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A LITTLE CHAT ABOUT LOVE IN ITALY
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- čas přidán 26. 11. 2022
- Thank you for watching. This is a conversation I filmed in Positano, Italy, five years ago but never got around to editing. Hope you like it.
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Buonasera! This is a conversation I filmed five years ago but never got around to editing or sharing with you. Hope you like it. 😘
How is your friend doing five years later? Found love? 🤞🏼❤
Where is she now, how is she doing?
I love it.
Update please.
I bet your saying now that's my Guido and you still get butterflies everytime you see him ❤ I'm with my husband 42yrs married 36yrs and still get butterflies sometimes I love him so much and I can see by your videos that you and Guido will be exactly like that , love honesty fun and laughter are the cherry on the cake for any relationship, hope you and baby are keeping well ❤
To me what this girl describes as passionate love sounds more like the thrill of being in a relationship where you’re insecure, the emotional state of wanting and yearning someone just because you are not sure they will always be there, that strong desire… I don’t believe that’s what passionate love is, but it is what many people think passionate love is… I think the thing we get wrong about love is that it’s not a yearning, it should be a safe place, a place where you feel freedom to be yourself and still be wanted, needed and have a purpose, not just be yearned after. Love should be a place that you consciously build with someone, and it takes work, it doesn’t just happen, it takes emotional work, emotional healing and that’s something people don’t like nowadays, working for things, we are made to believe things are ready-made, but what truly makes love wonderful is that it’s a team effort, it’s something you built with someone, at least… that’s my humble opinion 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, love is a decision you continue to make over and over again that you will respect the person. That often takes sacrificing your own ideas. You put aside your own will for the combination of your two wills. This is no small feat. Love is not for cowards.
Beautifully written Irene. You have expressed my feelings about love precisely and described the recipe of our successful 32 year relationship.
I completely agree! I've been married for 42 years and I have found that true love is a decision and a commitment. Respect for your partner and respect for yourself go hand in hand. I believe that we enter into a relationship with initial feelings of infatuation but over time we begin to get to know better not only the weaknesses in our partner, but also in ourselves. I believe that it is this knowledge that brings about unconditional love. When both partners can see each other through the eyes of unconditional love, I think that is true love. II also think that this is a constantly evolving process as coming to love and understand ourselves and our partner takes a lifetime.
Aha- yes! I think that’s what made me a little sad about this video. She seems to be such a nice thoughtful person, but it sounds like she is equating the rush of a new relationship with passion. That desperate obsession you have at the beginning of a relationship would be terribly exhausting if it didn’t evolve into something more sweet and stable.
Well said Irene. I'm married 44 years and relationships are work with ups and downs as you grow and change. I find that many, not all young people don't want to put in the work and end up divorced instead. They think the grass is always greener, but all the're doing is changing the lawn and facing similar issues to upkeep it.
I would love to see a follow up conversation, how both your perspectives and lives have shifted in the past 5 years.
I have been married to my Australian husband (I am English) for 37 years and we are still on our honeymoon, we are so aware of how rare we are and it's a shame not to see it more. We don't argue much, but if we do we NEVER lose respect, we have never called each other names or put each other down, or sworn at each other, we argue about the subject that needs resolving, nothing more. Names and putting down is what you will remember, not the subject you argue about, names wound and scar.....why would you want to do that to someone you love?
Romance is not expensive presents, it's getting into my car and finding a sticky note on the steering wheel with a love heart on it, the little things and we are still like that all these years later. 🥰
Beautifully said!
When Kylie said “I think different people bring out different sides of you, so what side of you do you want someone to bring out” my jaw dropped. Never thought of it that way and it makes so much sense, wow !
my now husband and I have been together for 10 years. we met in our early 20s; he was Italian on a working holiday visa in Australia and I was a uni student at the time. We met when we were working at separate restaurants across from each other on the same street; he would bring me coffee every time he saw me working even though I was terribly shy haha. Anyway, one day I come into work and I noticed him in blue jeans (unusual because his uniform is all black) and I walked up to him and he told me it was his last day working at the restaurant and that he only had 6 weeks left in Australia before going home to Italy. After some talking, we exchanged numbers and agreed to catch up for coffee outside of work considering we had known each other for 3 or so months and barely had a conversation. What is crazy about this story is that, after I finished talking to him I entered my back office, checked my roster and I wasn't meant to be working that day- I had come in on my day off by accident on his last day. Anyway, our love story in the early days was VERY turbulent. He barely spoke English, came from a very different socioeconomic background from me, also being im asian and he European- our upbringings were completely opposite so we faced issues typical of interracial relationships, as well as my family not approving of him because of his lack of education and him not being Australian. in addition, we were both immature, jealous, insecure and toxic as you often are in your 20s. I ran away from home to live with him and my mum for a while disowned me for my disobedience until we finally came to an agreement that she would only meet him if I graduated from uni- which I did. We broke up for a little while at our 7 year mark but after time apart realised that we still loved each other despite the toxicity; so with the choice of being together we decided to see a couples therapist together (also during the time we weren't together we had individual therapy). At present, we are the happiest and healthiest we have ever been because that's the thing- we always loved being together, we make each other laugh and I can spend all day everyday with him and vice versa- he is my best friend but we were riddled with individual issues that we projected onto each other, and also didn't have the tools necessary to identify and give each other what we needed in times when we were triggered or upset. Therapy helped us because it gave us the opportunity to be better to ourselves and each other, and offer us the objectivity necessary for us to acknowledge our weaknesses in order to change them. This comment is an essay but I guess my point is that its possible to turn a toxic relationship into a healthy one- but it takes A LOT of love and hard work- you must be willing to fight for love. its not all easy like fairy tales want you to believe but passion and a healthy relationship is possible if you are willing to work for it
Wow! I love your determination to fight for love!
We just need to make sure that both in the couple want to make it work, if you see no interest or that there's no follow through on promises he's/she's not going to change so don't waste your precious time and energy
@@penelopetoniaccini8783 absolutely
What a fantastic story! Maybe the separation was needed, to be able to clearly see what kind of relationship you both needed?
@@NyreeAlana yes it was 100% needed. Also time apart and being able to step away helps to look at a situation more rationally with less emotion. When you’re too flooded with passion it can definitely cloud reality and shift personal accountability. We both needed to do inner work before deciding to be together again and it worked for us!
First of all as a native New Yorker I have to say Manhattan is only one small borough of NYC and people think it's the only place to live. I live in Queens and went to school and worked in Manhattan for many years but actually married a man I went to school with ( we did not date or socialize in school) and connected with years later via a mutual friend. We are now married 44 years. Even in Manhattan there are many little neighborhoods within the city where people have lived and raised generations of families. Not everyone is a cold, driven person who is only out for themselves. Sometimes it is luck, opportunity, being in the right place at the time, many things come together to meet the right person and you have to be in the right frame of mind to receive the signal.
I am no longer in the market so to speak, but I appreciate that Southern European men seem more willing to put themselves out there. They aren’t afraid to approach a romantic interest and don’t let it get them too down if they get rejected. Some women think it’s “too much” but I admire that confidence and bravery in seeking out romance. We would not need dating apps at all if people were not too proud or too shy to risk getting shot down. ❤
I'm curious, is your view that the same should apply to woman? x
@@sunalouw348 men typically don’t find women coming on to them threatening or offensive, so it’s sort of irrelevant.
An upload notification is always such a joy. I hope you and the family are feeling well and settling into a new season with little one. Great style of video Xx
Thank you. You’re so kind. 😊
To get lucky in love is the best blessing of life. When we are young (now at the age of 74) we think it is a puzzle to be solved. Perhaps the best path is to live an authentic life and hope you get lucky one day. Yes it is true some passionate relationships can be very toxic, but my experience is you can have passion and true love. When you are 30 years old there is no way you can understand how the journey of life is quite long and has many different chapters. I am so happy for Kylie that she found her "match".
I agree about being lucky in love being the best blessing Carol. When I was young I never thought I'd find that someone. Now I am 55 and have had true love with passion for 32 years (married 31 and a half). I think living your authentic life and keeping your eyes and heart open is the key.
The cinematography captures the beauty that is Italy! 💙❕ Thank-you!
This was super interesting, and I really love the way you recorded and edited it in a way to help us focus on details. Grazie cara:)
Thank you Katie for your great vlogs, Each one gets better than the last! It warms my heart that you radiate blessings & love. Your incredible! 🙏🥰🇨🇦🌺
My husband Jeff and I have been married for 46 years January 1! We are more in love than ever and sincerely appreciate and respect one another more than ever! Love is possible and truly sustainable if you always look for the interests of each other above your own and make decisions and choices together mindful of each others feelings… love is a beautiful gift and blessing
Kylie!💛 i was just watching your Christmas episodes and feeling already nostalgic and dreamy and hopeful and then you posted this wonderful conversation 😌 it brought me to a complete dream state and have enjoyed every minute.
I wonder if Lulu found passion again, what a beautiful girl! I wish you’d make another episode with her, all these years later. I feel I could watch you two talk for hours:)
hugs and love
There are really studies showing that "best friend" relationships are the ones that last.
Omg couldn’t have come in a better moment thank you Kylie 🥰
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Your filmmaking is excusite, so tender, artistic, beautiful. No matter when they're filmed they have that Kylie aesthetic; classic, touching. I feel so lucky to have discovered your work so long ago. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world. My life is enriched by your work.
So agree!
This is a good video. I am a New Yorker and a romantic. I met most my girlfriends just walking down the street. Trusting my intuition by observing the girl for a few moments. My experiences taught me that finding love is possible. However, it is increasingly tough now than it was say 10 years ago. Things seem different, people have a charge in them, probably from social media outrage. And needless to say everything has gotten more expensive, so the hustle in people has gotten more intense.
Dating apps are fun and they do work, IF one is willing to put forth who they are and what they want from the get-go. I do that.
Anyways, I really enjoyed the conversation. That girl was candid and it felt like she was in touch with her life experiences and what they taught her; self awareness. I want to see more of her. Please bring her back.
I am happy to get women's prespective on love and relationships. Thank you.
Love this interview… hope all is well with you and your beautiful Family 🙏🌹❤️😘🇺🇸🇮🇹
Nice snapshot of you and your life at the time. You were fabulous then and have grown in many more beautiful ways on your journey since. Hope all is well with you, Guido and Giancarlo. 🙏🇮🇹❤😊
Kylie, I totally agree that you must like yourself in the relationship. They must bring out the best in you or at least some really cool parts of yourself that you really like.
I'm never bored in Italy.. in or out of love. I guess I'm in love with Italia ~ warts and all ♡
an enlighteninig honest view of relatioinships from a grounded woman's perspective ....thank you - always enjoy your posts.❤
Enjoyable conversation and magnificent scenery!
Kylie like I always say you are an INSPIRATION to everyone we love you here in Toronto Ontario 💜💜💜 God Bless You Guido and that gorgeous bundle of joy Gianfranco 🙏
This is an interesting video. I wondered as I watched it how much your opinions have changed since the filming of it. My opinion is... Passion comes in bursts. It is necessary, but it cannot be The Foundation. Real love, not 'story love', happens between two whole honest caring people with similar interests and values, who each want good for the other. Real love looks to the future, not just the present. Real love is not self-serving. Both people will sometimes be called upon to willingly make sacrifices. Real love is not something to fill in our gaps, not something to 'complete' us. It is not a commodity. It cannot be grasped for. Real love is enduring, when the people involved are. And, in my experience, going from friendship to Love is a great path.
Lovely video, Kylie! I like the fact that your edits give the feeling of a nice chat with someone interesting. Not too tightly edited, very informal. You should just make a little film series of just your B-rolls!
I get so excited whenever you upload! :) can't wait to watch xx
Thank you, Georgie! 😘
I love how “beautiful intelligent girls” are those deserving of love. What about good, plain, shy, average girls. They deserve an average amount of love, respect, consideration?🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
every girl is beautiful and intelligent in their own way :-)
Beautiful filming and conversation about love. I too would like to see a follow up conversation. Hope you are enjoying your time with your newborn and family. Thanks for sharing 😍😘
Speak ill of no man, but speak all the good you know of everybody.
Thank you for such a well done video.
25 years in and i love my husband with more depth than i knew existed. It takes lots of communication and commitment but it do with it.
You got me out of my depression and to move to Europe again I love you Kylie
I’m so happy to hear this. ♥️
I love vlogmas! Thank you so much for bringing so much Christmas cheer!
I would like to know, did she find her love?
Hello Kylie...nice to see a video is available to view! You must miss your friend. But now you're busy with your baby you'll have lots of conversation to share with your friend! ❤
Hope you are all keeping well. Sorry to hear about Ischia, I loved it there.
Oh marvelous, thank you! 💐
Thx Kylee. I also rewatched your Christmas videos.
She describes life in New York as it is!, anonymous, cold, dirty, expensive... ok... sparks of warm and humanity here and there, but in the whole sad, loud, plastic everywhere, plastic stuff, plastic people.
Thank you for this episode ❤ I can't wait to travel to Italy this year 😍 I'm going to Puglia for one semester to study fashion design. I must say, your videos make me even more excited 🥰
How exciting for you. Enjoy your creative adventure.
@@KylieFlavell I certainly will ❤
Wow she is so wise!!! Love this
This video reminded me of the emotional stages you go thru at all ages. Im over 40 & never married-just long relationships. I could write a bk on dating. A lot of men & women get bitter as they age from bad relationships & they lose the wonderment & desire for love. It was nice to hear a 27 yr old give her perspective who is hardly tarnished from love yet. Its helpful to watch young ppl bc they remind you how to fun & to live without limits.
It's good to see you Kylie I pray you and your new baby and family are well. Hang in there new mommy
I wonder what your friend would say about love now, this many years later?
Hi Kylie, your videos are always welcome. Xo
44 years in, you can make a relationship work, but it takes communication and commitment. It only takes a minute anywhere in the world to find the spark When it’s meant to be.😂
Happy 44 year spark to you then 😃
this was awesome
I love seeing this video. I hope you have more in you safe to share with us.
Your friend reminds me of my younger self in looks, even the jacket was almost the same. :-) . Caused me to smile.
Amazing discussion! I love these kind of interviews! I think Kylie you came to the right conclusion yourself in one of your other episodes, being happy and excited about life on your own terms is the way for the best kind of love to find you. Hope you and Guido are both keeping well. Sending a kiss to baby Gianfranco too💗
Fantastic! Buonasera Kylie xx
Thank-you Ladies, this was the highlight of a quiet rainy Sunday - Monday morning kept at bay! 🤍💗🤍💗❕
Wise insightful girl that has learned the realities and risks of love and the in outs of relationship.
A really interesting interview! ❤️
Blue sea & pale purple wisteria-delicious for the heart & soul. TY! How's little bean? Tuck little ones arms across his chest and cradle with face forward & down slightly if crying-"The Hold". Hope you're gaining strength & staying comfy 💜
Would love if you can share some clothing shops. I always love the beautiful flowy dresses in your videos. Hoping I can make a trip back to Italy next July. ❤ sending your little family love!
"If love ends..."-- This fragment of a sentence jumped out of this conversation. You think of love as being amazing, surreal, enduring, or sometimes not enough. But this happens too. Love CAN end. It's very sad. 😥
Buonasera Kylie I just loved the conversation with a very wise friend you uplifted my morning even as I age I still long for that thing that made your head and heart spin it happens and we remember what love is or can be no amount of money can fulfill that magic Amore 💖💖Grazie Mille Kylie you and Quido are a lovely couple and now a baby Gianfranco La vita e bella have a fabulous week in Toscana 💖💖😘😘👌👌🌟🌟
Always a beautiful videos.
It's nice and interesting to hear the conversations between you two. Have a pleasant evening and enjoy your dinner.
I'm 7 hrs ahead of you (Mon) 28th November, 2022.
Love this different format. Creative and engaging as usual :)
I think true love is rare. And yes, the kiss is the spark. But the passion that exists in the beginning of a relationship can fade and something deeper sets in. I think romance must remain.
Did you ever expect back then that just 5 years after this video you would have a beautiful baby right here in Italy?
California is incredibly boring for a culture seeking individual, no less cold in emotion / relationships than NY. I have lived in both for extended years. In fact, NY is a much warmer, kinder place for young people seeking love as it’s rooted in more culture. California is hyper focused on celebrity and brand. I have lived in both places and I recommend anyone from either place to spend some time in Europe to understand a bit more about civility, culture, tradition, caring and love.
Agree. I am originally from upstate NY (beautiful, peaceful and with its own special culture). I have lived in CA for the last 10 years after 20 years of living in Asia and the Middle East. I find it a very bland place. The weather in southern California is the best part of the populated areas. Rural California has some wonderful sights, however.
My wife (of thirty years) and I have a weekend cabin in the woods that is heated by a wood burning stove. When we first bought the place I used to wake up early and build a roaring fire to make it nice and cozy for my wife when she got up. I noticed that many times she would get out of bed grab coffee and go straight outside without saying a word. I used to wonder if I had said or done something the night before that upset her. She would say everything was fine and not to worry she just needed a minute. One morning we were a little low on wood so I got up and built a small fire with the choice pieces of oak and maple that were left because I new that it would burn longer. That morning when my wife woke up much to my surprise she asked me to bring her coffee to bed and invited me in to help warm her up. Needless to say we no longer had roaring fires!
I’m currently in Rome for my bday and I’m so excited ☺️✨🇮🇹
Happy birthday! 🌟
Well Done Kylie...you are Master of the editing Show Business Best Wishes to U, Guido and the Baby... Gabriel from the South of Cile
Gracias Gabriel!!
I've often wondered if LOVE is supposed to be forever. I think there are levels of love, and seasons of love, and fleeting love. There are couples who choose to create their family in love couples who come together in a passionate moment and explore that level of love, and two people who have a fleeting moment but that is no less a form of love. Even if a love can not go a distance it is an expression within the interaction of a shared love.
The heart can love more than one person, in different ways or extremes and for different amounts of times or seasons. I think we still can be grateful for the experience no matter how long or briefly we feel that love.
Agreed 100%!
For me, I want that passion, the chemistry, the magic and adventure. And I also need honesty, to be their one and only and love. Without those, I am better off by myself.
Absolutely!
Aloneness can easily turn into loneliness.
@@Gajdacsi61 It can. So, a person can go and hang out with friends. But never let loneliness allow a person to settle down with wrong people
This was fun! it felt like such an honest and natural conversation, beautifully filmed, Thank you Kylie and a belated Happy Birthday to Guido!
And, OH! That search...and where it takes us. This is me. Yes, cities have always been my PLACE (I wish sometimes I was a country mouse.). Lucca is my 'city'. And, my place. And while I have little in common with the provinciality of its history or vibe, it makes no difference because I am an outsider who found her place. (I do not believe I would like to live in a town this small in the U.S., where I am from.) But I can do it here. This is it. Thank you for the share. (The love angle is interesting, especially when I was younger-I am here 23 years and have not dated Italian men. I am a super lean-in woman and was rarely interested in caring for someone's needs. 'Partnership' is more my vibe and I am not a family girl-I liked being in a couple and making our home-the extra family thing is not for me and here, family is very central. In my life, I had a few loves and one great one and feel lucky about that. It all ended. Now, there is so much I can do solo and being single is so liberating. For those wishing for love, I hope they find it.) I am a romantic, but more about life...Rousseauian , if you will. See you here...S
Kylie, will you do a follow up?
Im eager to see both of your more matured/different stages perspecives!
Beautiful video and I look forward to your posts each week!
Your friend will be happy when she starts overanalyzing love. I think you have found it--nurture it as you nurture your child.
It would be nice to ask Lulu now, five years after the conversation, how her life has turned out and what she has to say now. Has her view of the world changed?
She initially did come across guarded and almost cynical in front of the camera, but towards the end she became more relaxed. She didn't know which continent she liked better, I hope she found true love that helped her decide where to settle.
You are so charming, Kylie 💕
As a life-long New Yorker (Italian-American) I found this conversation very interesting. I did end up finding my love here, but he is from Italy. We found each other later in life, a mixture of luck and perseverance, I think! I don't know if New Yorkers are cold exactly, but I do feel that in Italy there is a greater appreciation for human connection. Here we are always rushing from one thing to the next, it's almost as if you have to squeeze people into your life. That being said my best friend from when I was five years old is still my best friend 40 years later, so can't be all bad 😊
I moved from New York to Milan. New York was too chaotic for me.
Did she settle ? What happened to the
Is women ?
She is fit for California
Who is the wonderful woman you're interviewing? She's very authentic, interesting and has great style!
This was so interesting Kylie! I think everyone is looking for passion, for that special person and excitement, initially. But honestly in the end I think contentment really is the ultimate.x 😚
Kylie this reflects your present maturity, you are in a whole nother place. Italian Women are so lovely your friend has some of this, strange how brash the way of speech appears to an older Englishman likewise how great an Aussie accent is. Thanks for great content 🙂
Italians are the most expressive for sure. No one comes close.
lovely interview. Not related... but, would love to know more about your beautiful blue dress ☺
I'm northern Sicilian and would love to travel to Italy sometime. Just haven't had the opportunity to! My Grandparents we're from there. God Bless! Mikalyn Paolucci WPB FLORIDA
Scusa guarda che la Sicilia fa parte dell'italia
@@tanino111 yes Sicily is part of Italy. Thank you. Have a beautiful day!
New York is expensive, chaotic, dirty, and dangerous. But, New York is a special place indeed.
Love 🌠you in Italy 🧡🦋🍂
Wonder if she's found her life love 💕
The very idea of "Latin" originated in present day Italy in Rome. I love Italy ...
Great topic today and very touching for me! I madly fell in love with an Italian guy in the summer of 2020 but he wasn’t interested in a real relationship and it broke my heart! I haven’t seen him in almost 2 years and I am still stuck there 😔! Not sure how I’ll get over that passion or whatever that was! Maybe a new love will help or I don’t know what as I tried everything! Love can be amazing but if with the wrong person can become a nightmare! I still hope that I will have a happy ending with someone one day as I feel ready for something real with a kind man! Enough with this cos I’m starting to get emotional! Wonderful video Kylie, Lulu is such a wise girl, great chat! See you on your next one! Much love! Xxx
That's infatuation, if it last this long, it could signal an especially problematic obsession, therapie to overcome this could help.
on this topic of passionate love... talking from the perspective of a woman in her 40s who now has 2 kids and a broken marriage with a very fiery Spanish/French... NO WAY passion does not last AT ALL!!! and it's very important that people must believe that it dies. If you don't have a comfortable respectful and calm relationship where you are only together because of your shared values and respect nothing will be left over when the passion dies... just a tonne of bad memories of arguments as it crumbled. things that stand the test of time are not based on high intense emotions... it is all about how strong your foundations are and the quality of your building material, imagine it like building a house...
Wow! Very deep and honest conversation! Mature as well from two young beautiful women!
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I am coming to Tuscany in March from California! Hopefully for couple of months.
Thank you, I wonder what happened to Lulu and where is she now ? Is she happy, could she find love and what is she doing now ?
Interesting...
excellent interview and beautiful cinematography
Very interesting, esp from a perspective of a 73 yr old male. Some things never change ;) love rules
Super Like!🤩🤩👍👍