I might not be a man but this hits close to home. Growing up I was taught by my parents and the people around me that feeling emotion (negative emotion) shows that you're unstable and you don't know how to control yourself. And because of that I've never learned how to process negative emotions. My mother was the "suck it up" type and she never really approved of tears or conflict in her house, and my father was the deadbeat type that expected to be first in everyone's mind but never put an effort to place anyone before himself. So as a result of that I don't know how to confront people or deal with conflict, and even worse, I don't know how to deal with conflict within myself. Instead I've learned to avoid the emotions, or to push them down as deep as they will go and to keep on the mask. Relationships never feel deep enough for me, probably because I've never learned to allow people to see beyond the carefully regulated emotions I leave on the surface. I live life with a facade. That I'm calm and collected, self-sufficient and always happy all the time when, in truth, I feel like I'm breaking at the seams. And the worst part is that I feel ashamed for feeling even still. I don't know when I'll heal but this video was like looking into the window of a house and seeing an overview of my life: a carefully constructed home with broken furniture inside. But I'll work through it. I'll pick up the pieces and rebuild my life into (hopefully) what it was supposed to be. I have to. Because I'll be damned if I let my future children grow up the same way
Why do you think? Based off the video they would probably pay on how to recover from the societal pressure against men, and how to actually handle your emotions and feelings.
Have you ever seen a man cry about something that really bothers him or over something that he feels powerless against? It's unnerving. Not crying is not about suppressing your emotions, its about controlling them. A man is supposed to be seen as steadfast and an unbreakable foundation that holds up his family. If that foundation shows weaknesses like having no control over their emotions and crying when things get tough the entire thing crumbles. Wives leave, children become afraid and show signs of fear and doubt. It's a good thing to cry, but don't let anyone see it.
Bro I went primary school with guy. Good to see him on the come up
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It's always nice seeing you pop up on my feed, best of luck my man@@alloramomo
I might not be a man but this hits close to home. Growing up I was taught by my parents and the people around me that feeling emotion (negative emotion) shows that you're unstable and you don't know how to control yourself. And because of that I've never learned how to process negative emotions. My mother was the "suck it up" type and she never really approved of tears or conflict in her house, and my father was the deadbeat type that expected to be first in everyone's mind but never put an effort to place anyone before himself.
So as a result of that I don't know how to confront people or deal with conflict, and even worse, I don't know how to deal with conflict within myself. Instead I've learned to avoid the emotions, or to push them down as deep as they will go and to keep on the mask. Relationships never feel deep enough for me, probably because I've never learned to allow people to see beyond the carefully regulated emotions I leave on the surface. I live life with a facade. That I'm calm and collected, self-sufficient and always happy all the time when, in truth, I feel like I'm breaking at the seams. And the worst part is that I feel ashamed for feeling even still.
I don't know when I'll heal but this video was like looking into the window of a house and seeing an overview of my life: a carefully constructed home with broken furniture inside.
But I'll work through it. I'll pick up the pieces and rebuild my life into (hopefully) what it was supposed to be. I have to. Because I'll be damned if I let my future children grow up the same way
This is just so relatable it actually hurts
Based and true
Based. Y’all need to learn how to deal with your emotions. Not just men. Everyone.
I’d pay to get taught this
Why?
Why do you think? Based off the video they would probably pay on how to recover from the societal pressure against men, and how to actually handle your emotions and feelings.
i watch youtube to relieve stress and anxiety
wow
Have you ever seen a man cry about something that really bothers him or over something that he feels powerless against? It's unnerving.
Not crying is not about suppressing your emotions, its about controlling them. A man is supposed to be seen as steadfast and an unbreakable foundation that holds up his family. If that foundation shows weaknesses like having no control over their emotions and crying when things get tough the entire thing crumbles. Wives leave, children become afraid and show signs of fear and doubt.
It's a good thing to cry,
but don't let anyone see it.
Or maybe we should change the fact that crying is seen as so weak that it could apparently destroy a family if noticed…
Yes
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You should feel but men need to be strong for a successful society. Physically and mentally.
BETA
How
Emotional baby 😂@@iInspireSuccess
@anthonyb.9365 what
Lol
@@anthonyb.9365Uh oh emotions =beta 🤣💀
Ok