Kuv Yeej Piv Tsis Tau Koj Tus Niam Nkauj Txhav Qaib~06/05/2024~
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- čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
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Story description: He husband is a widower, and he would compare her to his late wife causing drama and family issues.
This guy has not had time to grieve the loss of his wife. What he did to you was not fair. He will not find a woman just like his dead wife, ever. I’m glad he loved his wife but it’s not fair to any woman.
What a perfect woman and stepmother. "Kuv yog nkauj xwb tiag mas nws yuav tsum nyoo kuv". This statement of yours reveals your true character.
Don’t be someone second always be someone first
Between and divorced man and a widower, I prefer a divorced man. To me, ib tug yawg ntsuag will always love his first. I need love, not just a replacement.
Obviously, he wasn't ready to move on. Widow or not, you can't simply force someone or expect someone to be the exact same as the previous person you lost.
I don't feel this guy is in the right.
Wow....koj mas heev tiag tiag os.
I can't believe u gave him another chance and went back! I would have never!
Lam khaws luag tus qub los hlub ces yeej lwj siab li no ntag nawb lawv aw...
Cia nws ua lub neej nrog kev npaum suav nrog tus neeg tuag xwb mas.
Hais kom koj niag txiv mus tsa nws tus niam nkauj txhav qaib rov los nrog nws ua neeg. You are not her and you don’t want to be her.
Yog kuv ces 1 los niam loj 2 los niam loj xwb ces ntshe kuv tsis ntshaw yuav nws li os.....nco niam loj npaum li ko ces txhob yuav poj niam li es kav tsij nyob nrog nws cov me nyuam xwb.
Zoo uas koj tus txiv vwm ko ho txawj hloov. Yog tsis hloov ces leej twg los yeej ua tsis tau nws tus Poj niam kiag li. Tsuas pom muaj yus piv rau nws tus niam nkauj zuag paj xwb. Yog kuv los kuv siab yeej tsis ntev rau nws li os.
There is so much sadness in this story. Many mistakes and false beginning.
1st, he didn't take the time to fully grieve over his deceased wife. 2nd, his daughters didn't grieve either. 3rd, he couldn't let go of the dead, and he isn't ready to move on. 4th, he should've packed up all his deceased wife things that he wants to give to his daughter's and store it away for them.
Regardless, I'm glad that you're able to work out the differences and work through your problems and issues. It's all about communication.
Best of luck
I honestly have no sympathy for you. What he did to you is wrong but what you are doing to the kids is wrong also. Throwing away all of the mom's personal items. They will never have any memories or items of their mother. You could at least just store it somewhere and when the time is right give to them so they can keep what they want.
Me ntxhais aw, tsis tsim nyog koj yuav xiav koj lub sijhawm rau niag tsov tom yawg ntsuag ko tsim txom koj lub siab lub ntsws os.
Cov yawg ntsuag kuv yeej pom ntau2 tus zoo li zaj no kuv twb ntshai lawm os cia cov poj ntsuag mam yuav cov yawg ntsuag xwb os
I’m glad things worked out at the end. I still feel that he’s just holding on to her because she looks like his ex. It was a good thing she told him to remove the deceased wife’s items. I’m sure he must have already store away his important things for his children. Seems like the old things are the things that prevented him from being able to move forward. It’s a great thing that he’s a great dad and loves his deceased wife. But if he’s unable to move forward with his current wife then he needs to also let her go back to her family. Since he chose to move forward with his current wife, I’m glad he decided to make these changes. Especially if she was not a bad person to begin with. I’m sure, as good of a dad as he was, he had already stashed his deceased wife’s items somewhere else instead of the house. And that’s a good thing he did so to save his current marriage.
Txiv neej ruam awb vawb ces zoo li no los mas
I am so piss at people who always compare you to their ex! They need to stop getting married and hurting other people who didn’t hurt them or pass away!! This is the most annoying thing in relationships!!
It’s hard being with a man / women who have kids & it’s also hard being with a man / women whose kids hated you & they always teach you!! They always want you to be like their ex, we are all not the same!! It takes one to know one!!
What’s worst is when you both have kids, making two families come together is harder! Just be glad you don’t have any kids before meeting him!! 😢 Its hard to be the bigger person but sometimes it’s better to stand up for yourself! If they love you, they shouldn’t compare!! It’s just so sad!!
Reason why I rather be single, too much comparing & it’s draining & exhausting!!
Some people; rather, they move on or not, they just mean asf!! If you don’t get out of the relationship, in the long run; would make you sick & have high blood pressure!!
People who keep comparing the spouse to the former spouse are not ready to move on. Should not get remarry.
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Sister you are your own person and should not compare yourself to anyone else. You have a big enough heart to give it another chance.
Tsis hais tuag los lawb, yog tseem niaj hnub quaj quaj nco nco txog ces tsis thas yuav tej tus ntawd li os lawv. Cas nej nim yuav maj khaws tej tug niag zoo li ntawd los ua nej txij nkawm naw?
Khaws tej tug li ntawd ces kawg ntsib lub maib ko xwb tiag.
This is why I never remarried or if I was single I wouldn't marry a widow man
Lub neej yuav yawg ntsuag thiab poj ntsuam mas ib qho ob qho luag yeej muab yus piv sias rau lawv tus niam los tus txiv tuag lawm xwb. Xum yuav cov poj nrauj los yawg nrauj zoo dua, thaum lawv tias yus tsis zoo los yus yeej tias lawv kuj tsis zoo tas2 thiaj maag nrauj ib yam thiab ces thiaj sib phim nawb.
I’m so happy everything worked out for u in the end.
Well this dude need to stay single longer if he expects his new wife to be like his old wife smhh… lady you should have stay single and find a different guy … good luck!
sister aw kuv yog koj ces nrauj lawm os yog tsis tau muaj me nyuam nrog nws na. tej lub neej zoo li no tsis vam meej thiab tsis nrog luag muaj li os. cov txiv coj li koj tus koj ces saib koj ntshaw nws npaum cas thiab saib koj paub tias koj yuav uv nws txog qhov twg xwb. koj ntsuas kiag koj li ciaj ciam xwb tias yog mus tsis taus ces tso tseg zoo dua qhov koj nrog nws nyob es nws piv zias koj rau nws tus niam uas tuag lawm xwb. cov zoo li koj ces caij koj kiag los tseem xav ntsoov tias koj yog nws tus niam ua tuag ntawv lawm xwb ces no good os. thiab cov me nyuam koj coj li mekas lawm xyov koj hlub tu lawv muab neej tag los xyov lawm pos yuav pom thiab hlub koj os. cov me nyuam coj li koj tus txiv cov ko ces lawm tsuas pom lawv txiv thiab lawm niam uas tuag lawm xwb lawv tsis xam muaj koj.
I would have left the moment he compared me and complained too much. No need to put up with a widow person.
Koj tus niam loj tsis yog kuv ntaus tuag ov ,
Vuag lawv kuv tseem tab tom paub Ib tug yawm ntsuag es, nws yeej nyiam22 kuv thiab tab sis mloog zaj no tas xyov kuv Yuav mus yuav nws lis, tsis Yuav ne?
Another story of the children wanting the step mom to be exactly like their mom. Very sad. At least we have to try to understand every one’s situation. A mad/bad husband trying to compare the dead wife with a live wife. He is not ready to move on.
Txiv dev xwb os yog txiv tsev es nco tus yus tus niam maiv npaum ko ces txhob yuav poj niam lawm lo mos niag txiv aub aw siab lim hiam xwb os
I have no idea to be on either side but I believe that he’s not ready to move on and he just needs you to cook and clean for him.
There is no love why married to each other.
Koj tus txiv ntxim hu nws tus pojniam tom ntxa los nrog nws ua neej, koj tsis tsim nyog yuav niag ntsej muag vwm ntawv kiag.
Twb tsis yog koj mus txeeb niam loj lub chaw tua niaj loj tuag ua li cas pheej yuav piv rau niam loj ces tsis tas yuav poj niam lawm tsis muaj leej twg yuav coj zoo sib xws li os tus me yawg ntsuag .
Koj totaub nws licas es koj txawm
siv khiav dawmtaw nrawv mus
yuav nws naj? Nws ne, ho totaub
koj zoo npaum li cas es nws txawm
siv ho yuav koj. thiab?
Neb sib totaub licas? Tus txiv yov
tsum totaub hais tias tus niam tshiab
yog neeg tshiab, nws lub siab tshiab,
txoj kev coj tshiab, txoj haujlwm
tshiab, hloov tshiab txhua yam thiab
tsis txhob muab txoj kev coj qub los
piv rau txoj tshiab Yog tus txiv xav kom
tau txhua yam li tus qub pojniam ces
cia li mus tsa kom nws sawiv los xwb
los mas. Tsam no koj mus yuav nws
koj totaub lawm los pauj? Koj ua
mov yeej tsis qab npaum luag tus niam
nkauj txhav qaib, koj txoj haujlwm yeej
piv tsistau nws tus qub pojniam txoj.
Thaum kawgkoj yov nyob li tus neeg uas
nyob hauv tubtuag teb xwb.
Tus txiv zoo li ko ces ua lub good bye xwb
Your husband needed therapy to help him deal with his grief. You didn’t have to erase his late wife from him and the kids. I like to hear what they think of you 20 years from now.
Tsa chij dawb zoo dua...tsis yog nws yuav koj lo ua niam tsev nws yuav koj lo ua nws qhev xwb
Ntuj aw zoo li koj ces khiav mus xwb nyob los tsis zoo dab tsi os viv ncaus
great story and share!
Wow i cant believe you made him throw away all his wife's pictures away. That's mean. You should've kept it in a safe place for the kids so they can have it when they grow up.
I leave him right away he’s not ready to move on with anyone n no feel sorry..Everyone is not the same, can’t be someone else.. that’s why he shouldn’t re-marry anyone till all the kids has they move out. Sim neej no tsis txhob mus ua luag niam and replace their mom it’s never work..
Ntuj aw 1 lo los Maiv 2 lo los Maiv muab yus piv rau nws tus Maiv xwb cas nws ho tsis nyob nws twj ywm es tseem txawj nrhiav dua poj niam tshiab naw yog koj koj thiab yuav xwb os
I feel like I heard this story already, but it was from the husband’s point of view.
Good or bad, you married him knowing he was a widow and he had 4 small children.
Just because you were never married before doesn’t mean they are at your mercy and should feel so lucky t🍀 have you in their lives. If you’re as great as you say you are, why hasn’t anyone married you?!
Just tell him "you ain't get no PIM tonight!" I'm sure he'll change his attitude so quick about you.😂
You have no right to throw their mother memories away. Bad step mom
HIS NOT READY TO MOVE ON WITH ANYONE. HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND THAT IN THIS EARTH NO ONE LOOK ALIKE OR ACT ALIKE. IT IS HARD TO FIND SOMEONE LIKE THE ORIGINAL.
NWS TXOJ KEV QUAJ CHEEM TSIS TAU VIM NEJ TSIS TAUG NEJ TSIS PAUB EASY TO SAY THEN DONE. This guy move on too fast within a year remarry....
Me the past 3 years I am still widower
I AM NOT READY TO REMOVE MY HUBBY'S BELONGINGS SO I AM NEVER GOING TO BE READY FOR ANYONE
First of all he’s treating you like a maid. And if it’s not yours, do not touch! If he keeps mentioning and comparing you with his dead wife, no need to stay with him.
It sounds like a guy who is controlling. If someone loves you, you don’t need to prove anything.
Tej tug txiv neej no g tsim nyog muaj poj niam os. Cas koj xav li cas ho yuav mus yuav ib tug txiv muaj tsheej pab me nyuam los tseem yuav quab yuam kom koj mloog lawv hais thiab ua raws nraim li lawv niam na. Kuv tus no g thab tej tug txiv dev liam no tos tau ua yawg ntsuag. Cia lawv ua ntsuag zoo dua mas koj ruam los yog nws zoo2 nraug es koj nyiam nws dhau.kuv ces bye bye tus txiv no thiab pab niag ntsuag plab loj no.😂😂😂
If you're not ready to move on after your spouse's death, don't! I've seen too many
Neb phem sib xws
Im glad he changed for the better but he shouldnt have put you on the spot comparing and throwing tantrums bc you cant be like his decease wife. Dude was not ready to move on and you shouldnt have to tolerate his nasty behavior and demands. Deep down he feel some kind of guilt but im not sure he is quite over his decease wife.. he knows if he dont give in to you, he will lose you and lose a good and patient woman that can put up with him. However, glad it all work out at the end.
You should leave him
Idk, if a guy does this he”ll be hearing about it for a good while.
I don’t agree with you on removing everything about the first wife. It’s so wrong! Just imagine if it was you! If everything about you was erase from
your kids 🙄🙄🙄🙄 She didn’t run off she died! Wrong!
That’s what you get for thinking that there’s only that widowed that’s left! You’re single girl why would you desperate enough to married?
Im sorry BUT making him toss all the important stuff of his first wife is SO WRONG!!!!! What wrong with him saving it for her kids, Koj Ces YEEJ piv tsi tau niam loj tiag smh.. lmao laam qhuas koj kom koj zoo siab kom nws txhob lonely 😅
That's what u call dysfunctional grieving. He took it to another level by finding a girl who looked almost like his late wife and attempting to mold her into the late wife. Glad he came to his senses and realized how STUPID he was being.
If you are going to make that many conditions for him, you should have just divorced him. He was wrong for always comparing you to his late wife, but you were wrong to demand him to throw away her stuff. He didn’t have time to grieve because relatives pressured him to get remarried right away. Sadly, that is not how it works but Hmong people have that dumb mindset. Replacement is not always the solution for healing. Therapy and surrounding yourself with a good support system are better options. Remarriage should only happen after healing.
He married you because you kinda look like his deceased wife. Red flags!
I dont take your side..sorry. i understand what you are going through but you shouldn't throw away the 1st wife belongings. Save it for the children. It seems like you're the type of women who wants attention. Koj siab me heev yog koj khoo kom muab niam loj cov khoom coj mus pov tseg tsis pub tseg cia rau tej mesnyuam saib ua dab muag. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Koj ruam dhau lawm es koj thiab lis mus yuav nws os. Kuv yog koj ces kuv twb muaj nws nrauj ntxov lawm os. Nws tsis paub hais tias. Nyias zoo nyias sib txawv nab. Aib thaub no vwm lawm.
Forget it… I would never marry someone who expects me to do/be everything exactly like his ex. Koj Ruam tiag2 koj thiaj li tseem kam rovqab mus yuav ib niag txiv es put you a second best. Los xyov puas tseem yog second best thiab. Yog nws tus niamloj tsis tuag ces you are nothing to him. You are very stupid.
Lom zem heev. Thanks for sharing
Zoo sab koj tug txiv tsis piv koj rua nwg tug nam nkauj txhaav qab lawm. Tsaug piv rua tug tuag lawm mas tu sab tshaaj. Tsaug Leej tug ntawv txha paub.
Cov txiv ko ces txiv dav xwb