Here’s Why You’re “Fatphobic” : Fat Positivity Movement Cringe
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My mental health IMPROVED when I lost weight and got healthy 🤷🏼♀️
👍 good job
Same brothaaaa. It’s like being able to see yourself accomplish such a daunting task, gives you so much motivation for other things in life.
same
Boom! And there you go! Thank you!
Is, partially, your improvement in mental health due to the fact that people stoped treating you like shit and invalidate you for being fat ?
Telling an obese person that they are perfect and don’t need to change or improve anything is like encouraging an alcoholic to keep drinking and not go to rehab.
What some people don't understand is that Obese=Overweight.
Obese just means your not skinny, and probably big boneded. So being Obese so not that bad and some people might never be skinny.
If you said overweight, I might've agreed with you
@@arcey_cv WHO defines overweight and obesity as follows: overweight is a BMI greater than or equal to 25; and. obesity is a BMI greater than or equal to 30.
@@Barbiethebarbiechannel. I didn't say that you shoul stay bein overweight or obese
@@arcey_cv Obese means fat, stop over-complicating it... and learn how to spell too.
@@Barbiethebarbiechannel. Yeah exactly. What people like her don't understand is that being fat/obese is down to lifestyle. People blame it on genetics but genetics don't stop you from keeping in shape.
Lol that one girl thought she did something with "do you keep that same energy for people who smoke or drink?" Why yes, I do lol
I was going to say, the world definitely DOES have that same energy towards alcoholism and smoking. No one would tell someone that smoking or alcoholism is beautiful. It is widely known and accepted that they are unhealthy.
I've met very old alcoholics and smokers, never met an old obese person.
There's a government-mandated warning label on every box of cigarettes. No such label on a Big Mac wrapper.
I love the square girl that has a bun on her head indication which surface is the top
yeah literally who doesn't right?? i don't think i've ever heard anyone say "oh it's okay that you chainsmoke, you're still healthy because you exercise and eat veggies!!"
As someone with BED (binge eating disorder) making excuses is the number one cause for my weight gain. Just because you have an ED does not mean that your weight is good, it means you understand the issue and can now fix it.
Body positivity is when you love yourself to make good healthy decision
Yes!❤
@ubu 9 There is a difference between acting healthy and being happy....why do you mix everything ? Of course being physically healthy is not enough to be happy and what ? Is it really a good reason for you to stay obese ?
I’m just wondering why people always have to comment on people’s body types. It’s getting weird...
People don't understand that Body Positivity and Fat Acceptance are not the same thing.
Body positivity is not shaming anyone for how they look.
As an (almost) recovered anorexic, I understand where the movement is coming from and I think the intentions were initially good. But Jesus Christ its execution is terrible. The ‘health at every size’ thing makes no sense, if being underweight is unhealthy then so is being extremely overweight. Also a lot of fat activists base their entire identity around being fat. Ironically as an anorexic my entire identity revolved around my eating disorder. Make it make sense
Glad you’re almost recovered! And yes I agree
As someone who feels like more of an observer, I was given the impression the people saying health at every size often only mean health at any overweight size, and anyone thinner then overweight needs to be criticized, as well as anyone who was overweight that wanted to get to a healthier weight.
Sounded like a messed up movement that was opposite of what it claimed to stand for. xD
Arielle Scarcella thank you :)
This is my problem with most SJW types, defining anyone by labels as to WHAT they are rather than WHO they have chosen to be just seems no better than the various bigotries they claim to oppose.
But health at every size means to focus on being as healthy as you can (ie good nutrition and exercise) no matter how you look. While "glorifying obese people", something I don't actually see as often as it's claimed, is Obvs missing the mark, encouraging people of all sizes to focus on their actual health rather than on the way they look is a net positive
Also, I'm an EMT, and while that definitely doesn't make me an expert, I know enough to know that being obese causes SO many complications. Not only is there diabetes, high blood pressure/high cholesterol (both of which can lead to stroke over time), there's also the simple logistical fact that a two-man team of first responders cannot move someone who is fucking 500 lbs. on their own without causing themselves harm. For example, where I work, if you are over a certain weight, we can't move you in a normal ambulance. Which means if you go into cardiac arrest, EMS/FD has to keep doing CPR until the bariatric truck gets there, which delays hospital care and makes it more likely that you won't survive.
Thank you for what you do. And yes, I always think of people in the medical field when I see these fat people videos. my sister is an ER nurse. And I just know this video would drive her insane. The things you guys see, I think would drive most people to want to lose weight and take care of their body lol
Exactly
@@MoneyStrategiesSOULutions Good lord, I had to look up what a 'bariatric truck' was. You have to have a special truck for obese people. You know you have a problem as a nation when you have a fleet of vehicles for a specific issue. Richard Simmons save us.
I never thought of being too fat to fit in an ambulance. 🤯
That cake thing has actually happened to me. I have a chronic illness and can’t have much sugar so instead of wasting it, I wanted to leave it so other people could have more if they wanted and someone got mad at me over it. It’s funny that they put themselves in a corner based on their own ideas because all I really had to do was accuse her of being abelist.
I hope things are going well for you wish you the best!
smoking is unhealthy, drinking alcohol is unhealthy, eating too much OR too little is unhealthy, and pretending that any of these things are NOT unhealthy is a huge problem. exercise and eat in moderation and no matter what your genetic makeup and body type is, you’ll be a healthier and happier version of yourself.
Agree agree
You are right up until "and happier version of yourself."
Being physically healthy does not 100% guarantee happiness.
People can be very happy and overweight.
Pretending that being overweight is healthy is totally wrong.
Even if we are arbitrarily and unfairly more critical of people engaging in some habits than others, for reasons that may be unfair or discriminatory, it doesn't change the fact that obesity is still unhealthy.
yeah sure, we are more critical of women who eat too much than men who smoke too much, we are inconsistent for reasons that are discriminatory, I get that, but being obese is still really unhealthy.
Great post.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle happier doesn't necessarily mean happy. A slug is faster than a glacier, but it isn't fast, lol
"Diets dont work" I lost 45kg (99lbs) in less than a year, losing 25kg (55lbs) in the 3 months of summer. Diets do work. Exercise does work. I now eat more than I used to, I am leaner and skinnier, but I eat more BECAUSE I EAT HEALTHY FOOD. There's no need to stop eating, just eat healthier, exercise regularly, it's not that difficult, man. I've done it, I'm 21 now and I was 19 when I got out of obessity. DO NOT BE PASSIVE, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, IT'S YOUR LIFE IN DANGER.
Everyone's Bodie is different, just because it worked for you does NOT mean it's gonna work for someone else
*crash dieting and caloric restriction doesn’t work. Nourishing your body well, does! As a former anorexic who became obese during recovery (ETA: and is now at a healthy weight), I have come to believe that body fat is the way an under-nourished and over-toxic body protects itself.
Once you increase the nourishment (of thiamine especially-that is the most underrated essential vitamin we are all not getting enough of), and lower the toxicity (soluble fiber helps the body clear out fat soluble waste), then the obesity resolves itself without caloric restriction of any kind.
Whole grains and legumes = sources of thiamine and fiber.
Lean beef = source of iron and zinc and B12
Nut and seeds = sources of B vitamins, minerals, and EFAs
Sugar and flour = fast energy
The obesity-causing foods are dairy (full of toxins including fat-soluble vitamins which increase mortality and lead to obesity), and excessive beta carotene and oxalate containing veggies and fruits (mangos, carrots, bell peppers, sweet potatoes, spinach are the worst).
Thiamine: czcams.com/video/m3DopqTz1Q4/video.html
Soluble fiber: czcams.com/video/J9PWIVgPAUY/video.html
Hypervitaminosis A: ggenereux.blog/2018/10/08/obesity-causation/
They misunderstand that it's not something that's done for one month and sorted. Losing weight and being healthy requires an entire lifestyle change.
I also lost weight recently, and honestly that whole “doesn’t work” argument is what made me put off doing it/give up on previous attempts. They make it seem so complicated. I mean, there definitely are things you can do that make you lose weight more or less efficiently, but on a basic level it’s just calories in/calories out. Based on my experience it’s more important when you’re starting out to just pick something repeatable, worry about the fine tuning once you’ve found a basic plan to start from.
I was about 50 lbs over a healthy diet where i would look really good. I seem to carry my weight well except for the bloating. I was told im a diabetic and that day went on a diet. That was almost 4 weeks ago, I looked online and found wonderful tasty meals one can eat on a diet. Yes. it may cost more. Yes.. some cooking may be required. But i already have lost.. maybe 5 to 7 lbs( guessing). Im told i already look better. The bloating is almost gone and i just feel better. The food is amazing. I eat from veggie and fruit platters. Gods food. Its very tasty and filling. I even will allow myself a plate of spagetti about once a week. Ill even drink a couple of cans of soda a week. Much less then what i did. I drink water everyday now . My face seems to have a slight glow. Im healthier and happier. By feb 14 i hope to be down to 135 lbs. By Spring 128 lbs. I can do this .. I have done it before and will master this problem again.. U have to WANT it really bad. It is possible.
As a nurse aide im telling you ...the amount of work that goes into caring for obese patients is ....well .its alot and they continue to ask for snacks/food and you have to give it to them. Body positivity is a must but i wish these ppl would think passed today and about when they are older adults and senior citizens and others have to care for them .
Same. It's difficult to have to do it with the snacks, but sometimes you have too. Maybe us CNAS should show people who think being overweight is 100% healthy, the routine we go through when taking care of an immobile obese person. That could be them one day, but they'd probably still keep that entitled/mean attitude.
@@KawaiiNecronomicon505 unfortunately I think your right
@@moonbabies0o241 But I give you props for doing what you're doing! 💜 It's a mentally & physically draining job. We need more compassionate, patient people in this field, because I've worked with a lot of people who are nasty & just don't have a care in the world in the patients. Please keep on spreading love & positivity!
I don't think these types realize that losing weight takes time. Wether you fast or diet or exercise, it just doesn't happen instantaneously
Cake related problems:
- Wrong, impolite and judgmental: "Are you going to eat all that?"
- Perfectly normal: "Can i have a smaller slice?"
You don't need to have a weight problem to be less hungry or to not feel like eating a lot of sugar.
Sugar makes me sick. I can't eat more than a few forks worth of most cakes before I start to feel like I'm going to puke. I'm not about to waste cake i know I won't be able to eat when someone else would be happy to have it.
@@maggiethedruid9010 Exactly, no point taking more than you are going to eat.
No to these types of people, if you aren't diving face first into the cake you're fat phobic. Well at least that's a logical reverse of the point they're making, to be as accepting of obesity as possible you need to do that
@@SkaterBlades What?
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle if asking for less cake is a fatphobic, it's logical to think that eating a whole cake is how to not be fatphobic using their train of thought
As a fat person I was a bit nervous of watching this video. I ended up finding it really positive and inspiring. Thank you, Arielle. You're a good egg 👍
The cake thing made me so mad. I don’t even like most cakes but there’s always pressure to eat a slice anyway so I really do want a small piece. It’s not due to me thinking I’m fat it’s due to not wanting sweetness/sugar overload
same!
There is no such thing as "dieting" or "going on a diet". A healthy diet is supposed to be long-term, as in for the rest of your life.
Yes it’s a thing
I completely agree with you, Arielle. I let myself get bigger and bigger because of this message, and I ended up 317lbs at 29 years old. I'm currently documenting me losing the weight and getting healthier. The Fat Acceptance movement and Health At Every Size movement are so dangerous. YOUR HEALTH IS EVERYTHING.
Proud of you, babe!!!
@@arielle Thank you!
Waiting for your transformation video ! More power to you
Good on you. Please keep going!
what the fuck? how do you end up being 317lbs? thats 147kg. Im not hating I just want to know who you can let yourself go like that
The body positivity movement used to not be about obesity. It was about people that had stuff they couldn't control. Women who beat breast cancer, people with skin condition, missing limbs, bad burns from a fire, scars, ect. Fat was not on the list since that can be controled.
Yes. And now you cannot find any of what it was originally about at all on the internet. I’ve tried. That’s the saddest part. Society needs to get its priorities straight, and stop being sensitive snowflakes.
The fat people took control. Also notice how body positivity only exists for women.
They (obese people ) hijacked the body positive movement, claimed it as their own and changed the meaning and who it was intended for, just to self placate.
Exactly.
Unless the person suffers PCOS. But most fat people get that big for their poor habits.
I don't have a problem with someone doing them, and making their own choices. I have a problem with being told that I must think it is ok, support it, and join in. Don't tell me what to think or how to act.
Besides media and youtubers who need to come up with a topic. Who is actively in your daily life. Trying to make you change your mind on this topic. Who is actively in your life talking about this stuff. Because I have a hard time believing it.. Normal people fat or skinny are not walking around saying this kind of crap. No one ever encourages people to gain weight or ask other to do it. And if you are. That's blowing me away. Because in real life. I have never seen anyone not even the slightest try to encourage being over weight. If anything i see alot of people going out their ways to crap all over people who are overweight.. If thats really your reality. Then I am blown away, where you live in some Pleasantville type town where no one is hateful. Because honey. Thats far far from the truth for ALOT of people.
The delicious slice of cake part cracked me up.
Sugar saturated foods taste terrible to me and my body lets me know it’s not digging them when I consume them.
There’s probably something to that...
I was 300 lbs at one point. I lost some weight and I hated when people would tell me "just love yourself over weight" and I'm thinking bitch tell that to me knees and my heart that are going through it. Now that I have lost weight I feel so much better but also it feels great when people notice that I've lost weight. Plus I have had people critize that I smoke cigarettes and that I was over weight. If losing weight makes me fat phobic than so be it because i plan on losing more and now I feel much better health wise.
Glad you feel healthier
Everything u do is amplified x10 by worse when you’re uncomfortably fat. You can’t do anything without being a target to people
Glad that u stood for yourself considering the fact that many overweight covid paitets are dying way more due to weak immune system
Exactly!! I used to be around that heavy as well and my knees constantly hurt. I had a job where I needed to stand all day and by the end of the day my whole body hurt, I could barely walk. Since losing so much weight my body doesn’t hurt as much anymore. It just physically feels better. That’s not fat phobia, it just a fact.
@@iamme25yagoIf they need help quitting smoking, they will get it. One step at a time. ❤
I love the body neutrality movement- your worth is not based on what you look like but who you are and what you do.
Ooo i like this too.
YAAASSS
The equivalent of "all lives matter" applied to body shape. But we know how woke people feel about that one
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Best comment. Spiritual.
I’ve struggled with eating disorders most of my life. I discovered going on a Ketogenic diet and cutting out all grains and rice, potatoes etc, actually helped me to learn to control my disorders. I don’t get the same urges and cravings when I stick to my keto diet.
I was severely underweight for many years, suffering with anorexia nervosa. It was incredibly hard for me to change my eating habits and gain weight. It's still difficult to maintain a healthy weight tbh. What if I had been told to just accept my body the way it was and realise that i would never be able to gain weight so why try? I would be dead. That's a fact, not being melodramatic.
same 💯
I’m overweight and if someone said I was eating a huge piece of cake (not really a cake guy but whatever), I would say “yeah, I’m a fatty” and then feel zero emotions about it. Because I’m an adult, not a child raised by another child.
For me the phrase "are you going to eat all of THAT?" was my wake up call when I gained a lot of weight. I was struggling with mental issues that manifested in emotional eating. When I heard that phrase something clicked! I looked in the mirror and said "that's it! I'm gonna start loving myself". But it's not the same for everyone I guess
@@vivalachoba That's great to hear!
Lose weight bro. Obesity kills
@@missthing5005 Thanks, I am.
@@bmardiney I hope you sucess
I'm also generally of the mind "My body; my choice." I don't go around telling fat people to lose weight or what they should wear. But I draw the line when they jump to spreading misinformation about the health effects of severe obesity and poor diet or that their weight is anyone's responsibility except their own. Cherry-picking a handful of studies that say being fat is fine vs. the mountains of evidence otherwise is self-serving and insulting to the rest of us. And what REALLY gets me is that some take the "fatphobic" mentality so far it makes them shame other people for not adopting their outlook on health. Since the pandemic started, you've seen lots of people express frustration with being stuck at home and putting on weight. I've seen "advocates" state sincerely that such frustration is "fatphobic." So if not wanting to be fat is "fatphobic" and trying to lose weight is "fatphobic" (and also impossible as they believe), they've created this trap where the only acceptable thing for people to do if they become fat is stay that way. Actively dictating how OTHER people should feel and take care of their bodies, is not activism. It's tyranny.
But the thing is, in our society some people think the worst thing that could happen to them is to gain weight. And the mindset comes from this hole planet being fatphobic and not even realizing it. No one is telling people to stay fat. They are just questioning the reasons people feel so bad about becoming fat and wanting to loose the weight. You can loose weight, if that is really what YOU want. But for example people have made the case for other beauty standarts like wearing makeup: If you like to wear makeup, thats great! If you dont, thats great too! But wanting to wear makeup or thinking that you cant go anywhere without it are two very different things. So the body positive movement is not mad at people to wanting to loose weight. They want to make it okay for people to gain weight and not hate themselves. Thats pretty much what this is about. Just being nice to your body. Fat people are bullied and shamed everywhere. Body positivity wants to make the world a safer place to all of us. And that if you gain weight its not the end of the world and you dont have to punish yourself. And if you still want to loose the weight for yourself, that is totally fine. You body your choice.
I also want to add, that I myself tried to loose weight for probably 15 years and I was hating my body the hole time. Once I accepted my body as it is I started to enjoy working out and consuming foods that make my body feel good. And I eat everything! But in moderation. All foods are good foods. This acceptance made me feel good in my body (almost) everyday. My body is a still fat, but its such a good body. It takes me to places and holds my brain and my feelings and everything in between! I've also managed to loose weight and keep it of this way. Sure, before I've lost like 60 pounds by hating myself and dieting, but I could not keep the weight down that way. It always came back. With extra! My goal is to loose weight so I could do all the things I want, go hiking and stuff, but I dont think Im ugly being fat. Im pretty in this size and every size Im gonna be in the future. This took me about 15 to 20 years to realize. And it's all thanks to therapy AND body positivity.
The studies say that if you are a little bit overweight it's completely fine but being overweight is not the same as being obese
@@elenamultineddu2796 So? Obese people are still people and deserve love and respect. You take care of your own body and everyone else takes care of theirs.
I support the positivity movement but you raise some good points . And I imagine that there’s people who unfortunately lost weight during the pandemic (but maybe not in a wAy that’s healthy).
The pendulum has swung the other way…too skinny used to be applauded and to an extent still is.
I had anorexia in late teens/early twenties. I was unhealthy as fuck, but was for the most part constantly praised, which reinforced the whole thing.
The fat acceptance movement was one of the worst things that ever happened to my mental health.
I’m currently obese. I was obese, lost a lot of weight… and then regained it because mental health stumbled resulted in me no longer caring about myself.
Self-care, self-love, is knowing I don’t feel as well as I deserve to, and taking steps to correct it like I am now.
👏👏👏👏 I wish you the best
The difference with people who smoke is they aren't going around telling people this is healthy. In fact they would encourage people not to smoke. Meanwhile people that actually care about you will encourage you to quit smoking. That isn't smoke phobia it's true concern.
The difference with people who smoke is they are going around making everyone else smoke.
When a fat person eats a burger, a burger does not jump into your mouth.
When a smoker smokes a cigarette, that smoke gets into your lungs.
yeah. I Vape and my mom hates it. Her mother died from smoking. And I always apologize to my mom and tell her that I want to stop. I genuinely do want to stop vaping. But not once did I ever think, yeah let me get defensive about this and deny that it’s a problem and pretend like it’s healthy and get mad at my mom for being concerned lol?! these fat people are literally insane and I’m so tired of them and their loud ass voices lol
@@erikablu429 give her the best Christmas present possible. Quit for her. It would be a gift she would never forget.
@@jaredmbennett aw. thank you. i will certainly try. i’m only 21 and i feel if i don’t quit soon, i’m damned for life with this stupid habit. thank you 🙏
My mom was never really fat (genetically, a lot of the women in my family are on the curvy side) but she kept getting annoyed by doctors about her weight, even though she knew she had other issues (bad back, bad knees, ect. NOT related to weight, but because she spent a lot of time camping and hiking). She lost weight doing a special kind of dieting that's more like, psychological as well as physical and she's doing great. This 'fat acceptance' movement drives her nuts.
I am sorry, but it is weight related, the heavier you are, more likely you will damage your joints by being active. Simple physics, higher weight, higher force that joints need to bear.
This is a great video. I just found your channel, and you're so well spoken! The content was well verbalized and I'm excited to be a new subscriber. So sorry to hear about your relationship past, I can empathize. Happy to see you're strong and happy now, and looking forward to being a new follower on here :)
What if corporations selling unhealthy food created this movement ? It would be logical because now nobody can criticize them
oh arielle, as much as I love the "politically incorrect" content you make, "cutting cake is fatphobic" is so 2018. nnow we have the "fat is healthy and you're a bigot if you say otherwise" expantion
As a person that has been obese twice in their life, this movement makes me sick. I'm tired of people telling me I don't need to lose weight to be healthy when I have a ton of health issues BECAUSE I gained way too much weight.
She basically said, if I eat healthy it’ll make me depressed. And I heard, my mental health is dependent on consistency eating foods that will shorten my life.
My goal is to look good for my wedding. So I started weight lifting and doing cardio 4-5 times a week. Gotta say I feel a lot better and I’m slowly losing weight while learning no food is bad but more that it’s all about moderation.
Yeah, that's the one that strikes people...the food. When losing weight, you have to completely change your eating habits, and that's what many people struggle with and give up on.
Wear whatever the hell you want, but you don’t get to dictate other people’s response...or more likely lack of response. 🤷♀️
I'm a fat woman and I've seen how obesity has destroyed the bodies & lives of so many people in my family....and I refuse to just let it happen to myself or my kids. I'll never be as tiny as I was at 21, but I'm going to make better choices & be more active so I'm not falling apart far too young!
Wish you all the luck! You got this💟💫
You got this
I know I'm late but you got this
good for you, cause it gets harder for some as they get older due to wear and tear of joints, tendons, and muscles
Fatphobia is a term that people use to make excuses to be fat
I’ve been struggling with horrible anxiety and every since I started working out twice a week my anxiety has come down
Is there a cancer acceptance movement? Or a kidney infection acceptance movement. Everyone should do their thing but own the consequences. There is curvy and big, and then there is being overweight unhealthy. Do your thing but own the consequences.
Absolutely. My woman is not big, but thick and curvy. We go hiking, biking and she runs half-marathons to stay fit.
She is almost 50 and is in better shape than many women half her age or size.
You are right. Tthe Fat Positivity movement was created to provide an excuse for its supporters from the consequences of not being active.
I'm fat 5'7" 230lbs and i don't care about the consequences.
I lost 35lbs last Jan-Feb because of my mental health. I'm not any happier at 230 than i was at 265.
Some day we'll all die. I don't smoke, i don't drink alcohol, i don't take any recreational drugs, i don't even drink caffeine. I don't have to make any efforts to not do any of those things, because i'm not interested, but i do eat what i like and i don't like to exercise just to exercise.
The last time i exercised was when i played Water-Polo.
I'm a man and i have all the confidence i need, so when people say i'm fat "Yep, i'm fat, i know." or you should lose weight "Yep, i know." I'm no fun for the people trying to shame me.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle Full love to you. Do your thing and don't be held back by anything
@@Whoisafraidofreality Thanks
The obsession with looking healthy and living as long as possible is really weird and annoying.
Why do you want to accept cancer and kidney infection? First of all, these are diseases and illness. Secondly, there are Cancer Awareness Day and Cancer Survival Day. Lastly, if you accept cancer or wants to, you're Satan's child.
As someone who is obese myself I am actively striving to eat healthier and try to be more active so I can lose my weight so I can be at a healthier weight. the whole fat positive movement is just really cringe and really stupid and I hate it.
All I can say is keep going. It's extremely satisfying achieving that. More than in terms of appearance the body just feels like it can do more.
I agree bc covid is killing more fat people bc of their poor immune system
good for you hon! Truly wishing you the best on your journey, I think a positive attitude, but being realistic like u are is key! Like you said, you want to be more active and eat healthier. So you’re already way past all these people lol. I’m truly proud of you, I know it’s hard these days to not given to what the media pushes. But your health is so important and we’re all rooting for you
I do have a condition called " the skinny face " 😅 I'm actually big and my face doesn't fit to my body. But I'm trying to loose weight now and to be healthy. I truly started loving being active and those weird people talking about how good is to be fat are kinda scaring me.
Sameee
Whats skinny face
My mother is doing *a lot* to lose weight! She is on a diet and in the past half-year, she’s lost somewhere around 80 pounds!
Yes girl! My favorite collab!
I also said "damn girl!" when saw your cleavage. One more thing I have in common with Arielle. The one difference is that with me, it's toxic masculinity. That's not something she'll ever be accused of. That's why I love sex positive lesbians, they completely destroy the idea that I should feel bad for any animalistic instinct I have for women! (
@@BlunderCity She has a boyfriend
I overeat emotionally and I am overweight. I can tell you from personal experience that being overweight is not healthy and it brings so many issues and it hurts a lot of aspects of your life, from intimacy to work advancement, and everything in between. Just like an alcoholic, I had to accept I had an issue and recently started to eat healthy and exercise regularly. In a short time, I have improved my mood, my sleeping, my relationships with my husband and family, my breathing and my productivity. Fat acceptance is a misguided movement and it is quite literally hurting people
You're doing great❣ Keep going🎇
Changing what you eat and exercise do wonders
Especially for your mental health 🤦♀️
"That moment" when I officially stop caring about unhealthy life choices other people make and the consequences they try to justify with "feelings".
“I can be healthy at 250 lbs. I got this girl!” -Lizzo
She Cannot preform one song without being winded, sweaty, poor vocally and not hitting any of the choreography.
Why are they telling themselves this? I get it nobody wants to be shamed but don’t lie to yourself. And I’m not saying we should be assholes to heavy people. Just find this logic very very flawed.
And her bank account dwarfs yours
astrolabe1976 this is not about her bank account. You do know just because she’s rich she can still lose a leg from diabetes right?
It’s about her saying that she’s healthy when she’s clearly not. She is a great singer and when she’s just standing behind the microphone live she’s very good but when choreography is involved… Forget it. And you and I both know the reason. She’s not healthy.
You also look over 30. Just like Lizzo and me so stop stanning for celebs like youre 12. “She makes more money!” So, I guess you’re not childish and don’t ignore facts 🤷🏻♂️
But she’s actually works out! To keep herself healthy (not fit) I think that’s okay. She works out, and eats healthy 😀
fridayrulesman I hope you’re right. Everyone can change if they want. Just look at Adele. Of course not everyone has that level of access and funds.
@@calebcostigan2561 Adele was a beauty. She was on the curvy siden, but she was not obese at all. Ther is a big difference.
Why don't we just leave women's bodies alone? No matter if fat or skinny?
If you see your beloved daughter ovr eating or the inverse, becoming anorexic, wil you just "leave her body alone"? There's a reason both karen carpenter and isael kamakawiwo'ole died before 40years of age, both ultra thin and u/tra fat bodies have health issues
as someone who knows they are semi over weight and is trying to make better choices is ✨body positivity ✨
I've been struggling with obesity for half my life, mostly because of MH meds that resulted in weight gain, but also because I just didn't do anything about it. I didn't do anything to improve my health, like exercise or get a physical hobby or portion out my food. It just wasn't a priority...and so it led to other problems (gallbladder removal, liver issues, difficulty breathing). Even with this information, the body positive community around me continued to discourage my efforts to be better for myself: to eat better, to move move, to shed fat contributing to health problems. There are folks out there who take it personally when YOU want to better yourself by getting to a healthy weight. It's somehow a reflection on them, even though it's really not. I think the response is quite telling. Anyways, I'm still not there, but at least I'm trying now. Thanks so much for addressing this topic xx
Fat shaming 100% worked on me. I was 40lbs overweight, I knew it, I knew that culturally it wasn't okay to be fat, I knew that medically it wasn't okay to be fat, and I knew that everyone around me could see that I was fat and my boyfriend even pointed out that I'd gained too much weight. So I lost the weight, and I've kept it off for a long time, AND I don't limit myself on anything that I eat and I don't exercise. I'm only getting fitter and healthier because I didn't fall prey to this crazy "body positivity, it's beautiful to be big" movement. 🤷🏻♀️
Same here I lost 25lbs since the beginning of quarantine and used the shaming as a motivator
That was the case for me until I realized I developed an eating disorder and learned to hate my body. I'm not part of HAES, but I've been trying to lose weight since I was 9 (I'm 18 now) and it was just this past year when I lost 30 pounds (40 from my highest point). And that is when I kicked all the fat shaming to the curb and focused on my mental health.
this comment makes no sense
"I knew culturally it wasn't okay to be fat." Sounds like you grew up with a lot of fatphobia. It's not bad to be fat, it's a matter of always working towards what's better for your health. If people couldn't except you BECAUSE of the main fact you were fat, then you were pressured into not being fat
@@arcey_cv being fat always sucks
@@arcey_cv toxic body positivity
I am obese... I am also 30 years old. I totally agree with the mind and body being healthy together. My family continuously would tell me to lose weight but my mental health was not ok and the environment I was surrounded by did not help. It wasn’t until I moved out, and learned how to love myself that I got to the happiness that I have now. I was finally ready to work out and do more to be healthier. I wish I had the drive to do it sooner but family pushed me into diets and different things to try without my approval. I didn’t want to do it for my family, I had to make the decision to do it for me. I am mentally healthier and feel more energized, mobil, and stronger than ever!!! Just remember, do it for you! ❤️❤️❤️
So true. It has to start mentally first and to love who you are first as a person. Cause if not, it will just feel like you are being pressured, that it's just a chore and that no matter what you do, it will feel like it's just a waste of time.
I hope that I'll be in the state you are in now soon.
Youre damn inspiring Arielle. Not afraid to speak the truth and its damn important. Thank you. I love how in-depth you go on these topics, you take a critical look and that's so important. We need a HELL of a lot more critical thinking like this.
Lol when you said your heaviest was 120 i was like woah I can’t imagine that you weighed as much as I (a stocky 5’11’’ male) before I realised you meant 120 lbs 🤣
There are actually women with hormone issues, PCOS and Thyroid issues that are difficult to control even with medication. It's not an excuse to eat unhealthy and not exercise, but it can and often does make losing weight very difficult.
Why is nobody talking about the health conditions that so many women are born with that diet and exercise dont fix
@@alivc2458 Because people who are born healthy forget that bodies are different.
@@lalexander1144 Thank you for having a brain with actual working brain cells! :)
Thank you👏 I have pcos too. Its incredibly hard to lose weight. Possible but hard. As ridiculous as it sounds i swear its almost privilege to speak like "oh its so easy to change your weight" when there's people suffering from serious medical issues that make that hard. I stick to body positivity. I love my body regardless of its shape/size along with the physical issues I get from my pcos. I accept it and I work towards being happy and healthy now😊❤
@@ChaCherryBomb1313 Good for you!
Diets often fail, but it's untrue that they "don't work"... Realistically, it's about life style, not diet in a vacuum...
I was 170lbs maybe 180lbs soaking wet, so not thin but not big. I started dating a feeder because I believed they loved me, but I was wrong, I was their fetish. I ballooned up to 280lbs so almost 100lbs more. I left them when I realized it was toxic and as of being with a new partner it's been extremely difficult for me to lose the weight. I'm 250lbs now and have IBS, I don't recommend being fat. It's not healthy.
Hey, girl! I have been in two long term abusive relationships and i want to say dont be so open! Thats what attracts narcissists. They see we are emotional and passionate and therefore easy to manipulate
Remember, it’s not only exercise, it’s always about calories. If you eat too many calories no matter how much you exercise you won’t lose weight if your calories intake if higher than the calories being burned.
Funny, I'm a huge dude on a diet (thanks, Covid) and lost 14kgs (30 pounds?) in 5 months. Diets do work and it's great to be healthy. I still have a long way to go but I'm sure I'll be fine!
I'm 1,98m tall (6'6?) and my original weight was 152kgs (335 pounds?) and I started dieting because my friends would bully me to take care of myself because that is what real friend do. Tough love is sometimes needed.
Be what you want, wear what you want, do what you want....but don't fool yourself that being obese is healthy.
They probably think Covid is fat-shaming them. 🤦
I am a 63 year old male who once weighed 480 lbs. I am 6 ft. tall and now weigh 300 lbs. I will most likely always be a "big" guy...but I get up at 2:30 am. to workout everyday before I go to work. I am very health conscious about life. I eat well, and after a very difficult ten yeas of loss in my life, I am slowly healing and becoming healthy in mind as well. At my top weight, I had a friend give me a CD about healthy eating. No judgment. A few days later I collapsed and almost died. My Dr. told me I had some choices to make. I had to choose to live. I made that choice. It is a journey. There is a big difference between shame and encouragement. I think we should not be judging or shaming. But never stop encouraging others to live healthy because we love them. Off topic....Arielle, you won my heart with the way you gave a quick kiss to the puppy. It was truly a tender moment that speaks of the kindness of your character and heart.
You have never devalued someone for being a certain size. Part of valuing someone is caring for them and genuinely being invested in their well being, not encouraging self destruction. Good discussion.
I have morbidly obese friends who select doctors based upon them not mentioning their weight. Why even go to the doctor if you don't actually want health care, but just an ego stroking?
Omg, that's crazy. They're like " If I choose not to see the problem then It doesn't exist "
If I see you getting 1/4 of the cake, on a party with 15 people, i'm gonna tell you to stop.
The difference between obesity and smoking/excessive drinking etc is that we all know and accept its risks and the health problems of the latter, and the former has a growing movement that actively denies those risks.
Wait what’s fat acceptance.....ohhh I forgot about that movement
I am carrying an extra 40 pounds. Due to my eating and not working on my feet. Im dieting and exercising because I need to live! My knees hurt my back hurts my stomach hurts and I get breathless
Watching decades of medical research about obesity being so aggressively opposed is INSANE
As a personal trainer I've dealt with the obesity epidemic year round for 15 years. It saddens me when people choose to be unhealthy.
But what does harm is all of this feminist propaganda over obesity. Implying that a woman's obesity is not her fault, that she should be rewarded for it, and that a guy who isn't sexually attracted is basically a racist. 👎
At least obese men aren't entitled and deluded over it. If they choose to be fat, they know why it happened. They don't whine or make excuses on social media with "fat phobia", "diet culture" or "thin privilege". They didn't create an industry to promote or glorify obesity like plus size modeling. Most of all, they don't claim obesity is positive.
In the end nobody is born obese and it's a result of your own choices. It's not a medical condition or a disease. If you choose to be obese that's fine. But stop trying to convince yourself that it's a natural healthy state of being or that you can't change. 💯
I'm obese. My health service has a BMI calculator which categorises you. If ever I've told people in conversation that I'm obese they jump with "oh no no don't say that". I laugh because it's factual. Let's not sugar coat truth. Being obese is a poor way to treat your body and I don't want to be like this forever. I can't understand anyone who would want that.
I’m obese too
I applaud your courage and eloquence. Keep up the good work.
Just found your page and thank you so much for making this content!!
So I'm all for health, right? Obesity is bad ofc and anyone being like yeah, stay unhealthy is super bad. But there is historically disproportionate abuse in health care targeting fat people. Some extreme sizes are def out of line for health but we have doctors who glorify recorded anorexic behavors because a fat woman was engaging in them...should we not be concerned? I say make women feel great in their bodies so that if they feel like changing their body up on their own terms, they don't have aggressive diet marketing making them feel like shit or making their genuine goals feel like nothing worth celebrating. And, if you personally aint into bigger people, just minding your own will do wonders. Some big people genuinely get death threats and I gotta wonder why people mind someone else's buisness so damn much that you wanna kill them. Just do you.
Thank you. I've been searching these comments for anything that understands how harmful fatphobia is. Yes, your health comes first, if it can. Health and weight aren't intrinsically linked. Let people find a size that they are comfortable and healthy in, instead of dictating it for them.
@@averyprice1771 or thin people creating content without a deeper understanding of what body positivity is about/ twisting the narrative so that it seems like fat people are trying to persuade other people into being fat. No, I actually just don’t appreciate being the target for discrimination and harassment... which is the point of the movement. The reflection in this video to turn it once again into a conversation about how fat people shouldn’t be bullied but also should stfu about how we are treated doesn’t sit right with me.
Biggest concern re being overweight is high blood pressure and diabetes. Not good and now that we have Covid, really have to avoid these conditions.
I’ve been following you for a while but just started to watch your channel. I love you Arielle 😍🥰🥰
FAs don't consider it "body shaming" when they are calling us skinny bi--hes, skeletal or accuse us of having an ED. Not a lot of self-awareness within that community.
So my Dad knew a doctor who was (and probably still is) researching the relation between gut biota (the bacteria in your stomach) and mental health, because there is a link between what we eat and how we feel mentally. That's not to say that in order to be mentally stable you need to only eat lean meat and vegetables. And there is definitely going to be pre-dispositions for some people, where a poor diet may trigger mental health problems. But I think a lot, if not most, people don't realise how intertwined our physical and mental health are. And I think loving your body should be trying to take care of both of those things as best as you can.
At 5’2, i went from 130 to 102 and i feel so much better about myself :))
Btw while i am technically mildly underweight, I do have tiny skeleton so i was built like a fat person at 130 lol. AND i have the opposite of the skinny face. 102 ilbs body, but chubby face lmaoo
Hey dude any progress is goo progress keep up the good work bro
A part of loving your body and being positive is taking care of your body and keeping it healthy.
I love the videos you put out Arielle! You rock!! This is so important!! ♥️
All this craziness is literally the end of Empire stuff.
My wife has almost no thyroid (hashimotos syndrome). If anyone could “never lose weight”, it would be her. She’s lost 45 pounds in 6 months with carnivore diet + one-meal-a-day. So anyone claiming they “can’t lose weight”...BS.
The movement where there’s no movement
I gotta thank them because they are the reason I go all out at the gym, to become the exact opposite of them
Go to any part of the world that doesnt sell food containing excessive sugar and fat content and you'll find very less obese people there. Nobody becomes fat by eating too many apples. Just stop eating unhealthy. It's difficult and may seem unfair if you have low metabolism, but it's the same as smoking and drinking for short term pleasure and relief at the cost of long term health risk. If these people got fat by smoking, I'm sure they'd argue that smoking is completely natural and healthy.
The people who were reassuring me that I looked healthy and “women need a bit of fat to look good” are the ones who kept me from bettering myself a lot sooner
From a fat person I totally agree. However I do think it is absolutely fine and is a good thing to be comfortable in your own skin at ANY size! You should want to lose weight to look after your health not to look 'better' it took me a long time to be comfortable in my own skin and I don't plan on feeling on how I felt at 15 when I thought I was the fat girl but really was very normal. I know I need to lose weight for health long term and those acting like it doesn't hurt being larger annoy me so much.
I"m not going to lie to you. If you're not beautiful, I'm not going to tell you that you ARE beautiful.
When you are fat you are unhealthy.
Check W.H.O
I mean do we have to speak about heart cardiac attacks...?
For me, I only live once, so I'm living life to the fullest. :D
Come out as not thin? Umm what are the pictures are for.
Thank you for talking about this! This movement is complete garbage, and worse, it’s actually killing people. So sad and the things these self righteous big women say is such garbage, the way they carry like they’re such victims. Wa! 👎🏼
Whenever a fat person tells you 'they've tried everything,' they haven't. They tried everything except what they should be doing. When I was 372 lbs I made the same excuses "I tried EVERYTHING!" When in reality, I tried every fad diet and never stuck to any of them... because they are diets and they are not sustainable.
What made me lose 187 pounds was eating real food. No fast food, no processed food, no dairy, no simple carbs, just whole foods. Beans, eggs, chicken breast, all kinds of vegetables, fruits, sweet potatoes, wild rice... actual food in its original form (I did eat nuts as well, but really portioned those out because they are very calorie dense). Once I did that, the weight naturally came off and I felt so much better that I WANTED to exercise. I felt full instead of hungry all the time. I didn't even have to count calories because what I was eating was filling and not calorie dense. No alcohol, no juice, no sugary drinks/desserts only water.
People haven't 'tried everything.' They try everything EXCEPT what they should have been doing all along, and that's change WHAT they eat, not necessarily how much they eat. People just don't want to give up their junk food, and I'm sorry, if you're obese, there's a high chance you have a food addiction. In fact, the processed garbage we eat all the time is designed to get people addicted to it. They are calorie dense but not filling, designed to make you feel more hungry so you consume and buy more of their product.
Even thin people can get addicted to food and become fat. It happens all the time now. It's why over 70% of Americans are overweight and nearly 50% are OBESE. You can't keep eating this garbage and expect results. I gave it all up, and I'm so glad I did. I went from 372 pounds to 187 pounds and I feel better than I've ever felt in my life. I was an obese child and adult, and I'm 39 now. People who say "well I've been fat all my life so it must be my genes" are completely wrong. Obesity is a cycle that's hard to break, because being fat makes it harder to lose weight (I know, should be obvious right?). All the hormonal changes that come along with being obese, the metabolic syndrome, sleep apnea, diabetes, makes it much harder to lose weight... at first. But once you get to a certain threshold, your body starts to adapt. Once you feed it proper food, it adapts and the metabolic damage goes away.
I wish it didn't take me 37 years to figure out the 'secret' to losing weight and keeping it off. Really it was no secret at all, and once I got past the 3 month hurdle of letting my body get used to clean eating, everything worked. If I could go back and tell younger me that this was all I had to do, I would have never gotten to almost 400 pounds.
Arielle, dieting IS unhealthy.
Eating right and exercising a little is healthy.
Not eating enough and/or over exercising is unhealthy.
Constantly worrying about your weight, what you eat and what you look like is unhealthy.
But promoting obesity is also unhealthy. Woke culture is toxic, if you don't see it, it's because you're either too blinded by their good intentions or too stubborn to accept facts. I don't support Trump but I don't support woke culture either because of things like this.
Ireally- LOVE!!! ^^^^^^
I never said dieting was healthy
@@95maferisturiz I never said obesity was healthy.
@@arielle You weren't clear.
Im part of the smoking positivity movement.
I love everything about this video! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! ❤
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