HOW I'M PREPARING FOR LABOR AND BIRTH!!! + my secret to NOT tearing!!
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- I can't believe labor is right around the corner! Today I'm sharing 8 ways that I am mentally and physically preparing myself for what lies ahead.
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Who’s here after seeing her Instagram that baby is safely here??!! 🥰
What day did she have the baby??
August 18th 😊
@@annieburrage7256. Oh, THANK U SO MUCH for answering!! Have a great day!!
To the listeners: All these tips are great, but don't beat yourself up if you don't want to do any of these items because they seem overwhelming. Not every birth is the same, and some things are going to happen, no matter what you do. My last labour was a breeze, and I did nothing to "help". I will reiterated, not all births are the same. My first birth I did nothing either, and that birth was tougher. Do the best you can, and take the rest and God has planned it ♡
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Yes. I agree totally.
Yes, I agree. I followed all the tips I could find and did everything right, but both of my babies where badly positioned and my labours have both been very long and hard. For my first, I ended up with a C-section and PTSD, for my second I tore pretty badly. I think it is a bit misleading to say that doing something prevents complications. I think that some women have it easier than others and most of the time you can't control much.
Totally agree! My labor was just like my mom's first labor with me - very long. After two days of very active labor, I got an epidural. I knew going into it I would probably want one - I don't take pain well and I wanted to be mentally present for the delivery and not traumatized by the pain. Epidural finally helped me relax and they broke my water. Like anything in life, have a plan, but also expect something won't go according to plan. I almost had an emergency c section but the nurses were able to reach in and fix the cord clamp and I delivered vaginally.
@@katrinagross1637I can agree with this. Pregnancy and birth is a wild time because you don’t know how it’ll go for you until you do it. And even then, the next will be different. I’m pregnant with my 3rd and I was expecting this to be my hardest pregnancy since my first 2 were difficult, and I haven’t had much of a break at all, but it’s been my easiest so far.
I like the channel and have followed it on and of for several year and I expected my two kids as the same time as Theo and Will. But I really don't think it is good to talk about tearing as something that happens depending on what the mother does or does not do. As someone who has had super fast deliveries with no chance for the tissue down there to be able to prepare for a baby coming out I am quite certain that there would have been nothing I could have done to prevent my tearing. I got the best help by the midwives but there was no chance of slowing it down - sometimes things just happen. Of course anyone can do what they feel like with their body and try things out. I just want to remind everyone that there is no prestige in tearing or not - and if it happends it is not your fault! 💗I really hope you will have a great and safe delivery in all ways possible Delilah!
I appreciate your comment. This was my thought entering this video. I did alllll the things in this video and more. My labour was fast and my midwife did her best with supporting the tissue and applying warm cloths. And I didnt give birth on my back either. Nothing really helped. I guess that's how my body works, and I'm okay with it now. But I was absolutely devastated the first few months postpartum with feelings that I failed and that my body has flailed me.
I thought the same thing. The title on this and talking about preventing tearing just made me think it was for the extra views. I tore both times with my girls and was basically told it's unpreventable and the majority of women do during delivery.
@@CorrinaRoseWritesBut it’s just a suggestion for mothers. Delilah’s is not saying, “u have to do this!!” Or u don’t use these measures, u WILL tear. Dome much want to know all they can about pregnancy and delivery, and some just want things to progress without any or much intervening. Every woman is different. Definitely do what u want to do for Your delivery. Just DO U!! I myself would have loved to have heard heard these tips!! But I’m past child bearing now. I would have most certainly tried these tips!! I tore something terrible!! But that is just me!!
My first baby caused some tearing and “skidmarks” as the midwife called them but no need for stitches. I used EPO during his pregnancy. For the next two babies I did not use any tricks or anything and my hooha came out fine after both births. I believe the best thing you can do for your body during labor is avoid coached pushing!!!
What is EPO ? :)
@@tocamy8224evening primrose oil
What do you mean avoid coach pushing? What does that mean. I'm pregnant with my first and don't know anything.
@@gabrielacortez4893it means to push as your body tells you to, not as someone else (nurse, midwife, doctor…) is telling you! Coached pushing is to forcefully push. Sometimes it is necessary, most of the time it is not!
@@tocamy8224. I believe it stands for Evening Primrose Oil. She talked about this in the video.
I did all of these including the primrose oil for my two unmedicated births and I think they’re all amazing and contributed to my quick, uncomplicated deliveries! BUT I wouldn’t say primrose oil prevents tearing because I had a third degree year with my first baby and second degree year with my second 😅 It’s definitely great for softening the cervix, though!
Did you do anything different with your second to prevent tearing? I had a third degree with my first as well, and currently pregnant with second.
Yes, I think the baby’s head size and shape really affects this. I have had some kids with pretty big heads and foreheads.
@@beeragan7987typically you just tear less with second babies.
Labor and delivery nurse here - good luck mama!!! You’re gonna do amazing. Praying for you and baby and that God would just surround your whole family during this time 💛💛
I second the red raspberry leaf and dates. I need to go very easy with the RRL tea as I have extremely fast active labours now! I haven’t done anything to help with tearing with all 7 of my babies and I only had a graze with my first, and nothing for the rest.
Posture is so important - something I’m terrible at and am focusing on that more now (not pregnant right now). Can’t agree more about the scripture and worship music. I had a playlist for my last couple births and they were so helpful! Wouldn’t go without it. I’m used them during pregnancy to align my thoughts and breath.
Can’t wait to hear the good news!!
Can’t wait to hear about God’s goodness through this birth. And excited to find out gender and name. 😍 I am due October 12 so right there with you, mama.
My son was born last year on October 12 💕😁
Love your channel! So exited for baby #4!! 💕
Im happy that you’ve kept the faith and hope for a natural delivery. Bless yous❤
Delilah❤ your are in my prayers girl! God will be with you and baby every step of the way ❤
I’m so happy that you are going to be able to deliver the way you planned. I know the low-lying placenta really took a role on your family. I’m praying for a safe and healthy delivery! 🙏💕
Omg I love this video and am sooo grateful to you for this!! I have been learning so much from your channel as I prepare for my future motherhood journey❤❤
Wishing you the best of luck for you and baby #4!
So excited for you and being able to birth the way you want! I hope everyone goes well ❤
Wishing you all the best for baby’s arrival and your preparation helps for a smooth safe delivery ❤ Love your videos!
Your looking so well Delilah I wish you well and sending prayers for a safe delivery of your baby. Lots of love xxx
Congratulations on the birth of your sweet babe!!! 🎉❤❤
Can't wait for the upcoming videos
Thank you for sharing those tips! Will definitely try the evening primrose oil trick and prepare my own worship music playlist! Love the scriptures you shared and the Christian hypno app too. Congratulations on your baby #4, God is good!
Love these tips! I am due in February so I will keep these in mind.
congratulations on your baby arriving healthy and safely! I am so excited for the birth vlog and getting to see how you delivered!
I'm right behind you at 34 1/2 weeks and have been so encouraged by your videos during this time! This is my first baby I will be birthing, and I am ready and also so very NOT ready to begin labor and deliver Baby! God is so good and truly does carry us through this whole process!
Such a informative video,keep them coming 😊
You are so right, it is all about our lord
Your atr on the right track, the be with you on this journey ❤❤❤
Congrats on the birth of baby #4! I hope it went well and everyone is home already ❤
i'm so glad you got cleared for a vbac! yay!!
These are all of the same things that I do to prepare for birth, as well! Love this 🤍
I still think that baby 4 will be here on August 20th :) it’s good to know you’re prepared and excited to welcome this new human into the world
Omg I’m like august 20 that’s like 2 weeks away and then I look at the date and It’s only TWO DAYS away woahhhh where did august go ?????
She had the baby! It's on her Instagram. She had the baby on the 18th!
She had the baby on August 18th. I just checked her Instagram 😊
I am so happy you finally have a video I've been waiting for a senior citizen and I just wish you the blessed time with the event comes to having a beautiful baby and the whole family is finally not on E34 four little ones anyway God bless you have a blessed day and I hope the labor goes good and I hope you video that because I've seen all the other ones except in your little your little girl but I've seen both little boys and just I'm going to hopefully have a good day take care and watch over your wonderful family
great tips! a new study has shown that red raspberry leaf tea can make the tissue too soft so its actually more likely to tear. I think its all about dosage! Louwen's diet is something I would recommend for an easier labour, good research behind! I wish you a lovely birth.
I pray that you have had baby by now sending love and hugs 🫂
Ahhhh I wish you have a safe delivery ❤ I am nervous for the second baby of labor and delivery in October 21 for me! 😅
I prayer for you dear don't worry about delivering God safe you an you baby
Saving this video for December when I’m due with my second!
HAVE A GOOD AND SAFE, and EASY DELIVERY!! CONGRATULATIONS!!
Be careful with evening primrose oil for a VBAC. It is not recommended as it can soften your scar making you more likely to rupture
It is also known to cause premature rupture of the water. So yes do please be carful with evening primrose oil.
Thanks for your great sharing, mama ❤❤
That made me cry!! ❤
This was so helpful, thank you Delilah! I am having my first baby in October and following your journey with baby #4 has been so reassuring as you're a few weeks ahead of me so I've getting really good tips from you in advance of when I may need them. I'm so excited for you, any day now! Praying for you to have a wonderful and safe delivery🕊
All of the best! Rest well and soak up every precious memory. This new journey may not be easy,but many, many moments are well worth it! You are strong! 🎉
The ouch at the end, I felt that 😂 today is my due date!
I can’t tell you how thankful I am that you posted this video. I am so terrified because due to my blood work I have to have a (hopefully) vaginal birth unmedicated. My first was medicated and it was a breeze. What I needed to hear is what you told me, I need to focus on the Lord and praising him through this. Thank you ❤ I’m due any day now as well
Same here 🙏🙏🙏
I love raspberry leaf tea to help with my period as well - it really does reduce cramps!
It sounds like you're really in the right mindset going into this vbac, and I hope it goes as smoothly as possible for you!
I do have to say, I took evening primrose oil for the last few weeks before birth for all five of mine. Annnnnd I tore all five times lol. I did a mixture of vaginally and orally, and not both every day, so maybe that's the trick. I just had to include that little tidbit haha
You sound well prepared. You are far stronger than you give yourself credit for. I keep checking in to see how you are going.
No one should be crossing their knees or their feet/ankles at any age.
I’ve tried most of what you’ve mentioned for my daughters birth. Dates and raspberry leaf tea is a must for me. I hope to implement that and also the evening primrose oil pills for my upcoming labour, God-willing ❤
Your heart is so beautiful, Im.pregnant my 4th too on 19 september❤😊
Continued prayers.
Hang in there, mama! ❤ Best wishes for a safe and smooth delivery.
I had my fourth a few months ago so we have 6, 4, 2 and new. It’s a whole new level of crazy. My mantra is “all I need is coffee and Jesus!” 😂
So excited for you all! I am pregnant with my first due in January. I need all the tips!
To prevent getting peed on, especially if you have a boy brush a wipe on their stomach which makes the pee and then change their diaper! Also baby wearing is the best thing ever! I hope that helps!
Just one tip for labour: breathe. Don't hold your breath during contractions, but breathe deep into your belly and exhale slowly. This will help to endure even the most painful contractions. I swear!
And for postpartum: prepare more for postpartum than for birth. Prepare meals. Ask other people in advance if they are willing to come over and hold baby while you rest/shower/etc. Get as much help as you can and don't feel bad about it.
fun list with many things I have never thought of trying. maybe when I have baby #4 myself, next time.
It’s funny, because I’ve never done hypno birthing. Or anything similar to that. But essentially, after having so many kids. I just naturally taught myself to stay positive. Stay calm, and believe in my body. So many women around me are shocked when they hear about my labor and birth. Even my husband said I’m “strong as heck” haha. And they don’t understand how I don’t freak out, and how I’m so calm.
Right on track with you. Due 8/31!
I was so prepared from early on so that I can deliver my baby tear free this time (my 3rd).. searched every tips and tricks, exercises and stuff but I ended having placenta previa and gonna deliver by csection in 3 weeks 😅
I’m 29 weeks so this helps a lot!,
At how many weeks would you advise to start taking the primrose oil?🥰
I am so happy you got cleared for a vbac. I am 16 weeks and I am already trying to sit forward and watch the way I sit and stand. I want this baby to be in the right position. I didn’t know anything about positioning your body and your babies position. My first was sunny side up and I ended up with a c-section. Also my tail bone was curved in. Posture probably didn’t help that.
I'm right here with you, girl! 19 weeks, emergency c-section with my first with baby being sunny side up, and now trying to be so so mindful of my posture! Hope your labour and delivery this time round is smooth! ❤
Future Mum's please do not beat yourself up if you do all these things and the birth still does not go smoothly. I prepared ssooooo much for both of my births. I did everything she is doing plus yoga every day. My first was 3 days of labour and 2 hours of pushing with no drugs and then an emergency C-section. For my 2nd I was given the green light for a VBAC did all these things again (minus the yoga as Mum's do not have time for that) then once I was in labour the doctor felt it was too unsafe to continue so I got another C-section. I had to grieve for my births but I trust God and he has healed me.
I agree with you. I was hoping for a v birth. We saw at all our scans that our baby was bigger gestationally and thought he may come sooner. In our country, there was a typhoon storm preventing that I could safely go for my 35 - or 36-week check-up. I felt God lead me to have peace about however our son would be born. At 37w and 3 days, we were told our baby is back in a breech position and too big to deliver safely, we need to have a C-section at 38 weeks and 2 days. I told our doctor I would appreciate just a bit more time, please. Well... my body knew otherwise... my water broke the day after the doctor told me about the C-section... so I went in for an emergency C-section. Due to strict hospital policies, my Husband was not allowed in with me, and I didn't get to be with our son for the first 14 hours. I have often felt a form of grief about my birthing story, and I acknowledge how it went even though I feel sad about it now and then. But I am thankful God gave me peace that I didn't understand, well before our son was born.
What's your opinion about Kegel exercise? Have you done them with any pregnancy? :)
August 20 is my birthday...That would be so amazing!
i second the evening primrose oil, i had my first May 3rd this year and didn’t tear💓
YAY!!!!
In the last two months of my pregnancy I basically haven't sat on a chair - ball all the way!
At how many weeks did you start taking evening primrose oil?
Where is that dress from?!? I love it
Does anyone know when it's a good idea to start taking evening primrose oil in pregnancy orally and using it vaginally? I thought I had read somewhere it wasn't good to do until 37 weeks but it's been tough finding concrete info on that!
Try gentle birth tincture. I used it for my second birth :) and my midwife said I didn’t have to do the dates and the tea.
Wich you good luck for birth❤
Could you link the Christian hypno birthing resource you have been using?
I see that she linked it under the video description
@@XxGIRzxX ah thank you!
Can someone explain/talk a little more about inserting the EPO? Do you take it out in the morning? What happens to that plastic capsule? Does it dissolve on it's own? Do you wash/clean yourself down there in the morning?
It dissolves and can leak a bit
Where is your dress from?
Wait can someone explain what she does to not tear? Does she just put the liquid on, in, and around or??
With a sterilized needle she pokes a hole into the capsule, then inserts it “down there” I believe it slowly dissolves!
She takes evening primrose oil it’s a capsule, pokes a hole in the capsule then inserts it into the vagina at nighttime. While she sleeps it dissolves. It can be messy hence the pantry liner to caught anything
can you link your dress!
When I was small my mother made dates filled with peanut butter and rolled in sugar. I love them and still do. Stay safe and a safe birth.
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I think tearing all has to do how the baby comes out, size of baby. Did nothing for me. Doesn’t hurt to try though!
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does anyone know the right dose for evening primrose oil?
I always wondered why mothers are so obsessed with tearing or ripping, no matter what you do - you can not prevent or change it as you’re pushing out a baby and you can not control the aftermath of how the baby comes out. It’s totally ok to tear mommies, this is coming from someone who works in the healthcare field and also have three babies of my own.
Actually you can control tearing in the moment of the baby coming out... My midwife directed my pushing by saying when to slow down or stop when she saw the baby coming out too quickly. I didn't tear at all. She also had me doing perineal massage beforehand to help prepare my baby for stretching. I credit my lack of tearing to her guidance
Tearing and ripping can be hard to recover from postpartum, it's not a pleasant experience... Maybe that's why us silly moms are so obsessed with avoiding it? 😅
Not everyone has a midwife who can direct you during labor. I wasn't able to have one (insurance didn't cover it) but I had amazing doctors and still tore both times, needing stitches. There wasn't anything I could do beforehand to prepare, it sounds nice to think you can control it, but videos and advice like this are misleading.
@@lantana4840 Once again, not everyone has that luxury and the obsession of ripping and tearing is the least of your worries. Your body will do it’s job. So like I’ve stated prior, YOU as the mother can not control or alter how your body reacts to vaginal birthing. So kudos for you to have someone guide you, this is not the case for most women.
@@CorrinaRoseWrites I agree, never said I had a midwife or doula to guide me. Also did not have the luxury as my insurance did not cover it but I still tear with all three pregnancies and it’s just something that happens during birth. I am not obsessed with the thought of ripping when there are women dying during birth, I’d rather have a healthy baby and worry about a tear later on. Life goes on.
The majority of East Asian women have bad tearing. It’s genetic and there’s nothing you can do to really help with that. All these non-tearing tips are for those who already wouldn’t really have tearing. It’s like stretch marks - predominantly genetic. Love your content and have been a long follower. Just wanted to put this here for other torn moms - it’s not anything you didn’t do - there’s nothing you can do anyways.
That evening primrose oil might be the new end all be all. Btw, the kjv is the only legitimate Bible version in English so hopefully those are the ones you're memorizing❤
You’re joking right??? This is a joke??
You DO realize that KJV is also a translation just like ALL the other versions? Get outta here.
@katiesapp3909 absolutely not joking. The kjv is the ONLY English translation that's from the textus receptus and therefore preserved like God said he'd do. Look up all the verses the new translations take it.
I hope my question won't sound judgmental, because it is really not my intention, but why is she talking so much about religion and linking everything in her life to it? I'm not familiar with religion in Canada, so I'm wondering what this is about. She seems to explain everything with religion instead of thinking on her own and having her own opinions. Isn't it a bit dangerous to loose that much of her free will ? It sounds very similar to a cult :(
Whatever this is about, I hope you're safe and ok Delilah. And of course, that baby number 4 will be safe ❤
In faith you give yourself fully to God and his will- most religions see things this way, whatever God(s) they worship. “Letting go and letting God” is a freeing experience and truly brings peace and confidence in the moment. It may not be for everyone, but for those who it does work for it is beautiful and healing and not at all cult like.
She puts her trust in God and has faith that he has a plan for everything in life. It’s hard not to talk about something that’s such a huge part of her every day life from sun up to sun down
Yeah she’s super religious. I find a lot of home/lifestyle bloggers are. I just skip past it. To each their own.
If God exists, which I firmly believe He does, that affects everything about reality. He designed it, after all. And there is plenty of good reason to believe in the God of the Bible, just listen to apologists such as Frank Turek, William Lane Craig, or Nabeel Qureshi (there are many, but those are just a few I can think of).
This is a good question. I personally link everything back to my relationship with God because I really love having a relationship with God. He is my everything and soothes my worries about our planets future.
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Delilah, I like your content a lot but if I’m being honest, your showing of your belly is a bit inappropriate, your a woman of GOD and it’s important that we walk in modesty… We get it that your pregnant and your in your house but, that is something intimate and private and should be for your family to see and not for the camera’s… The stand to show your thigh gap? We as women of GOD have to be mindful of what we post, say and do and be mindful of are why we do the things we do… GOD see’s are hearts behind everything we do… I just wanted to share that…
@@iseriss it’s not about nakedness, it’s about the appropriate nature of how she represents herself in how she shows her body… Again I stated I like her, I watch her and will continue too… It has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with the HEART! Yes we were created naked, but once Eve sinned we lost that privilege to go about in nakedness, despite culture today saying otherwise… It’s important that we are mindful of how we dress or what we are showing… Its intimate in the since that’s something she could be displaying in her home with her husband and children without the world seeing it… This is know doubt a very special time and not everything is for the camera, we have to get back to being private with are lives and not share everything and every monumental moment… I pray you can receive this in love, be blessed!
Im conviced theres no secret to not tearing. I tore 2nd degree, periclitoral, and up my vaginal canal with my first and he was 7.5lbs, 17hr labor. With my second i had a 3hr labor, 10 minutes of pushing, 9lb baby, and only minor cuts nothing needing stitches 🫠
there are definitely ways to not tear. no coached/forced pushing. breathing the baby out and down. positioning throughout pregnancy and labor. many many ways
@@hllymchllreduce your odds perhaps, but you cannot guarantee not tearing