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Hey there, it's Charlotte Dobre, and in today's video, we're going to be talking about bad dates that got exposed on TikTok.
Let's face it, we've all been on bad dates before. Whether it's the person being rude, showing up late, or just being a plain old weirdo, bad dates are unfortunately a common occurrence.
But what happens when these bad dates get exposed on social media for the world to see? That's exactly what we're going to be discussing today.
We'll be taking a look at some of the most cringe-worthy dates that were shared on TikTok. From people being ghosted mid-date to others getting stood up completely, these are the stories that will make you want to cringe and laugh at the same time.
But it's not just about the bad dates themselves, it's about the aftermath. We'll be exploring how these videos went viral and what the reactions were like from both the public and the people involved.
So, grab some popcorn and get ready for some seriously cringe-worthy content. This video is going to be a wild ride. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more juicy stories like these.
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When I was online dating, I matched with a guy and after chatting a bit he asked if I wanted to go out for dinner/drinks. I agreed. He asked for my address so he could pick me up. I very politely declined the pickup and said I would meet him there (I’m female - driving myself gives me a sense of security in many ways). He didn’t respond. After a few hours I texted and said “We meeting?” He responded “You wouldn’t let me pick you up so I assumed then that you would stand me up. So I am preempting that and cancelling the date.” That was wild to me. I’m sorry if you’ve been stood up by other women, but my wanting to drive myself and not give a stranger my address for safety reasons isn’t something I’m going to compromise for your bruised ego.
You were absolutley right in not giving your address to a stranger, and his risponse is a big red flag for me, the world is not a kind place and being a woman is more dangerous for us in many ways, so you were right in following your instinct
You made the right choice. Anyone that doesn't understand why you won't give out an address is a major red flag and likely dangerous.
Yeah thats crazy, Sounds like you dodged a bullet, honestly. Who gets mad that he can't get a strange woman alone in his car?
Honestly, the fragile ego shit is an instant turn off for me. I’ve dated plenty of guys who weren’t like that, so I know they exist & I don’t even bother w the ones who act like that.
If he just wanted to get a strange woman in his car, there are plenty of them on certain streets in my city. And dating them costs a lot less than dinner.
On the first story, this is definitely a misunderstanding based on a huge change in dating protocols over the generations. I'm in my 50s (been married for more than 25yr, so haven't been in this new dating scene at all). Back in my youth, if you made a date for Friday it was assumed that agreeing to the date was your "confirmation" and not only did you not call during the week to re-confirm if you did (especially the guy) it was seen as a needy, clingy or at worst "controlling" move and would be perceived as a huge red flag.
Me too. Re the confirmation part.
Heck, I still sometimes leave my phone in the house, when I go out. I regret it but not enough to go back.
its a diferrent protocol because people were more serious about their word then, it isnt the case now sadly.
@@ammnoydb4015 Yeah, back when I was dating I had to leave my phone at home ... because that's where it was plugged into the wall :p
Yes i agree, also: 25 years ago if someone asked you out he/she had to come to you and ask in person for a date, in this way you could value the effective interest of that person; now it's all done by an app and you've never seen each other before, that's why this new etiquette exist/is needed (there are a lot of trolls and catfish)
@@montsetreserra3499 Yes, I think that's part of it, but also people today have way more communications technology at their disposal than we did back then. I had a land line and an answering machine, there was no way to get ahold of each other easily most of the time so we didn't expect to.
the boomerita guy. i would definitely give him another date, thats adorable. like golden retriever energy.
Plus, he didn't claim to be a connaisseur. He just said that he typically drank/liked cocktails.
Yeah, clearly he's not an alcoholic.
Depends on the rest of the vibes he gives, but would recommend a cocktail bar, I guess?
Right! I didn’t understood the attitude about his drink choices
Preferring cocktails over beer would be such a green flag to me. I hate beer lol.
She originally offered to pay her share but as soon as he knew he wasn’t getting anywhere his attitude changed big time 😂😂
Yep, exactly. He realized that covering her dinner was not leverage for him to get laid. Why should she have compromised
her principles and safety by letting a man she barely knew get access to her hotel room??? If those were his expectations, he could have been honest before agreeing to go out.
With the amount of men that think paying for a dinner gets them sex, perhaps regulated prostitution should be legalized, that way when these men look at you before the bill comes to ask if they can walk you to your room, you can give them directions to the nearest brothel instead.
The second story was really gross. She lifted to split and pay her way, but he's like, "I got it".
But when she doesn't let him walk her to room.. he flips the script. What a loser.
Scary, and definitely a red flag. He should understand that it’s a scary world out there for women, even if he’s not a “scary guy”. No true gentleman would take offense.
@@kiwik2951 I would argue no modern woman would accept a stranger paying for something if they werent into them. Hell most guys actually love it when a woman offers to pay for her share, big green flag right there.
Charlotte has the right of it here, if you aren't into someone you don't accept gifts from them and if you do you then you know exactly why you are (basically taking advantage of their attraction to you.) Pretending to be naive about it is not an excuse in this modern day and age and dudes are becoming hyper aware of this fact.
Ladies you have money, put in the effort, take the initative and stop thinking "oh my time is much more valuable than his is.... I should be paid for gracing him with my presence" coz it doesn't wash now. You wont but another woman will and she is the prize guys are looking for.
@@under-dog5390to save men like you all that hassle why not just ask her if she will sleep with you for a plate of food and see what she says or be up front and say let's split the bill, don't even offer to pay. Men say and do whatever it takes to increase their chances of getting sex hence why most women aren't trusting for the first couple of dates. I don't get why you call it a gift cos the last I checked gifts don't come with so many strings attached. Men want sex after spending a little bit of money but even a working prostitute charges more for sex than a plate of food. Men don't want to visit a prostitute and have that transactional sex they expect cos they don't like the idea of every man being in her and they like the feeling of conquest over getting women that aren't prostitutes to sleep with them. But what kinda world would we live in if you teach your daughters to sleep with every guy that offers her a plate of food. The way I see it if the man is asking her out on the date then let him pay, women spend more of their lives rejecting random strange men than accepting them.if they even said yes to a date it shows interest, otherwise women will be out accepting every offer that comes their way only for a measly plate of food and women AREN'T DOING THAT😂 If women were that hungry, we could log onto any dating app and within the hour have more than 100 messages come flooding in and start sending out request for free food like a beggar. You think you are competing with other men but in reality, the modern world has kinda given women almost every single tool for her to live happily without a man so you are in actually competing with her peace as a single woman cos so many of these men act so ...... 🙄
A man paying for a date is not unconditional. If he feels he's being used by someone not interested, then he's right to not pay for both.
He 'flips the script' because he's not there just to talk. If the girl doesn't want to put out, then he has no reason to get into her good books and has no incentive to pay if there's nothing in it for him. Girls should just not accept a date from someone they aren't feeling
I completely agree with Charlotte. If you're not feeling the date, pay and leave. It will avoid any animosity or expectations.
yeah but like he says he is going to pay then like right after not skiping a beat saying your going to leave. its kinda impolite. you gotta like wait a few moments. thank him maybe chat for a moment then leave not just "ok your paying thank you byeeee" nah not cool. i get it you are not interested and dont want to lead him on but that quick from A to B is a tad impolite. time stamp 8:10 if thats not the one you are talking about. ops my bad....
Yeah : pay your bill and just answer "no, thank you, goodbye". And guys... plz... if you have fun on the diner, no matter the end... chill... it was a good experience, keep it like it
How about accountability? You wanted the date you pay. Who ever invites pays. Its just the respectful thing to do. However, he or she who accepts the invite should only accept if they are genuinly interested, if it doesnt go well afterwards its OKAY, its not the end of the world if you invite within your means. But if youre inviting someone who doesnt show excitement or interest in getting to know you and the date doesnt go well afterwards its on you. Men need to grow a pair and be responsable about the desicions that they take, honestly. And then they want to generalize and blame all womena and make the rest of us pay for their insecuritys with past women whom THEY chose to date? A lot of bitching and whining. No wonder.
Oh he's still gonna be a 🍆 because he was rejected!!!
@@snowfroten5406 I mean she literally asked him and thanked him when he said he'll pay, that's the polite thing to do. Wanting to be a people pleaser by engaging in superficial conversation after would probs just hammer home his entitlement towards her and doesn't exactly have something to do with politeness.
Over 10 years ago, I had a date with a guy who asked me out for a second date. He confirmed twice in the days leading up to the date. Since the date involved getting tickets, I was surprised that I hadn’t received a final confirmation of the night before the event. So I texted him to verify the time. He responded that he was too sick to go and wanted a rain check. I never heard from him again. Later I found out through a mutual acquaintance that he took another girl.
Because thats what they do..
Not to mention if he doesn't bother to communicate whole week than why bother to begin with...
Exactly. As you don't know the other person actually anything can happen. So you have to confirm. Plus if he puts so little effort so soon, imagine after a year into the relationship
that's pretty crappy
I mean would she rather him be high maintenance and give a margarita with top shelf ingredients lol! I mean he sounded humble and honest to admit he loves cocktails instead of beer! Ohhh and don’t knock Outback Steakhouse 😂 they actually have pretty awesome drinks and food! 👍🏼🫣
That first story, I'm female and have a guy cancel on me for the same reason.
We met on Tinder, texted for a few days then he ask me out, so we set the date on a Saturday afternoon.
Our conversation slowly fizzled out after confirming the date. We did not text the next 3 days and I thought nothing of it. It was a first date, no one is invested, so there's no obligation for daily small talk but he was pissed.
He called Friday night to cancel the date. I was confused so I ask if everything's ok. He went on this rant about how I've ignored him for 3 days by not texting him. He did not text me either so... By this time I knew I was done so I said ok, alright then and hung up. He then texted me a wall of text treating this like a break up. Unhinged lol 😂
😮😂😂
You were prepared to still go on a date after the convo fizzled out? Ohhhh I reckon you both missed a bullet here. He seems overly clingy and you don’t seem to have very high standards
As a female, I would have had no idea it needed to be confirmed, plus him saying happy Friday and her giving some response at least confirms there's been no ghosting
he didn't text, "looking forward to our pizza this evening."
@@trains889 exactly!! guys always said that "we can't read your mind, so speak up", so please go by that logic, "set a date/appointment, then confirm the date" simple as that, Women can not read, man's mind too
@@wellknown1204 Both of them agreed days earlier to have a date on Friday - appointment set and confirmed right there. It was on both of them to mark their calendars on that date. He definitely did, her? Maybe, maybe not. But assuming she did, why would she think it's not set when they already agreed to go days earlier? Assuming she didn't mark it on her calendar, why the hell not? That's clear failure of communication on her part.
@@wellknown1204 What? They agreed to the date and nothing changed for him? So it should be clear that they will meet on Friday? You don't need to read minds, just your chat in this case.
@@wellknown1204 He did speak up Date, time and place. That was it job done, text her friday morning to, at that point why does he need to confirm more? He already knew when and where they were meeting, he communicated his situation and intentions very clearly from the start, she was the one that didn't. There was literally nothing to mind read on her side, he'd communicated perfectly.
The guy in the first story did text her on Friday. The girl that responded said he NEVER contacted her. That was FALSE. I don't think he was wrong. No one should assume he isn't going to show up.
Didn't he text her before the date telling her he'll be late? Like it wasn't a morning confirmation but a sorry I'll be late (which is not okay in my book you should manage your time properly for any appointment unless shit happens, always leave early).
@@viviennart He texted her "Happy Friday". I agree it wasn't much, but he wouldn't have contacted her at all, if he was going to stand her up.
Yeah, if she was unsure she could have just asked.
Whoever plans the date has to confirm. That's the normal thing to do. If I set a date, which I'm normally the one who always does, I always make sure I confirm at least the day before. It's common knowledge. The person who sets the date always confirms.
I agreed with him, until he called her a B.
After hearing these stories I have never been more happily married 😂😂😂
Me too. Dating today is complicated.
Okay!!!!😌
Regarding the woman whose date clearly insinuated that he should be invited to her room after paying for her dinner…I had an experience like that once, but it was in the “old days” where guys could be less subtle (yes! Less!), and it was also before women started paying for their own dinners (I know, I’m telling my age). After dinner he said he wanted to go somewhere “private” where we could “do our thing”. I asked him why he thought I was going to sleep with him after a first date, and he said (really!), “Well, I just bought you a steak dinner, so you owe me”. Dear god! I think I got out of his car at the next traffic light. Honey, I can find my way home on my own.
" you bought dinner, not me. I never put myself on the menu."
Yep, I was saying in those days too. It was completely ridiculous. 🤬
It's terrifying to read some of these comments and the comments responding. Some are full of men saying if they pay, they expect sex. Ew just really grossed me out. If you buy me dinner, NO that does not mean I HAVE TO sleep with you. JFC that's insanity and just appalling to me.
@@Starry_Skye22right?! Like if that’s what you’re expecting to pay for sex then go find an escort or whatever 🤷♀️
This is exactly why i wont let a man pay for my part of the date. Or drive me. No expectations of anyone feeling they are owed anything. We both gave our time and spent our money, and used our own gas to get there. I keep that playing field level!
My now husband’s credit card declined on the first date. He was so embarrassed. He had his bank card and paid with that. (After I offered to cover it!) I thought “I have my own money. It’s ok if he’s a bit strapped”. So we continued to date. I later found out he literally hates debt. Everything he owns is paid outright and refused to have his credit card limit raise above $200. Twelve years later and I’m so in love with him. He balances my spending habits! Don’t be too quick to judge.
I’ve been married over 30 yrs, I told him when we got married if he wants to make sure we have money, he needs to be in charge of the money. I was a stay at home mom & he will be able to retire in 2025. We have no debts. We pay cash for our vehicles, house was paid off 10 years ago, & we will be very comfortable when he retires. Our 1st date was a blind double date. We both lived at our parents until the day we said I Do! We are very “Old School” I know, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. We are in our 50’s & we are happy❣️
This is ridiculous. Nothing stopped her from confirming either.
100%. However, I would never care to confirm (or go) if the guy didn't communicate consistently throughout the time of meeting and the time of the date. I personally have no problem with being the one to confirm (no idea about the girl he spoke of in the vid), but why would I spend time with this guy who merely asked me out on a date and didn't have the time and/ or interest in communicating with me, when I could instead have "me" time or hang out with people who actually talk with me consistently? I'm not low on interest of others. And I don't need a relationship. What reason would an emotionally stable, independent woman have to meet with a guy who either didn't want to text her or doesn't have the time? There are better things we can be doing. It's so easy to have more than that, so why settle?
@Mika So the man has to confirm? Other than hearting his good morning the day of the date (that she agreed to attend).
She has no obligation at all? Your preference is irrelevant to what happened. He asked (burden on man), she confirmed, he texted morning of (burden on man), she confirmed with a heart emoji.
He did everything and she responded. If you want more communication, ask for it. Men are not mind readers.
@nwj03a If he was interested after not showing interest, yes. Someone who is interested should be confirming. I'm saying it makes sense that she wouldn't be interested, so that would be why she wasn't the one to confirm in this case. He didn't show interest, so there was no reason to believe the date would actually happen, or should happen.
@@mikamagnol8931 "emotionally stable, independent woman" You seem obsessed by this. It has nothing to do with the story, yet you seem to want to tell the world something about yourself.. isn't it.
One of the better things is to show basic respect to the fellow human being if you decide not to show up for a date set 2 days earlier... TWO DAYS. How much "interest" is a person required to show within that timeframe exactly? Is that supposed to be some form of foreplay or something? They are strangers, they'll get to meet in two days and talk all they want.
Again, TWO DAYS. And why is the burden of communication laid upon his shoulders? Is the independent woman not capable of texting herself? Like for example to say she wasn't going to be there on the date?
You're not the center of the universe. Nobody is.
@@mikamagnol8931 Girl, it was _two days_ that they went without speaking, and I didn't see her reach out during that time, either. So why is only he to blame for "lack of interest" (which is stupid because I'm sure both of them were a-okay with two days of not speaking to someone they hadn't even met yet) and not her?
ATTN MEN: This is not the 1600s. Women are not busting it wide open for FOOD & WATER 😆😂🤣😂😂
😂😅 I'm laughing so hard right now
Women still wouldn't back then tbh 😂
I know that's right! 😂 They really think it's that simple with women that actually carry themselves well. 🤦🏻♀️
@@Cancel_meBxtchdie
@@StoogesTheTwo your mom first!
The girl whose date brought another woman to the date: he was looking for a trifecta. Happened to me a million years ago. I was like nope, excused myself and just laughed all the way to my car.
Both people waiting for the other to initiate an interaction is likely the reason why 70% of plans fall through. 😂
Exactly 💯
💯💯💯 this! He did text her that morning, she could have said something then & chose not to.
@@kimberlytl6127he also could have shown up on time for the date......how does he know she wasn't there on time and when she got the text saying grab a table (meaning the time for the date had already arrived) that he was still going to be 5-10 minutes late, she might have left....some people punctuality (or lack thereof) is a deal-breaker
@@SoManyRandomRamblings life is gonna life & sometimes it causes people to run late. If that was her deal breaker, then she should have said that when he called instead of what she did.
Exactly! No second confirmation should have been needed! They made a plan and she should have stuck to said plan!
Bad dates are hilariously great - when they happen to other people. 🥴🙈
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Yaaaassssss
Absolutely right 😂😂😂❤
@@maryamzrk9456:50
The guy asking this woman to look like Kim K.. she’s STUNNING
The first story was good because it shows how over-communicating can be really helpful. He obviously got his feelings hurt because everything that she didn't like was her fault lol. He didn't text because he doesn't know her, then implies it's because people/she don't get his sense of humor/sarcasm. He's only a little bit late and lets her know, but feels she should be grateful that he even let her know he'd be late. Calls her a b**ch, says texting is for little girls, says he has better things to do during the week - he should hang out with his buddies during his free time until he's willing to put in more effort.
The guy in the restaurant, if he got that upset in public, imagine what could have happened if she had let him walk her to her room then said he wasn’t coming in!…..Yikes!
Yeah, his reaction to not getting what he expected was very telling.
@Blondie77128 100%
He wanted to pay all the way up until he realized he wasn't going to get his dick wet. Then he accuses her of using him for a free meal, when he was fully expecting to use her as a discounted prostitute.
Typical "nice guy" behavior 🙄
he's deranged: she clearly offered to pay her meal - 15 secs later he says she wanted a free meal; his brain doesn't work
He was givin "predator vibes"!
Exactly
I don't think the words "Kardashian" and "natural" can even belong in the same sentence.
😂😂😂
It's natural to assume anything related to a Kardashian is fake. 👍
@@ChimkinMcCluckie accepts the challenge and then proceeds to nail it! Well played!
Definitely oxymorons
I had a date once , we were going to a movie, and just before he he was supposed to pick me up he called and asked if I could pick him up. I said, um, ok. I drove by where he was, and another woman was with him. They climbed into my backseat and he excitedly introduced her as his “Ex girlfriend “. I was kinda shocked, didn’t know what to do, and drove towards the theatre like I was their chauffeur. By the time we got close to the movie theater I pulled over and told them I wouldn’t be joining them. He acted confused, not understanding why I had suddenly changed my mind. They got out of my car and I took off as he was trying to talk me into going to the movie. What a fool!
😂
I’m not a cocktail connoisseur by any means but if imma drink I either want a Painkiller from Cheddars or an alcohol infused blueberry lavender lemonade from Outback! 😅
Nah the first guy isn’t wrong. Confirmation is a two way street. If she wanted to text throughout the week, and wanted to confirm the date, she has full control to do that herself. She’s expecting him to put in effort she didn’t put in herself. If she had been texting and trying to confirm, that’s one thing. But to put in 0 effort herself and then get mad when she was shown 0 effort is wild to me. And what’s even more wild is he gave notice that he was gonna be late and then she ditched him. So she had no intention on going on the date and had no intention on letting him know that? Nah, she got what she put In and she can’t be mad about that.
He literally texted her that morning and she only responded by liking his message. He was the only one to provide any ounce of a confirmation. She's in the wrong on this one.
I usually agree with Charlotte but this first story was a bit annoying. If she wasn’t sure if the date was cancelled or not, why didn’t SHE reach out with a quick text like, ‘Hey, we still on for Friday?’ How old is this woman? I got the vibe that she wasn’t really interested in the first place and was looking for a reason to bail. He dodged a bullet imo. 8th grade level communication skills.
She dodged a major bullet herself. Dude is a major red flag.
You dont text date isnt on simple as that. No one is entitled to anyones time if they dont put the effort in, specialy a stranger´s
. Men lead in courtship, women follow if they are interested. He didint lead she couldnt follow even if she wanted to. Its called self respect.
@@montsetreserra3499oh but I thought women were independent and this wasn't the olden days anymore? A relationship works BOTH ways
I agree. But then I have anxiety, so I would be scared about missing something. But I would message if its still on and if that scares them off, then I guess I don't need him.
Same, but it's not an age thing my partner and I (age 25) both agree that if she needs a confirmation she should have texted him it seems ridiculous saying that he made the date so he needs to confirm, your the one that needed it he can't read your mind and know you need this because your a stranger. He made the first move maybe she should reciprocate.
7:45 " A night WITH THIS " 😂😂😂 I've watched that too many times now... can't stop watching it and laughing my ass off... Funny as hell
lmfaoooooo the last one is wild... bet, build me a house from scratch and ill get started on dinner
Last woman was far more stunning than Kim and he has the audacity to say shit like that???
Plus he was talking to her in real life, not just talking to her picture online. That woman is beautiful and real, not Kim and her fake enhancements!
I was looking at that absolutely stunning woman and thinking who is this crazy man who thinks she needs to change her looks! Her body, her skin, her voice, HER HAIR! WOW
The man who scared this goddess off needs therapy. Get a psychiatrist on speed dial quickly.
Right? That woman is absolutely STUN-NING!
That guy is delulu. No woman will ever be "good enough" for him!
I went out on a date with a guy I met on a dating app. He talked a lot over dinner about things he'd done recently, including going out dancing, with his brother. Then he looked me dead in the eye and said. "I do everything with my brother." *pause* "Everything." I kept it together for the rest of the evening, paid for dinner, got the hell out of there, and ended contact.
About a year later he late night texted me and invited me to a threesome with him and his girlfriend. I was a little tempted to ask why his brother wasn't available but I just said no and blocked him.
🤣🤣
"Then what do you need me for?" may have been a good response in the moment.
I'm dead. Call the mourners, pick my casket and slap the coins on my eyes! That story is WILD!!
Plot twist his brother is also his girlfriend.
Oh, you should've asked !! xD
"you are cooking" HAHAHAHAH no, sir. Hahahahaha
17:17 This woman is a literal goddess 😍 She looks better than Kim K, in my opinion! Edit: I posted my comment saying she is a literal goddess, then you said the exact same thing!!!
It's a body/face filter.
The first story I firmly believe the woman is at fault on this. It sounds like she didn't message him throughout the week, meaning he didn't reach out to her throughout the week to randomly message her. Then, on the day of their date, he messaged her "happy friday". If they made plans for Friday, and this guy messaged her ON Friday, that's a good sign he's still planning to meet up with her. If she didn't know the date was still going on, SHE should have asked after he reached out. Instead, she said nothing and then blamed him for not confirming the date for her.
Yes, thank you! I didn't understand why the guy got blamed, when he wrote her and she just responded with emoji. If anything her silence would not make me want to look annoying with many messages. I think the guy did a very reasonable steps from his side
so true, she was completely at fault, she should have messaged but she chose not to
Exactly my thoughts!
Completely agree. Why is all the pressure on him? I would have definitely said I’m looking forward to seeing you this evening in response to his happy Friday.
I found it funny i did make a dinner date with 2 week's notice and i did not confirm it at all and both of us did show up .... that's called respecting other peoples time ,and to be honest this its totally on her
Sorry Charlotte, I disagree with the over 40 guy dating. I am over 40, so dating has been a while for me, 20 years ago when you set a date, it was a date. He sent her a happy Friday message, enough to let her know he was excited about the date. The rules have obviously changed and am sad the guy got so much backlash, however, have some respect and don't call a girl a b* on social media, that is not ok.
Nowadays, that's an expression, not a swear word.
ikr the "bitch" took me out like...thats not a sign of the "maturity" he talks abt
If she was a young woman that logic is not valid. I am in my 20s and if the guy that set up the date does not communicate with me the entire week I'll see it as rude and a proof of disinterest, and whats more as totaly obvious that the date is canceled. We live in an age of fast communication when you can reach someone anytime, anywhere, whenever via phone or text. There is no excuse for not talking to your partner for an entire week .
@@purple66666 I don’t see why you should communicate. As they all have said, they’re strangers, and want to meet up for a date. That’s the best time to communicate. That way, you don’t set any expectations, or feelings, and start the date neutral. And ALSO he DID say “happy friday” which was communication. And why is he the ONLY one who has to put in the effort? Why didn’t she? Double standards.
I wouldn't know that you are supposed to confirm either, but using the b* word does explain why he is still single. The question is: how old was she? Because if she was over 40 then I think she would not have expected a confirmation. Younger people however are used to communicate more, so I'd say she was probably younger, in which case it's best that they didn't meet.
Idk how I missed these lol! I literally love you Charlotte! Since the show you were on before you made your own content, I literally followed you lol. Keep it up girl!! 🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've been in the restaurant/bar industry for a while & I promise you for the most part once you know who your server is, if you ask them to split the bill (this can easily be done if you get there early or at any time excuse yourself to the bathroom (after you order is always a good time) & ask the host to speak to your server quickly if you don't see them) and ask them to ensure you get your half of the bill no matter what the other one says, unless you confirm they are paying the full (per YOUR comfort on allowing them to do so). The systems are set up so it's easy to combine a check or split it but advance notice helps. Most servers you come across will be happy to do this especially for a first date situation.
The most memorable talk I ever had with my Dad was as I was getting ready to leave on my first real dinner date. My dad gave me $40 and said "Make sure you pay for yourself." and when I asked why, he said "Guys pay for dinner to make chicks feel like they owe them something. You don't ever owe a guy anything." I will never ever forget that lesson, and when my son starts dating, I will teach him the same thing.
I still let the guy pay. He tried something. I confidently denied him and went home with my $40 in my pocket 😂
Good job - it's still the case that most men are earning more than women in similar positions *and* women generally pay more money for the clothes, make-up, hair, whatever they are doing for a date. It's not fair if women need to expect to give a bigger percentage of their income to "finding a partner".
I have always been very... don't want no guy thinking I'm woth them for money. Amd, unfortunately I've been woth a couple broke ass dudes but, I was always in it for love. No matter what other the situation. However, when I met my husband after we met, the first time he came to hang out, my electric got turned off that morning 🤦♀️ do I tried to call him and reschedule. He didn't wanna reschedule. Even after I told him why. He took the day off work. He also offered to pay my electric bill and I declined.
We were together 5 years, married for 8.5 months before he passed, but he told me it made him feel like a man to support us. It took me little by little to accept. Lol but eventually I got there. Now I have to remember what it was like to be poor lol
@@keladry12
No, it is not the case in a like-for-like job.
Yes but their choice; men spend their money on other things.
Yes it would be fair if that were the case, which it isn't, because strong independent women such as yourself are always sneeringly claiming 'We Don't Dress or Put On Makeup for No Man, We Do It for Ourselves'.
On the flip side, if the date goes well, you can let him pay and make the agreement next date you pay. Cute way of letting each other know the vibe.
Like the way your dad respectfully said "Chicks". Your final paragraph is a scream. Your story is completely made up.
This might be an unpopular opinion but what happened to accountability? If im asked on a date for friday I put on my schedule Friday Date Night. If something comes up that prevents me from going then I reach out and say “hey, xyz happened can we reschedule.” If you require being asked multiple times if you are still free for a date I would be so happy to have dodged that bullet. Am I also going to have to reconfirm multiple times for everything we do? Sounds exhausting, id prefer to be with someone that can communicate properly and be responsible for their own time and activities.
Totally agree.
Yes! When did people become such flowers. We make plans. Great Ill see you then I don't need confirmation 3 times!
He ghosted her for a whole week. She didn't say she expected him to ask her if she's still free multiple times lol, she just expected him to remain in contact. If someone ghosted me for a week I'd assume they didn't want to see me anymore too.
@@Ktakahashi18No one said anything about asking "3 times". But if someone ghosts you for a week it's fair to assume they're no longer interested. I'd definitely make different plans after being ghosted for a week.
@@swhitson9633But if he didn't message her, then why didn't she message him first to ask if they are still on or at least start a conversation with him during the week?
If the sin is poor communication, then aren't they both guilty of being poor at it?
Charlotte, I ❤ your videos and commentary 😂 Keep ‘‘em coming
Omg one of your best episodes to me. It made me laugh! 😂
This is one of the few times I disagree with Charlotte. They made the date on the Tuesday, for the Friday, (3 days!) then he sends her a cute little message on the friday, which she responds to, but that's not enough confirmation for her? He even let her know he was going to be a teeny bit late, but she's just like 'you know what? This guy isn't putting enough effort in'. If his low level of texting her was a deal breaker, why didnt she cancel the date after his morning text? Or even before that? Did she cancel because he was going to be late?
If she wanted confirmation, why didn't she ask him if the date was still on? It's 2023, women are allowed to do that sort of thing.
It sounds like she wasn't planning on showing up anyway. Usually people say they're gonna be late pretty close to the meet-up time. So her not even being there after only a few minutes makes me assume she never even bothered to get ready...
Agreed
@@TyLeeslilsisShe wasn't there at all.
Agreed - that's what I heard, sorted date on Tuesday, for three days later. It's on, unless someone says it's not.
Absolutely! God forbidhe doesn't text for a couple days. He must hate you and want to cancel lol
With the first one, there was obviously a misunderstanding about dating etiquette. If I were the woman he was going on a date with, I probably would've texted to confirm the day of if I wasn't sure we were still on. I think both of them acted inappropriately, her for not even checking to attend, and him for calling her out of her name after. They both could've handled this better with better communication.
He didn't show enough interest, so there was nothing there for her to have interest in. It only makes sense to confirm if you're interested. Otherwise, if they haven't said anything just walk away and move on with your life. However, if he didn't interact all week or whatever and tried to confirm the day of, she 100% should've said she wants to cancel. She might've done that, if he tried to confirm. She wasn't interested, so no reason for confirmation. He didn't confirm, so it's reasonable to think he might not have been interested. That's the logic there. It doesn't matter if you have interest if you do not express said interest.
@Mika He didn’t show enough interest by what standard? He talked to her, he chatted, he set a time and a place, she confirmed it. He then, day of, messaged her, she hearted his comment/text.
That is confirmation.
Did he need to send a carrier pigeon? Hold her hand to the place? Make a secret handshake.
She can be wrong. Men don’t always have to be bad.
Reverse the genders and tell me how he was wrong for telling her they have to reschedule? Despite wasting her entire evening.
@nwj03a By very minimal standards. Someone could plan an entire, exciting day and bring flowers or some other gift. They can put a ton of effort like creating a playlist, a scavengerhunt, etc. Someone could make chocolates. Pay for the entire thing. There is so much someone *could* do, but it isn't necessary. Interacting with someone consistently in a reasonable manner is bare minimum. It's just texting. Super easy. Not a phone call or anything like that. If someone looking in your general direction or a "hey" is enough to earn your interest, I suppose that's a win for you both. It isn't enough for most women, I feel. I know I can, and do, better than that. Why would I go on a date with someone who doesn't talk with me when I could have alone time or meet up with someone who actually interacts with me consistently? Emotionally stable and independent women have no reason to downgrade from being single and happy to giving up their enjoyable time to someone who doesn't even hold a conversation when they claimed to have enough interest for a date. I assume she tried maintaining a conversation and he just doesn't do that. And instead of saying it he probably just let every one of her attempts quickly fizzle out. I've met a lot of online guys like that. Many people already have better than that.
And if the roles were reversed it would not matter. If she asked him out on a date, he tried to maintain conversation after the initial agreement, she fizzled out, didn't act at all as if you're worth her time, and didn't even bring up the date the day of he absolutely should not have interest in meeting with her and it'd be on her to express interest.
@@mikamagnol8931to be honest if she was interested she could have easily reached out to him instead of the other way around and he said they already confirmed it so there's that and also she could have asked if she wasn't sure instead of just straight up not showing up
19:41 - gurl, PREACH!
(She looks a lot like one of the girls who bullied me in high school, but even with THAT massive bias, even MY useless sapphic ass can still see she’s a queen!)
Charlotte you help so much with my mania ❤
That second guy was the worst!! Just because he paid for her meal does not automatically mean he gets “more”. He was a creep and had an attitude because she denied him access to her room. Who does he think he is!?
It's like these guys pay just for the sake of seeing how a woman will react to their advances, and if she doesn't react the way they want, use that as an excuse to act bitter and make assumptions about her just because she doesn't want to sleep with him on the first date.
@@AngM-lu7cb Right!! You hit the nail on the head!
If the girl in the first one wanted another confirmation, she should have asked! "hey, are we still meeting tonight at the pizza place?" ...is that so hard? He didn't ghost her, he texted "happy friday" on that morning! NTA
Just _assuming_ that your date won't show up just because they didn't confirm _a second time_ and therefore not showing up yourself is the real a-hole move!
Agree!! She totally stood him up. That was a b*tch move.
I agree. The woman was in the wrong here.
I agree. The problem is there isn't a general consensus AND people these days act like their social rules are the norm and anything else is crazy.
@@nikkita1688 general consensus is rare on anything nowadays because humans are complex and there are many variables that can affect things.
This
I got put in my place when after being with a guy for a year he ditched me on Valentine’s Day, got drunk, did blow, invited me over, then screamed in my face that I’m not his girlfriend. Took me down a few notches😂
Hi, 35 year old woman here responding to the first story. I agree that he could have added something like "can't wait to see you tonight" with his Friday morning text, but not hearing from someone for a couple of days when you made plans for a specific date and time in no way cancels the date. And her hearting his message without an "oh, I hadn't heard from you all week, nice to know you're still alive" or something is also super stupid on her part. Obviously he's reaching out because they had plans that night. Her hearting the message is a clear sign "it's all good", especially to a lateral thinking male brain. And how is it that so many people can say "b** please" and it's totally positive but him saying "b** I had other stuff to do" is suddenly offensive? He didn't call her a b****, he was saying in the moment he felt like "are you f*ing kidding me?" Pick a lane, people. Either the word is offensive or it's not. And don't give me the "context is everything" and "women took the word back" because they absolutely did not. Drag queens did. Men pretending to be women "took the word back" and use it as an excuse to be catty with each other and derogatory towards women. And apologist women have gotten on board allowing men to dictate how they're supposed to women. So either the word is acceptable in all contexts or none at all. This dude clearly didn't have the whole system of modern dating down and didn't realize there was an extra step expected because they both suck at proper communication, but she could have confirmed too when she saw he went out of his way to message her that morning, and because she didn't either she spent her night doing whatever while he got dolled up and rushed out to a date with nobody. He has every right to be annoyed by the situation and the lady responding needs to take a chill pill. Her assumption that someone has lost interest when it's been three frickin days is sad and pathetic. People have lives. Whatever happened to benefit of the doubt? "if you asked them out it's your responsibility to confirm" in his view HE HAD confirmed. BY MAKING THE DATE. Everyone is so stuck in their own experiences that they can't see beyond themselves anymore. This is why relationships don't work anymore. Stop thinking about yourself, have care and compassion for the other person, especially if you're interested in pursuing a relationship with them, and maybe you'll actually get somewhere.
Agree!!
Well said!
Thank you.
ooo wow sounds like you could spend A LOT on therapy and still be getting mad mad at strangers in a comedy react video 😂 Maybe journal instead of paragraphs on CZcams? Bless your heart 😂
I completely agree. Honestly, this is like teenage/ young college student vibes coming from the lady. Perhaps it’s just me but I’d be so bothered if someone I had planned a date with was texting me every day up until then. That’s what a first date is for. You know… talking and getting to know each other?
@@emilymlau5813 Literally this! People who barely know each other and have a date set to meet and get to know each other maybe even *shouldn't* be messaging each other insipid little messages every day. That's more something you do once you know whether or not it'll bug the other person, once the relationship has developed, to keep the flame ignited, but you have to ignite it first. So for the first date, there was a meeting set on the calendar. That's all that needed to happen. lol
For the first story, I don’t think he was in the wrong aside from his reaction and calling her a b****. There were only 2/3 days in between setting the date and the actual date and I fully agree that you don’t need to be texting in between that time especially because he DID text her Friday (day of) and she didn’t respond. So if SHE needed the confirmation then she should’ve responded with a quick “we still on for tonight?” Also, since she assumed the date was cancelled but it wasn’t she would have stood him up had he not texted her that he was running late. So overall I don’t think he was in the wrong but I do think the reaction of “I do what I say” is a bit off and calling her a B**** was uncalled for
The b word is OBVIOUSLY a form of expression. 🙄
@@viviawaag863still, was a turn hearing that from a guy, specially since he said it because he was mad
@@karly.asshhh It doesn’t change the fact that it’s a figure of speech. An expression. It is used all the time.
Completely agree that timeframe between initial confirmation and date dictate if a second confirmation is needed. If the date is a week or more out, confirmation day before or at least morning of would be expected. But I wouldn’t reconfirm something set only 2 or 3 days prior. I would apply this rule to any social appointments, first date, lunch with friend, whatever.
I also think he exhibited red flags in this video that she should be glad she stood him up. I agree with his expectations, not his response.
imo she kinda was being a b-word. there was only 2 - 3 days between their date planning and the day of and, like he said, he was busy w/ work and other errands. he has a life, he doesnt have to drop everything to text her every day. unless they were officially together, which wasnt the case, he is in no obligation to text her every day unless both parties are super into each other. and what about her? why didnt she text him? so just because HE didnt text HER, she got pissy at him and just assumed the date was off??? sounds like a b**** that was just looking for an excuse to bail to me
Before I got married I went on a date with a really nice guy I met on an app. I didn’t expect much, but I was shocked that he was on time and very sweet. We had dinner and the vibes were fantastic….until he looked me dead in the eyes and says “my wife is going to love you!” The physical gymnastics I managed in those heels as I fled could land me an Olympic medal. Thankfully I met my husband a few months later and we’ve been married for 10 years. 😊
Lol😭🤣😂 I am so sorry.
I would’ve probably did a spit take or choked on my food 😂
Omg plz share exactly how you left. I need this.
NOMG the mental image I just got from this? Please tell me you were in stilettos.
Imagine thinking polyamorous people don't exist. 🙄
Were you dating Kody Brown? lol
That first guy.. oh my gosh! That is why you're single!! Why didn't you text her all week?! Why?! 🤣🤣🤣
All week?! It was TWO DAYS between plans being made and said plans! If a guy made plans with you in two days that you’d never met and kept texting you those two days you’d think him needy or creepy!
Charlotte laugh is my favorite thing on the internet ❤
Speaking of daiquirry, I took a friend to a Mexican restaurant for her birthday. We ordered drinks and appetizers, and as the server was about to walk away with our orders, she called him back to make a substitution request. She said, and I quote, "I want cheese on my nachos not that queso stuff." The server looked very confused, and I later explained to my friend that queso is the Spanish word for cheese.
Wait how did the server interpret that request then?? “I want cheese, not cheese.” ???
Oh my god 😂
@@salamanda11 personally id interpret the situation as shes an idiot who doesnt know how to properly ask for shredded cheese.
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Oh Lordy! This is a subject that I think all of us have experienced at one time or another... The Bad Date.
Circa 1979, I went out with a guy who seemed like a country bumpkin, but I was okay with that. I have relatives in Texas and Oklahoma that I adore who are very much "country-folk".
He took me to a very nice restaurant but I think it might have been his first time in such an establishment.
He was suspicious of the salad, the first course, and exclaimed (loudly), "They put cornbread on my salad! Why did they put CORNBREAD on the salad??" He was talking about croutons. I thought he was making a joke so I laughed. He wasn't joking.
He paid the check and I didn't notice that he only left 32 cents for the tip, under his dirty napkin and on his dirty plate. This was the kind of restaurant with white table cloths, a maître d, wine steward, sous chef, etc. Our waiter (who had been excellent) followed us out to the parking lot, threw that 32 cents at my date and told him, "You obviously need this money more than I do! Go buy yourself some class!"
I was so embarrassed!
Other than him calling her a B, I have to say I'm on guy #1's side. They made the date = confirmation #1. He did say he texted her a couple days later saying "looking forward to Friday night" = confirmation #2 and then he sent her a good morning text the day of the date = showing continued interest. I don't think he did anything wrong there. I feel like if he'd repeatedly confirmed the date throughout the week everyone would be saying he was coming across desperate and needy. No win situation for him.
Hahahaha, I’m not a dentist office. I’m not gonna send you a “confirmation” text. 😂
A man that makes plans with you and you agree, and he knows and you know but your word is no good, I'm glad he learned ahead of time!
Imagine telling that drop dead gorgeous woman she needs to look more like Kim! I am so glad Charlotte said the same thing.
Exactly- that woman is EXACTLY who I wanna be when I grow up!! And they're both hourglass figures so what is he nitpicking about, ohmygod!!!🤦♀️🤦♀️😂
I had a guy I dated for a while. Everything was fine for a couple of months. Then he started talking about his dead fiancée and how much he missed her and how much I reminded him of her. A little creepy, but I get it, people grieve differently. So I was supportive. Then he said I should dye my hair black. I asked him why and he said 'because her hair was black, oh, and you need to start wearing these drop earrings, because she loved drop earrings" He was serious.
I got up, got everything I had ever brought over, stuffed it in a couple of bags and left. Sorry, nope, not going to play dress up as a ghost.
@@lindapatton4478🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
I haven't dated in over 20 years (married happily, thank goodness) but the first man didn't do anything wrong, to my understanding. They already confirmed. He told her he was a few minutes behind schedule. She *hearted* his "Happy Friday!" Therefore he was obviously still planning to go on the date and to his knowledge, so was she! Instead of hearting his greeting, she should've shot back a quick text instead, "are we still on for 7:30?" So easy.
That's exactly how it goes when I (a single woman) have made plans in advance with my married friends. It's pretty simple really, and simply confirms that no family tragedies/illness or whatever have happened in the meantime. Also an opportunity for something like 'watch out for construction on such and such street, maybe go the other way' or whatever.
To me, the ❤️ to the Happy Friday was a confirmation.
Yeah, he reached out. She had an in if she was unsure. They had communication, she saw the texts, and responded nonverbally in the positive. He didn't blow her off for weeks or something, it was two days. Two days where she also didn't reach out in any capacity. She didn't know him all that well, and he didn't know her all that well. Every excuse given to the woman in the situation can be given to the man in the situation. A grown adult should know if something is needed, appreciated, or expected, they should ask for it when that thing is lacking. Assuming it's gone belly up after TWO DAYS AFTER MAKING PLANS is not reasonable when she should know damn well that life can take you away from social interactions at a moment's notice.
@@YourWaywardDestiny facts
The more I hear about these the more I’m glad I found my person in high school. In college I felt like I might be missing out a bit but DANG!
2:50 it goes both way. She could have also texted him especially if she was unsure.
Before I was married back in college. I did not allow anyone to pay for me. I heard too many scary stories that if the guy pays then he expects sex. That was drilled into me by my friends. So I never let a date pay not even for a movie. I also never let a date see my apartment either. I look at it like you didn't pick me up, you didn't pay for anything. I don't have to do anything with you after the date is over. I always ask the server for separate checks before ordering anything.
1. His point of view "You just wanted a free meal". 2. Her point of view "You think you just paid for sex by buying dinner. You want to see where I live. You think I'm only worth $X and that I'm a prostitute". I totally agree with you, and that's how I organized my dating life. One guy even got miffed because he'd just bought (insisted on buying) this expensive dinner. Exactly like Charlotte said I stood there and told him -"Mate, if you thought you could buy my 'services' with one dinner, then you've mistaken me for a prostitute. Secondly, if I WERE a prostitute, I'd be charging way more for my time".
Smart woman
Not one of my dates, but a friend of mine went on a date recently, and whilst they're sat at the table eating, he casually asked her "so what would your dad think if you had a black eye?" When she told him it's not her dad he needs to be worried about, she'd knock him the f out if he ever tried, he replied "well that's not very lady like, a woman should know her place" !!!!!! Not surprisingly, she left immediately!
What! She dodged having to have a physical altercation with him.
She's a quick learner. Two black eyes means she had to be told more than once.
Sounds fake as hell
@@imperialdra-mon5907 Of course it is. Just like the video.
What the actual f...?
the shxtsngigs podcast dudes are so funnny always good for a laugh.
Lol he said happy friday first thing in the morning was him confirming 😂.
The first woman's story, She offered from the start to pay. He said I got it. Then changed the story to you wanted free dinner. These are the boys making it hard for the rest of us.
That’s what I was thinking too! Totally shows he’s only willing to pay if he gets something in return.
That's why I make sure I have enough to pay for my meal before going out.... unless they will turn the situation to you being entitled
Lol 💀he thought he can get some 💭you know after paying for meals and walking with her to her room lol..Those are the same type of boys who will act like chad sigma and judge all women saying they all are for the stree and all 💀
I actually think he wanted to grape her
A tate todd, for sure.
First story:
An appointment is an appointment. You don’t need to be reminded of it constantly like a toddler with amnesia.
When someone asks you out and you say yes, it’s confirmed.
I do understand if you don’t hear anything at all for a few days, you might wonder if the person is still willing to meet up. But instead of assuming it’s cancelled, just reach out and ask if you guys are still on.
Modern mentality is not an excuse we should allow. I’m not from an older generation myself. I still think, your word is your word. If I say YES to a guy and neither of us has mentioned the word “cancel”, then it’s not cancelled. If I need an extra confirmation, I’ll ask for it.
"you don't need to be reminded constantly like a toddler with amnesia" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Totally agree
..YES!... sorry charlotte but if its confirmed its confirmed... its an adult... if shes want reconfirmation like this... just go and never look back... she wont be worth it... behaving like a toddler..NO...just NO... not with my time...
When someone makes a date a week before and you hear nothing, then the day of they just say, "happy Friday", I don't care if you had agreed or not, it makes it sound like the guy had amnesia and forgot he made the date. He should have said "Happy Friday, looking forward to seeing you tonight."
@@eugeniaskelley5194 😪
he specifically said
“I didn’t text her Wednesday, I didn’t text her Thursday” which implies they made planes on TUESDAY.
It’s not like he vanished for a week!!! It was TWO days!!
Plus if he intended to cancel would he be texting her again, TWO days later “happy Friday”?
I don’t necessarily agree with the way he expressed himself but he’s not wrong.
And yes he could have added that nice touch. But it’s ok if he didn’t.
@@eugeniaskelley5194 ...sounds to me u have a need for confirmation..., if so u should say so from the start, if u made a date, set an appointment forward in time, it doesent matter if its a week or a month...
..and u definetly do not ever write something simillar to .... just checking to connfirm our date ... it screams desperation...
I'm with the guy on that first one. I don't like coming across as clingy and I hate seeing it in a man as well, so keeping it chill just feels like the more logical plan. Now, if the girl had texted to confirm and THEN he got pissy cause she wanted to confirm, then I'd call red flags. If it was such a concern for her, then that's on her shoulders.
The story with the girl with the white shirt...she definitely met with swingers....it is SO OBVIOUS LOL
Big disagree with the first story. If you have a set date, then you should assume you are still going on the date. People are busy during the work week, so some people don’t text that much during the week. If she was worried that she wasn’t getting any texts from him, she could have confirmed. I think the assumption that the date was canceled because he wasn’t chatty with her seems ridiculous to me. It feels so entitled. Communication goes both ways as well.
I did not want to use the word "entitled", but it has most certainly crossed my mind!
What I was thinking too.
She is miss little Miss America or something. 😂
Media has made women act snooty.
They all think they are celebrities.
Thank God I don’t act like that.
My husband loves me cause I am so laid back.
I love being chill.
Making a man feel guilty for being 8mins late.
I would respond to her and say chick you sound like my mother or boss.
Can’t be romantic with her now. 😂
No wonder men are now gay. 😂
You say that, but honestly the amount of times guys ask me out for set day and time and then I never hear from them again is astounding, so I kinda ge it. I stopped chasing cos it's disheartening, like Charlotte says I give back the same energy, if they're messaging I'm messaging back, but honestly if the guy doesn't message me for 2 days after he asked me out the date is cancelled, this guy was an exception. I never had a situation where ha magically appeared and I stood them out by accident.
Yes I think entitled or just pessimistic in thinking he’s just not interested. I’d go with what was planned and prob leave after 15 mins if he didn’t send that message.
Agreed. I was coming down to the comments to say this.
For real? What boundaries did she set? He made the move to ask her out, made plans and everything, TEXTED HER on the same day which she hearted it for her then to blame HIM for not confirming? Confirm what?? The date was scheduled by both of them, that is it, end of story!! That's the date! If you need confirmation, then do that for yourself! For him the date was set and he was on that, where was her? I mean come on, don't be ridiculous.
Don't you know that it's always the man's fault no matter what happens or doesn't happen? He should have read her mind... duh
@@klauseba Oh right yes, I am so stupid..I blame my father for abandoning me..tsk oh well!
This little thread cracked me up yall are great 😂
@klauseba bitter much?
Exactly! And if the roles had been reversed and a guy responded to a good morning text with just a heart emoji, everyone would be saying she should have just canceled the date because she deserved more than that as a response.
8:48 1,000% right. As soon as the vibe from him got to “we’re having sex tonight” I wouldn’t have even asked him about the bill. Actually I would have told the waitress separate checks before she could even ask 😂😂😂
Girl the best cocktail I’ve ever had was at red lobster what’s wrong with that😂 THANK YOU for calling out how not bad the date was lmao
I just wanted to say that I’m SO MAD because the black woman about 17 minutes in was SOOO stunningly gorgeous AND she had a COOL ASS CHILL ASS ATTITUDE. how dare someone tell her she basically wasn’t DRESSED right or making the right makeup choices in their opinion. humanity is SO wack bruh
My exact thought. She's absolutely stunning. That man needs a new pair of eyes, especially if he thinks Kim K is natural
this though.... she is AMAZINGLY STUNNING, and that man DARES to tell her to look different?!?!? HELL NO SIR.
Right?! Natural! lol @@1_f_f_4_h
She is definitely hot, don't how how any bloke could tell her she wasn't ready, she looks like the kind of woman who wakes up looking a million bucks
It's astounding to me that anyone would think Kim Kardashian looks better than the woman in the video!
As a guy, I feel for the first guy. We run the very real risk of coming off as clingy or controlling if we text/call too soon or too many times before the first date. So it is really hard to tell what is too much or not enough. Also someone who is in his 40's isn't nearly as "social media" savvy as someone in their 20's. So he is walking two minefields.
My thought is: cut him some slack, he is trying to ride a bicycle that he hasn't been on for a couple of decades.
The woman was the one in the wrong, and anyone who says differently is not looking at this from the perspective of if they were in the guys shoes. It was 2 days from when they made the plans until the date, Tuesday for Friday. It would have been a little different if they had made the plans at least 5 or more days before the date, and she didn't hear from him at all up until he text her that he was going to be a few minutes late. Then, why would he text her good morning if he wasn't planning on showing up that evening? That makes no sense. If she had any question, than she could have replied with something like "Good Morning, are we still on for tonight?", instead of just a heart emoji. If I were him and I got that response from a good morning text, I would have thought she wasn't really interested anymore so she wasn't going to show up, and decided not to go. I mean if the roles were reversed, and the woman had text him good morning and that is how he responded, everyone would have said she shouldn't give her time to a guy who can't type out a better response. So why is the bar so low that men should except emoji responses to texts?? Especially as confirmation for a date that night. No one should, but no one is talking about that.
Agree, the woman should have asked for confirmation.
But calling her B word immediately, hmm it's not nice.
I think it depends on the person. I don't mind a clingy man, makes me feel wanted
I agree, his actions were all within reason. And he had reason to be annoyed, too. I don't like that he called her a b*tch, though, nor equate her behavior to a 10-year old. She was clearly not for him and immature, but his reaction doesn't do much for him, either.
That last story is nuts!! That woman is stunning!!
I think the problem within the first story is that the guy DID confirm, as he said, just not the day of. If you agree to attend someone’s wedding and send the RSVP you don’t have to text them everyday to confirm, or an appointment or really anything else. Rather than assuming malicious intent, maybe she should give people the benefit of the doubt. FOMO has caused many to think they should set up multiple options, which is really why plans fall through these days, and she probably decided it wasn’t worth her time rather than she made a commitment.
Opinion on the first one: reconfirming the date if you haven’t been in communication should be a mutual thing. He should check with her, but she should have checked with him too. I wouldn’t assume a date was cancelled just because I hadn’t heard from him the rest of the week, especially if it was one of those matches you didn’t talk with much anyway.
Like there are times where it’s like, skip the small talk, let’s get ice cream on Friday, and then you just kind of assume that both of you aren’t into trying to force small talk over text, you know?
The only time I would assume it was cancelled is if he told me it was cancelled, or if after I texted to confirm I got no timely response.
He could have Friday morning see u tonight ! She could have done more them a non committal heart.
@@joywebster2678his happy Friday text was an opening to dialogue, her non reply by using the heart is her mistake. It was an opportunity for her to continue the conversation and either mention the date, or give him the opportunity to if she was uncertain but didn’t want to be the one to mention it first.
Also, I’m fairly certain they made the plans Tuesday for Friday, I wasn’t like they made plans Saturday or Sunday for the following Friday. It was literally two days between making plans and the event. If I made plans with someone that I confirmed two days prior, I would definitely assume they were on UNLESS I heard otherwise.
@@Mrjudsonjames so we said the same thing.
@@joywebster2678 Pretty much. We agree she should’ve confirmed if she was unsure. I was adding that he’d started the dialogue where if she didn’t want to be the one to outright confirm, she could’ve kept the dialogue open to give him more opportunity to mention that nights date somehow so there was no need for anyone to confirm. She had the opportunity to save face if she wasn’t sure and didn’t want to seem so. But she shut it down with a simple emoji reply, not word to continue the chat. He clearly didn’t need to confirm from his end. She did. She could’ve easily managed to get it out of him with a convo. A simple “so what pizza you planning on trying tonight?” That’s not sounding uncertain, or trying to confirm, that’s assuming he said what he meant and if he then says “what you mean?” Then it’s him that looked bad, not her. Personally I don’t think he did anything wrong. She did when she gaslit him that it was all his fault that he was stood up when she realised it. So glad im not on the dating scene anymore! 😂
I completely disagree with all the comebacks from the women, on the first one. They made a date; picked out a place and time; and he texted her the day of the date. You’re expecting way too much from him, without expecting her to do the same. She didn’t communicate well, and you’re all assuming she wasn’t the one that was flaking on purpose. Why? Very strange and hypocritical, imo.
Aww, dating is soooo hard on men... They literally risk their lives meeting strangers from the internet, and now they are also expected to confirm the date... Oh, wait, nevermind.
Agree
@@AnnafromHungarylvNWif dating is that scary, don’t date. I used to meet guys in a public place for like 1 hour max. If I liked them, we would arrange a second date. If there was no chemistry, byeeee!!
@@alamedadanceparty I'm happy in my long term relationship, thank you, and honestly, if I found myself single, I probably wouldn't date again.
Still, I 100% believe my relationship works because I found someone who actually cares about my experience as a woman and is willing to accomodate. He understands the inherent difficulties that come with being a woman in this day, and prioritizes me enough to make an effort to even our relationship.
I worry about women who don't recognize that part of what stands in the way of equality are inherent disadvantages that women face, and actual equality requires a level of compensation (=effort) from men. My opinion is that it's easier to find a good partner if you have high standards from the beginning.
@@AnnafromHungarylvNW I never said I didn’t have high standards. But if I liked someone and they asked me out, I would go on a date with them. If they guy asked me out and set the date and time, I would show up. If I was unsure, I would ask, “Are we still on for tonight?” It doesn’t seem like that big of a deal….? I’m married now, but speaking about when I was dating a few years ago. My general position is, less texting, more talking.
I agree that one of them should have confirmed and that it's sad that we can't trust people to keep their word. But dating is so hard. Everyone has "rules" in their heads about how it should work that they think are obvious. But they are different for everyone and that leads to hurt feelings.
Honestly, dating is never going to work for you if you are going to be so uptight about everything. Let the fumbles and miscommunications happen without turning it into some grand personal principle. Assume they don't know if or when to text or kiss or hold the door for you. Because they really don't. Nobody knows the "right" way to date. Just relax, go with the flow, take the mistakes as they come and move on.
Omg that EXACT scenario that happened to Sophie happened to me too! I was approached by a man at the bus stop on my way home one night, he said he liked my style and asked for my number. Few days later and he calls my phone, he's on his way to my town cause he thought we should "chill and smoke" together
I once was asked out by this girl, it was a very sweet moment. We were out with a bunch of friends in front of everyone she had said all these nice things like, "you are such a nice guy, I love spending time with you, you are the guy of my dreams will you go out with me." I agreed and we went on a few dates, we went to the zoo, out to dinner, went to coffee, and I even met her family and she had met mine. I thought everything was going great. Well I was wrong. I texted her one day and asked her what she'd like to do on our next date and her response was, "um next date? I didn't know we were dating" at this point I'm very confused because again she was the one who asked me out. And it is not like it could have been a misunderstanding because when someone says "you're the man of my dreams, will you go out with me?" There's no room for confusion. I kindly brought up her asking me out and the dates we had gone on and she was like, "I never said that and I was just going to those places to be nice. I'm not looking for a relationship right now. We can be friends though." I was completely shocked. I would have been fine if she had just said I'm not ready for a relationship or that she just wasn't interested anymore, but that's not what she said. She had to pretend we never dated which I find very rude and very tacky. I responded with "I'm sorry but I just can't" and then proceeded to delete her number and never saw her again. I don't know if I would have responded the same way now but at the time I was a young teenager who hated confrontation, so maybe there was a world that I could have handled it better, but I'm also glad I didn't stick around. I don't need that kind of delusion in my life.
Years have passed since that breakup and now I'm happily married with a baby on the way, so to all the lovely people who are going through bad breakups right now, don't worry you will find the right person at the right time. Much love to you all
Men and women have issues. This girl is crazy
If it makes you feel better, the story did feel like a teenager story. You eventually mentioning it just confirmed it.
It's quite possible she meant what she said, but then her mind/feelings changed or someone else popped up in the scene... and perhaps she did not do well with confrontation either...
A lot happens during the teenageryears :)
Best of luck to your little family!
It just sounded like she was young and immature. Maybe she had some mental stuff going on or something you just weren't aware of. Either way, everything happens for a reason and your life now is a testament to that.
So glad you found true love. ❤
How amazing!
She did you a favor.
That mental illness does not sound well.
I wouldn’t do that as a teenager either so that is not a teenager attitude.
That is a mental illness and nut case thing. 😂
I would have deleted her too.
Weirdo.
Sounds like she listed for you and when that faded, she was no longer interested and that was her immature way of handling it. It just wasn't meant to be! You did a great job at taking the high road! Nothing more needed to be said.
The girl who had her date show up with his girlfriend reminds me of something that happened to my ex years ago. She’d met a girl on Tinder who’d said she was lesbian. They organised to grab a drink after talking for a few days. This girl shows up with her boyfriend! She called them predators and left. Like WTF that’s so unsafe!
Wow, that’s scary. Don’t know if that was going in the hate crime direction or thinking a threesome was a possibility. Very sketchy for sure.
Maybe she was bi and wanted a three-way?
@@Blondie77128could be that, an open relationship, or poly 🤷🏾♀️
@@Blondie77128 it was definitely for the threesome angle. Disgusting AF for her though. She’s super confident though, and tore the two of them a new arsehole in front of everyone, reported them to Tinder. I hope they got banned.
Unicorn hunters!
Haha confirm at least the night ahead! 😅 I wouldn't have gone possibly ask myself.
I would not need to confirm TWICE.
If a person can’t even show up when they said they would, you don’t need them in your life.
There are massive red flags in the 1st story, but not from the guy. On Tuesday they made plans to go on a date on Friday. Not vague "let's get together on Friday" plans, but concrete plans where they decided on a place and a time. He didn't text her the next 2 days, but he did text her Friday morning to say "Happy Friday" and she saw that text & reacted to it. That's not ghosting her. That's not showing a lack of interest on his part. That's just 2 short days. If it had been more like 2 weeks, then Charlotte might have had a point.
Here are the actual red flags:
1. She evidently expects someone who she just met and has never gone out with yet to immediately be so obsessed with her that he's texting her constantly every single day.
2. She makes concrete plans with people and then after just a couple of days assumes based on absolutely nothing that the plans must be cancelled.
3. After assuming for no reason that the plans are cancelled, she gets his text the morning of the plans, and doesn't bother to say anything about her assumption. This is where an adult would have texted him back saying something like "We're still on for tonight?" if they had any doubts in their mind about the plans that they had made.
Dude dodged a major bullet: this is a girl (not a woman, because she needs to do a lot of growing up before I'd consider her an adult - I'd expect her kind of behavior from an 8th grader) who ignores what people actually say, and just makes shit up in her head about what she thinks they really meant.
THIS. 100%. It’s exactly what I’ve been saying in the comments. So glad to know I’m not going crazy!
That first guy was ABSOLUTELY in the right here. If she really needed that “confirmation”, she should’ve shot him a quick message herself, “hey we still on for Friday?” It really does sound like maybe she didn’t really want to go, and she was grasping at straws for any reason to get out of it. I think his morning-of text was perfect; he was letting her know he was thinking of her, because they’d see each other later that day. If she truly wasn’t sure the date was still on, she had the perfect opportunity to ask for extra-confirmation right there.
She didnt communicate at all!!
And he said he waited until the start time of the date had already arrived to send his first message saying grab a table I am still going to be 5-10 minutes late.
I know someone who lack of punctuality is a deal-breaker and they would have left when the person either didn't care enough to tell them they were behind schedule until AFTER the start time of the date because having the first time you tell someone you are late be when you should already be there says either they don't care enough, or they have poor time management and this will be a regular occurrence
She absolutely wasn't interested, hence why she did not decide to look for confirmation herself. I also wouldn't have interest in keeping a date with someone who hardly interacted with me. Like, I'm only worth your time if I'm there in person? Someone like that isn't worth my time. I assume this woman felt similarly, but I suppose I really don't know.
I loved the sangria at olive garden and i used to any and everyone if they go there to order it. Some of the CRAZIEST places do be having the best drinks. LOL
CHARLOTTE. Your eyeshadow looks SO GOOD.
The story that made me the most angry was the man who expected the woman to invite him to her room because he bought her dinner... I would think anyone wanting a second date and hopefully more, wouldn't put pressure for something more than what the woman is comfortable with to happen on the first date. And any guy that thinks a woman's worth is the cost of a dinner, isn't even worth the hassle of having that dinner paid for. Most of us women know that at this point, and will happily pay for our meal to get out of feeling like we owe anyone anything. Most of us will pay for our dinner period, just like she offered to begin with. But then he had to go and make it even more weird after he said he would pay. He went from being a gentleman to a complete creep in like 2 minutes.
If it wasn't clear for the one who showed up to the coffee date and he had another woman with him, he was expecting her to be their Unicorn. For those that might not know what a Unicorn is, it is a woman willing to have a threesome with an established couple. I mean he could have at least bought her coffee first, damn! Lol. But seriously, that is the absolute worst way to find someone who might be interested in doing something like that, and she was right to run!
For the absolutely stunning woman who blocked the guy who wanted her to look more like Kim K, she is a queen! The fact that he had the audacity to tell her friend that she is the crazy one is absolutely laughable. For one, she is absolutely gorgeous as she is! Secondly, those pictures of Kim are after she has had a lot of work done, makeup always done by a professional makeup artist, and she has not allow any pictures of her to be published anywhere on the internet without them being heavily photo shopped. He is absolutely the crazy one, and her only answer to him should be that he seriously needs therapy.
Two adults made a date and he was the only one responsible enough to actually show up. He shouldn't have to babysit her and ask if she still plans to keep the date they already agreed on or not.
Let me clear things up, I do agree with some of your points but some women or men want to be confirmed again to make sure your not gonna get stood up by the person asking you out
Unless something is said that it's NOT happening, I assume it's happening. Getting a "Happy Friday" is actually a nice reminder imo without putting extra pressure on her.
...idk. I guess I like being on my own too much that constant conversation IS creepy and clingy to me. I would rather talk in person than in text with someone I don't know too.
She could've and should've reached out if she was unsure if the date was still on. Men often think differently in these situations.
@@TyLeeslilsis "Happy Friday" isn't a confirmation. It's a Saluttion. If he had at least texted "Happy Friday" I would have responded with a bit more than just a heart emoji. Maybe a question: "Oh, are we still on tonight?" Or something similarr.
He made the date, and I agree with Charlotte on this, he should have put in the effort to confirm. No confirmation = No interest and I've made other plans.
@@TheJustineCredible He said "Happy Friday." Their date was for Friday. THAT is a reminder. There was no word that they were cancelling until she decided to not show up at all. You've got a phone. You can ask too if you need a secondary confirmation. People don't know what you don't tell them.
People don't generally say they're gonna be late hours before. They say it when they're on their way. She wasn't even there. I'm under the assumption she never intended to be there if her only response was one with an attitude.
I’m almost 50 and have been divorced for almost a year after a 20 year marriage where he basically deserted me and our 2 sons while cheating and after the split a very old acquaintance contacted me about a different and extremely important situation that occurred in our childhood. This man was the oldest brother of my “bf” when I was around 7 and the whole family were family friends. I spent a lot of time at their house because his mom often babysat me. He contacted me because the DA in charge of a case involving his father wanted to see if any of us who were close to the family all those years ago had been another victim of their father. Thankfully I could assure him that my sister and I were not but that’s how we reconnected and now we’re engaged and getting married next winter. So, I don’t care if you’re over 30 or 40 or older, it’s absolutely possible to find love again
The coffee date one was the guy scouting for something and when he first saw her she fit the initial bill or look or whatever. The second meeting was him feeling her out more. whatever he wanted her for it wasn't a date. Good on her for leaving fast
That 1st guy is absolutely right. Dating over 40 is different than what you “kids” do. If SHE was worried then SHE should have reached out with “hey, we still on?”. They made plans, it’s been confirmed…that’s that. We aren’t children.
That begs the question that if she's in a different mind set of a younger generation, how old is she?
@@chronocontract8835 What an odd question to beg. She's most likely a fully functioning adult...
@@nicanonymous9023 why is that so strange? He never said her age, he has expectations that a lot of people here are agreeing with coming from an older generation. The younger generation are agreeing with her method. It just makes me wonder if he's dating someone his age or someone much younger than him. That doesn't mean she's not an adult but it could mean that she's between 18 to 25 or something which would explain the miscommunication
Even at 30, I would not show up unless it's been double confirmed especially not if they have been ghosting me all week. Especially if it's somebody she was on the fence about on the first place, I can see her not wanting to be awkward and reach out to him
@@chronocontract8835 You're being dishonest. There are plenty of people from the younger generation that are agreeing with what the man is saying.
the first one is pretty clear for me, if (constant) communication/texting is important to you, tell it... if it's absolutely not, there is no way telling someone all things you don't do, so that's the woman's job in this scenario.. being passive aggressive and expect a stranger to read your mind is just.. well... a waste of time..
(added from my later comment here too to make clear I don't agree on what he said about her or even said etc)
it's just a bit logical in my opinion.. if he thought everything is alright, there is nothing to discuss.. I agree on showing interest is very important but all he said sounds for me like a very early stage, like even before getting to know each other (just a speculation because we don't really know).... so if she thinks/feels like nothing is alright she has to talk about her needs and if he's not the right for those needs it's all good.. so saying that this woman should speak up actively was not meant as self hate at all.. what he said and did afterwards in that tiktok is a different story and just shows its not true when he says he's grown up :-D
I also totally agree on the confirmation, same thing... SHE doesn't know (yet) that you do what you said.. things can go wrong anyway though
@Cara84de then she should have confirmed. He did text her on Friday. She could have taken the time to ask him. I would have.
Besides, he texted her the morning of to say Happy Friday and she did not reply, just hearted the text. So he believed all was good.
I agree...the woman could have texted during the week to make sure they were still a go...relationships are a TWO way street....BOTH people need to contribute and since SHE couldnt be bothered to text him its obvious to ME that she wasnt all that interested in meeting...he is NOT the AH
He gives total douche vibes she didn't mess anything up 😅
First story, I agree with Charlotte. I have anxiety and I'm spacey. I also understand that people have a lot going on in their lives. If we make plans days before, I believe it's common courtesy to check in the day of or night before to make sure we are still on for the plans. My girlfriends and I do that every time, so I would expect that the person who asked me out would confirm. If I hear nothing, I assume that you forgot, made other plans, or decided you don't want to go. If I asked you out, I would confirm. If you ask me out, you should confirm. To me, me checking in to confirm on a date you asked me on seems desperate.
Thats why i always share the bill. A plate of pasta dont buy a night with me lol
Dude, the story with the last woman is INSANE. She is a 12/10 JUST in appearance, not even including the math I’m not privy to - her mind, her heart and who she is as a person - and a date told her what to do with her makeup?! 😂 World record fumble. I hope she found a man worthy of her presence because she deserves one just for the way she handled the exit.
She obviously had thousands in plastic surgery. Most men find that gross.
Would I tell a woman that she needed to look more like Kim K? Hell NO!
im gay as the day is long and I was STILL like "noooo he fumbled big tiiiime" like come on I have eyes and half a brain cell--
She should have told him that even Kim K doesn’t look like she did in 2008.
If he wants a Kim lookalike to “date” to fulfill some fantasy, then he should just get a blowup doll in her image and leave actual women alone. 🤦♀️
@@judycroteau482 you are absolutely correct
@@stevec3526 Not that it’s anyone’s business regardless but no?? She looks like she takes care of herself and was genetically blessed. And even if she did, that negates your point entirely because obviously someone wanted her for this story to have happened. Not to mention, Kim K has a whole new body at this point and men still want women to emulate her fake ass. No woman who is sure of herself gives a shit about what men want when it comes to their bodies anyway so. 💅🏻 Stay in your lane, no profile picture Steve.
No no, with the first story you and the other woman are wrong. They agreed to the date on TUESDAY, he only didnt text her for two days. He texted her Friday and if she was unsure she should have texted back to his good morning 'hey are we still on tonight' rather than hearting it and then just silently cancelling their date without telling him. She should have said something or been upfront in her expectations.
She knew why he was saying happy Friday and couldn’t even bother txting a response. She just hearted his txt.
100% agree
This 💯 That woman was absolutely childish, he dodged a bullet.
Thankyou, THIS is exactly what I’ve been saying to people in comments! Thought I was going crazy here! 😂
@angel...nope. He asked her on the date. He calls to confirm. That's how it works. If she asked him on the date then she calls to confirm. Communication = love. No communication, no love.
🤣🤣 telling myself this is the last one, i have to adult for awhile but doesn't ant too, lol i am addicted haha
Omg the last two. I am so glad I am settled down.