Get Ready With Me | 4 Things I Wish I Knew Before Joining A Sorority | Shea Miller
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- April 21st is my AKAversary, yaaaaay! This is year FOUR for me and as the QU4D of my line .. it's only right that I celebrate this as my "golden" year.
I promise I tried to make this video as short as possible but CLEARLY I just start talking and don't know when to stop lol. These are just some of the things that I wish that I knew before joining a Greek organization and that I think may be beneficial for others who are interested in joining one to know.
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Shea Miller Dam...that beat Sound Good👍..who made that? Do you know?
Alfred Cowans the neptunes .. it's the bouncin' back (mystikal) instrumental.
Shea Miller oh ok thanks..That Joint Tough👍💪
Shea Miller Wai..hold up..you mean the Neptunes Made it? An it's Mystikals beat?
Alfred Cowans yes lol it's the song Bouncin Back from yeaaaaars ago.
as a member of a D9 org.....i think you should be able to have these real conversations with the members of the orgs so that you can make an informed decision. Beware of those who try to come for you cause you have on "their colors" or who try to come at you because they know your I interested. intimidation is for suckas and if you encounter that while info gathering.....is that something you want to be a part of?? Use your wise mind when making this type of decision....i love my org and you have to make sure you pick an org that speaks to you purpose/spirit and not to the image you think you are becoming a part of. It runs much deeper than that!
You've been so humble and not judgemental or uppity. All of the other CZcamsr women have been annoying. THANK YOU
Moment of honesty with you lol I just so happened to see this before going into a meeting that I was kind of nervous for & this message took those nerves away for some reason, so thank YOU! Your kind words were on time 💚
Number 2 chile yess. Our Grad Ad told us "you will have sorors and you will have sorrys" and that bit of advice has been the most helpful when meeting new sorors lol
+KeetiWeTV she better say that! If that ain't the truth 👏🏾
Yes more greek videos please. My summer is going to be packed with more research and saving money just in case I do get in.
YAS for being proactive! 💚
What did u decide?
Yes please do more Greek videos
I like how honest you are and you get to the point
Love, love, LOVE your video!!! You're one if the most down to earth AKAs ever
Thank you so much!!!
Your videos are very insightful for a people interested in joining an org. Everything you said Im learning now 7 months in. Its about what you bring to an org, everyone is your soror not your "sister", and the physical and financial commitment. Its a little stressful but I love AKA.
Awww happy AKAversary!! One of my friends just crossed! Great info! I've always been interested but I'm an old stank senior now girl so I feel like I def missed the train on that. It looks like so much fun and I love how connected and philanthropic sororities are.
The whole Greek life is so interesting. I do like your Greek videos because you keep it real and you're not false flagging lmao.
Shade Antonia I think the mis conception is that this is okay, unknowingly dealing with "ancient spirits" and free masonary. Yes there are christians involved. ..... because some 1, has convinced them its okay. Jesus refers to this as the blind leading the blind. I just so happen to be a man. and seeing so many men fall into the same mind state of followers in local communites, drugs. robbing. etc just because some 1 convinced them it is okay. now what you're doing is not illegal. in the eyes of the law. but it is immoral in terms of the house of the "" Lord. getting ppl. to join a secret society is not soul winning "" for the Lord. Jesus. the deciever always. .... makes ppl, think something is okay when its not. aka Lucifer. ancient wisdom and free masonary linages are " Satanic. the same way he has convinced ppl same sex marriage is okay. and lots of other things. 1 reason the world is falling apart.
Great video. I think you gave very good advise about Greek life and what prospective members should take into consideration before and after pledging.
#2 just cleared EVERYTHING up for me! im glade i clicked this video.. thank you sis 💙
I totally agree! I am so glad that ur so down to earth!
Yass! Thanks for sharing all this important Greek info! Really enjoyed
+iheart Cocodior no problem hun! Thanks for watching.
+Shea Miller you're so welcome 😊
I loved the honesty in this video Soror! Great advice ✨
Your video has been the best and most honest. Thank you!
Your makeup is awesome, so crisp and not too much piled on. It looks really natural
Thank you 💚
One of the most down to earth AKAs
I love this video and your make up too! Multi-tasking!
This is going to be a really good video for the GDIs whether they want to join your organization, mine, or another. No one like a letter wearer! And you definitely get out of the organization, what you put in.
Right! I'm pulling you in for one soon so getttt ready!
Do you mind telling me what a GDI is ?
Jalen Helaire Lol GDI=Us it means God damn individual
So proud of you my sister!!
+Darius Dillard thanks bro 😍😘
You have a great personality and very intelligent Good luck in Law school. You have inspired me in many different ways.
Thank you so much 💚
I’m a little late😂now, it’s happy 7th AKAversary!!! 🎉🎊 Congratulations and thank you for a great video. It was very informative.
Thank youuuu!! 💚💚
Thank you! ❤ This was extremely helpful... time for more research
You are very pretty and your skin is heaven sent!!!
QU4D Klub! Congratulations Soror!
Hey klub! Thanks Soror! 💕💚
All of this information is so helpful! I just crossed this semester :)
Congratulationssss! Welcome to the Greek world!
Thank you soror! 💕💚
After going to an informational and expressing formal interest what should my next steps be? Thanks
Your make-up is GORGEOUS!
+Chelsea Mills thank you! 💚
Hi Shea. I love your point about the dues after you join. That is something no one talks about. Could you make a video about that?
Hey Kristopher! Will do 💚
Your makeup is on point!
I hate how you can't ask questions before you join. 😕 What if I find out something but now it's too late I'm already a member.
+De'Shawn Sears you can. It's all about asking the right question though.
Happy AKAversary Soror!
+Kiki Jasmine thank you Soror!
Love love love! 💓
+Melanin.Maris thank you! 💚
Happy 4 years QUAD! I'll be 16 next week LOL!
GOALS AF. You're at your sweet 16, aweeeee!
ASMITHEDTECH goals for real. I'll be 4 in 2 weeks too.
Thank you for this video!
Can you join a sorority without living on campus, I have a daughter but I’m going to a 4 year university this fall
Another 4 here! 💕💚 Fall ‘98 ! Skee Wee!
Your videos are so helpful I've only seen sigmas on my campus in the last 4 years so it's very hard to ask and to come by sorority members . Most of the line are dead so I'm hoping in grad school I can get more insight
I've lowkey been binging your videos.. Greek stuff is so interesting! I don't think I would join one rn, but I definitely love learning about them from actual people. Tbh, i kinda get nervous though because I have so many questions that aren't invasive, but like very elementary I guess. Idunno. Like for example, how does being in your particular sorority impact you mentally and does it make interactions with other sororities awkward?
Yes lashes!!!!!
IKR these lashes gave me my entire lifeeee!
Shea this was great! Qu4d love!! Almost everything you said are things I've said at meetings and told the girls that came. Our chapter is small so you have to be ready to work! People see us in the halls and think we're cute in our attire but don't know how hard we work. I can say my neos were ready and worked hard! Thank you for your honesty, glad you shared this! I was like you, SGA, orientation, Pre-Law, Working in admissions and AKA + my family. We put in work and you come from a lineage of workers ☺️ #OGlove
Thank you Soror! I feel like I unknowingly followed in your footsteps with a lot of the things that I did lol. We work HARD!
Say it Shea! Please
Please please be humble in this lifetime! In all aspects, even outside of greek. I feel like it starts there...
hey congrats! plus ur so pretty....love the make up😍💖💋❤💜💚💗
+Kristin Koyon thanks girlie! 💚
Loved the video. Love your makeup.
Thank you!
birthday twinssss
Ayeeee, what up bday twin?
hello shea my name is chalsey .. i planned on joining aka in December but i attend a community college ive been doing my research and notice in the membership undergraduates has to attend an 4 year university.. can you give me more details on the MIP
Good afternoon,Shea let me first start off by saying I am not a member of any D9 Org but I have a whole bunch of friends that are and I've been around the Greek culture for quite a while. I've watched a few of your videos and I have to say I really like what you're saying. If possible could you make a video on how Greek life has change kind of a old school to new school video. I think it would be good for this generation to know the difference. You seem like you know your history on Greek life so I really would like to hear your views. Also I would like to know your thought on the burning sands movie as well. By the way congratulations on your AKAversary I hope it was a good one.
Make up is BOMB!!! 💕😁
Question: how often do you get stopped by prospects wanting to learn more about your sorority?
+BellaGlam TV thank you! And pretty often since I work in a university lol. Usually people will try to casually mention their interest but some are bolder than others.
Great job Soror!
How do you find out about the official interest meeting? Because at my university I don’t ever see any flyers etc given out with info about the informational meeting.
+Annie Love I worked on campus along with someone who ended up being my LS. We were at the counter & she just got up and ran to the board .. I was like tf wrong with you? Lmao she took the flyer down & made a copy & that’s how we knew. They disappeared hella quick tho because people do stuff like that. Take it & keep it .. so you gotta always just be on the lookout!
You have some beautiful skin! My beautiful sister!
Hi, i have one question . I was reading on the organization that i'm interested in website and it said that information about when to submit your application would be posted around the campus and you touched on that, can you tell me how i would go about on finding out when the organization would be getting ready for the upcoming intake process ?
Every campus is different so you may have to literally hawk out to find it. With mine I only stumbled across it when my coworker (who ended up being my LS) spotted it during our work shift lol. It was crazy. By going to the "week" events (ex. my sorority usually does Skee-week) .. you'll probably find the most helpful info.
+Shea Miller okay thank you, i'll be on the look out
Love It! Great vid Soror!!
+Ciarra Henderson thank you Soror! 💚
Did you get hazed?
how do you find out when rush week is or when is the proper time to submit your application. also would it be weird to randomly make small talk with one of the members if you're in their presence but have never spoken to them before? I am having a hard time finding out the first steps in being acknowledged.
+Franky J bulletin boards! It'll always be posted. Now some campuses are more "strategic" with placement (i.e. Only put 3 flyers up, only put them up for a certain amount of time) but you just always have to be on the look out. The app submission may differ through orgs. With most it should be submission only allowed at the official rush event. And small talk wouldn't necessarily be weird unless you make it weird. It's usually not what you say but how you say it that makes a situation uncomfortable.
Thank you sooo much. You're a doll!
Hey Shea so I am transferring to a Hbcu and wanted to know if you think it would be too overwhelming to look into a sorority my first year.
+Coolkid Laya no, I don't think it would be too overwhelming at all! Timing is really up to you...you kind of have to have an idea of what works best for you. If you can jump right in to it, awesome. If you're the type to have to observe first, maybe not.
So I know the main thing most Greeks say to someone interested in joining an organization is to do your research but how much should someone know? I know of course the founders day and probably where the organization was founded but should we know the founders names and things like that? Basically my question is can you know to much about an organization before you're even given the opportunity to join the sorority or fraternity?
Nia Hines You should know all of the founders. There is no such thing as knowing too much. The more you know the better.
In my personal opinion, anything you can find on the national website/wiki is fair game. These are things you'll be required to know and remember for the rest of your life anyway if you become a member.
Hey can you do a make up tutorial step by step?
I have a question: how long after rush does it take to get your letter of acceptance/denial???
+Beauty By Syddd I think this may differ across orgs but I want to say it should be a 7-10 day turnaround. I don't know if all orgs send official denial letters though 🤔
I have 2 questions. This one is for me. Would the organization have a problem if you work at a job that have their colors during the interest to actual process of getting accepted? This one is for a family member who is scared right now. What to do if you were completely blind, meaning: wasn't exposed to the D9 organizations in high school, had transferred from a community college and didn't know that they weren't suppose to walk in to an interest meeting (didn't know there was any research involved)?
Just using this as an example, if you were interested in DST and worked at Target .. I would simply suggest that you never wear your Target uniform to a DST event. By doing that, you're separating the two and if someone just so happens to roll up on you at work ... you're at WORK to earn money. It shouldn't be that heavy but some Greeks are pettier than others. I would understand.
I'm confused on what the problem was with your cousin walking in to an interest meeting? I take it they're interested in the org now, but how could you walk in to a whole meeting unaware of what was going on? Lol but what happened to make them scared? Got called on and didn't know info? The best thing I could suggest would be to first, toughen up a little. These people are PEOPLE. Don't be afraid because tbh, I wouldn't want to join something I was scared of. Second, brush up on that history and go to the next event more confident than the first time. This would show the members of that org that you're now serious and more prepared than before.
Ok this helps. Thank you. And for my cousin yes she was not aware of the do's and don'ts just a fresh mind that wasn't told what to do before hand.
Joining a sorority definitely seems like a lot of work
I have a few questions!
1) If I pull a current member to the side what should I tell them? I know I'm supposed to be discreet so how do I tell them I'm interested without telling them?
2)If I ask a current member for their phone number will they know whats "up"?
3) If I do get their phone number I don't want to annoy them. When I text them should I ask them about their day, etc.
+PrincessDes I wouldn't recommend directly saying "I'm interested" but maybe you can be like "can you tell me more about what you all do" .. as far as particular topics that may interest you. Just kinda show interest deeper than just joining. If you ask for their number randomly, they'll likely catch the hint lol so that's risky business. They may not respond. I personally was that type when I was undergrad, kinda skeptical of why you want my number now...so I didn't give it out and hated for people to give my number out. But since you know someone that's a member, maybe you can ask her? She'd be the safest bet lol I can imagine how intimidating that was!
Queen As my Soror said,you can show your interest by attending events . Personally, I would not ask anyone for their phone number. I know I wouldnt give mines out to a stranger💕💚
Yes Club!
+Nolye4AKA 💚 haaaay quad/Soror! Thanks for watching!
absolutely gorgeous Fellow youtuber support, gotta support one another on our journey here.
love your video I have a question I am going to a community college and will be transfer to a university soon do I wait to pledge a sorority or should I try to pledge right away
Thank you. Some sororities you'll have to wait a semester to get grades at that institution under your belt but, it's up to you. I don't want to say wait .. but I don't want to encourage you to jump in to anything either. Only you can really determine when you're ready.
Shea Miller thank you for the advice I am really looking forward to joining a particular sorority I like and no I did not Tell anyone that I will keep to myself lol but I really love Greek life my uncle is a Kappa so I grew up with that in my life nothing but good things I can say about my experience with my uncle being a Greek I will keep you posted your my fairy Greek godmother lol
Lol yas discretion! Greek life is great .. if you join the culture for the right reasons. Good luck hun.
Now, I Know That This Is A Sensitive Topic But I Know A Lot Of Women And Men Who Are In Organizations Have The Questions About Hazing. Which Hazing Is Hardly Discussed But What About Hazing ? Does Hazing Really Go On.
Nia Imani . Exactly
Yes hazing goes on , many people have died ..men and women ... some mental some physical abuse just do research
how old is too old to join greek life....Im 28 and in my senior year and Im just wondering is it too late for me???
To join undergrad you can join however long you’re a student . After graduation you look into joining your local graduate chapter. Age doesn’t matter. There are people 70 yrs who just joined.
You're so pretty without makeup.
+Rayelle Kay thank you! 💚
Happy AKAversary again soror! Enjoy. You are so right about the pettiness in sororities and not having to be friends with everyone. Love your videos. Btw what region are you in?
Thanks Soror! I'm South Central/Texas to be specific. You?
Shea Miller North Atlantic/New Jersey. Y'all had your conference yet ?
Yeah it was in March I believe. I didn't go, but I am planning to do Leadership this year!
In vegas right? Our president is going. Ours is next weekend. I was curious to see the bag. But hope you enjoyed your day
Yes in Vegas. I hope you're vlogging that! I did. Thanks again girlie!
I feel like asking someone about joint Greek life is so taboo and that really is discouraging...I have a millions questions in my head but can’t even begin to word correctly or ask the correct things!
+Amirah Morreale take ya time guh. It’s not necessarily taboo .. just practice discretion. It’s all about finding the right person to ask the right questions to.
Happy Akaversery beautiful I enjoyed your video!! Newly subbed , question: how do you document your Community service hrs ,per asked for them ?
+Safara Ashanti thank you! 💚 with my community service (for the app) I gave it to my staff advisors for the orgs I did community service in to let them give me an official number. Just in general, my school also had a system where we could keep track of the info.
Hey if I have certain questions that I would like to ask, is it ok if I send an email?
+Keila Bazile yes ma'am!
What camera are you using?
Sony a5000
Do you have to be invited in by a current member?
+Brittney Mkhwanazi not “invited” since we don’t actively “recruit” .. the invitation is pretty much the rush flyer. Some people may know members who may tell them but to my knowledge, no.
Don’t ask! Randomly stumbled upon your video. Rather informative! Suggestion. Rhetorically speaking! How many hours a month would be the expectation for your service activities? How many ladies were on your line? Is your line really close? How often do you speak to them? How long did it take you to decide on your organization? Did you have Greeks in your family before going through the membership process?
Just a suggestion. This might help a young lady join your wonderful organization! Thanks for your service!
So glad you explain more about the organization so much for my researching
Lakeithia Collier we have the same name. lol
Lakeithia Sakin awww we sure do!!!!
gorgeous hun!
What camera are you using
Sony a5000
Girl I can't talk and do my eyebrows on camera either lol!
Should you trust/get to know just one person in the org or multiple people when showing interest. I heard you can't tell everyone your interested even if they are in in org because not everyone has an position.
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Do you have to wear makeup while you're in a sorority?
Joy Wallace No you dont have to wear make up if you dont want to 😂
eyebrow pencil name?
+That Charming Belle Benefit precisely, my brow eyebrow pencil
You look like my ADP soooo much!
hey...why were you thrown into so many roles your first year as an AKA? 😨 I’m interested in become apart of the divine nine and want to be an active member but I have other task. Would i have enough time to be in a sorority and have an internship, take 15 credits, etc?
Grades! People don’t stress the importance of keeping your grades up enough & you have to have to have a certain GPA (may vary chapter to chapter) to be eligible to hold a position. You can have time for whatever you make time for. It’s many ways to contribute to your org if you can’t find time to always be there physically.
We have the same birthday and I've felt like 4 been my number since birth too😂🤘🏾
+Shania Lindsey ayeee, bday twin! Lol.
Girl, face is BEAT!!! 😍
+Elisha Sample thanks gal!
Your make up look natural but u don't need that much...a lil gloss...concealor shadow liner is just enough...don't mess up your skin...u don't need all that
Can you make friends with other members of a different sorority or is it frowned upon
+MissKay Washington girlll you can be friends with whoever you want to be friends with!
How do you become the dean of your chapter?
+JxcT chXll its voted upon by your chapter.
I'm learning a lot of stuff from you! A shirt wearer huh??? Those exist?
Girl, DO THEY?! Lmao.
Did you have issues with someone in your family when you decided to be a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.?
Nope! At that time I had an uncle & cousin that are Sigmas, a cousin that’s an AKA and a cousin that’s a Zeta .. they didn’t care lol they ain’t pay my dues either so 🤷🏾♀️ my family isn’t really Greek org involved.
Shea Miller my dad(Sigma) offered to pay if I pledge. When I told what grad chapter I chose he took back his offer. He wants me to go Zeta under his wife, but that's never been in my heart to do.
If it’s not in your heart, don’t do it. I have a friend that literally told me the same thing yesterday but a different org. Her mom wants her to be a legacy. But i understand where he’s coming from .. he wants you to be Blue Fam .. he may come around.
Shea Miller thank you... love your channel
vsuleelee804 Do what is right for YOU. My Soror has an Older Sister who is DST and they still get along😂💕💚
i wana be from aka ☝🏽
What do you mean dangerous?
Not really sure which part you're referencing to answer lol.
First if all why can't you ask questions before you join a sorority? How can I make an informed decision without any real information? I am questioning the whole process and if I feel safe or comfortable doing so if everything is so hush. I think it's an unfair practice to not talk openly about the sorority but other things about it is fair game and all over social media......just saying seems like total BS
Who said you can’t ask questions?
I never joined an organization because I was trying to finish early. Now I have two freshmen entering college whom I hope pledge but this all seems to ridiculous. They are great kids and hard workers but begging for interest and not even being able to ask questions, geesh. My people, my people 🙄
Candace Harris You can ask questions but be mindful of the relationship you have with the person you are asking. You wouldnt ask a person interviewing you for a job the same things you would ask your bestie😁.
Sorry I cant get over how good your hair looks lmao let me pay attention
BLACK GIRLS, ?????????????
YOUR NOT GREEK
1) It’s “you’re” as in “you are” .. not your.
2) It’s called a Black GREEK LETTERED Organization. As in, the letters are Greek. I never said I was “Greek”.
Anything else? If not, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
Ok you got me on my grammar, but the point is you are not greek. You have no idea what your worshipping. Repent and return to TMH. MY PPL ARE DESTROYED FOR A LACK OF KNOWLEDGE. MY SPIRIT JUST WANTED ME TO TELL YOU THIS. GOD BLESS !
And you clearly have no idea what or who I’m worshiping, because it’s not a Greek God. So I can’t relate to whatever you’re talking about & that energy should be targeted somewhere else. Maybe you’ve seen someone “denouncing” mention that but that’s a battle within them. I would never be in an organization that stands for something like that. Not ONE member in my organization in the almost 6 years I’ve been a member has ever tried to teach me to worship anyone or anything BUT God. So, no. That doesn’t apply to me.
God bless YOU and enjoy your day.
@@SheaMiller YES YOU ARE SEDUCED UNKNOWNINGLY. DIDNT YOU DO NASTY SHIT TO GET IN ?
Why are you typing in all caps & cursing? You’re far too invested in something you CLEARLY know nothing about. Apply this energy to something positive.