Craig Malcom Bright or lighter colored clothes act as a highlight against dark skin. It brings the dark skin out. Dark against dark? Ah! Boring. It's also nice when some "bling" is added to it. ex. Nice watch, necklace, earrings. A smile with nice white teeth against a dark face is also beautiful sight.
This is the truth. Colorism exist and is promoted in the music industry with lyrics from males discarding darker girls for "light skin ting", it's disgusting.
The darkest person I ever ever saw, was an African man, and believe me, this man looked regal - he was black and proud and if you saw him walk, you would know what I mean. He was a contrast,- he wore all white, but was as black as ebony. He looked really nice.
Talking about him is one thing, but to actually see him is another. This man was a confident man, who felt comfortable in his skin, and any observer could tell immediately. he was extremely tall, extremely dark, but wore white - as if to say "Look at me - don't you wish you could look like me?"
I'm 36 years old and still can't seem to wrap my head around the concept of mistreating someone because of dark skin. Dark skin is so beautiful...especially with the contrast between the skin and make-up/clothing when bright colors are worn. The only thing I can conclude is that for those who discriminate against dark skin people (or black ppl) are very insecure and feel intimidated by the superior traits/genetics/DNA of melanin...it's just pure jealousy and insecurity. Anyway, I digress lol.
I think u are sooo beautiful! I love being dark and I looovee when I go to hot places and get darker! wearing bright colors, rubbing on Shea butter , and having all the light ppl stare in awe at my glistening skin while they run from the sun and slather on sunscreen lol!
I swear I always feel like I'm the only one who loves going out in the sun to get darker during the summer time! 😂 glad there are others out there who feel the same lol
Believe me you're ot the only one, I'm lighter than her but for some reason I think everything looks better when your shin is darker, make-up, clothing, hairstyles, I love when my skin gets darker, I love when people think I went tanning on vacation. I know that's crazy 😀.
Hi Tabitha, My family is from north Uganda and so my skin is very dark and I've grown up in South London. Since year 7 I've literally experienced what you have. Just everyday comments like: "blick", "burnt" "blaaaaccckkk", and like you I just never knew when they were gonna strike, maybe on the bus, in the hallway, in class, in a shop, at the bus stop, crossing the road. I had this constant paranoia when I was outside of the house, I was anxious and scared every day. One of my first experiences of it in year 7 was at the beginning of the school year, I was lost and couldn't find the maths block, when I got close to the classroom there were a pack of these black year 11 girls and they didn't say anything they just stared until I had walked past then one shouts "YA BLICK!" *and the corridor filled with their roars of laughter. When I got to maths I couldn't even read what was on the board or hear what the teacher was saying my eyes were just completely full of tears. I have a million stories from my teen years, and I honestly struggled, to get out of bed, to speak, to stop shaking, to look people in the eyes, I don't think people realise that their one comment is like 1/5 comments I'm gonna receive that day that might just push me off the edge, I'd have days where I honestly thought 'okay, when I get home today I'm just gonna kill myself'. I'd spend all my weekly lunch money on skin lightening products that didn't work, some even peeled my skin off. I'm in a better place now, final year of a predominantly white university, but I haven't entirely healed, I suppose something I really needed to hear was the story of someone else who can empathise and for that I thank you, I think this video helps other girls and boys who are struggling. I think you're really brave and beautiful, keep spreading your positivity
Wow this story is powerful and I can completely understand. Trust me, healing takes time. I am still healing to this day. You know what I've realised, all that bullying actually helped me. I have to share another part of my story really soon. Stay strong and keep believing for a total recovery :)
You are gorgeous. I too am the darkest of 4 other sisters coming up in the 60's, 70's and 80's. My cousins would call me black sambo, big lips, cat eyes, etc. Guess what? I'm in my 50's and I look better and YOUNGER than all of them today. Now they look at me and tell me how beautiful I am. Lol. Strut like a peacock, your melanin is like having beautiful colors in your feathers. :)
It was always baffling for me growing up because the black people in my class were the ones who had an issue with the shade of black I am. Every other race in the class could care less, now that I'm matured, I feel bad for them for their self hate and realize it had nothing to do with me at all. I hope they eventually grew out that stupid mentality although I doubt it. Great video !
That blick word is pathetic and people have called me that disgusting made up word so many times while i was growing up. I can totally relate to your pain and everything you have experienced as a dark skinned woman. People have shouted at me in the streets too and laughed in my face!! My tone is the same as yours, it just looks a little lighter because of the flash. Oh my i totally relate about the "light skin pride" that is so pathetic. People love to compare. Girl you are sooo beautiful. I am sorry you had to experience that amount of hate and racial abuse you have experienced. When you were telling your story it reminded me of my experiences. You seem so kind. You gave that somalian boy a hug. How wonderful. i have heard a lot of black people say they do not like to sit in the sun too and call each other "blick". A lot of black people need to learn to rephrase things accordingly. Also,that girl you approached in Primark was delusional and you caught her out. If anything, we dark skinned people look amazing with bright colours lmao. I wear them all the time! You have sunkissed skin and wonderfully unique features. Loved the story and I am so glad that you are allowing yourself to continue to shine. All those experiences made you stronger like it made me. 💕
Tabitha, i must say i am intrigued by your personal life story, and truth be told comeing from a Somalian, i tell you in regards to that Somalian boy you huged, the thing is he just like many african boys from different parts of africa are forcefeed from early to like lightskinned girls and even at times worship lightskin girls, even if them Somalians are so-called blick themselves the Somalian boys, but Somalian girls in the diaspora are acctualy lightskinned and mixed heritage for the most part and more priviliged then the Darkskinned majority in their own country the under-privileged Darkskin majority, so remember there are 3 types of Somalians, the Oldest of them beeing the Blick a.k.a Black skinned ones, then the 2nd oldest(the current majority) the dark-brown chocolate toned, and then the NEW somalians = the lightskinend high yellow-skin tone ones, obviously its the same Epidemic with all african tribes worldwide including in Africa and the Diasporan african communities.... im 1 skin shade or to Darker than you, as im considered the Proto-type of my tribe the So'mali.... so you to shouldnt judge all because of a few brainwashed ones that are brainwashed to worship whitness or lightness... anyways remember the Darker the Skin the Deeper The Root's like Tupac used to say, the Blacker the berry the sweeter the juice... so dont take it bad, my younger cousins also call me black, even if they're just 1 or 2 shades lighter than me.... anyways sister Tabitha, from Uganda Acholi tribe sister, remember What doesent kill you, only makes you stringer, so start believing that... Stay Steadfast sister...... Patience is a virtue
It seems like that somali boy wasn't the first. They need to be educated because a somali boy did the same to me. Those yellow skin toned ones are usually mixed anyways and even then they never mock others who are darker. I do not understand the basic below average logic that some Africans have.
yeh i agree , the logic in africans, unfortunately most african s is a secretly self hateing epidemic, and yess offcourse all people who are africans that are lightskinned yellowishare obviously mixed and not properly from the tribe they claim to be part of, weather they be Swahili, nigerian, Somali, Acholi ugandan, Sodanese, and ethiopian and south african yellowbones, and ect ect, basically the Darkskinned majoity that are under-privileged to leave their homeland back in africa are beeing overlooked, and demonized and hidden from mainstream... but Truth shall allways prevail, with educated minds, like yours and mine, my sister... anyway, Peace and love from a so-called Blick Somalian.... Blessings
Thanks for your humble words sister, its just that unfortunately the half-blooded mixed ones amongst our tribes, get the say more than the fullblooded ones such as myself and others, meaning they unfortunately stand out, so we should ignore them and focus on likewise kind and truthful hearts such as mine and yours and this sister Tabitha on the video... meaning Great minds think Alike, so remember dont let the minority mixed breeds of our tribes, make you generalise and judge, just because they're confused.com... so we as the smart ones of our tribes should stick togheter and have our voices and opinions, heard, rather than vice=versa, Anyway, its a plessure to have communicated with a innteligent sister such as urself.... i just tought that id let you know that these mixed breeds gives all of us a bad name as Darkskinned Africans, because of their envious confused.com attitudes towards Darkskinned Africans a.k.a Full-blooded Africans... well anyway Peace and Love sister Abei ...
The complex you described is called Hyper-vigilance...That feeling where you're always watchful, always waiting, looking for the next insult or attack.
You are literally gorgeous. Don't Ever let anyone tell you any differently. It's so sad that dark skinned women have this burden that no one else in the world has to bare. Thier beauty and womanhood are questioned and given less value simply because the color they are BORN with. You go girl. You are beautiful inside and out.
Thank you for telling your story, Tabitha. It's terrible how black people hurt each other. And, yes, from my experience black males shoot colorist insults towards black woman all the time.
I'm happy to share as much as I can. Thanks for appreciating it! Some black males need to take a look deep inside and reconsider that hate...... Forgiveness is there waiting
I think we as a people need to spend time teaching our children how to value themselves, skin colour, hair texture & heritage. I have had a few issues in London. But for the most part, I have not had too much of an issue. In my 32 years of life I have prob had about 4 issues. My mum is very dark, I am only slightly lighter than her. But I was taught from a very young age to value myself. I have never ever had a white doll or barbie. Any issues I have had I nipped them in a bud. I will be damned if anyone is going to talk to me with disrespect. Teach your kids to be strong, teach them to fight back against stereo types even within their own community. My niece is 9 and has small pencil sized locs (she wanted to be like her grandma!) and they TRIED to tease her at school. She quickly put the bullies in their place.
Thank you for sharing your story Tabitha! Being a dark skinned girl myself, I feel that we share many the experiences relating to colorism in the black community. I certainly did not feel as beautiful as my lighter skinned friends/family members while growing up because beauty was matched with how light your skin was. It is sad when a child does not see people who look like them considered beautiful and powerful... But I truly believe that times are changing as we see more exposure of dark and beautiful women on the screen and even on CZcams! I came across your page because I thought you were beautiful and powerful in how you express yourself. You make me very proud and I just want to say Dark is lovely!! Keep it up my sister ;p
hun I don't always get some blk men either.for example..when other races walk past a group of them they say nothing.but when a blk girl walks past them its a lot of comments often negative.I often wonder why can't they just shut up.its like a target is on a black woman's back...anyway god made us all different.just know your not alone...keep the positivity
It's very confusing. One thing we cannot do is take it to heart and let it affect us. The problem is on them. The solution is to go where you are celebrated! God certainly did make us all different! That is the beauty of his creativity!
Tabitha you have one of the sweetest spirits I’ve ever seen in a person. It hurts to hear how cruel people can be because of a person’s skin color. I think you’re beautiful inside and out. I can tell your family raised you well. May God continue to bless you and keep you strong as you are. Do you my sister!
First of all you are stunning!!! Colonialism and their introduction of white supremacy has done a number on people all over the world. Wherever a country was colonized by Europeans, you will find colorism, be it India, China, Africa etc. White skin was established as the superior standard and the further your skin was from this standard, meant you were less than. People from these countries began to internalize this and turn on each other. I always explain this to people when it comes up. It is actually their internalized inferiority complex, born from forced white supremacy, that makes them dislike dark skin. When I was growing up in London, I didn't really experience this. I guess because at that time (80's and early 90's) there was much less variations in shade? I remember there being far more darker skinned people, than there were lighter shades. At that time, racial abuse came from whites. I found my mixed raced friends experienced much more racism than darker skinned people did, which was also wrong. It's so refreshing when I hear someone who feels like me. I do not resent my dark skin. I actually love and cherish it as special. I do feel sad that colonialism has left such a mark that we feel the need to turn on each other in order to feel better about ourselves. Thanks for sharing. I will definitely check out some of your other videos. xx
When kids act different to people of color esp. darker-skinned people, it's definitely IGNORANCE .. Now, whether it's negative or positive depends on what they've been taught or heard. Some are curious ..and many are colonially-raped.. Sadly this behavior is predominantly practiced among Black people and Black communities. When we teach our lil black girls from the get-go , they get that great sense of pride and confidence " in their skin" no matter " complexion high Or complexion low, or in between Beautiful African. Great vlog😊 ✋✋✋✋✋✋ About bright clothes. I always encourage My dark skinned boys to accentuate their beautiful melanin with vibrant colored clothes, because any negativity from me as a parent will be one of their greatest roadblock as Black men in this society .
Yes, she nailed for me when she said, i dont have a problem being dark skinned but why do others want to make me feel bad because i have dark skin...hey if you dont like me dark skin just keep it moving and keep your comments to yourself.
@Charlie Charlie colorism is a lot more than just being someones 'preference' and being a dark skinned women comes with more problems than not being someone's 'preference.' Would you describe the behavior of the people who bullied her in the video as acting on a 'preference', or treating her badly bc the think their is something bad abt her darskin? Did people call her blick just Bc she wasnt their preference or bc they think its something wrong with having dark skin? You hear the way rappers degrade darkskinned women, that's not preference... They could just say they like light skinned girls and end it there if it's just 'preference.' why feel the need to bring darkskinned girls into it and talk abt how awful and not good enough they all are unless they actually believe it *gasp. Thats colorism. across cultures darker skinned people are treated worse and are seen as inferior and lighter skinned people are uplifted and seen as superior. Thats not preference, its colorism. Its in judicial system, education system, media, the cause of bullying and skin bleaching, there are even cases of families who treat the lighter children better than the dark ones, but I guess its just 'preference' and because they 'prefer' one child over the other.
@Charlie Charlie There was a story of a girl who literally got denied a job bc the manager said she was too dark... I dont understand how some of y'all aren't getting this.
@Charlie Charlie haha haha, it has happened repeatedly. Also u didnt answer my questions but ok. What abt the casting calls in the 1960s that specially called for lighterskinned women to play black roles? I even saw one from back then that said to cast lighter skinned women for the roles of pretty black women and dark skinned women for the roles of maids. I even watched a youtube video today that showed the casting for straight outta compton that SPECIFICALLY called for light-skinned and biracial women to play the roles of "fine girls" and darkskinned women as "poor girls." And if its "so hard" for lightskinned and biracial women to get roles, how come theyre the only ones cast to play the majority of black women now?
@Charlie Charlie and colorism affects all communities of color... If what you described in your second message isnt colorism, then i have no need to continue this discussion...
@Charlie Charlie who decides what better men are? Everything you said in your second message isnt even factual. You just described ideal men and women based off of what you think
I'm guessing you catch a lot of people staring at you when they think you aren't watching? Good old periferal vision right? I want you to know that as a white male I would probably stare as well because I wouldn't be able to help it.You are a striking vision. You really should feel pride in your image because not many people are blessed from birth with such eye catching beauty.
Lol! Thank you! What a compliment. Peripheral vision catches those stares sometimes, so it's good to know sometimes they are with the best intentions :) Have a lovely day!
u have the most smooth, healthy, melanin rich complexion. It's gorgeous. Beyond that though u have a wonderful spirit & delicate personality that makes u beautiful inside & out. I salute u. Stay great. Blessings. 🙏
Thank you. It really is a big peak, never having spoken about it to you before 😊 But hey, sharing a personal story will always resonate with someone, so it's worth while!
The light skin pride thing- yesssss! The only time I became self conscious about my dark skin tone was when I started hanging around a group of 5 dark skinned individuals at university. Prior to my new friendship group- it was never ever a thing :/ I was ranked the 3rd darkest in the group, lmaoo how silly
Because the world around them does it - and most ppl are S H E E P. I was so shocked in Vietnam when ppl would hide themselves from the faintest bit of sun because they preferred to be deathly white than a golden colour. It highlighted to me that it's not about colour per se (because who would prefer deathly white over golden) - it's about STATUS.
Thank you so much for this video I’ve been experiencing racism and colourism in school it is so hard being in secondary school and being a girl of a darker skin tone. Thanks for inspiring me 💋
You are beautiful! when I was young I was called ugly names too, which wasn't my truth. Yes, I am dark (black) skinned but I am a human and human comes in all shades. What count is what is on the inside the (heart) seat of motivation. What I call and except about myself is I am a Beautiful human being created by the Almighty God Jehovah. That is my truth!!
i needed this! thank you tabitha. biggest message is be happy being you and understand that peoples problem with you is THEIR problem. this has even helped me to see that my own negative comments about others are non constructive and mean
I dealt with it outside and inside the black community. when I went to college, I had a fellow student walking in the cafeteria with friends say " God, she is a gorgeous dark skin black girl. She is so pretty". That was the first time I had ever been called pretty. I had been ignored by males so long, I smiled and said thank you and let it pass.
Your beautiful! I was racially abused in school growing up in London as well, even though I am not black, I am Pakistani. You got abused for your thin eyebrows but I got abused because I had thick eyebrows (which is on trend now) *sigh* and I remember the gel pens, I collected so many and someone stole them.
Hey Lovely! Sorry to hear that you were bullied. It's never something anybody likes. So interesting how trends have changed & what you were once made fun of for is now in style - big time! I hope you were able to get through those tough times! We've got to use them to make us stronger 💪
I'm so sorry you had to endure such fears and injustice. You are beautiful and it sounds like you have gained strength in your adulthood from all the pain in your past. You also have a great personality and are very smart.💝☺Go Girl!!
As a dark skin girl I can TOTALLY relate. It's so sad people make you feel bad and less of a person just because an amount of pigmentation. What is even more disturbin is when black people say ignorant shit to OTHER black people. Like what the fuck??? That's that slave mentality, smh. It breaks my heart that it's 2016 and we're still stuck on stuff like these. But please NEVER forget: You are beautiful and don't ever let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Your beauty is not defined by your skin colour. Flex that melanin, sista. God bless.
+Tabitha Laker thank you Tabitha. What I also find quite frustratin is that we as a society are so focused on being pretty, lookwise. I wished we would be pretty kind, pretty intelligent, pretty tolerant etc. Idk just random taughts :)
Tabitha, i must say i am intrigued by your personal life story, and truth be told comeing from a Somalian, i tell you in regards to that Somalian boy you huged, the thing is he just like many african boys from different parts of africa are forcefeed from early to like lightskinned girls and even at times worship lightskin girls, even if them Somalians are so-called blick themselves the Somalian boys, but Somalian girls in the diaspora are acctualy lightskinned and mixed heritage for the most part and more priviliged then the Darkskinned majority in their own country the under-privileged Darkskin majority, so remember there are 3 types of Somalians, the Oldest of them beeing the Blick a.k.a Black skinned ones, then the 2nd oldest(the current majority) the dark-brown chocolate toned, and then the NEW somalians = the lightskinend high yellow-skin tone ones, obviously its the same Epidemic with all african tribes worldwide including in Africa and the Diasporan african communities.... im 1 skin shade or to Darker than you, as im considered the Proto-type of my tribe the So'mali.... so you to shouldnt judge all because of a few brainwashed ones that are brainwashed to worship whitness or lightness... anyways remember the Darker the Skin the Deeper The Root's like Tupac used to say, the Blacker the berry the sweeter the juice... so dont take it bad, my younger cousins also call me black, even if they're just 1 or 2 shades lighter than me.... anyways sister Tabitha, from Uganda Acholi tribe sister, remember What doesent kill you, only makes you stringer, so start believing that... Stay Steadfast sister...... Patience is a virtue
Your skin is GORGEOUS!!! You're radiant dear. Colorism is real but it doesn't define you. Contrary to popular belief, melanin is a gift from God! It's not a curse. We just live in an backwards society to demean greatness, it's also very anti-black which I hate.
I was looking up pictures of people with dark skin because I love to paint and find those people quite beautiful. Then I had stumbled upon a link to this video. It surprised me at how you were treated, personally I would never even think of treating someone like that. I'm glad you shared and opened my eyes to perspectives I haven't gotten the change to see from. I'm friends with so many dark people! It surprised me how people said they didn't want to be out in the sun or they would get darker, personally I love the sun. In my painting I want to put the brightest colored clothes. It doesn't matter what you wear anyone should be able to express themselves if they want, you go girl! Your beautiful in every way and I wish you the best!! 💕
It happens, unfortunately. Thankfully, I've learnt a lot from it and moved on. Bright colours will definitely look great on dark skin. Good choice. Thanks for your stopping by and your encouragement. I wish you the best too 💕
... My Mother was a beautiful dark skinned woman and my Father was very fair skin man, but my parents never ever made any distinction between their children. We were loved and cherished, this reinforced values and pride in our lives. My Mother was so beautiful to me, she exhibited such class and her color was never a hinderance to her pursuits. That positive enforcement in my youth has defined me today!
I remember growing up, my sister derided my step mother and I for having dark skin, but neither of my parents ever rebuked her or punished her for making such foul remarks. I said one thing about her light skin, and I was yelled at. It taught me that it was ok to bash dark skinned persons, but light skin was a gem to be protected. So whenever my cousins made degrading statements, whenever my friends ridiculed dark skin, and whenever strangers degraded dark skin, I sat silently, accepting that as a dark skin person I am only worthy of insults and degradation, and any compliments were the result of pity. Now that I've educated myself, I now know that this thinking is the result colonization and white supremacy. Many Black ppl, and ppl from other racial groups have appropriated colorism, and I think it's time we reclaim our worth. We are not inherently inferior, and we do not and must not succumb to Eurocentric standards. We have to love our dark skin
You're beautiful! Not just trying to boost your ego as you seem very content in your skin (fabulous) but its the truth! You're elegantly gentle and charming! Thank you for the video!
You and I have the same skintone but I’m from the south of Georgia, USA and when you spoke about not being able to concentrate/being afraid to do anything in class because ppl would say something about your skin...I felt that too strongly. Then black kids making sure they made it known they were lighter than me so they wouldn’t get the bullying/teasing. I’m now 18 and social media now has taken place of the ignorant schoolmates of mine, but also shows positive representations of dark skin beauty which has helped me become solid in myself. I hate commenting years later but this video about dark skin experience has been the most realistic and relatable to mine.
Sorry you had to go through it too! Please just focus on you. Those people don't matter At ALL! It's great have become solid and confident in yourself now. And better late than never 😊
Yes. Dark people can wear bright colors if they want. Contrast is beautiful. All people should wear wherever color clothes they prefer. Bright colors do compliment beautifully especially when tanned or chocolate.
I absolutely envy your self confidence and how composed u are while telling your story (I wouldn't have been that calm and controlled)! The thing with the light-skin-pride is still a thing and u explained it perfectly! Beauty isn't measured by the color of ones skin!
I expressed all my anger in the past. Plus it's a topic that really makes me disgusted! So disappointing when people hate each other because of skin tone.
Tabitha, your video was inspiring and I appreciate your honesty. As a black woman, I know what you are talking about. I have personally witness it with some of my family and in the black community. Yes, colorism originated from white supremacist but blacks have owned it and given it LIFE for decades. When I meet blacks who think this way, I find them be extremely uneducated and concrete thinkers. They lack abstract thinking ability and are conformist. If I could come back tomorrow a different complexion, I would love yours or Lupita’s complexion. It is flawless!!! My mom helped me love my complexion and helped me evolve in my thought pattern despite the ignorance I was surrounded by. My mom is much lighter than me and people (almost always black) would often make comments about how beautiful her color is. She always complimented my complexion and taught me the beauty of the various hues of dark skin. I am sure people tell you this all the time, but you are very beautiful and your features are also beautiful!! I am glad that your intelligence, strength and beauty prevailed. Also, If you are somewhat drawn to white men because they did not berate you when you are younger, that is your prerogative.
So hard to believe someone as gorgeous as you had any reason to fear. I am so sorry that you went through any of this BS. You are incredibly beautiful.
TFS for sharing your story. I'm sorry that you had so many harrowing experiences growing up. the first time I saw your face on this channel I thought you were strikingly beautiful! I think you are beautiful and don't ever doubt that, continue to advocate, b/c I think society truly needs to understand that beauty come in all shades. continue to have conversations with ppl the way you did with the Somalian boy and the girl in the grocery store, so that they can understand that they need to control their words and stop perpetuating hate and hurt.
Thank you!I Will continue to advocate as much as possible, because it affects more than just insecurities concerning dark skin. Those conversations baffled me but I know they came from a place of confusion.
You are beautiful! Thanks for sharing your story and being transparent. Being a dark skinned male in America, I identify completely with what you went through. Thank God we aren't damaged because of others' abusive behaviors
Their comments stem from ignorance. I applaud your civil responses to the strangers who hurt your feelings. I think your reactions served a purpose to educate them and yourself. Thank you for sharing!
I am down in the south, Georgia, and that means that it was white people central and when white people in the south asked why I was so dark i said," first of all I'm in the south, second of all i am Indian and it is the summer, third of all my skin is beautiful, fourth of don't be an idiot." That was one of my proudest moments.
The gave the PERFECT answer!!!!! Why can't people work out some of these things for themselves? Thank you for loving yourself. It shows people how things are supposed to be :)
Beautiful message! There are 7 BILLION + people on this planet and we're all different. Some people are dark some are light some are thin some curvy some have straight hair some kinky etc. People need to get out of their little boxes and learn to appreciate and accept people and cultures, even if it's beyond what they're used to. I I love the fact that you took your experiences and used them in a positive manner. Thank you Tabitha #YouRock
Puh-leeeezz! Dark sinned people are probably the only ones who should wear bright colours, no colour can compete, overshadow or clash with dark skin, it's so intense...in a good way. New subscriber.
Girl I know how it feels I am Ugandan from lira in the UK and us dark skinned girls , I got it rough I cried I stared to question my parents but hey girl now people look at me and say that they live my skin tone and j am like thank you God finally 💕❤️ and now girl I rock my dark skin ✌🏿️
I have always hated this "light skin" vs "dark skin" stuff because it just pits black people against each other. We are just segregating each other. I am black with some spanish so I appare orangey but not "dark" so I haven't had people call me bad names for being too dark but I have had some people say that I'm "not black" but rather "orange" (???) but I remember when I was younger I was immensely jealous of biracial people. No matter what shade of black you are there is always pressure to be lighter, even for people who are biracial. Two bad experiences I've had were 1) when my younger sister was born. Because she had a different mother who was half Native American she could pass as biracial (like white x black) and a lot of my family members praised her for it which made me feel uncomfortable and 2) when my friend, who is black/indian kept insisting that I was darker than her, which didn't bother me because she thought I was darker but because she cared so much about being lighter, like it made her better. She even compared are arms. The funniest part is that we are the same skin tone.
Love, love, love your story. Your honesty and self love is refreshing. we can carry too much hurt.. You have an inner beauty that elevates your outer beauty. Love you my Royal sister.
I honestly think dark skin black women are absolutely stunning. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! i'm sorry you had to go through that, you are beautiful its a shame you got it from you own too. It's ignorance and girl you are blessed to have that lovely brown skin.
The western world is brainwashed. You are simply delightful, beautiful and inspiring to me in so many ways. I have had these experiences all my life in the US. God bless you sis, be well 😎
In the US I've heard the term "blurple" used to describe a very dark black person. Blick is a new one on me. I actually like women of color as a rule but I've always had a soft spot for black women. I'm "white" and when I have dated outside my race I've always dated a black woman. I wouldn't turn away a woman from another background but I just get along with black women pretty well. I find them easier to talk with. I've dated darker black women out of personal preference because I like the look. It really does bother me when black people color code themselves but it doesn't surprise me. Internalized racism is a thing after all. Glad to hear you've gotten past the abuse and hopefully people treat you with the respect you deserve.
Yes girl!!! I am dark skinned too and never had problems with being dark skinned. I am so GLAD that you have articulated the difference between being hurt because one is dark skinned and being hurt because others try to hurt you because you are dark skinned. Keep being beautiful and proud. I love light skin being happy about their skin. I love dark skin being happy about their skin. Be happy, that's what I am about.
Ditto! I share many of your experiences too and have grown to feel the same. I've cried many times and NOT because of what a white person said but, because of what another black person have. I do believe that if DARK SKIN wasn't so precious the self tanning industry wouldn't be doing close to a billion dollars in revenue(possibly over). People sometimes try to pass off their insecurities.......I DO LOVE ME IN MY VERY DARK SKIN! YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!
I am glad to hear that you love you! That is how it should be!!! Black people need to support one another rather than tearing each other down. Thanks love!
I think you are stunning. I've always wanted to be this dark lol I know in my photos I am Alec week typo is stunning. I don't understand the negativity. all the ones who are darker than me their skin looks like porcelain. smooth and so clean looking. radiance is what's crazy
Nice video. Your story was very interesting and I'm glad that you're in a place now where you have accepted and love your skin. I myself have experienced colorism/racism, but kind of due to opposite reasons. I'm Somali myself and I was bullied for having lighter skin. Girls at my school would constantly insult Somalis out of the blue, calling them dark-skinned etc. and this one girl would constantly talk about how she was lighter than some Somalis and how my colour and hers were not that different. I couldn't understand their preoccupation with skin colour at the time and the experience made me look into why they behaved that way. That's when I learned about colorism and the effect it has on people. It's honestly a disease and it's tragic that it has now become so common amongst people of colour. I can't understand how we can bash each other, when we get enough of that in society in general. Skin bleaching has become a billion dollar industry and it's sickening. I hope for a day when we can all accept our God-given beauty, in all shades :)
This is so good I wanted to comment again. I am working a memoir that talks about my personal experiences being dark skin and the way you articulate your story is inspiring. Your growth is amazing, you are empowering people to follow your example and embrace themselves.
I went through the same things! You are beautiful! Don't you ever in your life get that twisted! Now that I am grown, I can see why I was hated so. I love everything and everybody! I speak well, I love to learn, I do well. Those things alone make others jealous! When I was younger, I felt jealous, but I prayed and asked God to take that feeling away and out of me. I'm never jealous, but I do get angry because I thought that at some point people would change.
Sorry to hear you went through it too! Use your anger and hurt to fuel better decisions and options. That is exactly what I do :) And I tell you, it helps a great deal!
I don't know why someone would say "dark skinned people shouldn't wear bright clothes. " Dark skin against bright clothes forms a beautiful contrast.
Christopher Duffy how does dark skin against bright colours form s beautiful contrast
Craig. You my sir are an idiot
Craig Malcom
Bright or lighter colored clothes act as a highlight against dark skin. It brings the dark skin out.
Dark against dark? Ah! Boring.
It's also nice when some "bling" is added to it. ex. Nice watch, necklace, earrings.
A smile with nice white teeth against a dark face is also beautiful sight.
Christopher Duffy I agree
Nah you're wrong. Bright colors, especially yellow and orange, looks great on melanin. The dark skin makes the colors pop.
Your skin is beautiful. Don't pay attention to anybody!!
Thank you :)
True
@TruthIsABitterPill WHITE people CREATED COLORISM
@@coreythomas3633 yes white people did
But it's black people that bring dark skins down or make dark skins less than what they are
@@joyqsworld7317 I don't see WHITE people doing anything about the situation so what does that make them
Finally someone voicing the struggles of a DARK SKINNED BLACK GIRL. You're beautiful AF BTW ❤❤❤
They have to voiced otherwise nobody will know. Thank you hun!
Amen, sister.
We are all beautiful 😊😊
This is the truth. Colorism exist and is promoted in the music industry with lyrics from males discarding darker girls for "light skin ting", it's disgusting.
Check out "Chrissie" on CZcams.
LOOK HOW PRETTY SHE IS...HOW CAN THIS NOT BE VALUED AS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GODLY CREATIONS EVER EXISTED ... I WOULD WISH TO BE HER !!!
Yes, she is pretty, but WHY would a lovely white woman want to be her? Love the skin you're in.
Charlie Charlie why are you explaining yourself to a stranger? Weirdo, nobody cares about your life story
Maëva Ange lol
Du auch hier?😩😘💯
Jenny Fromtheblog. You only wish to be her because you are not her.
The darkest person I ever ever saw, was an African man, and believe me, this man looked regal - he was black and proud and if you saw him walk, you would know what I mean. He was a contrast,- he wore all white, but was as black as ebony. He looked really nice.
Sounds like a picture! I would have thought he looked regal too!
Sounds like a picture! I would have thought he looked regal too!
Talking about him is one thing, but to actually see him is another. This man was a confident man, who felt comfortable in his skin, and any observer could tell immediately. he was extremely tall, extremely dark, but wore white - as if to say "Look at me - don't you wish you could look like me?"
I would love to see him 😍
I'm 36 years old and still can't seem to wrap my head around the concept of mistreating someone because of dark skin. Dark skin is so beautiful...especially with the contrast between the skin and make-up/clothing when bright colors are worn. The only thing I can conclude is that for those who discriminate against dark skin people (or black ppl) are very insecure and feel intimidated by the superior traits/genetics/DNA of melanin...it's just pure jealousy and insecurity. Anyway, I digress lol.
No. Some pll just get a rise out of others pain or humiliation.
Drear Perry people are jealous
Jackie Montrose I agree...Jealousy. Her skin is so beautiful.
you are a racist
jhgjhgj hgjhgdj OK Troll. Because I think dark skin is beautiful then I'm a racist 😏 whatever
I think u are sooo beautiful! I love being dark and I looovee when I go to hot places and get darker! wearing bright colors, rubbing on Shea butter , and having all the light ppl stare in awe at my glistening skin while they run from the sun and slather on sunscreen lol!
I love cocoa butter and u are beautiful
I swear I always feel like I'm the only one who loves going out in the sun to get darker during the summer time! 😂 glad there are others out there who feel the same lol
Believe me you're ot the only one, I'm lighter than her but for some reason I think everything looks better when your shin is darker, make-up, clothing, hairstyles, I love when my skin gets darker, I love when people think I went tanning on vacation. I know that's crazy 😀.
Girll I thought so too. She is gorgeous
Melanin is our own natural sunscreen.
I LOVE YOU BLACK WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
corey thomas Hi Corey. I swear I see you comment on most black related bids.
blackvelvetno1 i love my community and my women
corey thomas it's admirable :-)
We love you too Corey
blackvelvetno1 thank you
Hi Tabitha,
My family is from north Uganda and so my skin is very dark and I've grown up in South London. Since year 7 I've literally experienced what you have. Just everyday comments like: "blick", "burnt" "blaaaaccckkk", and like you I just never knew when they were gonna strike, maybe on the bus, in the hallway, in class, in a shop, at the bus stop, crossing the road. I had this constant paranoia when I was outside of the house, I was anxious and scared every day. One of my first experiences of it in year 7 was at the beginning of the school year, I was lost and couldn't find the maths block, when I got close to the classroom there were a pack of these black year 11 girls and they didn't say anything they just stared until I had walked past then one shouts "YA BLICK!" *and the corridor filled with their roars of laughter. When I got to maths I couldn't even read what was on the board or hear what the teacher was saying my eyes were just completely full of tears. I have a million stories from my teen years, and I honestly struggled, to get out of bed, to speak, to stop shaking, to look people in the eyes, I don't think people realise that their one comment is like 1/5 comments I'm gonna receive that day that might just push me off the edge, I'd have days where I honestly thought 'okay, when I get home today I'm just gonna kill myself'. I'd spend all my weekly lunch money on skin lightening products that didn't work, some even peeled my skin off. I'm in a better place now, final year of a predominantly white university, but I haven't entirely healed, I suppose something I really needed to hear was the story of someone else who can empathise and for that I thank you, I think this video helps other girls and boys who are struggling. I think you're really brave and beautiful, keep spreading your positivity
Wow this story is powerful and I can completely understand. Trust me, healing takes time. I am still healing to this day. You know what I've realised, all that bullying actually helped me. I have to share another part of my story really soon. Stay strong and keep believing for a total recovery :)
So crazy that I can relate to this so much 😔
I can relate this is why I lightened by skin tone some. I was tired of the random abuse.
Your skin is life in abundance, yes I'm a dark skinned Tabitha too, and I looove my skin, you look like royalty girl,
You are gorgeous. I too am the darkest of 4 other sisters coming up in the 60's, 70's and 80's. My cousins would call me black sambo, big lips, cat eyes, etc. Guess what? I'm in my 50's and I look better and YOUNGER than all of them today. Now they look at me and tell me how beautiful I am. Lol. Strut like a peacock, your melanin is like having beautiful colors in your feathers. :)
you're beautiful and amazing.
NOOO I DON’T WANNA LOOK LIKE A RAISIN WHEN IM IN MY 50s!! *Cries in a-bit-lighter-than-cinnamon colored skin*
It was always baffling for me growing up because the black people in my class were the ones who had an issue with the shade of black I am. Every other race in the class could care less, now that I'm matured, I feel bad for them for their self hate and realize it had nothing to do with me at all. I hope they eventually grew out that stupid mentality although I doubt it. Great video !
@49jubilee 😂🤣 You're a liar.
YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL !!!
Thank you my dear!! You too 💕
That blick word is pathetic and people have called me that disgusting made up word so many times while i was growing up. I can totally relate to your pain and everything you have experienced as a dark skinned woman. People have shouted at me in the streets too and laughed in my face!! My tone is the same as yours, it just looks a little lighter because of the flash. Oh my i totally relate about the "light skin pride" that is so pathetic. People love to compare. Girl you are sooo beautiful. I am sorry you had to experience that amount of hate and racial abuse you have experienced. When you were telling your story it reminded me of my experiences. You seem so kind. You gave that somalian boy a hug. How wonderful. i have heard a lot of black people say they do not like to sit in the sun too and call each other "blick". A lot of black people need to learn to rephrase things accordingly. Also,that girl you approached in Primark was delusional and you caught her out. If anything, we dark skinned people look amazing with bright colours lmao. I wear them all the time! You have sunkissed skin and wonderfully unique features. Loved the story and I am so glad that you are allowing yourself to continue to shine. All those experiences made you stronger like it made me. 💕
Tabitha, i must say i am intrigued by your personal life story, and truth be told comeing from a Somalian, i tell you in regards to that Somalian boy you huged, the thing is he just like many african boys from different parts of africa are forcefeed from early to like lightskinned girls and even at times worship lightskin girls, even if them Somalians are so-called blick themselves the Somalian boys, but Somalian girls in the diaspora are acctualy lightskinned and mixed heritage for the most part and more priviliged then the Darkskinned majority in their own country the under-privileged Darkskin majority, so remember there are 3 types of Somalians, the Oldest of them beeing the Blick a.k.a Black skinned ones, then the 2nd oldest(the current majority) the dark-brown chocolate toned, and then the NEW somalians = the lightskinend high yellow-skin tone ones, obviously its the same Epidemic with all african tribes worldwide including in Africa and the Diasporan african communities.... im 1 skin shade or to Darker than you, as im considered the Proto-type of my tribe the So'mali.... so you to shouldnt judge all because of a few brainwashed ones that are brainwashed to worship whitness or lightness... anyways remember the Darker the Skin the Deeper The Root's like Tupac used to say, the Blacker the berry the sweeter the juice... so dont take it bad, my younger cousins also call me black, even if they're just 1 or 2 shades lighter than me.... anyways sister Tabitha, from Uganda Acholi tribe sister, remember What doesent kill you, only makes you stringer, so start believing that... Stay Steadfast sister...... Patience is a virtue
It seems like that somali boy wasn't the first. They need to be educated because a somali boy did the same to me. Those yellow skin toned ones are usually mixed anyways and even then they never mock others who are darker. I do not understand the basic below average logic that some Africans have.
yeh i agree , the logic in africans, unfortunately most african s is a secretly self hateing epidemic, and yess offcourse all people who are africans that are lightskinned yellowishare obviously mixed and not properly from the tribe they claim to be part of, weather they be Swahili, nigerian, Somali, Acholi ugandan, Sodanese, and ethiopian and south african yellowbones, and ect ect, basically the Darkskinned majoity that are under-privileged to leave their homeland back in africa are beeing overlooked, and demonized and hidden from mainstream... but Truth shall allways prevail, with educated minds, like yours and mine, my sister... anyway, Peace and love from a so-called Blick Somalian.... Blessings
You seem like a wonderful person Said. May there be more wise and kind souls like you.
Thanks for your humble words sister, its just that unfortunately the half-blooded mixed ones amongst our tribes, get the say more than the fullblooded ones such as myself and others, meaning they unfortunately stand out, so we should ignore them and focus on likewise kind and truthful hearts such as mine and yours and this sister Tabitha on the video... meaning Great minds think Alike, so remember dont let the minority mixed breeds of our tribes, make you generalise and judge, just because they're confused.com... so we as the smart ones of our tribes should stick togheter and have our voices and opinions, heard, rather than vice=versa, Anyway, its a plessure to have communicated with a innteligent sister such as urself.... i just tought that id let you know that these mixed breeds gives all of us a bad name as Darkskinned Africans, because of their envious confused.com attitudes towards Darkskinned Africans a.k.a Full-blooded Africans... well anyway Peace and Love sister Abei ...
wow....I really don't know why people are so picky about skin colours. Your skin is so beautiful!! It looks like velvet!
who knows why.....It's a deep issue. Thank you my dear!
I am amazed that people would go out of their way just to tell you that your are dark skinned . Colorism is real.
ikr pathetic can't believe it
The complex you described is called Hyper-vigilance...That feeling where you're always watchful, always waiting, looking for the next insult or attack.
Interesting stuff
You are literally gorgeous. Don't Ever let anyone tell you any differently. It's so sad that dark skinned women have this burden that no one else in the world has to bare. Thier beauty and womanhood are questioned and given less value simply because the color they are BORN with. You go girl. You are beautiful inside and out.
Thankyou Vick! x
you are so pretty and you will probably have your first wrinkle at 70years old.
Aw thank you! So Kind! I hope that's the case :)
YOU MY DEAR ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!! THE DARKER THE BERRY THE SWEETER THE JUICE !!!!!
Thank you Dear!
Thank you for telling your story, Tabitha. It's terrible how black people hurt each other. And, yes, from my experience black males shoot colorist insults towards black woman all the time.
I'm happy to share as much as I can. Thanks for appreciating it! Some black males need to take a look deep inside and reconsider that hate...... Forgiveness is there waiting
PS. I am looking forward to part 2. Don't keep us waiting too long.
Video will be up very soon :)
+Tabitha Laker You're sooo beautiful
Is your boyfriend black or white?
My God she's beautiful....
I think we as a people need to spend time teaching our children how to value themselves, skin colour, hair texture & heritage.
I have had a few issues in London. But for the most part, I have not had too much of an issue. In my 32 years of life I have prob had about 4 issues.
My mum is very dark, I am only slightly lighter than her. But I was taught from a very young age to value myself. I have never ever had a white doll or barbie.
Any issues I have had I nipped them in a bud. I will be damned if anyone is going to talk to me with disrespect.
Teach your kids to be strong, teach them to fight back against stereo types even within their own community.
My niece is 9 and has small pencil sized locs (she wanted to be like her grandma!) and they TRIED to tease her at school. She quickly put the bullies in their place.
Thank you for sharing your story Tabitha! Being a dark skinned girl myself, I feel that we share many the experiences relating to colorism in the black community. I certainly did not feel as beautiful as my lighter skinned friends/family members while growing up because beauty was matched with how light your skin was. It is sad when a child does not see people who look like them considered beautiful and powerful... But I truly believe that times are changing as we see more exposure of dark and beautiful women on the screen and even on CZcams! I came across your page because I thought you were beautiful and powerful in how you express yourself. You make me very proud and I just want to say Dark is lovely!! Keep it up my sister ;p
hun I don't always get some blk men either.for example..when other races walk past a group of them they say nothing.but when a blk girl walks past them its a lot of comments often negative.I often wonder why can't they just shut up.its like a target is on a black woman's back...anyway god made us all different.just know your not alone...keep the positivity
I complete agree, don't get it either
It's very confusing. One thing we cannot do is take it to heart and let it affect us. The problem is on them. The solution is to go where you are celebrated! God certainly did make us all different! That is the beauty of his creativity!
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😍😍✨💖 you're gorgeous I think south Sudanese women are so stunning you always look like models & dolls
So true !!!!
trueee like that one CZcamsr Nicky Perkins she's dark skin and ..😍😍😍
Flinabin So true..!
yea she is stunning the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice 💜😍
Im sudanese and we are more dark skin
Tabitha you have one of the sweetest spirits I’ve ever seen in a person. It hurts to hear how cruel people can be because of a person’s skin color. I think you’re beautiful inside and out. I can tell your family raised you well. May God continue to bless you and keep you strong as you are. Do you my sister!
your beautiful no matter what, I love your skin
yea ikr the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice 😊
You're so beautiful, this hurt my heart :(
It's fascinating. When I first saw you, I thought, "she looks like a model." You are beautiful.
First of all you are stunning!!!
Colonialism and their introduction of white supremacy has done a number on people all over the world. Wherever a country was colonized by Europeans, you will find colorism, be it India, China, Africa etc. White skin was established as the superior standard and the further your skin was from this standard, meant you were less than. People from these countries began to internalize this and turn on each other. I always explain this to people when it comes up. It is actually their internalized inferiority complex, born from forced white supremacy, that makes them dislike dark skin.
When I was growing up in London, I didn't really experience this. I guess because at that time (80's and early 90's) there was much less variations in shade? I remember there being far more darker skinned people, than there were lighter shades. At that time, racial abuse came from whites. I found my mixed raced friends experienced much more racism than darker skinned people did, which was also wrong.
It's so refreshing when I hear someone who feels like me. I do not resent my dark skin. I actually love and cherish it as special. I do feel sad that colonialism has left such a mark that we feel the need to turn on each other in order to feel better about ourselves.
Thanks for sharing. I will definitely check out some of your other videos. xx
When kids act different to people of color esp. darker-skinned people, it's definitely IGNORANCE .. Now, whether it's negative or positive depends on what they've been taught or heard.
Some are curious ..and many are colonially-raped..
Sadly this behavior is predominantly practiced among Black people and Black communities.
When we teach our lil black girls from the get-go , they get that great sense of pride and confidence " in their skin" no matter " complexion high
Or complexion low, or in between
Beautiful African.
Great vlog😊
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About bright clothes. I always encourage My dark skinned boys to accentuate their beautiful melanin with vibrant colored clothes, because any negativity from me as a parent will be one of their greatest roadblock as Black men in this society .
You're so beautiful, it brings a genuine smile to my face. Love from the whole Caribbean.
Yes, she nailed for me when she said, i dont have a problem being dark skinned but why do others want to make me feel bad because i have dark skin...hey if you dont like me dark skin just keep it moving and keep your comments to yourself.
100%!!
You're soooo freak'n Beautiful are you serious? Come on!
@Charlie Charlie colorism is a lot more than just being someones 'preference' and being a dark skinned women comes with more problems than not being someone's 'preference.'
Would you describe the behavior of the people who bullied her in the video as acting on a 'preference', or treating her badly bc the think their is something bad abt her darskin? Did people call her blick just Bc she wasnt their preference or bc they think its something wrong with having dark skin?
You hear the way rappers degrade darkskinned women, that's not preference... They could just say they like light skinned girls and end it there if it's just 'preference.' why feel the need to bring darkskinned girls into it and talk abt how awful and not good enough they all are unless they actually believe it *gasp. Thats colorism.
across cultures darker skinned people are treated worse and are seen as inferior and lighter skinned people are uplifted and seen as superior. Thats not preference, its colorism. Its in judicial system, education system, media, the cause of bullying and skin bleaching, there are even cases of families who treat the lighter children better than the dark ones, but I guess its just 'preference' and because they 'prefer' one child over the other.
@Charlie Charlie There was a story of a girl who literally got denied a job bc the manager said she was too dark... I dont understand how some of y'all aren't getting this.
@Charlie Charlie haha haha, it has happened repeatedly. Also u didnt answer my questions but ok. What abt the casting calls in the 1960s that specially called for lighterskinned women to play black roles? I even saw one from back then that said to cast lighter skinned women for the roles of pretty black women and dark skinned women for the roles of maids. I even watched a youtube video today that showed the casting for straight outta compton that SPECIFICALLY called for light-skinned and biracial women to play the roles of "fine girls" and darkskinned women as "poor girls." And if its "so hard" for lightskinned and biracial women to get roles, how come theyre the only ones cast to play the majority of black women now?
@Charlie Charlie and colorism affects all communities of color... If what you described in your second message isnt colorism, then i have no need to continue this discussion...
@Charlie Charlie who decides what better men are? Everything you said in your second message isnt even factual. You just described ideal men and women based off of what you think
I'm guessing you catch a lot of people staring at you when they think you aren't watching? Good old periferal vision right? I want you to know that as a white male I would probably stare as well because I wouldn't be able to help it.You are a striking vision. You really should feel pride in your image because not many people are blessed from birth with such eye catching beauty.
Lol! Thank you! What a compliment. Peripheral vision catches those stares sometimes, so it's good to know sometimes they are with the best intentions :) Have a lovely day!
You are most welcome dear lady.
she is beautiful.
Thank you 😊
You are beautiful! I was racially abused also...thank you for being courageous!
Ignore the haters, babe. I'm 0:01 into the video and I said "Whoa! She's beautiful" because it's true. Rock your melanin with pride!! 👑
u have the most smooth, healthy, melanin rich complexion. It's gorgeous. Beyond that though u have a wonderful spirit & delicate personality that makes u beautiful inside & out. I salute u. Stay great. Blessings. 🙏
Always amazing hearing stories from people's lives before you got to know them - a peek through the windows of time! Brave girl, commendable openness!
Thank you. It really is a big peak, never having spoken about it to you before 😊 But hey, sharing a personal story will always resonate with someone, so it's worth while!
I wish their were more people like you to address this issue. Everyone is so quick to call out racism but not colorism. You're gorgeous btw!!!
I felt really sorry for black women 😢 you guys don't deserve to be treated like this.
We don't. Nobody does. Thank you Dear
Tabitha Laker Ur welcome 😁
You look like Lupita!!!!!!!! (she an african-mexican actress)
hehe thank you :) I've heard a few times before lol
Her skin is so perfect 😍 oh my God
ahh not perfect but thanks 😊
The light skin pride thing- yesssss! The only time I became self conscious about my dark skin tone was when I started hanging around a group of 5 dark skinned individuals at university. Prior to my new friendship group- it was never ever a thing :/
I was ranked the 3rd darkest in the group, lmaoo how silly
say it aint so! why do people do this???
I honestly don't know! It's very saddd
Because the world around them does it - and most ppl are S H E E P.
I was so shocked in Vietnam when ppl would hide themselves from the faintest bit of sun because they preferred to be deathly white than a golden colour. It highlighted to me that it's not about colour per se (because who would prefer deathly white over golden) - it's about STATUS.
Thank you so much for this video I’ve been experiencing racism and colourism in school it is so hard being in secondary school and being a girl of a darker skin tone. Thanks for inspiring me 💋
You are so welcome! Stay strong with your head held high.
WOW I'm not just saying this, I truly mean it, you're stunning. Us darkskin women are beautiful & strong.
& I'm gonna do a video like this too, thank you for the inspo
You are beautiful! when I was young I was called ugly names too, which wasn't my truth. Yes, I am dark (black) skinned but I am a human and human comes in all shades. What count is what is on the inside the (heart) seat of motivation.
What I call and except about myself is I am a Beautiful human being created by the Almighty God Jehovah. That is my truth!!
who cares what others think
i needed this! thank you tabitha. biggest message is be happy being you and understand that peoples problem with you is THEIR problem. this has even helped me to see that my own negative comments about others are non constructive and mean
I'm so glad you found it helpful! :)
I dealt with it outside and inside the black community. when I went to college, I had a fellow student walking in the cafeteria with friends say " God, she is a gorgeous dark skin black girl. She is so pretty". That was the first time I had ever been called pretty. I had been ignored by males so long, I smiled and said thank you and let it pass.
Your beautiful! I was racially abused in school growing up in London as well, even though I am not black, I am Pakistani. You got abused for your thin eyebrows but I got abused because I had thick eyebrows (which is on trend now) *sigh* and I remember the gel pens, I collected so many and someone stole them.
Hey Lovely! Sorry to hear that you were bullied. It's never something anybody likes. So interesting how trends have changed & what you were once made fun of for is now in style - big time! I hope you were able to get through those tough times! We've got to use them to make us stronger 💪
This girl is beautiful
yhp beautiful 💜😍
Born and raised in the states, had the same experience and all of it has made me so strong I'm thankful to all my bullies. thanks for sharing.
That strength is so important for self esteem! I'm glad you got it! & It was my pleasure to share x
I'm so sorry you had to endure such fears and injustice. You are beautiful and it sounds like you have gained strength in your adulthood from all the pain in your past. You also have a great personality and are very smart.💝☺Go Girl!!
Sorry I am just seeing this comment. Yes I definitely gained alot of strength from it. Thankyou 😊
As a dark skin girl I can TOTALLY relate. It's so sad people make you feel bad and less of a person just because an amount of pigmentation. What is even more disturbin is when black people say ignorant shit to OTHER black people. Like what the fuck??? That's that slave mentality, smh. It breaks my heart that it's 2016 and we're still stuck on stuff like these. But please NEVER forget: You are beautiful and don't ever let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Your beauty is not defined by your skin colour. Flex that melanin, sista. God bless.
Thank you Whitney! You hit the nail on the head "Your beauty is not defined by your skin colour"! That should be the key message!
+Tabitha Laker thank you Tabitha. What I also find quite frustratin is that we as a society are so focused on being pretty, lookwise. I wished we would be pretty kind, pretty intelligent, pretty tolerant etc. Idk just random taughts :)
Yes!!! I wish so too. I want to talk more about this x
+Whitney Stevenson You're right, so true!
Tabitha, i must say i am intrigued by your personal life story, and truth be told comeing from a Somalian, i tell you in regards to that Somalian boy you huged, the thing is he just like many african boys from different parts of africa are forcefeed from early to like lightskinned girls and even at times worship lightskin girls, even if them Somalians are so-called blick themselves the Somalian boys, but Somalian girls in the diaspora are acctualy lightskinned and mixed heritage for the most part and more priviliged then the Darkskinned majority in their own country the under-privileged Darkskin majority, so remember there are 3 types of Somalians, the Oldest of them beeing the Blick a.k.a Black skinned ones, then the 2nd oldest(the current majority) the dark-brown chocolate toned, and then the NEW somalians = the lightskinend high yellow-skin tone ones, obviously its the same Epidemic with all african tribes worldwide including in Africa and the Diasporan african communities.... im 1 skin shade or to Darker than you, as im considered the Proto-type of my tribe the So'mali.... so you to shouldnt judge all because of a few brainwashed ones that are brainwashed to worship whitness or lightness... anyways remember the Darker the Skin the Deeper The Root's like Tupac used to say, the Blacker the berry the sweeter the juice... so dont take it bad, my younger cousins also call me black, even if they're just 1 or 2 shades lighter than me.... anyways sister Tabitha, from Uganda Acholi tribe sister, remember What doesent kill you, only makes you stringer, so start believing that... Stay Steadfast sister...... Patience is a virtue
Your skin is GORGEOUS!!! You're radiant dear. Colorism is real but it doesn't define you. Contrary to popular belief, melanin is a gift from God! It's not a curse. We just live in an backwards society to demean greatness, it's also very anti-black which I hate.
I was looking up pictures of people with dark skin because I love to paint and find those people quite beautiful. Then I had stumbled upon a link to this video. It surprised me at how you were treated, personally I would never even think of treating someone like that. I'm glad you shared and opened my eyes to perspectives I haven't gotten the change to see from. I'm friends with so many dark people! It surprised me how people said they didn't want to be out in the sun or they would get darker, personally I love the sun. In my painting I want to put the brightest colored clothes. It doesn't matter what you wear anyone should be able to express themselves if they want, you go girl! Your beautiful in every way and I wish you the best!! 💕
It happens, unfortunately. Thankfully, I've learnt a lot from it and moved on. Bright colours will definitely look great on dark skin. Good choice. Thanks for your stopping by and your encouragement. I wish you the best too 💕
... My Mother was a beautiful dark skinned woman and my Father was very fair skin man, but my parents never ever made any distinction between their children. We were loved and cherished, this reinforced values and pride in our lives. My Mother was so beautiful to me, she exhibited such class and her color was never a hinderance to her pursuits. That positive enforcement in my youth has defined me today!
Your complexion is gorgeous ❤️
Thankyou! :)
I went through the same experiences. Your are beautiful and thank you for sharing
Thank you, you are beautiful too! I'm sorry you went through the same thing. It's just had to make us stronger :)
I remember growing up, my sister derided my step mother and I for having dark skin, but neither of my parents ever rebuked her or punished her for making such foul remarks. I said one thing about her light skin, and I was yelled at. It taught me that it was ok to bash dark skinned persons, but light skin was a gem to be protected. So whenever my cousins made degrading statements, whenever my friends ridiculed dark skin, and whenever strangers degraded dark skin, I sat silently, accepting that as a dark skin person I am only worthy of insults and degradation, and any compliments were the result of pity. Now that I've educated myself, I now know that this thinking is the result colonization and white supremacy. Many Black ppl, and ppl from other racial groups have appropriated colorism, and I think it's time we reclaim our worth. We are not inherently inferior, and we do not and must not succumb to Eurocentric standards. We have to love our dark skin
You're beautiful! Not just trying to boost your ego as you seem very content in your skin (fabulous) but its the truth! You're elegantly gentle and charming! Thank you for the video!
You and I have the same skintone but I’m from the south of Georgia, USA and when you spoke about not being able to concentrate/being afraid to do anything in class because ppl would say something about your skin...I felt that too strongly. Then black kids making sure they made it known they were lighter than me so they wouldn’t get the bullying/teasing. I’m now 18 and social media now has taken place of the ignorant schoolmates of mine, but also shows positive representations of dark skin beauty which has helped me become solid in myself. I hate commenting years later but this video about dark skin experience has been the most realistic and relatable to mine.
Sorry you had to go through it too! Please just focus on you. Those people don't matter At ALL! It's great have become solid and confident in yourself now. And better late than never 😊
Yes. Dark people can wear bright colors if they want. Contrast is beautiful. All people should wear wherever color clothes they prefer. Bright colors do compliment beautifully especially when tanned or chocolate.
Please keep telling them!
I absolutely envy your self confidence and how composed u are while telling your story (I wouldn't have been that calm and controlled)! The thing with the light-skin-pride is still a thing and u explained it perfectly! Beauty isn't measured by the color of ones skin!
I expressed all my anger in the past. Plus it's a topic that really makes me disgusted! So disappointing when people hate each other because of skin tone.
Tabitha, your video was inspiring and I appreciate your honesty. As a black woman, I know what you are talking about. I have personally witness it with some of my family and in the black community. Yes, colorism originated from white supremacist but blacks have owned it and given it LIFE for decades. When I meet blacks who think this way, I find them be extremely uneducated and concrete thinkers. They lack abstract thinking ability and are conformist. If I could come back tomorrow a different complexion, I would love yours or Lupita’s complexion. It is flawless!!!
My mom helped me love my complexion and helped me evolve in my thought pattern despite the ignorance I was surrounded by. My mom is much lighter than me and people (almost always black) would often make comments about how beautiful her color is. She always complimented my complexion and taught me the beauty of the various hues of dark skin.
I am sure people tell you this all the time, but you are very beautiful and your features are also beautiful!! I am glad that your intelligence, strength and beauty prevailed. Also, If you are somewhat drawn to white men because they did not berate you when you are younger, that is your prerogative.
In middle school people would always compare their skin tones, and I never understood why. Everyone is the way they are for a reason. ☺️
It's really pointless comparing skin. & I agree, we all have purpose in being ourselves!
Your complexion is beautiful; nice and chocolately.
Are you single?
So hard to believe someone as gorgeous as you had any reason to fear. I am so sorry that you went through any of this BS. You are incredibly beautiful.
you are a gorgeous girl honestly. There is no way that people do not recognize this today.
TFS for sharing your story. I'm sorry that you had so many harrowing experiences growing up. the first time I saw your face on this channel I thought you were strikingly beautiful! I think you are beautiful and don't ever doubt that, continue to advocate, b/c I think society truly needs to understand that beauty come in all shades. continue to have conversations with ppl the way you did with the Somalian boy and the girl in the grocery store, so that they can understand that they need to control their words and stop perpetuating hate and hurt.
Thank you!I Will continue to advocate as much as possible, because it affects more than just insecurities concerning dark skin. Those conversations baffled me but I know they came from a place of confusion.
Honestly , I think you have the EXACT same voice as Naomi Campbell, you must have grown in the same area. You could pass her voice doppelgaenger.
really lol? maybe it's because we are both British....That's the only explanation I have lol
People can be so mean. You are so sweet and beautiful, so you win.
Too true! Thankyou hun x
You are beautiful! Thanks for sharing your story and being transparent. Being a dark skinned male in America, I identify completely with what you went through. Thank God we aren't damaged because of others' abusive behaviors
Their comments stem from ignorance. I applaud your civil responses to the strangers who hurt your feelings. I think your reactions served a purpose to educate them and yourself. Thank you for sharing!
Thankyou! :)
SHE is gorgeous!
+Tabitha Laker Thanks baby!
I am down in the south, Georgia, and that means that it was white people central and when white people in the south asked why I was so dark i said," first of all I'm in the south, second of all i am Indian and it is the summer, third of all my skin is beautiful, fourth of don't be an idiot." That was one of my proudest moments.
The gave the PERFECT answer!!!!! Why can't people work out some of these things for themselves? Thank you for loving yourself. It shows people how things are supposed to be :)
Beautiful message! There are 7 BILLION + people on this planet and we're all different. Some people are dark some are light some are thin some curvy some have straight hair some kinky etc. People need to get out of their little boxes and learn to appreciate and accept people and cultures, even if it's beyond what they're used to. I I love the fact that you took your experiences and used them in a positive manner. Thank you Tabitha #YouRock
Puh-leeeezz! Dark sinned people are probably the only ones who should wear bright colours, no colour can compete, overshadow or clash with dark skin, it's so intense...in a good way. New subscriber.
Girl I know how it feels I am Ugandan from lira in the UK and us dark skinned girls , I got it rough I cried I stared to question my parents but hey girl now people look at me and say that they live my skin tone and j am like thank you God finally 💕❤️ and now girl I rock my dark skin ✌🏿️
I have always hated this "light skin" vs "dark skin" stuff because it just pits black people against each other. We are just segregating each other. I am black with some spanish so I appare orangey but not "dark" so I haven't had people call me bad names for being too dark but I have had some people say that I'm "not black" but rather "orange" (???) but I remember when I was younger I was immensely jealous of biracial people. No matter what shade of black you are there is always pressure to be lighter, even for people who are biracial. Two bad experiences I've had were 1) when my younger sister was born. Because she had a different mother who was half Native American she could pass as biracial (like white x black) and a lot of my family members praised her for it which made me feel uncomfortable and 2) when my friend, who is black/indian kept insisting that I was darker than her, which didn't bother me because she thought I was darker but because she cared so much about being lighter, like it made her better. She even compared are arms. The funniest part is that we are the same skin tone.
Love, love, love your story. Your honesty and self love is refreshing. we can carry too much hurt.. You have an inner beauty that elevates your outer beauty. Love you my Royal sister.
Thank You! x x
I honestly think dark skin black women are absolutely stunning. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! i'm sorry you had to go through that, you are beautiful its a shame you got it from you own too. It's ignorance and girl you are blessed to have that lovely brown skin.
The western world is brainwashed. You are simply delightful, beautiful and inspiring to me in so many ways. I have had these experiences all my life in the US. God bless you sis, be well 😎
God bless you too! :)
In the US I've heard the term "blurple" used to describe a very dark black person. Blick is a new one on me. I actually like women of color as a rule but I've always had a soft spot for black women. I'm "white" and when I have dated outside my race I've always dated a black woman. I wouldn't turn away a woman from another background but I just get along with black women pretty well. I find them easier to talk with. I've dated darker black women out of personal preference because I like the look. It really does bother me when black people color code themselves but it doesn't surprise me. Internalized racism is a thing after all.
Glad to hear you've gotten past the abuse and hopefully people treat you with the respect you deserve.
Yes girl!!! I am dark skinned too and never had problems with being dark skinned. I am so GLAD that you have articulated the difference between being hurt because one is dark skinned and being hurt because others try to hurt you because you are dark skinned. Keep being beautiful and proud. I love light skin being happy about their skin. I love dark skin being happy about their skin. Be happy, that's what I am about.
Ditto! I share many of your experiences too and have grown to feel the same. I've cried many times and NOT because of what a white person said but, because of what another black person have. I do believe that if DARK SKIN wasn't so precious the self tanning industry wouldn't be doing close to a billion dollars in revenue(possibly over). People sometimes try to pass off their insecurities.......I DO LOVE ME IN MY VERY DARK SKIN! YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!
I am glad to hear that you love you! That is how it should be!!! Black people need to support one another rather than tearing each other down. Thanks love!
Vous êtes magnifique.
I think you are stunning. I've always wanted to be this dark lol I know in my photos I am Alec week typo is stunning. I don't understand the negativity. all the ones who are darker than me their skin looks like porcelain. smooth and so clean looking. radiance is what's crazy
Nice video. Your story was very interesting and I'm glad that you're in a place now where you have accepted and love your skin. I myself have experienced colorism/racism, but kind of due to opposite reasons. I'm Somali myself and I was bullied for having lighter skin. Girls at my school would constantly insult Somalis out of the blue, calling them dark-skinned etc. and this one girl would constantly talk about how she was lighter than some Somalis and how my colour and hers were not that different. I couldn't understand their preoccupation with skin colour at the time and the experience made me look into why they behaved that way. That's when I learned about colorism and the effect it has on people. It's honestly a disease and it's tragic that it has now become so common amongst people of colour. I can't understand how we can bash each other, when we get enough of that in society in general. Skin bleaching has become a billion dollar industry and it's sickening. I hope for a day when we can all accept our God-given beauty, in all shades :)
your vibe is so soft and caring
i wish i were darker
I feel that sometimes too girl! You're beautiful with the very skin tone you have 😊
Tabitha Laker thank u
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Anayah Harris Why?? Be happy with the skin GOD gave you, whatever shade it is. He don’t make any mistakes, and he didn’t make one when he got to you.
Oh please! Spare me! You are dark. Stop talking nonsense.
You are so incredibly beautiful! Don't let the haters win...I love your color!😍😍😍
Thank you :)
Your compassion and love for others after all you've been through is amazing. You are beautiful, inside and out. God bless :)
This is so good I wanted to comment again. I am working a memoir that talks about my personal experiences being dark skin and the way you articulate your story is inspiring. Your growth is amazing, you are empowering people to follow your example and embrace themselves.
.. I love my Ugandan Wife's dark coffee skin .. her all dark lips .. her thin eyebrows .. her perfect features hair to toes :)
Awesome!! :)
You're so pretty I wish I looked like you 😍💕
I went through the same things! You are beautiful! Don't you ever in your life get that twisted! Now that I am grown, I can see why I was hated so. I love everything and everybody! I speak well, I love to learn, I do well. Those things alone make others jealous! When I was younger, I felt jealous, but I prayed and asked God to take that feeling away and out of me. I'm never jealous, but I do get angry because I thought that at some point people would change.
Sorry to hear you went through it too! Use your anger and hurt to fuel better decisions and options. That is exactly what I do :) And I tell you, it helps a great deal!
I'm sorry you had to go thru that, it sad how so many in our community are brainwashed. You are truly beautiful and let anyone make you question that!
You're GORGEOUS!