I needed to just forgive him and let it go. Also after my divorce from *my son's dad. The "leaders" of the church simply spread rumors and gossiped about my divorce. While sleeping with each other's spouses and "praying over my marriage" while the "Angel of the House/Bishop" himself was having an affair with his 1st lady's Best Friend a fellow deacon in the church. Whom he left and is now his new 1st lady. It was TOO MUCH judgment and shaming not enough support and true guidance so I soooooo appreciate this transparency
WOW!!!! Sorry you had to go through that 😥
Sorry you went through that
Thank you for your transparency!
I'm so sorry 🙏🏼
WOW THIS IS POWERFUL!! IM PROUD OF YOU YOUNG MAN! ITS TIME TO BREAK THE GENERATIONAL CURSES! IT STARTS HERE! TRULY DEALING WITH TRAUMA AND HEALING THROUGH VULNERABILITY!SO THE NEXT GENERATION CAN BE BETTER! AMEN
There is much to be said when you're jn the hot seat of the Interview and unsure what questions will be asked next. Appreciate his transparency but agree that more healing needs to take place. Even though he mentioned forgiving instantly, it is a process just like grief and any other emotions.
He on a good track to healing but needs to reconsider his openness about the Best friend. He may not see that most people marry their best friends for many of the reasons he identified. Continue to heal brother... thanks, for the Accountability pieces, Laterras.
Love ❤️ this Podcast. First I thought more than 20 minutes was too long, but the content is worth the listening time
Blessings!
This man really confuses me; I wish him all the best. May God give him what he needs and may God prepare him well for all he grants him 🙏🏾
I agree with you. I didn't want to come and be negative, but I feel like he is not communicating well. The way that he cuts off so many of his thoughts and won't elaborate on what he means by "intentional," or what his "standards" are because he thinks it would giving away his dating secrets...???
To feel the pain and anguish and denial that men suffer through (I know women suffer too), but the trauma for men to go through sexual abuse and keep it to themselves for years; this was traumatic just listening to that part.
LRW, HS is working; we see His hand at work in your ministry and it is blessing us in so many ways.
I'm usually wowed by many of your guests Latterias but there was a lack of clarity on many spectrums with this guest. I will add that it's okay because we are all still on a journey.
I was literally thinking this EXACT SENTIMENT!!
I felt the same way. I believe Latterias was masterfully using wisdom, choosing not to lean in too much, for this moment in time. Unfortunately however, I believe like myself, many went partially deaf after hearing about the violation. The energy of the interview shifted…even for Latterias. There is power in Issac’s share that is still pending…
I had to comeback and do a rewatch after attending watch night service. After humbling myself, I received this entry in a different way. I truly pray for his healing and I can see why it’s hard for him to release control in relationships and why it would be hard not to nitpick when it comes to a partner especially when his second wife cheated adding onto keeping a secret from his first wife for double digit years inside a covenant. He’s been through ALOT. I appreciate this video because it shed light on what the process looks like whereas the world loves to see finished projects, fairytales and the shiny picture. He’s trying to heal and I feel bad for judging him initially because the journey to want healing and want better outcomes is a path many choose to never take. I truly hope that whenever God sends me the person I am to help, I embrace that he won’t be finished and I release the pressure I put on myself to be a finished project before receiving good things. Marriage is not a prize for following God or once you “made” it. Someone will have to “wash” me no matter how healed I think I am. The beauty of relationships and marriage should be to accept someone’s good, bad and ugly and send them back to God looking more like him and His love. I may not be graced for Isaac because of my needs but I pray for the woman who is graced to help him, even if it ends up being the bestie lol
I think imma have to do the same thing bc I'm getting a lil holier than thou upon first listen. I usually receive a msg from the guests on the show--- i shall return
@@PinkiePPearl yeah I had to listen to his story more and what he’s experienced/experiencing vs. some of the guards/language he uses to navigate life at the moment. I still don’t necessarily think he’s ready to marry tomorrow lol but I can now respect that he’s ready to heal or in the process of accepting it.
@Dreka Thigpen Thank you for your response. I am not perfect at all. Am I a finished product? Not at all. You hit the nail on the head about that. However, don't allow a 15-minute conversation about my trauma to judge my entire life. There is so much more to me. I shared a 30-year ago trauma. Then, a 5-year ago failed marriage that I take full responsibility for when knowingly I was warned to end. Let's go deeper. Hit my DM on IG
@@PinkiePPearl I think that feeling comes from him claiming to be healed and intentional. From what he has presented to us, he is not. I was triggered. I accept that. Through therapy and reading Proverbs, I have learned to really observe people and discern beyond the surface of what is said. I honestly don't think he is intentionally this way. He's just not being honest about alot with himself. Healing is a life long process. His ain't over. Mine ain't over. I'm working on the proper way to respond to triggers and to eventually become less triggered. It starts with being honest with ourselves.
@@amaragrace94 yes! This is it. There’s nothing wrong with his current place and it’s not up to us to judge it. Like you said, it’s up to the women he dates to discern and ask God is she graced for him or does he need more space to grow.
This episode was a great example of how wishy washy some men can be. I love Isaac but he clearly doesn’t know what he wants & when he wants it. I’ll pray for him bc by watching this episode it shows that he probably wouldn’t be a great leader in a relationship but a go with the flow kinda person. On another note maybe it’s just hard for him to articulate his responses especially being in the hot seat with Laterras & his deep questions 😂😂.
🤣 thank you. Yes, on the spot impromptu questions and nervous about my life that I have never discussed openly. To question my leadership, 🤔🤔🤔! You get a small glimpse into my life without knowing who I am. But that's your opinion. Respectfully, I disagree, but that's me because I know me.
I commend this man for sharing something so personal. Watching this interview, I can't help but think that he needs some additional therapy. It does not seem as though he has fully processed all that has occurred with respect to his being violated. In this interview, it is apparent that while he may be in the process of healing, he does not appear to be fully healed. God can do all things and He has given professionals wisdom to help us process life situations. I pray that he continues on the journey to healing and that if he is not actively engaged in therapy, he seeks professional help.
IKYL! How could this happen to anyone at church? Anywhere? Lord I wish he would have reported this. These five men could have done this to so many others! I’m in tears right now! This is horrible!!
This is a different level of forgiveness right here. Brother Isaac, I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It is my prayer that you have truly done the work to be completely healed. May the blessings of the Lord be upon you and your ministry!
Happy belated birthday! I’m the same way Issac. I’m very direct and straight forward. I’m too old to be playing games. I need my man to be intentional.
Pray, protect, and provide. Yep! But it’s important for the lady to have something to offer as well.
I’m preparing for 2023 also. 10 days water only, 3 day dry (nothing at all), and prayer and quiet time with God. LOL! “You gone be a spirit”….🤣🤣
This was a good one Laterras. I love that you know your audience. We ready for intentional men.
It sounds like his BF is his soulmate….. 🤔
Definitely should have been reported, how many others have suffered from these wolves the sheep clothing. Forgiveness is good but it shouldn't stop him from reporting. It is still not too late. Mothers cover your sons... in those so called cult church. Thank God for his healing.
It happens alot, more than you can ever imagine. There a guy on CZcams "Dawson speaks" that covers alot of the "church folks ". Most are worse than ppl on the outside
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I believe it's important to expose the 5 individuals to protect others. I'm certain that act was repeated. However, it may create more drama than it's worth....
@@karlabrown5567 It’s been over 15-20 years if my math is correct. It may be too late. But I would definitely encourage him to keep talking about it. Not to expose them but to continue and complete his healing.
There are some horrible things going on in churches. I am shook! 😢😢😡😡
I feel Isaac need healing still. Especially how he view relationship. Mr. Whitfield you did an amazing job making this podcast worth watching. I pray continue for Issac’s healing and wisdom🙏
Thank you.
Thank you
Powerful testimony, so glad the spotlight of men experiencing violation was shared. The needs of men are important too, are you prepared for what you are praying for? Have you allowed God to shape you to be the support to the man of God that God is bringing to you. The best part is how he said some women aren't ready. Are you hearing some women say some men aren't ready or are they saying all men? Wisdom of God recognizes that it isn't all men or all women.
I see and hear a whole lot of coping mechanisms here. I am truly sorry to hear that you were violated. I wholeheartedly pray that the Holy Spirit heals you completely!! Father God I understand his desire to spread the gospel while broken. By your stripes he will heal but also be whole 🙏🏾 Father we bless your name. Amen❤️
What a great way for us to look in the mirror, I love what you are doing. Thank you for your obedience. To much is given much is required ✝️ Many blessings to all
This man is saying that his testimony can basically be healing for other men. He needs to exposed those men that violated him, so they won't violate other men. In Jesus name
The comments on this video are some of the most compassionate, kind and helpful comments I have ever read. This video was truly captivating and touched me deeply ❤
Laterras, you put on your Bishop Briefs for this one! I love an intentional man and I am so glad this brother has moved a mountain from all he has made it through! I would love to hear back from Someone your guest is currently dating. There is something “missing” in his current dialogue. Something makes me feel as if he isn’t ready for real; almost as if there will always be always “something” the lady will lack! It sounds a bit pretentious at some points in this. Laterras pulled him back on track to true perspective in many instances! Maybe it’s me… I don’t know! 💁🏽♀️
I know Isaac. And I can tell you that I know both he and his bestie. If you know both of them as I do then you would truly understand how genuine their friendship really is. Much love 🫶🏿
Thanks bro
I pray we stop worrying about a mate and focus on... what and why we where called here on this earth and our God will work it out for us ...we all want and desire Love at the end of the day💕
Wow! This is an amazing video! From it I gather that men and women are more alike than we actually think. As a woman, I guess I don’t realize that men hurt just as much as a woman can. Men are not necessarily these tough unemotional creatures. I didn’t know that men can feel the same way as women do about different issues at times. I understand a little bit more-thank you.
I don’t think Ike realize he have not healed yet you could hear it in all his answers. You can see it in his attitude. I think therapy would be a big help for him.
thank you for your bravery and transparency, i know that’s not easy to share.
I did enjoy the portion of the episode about Isaac and his best friend & setting boundaries. that’s very important
Thank you for hearing the boundaries.
I"m going to put Isaac in my prayers, he's a brave soul to openly talk about his horrible experience. I've never endured any type of major abuse or trauma, so I have no point of reference but in my spirit I see something in him that is not fully aware of the trauma impacts. His nervous laughter and lighthearted way of speaking of the horrific deed seems to be a way he's deflecting from his hurt. I am so proud of this conversation you are having with men who are suffering.
I hope 🙏 he receives the help he needs. Was that his first encounter? Why was the pastor and deacons so comfortable doing this to him without any repercussions? Did they stay at the church... gesh I wish LT unpacked that but I'm sure he felt something saying not to. That's why he prayed. This brother needs prayer and help 🙏 🙌 ❤️ 😢 ♥️
That part. My heart broke for him but I did wonder why the pastor so comfortable singling him out?
All of that. I need answers. The truth is somewhere in it though. 4 men? And no one had a problem with what went onnnnnn…. Idk
Mr. Whitfield, thanks for keeping it real with brother Isaac. We need people to keep it real with us because we have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves. This was a great episode! Thanks for sharing.
I agree with you wholeheartedly... a bit of denial may be a coping method he subconsciously don't realize he picked up....
Thank you for putting out positive and uplifting content.
My pleasure!
‘When you die, leave me those shoes you have on’ 😂😂 I love it here✨✨ Mixing truth, lessons and laughter together.
Thanks for showing up and being you Issac. No analysis of what you said is needed because you showed up, many would not. Period. Many Blessings to you and your continued journey of healing and love!
The Best Friend is probably the wife God has hidden right in front of his face. The best marriages are built on friendship.
Waiiit a minute…this episode has my emotions all over the place. What was done to this man shocketh me, I had to pause and ask myself did I want to keep listening. One emotion is that I feel sadness that this happened to this brotha, and all of the other brothas that this sick act has happened to. His strength in being vulnerable is amazing, but the causality in how it was said was shocking, at the same time all of it speaks to God’s mercy in this man’s freedom from what happened.
The other emotions I have is how badly I feel for his former wife and that she had no idea this happened to him that day due to the type of world we live in and our culture sweeping trauma under the rug, and not allowing men to be vulnerable and truthful right away about things like this. Heavy sigh. Although he didn’t say it, I’m sure their marriage suffered unbeknownst to the wife due to this secret. Who knows what could have been with their marriage if truth was able to prevail in our world.
A whole other emotion I have comes from my decade-long work in Public Health, specifically in HIV and STI’s. The first thing that came to my mind was HIV, and her not knowing what she could have possibly been exposed to that day, as well as him. The truth is if this Pastor is doing this to not just this man but there’s been other victims, this Pastor is part of a wider global problem of why our community suffers with the highest rate of HIV from men having sex with men (MSM), and not being open about their sexuality causing continued hurt and trauma to our community and to Black women specifically. Despite the obvious of what is needed such as therapy and counseling, I hope this brotha has been tested and that he finds the strength to call his ex wives and any other women he’s been with unprotected to ensure their health is in tack as well. We need to do better at protecting Black women in every sense of the way. This Pastor needs to be reported if not only for our communities mental well being, but our sexual well-being as well. Truth needs to set our community free, know the damage mentally, physically and emotionally this Pastor is causing in our youth and other brothas he is doing this to.
Whew that was a heavy one, thanks for the transparency and vulnerability this episode took.
Amen 🙏 your comment alone with your experiences and insights could be whole DFW episode, shining a light on the operations of the enemy. Please consider allowing the host to interview you. 🙏
Thanks for sharing so openly brother. It opens platforms for others.
Thank you so much Isaac for showing up as the authentic man of God that you are. I really enjoyed how you were honest and even decided to go to the LIT Healing class and being the only man. Shout out to you God bless you and Laterras🙏🏼
Issac’s first wife was confused for years! So learning this gave her confirmation as to many things she always wondered.
Can we discuss the intention? Keeping it LIT. I’m saying this with a loving heart and kindness (hard to read that through text). Women want the intentional man but we want it from the one we want it from. So if she didn’t want your ‘intentions’ try not to take it personal because that just means she wasn’t the one God has for you. Nothing wrong with him or her just not aligned in spirit, purpose, or both. Most cases we might mask it “I’m not ready” so we don’t hurt feelings and put it back on ourselves. We most definitely want it but may not see him as our husband. God confirms it with us as well. 43:37
Powerful world healing on so many levels! He is a brave man that took epic courage to share and the echo of truth will heal many❤❤❤
The wifey letter got me at my future husband praying over me….my heart just melted…him going to bat for me…I have no words for the joy in my heart just letting that sink in…
My heart is filled with gratitude hearing the letter….each letter is better than the last when I can’t even fathom getting any better….my heart opens more with goodness❤❤❤
Wow, this was so powerful! His testimony hit me like a punch in the gut - whew!! I pray for his continual healing and growth in Christ name, amen 🙏🏾
Part of your purpose should have been to report this to the police to prevent others from being harmed the same way. When you don't report it it makes you an accomplice by omission. Think of the catholic church and how many thousands of boys could have not gotten harmed had they removed those cardinals....
Sometimes the truth hurts (proverbs 27:6) , but glad he was able to take full responsibility and accountability in order to start his healing process.
But this 2nd part I had to come back and add, the bravery of this man is beyond me, On top of the forgiveness. I pray that this message reaches exactly who it needs to reach in Jesus name.
Exactly. I applaud Isaac. Some heros don't wear capes
That part! It will heal the people it is meant to heal.
@@isaacdavis6716 thank you for your bravery and courage. So many are suffering in silence!! Blessings 🙌🏾
This episode? I was driving to work, listening and I must have hit my steering wheel so hard! The forgiveness, the strength he has to share his testimony?! My God is able to do ALL things! Thank you so much for sharing!
Ha ha ha I'm here smiling to myself because that best friend might very well be his Future Wifey. Lol
This episode was timely for my healing journey especially that prayer that was said it addressed all the questions I had for God about my violation thank u Isaac for sharing your story.
I am so proud of him for speaking out!
ONG!!!! Laterrese!!!! This was so good. When I say God’s hand is aim you and your podcast. I so thank God how transparent this brother was. This has given me insight on what I need to pray for, for my future husband
Isaac thank you for your bravery, I pray for your continued healing in your journey. Laterras I am continually amazed by how God has anointed you for this ministry.
I really enjoyed this episode .... thank you brother Issac for your testimony and your honesty....its good to see a healed black man ..... keep healing my brother and keep living and loving God ... 🙏🙏🙏
So sorry about how this man was violated by a Pastor, someone who he probably felt he could be totally safe around; my ‘theory’ is all the other deacons had been violated too, they knew what the pastor was going to do the moment he instructed them to grab him, and his misery was one of the ways they dealt with their own pain, only it was short lived.
The reason I believe he forgave is, he stopped self destructing, though I can understand Laterras’ unbelief about whether he was truly healed
May GOD help him find his ‘one’
Love this podcast! Excellent! Powerful platform! Truth to empower the multitude!
In tears listening to this. Needed this.
Thanks Latarres for the tools you've continuously keep presenting for healing and relationship content through your guests. Thanks Issac for sharing the information or importance of asking God to help us to be ready for intentionality. It's funny how I just recently actually experienced this senerio with a guy at my church. I've been working on healing and intentionality for 2 years now but once I was approached by this guy who presented himself with intentionality, to be honest I sorta froze up.. lol so I later went to God and asked why, I did realize I wasn't ready as I thought... So this episode has blessed me and I'll continue to self-reflect and be open to hear from Christ.. Godblessings 2 you both. Make sure we all know the importance of grace because we can't get these things without our lord and savior 🙏
Another great episode. That letter was everything it brought tears to my eyes. I fought for my late husband until death parted us. Beautiful writing. Appreciate the transparency of Issac yet I would challenge him to take a deeper look within. Often the things we seek we already have. We seldom recognize the gift is already present.
Keep being L.I.T. 🙏
Great podcast as always. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing Laterras. 👏
Thank you for hearing the need to pray when many may judge and gossip. Healing of hurt.
First part of this was good. The last half shows he is too complicated. The right one can’t have space because he is too complicated. He doesn’t understand it yet.
Absolutely the truth..and the fact that he is clueless to it is beyond me. I pray for his continued healing. Complicated is the perfect word for him. 🙏
I have the biggest feeling Laterras will doing another episode in the future with Issac AND his “best friend” as his wife!
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@@isaacdavis6716 I’m just saying🤷🏽♀️💁🏽♀️😂😂
Your channel and dedication is remarkable!
I am learning so much about men and how they function and thrive...and thank you sincerely!
I was violated the same way and found I had the gift of forgiveness and an understanding of it beyond my years - I was 7 and 22 when it happened.
Wow! So sorry to hear you've experienced violation twice. I'm proud of your strength.
@Angie D, thank you for sharing and for having the understanding of forgiveness at our level.
@@isaacdavis6716 forgiveness is powerful but have you ever considered that you weren't the only victim. What had been done to you could have been done to others. Have you asked for forgiveness with your ex wife concerning this matter?