Q&A: Dating, Anxiety, Italy, YouTube, Travel Alone, Sensitive Introverts
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- čas přidán 14. 08. 2018
- Thanks so much to everybody who has either left a comment for this Q&A or sent me a DM privately on Instagram. In this video my best friend Brian and I chat about dating, love, how to deal with being a shy introvert and having panic attacks or anxiety in social situations, how to move to Italy or to a foreign country and live alone or travel alone, the truth about making videos or vlogs or starting a CZcams channel, my favourite films and more. Part 2 will be out very very soon. We couldn't fit all your questions into one video! WE LOVE YOU so much. Thank you for your support!
Kylie (and Brian)
You can find me on Instagram here:
/ kylieflavell
And Brian is @Brizarussell
Kylie, you have passion and wisdom beyond your years. You're one of the few true beauties of the world (both inside and out). I look forward to your videos and have no problem waiting for them. You deliver such high quality videos. You are very lucky to have a friend like Brian.
Lol you guys are so bubbly and positive. Your channel is my go-to place for when I feel hopeless. I've never gotten the ability to travel unfortunately but it's a dream and goal I'm working towards and your content and wonderful spirit always help me get right back on track and inspire me to keep fighting. I personally love wandering alone, you attract so many wonderful people from old people at a bar who tells you their life story over a couple drinks to people you meet at a beach and have a long conversation with while listening to music. Wandering alone is truly the best thing for an introvert and it has taught me the kindness of strangers and the beauty of people in general as you can sympathize with every person around you not knowing who will be involved in the next beautiful moment in your life.
William Rosa Ohhhhh this is so beautiful! I really love knowing my channel might be that type of comfort for someone. YES solo walks are my favourite!!! 💕💕💕💕
Kylie! Thank you and Brian for sharing:) I had a similar experience moving to France at 21 during Uni and calling my mom after 6 months sobbing uncontrollably that I needed to come home, in large part due to the social anxiety and not fitting in to the local culture. Ever since I have had a crippling fear of failure and disappointment that I wasn't as adventurous or adaptable as I had aspired. That was two years ago and that fear of failure has thankfully begun to turn into a fear of NOT TRYing, trying again to live as an expat or going after my dream job or just creating a meaningful life for myself. I just wanted to tell you that your tenacity and dedication to keep going has truly been such an inspiration. Never change
Brooke McNerny Aw you’re so sweet!!! Thank you for sharing this with me! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
You and Brian are a winning team, so much positivity and lightness is a pure Joy to experience. We want more episodes of Kylie and Brian. Thank you, Peter
Oh my God, I am in one of Kylie's videos! 😍 Thank you so much for giving me that advice! I've been in the USA for over three weeks now and so far everything is great! It's true that you just need to face your fears and throw yourself in there. I know that I'll probably also be confronted with difficult situations or homesickness in the future, but I realized now that this is how life works - it's like a rollercoaster. Even just being here for a couple of weeks made me grow so much. Thank you again!
Lots of love from my new second home! 🇺🇸
You two are so beautiful! I truly have never felt so much emotion on CZcams until I found this channel! Loved crying and laughing though this video with you guys!
Kylie, the bit about you starting a youtube channel is such a beautiful reminder. I want you to know I feel like I'm in the same boat. I have been making content I wish I was seeing and your videos definitely stand out amongst the rest. Thank you for continuing to push and climb to share stories. I support your patreon because I believe in what you're doing. Keep it up!!! The cat watching the two of you dance at the end cracked me up! Excited for part 2!
We love il gatto too ... he had had a tough night of street fighting. So he was a bit exhausted. Hopefully he enjoyed the show.
Brian is like “I should take some of my own advice “ LOL 😂
Having lived in Milan, Italy for let's say, decades... Oh how I can associate w everything you present... Love your vlog every time but it hasn't appeared on my page, yet, I've been a subs. Only yesterday this very vlog appeared. Always picturesque, poetic, pure depiction of Italy. Continued enjoyment on "la dolce vita" of yours. Sincerely, a widow of an Italian husband whom I lost in 2014 and now I'm living back in Indonesia, my wonderful country too, and happy about it. Italy has been a big chapter of my life, good or bad.
This was fun. Looking forward to more videos. They are different, so keep keeping on.
So glad to see you so HAPPY!! Celebrate life with people who love you!! You’re a sunshine 🌞 to so many of us. You deserve the BEST!! Thank you for the wonderful video🤗
Take care.
Garota de Ipanema ah you’re SO sweet 🤗🤗🤗
Kylie Flavell
Thank you!! You too darling 😘
Thank you so so much 😘 I love that you both are so open, I think it's such a great thing to be vulnerable ❤
Chantal Elzinga Thanks for sending a question! 😍😍😍
You’re a beautiful person inside and out Kylie and everything you said about CZcams is so true and it’s what’s been on my mind. 💚
Sharleen Maez 😘😘😘 so glad you liked it.
That was such a great production Kylie!
I love your content and your insta stories, they inspire me every day so much that I decided to give it a shot and if I succeed continue my education in Rome as a foreigner! You seem so true and real in all your emotions and your experiences it makes me admire you even more! Both your and Brians fragility makes me want to expose that part of myself more.
That really honest Q&A was worth waiting for.
Sending my love and support to both of you
Beautiful content which I can identify with; thank you both, Brian & Kylie, your openness. On to your next vlog now.
I loved this video-- thank you for being so vulnerable and honest! I really like the way Brian explained about taking on the energy of the people you are around. I always very much feel others' emotions, and I've never really understood why so this is a great way of thinking of it for me. Also the bit about traveling alone really inspires me! I've traveled quite a bit but never by myself, and I think I have a lot to learn about myself in doing so-- preferably in Italy! Can't wait for part 2!
Torie Grassi thank you for making us feel so comfortable to be vulnerable and honest! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Torie Grassi you are an empath x
Adore you both 😘😘 love these glimpses into a more personal side and the amazing humor and joy that you both emit! Hugs and kisses from 🇮🇱
You Guys! I love the both of you together so much! I laughed and I cried haha 😂 thank you so much for brighting up my day! ❤️
Weeatlovetravel Awww so happy to read this!!!
I relate to so many things that you two talk about. You are further away on that process, so it’s really great to hear your point of view on how things evolve with time. Thanks for that 🤓
What a lovely smile you have! I love the way you speak different languages. Pretty appealing personality! Loads of love and good wishes😊.
I love this guys! Really love the FAQ style that you produced! Super casual and oooozing Italian appeal! Greetings and love from another Greek/Aussie expat living in Italy!
Tina Benias thank you so much 🙏🙏
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
the part where you said "it's scarier to consider staying in my hometown my whole life" really struck a chord with me. I'm from a tiny town in California and I want nothing more than to just get out and see the world. I'm going to a community college in my tiny town and am thinking of transferring to the closest university to save money so I can see the world after I graduate. But that's three years away and I am absolutely terrified that I'm going to get stuck here and not be able to get away. I love your videos by the way, I think they are so beautifully made and the way you talk is so comforting. Keep up the amazing work!!
Oh Kylie and Brian...what a divine video and what a beautiful friendship! I really recognised myself when you were speaking of those sleepless nights where you wonder if you said the right thing? Was the delivery ok? Did it all come across OK and as intended? Aghhhh🙈. I have never travelled alone and would love to do that. I also think it may give you a beautiful vulnerability that you may not have if you travel with a friend or a partner?! Ok sorry, will stop thinking out loud now☺️. Can’t wait for part two!
Armita Asgari YAY!!! We over-thinkers must stick together!!! 😘😘😘😘💕💕💕💕💕
You should have more subscribers OMG I found you 3 days ago and can not to stop watching your videos!
AHHH watching your videos always make my day!! they are so creative and cinematic it inspires me 💗💗
jen 💕💕💕
Beautiful and genuine people! ❤️ it’s like chatting with close friends! Love you both and thank you for sharing your true Selves! Sending love! 😍 ps. Hope the pizza was delicious 😋
Kinga Uggla thank you so much gorgeous!! 💕💕💕💕
Hug Brian. I am a confident person and also totally relate to your accurate, down-to-earth description of how panic attacks lead to more generalised anxiety, especially when start young with less knowledge and therefore ability to contain them.
I think you and Kylie are awesome and a magnificent team. Cheers for this connection from someone reaching out beyond the burbs to my younger, brave, optimist and adventurous self!.. 😘 xx
Brian’s laugh tho...it’s everything ❤️🤗
Gracie, I used to get in trouble at school, and embarrassed about it, but now I do it proudly. Often waking up Kylie’s neighbours ahah
Love you Kylie thank you so much for these amazing Q&A video.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Smit Kalkani thank you - your compassion for me and support of my work always amazes me. I read your DMs and they give me tremendous hope that kind unselfish people exist in the world. You needn’t have deleted your question. I think unfortunately, there is some social class distinction in Italy as there is in most countries in the world. I will say that Italians, however, have this daily habitual contact with others more than most privileged countries. At least in Rome, I’ve found most businessmen will greet and chat with a barista, a florist or anyone in a position that pays far less because being social and joking or chatting is very much a part of their culture. I think hot climates also tend to make people open up and live in a slightly more informal way. I hope this gives you some insight. 💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏🙏
hey we have been missing you!
great video as usual and nice to see so clearly through the window of your life!
Christian Comes thank you Christian - sorry for the delay! Been working on lots of different projects that I will be sharing this month!
Your filmmaking talent, passion for what you do, vibe and personality are incredible and what a fun duo you are with your lovely friend! All the best to both of you!:)
You both have a great energy!
oh this is sooo sweet, and I think everyone of us would love to just sit down with the two of you and have a pizza together. stay as you are..its rare
Since you made today a video talking about him, I rewatched this video cuz remembered you had such a great conversation with all the laughing. Love you, bff
What a BEAUTIFUl channel. I just discovered you yesterday Kylie and have been binge-watching your videos ever since! I travel to Perugia in one week (ahhh!) to study abroad for the year and am just in such a dream-state. Watching your videos reminds me that feeling this way is a beautiful thing and that I should lean into my dreams instead of fearing them. I am so honored and grateful that you share your journey with us through your films, and hope to meet you one day! I'm not sure the best way to reach out to you, but I hope to hear from you soon! xx -Mia Lisette
MissMiaLisette what a beautiful message. Thank you so much and good luck with your new life! I’m sure you’ll have so many adventures in one year!!
Thank you for your honestly .we love your videos and will watch you all the way
When Kylie met Patrick seems like a lifetime ago. Watching the rapport you have with Brian is so much fun. I especially love it when he goes 🤐. But you basically finish each other’s thoughts so succinctly. Bellisimo! Bravo! 👏👏👏👏❤️
oh and by the way, great job with the Q&A, both of you!.
Travis Kemp thank you Travis!! 🙏
Haha, just saw this after watching and commenting on episode 2 - thank you for answering my question.
I LOVE Brian! I am so happy you have your dear friend there with you now! Life is good! Enjoy cara! XOXO
Grazie tesoro xxx
Brian Russell Prego!! 🤗😊
shioI enjoyed this im glad to hav watched it. Would have beeen helpful to post the part 2 link in the drop down.
Brian seems lovely i love his personality its addictivw to watch. you both have got a great rapport together. What a beautiful friendship. I got social anxiety too i dont like packed places.
I love your videos! Can’t wait to travel to Italy next year on my own 💪🏾❤️
Jess S ♥️♥️♥️
What you are describing is called hypersensitivity. An deeper sense of knowing and awareness. It shows in your creativity and your light. Perhaps Italy is a safe place for you to be yourself. Just came across your videos and am amazed at how you found how to be you at a young age.
the laughter is a sweet comfort sound. 😎💜 you both seem so comfortable with each other too,
such friendship is precious and soul food for the heart. I love watching you both together,
some would envy or be jealous of what you both have but not me because this type of friendship is built on a solid foundation you both created and thats the beauty I see, rather than thinking of self and what I don't have..what I do have is feeling the joy for you both sharing yourselves here.
do you watch Sofia Loren movies? she is beautiful and I loved getting to know her by her story.
thank you both for bringing a smile to my heart.
much 💜✨ Levi-Daisy from Australia
Your short film inspired me in my life
Continued have a nice day.
Omg..... Is like having fun with you guys and laughing with. Like u are my friends. You are such a cutie
Your videos are very helpful. Thank you so much!
I want to visit Japan for a few weeks, and Vietnam! Italy was fab in Florence and Rome! Great video.
I was freaking out about my bag full of yet unread books from the library and 500-strong international film collection until I came across your CZcams mini-productions today. And I sigh a big breathe of relief, hope and sense of purpose (I am not going entirely (stir-)crazy!!) 😊🥳😎😘🙏🎥
PS As an addition, you know what it is like lending films out and never seeing them again (and people have not even watched them..! Grrr), but it strikes me that you might be interested is genuinely sharing as you so generously, proactively and productively have. Please do let me know if I can help provide any films you are interested in watching and discussing.
Nic xx
I just don't understand how you haven't racked up a million subscribers yet... your videos and spirit are of the absolute highest quality. I just became a patreon of yours, just a small amount because I'm a starving student but I just want to see you skyrocket and become the legend you deserve to be. Not that 40k isn't a lot because it is. And you have already left a legacy, but I just want to support your dream. I love you Kylie, and you've changed my life. And thousands of others. That's something none of those "famous" youtubers have. You have made an irrevocable contribution to people's lives and I hope you wake up every morning knowing how your words touch others. God bless you tesoro.
4:00 A.M. is the perfect hour for a walk in Rome.
Ah guys you are charming! Thank you 😊👍 I'm agree about hopeless, helpless...it's gone some day! Let's your wings groun!🌍💓
LOVE YOU BOTH!
hahaha I love this video, he is actually right, men need to have more initiative! :)
I was like wait - there are BLOOPERS?!? How much more can I laugh?
I also can make great Spanish sangria with lemon juice, orange juice, peach, pear and red grapes, red wine and liquors, brandy torres, licor 43, cointreau and ice cups.
I loved this video! What camera and lens do you use to video and take pictures?
Bravo!! Che bella. Love it! 👏👏👏👏😍
I’m in love with this boy
I adore you guys ❤
The Mystic Chick 😘😘😘😘😘😘
Much enjoyed guys! Kylie I love your editing style in your videos! Fun, very up paced with lots of b-roll footage to keep the story flowing a long!
How has this not blown up yet🤨
Kylie you G, nice content!
Romantics, storytellers, empaths, and lovers of neo-realism unite.
Love your passion, Kylie!!! You're talented and your heart is in the right place. Faccio il tifo per te! Un saluto anche a Brian!
Italy Made Easy Grazie!!! You know the stress of running a CZcams channel better than anyone! Come over for lunch when/if you’re back in Rome from the beach! 😘😘
Ciao Manu! Buon Ferragosto!
Kylie Flavell any time!!! We are almost neighbours these days! I'll be travelling between the 18th and 28th, then free!!! Hai il mio numero di cell?
Brian Russell ciao Brian! Anche a te!!! Fino a quando resti a Roma?
Italy Made Easy - Rientro in Australia il 23 settembre, speriamo di poterci incontrare a Roma.
Beautiful people. Totally real and both intelligent. I am a Flavell to
I’ve been watching your videos for years now. Kylie, you’re such a beautiful and inspiring soul. Just wanted to ask, is there a specific reason for your not drinking alcohol?
I love Brian too and your duo is amazing. I had this crazy but very cherished dream since I have found out about gays. It was having a gay guy friend. And I come from very conservative muslim country. I dont tell much about my dream to people other than the close ones and those who are open-minded enough to respect my dream😊. Brian encapsulates that friend I was dreaming about. He is awesome. As are you😉.😘😘😘
my question is can we hang out with the both of you when im next in Rome?! hehehe my bestie lives there, she’s a Siciliana and I’m actually there often :)
sending you loads of positive vibes and kisses from London❤️❤️❤️
and pleeease make more q&a’s with Brian :)) xxxx
also WHERE did you get that skirt??
EVERYONE SHOULD TRAVEL ALONE FOR A MINIMUM THREE MONTH PERIOD (You will learn to be more resilient, overcome challenges, and be a better YOU for it.)
It is a wonderful learning experience.
REMEMBER - MOST PEOPLE ARE KIND - AND EVERYONE UNDERSTAND THE LANGUAGE OF HELPING. (You'll be surprised by this.)
The overwhelming thing you'll find, is that we all just look a little bit different, do things different and speak a bit differently - but ALL OF US want the same things out of life.
EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS OUT THERE - JUST GO AND EARN IT!
I’m a student living in Japan right now, I’m 27 and I’ve never lived in my own until I moved to Japan so I experience homesickness a lot more often than most so I try to call home a lot more often but there’s a lot of embarrassing moments where I just start crying on the train home from work and I had my first panic attack 5 months ago. I have always struggled with anxiety but moving abroad has definitely made it worse and I am still learning how to deal with it. How do you and Brian handle your anxiety everyday? Are there things you do in the morning or night to calm the morning anxiety and calm your mind at night to sleep to help you?
Jackson Carine Hey beautiful! So I have lived in Asian and European countries and I have to say that while I adore Japan, it is a lot more challenging with the alienation as an expat than Italy. That said, my time living alone in Japan gave me more strength and courage than any other experience overseas. I was in the south where not many people speak English. In my first months in a county I try to only socialise with locals so that I can improve my language skills and understand their culture but then I realised I was often being too tough on myself and the first time I found a fellow expat in Japan and we just sat and ate onigiri and laughed it struck me that I had been in desperate need of confirmation that what I was feeling was not me being weak or crazy - it was what many other expats in Japan were going through and crying over too! Sometimes you can’t even talk to family or friends back home because they can’t truly understand the little moments of stress or alienation (or even triumph when you manage to assimilate in some small way) like a fellow expat. I have always found great comfort and strength in reading books by expats who have had my same experience and come out the other side once they’ve adjusted to life in that country. I’m trying to think of what I read back in Japan. 🤔 Another thing that helped was tutoring local people because it’s a way to form a friendship with people one on one and learn about them slowly and also force yourself out of the house when you just feel like curling up and watching a film (or CZcams) and not facing the world. I also kept a journal. It helped me clarify my thoughts and fears and then when a month had passed and I felt despairing and assumed my situation was not evolving at all, I could look back and realise that actually, I was making progress emotionally and culturally without even noticing it.
Kylie Flavell yea I have been studying Japanese for about 5 years so assimilation hasn’t been a problem for but definitely feeling like I’ve progressed or grown in anyway it just feels like every spiraled out of control and got worse emotionally for me but thank you very much I’ll try journaling grazie 🙏🏽
Jackson Carine I totally understand. I spoke Japanese and studied it for many years and locals were always so kind to me but they say that there is a very unique type of alienation that one experiences in Japan - I almost feel like it makes those of us who have really lived there a part of this private club because few can understand why it is this love/hate relationship. I have so much respect for anyone who has attempted an expat life in Japan. You should be so proud of yourself - even if you have anxious days. Penelope Green has written many books about being an expat in Italy and after it being such a dream of hers for so long, she found the reality of feeling lonely and out of place to be quite depressing. It’s important for us to read stories like this to realise we’re actually taking on quite a challenge. I would also suggest trying to perhaps form a little group - a book club even. I know it sounds cheesy or old fashioned but sometimes living in Italy or Japan or Spain I would often forget how much we need that little support network of people. Putting a little ad online somehow or at your local cafe can seem silly - you assume there is no one in your neighbourhood who you might actually want to hang out with once a week or who is feeling like you are crying on trains - BUT THERE IS!!! I cry in public often! Hahaha! 🙈 Sending you much love. If there’s anything I can do to help or any question I can answer please ask!
Kylie Flavell it’s true I definitely feel apart of a little club of a few people who have experienced what we experienced living in Japan, it a very special but can be a lonely and isolating feeling. I’m so happy to have become apart of this little community of people. Thank you inspiring to try and be better.
Hi sweetie, I would try and sit and think about what most excites you about your day, and try and do more of that. For example, when I was really down it was yoga for me. Or listening to music out on a walk or sitting in a park. I know it sounds obvious, but by doing something continuously that can only bring you joy is helpful. Of course there are times we have to work or do unjoyable things... but if you get stuck in a rut that’s what I would try. My councillor used to say it’s actually impossible to be anxious and relaxed at the same time. Because I used to say, “I go for a walk in a park, I do my breathing exercises and I’m still having panic attacks”... so I then though maybe I’m not having anxiety, I’m more sad and depressed. I hope this helps, but never be afraid to seek help if you need it. XO
Hi when do you put the video with camp of ray romania edition?
Dragoiu Andrei Andrei!!! So great to meet you! I have a lot of editing to do so it will take a little time! 👩🏼💻👩🏼💻 I will message you when it’s ready!! 😘😘
@@KylieFlavell ok thank you
You are both (empath) power in spiritual world
Someone should invent a microphone that is also a fan at the same time; it'd be very useful in Summer nights Q&A. 😁
y u no use fan ??
What you should think if i make bellini cocktail our grand mimosas, it's not grand marnier our st germain elderflower make you drunk but it's the champagne. If do not like orange juice or white peach. I can make for you a sgroppino cocktail. I use france Vodka, make homemade Lemon Granité with limoncello and mixed with vanille ice cream top it bit of Louis Roederen Brut Champagne let it in the fridge to cool down 45 minutes. Do it in champange glass and top with champangen.
Fab, honest & harsh opinion on the youtube non creative "culture" Kylie. You do have fantastic content, every video makes me wonder how many hours of thought, tweaking etc. has been put into your content.
I did want to ask, what is the equipment you're using please, camera, mic, tripod etc... by asking that, by no means am saying that it it's your equipment that results in the fantastic content. Not at all! 😊 Just respectfully want some guidance on equipment. Love your content!!!
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What IS "the fast track" ? What is that? Is it obvious? Is it like bad, or shllow, or ....?
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Very curious about the fact that you don’t drink. You never drink. ? That’s amazing. 👍🏼😍
Hi kylie you are nice and very beautiful and your energy wow. Your vlog very very professional.
Your face dream from me
I love you.
Dreamguy
id say you will gain a large fan base you would take your film editing talents to india. i can tell u where to go and what to do if u want that are not yet clichè and i think you will still connect with people. or also feel free to make your own plan there. too much ancient mysteries there...
Has Brian seen you with Guido. I know Brian is gay, but he is also your soulmate.
Pinterest.com good views if building a business
haha sometimes you speak like someone from my own mind speaking. :))
Romantics, storytellers, empaths, and lovers of neo-realism unite.