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Some poles spin, some don’t. They require different skill sets. When the pole spins you can do tricks that look like you’re spinning without having to loosen your grip which means you don’t automatically slide down the pole while spinning. With poles that stay put you have a looser grip in order to get yourself to spin around the pole and you will slide down the pole. Both styles are super cool in their own ways :)
Yes a friend of mine does pole dancing and told me how in the lessons they sometimes get a spinning pole and sometimes not. That's how I learned about it 😅
I was about the write the same. I usually only train with static poles so when I do tricks on spinny I usually get a bit dizzy. ^^' I've also found that certain tricks are harder and heavier on spinny pole and others are much easier.
Switch out men for women and you have my Heaven. If I may quote the VNV Nation song "Where There Is Light:" "I want to be where I don't have to hide myself/and remain there until the end of time."
HOW MANY SEXUALITIES DO YOU HAVE? SCIENTIST: JUST ONE, IGNORANT!!! I AM A SEXUAL BEING (I AM NOT JUST A SEXUAL BEING...I AM A LOT OF OTHER KNOWLEDGES TOO!) THE CLOTHES DO NOT MAKE THE MANKIND (HUMANITY = GENDER = ONE) LGBTTTQA (PRIDE, IGNORANCE, HATE, DYSPHORIA, DIVISION, COMPETITION, SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX AND SEX....WIGS, POLISH, HIGH HEELS, LIPSTICK AND MORE LIPSTICK)
"I feel like 13 is such an age." Yep. Even for people who didn't know they were part of the LGBTQIA-- specifically the A, in my case. My aro self was so confused about why everyone suddenly found it so important to talk about their crushes all the damn time, and the adults telling me I would start feeling that way too, any day now, whether I wanted to or not. It was so frustrating. But y'all, I promise it gets better. For the young folk reading this, puberty and adolescence will come to an end, and you will find your people, whoever they may be. Stay strong.
I only just recently realized I’m the A. I remember doing what Jaiden Animations described because my parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents started pressuring me about my crushes when I was six. SIX. I stopped having “crushes” at 13. My family is still telling me I’ll find someone. I won’t, because I don’t want to.
Being A as a 13 year old boy is traumatic at best. Your body is telling you things physically that your brain cannot process... not discovering what Ace actually is until you were over 50 just left a lifetime of frustration and hurt... Living my authentic self now is priceless!
Yesterday I passed in public for the first time 😊. I was at the mall and my sister asked me to pick up some shorts for her daughter at a sports wear store and sent me a link and the size and when I went to pick them up I showed the employee the picture and she looked at me and kinda hesitant said "those are women's shorts...". I just said "I know, they're for my niece." She nodded, took me to the display, asked me what size I needed and handed me the right one. The cashier also seemed to view me as a guy.
In the interest of continuing to spread LGBTQ joy, this Friday, July 14, is International Nonbinary People's Day. Joy to all the enbies out there, and I hope you all have a fantastic day!
Thought that came to my mind lately: When someone says "you never be a real woman" (or man in the case of ftm, or nb, etc.) Imagine someone going to an adopted child, and telling them "you never be their real child". In both situations, it's biologically true (or partially biologically true in the case of trans folk), but it completely ignores the social and emotional part of the thing, not to mention that it's just rude and generally asshole behavior.
@KateWick1997 opinion absolutely being discarded until you can elaborate. If anything, it's bad because being someone's biological child is purely based in biology, which gender isn't.
@@user-mv5zt8qd9l My comparison was more about comparing gender to parenthood, not "biological child". In which sex is purely biological, bloodline is purely biological, gender is emotional/social, parent-child relationship is emotional/social. Basically : biological child, andopted child = both their parents children cis woman, trans woman = both women
@@KateWick1997 People literally did this in the '90s/early '00s, the better occurrence being them saying "oh, i'm so sorry" when learning someone was adopted. Also bonus "adopted people are weird."
I LOVE LOVE LOVE the gender-neutral wedding outfit! I hope many more formal wear designers start creating non-binary looks for their collections. Many of us feel awkward in a dress, and awkward in a suit as well. We need something else...!
"i was in my 20s when i found out the poles spin" hahaha oh dear well i am 22 and after seeing this, i now know they spin. and those wedding clothes are simply to die for, i love them so much🧡🧡🧡
@@mirandarensberger6919 oh it is nice to know that so many are happy to learn new things. and i think that jamie is the best one to teach it, with such lovely and funny words
@@TheCassandra they can be fixed, all depends on the routine and the skill of the dancer. Most poles in dance studios can be locked in place so it is less dangerous for beginners.
Lets learn more new things: the pole doesn't actually have to spin. You have poles that spin ánd poles that are static! Most people will start learning new moves on static poles before going to a spinning pole.
Another great LGBTQ+ thing: Here in México we have our first Drag news presenter, and she looks amazing! She's from Sinaloa, giving a segment called 'Cada hora, a la hora', it means 'Every hour, at the hour', so she's on camera a lot.
Hey everyone, wanted to share my own bit of queer joy: I finally figured out that I'm genderfluid! I've been questioning for almost two years now, and it feels amazing to finally understand myself. I'm not ready to come out to my family yet, but I think they'll be pretty accepting when I do. I've also been experimenting with how I present, and to finally be able to look in the mirror and see myself exactly as I feel inside is just wonderful. Thank you to everyone in this community who has supported me, I love you all. And to anyone still figuring out their identity, be patient with yourself, use any resources available, and remember that this community is always there to help you out
I relate to your experience! It can be really hard to figure out as each day you might experience different dysphoria and question your identity in completely different directions. It was such a relief to know that there was a name to what I was experiencing. And the joy that self expression can bring is a wonderful thing. Much love to you and all my other genderfluid friends out here
Love seeing other happy LGBTQ families! I'm a trans man and my husband is a cis man. Our daughters are 9 and 6. Dear God, she'll be 7 soon. We're saving up to take them to Disneyland next year, hopefully. That Bippidi Boppidi Boutique isn't cheap, especially if you're doing it twice.
Man means adult human male. Trans->hoing beyond/across of sonething and I really, rrally doubt that you were able to change your clearly female sex chromosomes/organs. So what are you? A female, a woman. Who is a "not cis man"? Oh right...she is a female. A woman. I only assume of course, but the fact that you gave birth in itself shows that you are the opposite of any kind of man.
Most poles actually have a spin and static mode, so sometimes they spin and sometimes they don’t :) I think of using a pole on static and spin as different skills, usually with a lot of overlap. You can absolutely spin on a static pole, but not as fast and yes, you do end up with calloused hands
So, here is a heterosexual couple with extra steps. A 'not cis man" like you is a biological female, a woman. We do not need new label for what you are.
@@transwomenarentrealwomen290Pride was happening long before rainbow capitalism was a thing. It's just going back to its roots. Pride started as a riot, morphed into a protest, and turned into a party. Now that the moment's calling for it we've returned to protest protocol, and we will not hesitate to escalate to riots. You killed all the nice queers: now the only ones left are us cockroaches who are too angry to die.
The Wedding-TikTok made me wanna share something with you. My partner came out to me as trans 2 weeks ago or so and before that, she always was like "no, I do not want to get married, it's silly and an event people spent way to much money on." After she came out, I asked her, if she could imagine marrying me in 5 or 10 years or so, after she is done transitioning (at least mostly done), if we are still together and she said yes and was very excited. So every time, one of us is overwhelmed with the situation, we look at dresses and rings and how we're going to cut the cake with a sword (her wish) or something and it makes us really happy 😊. (Guess I have to figure out my sexuality now, cause after the first shock, I kind of didn't mind the idea of having a girlfrind from now on😅)
The majority of real trans people, if they're not rushing into it the way they're being pressured to now and have actually had the desire their entire lives, will not be "mostly done" with their transition in 5 years. It's a really fucked up world we live in now where people can permanently alter their bodies with no mental evaluation prior in just a matter of time that will ultimately seem like an eye blink later down the road.
@@KaiLucasZacharytrans people have existed for a really long time. Detransition rates are really low. People aren’t being pushed to be trans, if anything they’re being discouraged by transphobic policies and groups. Most gender affirming care is reversible. Stop spewing lies.
So, your boyfriend hallucinate that he is a female. And you even affirm it? Congratulation. Being a female is not a cheap costume. He cannot transition - abnormal hormone levels/fake breasts/genital mutilation will not make him into a woman.
I can so relate to the one where the girl is saying "my young self trying to convince me I'm straight... WOMEN!" As a bisexual, my brain did that to me starting around the age of 11 or 12 when I started to slowly realize I was actually bi. I grew up in a religious household and was very deeply in the closet. I finally came out at 19. Everything went well thankfully but it sure wasn't fun doing that to myself, even if I had my reasons. I can laugh about it nowadays though, well a part of it... that part being me at several points in my life actually thinking I WAS straight which is obviously hilarious compared to being in the closet because I felt like I had to be. 😂
For anyone out there who needs it, take which ever one you want or needed to hear you are beautiful you are amazing you are worthy you are lovely you are pretty you are epic you are legen... wait for it... dary ❤ from an ally
Thank you for this, my stepdad has been sharing very transphobic things lately and this is the much needed boost that I need to know not everyone outside of the LGBTQ thinks in the way he does tbh
Reading Jamie's book. It's hard to describe... part autobiography, part support, part explanatory, it just delves into trans experience with an constant emphasis that not everyone's journey is the same. Many roads lead to Rome. Reading it as a cis gay male brings out the commonalities as well as the differences between gay and trans experiences in our wonderful western society! It's written in a light, folksy style, even though it references academic research as well
@@pigeon_person Thank you, I just liked it enough to bring it up! One of the excellent features of Jamie's book is that it includes commentary from Shaaba, Jamie's wife, as well as comments from other trans folk about their own journeys and experiences. It also includes commentary for cis people like me, who cannot understand directly what being trans means, and how we can best support people who are, or are coming out as trans. Jamie's been very open about the difficulties he and Shaaba have faced together. My only regret is that the bookstore I bought it from, Waterstones, just had the one copy on display and they'd tucked it away on a shelf so only the spine was visible, which is why I had to ask staff to find it for me. It was a needle in a haystack! The reason I bought it at the bookshop rather than online as I'd normally do these days, was so that staff would realise there's an interest in it. One thing Jamie's taught me is that optimism needs to be indefatigable! He's a beacon of good hope for others. :)
@@KateWick1997 No, Kate dear, I know who I am, just as Jaime Raines does. It's the bigots who are confused about it, and aren't intelligent enough to understand why.
@@Leszek.Rzepecki I love your comments! It gives me hope when people take the time to learn about other people's experiences, especially when there is so much hostility in many areas. I'll keep an eye out in Waterstone's next time I'm there to see if they have it displayed. I really appreciate the details you've given and I had a good laugh at your reply to the bigots. Have a great day :)
Correction: some of the poles spin, sometimes! Poles come in a lot of different varieties (including Chinese poles, which I LOVE), but with metal poles, there are 2 kinds: spinny ones and not spinny ones. Also, the spinny ones have a peg you can use to make them not spinny!
The red shoes with the black suit and black shoes with the red dress couple had the same energy as that spongebob scene where he's wearing pink undies and Patrick is wearing yellow ones!
Tsk Tsk Jamie you will never be a woman Just like I will never be a man!!!!! This is of course meant to be a joke, just wanted to say I am happy, I just got approved for Estrogen. I also wanted to say you and Shaaba have massively improved my internal view on myself and making me feel accepted. 15 years of putting myself aside(taking care of ailing family, don't regret it just sad at lost time.) Anyway love ya and thanks for doing everything you do.
ZOMFG GONGRATS! I'm five months in and I've never felt more comfortable in myself! Seriously though the depending on how high your T levels are to start our with it could take some time for even the initial physical effects like skin softening or sore nipples (seriously get ready for those: they aren't called growing pains for nothing) to show up, but at least for me the psychological effects came within the first two weeks. It's a hell of a ride, but one well worth taking. Welcome to the sisterhood!
I was watching a Shaaba/ Jamie video and they were talking about period products. I thought "Jamie's a guy, what does he know about periods?" It took my brain several seconds to remind me why he would know.
Love the complete lack of acknowledgement/noticing of the person in the chainmail headpiece (I don't remember what that piece is called, sorry!) at about 6:35 lmao
Not watched the video yet lol only up to the bit about Jamie's book. I preordered mine then ended up in temporary housing so I couldn't get the book right away, so I downloaded the audio book and it was amazing ♡ my sister picked my copy up for me afew days later and I have read it already. I have recommended it to everyone , even my doctor at my local gender clinic, they may add it to their recommendation list which I think is great. Anyways I feel like a proud dad 😅
Spreading trans joy: I just got my mom to buy me a binder! I passed it off as a bra (she would be supportive but I haven’t come out yet) since tomboyx has binders called compression tops instead of binders (:
@@neon17.08 Stop. GC2B is a horrible company. You "just bought" one, so maybe you don't know... but they don't care about their products whatsoever. Nowadays, they fall apart very easily and don't even bind the way they're supposed to. The sizes aren't even fucking right. I once got 2 in the same size, and when they arrived, they were visibly different sized. Use Underworks. They have way more options, they last for way longer, they're the same price, and they're designed for men.
Jamie... Got your book (ostensibly for my kid but kinda for my own edification too) and it just arrived. My kid was so excited! Just want to say thanks for putting your content out there for all of us who love to learn more about the human experience. You're such a wholesome cinnamon bun! I love your content, and not gonna lie...a bit jealous of your wife. She's got herself one amazing husband. You've had such a positive influence for so many people. Thank you.
On the first video, the pole doesn't always spin. I mostly practice on a static pole, with a spinning pole you need to get the feeling for how much power you use to push yourself or you'll get nauseous. But it definitely looks impressive once you got it Edit: I think the clip was on a static pole, but I'm tired so idk
Hey dude. If you ever wanna vent, I'm here to listen, or if you'd like input/advice I'm also here. There's a ton of people who will listen, judgment free. I hope you get to feeling even a tad bit better.
2:05 actually the pole can be static or spinning, you can change to whatever you like. In pole sports competitions it's mostly required to have one spinning and one static pole and you should use them both a certain amount of time. Personally I think static pole is better to learn new moves on and is easier, but with spinning you can create some very pretty flow in your routine and makes basic moves look harder than they actual are imo
I was once very confused by trans identity. I opted to learn more and found your channel. After reading lots and watching even more, I’m no longer confused. Now I not only know more but I can be a strong ally for all. I now work somewhere that brings me into contact with people from all walks of life. When the transphobes write to my organisation I too become infuriated by the lies and stupidity. Love coming to your channel to reset. Thanks Jamie
The real lie and stupidity is whrn you think anybody is "trans". Unless you can switch sex chromosomes/organs, no one is "trans", as Jamie is a woman for example.
@@Zachyshowsno one is born understanding everything and instead of just deciding to be hateful like many others this person took the resources they had and learnt I think that's a very respectable thing to do and that judging someone cause they didn't always know something is ridiculous.
I just ordered 2 copies of your book. One for me, and one for my grandma. She has a lot of learning to do (as do I) and I'm so grateful that she is very loving and willing to listen. I'm not trans but I am queer and your videos have helped me be more honest to her (though I'm not out yet). She now understands that trans people are people with lives and friends and families, which is hard to di when you're stuck on conservative fear-mongering facebook. Thank you for everything you've done for the community!
@@trevorchester4439 they aren't doing either, and you're using the word gaslight incorrectly. The grandma won't question her sanity or what is real or anything big.
MY GIGI SAYS I CAN HAVE YOUR BOOK AS SOON AS IT COMES IN SOFTBACK BECAUSE OF THE PRICE BUT I CAN HAVE IT 🎉🎉🎉 Edit: we found it at Blackwells for cheap enough!
The "homosexual audacity" is a way of life at this point x') My job is to be crafty (litterally), half of the things I'm doing are like "yeah, I know the theory. I'm gonna make it work" and I make it work in the end. It's like the "f*ck it I'm gay" energy.
I had a *lovely* surprise when I opened my mailbox today! My Blackwells package arrived!! I can't wait to have a day to just sit and read your book! I did a quick flip through to prepare the pages, because it's a hardcover and I like to read laying down, and I already love the way it's laid out!
JUST GOT MY BOOK! Opened and started reading immediately... much to my Malinois' dismay because its cutting into her play time (which is all the time).
@@froggie0ribbit592 I am. Reading will have to wait until she's adopted (she's a foster and is getting all my love and attention, along with any semblance of energy and sanity I have).
I found your channel three years ago and your wholesome vibes and positive energy have really helped me a lot in my journey of self discovery and coming to terms with my gender and sexuality. Thank you for being a wonderful human being, Jamie ✨
I got your book and I started reading it and I love it so much already! I am going to recommend to every single person I know because it is amazing and I want as many people as possible to read it!
6:40 I love how this is basically a prince version of the traditional wedding dress, too - all in white, big and poofy, and with a train trailing over the ground. Also, is the last one implying queer women don't wear bras? Like I don't, but if I did, it would still be the first thing to come off...
Jamie! Your audiobook is so good!!! I'm listening to it on walks with my dogs and just arghhh, I'm learning so much!!! thank you - I love Shaaba's snippets too!
I’ve known who I am for a year now and it feels really good. I haven’t come out to anyone but my family is very accepting so I’ll be okay, I just don’t feel ready yet. I still struggle a lot with my identity but I think I’ll be okay with myself someday. We definitely need more lgbt+ joy in the world 🩵.
7:53 My mum decided to credit my job which I barely tolerate rather than the fact that realising I'm trans and starting T 😑. This message gives me feels
Hi JammiDodger crazy thing that you posted this on my birthday! I turned 15 today and as a genderfluid bisexual, i've always loved your content! keep up the good work😄
@@leunamreyo3663 A lot of women have breasts. That includes trans women and their breasts need support the same as anyone else's. (cause it's often the exact same biology ) How do you not know that?
Such a lovely compilation :D these are extra useful for me, who can't stand shortform content xD so you turning them into a longer video is super nice, especially with your commentary :) thank you so much
I have had an absolutely miserable day in every sense of the word. Time to watch this and hopefully get some good sleep. A nice refresh for hopefully a better day tomorrow.
lol It's really weird the way people like you simplify things in their head. Who said anything similar to "gay bad" anywhere in this comment section? Please, provide a source. The closest I can see is discussion about trans people, but you should know that gay and trans aren't the same.
TikTok is not a good place. I know it's only "old people" and "republicans" telling you that, but don't let your "hate spiral" stop. This was a very bad video for this person to put out.
I don't care who you are, there's nothing sweeter and more inspiring and enjoyable than seeing someone be 100% their authentic selves. Especially when they're doing something or sharing something they are passionate about. The energy that radiates is so infectious and attractive!
I just learned that gay marriage is 100% legal (I’m Lesbian with very homophobic parents so I never knew the truth) I may not mind getting married now…
Aww, as heartbreaking as that is, I hope you marry a wonderful woman (or enby, depends if you're also open to them) and have a wonderful life with them.
@@neon17.08 Why would you say this? The person just said that they're a lesbian. No matter what you want to project on the world, "lesbian" has a very specific definition. Otherwise, they would have used a word like "pansexual" or any other word that includes people of various sexes and genders.
@@KaiLucasZachary I'm not judging who the person is attracted to, a lot of lesbians are attracted to nonbinary people as well, nonbinary people are in a grey area of gender, they can be feminine and be very similar to a woman, theres a lot of traits and reasons of why a lesbian would be attracted to a nonbinary person, not all enbies are androgynous, some are also masculine. But my point of the comment was that I hoped they would have a wonderful life even with their upbringing.
jamie is the big brother of the trans community and you can’t change my mind
I see it.
If he is the big brother of the trans community then I am glad to have a brother who isn’t an absolute bastard
OT is the supportive uncle
I agree so much! 👏👏
No one can change your mind
Some poles spin, some don’t. They require different skill sets. When the pole spins you can do tricks that look like you’re spinning without having to loosen your grip which means you don’t automatically slide down the pole while spinning. With poles that stay put you have a looser grip in order to get yourself to spin around the pole and you will slide down the pole. Both styles are super cool in their own ways :)
Oh cool! Thanks for the info!
Yes a friend of mine does pole dancing and told me how in the lessons they sometimes get a spinning pole and sometimes not. That's how I learned about it 😅
I was about the write the same. I usually only train with static poles so when I do tricks on spinny I usually get a bit dizzy. ^^' I've also found that certain tricks are harder and heavier on spinny pole and others are much easier.
Everything is better on spinner!
Some do both - I have one that just has a pin thing to change it from spinning or not.
I don’t daydream, I gaydream: I imagine myself having gay-gency, being unafraid and being in the company of beautiful men.
I hope you find that some day
Switch out men for women and you have my Heaven. If I may quote the VNV Nation song "Where There Is Light:" "I want to be where I don't have to hide myself/and remain there until the end of time."
MEN! YES!
mmmmm men
agreed
HOW MANY SEXUALITIES DO YOU HAVE? SCIENTIST: JUST ONE, IGNORANT!!! I AM A SEXUAL BEING (I AM NOT JUST A SEXUAL BEING...I AM A LOT OF OTHER KNOWLEDGES TOO!)
THE CLOTHES DO NOT MAKE THE MANKIND (HUMANITY = GENDER = ONE)
LGBTTTQA (PRIDE, IGNORANCE, HATE, DYSPHORIA, DIVISION, COMPETITION, SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX AND SEX....WIGS, POLISH, HIGH HEELS, LIPSTICK AND MORE LIPSTICK)
“not even in my dreams am i that athletic” - i felt that
Yeah, I'm not convinced that was really day 1. But either way, the person has impressive skills.
In my dreams I tend to just float/glide around like I'm T-posing in a bad video game... I guess even my dream self is too lazy to move haha
"I feel like 13 is such an age." Yep. Even for people who didn't know they were part of the LGBTQIA-- specifically the A, in my case. My aro self was so confused about why everyone suddenly found it so important to talk about their crushes all the damn time, and the adults telling me I would start feeling that way too, any day now, whether I wanted to or not. It was so frustrating.
But y'all, I promise it gets better. For the young folk reading this, puberty and adolescence will come to an end, and you will find your people, whoever they may be. Stay strong.
I only just recently realized I’m the A. I remember doing what Jaiden Animations described because my parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents started pressuring me about my crushes when I was six. SIX. I stopped having “crushes” at 13. My family is still telling me I’ll find someone. I won’t, because I don’t want to.
As a thirteen year old confused kid, thanks man, I needed to hear that!
@@ladysollua Six, wow. I'm glad you know yourself and can resist the pressure.
@@elodielabelle-personal4852 I promise you, everyone is confused at 13. You've got this.
Being A as a 13 year old boy is traumatic at best. Your body is telling you things physically that your brain cannot process... not discovering what Ace actually is until you were over 50 just left a lifetime of frustration and hurt...
Living my authentic self now is priceless!
Yesterday I passed in public for the first time 😊.
I was at the mall and my sister asked me to pick up some shorts for her daughter at a sports wear store and sent me a link and the size and when I went to pick them up I showed the employee the picture and she looked at me and kinda hesitant said "those are women's shorts...". I just said "I know, they're for my niece." She nodded, took me to the display, asked me what size I needed and handed me the right one. The cashier also seemed to view me as a guy.
Nice one! The first time I passed in public was when a burger king employee called me 'sir' :)
Congrats!
Gongrats! I’m so proud of you
Go you!
Awesome ❤️❤️❤️
In the interest of continuing to spread LGBTQ joy, this Friday, July 14, is International Nonbinary People's Day. Joy to all the enbies out there, and I hope you all have a fantastic day!
Thank you 💖 I hope joy is sown in your life with each passing day!
Ooo as a demiguy I shall celebrate!
Perfect day to come out to my grandmother
Thank you!
@@IndustrialParrot2816 I hope it goes well!
Thought that came to my mind lately: When someone says "you never be a real woman" (or man in the case of ftm, or nb, etc.) Imagine someone going to an adopted child, and telling them "you never be their real child". In both situations, it's biologically true (or partially biologically true in the case of trans folk), but it completely ignores the social and emotional part of the thing, not to mention that it's just rude and generally asshole behavior.
I’ve never thought of it like this, I’ll be sure to use it on the next transphobe I see
@@KateWick1997 wanna explain to the class?
@KateWick1997 opinion absolutely being discarded until you can elaborate.
If anything, it's bad because being someone's biological child is purely based in biology, which gender isn't.
@@user-mv5zt8qd9l My comparison was more about comparing gender to parenthood, not "biological child". In which sex is purely biological, bloodline is purely biological, gender is emotional/social, parent-child relationship is emotional/social.
Basically :
biological child, andopted child = both their parents children
cis woman, trans woman = both women
@@KateWick1997 People literally did this in the '90s/early '00s, the better occurrence being them saying "oh, i'm so sorry" when learning someone was adopted. Also bonus "adopted people are weird."
I LOVE LOVE LOVE the gender-neutral wedding outfit! I hope many more formal wear designers start creating non-binary looks for their collections. Many of us feel awkward in a dress, and awkward in a suit as well. We need something else...!
Capes feel like a really good direction to go, honestly.
Just go full Luz Noceda! Suit with tutu 😂
@@alyxleaf I've done 80s prom dresses with a blazer & combat boots for many years :) Nice to see Luz Noceda representing!
@@robinhazen8034 Nice, that sounds like a whole vibe
Edna Mode legit said yes to the cape ❤
Not gonna lie, I want the outfit
"i was in my 20s when i found out the poles spin" hahaha oh dear well i am 22 and after seeing this, i now know they spin. and those wedding clothes are simply to die for, i love them so much🧡🧡🧡
@@TheCassandra haha oh i never thought of that. this gives one of those, the whole world makes sense feelings.
Yeah, I learned that today. In my 40s. Thank you, Jamie, for your educational content.
@@mirandarensberger6919 oh it is nice to know that so many are happy to learn new things. and i think that jamie is the best one to teach it, with such lovely and funny words
@@TheCassandra they can be fixed, all depends on the routine and the skill of the dancer. Most poles in dance studios can be locked in place so it is less dangerous for beginners.
Lets learn more new things: the pole doesn't actually have to spin. You have poles that spin ánd poles that are static! Most people will start learning new moves on static poles before going to a spinning pole.
Another great LGBTQ+ thing:
Here in México we have our first Drag news presenter, and she looks amazing!
She's from Sinaloa, giving a segment called 'Cada hora, a la hora', it means 'Every hour, at the hour', so she's on camera a lot.
Thats amazing 👏 🎉🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Wait she gives the news IN drag??? Dude that's lit
Is she a biological female? If she isn't then he is a male.
Hey everyone, wanted to share my own bit of queer joy:
I finally figured out that I'm genderfluid! I've been questioning for almost two years now, and it feels amazing to finally understand myself. I'm not ready to come out to my family yet, but I think they'll be pretty accepting when I do. I've also been experimenting with how I present, and to finally be able to look in the mirror and see myself exactly as I feel inside is just wonderful. Thank you to everyone in this community who has supported me, I love you all. And to anyone still figuring out their identity, be patient with yourself, use any resources available, and remember that this community is always there to help you out
Congrats!!!
You deserve more love and support than you can ever imagine, not in spite of who you are, but because of it 💖🤍💜🖤💙
That's great! So happy for you ❤️
@@SuspiciousTemmie @mirabellenbaum4109 Tysm!!
I relate to your experience!
It can be really hard to figure out as each day you might experience different dysphoria and question your identity in completely different directions. It was such a relief to know that there was a name to what I was experiencing. And the joy that self expression can bring is a wonderful thing. Much love to you and all my other genderfluid friends out here
Ayy, fellow genderfluid nugget here!
Love seeing other happy LGBTQ families! I'm a trans man and my husband is a cis man. Our daughters are 9 and 6. Dear God, she'll be 7 soon.
We're saving up to take them to Disneyland next year, hopefully. That Bippidi Boppidi Boutique isn't cheap, especially if you're doing it twice.
Man means adult human male. Trans->hoing beyond/across of sonething and I really, rrally doubt that you were able to change your clearly female sex chromosomes/organs. So what are you? A female, a woman.
Who is a "not cis man"? Oh right...she is a female. A woman.
I only assume of course, but the fact that you gave birth in itself shows that you are the opposite of any kind of man.
Most poles actually have a spin and static mode, so sometimes they spin and sometimes they don’t :)
I think of using a pole on static and spin as different skills, usually with a lot of overlap. You can absolutely spin on a static pole, but not as fast and yes, you do end up with calloused hands
So, here is a heterosexual couple with extra steps.
A 'not cis man" like you is a biological female, a woman. We do not need new label for what you are.
Pride is all year long !! ❤🌈🩵💖🤍🩵🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
I'm pretty sure it's getting boycotted so.......
@@transwomenarentrealwomen290Pride was happening long before rainbow capitalism was a thing. It's just going back to its roots. Pride started as a riot, morphed into a protest, and turned into a party. Now that the moment's calling for it we've returned to protest protocol, and we will not hesitate to escalate to riots. You killed all the nice queers: now the only ones left are us cockroaches who are too angry to die.
@@transwomenarentrealwomen290why do you losers who hate lgbt people all ways lurk in lgbt videos and comments? Get a life.
Agreed 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Yes!
The Wedding-TikTok made me wanna share something with you.
My partner came out to me as trans 2 weeks ago or so and before that, she always was like "no, I do not want to get married, it's silly and an event people spent way to much money on."
After she came out, I asked her, if she could imagine marrying me in 5 or 10 years or so, after she is done transitioning (at least mostly done), if we are still together and she said yes and was very excited.
So every time, one of us is overwhelmed with the situation, we look at dresses and rings and how we're going to cut the cake with a sword (her wish) or something and it makes us really happy 😊.
(Guess I have to figure out my sexuality now, cause after the first shock, I kind of didn't mind the idea of having a girlfrind from now on😅)
The majority of real trans people, if they're not rushing into it the way they're being pressured to now and have actually had the desire their entire lives, will not be "mostly done" with their transition in 5 years. It's a really fucked up world we live in now where people can permanently alter their bodies with no mental evaluation prior in just a matter of time that will ultimately seem like an eye blink later down the road.
@@KaiLucasZacharytrans people have existed for a really long time. Detransition rates are really low. People aren’t being pushed to be trans, if anything they’re being discouraged by transphobic policies and groups. Most gender affirming care is reversible. Stop spewing lies.
So, your boyfriend hallucinate that he is a female. And you even affirm it? Congratulation.
Being a female is not a cheap costume.
He cannot transition - abnormal hormone levels/fake breasts/genital mutilation will not make him into a woman.
gay people are real
No, I thought they were made up!😱
wait, really?
I certainly don't _feel_ real...
Can confirm, I am real 😌
Are we though?
What is "are"
We defiantly needed some damn LGBTQ+ joy rn
Why do you need joy defiantly, would that not compromise the feeling?
@@nommh When society wants you to be miserable, experiencing joy is a defiance.
@@MykkiOnTheCuspI love this 🫶🏻💖
definitely* and yes i agree
I can so relate to the one where the girl is saying "my young self trying to convince me I'm straight... WOMEN!" As a bisexual, my brain did that to me starting around the age of 11 or 12 when I started to slowly realize I was actually bi. I grew up in a religious household and was very deeply in the closet. I finally came out at 19. Everything went well thankfully but it sure wasn't fun doing that to myself, even if I had my reasons. I can laugh about it nowadays though, well a part of it... that part being me at several points in my life actually thinking I WAS straight which is obviously hilarious compared to being in the closet because I felt like I had to be. 😂
Thank you for injecting queer joy. It was much needed. ❤
Pppssstt, hey congrats Jamie, just managed to get your book into my local library! Cannot wait to see you on the shelves!
Everyone like this comment right now.
if I could have I would have added at minimum 100 likes...
You'd be pretty lost with two trans parents. How would you find them? 😅😂
i see what you did there
Why did I read this with OT's voice?! 😂
🤦🤦🤦
@@KateWick1997 I feel sorry for every kid that has to interact with you, bigot.
@@KateWick1997are you serious, cuz if you are you are literally the worst
For anyone out there who needs it, take which ever one you want or needed to hear
you are beautiful
you are amazing
you are worthy
you are lovely
you are pretty
you are epic
you are legen... wait for it... dary
❤ from an ally
Thank you
Don't forget "handsome" so that men are included.
Legendary, all legs no dairy
@@ShinyTillDawnAll those adjetives were neutral so everyone is included!😊
Jamie is so wholesome. He's like the Stampylonghead of the LBGTQ+ commonity.
*She. Can we face the reality, that she is a woman?
Thank you for this, my stepdad has been sharing very transphobic things lately and this is the much needed boost that I need to know not everyone outside of the LGBTQ thinks in the way he does tbh
Jamie, thank you so much for making the audiobook as well this is great for making it more inclusive :).
"I feel like 13 is such an *age*" lol yeah it is Jamie, I'm living the full 13 year old lgbtq+ experience rn, and it is certainly "an age"
Fr!
Reading Jamie's book. It's hard to describe... part autobiography, part support, part explanatory, it just delves into trans experience with an constant emphasis that not everyone's journey is the same. Many roads lead to Rome. Reading it as a cis gay male brings out the commonalities as well as the differences between gay and trans experiences in our wonderful western society! It's written in a light, folksy style, even though it references academic research as well
Thanks for this description, I find it really helpful :)
@@pigeon_person Thank you, I just liked it enough to bring it up! One of the excellent features of Jamie's book is that it includes commentary from Shaaba, Jamie's wife, as well as comments from other trans folk about their own journeys and experiences. It also includes commentary for cis people like me, who cannot understand directly what being trans means, and how we can best support people who are, or are coming out as trans. Jamie's been very open about the difficulties he and Shaaba have faced together.
My only regret is that the bookstore I bought it from, Waterstones, just had the one copy on display and they'd tucked it away on a shelf so only the spine was visible, which is why I had to ask staff to find it for me. It was a needle in a haystack! The reason I bought it at the bookshop rather than online as I'd normally do these days, was so that staff would realise there's an interest in it.
One thing Jamie's taught me is that optimism needs to be indefatigable! He's a beacon of good hope for others. :)
@@KateWick1997 No, Kate dear, I know who I am, just as Jaime Raines does. It's the bigots who are confused about it, and aren't intelligent enough to understand why.
@@KateWick1997 And sweetie, I'm not "your guy" - thank the god that doesn't exist.
@@Leszek.Rzepecki I love your comments! It gives me hope when people take the time to learn about other people's experiences, especially when there is so much hostility in many areas.
I'll keep an eye out in Waterstone's next time I'm there to see if they have it displayed.
I really appreciate the details you've given and I had a good laugh at your reply to the bigots.
Have a great day :)
As a recent addition to the lgbtq+ community it is just so nice to see positve stuff about us, thanks so much for this confidence boost❤❤❤
TODAY I STARTED T!!! IM SO HAPPY
Wooo!!!! Happy day! Congrats dude!
Congrats my guy ❤🎉❤🎉
Correction: some of the poles spin, sometimes!
Poles come in a lot of different varieties (including Chinese poles, which I LOVE), but with metal poles, there are 2 kinds: spinny ones and not spinny ones. Also, the spinny ones have a peg you can use to make them not spinny!
The red shoes with the black suit and black shoes with the red dress couple had the same energy as that spongebob scene where he's wearing pink undies and Patrick is wearing yellow ones!
Tsk Tsk Jamie you will never be a woman
Just like I will never be a man!!!!!
This is of course meant to be a joke, just wanted to say I am happy, I just got approved for Estrogen. I also wanted to say you and Shaaba have massively improved my internal view on myself and making me feel accepted. 15 years of putting myself aside(taking care of ailing family, don't regret it just sad at lost time.)
Anyway love ya and thanks for doing everything you do.
I didn't realise this was a joke at first lol
ZOMFG GONGRATS! I'm five months in and I've never felt more comfortable in myself! Seriously though the depending on how high your T levels are to start our with it could take some time for even the initial physical effects like skin softening or sore nipples (seriously get ready for those: they aren't called growing pains for nothing) to show up, but at least for me the psychological effects came within the first two weeks. It's a hell of a ride, but one well worth taking. Welcome to the sisterhood!
@@KateWick1997 literally _everyone_ has estrogen
I guess women don't exist anymore. We've solved gender!
I'm so glad you were able to get estrogen! I wish to get HRT soon as well.
I was watching a Shaaba/ Jamie video and they were talking about period products. I thought "Jamie's a guy, what does he know about periods?" It took my brain several seconds to remind me why he would know.
Love the complete lack of acknowledgement/noticing of the person in the chainmail headpiece (I don't remember what that piece is called, sorry!) at about 6:35 lmao
Bro I didn't even notice that 💀
I saw that!
I dare to think myself as trans thanks to Jammie. Thank you, Jammie
💙💗🤍💗💙
"i've never done that, but i'm gay🏳️🌈" definitely gonna use this one 😂
The only problem with trans parents is that you never see them.
Right. I'll see myself out.😅
I have definitely been needing some queer joy lately, thank you for this video, Jamie
I am always here for the Joy! It was so cool seeing how everyone liked to dress up, their fashion was so unique and unconventional.
Checks comments to confirm that the pole really spins💀
Not watched the video yet lol only up to the bit about Jamie's book.
I preordered mine then ended up in temporary housing so I couldn't get the book right away, so I downloaded the audio book and it was amazing ♡
my sister picked my copy up for me afew days later and I have read it already.
I have recommended it to everyone , even my doctor at my local gender clinic, they may add it to their recommendation list which I think is great.
Anyways I feel like a proud dad 😅
Just a breeze of fresh air in the unbearable summer-
Thanks Jamie !!❤
Jamie: It’s not always about the mom, dad, 2 1/2 kids.
Me: Who cut a kid in half!!
Love your vids Jamie, keep up the good work
Go ye forth and read The Fantom Tollbooth.
2:13 I was today years old when I found that out about the pole
Spreading trans joy: I just got my mom to buy me a binder! I passed it off as a bra (she would be supportive but I haven’t come out yet) since tomboyx has binders called compression tops instead of binders (:
Happy for you!
I recently bought my second binder but from gc2b, they're quite comfortable
@@neon17.08 Stop. GC2B is a horrible company. You "just bought" one, so maybe you don't know... but they don't care about their products whatsoever. Nowadays, they fall apart very easily and don't even bind the way they're supposed to. The sizes aren't even fucking right. I once got 2 in the same size, and when they arrived, they were visibly different sized.
Use Underworks. They have way more options, they last for way longer, they're the same price, and they're designed for men.
Jamie... Got your book (ostensibly for my kid but kinda for my own edification too) and it just arrived. My kid was so excited! Just want to say thanks for putting your content out there for all of us who love to learn more about the human experience. You're such a wholesome cinnamon bun! I love your content, and not gonna lie...a bit jealous of your wife. She's got herself one amazing husband. You've had such a positive influence for so many people. Thank you.
When I read bits out loud (of your book) to my husband I do it in a Jamie voice 💜
On the first video, the pole doesn't always spin. I mostly practice on a static pole, with a spinning pole you need to get the feeling for how much power you use to push yourself or you'll get nauseous. But it definitely looks impressive once you got it
Edit: I think the clip was on a static pole, but I'm tired so idk
Thanks!
Jamie... the last 24h were horrible for me mentally. Thank you for giving me a few minutes of peace. ❤
Hang in there! I wish you all the best, friend.
Hey dude. If you ever wanna vent, I'm here to listen, or if you'd like input/advice I'm also here. There's a ton of people who will listen, judgment free. I hope you get to feeling even a tad bit better.
Congratulations on the book, Jamie! I finished it today, and absolutely loved it! ❤
@theredhattedman Ok yeah you definitely need therapy
I finally got my copy of the book and started reading it. Well done, Jamie!
2:05 actually the pole can be static or spinning, you can change to whatever you like. In pole sports competitions it's mostly required to have one spinning and one static pole and you should use them both a certain amount of time.
Personally I think static pole is better to learn new moves on and is easier, but with spinning you can create some very pretty flow in your routine and makes basic moves look harder than they actual are imo
I was once very confused by trans identity. I opted to learn more and found your channel. After reading lots and watching even more, I’m no longer confused. Now I not only know more but I can be a strong ally for all.
I now work somewhere that brings me into contact with people from all walks of life. When the transphobes write to my organisation I too become infuriated by the lies and stupidity. Love coming to your channel to reset. Thanks Jamie
What a lovely comment!
The real lie and stupidity is whrn you think anybody is "trans". Unless you can switch sex chromosomes/organs, no one is "trans", as Jamie is a woman for example.
your comment is false, the real stupidity
is not understanding a different identity
@@Zachyshowsno one is born understanding everything and instead of just deciding to be hateful like many others this person took the resources they had and learnt I think that's a very respectable thing to do and that judging someone cause they didn't always know something is ridiculous.
I'm glad you decided to learn about other people that's really cool of you.
I just ordered 2 copies of your book. One for me, and one for my grandma. She has a lot of learning to do (as do I) and I'm so grateful that she is very loving and willing to listen. I'm not trans but I am queer and your videos have helped me be more honest to her (though I'm not out yet). She now understands that trans people are people with lives and friends and families, which is hard to di when you're stuck on conservative fear-mongering facebook. Thank you for everything you've done for the community!
@@trevorchester4439lol poor alien, thinking some grandma is gonna die because of this
@@trevorchester4439 I see you are bad at understanding me, too
why do you think I think they do that
@@trevorchester4439 they aren't doing either, and you're using the word gaslight incorrectly. The grandma won't question her sanity or what is real or anything big.
@@trevorchester4439 Transwomen are women, transmen are men, and transphobes are morons.
LGBTQ+ tik tok is so great. People are so talented, funny, and kind.
MY GIGI SAYS I CAN HAVE YOUR BOOK AS SOON AS IT COMES IN SOFTBACK BECAUSE OF THE PRICE BUT I CAN HAVE IT 🎉🎉🎉
Edit: we found it at Blackwells for cheap enough!
The "homosexual audacity" is a way of life at this point x')
My job is to be crafty (litterally), half of the things I'm doing are like "yeah, I know the theory. I'm gonna make it work" and I make it work in the end.
It's like the "f*ck it I'm gay" energy.
I had a *lovely* surprise when I opened my mailbox today! My Blackwells package arrived!! I can't wait to have a day to just sit and read your book! I did a quick flip through to prepare the pages, because it's a hardcover and I like to read laying down, and I already love the way it's laid out!
JUST GOT MY BOOK! Opened and started reading immediately... much to my Malinois' dismay because its cutting into her play time (which is all the time).
Go play with that girl 😂 pet her for me too
@@froggie0ribbit592 I am. Reading will have to wait until she's adopted (she's a foster and is getting all my love and attention, along with any semblance of energy and sanity I have).
I found your channel three years ago and your wholesome vibes and positive energy have really helped me a lot in my journey of self discovery and coming to terms with my gender and sexuality. Thank you for being a wonderful human being, Jamie ✨
I got your book and I started reading it and I love it so much already! I am going to recommend to every single person I know because it is amazing and I want as many people as possible to read it!
when you said trans parents i thought you meant invisible for a second
6:40 I love how this is basically a prince version of the traditional wedding dress, too - all in white, big and poofy, and with a train trailing over the ground.
Also, is the last one implying queer women don't wear bras? Like I don't, but if I did, it would still be the first thing to come off...
Love you Jamie!!💛💛🥔🥔
So excited I received your book!!!! ❤️❤️ It so far
Jamie! Your audiobook is so good!!! I'm listening to it on walks with my dogs and just arghhh, I'm learning so much!!! thank you - I love Shaaba's snippets too!
Jamie: “I’m so jealous of that kid, I’m I’ve only gone once!”
me: “you guys have been to Disneyland??”
(/j)
Disney funds desantis
5:15 The outfits are brilliant 👏🏽
I’ve known who I am for a year now and it feels really good. I haven’t come out to anyone but my family is very accepting so I’ll be okay, I just don’t feel ready yet. I still struggle a lot with my identity but I think I’ll be okay with myself someday. We definitely need more lgbt+ joy in the world 🩵.
Your book just arrived in the mail, I can’t wait to read it!! Congratulations again 💜
How bi am I?
I get home and I take off both my bra AND my rings 😂
7:53 My mum decided to credit my job which I barely tolerate rather than the fact that realising I'm trans and starting T 😑.
This message gives me feels
Mooom! The little gay people in my phone are having fun! I want to have fun toooo!
Hi JammiDodger crazy thing that you posted this on my birthday! I turned 15 today and as a genderfluid bisexual, i've always loved your content! keep up the good work😄
@@KateWick1997 proof?
@@KateWick1997 that's not proof, why can't you people ever answer a question!!
@@KateWick1997 gen·der-flu·id
adjective
denoting or relating to a person who does not identify as having a single unchanging gender. now stfu
@@KateWick1997"there are only 2 genders"
Kiddo, gender is a spectrum. Nature never makes binaries.
The bra one! The funniest thing about being a trans woman:
"I can't wait to wear a bra" 🥺
Later: "work's over, get this thing OFF me" *yeet* 😂
@@leunamreyo3663 Do you not know what breasts and bras are and what they do? That's not hilarious it's disturbing.
@@leunamreyo3663 A lot of women have breasts. That includes trans women and their breasts need support the same as anyone else's. (cause it's often the exact same biology )
How do you not know that?
4:13 me except i didnt realise that was me admitting I'm gay (internalised transphobia go brrrrrr)
I'm so gonna buy your book next paycheck❤
Your book arrieved today, can't wait to read it!❤
Thanks so much for including our queer joy in your video, Jamie!
Thank you is much for coming out with an audio book as well, lots of authors don't and I really appreciate as a dyslexic
I don't often wear rings, but taking them off after a whole day of wearing them can be a relief
5:35 I actually know where they are and this surprises me. I've been there before and it is a very beautiful garden and nature area.
About 80 pages into your book. Loving it
Such a lovely compilation :D these are extra useful for me, who can't stand shortform content xD so you turning them into a longer video is super nice, especially with your commentary :) thank you so much
Some of these were so sweet, I'm pretty sure I have diabetes now. Much JOY to all y'all from this Joy!
Yay a happy Jamie video :D
I have had an absolutely miserable day in every sense of the word. Time to watch this and hopefully get some good sleep. A nice refresh for hopefully a better day tomorrow.
I much prefer the videos where you react to positive, wholesome and/or funny things like this.
1:48 for day one thats accualy extremely impressive
3 kinds of comments here:
"The pole spins??"
"Book!!!"
"Gay bad"
lol
It's really weird the way people like you simplify things in their head.
Who said anything similar to "gay bad" anywhere in this comment section? Please, provide a source.
The closest I can see is discussion about trans people, but you should know that gay and trans aren't the same.
This came at such a perfect time! I just came out of a draining tiktok hate spiral and this helped so much.
TikTok is not a good place. I know it's only "old people" and "republicans" telling you that, but don't let your "hate spiral" stop. This was a very bad video for this person to put out.
My copy of your book arrived yesterday aaah I can't wait to read it!
6:34 This is the definition of Queer Joy.
Keep up the good work, lad
Love the videos and content
My copy of your book has arrived!! Very excited to start reading it
I don't care who you are, there's nothing sweeter and more inspiring and enjoyable than seeing someone be 100% their authentic selves. Especially when they're doing something or sharing something they are passionate about. The energy that radiates is so infectious and attractive!
I just learned that gay marriage is 100% legal (I’m Lesbian with very homophobic parents so I never knew the truth) I may not mind getting married now…
Aww, as heartbreaking as that is, I hope you marry a wonderful woman (or enby, depends if you're also open to them) and have a wonderful life with them.
@@neon17.08 Why would you say this? The person just said that they're a lesbian. No matter what you want to project on the world, "lesbian" has a very specific definition. Otherwise, they would have used a word like "pansexual" or any other word that includes people of various sexes and genders.
@@KaiLucasZachary
I'm not judging who the person is attracted to, a lot of lesbians are attracted to nonbinary people as well, nonbinary people are in a grey area of gender, they can be feminine and be very similar to a woman, theres a lot of traits and reasons of why a lesbian would be attracted to a nonbinary person, not all enbies are androgynous, some are also masculine.
But my point of the comment was that I hoped they would have a wonderful life even with their upbringing.
@@KaiLucasZacharydon't search it up on Google. ask a queer person. and not a queerphobe who's just pretending
Jamie, your book is more Heartstopper than Doorstopper, I’m sure.
Loved this video; thank you for making it!!So looking forward to your book!!