I'm doing No contact for myself,bettering myself,..I loved her but she's just not worth it.i think she still needs to grow..nd I accept that.i can't wait for one person...there's just too many opportunities out there..
Thank YOU! Omg I have been trying to make a point to my friends and even my ex that we need to not be friends let alone no contact. That’s the healthiest thing for us to move on for each other ❤ I love him to death but I have to chose myself until he can figure himself out
Good luck moving on. I loved my ex so much… it would hurt to be friends. I had to cut him off completely. I even had to unfollow him on my language app 😂 Zero contact! I still think about him a lot. However, I don’t regret moving on. I’m learning a lot about myself and I’m open to new experiences and opportunities that probably wouldn’t have been an option had I still been with him. So good luck you will be better for it .
One of the things I LOVE about these videos is the Hope you give for winning them back (and good reminders, such as give it space and time: more than 30 days). Also, as I am on this journey, I am starting to build more security in myself and wondering "Do I even WANT them back?" I'm reading "Letting Go", per your recommendation and am trying to marry that philosophy with these videos. So far, the take away is: Let go of the attachment to the person and work on YOU!
@@shawny979 Yeah, I hear that. In that book "Letting Go", he talks about how life crises present us with polar opposites: do we choose to hate or forgive that person? Do we accept or hold on? Do we learn and grow or do we rent and become bitter? It's not necessarily easy to let go, so I hear you. Right now, I'm just sitting still and absorbing as much positive, affirming and introspective materials as I can.
I clicked on this video because I was curious to see what you had to say and it turns out I did everything right from the start as much as it hurt I had to do no contact for awhile and like you said focus being a better me because self love is very important in matters like this . Everything takes time . God bless you thanks again 🙏
I was no joke talking to one on my friends about my ex telling him how I didn’t know what to do with him and if he even loves me anymore and how i was soo scared to even reach out then this video popped up imma take it as fate❤
My issue I’m alone ! I moved to new country new job ! New challenges ! I’ve never felt insecure 0 friends ! 😢 worst timing for break up ! I cry everyday for 6 months ! Too lonely too busy to socialize ! Too cold to go out ! ( Canada snow )
Can you do a video on if you still live with your ex but they dumped u and they have moved on to someone else while your still living together please 🙏🏽 😢
Do a video on an ex and their rebound relationship ended and now the ex is coming back to you. I know you shouldn't take them back right away but interested on your thoughts
it is never a rebound relationship my friend, it's the reason why she/he left. they had that person lined up or highly interested before breaking up with you. especially if we talk about women.
I really like this channel. It’s all inclusive, regardless of race. Unlike Kevin Samuels for example. I would love to hear you put some focus on how to deal with the aftermath of divorce, & how to get your ex husband/wife back. Also considering the dynamics with children.
You must do whatever it takes and be willing to change for all of them. If you really want your family back. You can’t be proud or stubborn even if you thought you were right. For whatever reason she decided to leave in the first place. Find out if she still loves you or has moved onto greener pastures. 😉 then put your best self into action. 🎉
I knew of a relationship where the ex husband wanted chance after chance after divorce. The man never ever said he would change or do whatever it took to be the man she loved. They are still divorced today. He remarried but hasn’t changed. She is living a happy single life and improving herself, her life, & her relationships & living her best life!! 🎉
Thank you so much for your videos! My ex broke up with me right after christmas last year and i keep begging and emailing and calling him to make this work. I feel like if i dont show how much i want him back he wouldnt come back. I am that type of person who doesnt give up or doesnt know how to let go. However, I am now trying to just focus on me. Its very hard and i feel like if i focus on me i am being selfish,
Please pray for me and my relationship I left my boyfriend because he does not give me the love and care I need now I ignore him. They say if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be 😢😢😭💔😭😭
Coach, I have a question (and it may make a great video topic). What to do when your ex dumps you for their ex? I don't foresee them returning, and I don't care if they did frankly. lol
Idk what to think; he reached out after NC of over a year. I didn’t call him back immediately. Of course, he’s asking for a favor. I agreed then he goes ghost. Called a day later. All of a sudden he had to go outta town. Bull.
hi Mr black my situation is much different i was in a very long relationship she had an affair on me and is in a relationship with this new flop has nothing and is going no were, i now have realized that i am guilty of trying to call and text , after watching some of your content it has helped me understand that over 50%of long term relationships do get back together and just because they are with someone new doesn't mean they don't come back as you say it takes time, can you do a clip on sometimes it takes 6 to 12 months for some women to realize what they had and miss.
Hey man, got a question for you! I was recently in a really good relationship (no toxicity, no abuse) but I was dumped because of long distance. I understand and respect that long distance isn’t for everyone, but I was really enjoying it and I got let down. After getting dumped, I was offered friendship. I said no, then I blocked him off of everything (apart from his number, if he wishes to talk again) and I even deleted all of his friends, not before messaging them to say that I wish them all the best and that I hope our paths cross again in the future. What do you think about this situation? Would you call it dumping the dumper? I’ve not found any content relating to this on CZcams so far. I only did it because I really don’t care if I see my ex again 🤷♂️
I listen to all your videos I love your advice and I have a quick question. Does this no contact work in a new relationship that went bad ? I've been in no contact for almost 3 weeks!!
Do you and stop counting. If it’s meant for you, it will happen. If not, well just move onto the next best thing for you. Plenty of people in the world! 💁🏽♀️
What does it mean if we are in no contact but my ex is liking all of my post, the first one to watch all my stories, liking my reposts about relationships on tiktok, but wont reach out to me
Do you think if we still live together but he sees me changing up, glowing up,not talking and not showing emotion he's warming up? He tells me things about the flowers I planted on the balconies as if I'll be here to see when they grow more and bloom. He knows I'm looking for a place.... at the beginning i was staying with a fridnd and he wrote me a sad letter saying how its grey without me but now at home hes distant.he's a very avoident man so it's a strange situation.
Has anyone ever worked n themselves & have a love story successfully work out with their ex after this? Coach could you share some stories on maybe this working out or is it just that you end up moving on bc now you’re not the same and you no longer truly care? Thanks for the help & support
I reached out to her. She didn't ask for a break up so I gave her space for 2 weeks and reached out to her. Its not going too well and I don't know if I should walk away again
@@jesussaves4485 no problem, I am in the same boat but I’m holding on to dear life (no contact) is power. I find it helpful to focus all the love and attention I was giving that person to myself.
@@franchescacruz1986 I was in no contact too but I broke it and I'm regretting doing that. I think I should never have texted her and I don't know how to walk away again. I will say I'm getting used leaving in a toxic love city
@@jesussaves4485 stay strong and walk away. Matthew hussey always says if they don’t reach out and say they made a mistake and want to work it out, it is a selfish text to cure a moment of sadness for themselves or they just wanna make sure that your still there
Why would you even come up with such a title? The title doesn't seem good at all. Sure it takes two to tango but that should not be the goal especially when you know things are over and done and it was not a healthy relationship in the first place.
Good afternoon coach , how I can make that happen when no contact is not working. I don't take her call I don't text her . When she called I don't answer but I do when my daughter does. She now realized that I am not speaking to her and what she does is use my daughter phone to call me . We are married but separated since December. She was cheating
Hi coach, I don't understand if I told my ex that I don't want nothing to do with him and to only message me when it comes to the kids then why is he not following that? He doesn't ask about our kids but has text me when he left the court house (visitation) or that he's moving to AZ.
Word of unsolicited advice don’t date people at work or the gym. It never works and makes you feel uncomfortable to have to avoid them on a daily or weekly basis OR worst they start to date another co worker. I know from experience
@@blacademic Hi coach, why would the indifferent dumper unblock the dumpee on messenger after 2 weeks of being blocked. Still blocked on everything else. 2 weeks ago, I asked my ex 5 times, does he still love me via text, because he ignored the questions and then finally answered in the fifth question by saying no. It’s very confusing! Is he confused or just playing mind games with me?
@@blacademic I’ve been in no contact with a women I was with for half year. It ended with me cheating and I’ve been no contact for three weeks she text me happy birthday few days ago I responded with thank you and the conversation ended
@@Bonita20 stop contacting him completely. Stop asking if he still loves you. You are not giving him space. The unblocking is breadcrumbs, do not react to that. Wait for him to contact you first
These videos are irresponsible...an X is an X for a reason..This is just game playing!! It's dangerous and steals your joy towards moving forward.. I like the guy but do a better Subject that helps promote growth...
The heart wants what it cannot
Have… Disappear and shatter their ego…..
This resonates 😂
Yes going no contact is powerful.
I'm doing No contact for myself,bettering myself,..I loved her but she's just not worth it.i think she still needs to grow..nd I accept that.i can't wait for one person...there's just too many opportunities out there..
She came back. I am wiser for listening to you. Thank you.
After how longM
Just because he's "hooked" to you emotionally, It doesn't mean you're going to be together, sadly 😭
I know right 😂
They just thrive on how you make them feel without having to commit or do any work emotionally or physically! 😮
Not necessarily sadly. There’s more men/women out there.
Thank YOU! Omg I have been trying to make a point to my friends and even my ex that we need to not be friends let alone no contact. That’s the healthiest thing for us to move on for each other ❤ I love him to death but I have to chose myself until he can figure himself out
Good luck moving on. I loved my ex so much… it would hurt to be friends. I had to cut him off completely. I even had to unfollow him on my language app 😂 Zero contact! I still think about him a lot. However, I don’t regret moving on. I’m learning a lot about myself and I’m open to new experiences and opportunities that probably wouldn’t have been an option had I still been with him. So good luck you will be better for it .
One of the things I LOVE about these videos is the Hope you give for winning them back (and good reminders, such as give it space and time: more than 30 days).
Also, as I am on this journey, I am starting to build more security in myself and wondering "Do I even WANT them back?" I'm reading "Letting Go", per your recommendation and am trying to marry that philosophy with these videos. So far, the take away is: Let go of the attachment to the person and work on YOU!
You have a great point. I am over the missing and thinking of them. Now the Bitterness has set in. Trying to get over that.
@@shawny979 Yeah, I hear that. In that book "Letting Go", he talks about how life crises present us with polar opposites: do we choose to hate or forgive that person? Do we accept or hold on? Do we learn and grow or do we rent and become bitter?
It's not necessarily easy to let go, so I hear you. Right now, I'm just sitting still and absorbing as much positive, affirming and introspective materials as I can.
The more I watch, the more I don't know if I want her back. The videos are really helpful 🙂
I know huh? I’m thinking the same way about my person. I’m thinking of finding a new love interest. 🥳
I clicked on this video because I was curious to see what you had to say and it turns out I did everything right from the start as much as it hurt I had to do no contact for awhile and like you said focus being a better me because self love is very important in matters like this . Everything takes time . God bless you thanks again 🙏
This is true silence changes everything you might not see it that your silence touches their emotions but it does have a strong impact on them.
I was no joke talking to one on my friends about my ex telling him how I didn’t know what to do with him and if he even loves me anymore and how i was soo scared to even reach out then this video popped up imma take it as fate❤
Update??
Update?
Damn, coach Blac - spot on as usual. I just wish i would've found you three years ago. All the same, great job and keep up the good work!
My issue I’m alone ! I moved to new country new job ! New challenges ! I’ve never felt insecure 0 friends ! 😢 worst timing for break up ! I cry everyday for 6 months ! Too lonely too busy to socialize ! Too cold to go out ! ( Canada snow )
He's correct it took me 2 yrs to learn this lesson
All the words coming from.your mouth is giving Positive vibe to us
You're the best!! Everything you say is all facts!! Keep putting out these videos!! One love homie ❤️
Can you do a video on if you still live with your ex but they dumped u and they have moved on to someone else while your still living together please 🙏🏽 😢
Thanks coach.... your videos are very useful
Do a video on an ex and their rebound relationship ended and now the ex is coming back to you. I know you shouldn't take them back right away but interested on your thoughts
You are not an option or a backup never let them back into your life
That is pure Manipulation and Unfair when they do that. Ask yourself if you really want to put in the work of trying to Trust them again?
it is never a rebound relationship my friend, it's the reason why she/he left. they had that person lined up or highly interested before breaking up with you. especially if we talk about women.
@@geru3003 Yes, you're spot on. 👏
Great way of explaining things!
Excellent advice as always 💪🏻✨🙏
Thanks brother for everything i have been following you man
You are Gem !! Your videos keeps me going and makes me a strong person day on day...Stay blessed
Brother this is a strong psycological kick
I really like this channel. It’s all inclusive, regardless of race. Unlike Kevin Samuels for example. I would love to hear you put some focus on how to deal with the aftermath of divorce, & how to get your ex husband/wife back. Also considering the dynamics with children.
You must do whatever it takes and be willing to change for all of them. If you really want your family back. You can’t be proud or stubborn even if you thought you were right. For whatever reason she decided to leave in the first place. Find out if she still loves you or has moved onto greener pastures. 😉 then put your best self into action. 🎉
I knew of a relationship where the ex husband wanted chance after chance after divorce. The man never ever said he would change or do whatever it took to be the man she loved. They are still divorced today. He remarried but hasn’t changed. She is living a happy single life and improving herself, her life, & her relationships & living her best life!! 🎉
Hey here he is the one and only.......... Coach Blac...........
So does this mean we should never reach out to our ex but wait indefinitely for them to reach out??
Nope just focus on you
Thank you so much for your videos! My ex broke up with me right after christmas last year and i keep begging and emailing and calling him to make this work. I feel like if i dont show how much i want him back he wouldnt come back. I am that type of person who doesnt give up or doesnt know how to let go. However, I am now trying to just focus on me. Its very hard and i feel like if i focus on me i am being selfish,
Same. But please take your power back. You are being ignored because they know they still have you.
@@mottley5216 yes this is the fourth time he broke up with me
If you desire different results you have to do differently. Everything will be ok.
@@mottley5216 thanks so much this really helps.
You’re welcome Dear..
I love your videos they have helped me so much
Thank you so much Coach! I am so grateful! I am going to apply all of your teachings to my situation! :)
You disappear…
It’s that simple….
Please pray for me and my relationship I left my boyfriend because he does not give me the love and care I need now I ignore him.
They say if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be 😢😢😭💔😭😭
Coach, I have a question (and it may make a great video topic). What to do when your ex dumps you for their ex? I don't foresee them returning, and I don't care if they did frankly. lol
Lol my ex did that don’t worry it won’t last way if they did no healing that person is just running away from dealing with problems they will be back
Any advice on applying this when there is kids involved?
Thank god i listened to this!!! 🙏
But if he’s already moved on & has a gf !? - I don’t think he would care !
One of your top vids hands down
I love this video. Thank you so much for these pieces of advice. I am on the right track.
Idk what to think; he reached out after NC of over a year. I didn’t call him back immediately. Of course, he’s asking for a favor. I agreed then he goes ghost. Called a day later. All of a sudden he had to go outta town. Bull.
hi Mr black my situation is much different i was in a very long relationship she had an affair on me and is in a relationship with this new flop has nothing and is going no were, i now have realized that i am guilty of trying to call and text , after watching some of your content it has helped me understand that over 50%of long term relationships do get back together and just because they are with someone new doesn't mean they don't come back as you say it takes time, can you do a clip on sometimes it takes 6 to 12 months for some women to realize what they had and miss.
Thanks coach. Videos like these are great
I knew some of this already, but this was very good. Subscribed.
Hey man, got a question for you! I was recently in a really good relationship (no toxicity, no abuse) but I was dumped because of long distance. I understand and respect that long distance isn’t for everyone, but I was really enjoying it and I got let down.
After getting dumped, I was offered friendship. I said no, then I blocked him off of everything (apart from his number, if he wishes to talk again) and I even deleted all of his friends, not before messaging them to say that I wish them all the best and that I hope our paths cross again in the future.
What do you think about this situation? Would you call it dumping the dumper? I’ve not found any content relating to this on CZcams so far. I only did it because I really don’t care if I see my ex again 🤷♂️
I don't know that's a good question. Just commenting so I could follow this thread😂
Wow... exactly d same...he dumped me last wed..
I’m in this situation with my ex girlfriend
I listen to all your videos I love your advice and I have a quick question. Does this no contact work in a new relationship that went bad ? I've been in no contact for almost 3 weeks!!
Truth every word 💯
You are worth listening to
Nothing you can do if they are already dating a past flame
That will fall apart. It did once and if they didn’t change anything it will again, most likely.
Great advice.
dude, are you single? asking for a friend
Thank you coach blac
Very helpfull
More Coach give us more
Loved this
Going on week 11... NC 😔
Do you and stop counting. If it’s meant for you, it will happen. If not, well just move onto the next best thing for you. Plenty of people in the world! 💁🏽♀️
What does it mean if we are in no contact but my ex is liking all of my post, the first one to watch all my stories, liking my reposts about relationships on tiktok, but wont reach out to me
Great video
Thank you for this!
Do you think if we still live together but he sees me changing up, glowing up,not talking and not showing emotion he's warming up?
He tells me things about the flowers I planted on the balconies as if I'll be here to see when they grow more and bloom. He knows I'm looking for a place.... at the beginning i was staying with a fridnd and he wrote me a sad letter saying how its grey without me but now at home hes distant.he's a very avoident man so it's a strange situation.
Has anyone ever worked n themselves & have a love story successfully work out with their ex after this?
Coach could you share some stories on maybe this working out or is it just that you end up moving on bc now you’re not the same and you no longer truly care?
Thanks for the help & support
I reached out to her. She didn't ask for a break up so I gave her space for 2 weeks and reached out to her. Its not going too well and I don't know if I should walk away again
I know it’s tough but you deserve someone that wants you just as bad. It will hurt but someone new will come around and see YOU
@@franchescacruz1986 thank you Franchesca
@@jesussaves4485 no problem, I am in the same boat but I’m holding on to dear life (no contact) is power. I find it helpful to focus all the love and attention I was giving that person to myself.
@@franchescacruz1986 I was in no contact too but I broke it and I'm regretting doing that. I think I should never have texted her and I don't know how to walk away again. I will say I'm getting used leaving in a toxic love city
@@jesussaves4485 stay strong and walk away. Matthew hussey always says if they don’t reach out and say they made a mistake and want to work it out, it is a selfish text to cure a moment of sadness for themselves or they just wanna make sure that your still there
He left me over my kids aren't he's he said they was a little bad but i know that's some bs
Thank you!
Why would you even come up with such a title? The title doesn't seem good at all.
Sure it takes two to tango but that should not be the goal especially when you know things are over and done and it was not a healthy relationship in the first place.
Good afternoon coach , how I can make that happen when no contact is not working. I don't take her call I don't text her . When she called I don't answer but I do when my daughter does.
She now realized that I am not speaking to her and what she does is use my daughter phone to call me .
We are married but separated since December. She was cheating
If you want her back, why are you ignoring her?
@@danilaroche1156 yes I am save and she was also .but she let someone come between us and destroyed our mirage and her Christian life.
@@danilaroche1156 thank you very much I know he will
Hi coach, I don't understand if I told my ex that I don't want nothing to do with him and to only message me when it comes to the kids then why is he not following that? He doesn't ask about our kids but has text me when he left the court house (visitation) or that he's moving to AZ.
Thank you
Thank you sir
Please breakout and do videos about relationships. I hate that you only do breakup and no contact videos
She told me thst she only interested in being friends.
Take the advice and run. To the next best thing for you; girlfriend; gym; travel; any advancement! Pronto! 🏃🏾♂️
I just pissed her off I blamed her for cheating
You crossed the line even if it’s true or accusation. Once accusations come into play, any love or relationship is pretty much gone.
Will this work if I’m the one that said it won’t work but realized I made a mistake
How can I make him feel the loss, when I'm seeing him regularly at work? I try to be distant (still polite) but he doesn't seem to care at all.
Word of unsolicited advice don’t date people at work or the gym. It never works and makes you feel uncomfortable to have to avoid them on a daily or weekly basis OR worst they start to date another co worker. I know from experience
Thankyou
Do you do phone sessions? $ 50
I just broke up with my ex 11/11/2023
i agree
My ex telling me to leave his house after 6 months what can I do please
I would leave. Never stay where your not wanted it will only get worst. I am so sorry your going thru that it will get better
Hi coach, I paid for a question yesterday’s live Q&A. Could you please answer it? Thank you.
What your question?
@@blacademic Hi coach, why would the indifferent dumper unblock the dumpee on messenger after 2 weeks of being blocked. Still blocked on everything else. 2 weeks ago, I asked my ex 5 times, does he still love me via text, because he ignored the questions and then finally answered in the fifth question by saying no. It’s very confusing! Is he confused or just playing mind games with me?
Just realised, he blocked me again on messenger but unblocked me on SC…
@@blacademic I’ve been in no contact with a women I was with for half year. It ended with me cheating and I’ve been no contact for three weeks she text me happy birthday few days ago I responded with thank you and the conversation ended
@@Bonita20 stop contacting him completely. Stop asking if he still loves you. You are not giving him space. The unblocking is breadcrumbs, do not react to that. Wait for him to contact you first
❤❤
These videos are irresponsible...an X is an X for a reason..This is just game playing!! It's dangerous and steals your joy towards moving forward.. I like the guy but do a better Subject that helps promote growth...
I wish I had seen This
3 years ago When he
Ghosted me After
36 years for a person
He knew for only
One week
She is better
More cool
She likes meth
Thank you 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍💌💌💌
Thank you