(S2E11) POOR HOMEMAKING & POOR CHARACTER | Christian Perspective
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I’ve always kept a very tidy, clean, organized home, but then I got tired of cleaning while running a business and being in school, so I hired a housekeeper and a cleaning service. I don’t think a women needs to keep the home all by themselves--Especially if you work. Get help, even the Proverbs 31 woman had ‘helperS’. Love the video btw.
Exactly
Absolutely.
totally agree
omg mazelee hi
Yes! I also work and getting help, even if it's once a week has been a lifesaver. And honestly my husband appreciates it more as I have more time for him. ❤️
I am accountable for my home but not responsible
I grew up in a dirty household. Not even messy. But dirty. My parents were always yelling at us for being messy. Seeing it from an adult perspective- it’s so bizarre to expect from a child to be organised when you grow up in environment like this. My mom always chased career. She is now single in her mid 60 and I can’t tell she’s happy. I chose different path. I was raised by two atheists and I am slowly learning how wrong they were. A lot of things I naturally tend to I find are in Bible. Thanks to channels like yours I can actually learn how to be a good homemaker because it’s not naturally in me, I have to really be very intentional about it. But love it! God is good🥰
Don't worry it is naturally in you! It's actually your parents who have suppressed your nature to care for the home. And you know it's naturally in you too because youre drawn to it
@@anuetognaci1303 maybe you’re right :-) thank you ❤️
It is naturally in you because God’s spirit is in you. It just needs awakening 😊❤
HALLELUJAH SIS! Love this for you❤️ 👏 👏 👏
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I love this conversation, but I must say this is a whole different ball game when you're homeschooling and the kids are home 24/7. I know many homeschooling moms with "unkept" homes because they are prioritizing teaching their children, taking them on field trips, feeding them good meals, doing community work, and having enough energy left over to spend time with their husbands. It's not always about character but what the family has decided they value most. Sometimes, we make the mistake of looking at things as if they can only be black or white. That's a problem. A messy home doesn't always equate to poor character traits any more than a pristine home automatically equates to good character traits. I've seen hateful and judgemental women with the most pristine of homes. Let's not forget what the Word says, which demonstrates that "housework can sometimes be a distraction from more important things." We should all ask the Lord what we should turn our attention to each day, rather than assuming it's always housework. Sometimes it's not.
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, 'Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!'
'Martha, Martha,' the Lord answered, 'you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed-or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.'" Luke 10 38-42
I thought of these same scriptures! Martha missed the message because she was so focused on preparing the home. Sometimes you have to be still and make time to listen to God and/or spend time with family. Sometimes those dishes or laundry have to wait!
Thumbs triple up! So true!
@@RearviewWisdom Yes thank you. I tell people this ALL the time!
thank you
@@RearviewWisdom I totally agree. I am Nigerian and it's not uncommon for us to have "help" if we can afford it. I fully believe in outsourcing and helping others to provide for their family, whether by way of a cleaning service, lawn service, etc.
I've been married for almost 10 years and just this year I got serious about figuring out why I get lazy with my home making. I doscovered that eating a high carb high sugar breakfast makes me want to go back to sleep or stay on the couch all morning, so now I skip breakfast altogether or I eat a high protein/fiber breakfast, and that keeps me going all morning. Also, staying up late the night before is THE worst thing to you can do to yourself. I still fail here and there, but the days I control media consuption before bed are the days I am the most productive.
I also discovered the flylady system and it has made home making more fun and manageble.
This is so true for me too! You put it very well. I also love flylady. 🙂
oh my goodness. I'm dealing with the same thing.. high sugar and carbs are soo bad, numbing, demotivating, it's like getting stoned on drugs
Same!!
This is so true for me too. In order to be productive we have to look after our health to the best of our abilities. That means sleeping early and eating well. When we do those, we can perform our duty well and with more ease. I need help in this department
I used flylady also! And I realized I was being selfish. ❤ Diet has a ton to do with how we feel. I lost 80lbs when I realized all of this. It was amazing.
A woman definitely makes a house a home, but a home in disarray is sometimes a sign of mental instability. If it’s their mess, they may be depressed or just overwhelmed. But regardless of whose mess it is, living in chaos will destabilize you. I keep a neat, clean home primarily because chaos is stifling. I just don’t function well because it’s daunting. But to clean it up, just focus on one space at a time or one room if you can handle that. And ask for help when you need help. Don’t suffer in silence and don’t ignore it because it won’t go away. It’ll actually get worse.
Thank you for your comment. I feel like this is me at times but I have no one that I can go too because everybody always thinks you're doing just fine. I feel too numb to even talk to God about it. I literally feel invisible. However, I'm going to pray today after seeing this video and scripture references.
@@lovelyonedenise7402 thank you fpr your comment. This is my exact situation and thoughts as well.
@@lovelyonedenise7402 you’re not alone, I’m going through the same.. God is bigger than our problems.
you just described me. I'm currently suffering anxiety and depression brought on by an abusive husband who is an unbeliever and it shows in how my house is which just makes me anxiety worse. I started to declutter. i figured if i start to just go through my belongings and donate a lot of what doesn't serve me then its a start to being more organized. please pray for me that God may give me strength and also for anyone in this same situation. God bless you.
@@Tiffany_titus213 1 Samuel 25, the story of Abigail and Nabal. It's a good reminder that God sees everything, hasn't forgotten you and will repay on your behalf.
Want to put this out there for anyone in similar workaholic, professional shoes:
I found homemaking to be very difficult.
We had a small infant and I was pregnant again when I finally had to resign. CLEARLY it was our priority for me to stay home, but I also felt so out of place. Felt I wasn't able to justify my time with productivity markers I had always set myself. Really felt like a failure.
Husband always said happy kids was greatest measure, but just seemed like a well meaning platitude.
Nearly all of friends returned to work within months of babies, said not cut out for being home, etc... Did some soul searching. Why did I feel so uncomfortable being home doing household chores and just caring for our baby, singing and rocking? Seemed wasteful and lazy.
You know what I discovered was the common denominator with all friends and especially for myself? Not comfortable at home because never allowed to BE home. Whole childhood was daycare.
When I aged out of daycare, started working after school. Home was only transition between work and school.
I don't want that for my kids. Building healthy people is hard work, and I had to accept it felt unnatural for me. Working harder at something foreign to me to become an expert was my new challenge. Called myself a fake homemaker, faking it until making it.
I persevered because I wanted it to be natural for my kids. We had more. God gave us a happy home, glorious marriage, wholesome children.
I made a lot more money than my husband- it took a lot of faith to take the leap. All these sacrifices to believe God and follow His wisdom has repaid an immeasurable reward for our faith.
Hoping to encourage any.other couples facing the same early difficulties we had, especially when our lovely church ladies encouraged me back to work many times using my discomfort in homemaking and successful career as a sign from God that I shouldn't be home.
(They weren't home with their kids growing up so they were quite uncomfortable with my journey to do what I "know" is right rather than trusting my "feelings" as a spiritual guide). Any couples facing the same lonely road, consider (as we did) that no one can ever prove God wrong. He said women are to be keepers of the home, and Prov 31 is our guide. Often wonder why divorce stats are same with Christians and Secular. I think they are following the same life/game/goal plan -as we had before u-turn. Go back to design and get heavenly results. 👍
PREACH IT!!! 🤍🤍🤍
LOVED that you mentioned and emphasized we can not rely on our feelings, because The heart is deceitful, who can know it?
Sometimes the FLESH is gonna make us feel some type of way about God's design/direction because the flesh is against the Spirit.
Important to seek the Lord's guidance in everything and to pray for a change of heart to meet HIM. Not the other way around. We are to be aligned with Him and His ways 💗
Wow! Bravo! This is taking amazing courage to do and SAY!! Good for you! It's NOT easy but nothing worthwhile ever is.
@@alexislopez3745 Exactly!💯
Woohoo! Putting the Word above our feelings... so against our grain, but right!!
Loved everything you have said God's blessings to you and your family 👏🙌❤️❤️😃
Minimalist saves me time and energy...i specifically will question every single thing i bring , less furniture, less accessories , less clothes etc...its not perfect but i try....hope this helps someone..
I’ve been decluttering for the last couple weeks little by little, trying to create a more “minimalist” lifestyle for my family and I. It’s hard with 4 small children, but it has definitely made my job as a home keeper much easier!
YES-I detest clutter so my home isn't cluttered. The things I chose to have are things that have meaning or I really like, but there aren't a lot of them. People come into the house and remark on how clean my home is; I have to shake my head because it's NOT super clean-my baseboards could probably use a dust, my washing machine and dryer could be wiped down, closet shelves dusted and reorganized, etc. BUT not having a lot of things all over the place makes it easy to manage what I do have and makes the home appear much neater. Everything has a purpose and a place in my house because if it didn't, it wouldn't be there :) Minimalism has helped me enormously in keeping a neat home.
Its very helpful ❤️
I like that.it’s helpful and I will work on it. Thanks for sharing
If only I read decluttering at the speed of Life earlier. If someone could have taught me that my problem was I had more than I could manage. I also didn't know how to get rid of stuff. I have a low clutter threshold. Which means I can't maintain as much as most women. But scaling down on stuff to what I could/ can manage is the game changer.
I value a clean home, but I prefer not to do the work myself. I choose to be a blessing to another woman who needs to make a living by paying her for weekly housekeeping, while she blesses my home with cleanliness.
@GIRLINA101 THANK YOU for sharing this🌹. So many women feel guilty about hiring household help and yet the Proverbs 31 woman had help and wisely supervised their work!
@@quietandmildone I live alone in a small apartment how do I justify? Plus it needs to be cleaned and organized before someone can come to deep clean. I've been struggling and praying about this for years. 😩 I've tried prayer, hypnosis, motivational videos. I'm fatigued, unmotivated. I'm very sad. 😢It wasn't always this bad. I had hope once and energy.
Grown woman stuff. When I was being raised with my family, whose loving yet has a poverty mindset, I was taught that cleaning my home all day every day was very important but what I feel I should have been given were the tools to get myself in a situation where I could pay a person to clean for me because I’m so busy working on my self Myfamily and career and or business.
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Thank u for sharing this @girlina101.
Developing homemaking skills take time. Just like learning to cook, becoming a doctor, becoming a good parent, they all take time. When you walk into an elderly woman’s house, who was a homemaker for years, and it’s clean, well decorated, smells nice with delicious food cooked on time, she didn’t learn this right away! I’ve been married almost 7 years with 3 children that I homeschool, and my home only recently started to be relatively put together! It took time! I had to learn multiple skills at the same time! Like Bindi said, pray for guidance and learn these skills. My husband and I also struggled for a while on who does what, overtime we realized what our roles are, and even though I am in graduate school, we both came to an understanding that my role is not to provide and that I open a clinical practice part time until our children are adults unless circumstances dictate otherwise. Even then, if I feel overwhelmed I may continue to do it part time. My husband understands his role is to provide and he “helps” with housekeeping when he has time and energy from his demanding job.
However, I do feel for women who have to work because their able bodied husbands don’t want to or cannot work and are still expecting to have to do all the cleaning and caretaking of children. It’s even worse when the man makes less money which I see often as well! In these cases, I think having tough conversations on who does what is warranted, so that there is no confusion and worse yet, resentment. For women who are not married yet, be careful who you marry or you may end up in a marriage where you are doing everything!
So True :) Thanks for sharing hon.
Well said!
Great advice!
Great advice!
Great advice!
I grew up with an amazing single mom, BUT did not have the best example of how to keep a clean home. I struggled with this for a while until God led me to some of the most amazing cleaning channels here on CZcams. Wow these women have great tips and techniques and just provide so much motivation to keep your home cleaned, organized, and even well decorated if you’re into that. It has been such a blessing to me and my home feels and looks so much better and I’m complimented by my husband and loved ones all the time! I highly recommend Candis Halligan, Alexandra Beuter and Becky Moss’s channels! There are tons of channels though, seriously.
Thank you so much for sharing their channels.
Yes I’ve learned so much from these ladies and like you said candis halligan she’s one of my favorite
Share the tips without deciding what or how another is, feels, or aspires - "character flaws".
May I also recommend Scandish Home, Noemi has such a gentle spirit and is a wonderful homemaking inspiration.
@@Bindi_Marc you should research before you post some messages read the situation on the ground.look at how your making already suffering women feel even. Low.
Honestly do better.
I’m a mother of *7* plus a full time ministry. Our life is always on the move and kept busy. We homeschool all while making preparations for the body daily. I have had many moments of weaknesses in my walk and I’ve used those weaknesses against myself, against my household. Stepping back I can see how my home is a reflection. It’s also reflected how my children take care of themselves as well. I always think about proverbs 31 and what it was to bring your husband harm instead of honor. I asked God if I brought harm to mine…
God spoke to me that day and said “the harm is when he has no clothes for work within the week. The harm is when dinner is not ready after a long filled working day.” The list goes on. I have cried over this understanding, yet I’ve done nothing in consistency to assure anyone that I’m dependable in these areas… I remember always saying “I do not have enough time.” But tbh I could have had plenty. Had I put down my devices, had I cast down emotions, had I not stalled or procrastinated. Had I prayed more often. We all have time. We know this in the back of our minds. The excuse comes not from flesh and blood.
We are offended because it messes with our complacency. The word of God is living and active. Sharper then any double edge sword. Piercing through spirit and body, bone and marrow. Discerning every intention of the heart and mind…. We know, we comment excuses but we ourselves know.
Sister! Be encouraged! This will not come back to the Almighty void, even if no one else hears you, I HEAR YOU! GOD HEARS YOU! loud and clear. I receive and ask that you pray for us as a whole. My name is DeAnna. My husbands is Jose. Our kids from biggest to smallest: Izabella, Angelynn, Jose jr, Matthew, Rosabella, Zaralynn, and Julius. 13-5. Pray that this household unifies according to the knowledge of Christ Jesus. I make no excuses this day, God is my main priority today and henceforth not anything else as it has been prior, anyone reading and praying for us is a witness Abba Father, please help them reflect on themselves because you’ve said it is not only our interests we should be looking out for but for others. Lord when people walk into my home, they are blinded and can not see your light because I have neglected what you have called me for, our purpose was not ever intended to live out for us, but for “others” by “your” great will. I know society is offended by your Truth, but you have already told us this that we may know in advance. I pray you not only soften the hearts of those in the comment section, watching, or listening to this daughter of yours speak what’s been given but also prick the very nature that refuses to self reflect and put You first. In Jesus name, Amen.
Bless you ❤️. Your sweet testimony touched me, as well as this video. Amen and ouch! 💕 🩹
Love your humility Deanna & thank you for sharing what God spoke to you. So much truth here! May God bless you with the knowledge & diligence to do what He has called you to as a homemaker; as well as your household my dear sister. Hugo
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Thank You for your truthfulness and for your testimony. Sometimes the truth really HURTS! Your testimony hit home for me. I recently lost my husband unexpectedly from COVID! We all need to listen to God and never take our family for granted! Life is like a vapor. It can end so fast. God Bless you and your family!
Amen ❤
When my kids were younger, I was a single mom with a 40+ job and my house was still in descent order, that carried out in my girls. We serve a God of order and as we spend more time we him, even with a busy schedule, we begin to change from the inside out. And our thought patterns reflect his. God bless you sister!
I'm a mom of 6 and I wish my home was as steady as you and the others in the comments
I am struggling so bad in my life. I’m a single mom, run down with various problems. Not managing well at all, and I haven’t been shown by the best example by either parent either. I hope God works a miracle in my life
I'll say a prayer for you while I pray for me. I have some of the same issues.
May you have all that is needed in your life, may you find abundance everywhere you look! Great vibes and good luck to you!
Praying God strengthen you daily . Begin to read the book of Proverbs.. 🙏🙏🙏
Continue to seek the lord in prayer.
Solicit help from wise women in your life as well. Your mother, an aunt, sister, godly woman in church(who has good children and a functional family herself). Setting a schedule and getting rid of excess material things will help.
Teach your child to obedience and manners because the child is unruly, other people will not want to watch him/her. This is actually a big problem these days. Find time preferably daily, read them scripture and pray with them. Children MUST be taught the word of God even if it’s inconvenient.
I am so sorry to hear that you are experiencing those hardships. I was a single mom when I was younger, and on the verge of homelessness with a newborn. God provided just enough to pull us out of that situation. He sees and hears you. If you aren’t already, seek counsel from your church. Meet godly women who can help mentor and walk alongside you. If you aren’t a member of a local body yet, find a gospel centered, Bible centered church that esteems the Truth of the Word above cheap “self help” (unfortunately many modern churches have become glorified self help seminars).
If you’re struggling with meals don’t be ashamed to go to food banks or ask fire stations, church outreaches, etc. for resources.
Most of all, pray. Petition the Lord for help guiding you to the right places physically, but most of all in your heart. Our struggles in the world, no matter how insurmountable they seem, are always eclipsed by the internal struggle in our flesh. Paul is a great example of this.
If you can’t say Amen, say “Ouch‼️” 😂🤣 I feel checked and I’m not married nor do I have a family yet! This must be a sign that it’s around the corner, and God is gracing me to prepare! Thank you, Bindi!
You and me both sis lol
And myself 😂
Me three! But I realized about Jesus last year and that has helped like nothing else to feel my heart fuller, LORD 💜
I'm with you! It certainly gave me things to think about as far as things I have been struggling with when it comes to preparing to be a wife and mother. I'm grateful for this video.
I agree. I am blessed to work as a registered nurse on the weekends so I help contribute good income into the house as well as have the time to manage the home during the week. My husband works long hours and takes care of the yard and cars but I still know my place is to keep my home and children kept well. It’s the best feeling to know my husband is coming home to a clean house, well behaved kids, and a home cooked meal. I take pride it in. I also get great rewards from my career in particular because I am doing Gods work as well by the care of my patients.
I have watched women helping others in the church or going to Christian events, at the expense of caring for their children properly or caring for their home. Our first ministry is to our husband, children and home, and then to others. Xx
Yes! I’ve noticed that as well and wondered if there was something I was doing wrong. I do not have the desire to go to every event that is offered I need to take care of my house/ family first and then schedule other events with the time left.
Oh my gosh. This was my childhood.😬🤯
I use to be one of those woman! But I received the effects of it and I’m soooo happy that I can give a portion of me to the church but when it’s time to go I’m gone because I have my house husband and children who needs me! Thank God
i was this woman until God opened my eyes. This was never discussed at church and now i understand why because they always want you there no matter of your marriage is going through the rocks.
Amen..
I literally prayed to Yahweh this morning about my home, asking him to help me with tiding up room by room. AND YES HE DID IT! I'VE GOTTEN SO MUCH DONE!!! THANK YOU JESUS!!!
One thing my mother always stressed growing up was the idea that If your home is in chaos, then your life is in chaos. A clean, peaceful home reflects a clean peaceful mind. I didn't buy that at all until I became an adult and lived on my own for the first time. I definitely understand and am grateful for that piece of wisdom now. My grandmothers also had welcoming and well kept homes, and they taught the value of resting when tired because they had to work hard when they're bodies allowed. All of them worked outside and inside the home. These traits were important to them because they understand the value of what they were doing.
I’m a single mother , in school, and work two jobs. I am exhausted. I try my best. That’s all I can do. 🤷🏻♀️
You are doing more than enough. Blessings.
Try to involve your kids in to householding when they are old enough and give them small projects
The reality is we are not enough as we are, but the good news is God can fill in those spaces where we are weak. With Him, anything is possible. But also, find time to rest and tend to yourself.
@@thartfreek1334 beautiful ♥️
Girl it sounds to me like you're doing your absolute best to provide a good life for you and your child(ren) and THAT IS ENOUGH. This season of life won't stay this way forever. I was a single mom of 2 for 9 years, and we barely made it, but we did. Spend as much time with your babies as you can and you'll never regret this time in your life. Blessings to you, mama. ❤
This works for some. But women work as hard as men these days and that extra income is needed for lot of families. In saying that, working 40 hours a week, caring for the kids, and being completely responsible for the house can be challenging. So unfortunately things aren’t always in place or as organized as she is stating here. So ladies don’t feel bad if you have a day where you just can’t get every thing done.
You’re right! It’s not like the 50’s when more women were only working in the home. No woman should beat themselves up if they have to work, care for children, and home if the home isn’t perfect all of the time.
This is real she should listen to something's
The Bible says it is excellent for women to have pursuits outside of the home! But for a reason the Bible hasn’t changed. The God of this universe made it like this for a reason! We shouldn’t value the pursuits outside of the home more than the home. God can give you strength to do it all! 😊❤️ he’s a God of order for a reason!
I have worked outside of the home at 40 hrs with an additional 10hrs of commute and was able to keep a proper home. God gives all who ask. Accepting less is weakness on your part.
It's real not an excuse her tips is fine , not the way she going about it
This really spoke to me. I didn’t receive the best training so I had to learn a lot on my own. Then when chronic illness hit, I’ve lost a lot of energy to do the home tasks that I needed to do. Thankfully, I am receiving the proper health care and I am slowly, but surely getting my energy back. Now I am getting back on track all glory to God ❤️
YES I NEEDED THAT!!! I AM LAZY . Thays my confession wow , This was a very convicting , video to watch .
Exactly what you said . My days my weeks and months have gone by and I say to myself why, why have I accomplished nothing ? Idleness is to heavy in me and I am my own boss and am not disciplined I pray I can be more diligent !
Coming from a feminist mom, saved by grace at 16, God placed in my heart to give my future family the things I never had. Your videos have given me confirmation, encouragement, direction, and inspired purpose. Thank you Jesus, for your wisdom and commitment to walk in His ways.
I've read most of the comments and I get both perspectives. We do live in a day & time where two income households are a necessity. I am a wife & mother & I do work full-time outside of the home, while pursuing a higher education. Sometimes my home do ho lacking as far as cleanliness & organization just because I can't do it all everyday. So I get the lack of time sometimes we have because of these outside pursuits. But my home must be a place of peace & sanctuary & I have to maintain some form of order & cleanliness. So for me my weekends are when I'm most free so I'll get up early Saturday morning turn my music on (gospel or r&b) & get in a zone because I don't know how to function in chaos & disorder. So I would tell the ladies to figure out what works for you because God will bless your efforts knowing that we all fall short at times. But be intentional!!!🙏🏽
This comment is so good. God knows we are doing the most and can fall short, possibly every day but it's in realizing that just some scale of cleanliness and order goes such a long way and is actually an investment into the success of all the other things we need to do.
Well said amen 🙏🏾
My spirit is weeping!!! This is the biggest disagreement in my marriage. Thank you for this. I receive this! Lord help me.
are you a stay at home wife or do you share in bringing in the income? would it be fair to leave all the housework on you if you are both working? did your husband want a maid instead of a wife? The proverbs 31 woman had maids to help her with her household chores. i don't think you should beat yourself up too much if you are helping out in other areas and not getting any help with the household chores
sis same here!
@@hilaryjoseph9706 I understand what you are saying totally!
I'm listening...you are speaking to my heart. I also didn't have this modeled and lack all confidence and continue to feel overwhelmed by it. I am embarrassed by the attitude that has crept in that started as just ignorance on how to manage my home and I'm afraid has morphed into laziness. Thank you for teaching me again the Biblical truth that this is my role, God is able to transform my mind, and that he has placed Christian examples in my pathway so I can learn homemaking vs housework. I almost don't know how to start....its hard for me to work small(see results) when so much in my home is out of control and I want it all fixed right away. Perhaps the lesson is to persevere again and again with my heart to serve God, my husband, and our children through homemaking.
I felt overwhelmed by my home cause it got out of control due to illness issues and I had a couple of friends come over and help me to start and get it back in order, maybe this might work for you
@Esther J. Walker, this too is my problem area feeling overwhelmed by my house and the STUFF, that's in it, I was just this morning talking to GOD about this very topic, and I'm embarrassed. I need organization in my life.
You have to remember the elephant principle. How do you eat an elephant? Now take that same principle and apply it to your home. One step at a time, one room at a time. Deep clean, then develop a maintenance system. I love watching, Clean My Space because Melissa gives you real examples of how to clean so even those who struggle with knowing what products to use, and how to properly work the mechanics of cleaning can learn from her. Hope this helps.
If it’s very overwhelming and needs organisation, maybe consider hiring someone on Task Rabbit for them to go through room by room. Then that mountain would seem like more of a hill. Your initial tasks will be maintain the newly ordered house and try not to accumulate unnecessary things that don’t serve any function in the house. All the best x
Also must us don't take the time to honour the strict instruction to observe the sabbath and give ourselves total rest each week.
I just today saw this video and it has me sobbing. There is no doubt that Christ put this video in my feed for today. Thank you for facilitating that conviction!! Since having to leave my career because of physical disability eight years ago, I have suffered from a depression of complacency. My home and my family are the ones who have suffered from this. Please help pray that this will be the catalyst to lift this dark cloud from our lives. Thank you again for bringing the biblical honestly that today's world needs. God bless you&your family. ❤
Make it a habit to deep clean every week... sweep, mop all that.. that's a good place to start
also, floors and surfaces are the most important & carry the most dirt.. clean floors weekly
You have spoken to a heart all the way in Africa ,particularly Zambia.i feel encouraged to manage my home and bring glory to God.. indeed if he can dress the Lilly of the valley what more me!
This was really good and thought provoking. I keep a tidy/clean home because it keeps me sane (tidy house, tidy mind), but I've often felt guilty/self-conscious about it because everyone seems so surprised that a homeschooling mom with 4 kids under age 7 can have a tidy house. :) I've asked my husband if I should just keep it messier so that others feel more at ease! I got married late and did have a career for 10 years, so now I see homemaking as my job and something I should strive to be a "professional" at.
Something that has really helped keep our house tidy has been teaching the kiddos from the earliest age to appreciate being clean and tidy. For example, no one leaves the kitchen without having hands and face wiped up...which means their clothes and our furniture don't have food stains. Just an example. If the kids are taught to prefer tidiness themselves, over time there's much less for mama to keep up with!
Your wondering if you should let home be messy to put others at ease? Are you kidding? I'm very untidy. I struggle keeping home clean so when I see a tidy house, I comment. I'm impressed! I'd love to be organized.
I agree that if rhe kids are taught to be tidy it makes things easier. I used to feel horrible asking my kids to keep their room tidy and keep their toys to a minimum, make their beds to rhe best of their ability and help with age appropriate chores. My oldest son' s room surprises and shock people because how near his closet and his room. Parents teach your children to help!! It will help you in the long range. I yell a little too much tho😩🙈. Praying that God helps me with that
@@mamuklutze6474 Being tidy is good for them and for the family, plus their future spouses will thank you! :)
(4:27) I agree, it’s a VALUE problem. And often we are taught what to value over what in the home we grew up in as you mentioned.
I grew up being “told” to tidy up my room, but I also grew up constantly hearing my mother complain about doing any household work. Chores felt like they were passed off to me as “gross” rather than as an opportunity to grow and a privilege to take on responsibility. I was also only awarded attention/affection/encouragement when I “accomplished” in academics or improved the family reputation somehow. In contrast, I was only made to feel inadequate about my organization skills and completed tasks at home were overlooked.
Eventually I accepted that “I’m just not an organized person…” & “Household chores are an unpleasant and necessary evil that earns me nothing…”which I know are lies from the enemy. I’m now trying to unlearn these lies that have made me so unmotivated to maintain organization in my home.
Though I have an intense desire to keep things organized, I do sense there is much hurt in this area that keeps me stuck in this cycle. I will be praying for some serious healing to overcome these pain points.
this comment is so true and so eye opening thank you for this
same!
Wow! An eye opener!
Wow I relate to this so much. My mother is a very tidy person herself and taught me the value to pamper myself and keep my room clean. Yet, I always seen her complain about doing the majority of the house hold chores. Which is valid since she works the same hours as my father and splits the bills.
It ended up fostering a negative attitude towards cleaning up after people but especially men. I will 100% clean my own space and own messes. But for others? I view it as negative and your comment helped me see why now.
“Thats not oppressive, it’s clear.” I loved it so true. Knowing who has to do what gives people direction.
I had a terrible addiction to social media so I placed limits around my time on them. I will watch a CZcams video while doing the dishes and use other apps during nap time.
I also found a cleaning schedule from Pinterest that has helped me have an ideal of what I will complete that day! That has been the most helpful for me!
Also, I am making it a point to provide a loving, warm environment for my family a place where they want to come back to.
P.S. thank you for the video I was questioning if I was not doing enough activities outside of my house.
I'm very disorganized and my home is messy. I'm not married but hoping to marry former fiance soon. He commented on my messy place. Any suggestions? I just am not good at cleaning!
@@danilaroche1156 hmmmm... How bad is it tho? Not much context. Look on CZcams for cleaning tips. Think of cleaning as exercise maybe buy ankle weights
@@danilaroche1156 I would suggest decluttering first. Because the more things a person has, the difficulty it is to keep up and maintain. My house is not clutter so it makes it easier to clean. I only do deep cleaning on Fridays but make sure the kitchen it clean everyday and pick up some items every other day. I work full time so it’s not always perfect but I can’t function in a messy home. I hope this helps
@@dianafritz3117 I'm currently decluttering. I'm an author & poet( about to publish 4th book!).My brain is usually anywhere but on cleaning but I'm getting better. Thanks sis!
It is extremely refreshing to see more diversity in the Christian homemaking realm.
Right ✝️👏🏾
As a white woman, I agree! She is by far my favorite channel in this niche
Interesting references to "maidservants" and house help. I highly regard my servants: dishwasher, washer and dryer, microwave, oven, crockpot, coffee-maker, blender, air conditioner, vacuum cleaner, bread machine, dehydrator......
I even named my “helpers” (appliances). 😂😂.
Yes!!! It's SO funny how many people in the comments say... "but they had maid servants.. they had help.. they had the children, and a village, and blahblahblah..." Yep - AND they had WAY more to do!! Washing clothes for the family took a whole day, done by hand. You make such a great underrated point.
I love this video! It's so refreshing to see another godly woman who stands for God's design and role of a woman in today's world! Our society is pulling further and further away from how God instructs women to live, yet it's important that we commit to obedience to Him. His way is the best way. Great video! God bless you!
For myself, mother of three boys. I found no greater joy than raising my children. Which included yes a lot of cleaning, cooking, and management of the home. I was unequally yoked, all my husband did was bring home a check. So I was responsible for a lot. But my point is, there was no greater joy in my heart , than to care for my children, and our home. I don’t judge others, as most are forced to work around the clock, just to eat! My own best friend, Whois great Mom, loves working , alongside raising her children. She waited for them to all be in school, but she is bored, does not enjoy homemaking! I feel blessed to be pleased with the simple things in life💜
Left my full-time, successful career end of last year when we moved for my husband's career and started homeschooling. My house and household is in a much better state, so are the members of my household. The peace we experience now is worth much more than the income sacrifices we have had to make. I have been learning so much of the value of the mother and housekeeper and see it as an honour now. It's been tough being a 'highly educated' woman and 'giving up my independence' but it's so worth it.
I actually love this. I’m also aware of how mental deficits affect this. ADHD really hinders motivation, focus and can bring depression which paralyzes. This video is encouraging to me despite my ADHD. I’m not as low functioning as others with ADHD. But with all of my mental health research I have a new perspective on the word laziness. Yes sometimes we just want to relax, but a lot of times there’s a reason why we’re having a hard time getting up and starting on the house. ADHD isn’t an excuse. But it’s a real issue inside your brain that you can’t help. Communicating all of this to my husband has helped us both. He has more grace for me. But this video is helpful because it encourages me to push despite the enormous challenge and difficulty to help and care for my husband and children.
Pray to God to be freed from adhd depression (which is a sin)
@@FoundSheep-AN I don’t think you realize how harmful your response is. This is not encouraging, I’m sure she has prayed for her ADHD to go away. Some of us will have thorns in our flesh that will not be removed even with prayer, that is until we receive our glorified bodies and these thorns are different for us all. We were never promised a trouble free life, we live in a fallen world and are not exempt from the diseases that sin has caused. There is sin and there are symptoms of living in a sinful world. We don’t call it sin for someone to have a physical illness because it isn’t so we shouldn’t call mental illnesses/disorders sin either. Please seek to be more compassionate and pray that God would enlighten you to these things.
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I was diagnosed with adhd as an adult and took adderall. My home was constantly messy. I was unmotivated and the start of my home did cause me to feel depressed at times. But know! God has worked on me and healing is possible. God said we would have a new body and a renewed mind! Receive that knowledge and let it grow your faith in Him.
You can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you. Itll be a process to overcome but it's possible. I dont have to take my adderall anymore and my home isn't perfect but it's MUCH better than before and its only getting better 🙂
Adhd is not depression lol
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Your message is unpopular… BUT those of us on this righteous path; are definitely in agreement with you sis. Thank you! Loving the content! Keep it coming!!
I appreciate this dialogue and I feel like it needs to be had more. I can’t count how many times that people in my life have said how I need more and that it is somehow wrong to depend on my husband to support me and our children. I don’t feel demeaned working in the home, raising and instructing my children, and yes even catering to my husband’s need.
Equally I do find that there are times when laziness creeps in and I just don’t wanna…..and yes my home suffers. There is the mindset of treating it as a paid job because home-making is WORK
I respect your perspective soooooo much. I actually grew up with a mother who was a great home maker. But she didn't have a man who was a provider. Don't get me wrong he was a small business owner and made money but she still had to pay the bills and do the chores and take care of the kids. And I grew resentful of it. And I always saw marriage as. A burden to women because I saw this pattern over and over. And I promised that would never be me. I refused to be traditional for an untraditional man. However I really want to improve in this area. Especially for GOD. And. You have changed my perspective. Thank you
I think many women today get unfocused and forget they honor God in their roles in marriage. cant be worried about what he's not doing cause in heaven your reward is not shared with him.
@@natashaharsh9793 never considered that you get reward for being a wife. Interesting
@@oneandonly3139 I don't mean for the title but for your character as a wife. It's easy to get distracted because he's not doing his part but he'll have to answer to God for that. It takes practice but it's possible. I'd encourage you to start praying for a godly husband if you aren't doing so yet. Two people focused on pleasing God in their marriage can't go wrong.
The greatest thing I have witnessed as a young lady is seeing a couple that worked together in building their home. They both work outside the home, they both cook, do laundry, do dishes, clean up the house… they help each other and live in peace and harmony with each other. Keeping up the home depends on all the people in the household and it’s up to both parents to establish that so kids also grow up knowing it’s their responsibility as well to keep the household clean and intact
Preach. A “help mate” not a maid. .
One thing that helped me ENORMOUSLY was reading the Minimalism blogs-Be More with Less, Becoming Minimalist, etc. It changed my perspective entirely and so the only items I kept were things that had meaning, were beautiful or served a purpose. We often fill our homes with clutter and crap we think we're supposed to have, but that's just buying into the consumerism lie/trap. Believe me, you don't need all the things that you have-you just THINK you do... Giving those things to people who aren't able to afford furnishings for their homes will also bless YOU in the long run. I love that my home is ordered, calm, restful and easy to keep organized because I just don't have that much to organize anymore. I firmly believe that people's homes reflect their mental states; my mind and life was chaotic, disorganized, unsettled. AFTER paring down the items, furniture, clothing in my home, I felt like I had a better handle on my life and it calmed down my mind, spirit and body. Seeing the benefits that came from that enabled me to make other much needed cuts in my life (relationships). What also motivated me was knowing that God blessed me with a beautiful home; the least I can do is to be a good steward of it AND that I wanted a home that reflected Him, not a love of the world with all of its latest, trendy decor/trappings.
good on you on paring down...I'm in the process of this myself. Often times in North America especially, we simply have too much stuff that we don't need. The positive effects on an orderly and calm home are a real thing. You feel less cluttered in your mind and life.
🙌🏻❤️🙌🏻 I NEEDED THIS SO, SO BADLY!!!! The Lord has reproved and corrected me in a way that I didn’t realize that I needed (hello, PRIDE)! I didn’t even see my flaws or what the actual issue or root of it all was until I listened to your message today. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!!!! I pray that The Lord CONTINUES to use you and to work through you! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK, MY SISTER. 💛
Staying single until im ready for this life. I realize my excuses or what ive been through is flooding through my thoughts after the intro. Im not offended at all. What i want,is to live my life, for once not chasing responsibility but living itself.
I have one heck of a time being a housewife. I do feel like I went to college, I made good money, I had respect, and now I have nothing but dirty laundry, dirty dishes, dirty floors, and I hate this!!! I need to ask God for a lot of help!!!
I need this book. There is no way this video wasn't for me. I am STRUGGLING right now. And I love that featured dress.
No dear you dont need this book. Read your bible seek God. Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you. Believe me no matter what you struggle with no one will help you more than God. That book will just be an added distraction for you. Pray without ceasing God will answer.
@@kelleym7623 ❤
Bindi, you are so well grounded, and biblically sound. You are a blessing to your family and to all those who hear your voice. God Bless.
Love, love this! I am a 65 year old wife, mother and grandmother and I don't see myself as being extremely organized, but it is so fulfilling to work at it! There are so many CZcamsrs who can teach us! God's ways are the best!!
Wow this was so good. I’m praying for all the women in the comments who did not receive this word. The modern woman is working so hard today at the expense of her home and her family. I thank the Lord for enlightenment.
Just heard that opening phrase about character and house keeping. I'm not offended. It's the truth. I was once there.
Same Here!
I'm currently there and needed this video so much.
@@Mimi-hn6iv trust, if you bring it to God, and be obedient to his directions and instructions, he will change that for you.
I used to keep a pristine home. I am 65, live in chronic pain with an emotionally abusive husband who has become a hoarder and instantly undoes whatever progress I make. I get yelled at for moving or touching his stuff. He refuses to get help. I see someone to deal with my depression due to the chaos I live in. My choices are to continue living this way or leave which means I get to live in my car because the home I live in is ONLY his and his children’s home and has been in his family for four generations. I’ve already seen a divorce attorney and I get 18 months of 1/3 of his income to reestablish myself and that is it! I cannot afford a run down trailer much less even a studio apartment.
I'm praying for you. God will provide 🙏
Try Confession and Deliverance from an orthodox Christian or a catholic Christian church
@A N G E L A 💒 I can only work part time due to my age and chronic illness. Every year, as I age gets harder.
I hope you are doing ok now, a year on. I will pray for you. I hope you've found a helping hand and your husband has been given the grace to change.
This was my first time watching your channel. Your presence is calming and your words are thoughtful, kind and considerate. You said what needed to be said. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. My problem is a little different. Since having health challenges and mobility issues it has become harder for me to stay on top of clutter and keep my house clean. I never give up but it is going a lot slower than I would like. I encourage myself knowing that God knows I want a clean home and he will help me to get one in his timing. One room at a time!
Yes, Pray and seek the natural way of life. 🙏🏼🌿 Society paints a standard of how we are supposed to live but it’s unfulfilling and draining. Put your natural role to use and find peace and wholeness 🙏🏼
Wow I’m really blown away. I love your call to sit through being offended and find the pieces of truth. This is a breath of fresh air and the truth bombs needed in today’s world! Thank you for your content and sharing your wisdom!
Okay CONVICTION coming through!
This actually made me tear up. Thank you for this. Most important thank you Holy Spirit for speaking to me today through message ♥️
Amen
Conviction is Good! God lets us know when we're doing wrong! He does it to get our attention, so we can learn from our own mistakes! He never gives up on us and Loves us unconditionally! Amen, Amen
💯I was offended when I read the title and listened to the first few minutes. My spirit told me to listen till the end and I was comforted. I am in agreement and we should also hold others in the home accountable including children💞
LADIES, LADIES, LADIES….
Don’t fall for this rhetoric…
She sounds like she’s in a cult..
This is the most sexist and misogynistic
MEN SHOULD START HELPING MORE
Go make your 50-100K ladies and hire a DAMN MAID and DONT FEEL GUILTY
If your a good loving kind selfless person that’s what matters!
This a child speaking no less that 28
I love all of your videos I started watching you when your locks were much shorter. I love your natural beauty. I love your Christian values and modest Femininity. I love that you do not have a pound of makeup on your face and lips it’s encouraging for those of us who are also natural. Thank you Blessings
This series, as well as all your Christian homemaking content, has blessed me so much! I feel so seen and being a young, married, black homemaker feels so valuable. These videos have influenced me to purchase the books you’ve reviewed (and others) that specifically tackle homemaking, womanhood, and the role of a wife. Please continue these discussions as they are so needed. ❤️
Sister Marc.. you talking talking 😂 but I'm here for it! You're modeling a standard our society values less and less, and your applications of the Word to your lived experiences both in work and family are golden.
Thank you for your obedience to the Lord. Ive no doubt it's blessing many men and women, single or otherwise.
Reading a lot of the comments; and I'm seeing a lot of complaining.
Though I don't have the cleanest house and I'm certainly not the best cook in the neighborhood; this video gave me validation, not condemnation. I listened to all the "poor character reasons" and I realized that though yeah, we all have our days when we don't want to do the laundry or weed the garden. That in and of itself isn't necessarily a sign of poor character though.
I'm a single mom, service connected disabled veteran with a mobility impairment. My husband committed suicide because his mistress broke up with him. I have a developmentally disabled 20 year old son with epilepsy. We have a house to live in because of both God's providence, as well as the labor I put into it. We live in a Habitat for Humanity house. I helped put this house together. I've taken care of this house. "Loved" it, painted the walls, care for the flowers, fixed the sinks, toilets and shower. I've even fixed stuff on my car.
My son has said on more than one occasion that I'm "both mom and dad".
I'm also a very creative person and I have many projects to finish simply because I have a lot of "squirrel (OO) moments". Somehow the projects get done though; and my son gets his meds, his therapies and to the doctor.
There are times when I'm really tired and I sit down and stumble across CZcams videos like this one.
So for any of the sisters out there who hear this story loud and clear: (as well as the single dads) there is the promise of hope God gives us!
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This was so good to see. I am grateful for the “mothers” in the church teaching me how to clean, cook and carry me beyond want my lovely mother was able to do. I am a witness where you can work and take good care of your home. In the early stages of my learning proper housekeeping Holy Spirit once asked me, “Can you imagine heaven looking like this house?” I was so convicted. I reached out to the ladies in my church and without judgement, they came in and showed me what to do! To this day, I am thankful. Keeping your home clean is one more place to honor the Lord. One more thing, I’ve learned in ministry over the years, demons LOVE filth.
I'm 43. Second marriage, homeschooling a 7 year old. The opening line about not caring for the upkeep of your home being a character flaw stopped me there. I didn't have time to listen to the rest but pondered that for a week or more. Some things I did in the early stages of home life, I'm not doing anymore. Why? What has replaced the upkeep of my home. Not all of it is homeschooling. Taking my phone to the bathroom and getting lost in mindless FB, visiting when maybe I should go to the grocery store. How is that more important than my family's comfort? And with elderly grandparents- you see how the upkeep fails because they are old and physically unable. What will my house look like at this rate? You can't to it all but you'd be surprised to see what you can do when you care. I found this video inspiring, having sound guidance. God will meet you where you are, don't let your ideals get in the way of what God wants for you, just have a little faith and see where it will take you.
I love how upfront and uncomfortable this topic is, and how you’ve so elegantly confronted us with them. Yes, today we must survive in a two income household at times, but even though we must work as women- the home is still our God given responsibility and it is up to us to withhold. It’s harder now than ever before, that’s true, but God’s word never changes and so we must work harder as women.
Yho ! Kubi Jesu go ba Mosadi 😩
Cleanliness is Godliness 🧼 A woman makes or breaks the home. 🙏🏼 Health is wealth 🕊
Negative. Both a man and his wife make a home with God's guidance or whatever works for them.
Amen!
Amen.
That is not biblical though it sounds nice. Pharisees believed cleanliness was next to Godliness and Jesus called the like whitewashed tombs. Be careful and know that women do not break homes, men who do not treat women and children the way Christ treats the Church are the ones held as responsible by God. That is why they are the Head and under God. A family matters more than the Home they dwell in. Remember they were nomadic and in tents back in the day. We abide in God and Christ and WE are the Temples and the Holy Spirit abides in us. A house is not going to matter much and that is WHY JESUS himself goes to prepare for us His bride our rooms and homes in His Father's Mansion and asks us to be prepared and filled with Oil aka Holy Spirit like Mary and less like Martha in that Bible lesson. We need to get our priorities right and be the ready virgins or the door will close and we will be like oh but we have a clean house that looks worthy of a magazine and Jesus I did it for you and my husband, etc..and how will He reply? I don't know but I think it might not be so favorable. He told people to let the dead bury the dead and He was Jew!! Please reflect just a bit on these things and Pray! Let God tell you! ...not me, not this lady and not that book. God bless
@@amandachilds5290 thank you. Im glad someone else sees it as I do. The man is the head of the home and yes it is the women's physical duty to keep the home and the children if there is not proper leadership then all will fall apart. Gods order is Him 1st then ur husband then ur children. I find when people focus on the cleanliness of their home and themselves often times its done out of vein pride for what others will think of them and less because they want to be pleasing in the sight of the Lord or their husband. Also I stay away from books that talk about biblical principles thats what the bible is for read it instead.
I have to say… I agree with this beautiful sister. I never seen it as she describes it, but God had already started ordering my steps as I build my relationship with him. . It became common sense to me, as I was already practicing this. Even as a single parent, working 40+ hours, my house was in a descent order. My mother always told me about having a clean home… at least making my bed lol. So when God started putting this in my heart, it was just confirmation and I believe this reflects not only us but teaches discipline in our children just by being that role model. Good word sister…
Loved every part!!!
When you said not knowing our role/responsibility causes confusion so nothing gets done. Whewwwww. That was true wisdom
I was told by God, repair the breach because my home was destroyed by a domestic situation. Almost 4 years have passed, having fight to clear my home of toxic relationships, eviction proceedings and now infestations. It has been a draining battle, very overwhelming... But the breach must be repaired, to reflect God's presence in it.
I really like how even if the comments disagree with each other (based on different life experience), you still maintain a level of respect amongst each other.
When I stopped "faking it to make it" at my 9-5 and started faithing it to make it, my life changed full circle. I quit my job and trusted God with the talents he had given me to glorify him.
After a major transformation in my life (my conversion to a biblical worldview, Nov ‘21) I realized how much value I had placed on building success outside of the home.
Now... I know my role, I know my work. I’ve assumed responsibility where I once was confused. I’m diligent and disciplined. My family eats well, the garden harvest is coming in, the pantry is expanding, I’m homeschooling 2 the home is generally tidy and as clean as I can make it with the kids, BUT y’all...
Today I was WHINY and GRUMPY because I feel my work is never done, I’m on my feet for 12 + hours straight lately (homesteading), the house only stays clean for like 2 seconds, and I just never feel that moment when I can put my feet up and rest because by the time I get that moment... there is some new chaos that I then have to go address.
I’m about convinced I won’t truly rest until the dead of winter at this point.
I know I’m not alone. And I know my character is generally better than this. 😬
may the Lord grant you more grace
Genuine question: Are you training your children to take on some of the respnsibilty? Sometimes women try to do it all and the children grow up saying "Mom did everything and never taught me how to..."
I feel the same way
@@tametra_lasha great Q. I sure am delegating to the kids based on their age and what they can effectively handle / accomplish. I think we’re just really in a growth / learning curve stage as new homesteaders. I do have high standards for the way things are organized / implemented though, so I could “let things go” here and there, to take a break. Sometimes I don’t trust that the kids are doing things well, so I still expend that energy making sure. Like if I tell my 8 year old to fill the water for the egg-layers I then find out he’s filling it half or not at all ‘cause the rooster is attacking him or he doesn’t want to get his clothes wet with the hose. Even though I delegate to them it’s still my responsibility to make sure the animals don’t die in this heat! It’s hard for me to let go for a day or two because then when I pick things back up I feel behind / overwhelmed. We definitely have a daily grind no matter what. Our 17 year old handles trash / garbage, waters the garden, picks up heavy things for me, and is always asking how to help. My 8 year old locks the chickens up a night, keeps his room clean, puts his clean clothes away etc, helps his 3 year old sister clean up her toys etc. Anyway, thanks for listening and responding y’all!!
@@valentiakaoma4192 thank you!
Wow! Powerful Message that speaks volumes! I value the up keep of my home, the organization of it and how it flows. I wasn’t taught this but God instilled it in me. Very grateful! Cleanliness is Godliness
It is not by chance that I found this video today. God has been working on my heart about quitting my job, and then I see your video ❤❤ Thank you for your obedience in communicating this message, and thanking God for opening my eyes & ears.
I was recommended this video and I'm seeing that as a blessing. I'm a new mom and this spoke to me. I don't mind receiving a message that makes me say ouch when it will help me in the long run. I'm subscribing and need to purchase the book. Awesome video!!
Oooh I needed this. I’m pregnant and the laziness of my first trimester has become a habit, and now that I’m feeling better it’s time to step my game up. Thank you!
It's not laziness...your pregnant. Cut yourself some slack.
This channel has blessed me more than you can ever know. Holy Spirit is literally using you as a mouthpiece. Thank you for your obedience 🔥🔥🔥
This is my first time watching one of your videos-I took away so many nuggets from this video! I love your honesty and respectfulness regarding this topic.
I love your videos, very inspiring and highly intelligent point of views. There is wisdom in your teachings and I love that you’re a Christian. Keep up the great work Bindi.
I love how you make it easy to pray about the simplest things that one takes for granted. In my life I have always wanted strategies to be more orderly but never took it to God in prayer. I pray that by His mercy and grace, He may grant me and everyone else His order. Thank you soo much for this video
To Sarai Day, we both are currently teachers. When we first moved, I was home working on some college classes, but my schedule was more flexible and I did the bulk of the cleaning, cooking, etc. But whenever I am working full-time, my husband shares the load equally. He says, "You're helping me in my responsibility, so I'm helping in yours." We don't divvy up anything officially, but we both take care of whatever needs to be done. And if we are both wiped out, we order pizza and leave the work for another day. We both practice gratitude and regularly appreciate each other verbally for daily contributions (ie he makes ramen and I say, "Thank you! It was delicious!).
I'm so glad I ran across this video. I really enjoyed it. Some of the message was hard to take in and I felt a little defensive then realized it was my flesh reacting. I learned a lot and am grateful for your content. This is exactly what I needed to hear and at perfect time.
This was an excellent video. I'm thankful that it popped up in my feed. I will be subscribing to your channel. I loved when you said "a home can survive, but it will not thrive." Yes! Thank you again. ❤️
Proverbs 31 woman she cares for her home as well she is a businesswoman what a wonderful model by the grace of God he will give us balance if we choose to do both😊🙏🏽
She also had servants and help!
She wasn't doing it all at once, she did different things at different points of her life. She wasn't worrying about business with small children underfoot, and yes, she did have servants.
this is a really nice perspective and a reminder. there is a clear difference between messy, lived-in homes and dirty, unkempt homes. ive been working on myself a ton the last few years and learning to keep a well maintained home - despite having young kids and homeschooling - has been a sure path to greater growth and inner peace for me. even when my house gets messy i am learning to manage it well enough to keep it clean, comfortable, and teach my children the importance of contributing so that they can have a peaceful home when they grow up. i never learned that as a child and its definitely led to some difficulties for me as an adult.
I used to be very diligent with housework before having children. Not to blame them, but I tend to put their needs before housekeeping to a certain extent. If I were to keep the home the way I want it, my children would be neglected I believe. Because they are homeschooled, I can’t be cleaning all day, which is what it would take for the house to be clean and orderly. So it’s a very tricky balance and honestly the hardest one for me as a mother/wife. Because in order to function in a home it must be clean and organized! It’s exhausting lol😂😅 but I’m so happy to do it and to know what my role is without question. I can channel all my masculine energy into housework and then be feminine with my husband and also my children. We have to admit, it’s an art and it takes time and practice to learn, especially when we weren’t taught. Thank you Joyce for your channel. I’m learnings so much🙏🏻💜✨🌻🌷💫
Hi I'm new to your channel and have just subscribed. I am a single mom of a 17 yrs old girl and a 17mths old boy. Cleaning up is a everyday duty for me and I had to even pray for strength and the desire to keep my home clean and organized. My son is very active and love making a mess but my daughter is a big help ❤️
Sister … I have a woman’s group on Facebook. And as I was fasting for a topic for this month, your videos started popping up in my feed, starting with modesty. I will be sharing these videos through out the month of July for the ladies. May God continue to use you! Gby❤️
I love you.
I haven’t watched the entire video yet, but I have to say I love your message.
I’ve always been a messy disorganized woman. Not gross, stinky messy, but cluttered. Piled laundry. Dishes needing done, bed never made. I didn’t see this as a big deal. I always worked full time. I was into fitness. I did take care of the yard. I just saw the home as a pain in the butt, and I didn’t enjoy it. It seemed unimportant, and an old fashioned idea.
Fast forward years later…….I’m now in my 50’s. My husband and I have divorced. We are now back together, but not married. My girls are adults, and slobs.
I think about all the things I didn’t teach them by not keeping the house clean, and not teaching them to keep the house clean. I didn’t teach them self sufficiency. I missed teachable moments that build confidence. I think it goes deeper than anyone could ever imagine.
I never meant to be disrespectful to my family. I thought I was great! I couldn’t see what the outcome would be, and how important these basic things are.
Now older, I want my life to be simpler, and more meaningful. As I explore the life I want, it goes back to what should have been there all along. My home, and my family. Creating a comfortable home. Caring for my home. It seems to simple to be true, but it is true!
One piece of advice I give to women….you don’t need a lot. The world tells us we need a big house full of all kinds of stuff! No we don’t. I have gotten rid of truck loads of “stuff” after my divorce. It was eye opening. It’s just stuff! It’s a stealer of time, space, and money! Like many women, part of my problem was I was over whelmed by my stuff, and I didn’t realize I could get rid of it all. My stuff was not part of me.
I have very little furnishings now, and only a few of my favorite things. Keeping house is not only possible, it’s enjoyable! Oh how I wish I understood this when my girls were little.
Going forward, I want a simple, clean home that I take care of to take care of my husband. I want a life of peace that I share with God.
Thank you for your video. It is the truth in an upside down world. ❤
AMEN Bindi!
You're absolutely right, I agree 100%.
Your videos are instructive, inspiring and of complete edification. This one is no different. I thank God and secondly you for such wonderful resources!
God bless you, your family and ministry.
First video of yours I’ve ever seen. I never expected to hear of another black woman also reading this book. It’s taken me a while to get through it because it’s packed with good concepts. I’m glad the algorithm brought me to this. I look forward to your other videos.
I love the direction of your channel. I’m a newlywed and making sense of this important role in my life.
Bindi, honestly as a still (fairly) new wife and Black woman from a family who has not had it easy… my goodness, words can barely describe how much your videos have blessed me and led me to a) seek God in new and old ways and b) find such freedom in my desires to serve my home and family. Thank you for the peace, love, and maturity you bring to this space. You’re so appreciated.
One of the greatest impediments that I've experienced personally is disease. I had crippling pain a couple of years ago, and I had to let go of my usual standards in order to heal my body. It has taken a lot of work, time and money to get back on track, but I finally feel like I have more energy to give to my home. I do however feel like it's important to be in balance and not overdo things, your energy should be enough for chores, taking care of your health and for socializing with your family and friends. Somehow we have lost balance as a society, and we have lost our traditional ways of life which actually made it possible not to be on top of things 100 percent of the time, because some other women in the family would step in and lend their support. I live in Sweden, and I believe here we live in even more individualistic and modern ways as compared to America. It's as if it's ingrained in our minds that you're supposed to lean on the structures of society if you run into trouble before leaning on your family and friends. This in turn weakens the bonds and relationships within your family and friend circles. My husband is Indian and he has completely different relationships with friends and family, that's how you survive in his part of the world, and I believe it's a much better way of life.
Hi Bindi.. I just wanted to thank you for this video. It has been one of the most calming takes on this topic and it doesn't feel judgemental at all. I'm an 18 year old female in her first year of college and my family isn't the best right now. My mom has been taking care of us and trying her best to support us financially and my Dad (up until two weeks ago) had been doing nothing but just sitting around at home (right now he's at his brother's house and we probably won't go back to the way things were). I keep trying to come up with plans and improve my art skills so that I can help ease my mom and also help myself pay for my fees but it often leads me down a spiral making me forget that I should also learn the duties around the house. I think the problem is not knowing how to be carrier oriented and still be feminine because I never saw my mom work outside the house. As much as I went to school and I'm currently in university, I just don't seem to be able to work on my talents in order to earn a living without feeling like "I'm supposed to be a dependent" or "I'm not even going to do this if I were to get married so what is the point". I'm also not the "girly girl" so I often have moments crying about why I was made this way and why I have these interests when it all seems pointless anyways. I know it's probably not pointless but I can't seem to understand it any other way. I know that I can do better everyday but with these thoughts at the back of my head I just end up doing nothing. I just watch things happen with regret without taking action. But hopefully I will start to get better in all aspects, especially my relationship with God. Anyways I just wanted to let it out and I hope everyone can have a blessed week.✌🏾
While this channel is a massive blessing and eye opener and so necessary and needed!!! Another channel you might also enjoy is elisabeth filips. She is a med student.
Balance is also key it is good to be well rounded in all things because even when you do get married, you don’t know when that will be and you will still have to work and provide for yourselves at those time. All those that are skills that will help you and your future home. Sitting down worry and having anxiety will lead you to do nothing and the Bible says that fear leads to poverty. So in all things seek the Lord first, do all that you can and remember to rest when needed. Hope this helps hun
The Bible tells us to be homemakers. Be busy at home. Too many women are depending on their own strength to get things done. The Lord is my strength. I have 5 children and I homeschool, cook meals and all of that and the house is still cleaned. It reflects the woman. Women should naturally want to be clean and have a clean environment. Like Pastor always tells a man if he is going to date a woman "see if her car is clean. If it's dirty and she can ride around in that that's how your house is going to look." Get your houses in order ladies.
Thanks for this. My mother has always (and continues to) work full time outside the home. But she is the ultimate homemaker, wife and mother. It can be done, ladies.
I asked God why it’s been so hard for me to keep my home. And this is video pops us as recommended. I already knew I’ve been struggling with laziness but I need to pray for diligence. ☺️
I needed this! I didn't have an example and to this day struggle, but this spoke to me. A lot of the things you said, its sad, I already know, but I just feel like I do not know *how* to maintain my home. Thank you! I want to get it somewhat right before I get married and one day have kids. Working on my home now!!
I really struggle with this. Growing up I was literally called Cinderella, I did everything for my whole family, pretty much treated as a slave, serving and all. And if it wasn’t good enough, well let’s just say I got “disciplined”. I was the only girl and of all things I’m the middle child. When ppl would wonder about me, my mom would just say oh you know the it’s the middle child syndrome problem thing. Now I’m a mom of 3 girls and a step to a teen boy , struggling with depression and slavery problems. I love a clean home , I clean and then within minutes it’s chaotic again. I get so angry, and think whatever I do doesn’t matter. I always wished I was happier , better mom. I always see other people living their best life that I’d like to live , but no matter what don’t get to, I’m just an invisible person on the outside looking in .
Thank you for your post and sharing.
Pray to God for guidance
I know that feeling but for me as a first born and having 2 younger brothers. The cleanliness of the homes and the daily condition of my brother is on me. I want to change this mentality for my future and I feel slightly relieved. I want to completely free ♥️ And I will be. I trust God!
I'd recommend a book called Sink Reflections to you. You may find it encouraging. It really hoped me when I was feeling depressed and overwhelmed with my firstborn. ❤
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The people on the internet seem perfect to us and can make us feel inferior. My eldest son is an adult now but I look back with regret at trying to keep a perfect home and not spending enough time with him. I still have two boys at home and new to homeschooling and my house is not as orderly as I’d like it but I try. Getting rid of excess helps too. We are all a work in progress. May God give you comfort and peace sister 🙏🏾💕🙏🏾
Thank you all for your comments , I will definitely look those up. I really appreciate your advice and it’s good to know I am not alone because I feel like I am. 💜💜