Nesha V. Frazier They seem genuinely confused. Gender is not stereotypes. Women that identify with short hair have to be trans men? Does being tomboyish mean being a man? You can't imagine yourself into a gender.
If you go on their Instagram accounts, you’ll find two lovely people who work hard to promote tolerance, understanding, equal rights, and love. You don’t have to understand or agree with the way they choose to run their lives, but these judgmental comments are atrocious and unnecessary. You don’t like it, then don’t do the same things in your own life.
Curious... You make it clear '...you don't have to agree....etc etc...', which should mean people can have ANY opinion and share that opinion....But you basically say people can't. If there are no absolutes and no right and wrong....and tolerance is supposedly blind...why can't people share ALL their opinions??
Nico and Bethany's life is mirrored in the 2019 couple "Why women kill." series, its three different women's lives in the same house over 60 year span, great series and writing.
WHY get married if you're gonna be polyamorous? Like.... Why fucking bother? Already 1 out of 2 people are jealous. Bethany seems to be lying to theirself to keep dancing to Nico's tune. I will never understand that. Because if you ''make room'' for more people to love that puts the relationship stability and trust at risk. There's a reason why they call it the third wheel. Unless they are mormons or whatever. Ugh, I'm triggered sorry, they didn't even properly answer the question why bother getting married.
You guys are redefining what a relationship is defined as for the two of you. Regardless of how your identity, you two have found each other and been honest about your desires with each other. That should be applauded, not looked down upon. I am proud of the love you share with each other and tireless desire to show light to other types of relationships that most people may not understand. I loved Nico first because they are FINE! But honestly, Bethanys constant honesty about her views on body image have provided me additional insight and quite frankly, they FINE too. I respect their differences and love how sweet they look into each other’s hearts.
They couldn’t be lovelier people and their presence in my social media sphere has been so uplifting. If you want to go by she/her or he/him, nobody is stopping you. They’re going by they/them and I don’t lose a bit of sleep over it.
They are an absolutely beautiful couple. They are living their truth and it is a wonderful thing. The life they built together is very special and deserves no judgment. If this is not your truth then you do you.
bethany and nico are such a beautiful inspiring couple who show that love is not confined to anyone else’s bounds. they’re beautiful and happy. and it’s lovely to see.
Hey live your life... I don’t understand this at all in any way and would never live my life this way for any reason... but this is their life and glad they’re happy.
@2freeIvX You must have very limited knowledge of linguistics then 'cuz its been grammatically correct to use they/them as singular or plural for a *long* time. You can't assign a name to someone so nor can you assign their pronouns 😬
I went to the same church with Bethany growing up. She did grow up in a conservative family. It’s shocking to me to see where she is now in life. Not knocking her down or anything. Just shocking
@@mayacharrat6401 The Bible speaks on those who think they have a ticket to heaven friend. Focus on yourself because there very people you believe won't make it will and those who are self righteous gnash their teeth about knowing God. Jesus NEVER EVER said be self righteous but to love EVER SINGLE human regardless of what they have and believe friend.
Having met both of these wonderful humans, it hurts me to read the nasty comments. If you don’t “understand their lifestyle”, that’s fine. It’s not yours to understand. It’s their life and they are living it with love. I recommend more people commenting would inject a little more love into their own lives.
A lot of us just don't understand. I don't understand but I don't judge them. If they're happy and safe then the rest of us need to keep negative opinions to ourselves. They are spreading awareness. I can understand that they are saying, "this is the way we live. This is who we are. You don't have to understand it to like it or accept it. But be respectful and not hateful." I think Nico is a wonderful actor. I binged all seasons of younger on Hulu before I was even aware of how he lived his personal life. Which goes to show what a great actor Nico is. If Nico and bethany are happy, why can't people just be happy for them? They don't go around dissing us straight people. We can offer them the same courtesy.
Two beautiful souls found each other and that’s what matters. If you don’t understand their relationship or “lifestyle” it really doesn’t matter. Spewing hate is not the answer. Their relationship is their relationship and maybe it’s not for everyone but it works for them and that’s what’s important. I’m so here for this representation!!
Getting married but sleeping with other people, that part is just weird to me. The way he put it though, it sounds like the marriage part is more for business purposes, & marriage is somewhat a business arrangement I guess
It is to get the legal rights which come with marriage, both while living and after death of one. My husband died. I am his next of kin. I have legal rights. Those who have just a boyfriend ill or deceased have no rights, not even to make medical decisions, to say goodbye in the hospital or be a part of the funeral without permission from next of kin. By marrying legally, they guarantee their rights to many legal issues in many situations.
Yup I mean we are nobody to tell them how they should live their lives, but I personally wouldn’t see the point in being married if we’d basically be cheating with other people 🤷🏻♀️
@@tannyadeleon2513 "cheating" is cheating because it is secretive, nonconsensual and hidden. I am monogamous, but for polyamorous people, they don't see it as cheating because each partner agrees to be open and both are alway informed of and give consent to each encounter/relationship. Most also have a "home base" (for lack of a better term) relationship that is the root for them, like Nico and Bethany's. Their marriage is still a commitment, it just looks different.
Nikki Mirhosseyni I understand but still a commitment is a commitment whether you like it or not. I mean everyone has their own opinions but things like jealousy are natural feelings as a human being and it’s hard for me to picture relationships like this working out in the long run. That’s just how I view it 🤷🏻♀️
The more I learn about all the different kinds of people on this world, the better person I become myself. Thank you for this report. It's wonderful to see two people doing good things for each other and the world around them. ♥️
Love Nico and Bethany so much ♥️ We don’t have to all agree on every detail of each others’ lives to be inspired by one another. They are such a beautiful example of love and devotion. Simply gorgeous humans. I wish them well in everything they do.
She would be perfectly fine only being with him. You can tell. He is another man who wants the benefits of marriage without actually being married..We are in dark times.
Truth. She admits to dealing with jealousy, and wishing he would feel a little jealous too. He's selfish. If we can see it so quickly, you know he can see it. . . 😒
Wait, soo why tf get married if your going to have multiple sexual partners? You could get health insurance and have children with domestic partners, why get married?
Jeez I wish I would make my font bigger to drown out all the hate with SUPPORT! I see two human beings who are happy and have their life figured out than most other people, and I am so disappointed that there are so many bashing them. KEEP DOING WHAT YOURE DOING Nico and Bethany. You're bringing awareness and showing others that being yourself IS OKAY in this society when others just want you to be "the right way" by their determinations. I'd much rather be "wrong" than be unhappy.
@LAST CALL Damn. Your answer is definitely on point!! At this point, I might as well get a female blowup doll. At least I'll know what I'm dealing with. None of that "Well, I'm feeling alil feminine day, unlike yesterday where I felt more manly" type of stuff
So let me get this straight. A normal relationship consists of being able to have other partners, have sex with other people, being a non binary couple (if u see a normal couple almost 100 pecent of the time will be man and women) so it doesn’t sound too traditional
The "open relationship" thing will wear thin in time. Sharing the one person you love is extremely hard, eventhough you may agree to it at the beginning. Trust me, ive been there...
I adore Nico and Beth and everything they stand for BUT, when Nico said “When I first realized homosexuality was an option...” - its not an option. It’s not a choice. It’s either there or it isn’t. This is the biggest misunderstanding by homophobes.
I don’t think he meant is as a general choice. I think it was more his own “personal” realization that it was okay to be him and figure out the inclusivity he’s speaking about...
@@nicholethereadingmomma9050 they don't mean there's gay and straight and nothing in between, the point they're trying to make is that you can't just decide to be gay, you either are born this way or you're not. Not what I interpreted Nico was trying to say either.
Wow this is all new news to me. I didn't know anything about him outside of Younger. I love his character on there! He's so handsome and his wife is pretty. I never noticed him on red carpet, modeling, or acted in other shows/movies so I am very shocked. He is very brave.
This. Is. Everything!!! They way they look at each other is so heartfelt. Everyone deserves a love like this, regardless of who it comes from. I admire them for being so open about who they are and what makes them happy. Love is love is love.
I would just have such a hard time having a love like that but also having my partner actively pursuing and being interested other people both sexually and emotionally. I know people make it work for them, but I struggle to understand how 🙁
Paris Sinclair I just feel like if it works for them, and they have a loving relationship and very respectful and thoughtful communication with each other, then it isn’t anyone else’s business how they choose to live their lives. Being so in tune with who they are and what they need to be happy is admirable. We don’t have to “understand” it, but we definitely need to respect it.
I saw nico 1st time on Younger & fell in love I mean they r fuckin gorgeous Then I googled both of them And I followed Bethany on IG I luv Bethany These 2 beautiful humans work hard to make the world beautiful Live unapologetically Helping ppl Making a world filled with luv Who cares who loves who and what gender or pronouns they prefer? If you're a genuinely good person none of that should matter
Love this!! The selfless act of nico when he mentions himself wearing a dress to be a voice for people who don’t have that privilege os amazing! Love them all ❤️
Love these two! There is clearly so much love, respect, and joy between them. That’s what builds a lasting relationship. And they have so much courage and faith to be bold and vocal in spite of the unnecessary backlash.
Everyone deserves happiness, monogamy isn’t for everyone. I just honestly can’t fathom the point of getting married just to sleep with everyone else but your partner. It is a growing trend which can be very annoying to go on dating sites to find a boyfriend and then you do and they’re all other peoples boyfriends. To each their own
It's nothing new - many tribal cultures were this complex. It's new to OUR culture. Sort of. There's plenty of gender-bending in our mythologies and some in our history.
Haha yeah but I think I understand the use of the word fluid in that context. We are never only one thing. We are many things, we're all multi-faceted, and we change constantly. Hence the fluid analogy. Having a problem like substance abuse does not define us, but it becomes part of our complex identity. It's a nice way of looking at identity.
Apparently NOTHING is real. Right, Wrong, 2+2=4, NOTHING can be what it is. Everything seems to get deconstructed... And the world gets more divided, deconstructed, backward and nations crumble. But hey! At least people are acting on their own whims, whatever they 'feel' like doing and have chosen self pleasure over every form of that OLD and DUMB idea of absolutes; right, wrong, etc. Lol What a great big wonderful world of debauchery.
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 Doesn't it remind you of The Truman Show? Like reality is no longer the same for everyone, there are no boundaries for anything? Like someone says hey 2+2=2 bro. You're like nah man it's 4, you know you're right. But they become angry, it turns to an argument, and someone else walks over. "You're so rude why would you say that 2+2 IS 2!" Next thing you know you've got 8 people ready to fight you, passionate and certain that they're right. If you're not firmly planted in your mathematics, you'll start to think you're wrong. Even if you've studied math your while life. You'll walk around counting and recounting, questioning if you'd been taught wrong, and basically drive yourself mad trying to figure out how so many people could be so wrong and still be so sure of themselves. Maybe your wrong and if your wrong about something you've studied your whole life, maybe you should rethink everything you know. This is the generation of today, but nah bro 2+2=4 for me. Believe what you want, no love lost.
Steve Dhi I pay for rent, groceries , electricity , car insurance , internet , and I have two very special needs children ... I am more of an adult than most people... oh and I’m a certified foster parent . Soooo how am I not a grownup ???
I do believe open marriages/relationships have always existed just like monogamous marriages/relationships. I respect others choices, but honestly what I don’t like is that nowadays if you say you don’t believe polygamy or that it’s not for you people call you narrow minded and judgmental. You can be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual +++ and still believe in the one and that marriage is something sacred between two people. It is your choice and you shouldn’t be shamed for it, just like people who believe in polyamory and open relationships shouldn’t be shamed for theirs. But it should be allowed to disagree and discuss, if you suppress opinions of people that is how you get extremely polarized sides. Just saying. Be open to hear and accept, but you don’t have to agree. That goes for all. So you people who are saying this is not for you, you have a right to your opinion and for those of you who love this and think this is great you have a right to your opinion. And let’s not forget these two have chosen to openly talk about this, so they have to be able to tolerate that not everyone will find this okay, and I think they are aware of that. Openly discussing and disagreeing is a good thing, people are different and have different levels of tolerance and that needs to be accepted. Go in ✌🏻
Neither do I. But I don't need to. Because to for me...if they're happy and they aren't hurting anyone, who the hell am I to tell them who is and isn't okay to love? Or to tell them who THEY are? Nobody gets to tell anyone else who they are. Love is love.
kayla patterson I can help read “the book of law” from Aleister Crowley circa1904 it literally is the blue print of all this you have a hard time understanding.
Whoa, Nico acts so differently in this interview than on Celebrity Drag Race, they were super over-the-top flamboyant on that episode and are very chill here so now I'm confused which is their true personality. No shade to their relationship or life but I just don't know specifically what they are really like day-to-day with cameras off. Maybe they are still figuring that out, I guess
Maybe both and all? Kinda like how we shift our personality traits around different friend groups and in different settings. Like, do you talk to your grandma the same way you talk to your friends? We don’t change at our core, as in not the way you show love and kindness to people, not your world view, not the way you respect yourself and others; but if you notice there are outward personality traits that shift. We all naturally morph and play with our different personality traits around different groups of people. So I would say both and all are probably true representations of their personality. It’s his core, his heart that doesn’t change.
@@LibbyAnn026 yeah I feel like being around drag queens would bring that out, and also they may feeling like you have to play up that part of your personality to sort of prove you fit in with the group. I've never done it in front of my other gay friends but they are on the set of a show with cameras so that probably adds a whole other level of nuance.
Thank you for making love exactly what you want it. So many people hide in the shadows and never get to fully express themselves and you two have been incredibly brave to do so. Never seen two people more in love.
These are two people living their lives in a positive, inclusive, loving way. I loved his moms line of start putting down lines then you’re in a box. There is more than just man and woman and the societal constructs that have been brow beaten into all of us. Open you’re minds and hearts for once instead of judging people from behind a computer screen.
These are two extraordinary humans who promote nothing but love - for all. Haters only reveal themselves to be broken. I send love to the haters on Bethany and Nico’s behalf. When you see the light, those of us on the side of love will be here to welcome you.
Lynne Schramm this made me tear up I don’t think there is anything wrong with their lifestyle. My mom was impressed with how open I am to be honest it sickens me that people are cruel to people just because of their sexuality or race or even gender . We are all one we just look different sound different and come from different backgrounds
Labels are important at the end of the day. Think about it, if your in a marginalized community or you express yourself differently than the general public you need to define your point of view. Robbing people of labels effectively erases their visibility altogether and further perpetuates violence, stereotypes and propaganda. It might be uncomfortable to you but their efforts are helping push for a more inclusive culture.
Anthony D I understand Anthony but some times people just want just put you in a box or labeled you because they are scared of the unknown and sometimes the person who’s been judged doesn’t even know what she/he wants they just feeling and going with the flow ,they just acting as a spiritual being not following any rules just being ,that is my point ,But again I understand your view.
They do come off pretentious. I don't take issue with their lifestyle. I have been with men and women and had an open relationship. But I do kind if get the feeling he's gay and she's his beard. Maybe not. You can vibe feminine and not be. But I just get that vibe.
I love the concept, been there, done that. I only have one issue with it. Three letters: HPV. That's the real problem, not gender, number, pronouns or morals.
@@danielsoto6963 Google it. Having multiple partners makes it almost impossible not to get some sort of HPV. Male bodies might not get symptoms or signs, but they still pass it on to all the female bodies they have sex with. About 90% of female bodies will have some form of HPV in their lifetime. Some of them are dangerous, others are not. The vaccine provides limited protection. It is a complex issue and the main reason why I didn't sleep around in my twenties, I was too scared and tbh I still am. Oh and a condom won't protect you. :(
As a gay transgender male I’ve had my fair share or hateful comments and opinions. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it. Nico and Bethany are living life the way they deserve to. You never know what people go through. Most people don’t understand the hardships the lgbtqia community go through. We deserve the same treatment as everyone else.
Love is love. People are people. Let’s just accept and love each other! Isn’t it so heavy to judge and hate? Let that shit go. Thank you, Nico and Bethany, for being so open. Thank you ABC for sharing their story.
Such absolutely wonderful people! I love watching their lives from afar - it is clear if you spent any time seeing what they put into the world that they have deep and profound love for the world and their passions (and each other)! So much is in nuisance these conversations that hate overlooks. Big big love for people who are open to learning and considering that other’s lives as as valuable as theirs, which I’m not seeing a whole lot in these comments.
In 2019, driving for Uber, I had a rider who was in a relationship just like this. He was absolutely gorgeous and captivating, like this man, and I briefly met his gf when I dropped him off at a gender fluid club in Hollywood. She was breathtakingly beautiful and her energy was magnificent! As I drove him to the club he put on makeup and spruced up his hair because he was running late from work. What he told me about their relationship, and where they had been prior to having met, literally made me cry. The unconditional love he expressed about her was so touching and she clearly felt that same love because of the excitement that exuded from her when he arrived. I still cry when I think about the way he described their love and acceptance made them better people and they no longer knew where one began and the other ended. I would like to someday feel that and give that feeling to another but if that never happens I'm happy for all those that have it 🥰
I feel like maybe just a little bit of fear of losing the other person is healthy in a relationship because it prevents you from taking them for granted.
@@parissinclair6513 It's kind of hard to compete with someone who is newly partnered/infatuated when you have entered the comfortable stage of a relationship. It's also hard to imagine that if you are truly in love and infatuated with someone that you can easily turn off those feelings and hookup with someone else. And that is why I think it is hard for people not made for open relationships to understand people who are. It is their life, but if jealousy is creeping in ... I think they are kidding themselves.
Married, non- binary (don't see them selfs as either sex) polyamorous, having an open relationship emotionally and sexually with others. Don't conform to gender dictation of appearance.
I don't think he's bi. I think he's a straight dude with wanting to be the center of attention problems lmao. This was the best way for him to find attention in Hollywood.
Sexual orientation: Bisexual Gender identity: Non-Binary Sex: Nico has XY chromosones, Beth has XX. Relationship status: Married Relationship structure: Polyamorous Cuteness level: "It's over 9000!!!" Here you go :)
I love these humans!!! Bethany and nico’s relationship has inspired me for years - they are redefining what a modern partnership can look like. I am in my thirties and still have not found the strength to be 100% authentic with my mom because of fear and shame...seeing nico and their mom brought tears to my eyes.
vicvicvicvictorious have you thought about reading Nicos book? It might give you some strength. Keep on going, one difficult and honest conversation at a time.
When you follow your whims and desires, this is the path you go down. He is seeking happiness and contentment in all the wrong things. A life lived with out knowing your true purpose is a life wasted. May you be guided to the straight path, Nico.
Curious... how do you live your life. Honest question. You just do as someone tells you? These two are breaking no laws and are only allowing the other to love in the way they want. What is wrong with that? I have never seen two people who know their purpose more than these two. You certainly do not. Your purpose is only what you have allowed someone to tell you it is. I hope you are guided towards a life full of love and light. It's a beautiful place to live.
@@McDawnie77 I live my life submitting my will to the Creator of the heavens and Earth. I worship none but God. If someone lives life doing everything they desire, they have taken their desires as a god. The right way and the wrong way are both clear for the one who wishes to find it.
Right. And that's fantastic for YOU. But your beliefs are not everyones. Your God is not everyones. These people are clearly not going to go down a path they feel is wrong. They feel this is right for them. This works for their love. Leave them be.
Not to disrespect but I really can’t do open relationships.. For me it’s difficult see my partner with anyone else. Because you will always have that one favorite person.. You know we have father and mother but there’s always one favorite parent. For me this is next level. I know there are many people who are into open relationships.. I respect their choices in their life. But for me it’s difficult
They both seem like such lovely people. While they are both bold and unashamed of who they are, they also seem to understand that it may be confusing and new to most people. They leave room for people to ask questions.
Paige Marshall it’s okay not to understand it. To each their own. It’s just important to remember that they don’t judge you for your lifestyle, so it’s only fair to not judge others for things you can’t relate to. ♥️
If you clicked for them and not her then why respond to her comment. Yet alone why bother reading the comments. There’s nothing wrong with her stating that, she wasn’t being negative.
Me too this is seems the type of life I will never get associated with ,but I do respect their choice in lifestyle ,but it’s kinda weird to being in an open relationship bond to an traditionally tie the knot ,they said they committed to each other in marriage but also has multiple sexual partner ,it’s sounds so morbid,but I am not mean any maliciously
Narcissus was in love with his reflection. It was in a pool of water. I guess that could be the first fluid identity. Well at least he's a star...That makes it all entertainment, and much more meaningful.
That's all this really is. These people are wildly self involved. The LGBT thing used to seem more benign, but these days it seems that the whole purpose of 2SLGBTQIAP+ is to be utterly and completely obsessed with one's self and to then be "proud" of that. It's purpose built to give narcissists a way to bully others, draw even more attention to themselves, shame and attack those who don't heap praise on them, and give themselves a whole identity centered around self worship. It's for no reason that people make the connection to satanism. Real, meaningful identities have to do with one's relationship with the world outside themselves, and actually serve to diminish the self for the sake of something higher. An identity like father, mother, brother, sister - you define yourself by your connection and obligation to other people. Same goes for religion - a Christian worships Christ first. Or a national identity; your filial piety leads you to think of yourself as just a small part of a larger community that stretches back through time and that you intend to help usher into the future... But the "queer" identities are all about me me me. How one feels about themselves, how they want to see themselves in the mirror, what sort of sexual debauchery they find the most satisfying... Quite often the "queer" identities involve shucking the obligations and duties that more meaningful identities would impose on someone - the rainbow flag replaces the flag of their nation, their boutique sexual preferences preclude them from continuing their dynasty and giving more children to their families, their gender fluidity allows them to shuck the norms, roles and expectations that traditionally would have been set on them because of their sex. It really all centers around "I'M THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY OWN WORLD AND YOU SHOULD CELEBRATE ME FOR THAT" and this is truly a destructive, disordered, and ultimately fruitless way to live. Real purpose, real meaning, real fulfillment and real virtue comes from living for the sake of things higher than yourself. Conversely, nearly all evil stems from the pride of self-aggrandizement and self worship. It's been really insidious the way the media and the celebrities have been encouraging everybody to adopt this terriblen worldview. Queers - we don't oppose you because we're grossed out or because we hate you and want you to suffer; we oppose your movement ideology because it ultimately brings about destruction, chaos, despair and damnation. I don't see how any LGBT activist type can sit here and deny that their movement centers around being proud and impressed with one's self first and foremost. They literally call their parades "pride" parades.
This gives them an excuse to be totally unaccountable for any scew up they will do and they plan to do. Take responsibility for it! Start with your gender!
Dani Mark no it gives them the freedom to be who they are. They did take responsibility for their gender by going by what they identify as ( them) . They are two responsible adults who are more successful than you will ever be and they live their life this way and you don’t need to accept it or understand it but don’t spread your ignorance, judgment , and hate .
labels are important at the end of the day. Based on your profile I assume your a cisgender white female who hasn't experienced nearly the same adversity as poc, religious minority or a queer person. Think about it, if your in a marginalized community or you express yourself differently than the general public you need to define your point of view. Robbing people of labels effectively erases their visibility altogether and further perpetuates violence, stereotypes and propaganda. It might be uncomfortable to you but their efforts are helping push for a more inclusive culture.
Aka look at me, look how special I am, look how virtuous I am, Love me, worship me peasants. Seriously either you’re transgender or you’re not. there is no they/them all this is, is just a ploy for attention.
We don’t have to agree on the boundaries of love or life. We don’t have to agree on religious or non religious beliefs. But we do have to agree on one thing... It still takes male sperm and female eggs to make babies-which is a total miracle in itself.
Ugh I feel like he wants this to be his thing so badly ... overnight all of this just exploded out of him. It’s a lot. I don’t know it’s hard to take someone with notoriety seriously ... so maybe he’s being genuine but ... idk.
Marriage is a beautiful GIFT from God to join two kindred spirits as ONE. It is also a COVENANT WITH God. "A 3 string cord is stronger than 2." Bisexual people get married all the time and DEVOTE themselves to each other, period. "Let no man be deceived. The enemy roams around like a lion seeking to devour souls." "Be in this world but not of it." Please seek TRUTH and do not allow yourselves to be deceived. God loves what is pure and holy. God is NOT the author of confusion. God LOVES the sinner, but hates the sin. 🙏🙏🙏
I can appreciate that they choose to share themselves so honestly. So many of us hide our true selves, whatever that means to us.
Amen
Nesha V. Frazier such sinful and disruptive way of being.
Lala Dmz sinful how? Disruptive to whom?
Nesha V. Frazier They seem genuinely confused. Gender is not stereotypes. Women that identify with short hair have to be trans men? Does being tomboyish mean being a man? You can't imagine yourself into a gender.
They should have kept their true selves hidden. This is just embarrassing self-indulgence.
If you go on their Instagram accounts, you’ll find two lovely people who work hard to promote tolerance, understanding, equal rights, and love. You don’t have to understand or agree with the way they choose to run their lives, but these judgmental comments are atrocious and unnecessary. You don’t like it, then don’t do the same things in your own life.
Lauren P-A thank you ☺️🖤🖤🖤🖤
Beautiful way of saying it!!!
I hope they come to their sense someday,because all that they say is bull.
They chose to promote their idiocies and seek attention then that's what they get. Don't want people to comment on a freak show then don't air it!
Curious...
You make it clear '...you don't have to agree....etc etc...', which should mean people can have ANY opinion and share that opinion....But you basically say people can't. If there are no absolutes and no right and wrong....and tolerance is supposedly blind...why can't people share ALL their opinions??
my bisexuality can’t handle how pretty BOTH of them are
Right
Truth!!
*stupidity
Haha yes so get what you mean
Messed up
The mother's transition makes me want to cry. You can tell Nico has changed her life for the better. 🥰🥰🥰
Not everyone is lucky to be true to one's self and find love at the same time. I envy these two for having both.
Georgina Christabel Whatsmylastname I love this comment!
Why get married if you want an open marriage 🙄
@@carmillaikis3164 Because they can, Karen 🙄
@@carmillaikis3164 he also explained exactly why. There’s a system in place that benefits married couples.
What's the difference between being "true to one's self" and being aggressively self-involved?
Did Millennial Publishing publish Josh’s book?? 💖💖
Jordan Yang yes
That’s what I was thinking 😅😂
The show makes it seem like publishing doesn’t suck !
Good one
😂 i just finished watching the series and I’m so here binging all the cast’s interviews
Personally I don’t think I could do polyamory because for me if I like/love someone I wouldn’t need or want to be with anyone else
I agree
I’m jealous af so I wouldn’t be able to either
I couldn’t imagine sharing my significant other. I’m wayyyyy to jealous 😂!
its not jealousy
its sanity
I’m a gay millennial and I can’t even keep up with the labels anymore.
LGBTABCD123.
I hv died...its ridiculous
Andrew Gebe seriously omg it’s tough !!
you are so right
they keep putting their selfs in boxes!! WHY??
well then your mind is very, very narrow
Skyler Elmore Actually, not at all. I’m very open-minded but I find it hard to keep up with so many labels at one time.
They both age with grace and thoughtfulness, let them live. It's awesome they've been together for so long evolving as a couple.
They live their life, they mind their business. I love it.
Confucious said: " IM CONFUSED!!!"
Nico and Bethany's life is mirrored in the 2019 couple "Why women kill." series, its three different women's lives in the same house over 60 year span, great series and writing.
Just finished binge watching that series! 👏👏👏
WHY get married if you're gonna be polyamorous? Like.... Why fucking bother? Already 1 out of 2 people are jealous. Bethany seems to be lying to theirself to keep dancing to Nico's tune. I will never understand that. Because if you ''make room'' for more people to love that puts the relationship stability and trust at risk. There's a reason why they call it the third wheel. Unless they are mormons or whatever. Ugh, I'm triggered sorry, they didn't even properly answer the question why bother getting married.
You guys are redefining what a relationship is defined as for the two of you. Regardless of how your identity, you two have found each other and been honest about your desires with each other. That should be applauded, not looked down upon. I am proud of the love you share with each other and tireless desire to show light to other types of relationships that most people may not understand. I loved Nico first because they are FINE! But honestly, Bethanys constant honesty about her views on body image have provided me additional insight and quite frankly, they FINE too. I respect their differences and love how sweet they look into each other’s hearts.
They couldn’t be lovelier people and their presence in my social media sphere has been so uplifting. If you want to go by she/her or he/him, nobody is stopping you. They’re going by they/them and I don’t lose a bit of sleep over it.
Seriously!?!?!
you sound crazed
@@alexandrawoof1894 dogs can’t type
@@JuliaRaffo1 you can ;)
@@alexandrawoof1894 the perks of being a human adult, I guess. Sorry you’ll never get the experience. Must be hard.
They are an absolutely beautiful couple. They are living their truth and it is a wonderful thing. The life they built together is very special and deserves no judgment. If this is not your truth then you do you.
Dumb
bethany and nico are such a beautiful inspiring couple who show that love is not confined to anyone else’s bounds. they’re beautiful and happy. and it’s lovely to see.
Hey live your life... I don’t understand this at all in any way and would never live my life this way for any reason... but this is their life and glad they’re happy.
What a lovely thing to say! Wish there were more people like you in this world.
This comments is best:(don’t judge just because you don’t understand) well said TD.
@2freeIvX You must have very limited knowledge of linguistics then 'cuz its been grammatically correct to use they/them as singular or plural for a *long* time. You can't assign a name to someone so nor can you assign their pronouns 😬
Sad tho
@@abundance4324 I say the same thing about ignorance and racism....at the end of the day we are all human.
Open marriage always end in heartache.. don't do it.. it does not work.. if you want multiple partners .. STAY SINGLE
I went to the same church with Bethany growing up. She did grow up in a conservative family. It’s shocking to me to see where she is now in life. Not knocking her down or anything. Just shocking
You mean happy and fulfilled👍♥️
She is going to hell, be glad you didn’t ended up like her.
@@mayacharrat6401 The Bible speaks on those who think they have a ticket to heaven friend. Focus on yourself because there very people you believe won't make it will and those who are self righteous gnash their teeth about knowing God. Jesus NEVER EVER said be self righteous but to love EVER SINGLE human regardless of what they have and believe friend.
Laura Cortez lmao she’s going to hell for her life choice that makes perfect sense 😂🤣
Not a she but k
Having met both of these wonderful humans, it hurts me to read the nasty comments. If you don’t “understand their lifestyle”, that’s fine. It’s not yours to understand. It’s their life and they are living it with love. I recommend more people commenting would inject a little more love into their own lives.
A lot of us just don't understand. I don't understand but I don't judge them. If they're happy and safe then the rest of us need to keep negative opinions to ourselves. They are spreading awareness. I can understand that they are saying, "this is the way we live. This is who we are. You don't have to understand it to like it or accept it. But be respectful and not hateful." I think Nico is a wonderful actor. I binged all seasons of younger on Hulu before I was even aware of how he lived his personal life. Which goes to show what a great actor Nico is. If Nico and bethany are happy, why can't people just be happy for them? They don't go around dissing us straight people. We can offer them the same courtesy.
Mickie Pho please respect their pronouns
i dont need to be told how to refer to them
i identify as a king
refer to me as sir or his royal highness
Love his character on Younger. Seems like a really nice guy.
love their character on Younger. Seems like a really nice person
It's funny how most actors only have likable, interesting personalities when it's read from a script.. it's unfortunate that he's no different.
@@peachbellini2615 that *they are no different
Agreed but don’t forget that Nico identifies as they
@@erasmiakatrienlaschalt9314 who are yov to police speech?I identify as a king. call me sir
Two beautiful souls found each other and that’s what matters. If you don’t understand their relationship or “lifestyle” it really doesn’t matter. Spewing hate is not the answer. Their relationship is their relationship and maybe it’s not for everyone but it works for them and that’s what’s important. I’m so here for this representation!!
Getting married but sleeping with other people, that part is just weird to me. The way he put it though, it sounds like the marriage part is more for business purposes, & marriage is somewhat a business arrangement I guess
All of this is weird to me
Marriage is, basically, an agreement for societal reasons
It is to get the legal rights which come with marriage, both while living and after death of one. My husband died. I am his next of kin. I have legal rights. Those who have just a boyfriend ill or deceased have no rights, not even to make medical decisions, to say goodbye in the hospital or be a part of the funeral without permission from next of kin. By marrying legally, they guarantee their rights to many legal issues in many situations.
Yep I don't get it
Yeah seems like it’s arranged , for publicity probably
So.. Did Liza edit his book?
This marriage will probably be done and dusted if one can get jealous and the other does not. And for this to be an open marriage is ridiculous.
To be as ridiculous as possible, is so fashionable and equals $$$$$ look they got a book deal and an interview....
I don’t agree with open marriages because someone always gets hurt
Yup I mean we are nobody to tell them how they should live their lives, but I personally wouldn’t see the point in being married if we’d basically be cheating with other people 🤷🏻♀️
Ashley Wilson I agree with you. If you feel you need to be in an *open* marriage then you probably shouldn't be in a marriage at all.
People get hurt in closed marriages. Most end in divorce, so....
@@tannyadeleon2513 "cheating" is cheating because it is secretive, nonconsensual and hidden. I am monogamous, but for polyamorous people, they don't see it as cheating because each partner agrees to be open and both are alway informed of and give consent to each encounter/relationship. Most also have a "home base" (for lack of a better term) relationship that is the root for them, like Nico and Bethany's. Their marriage is still a commitment, it just looks different.
Nikki Mirhosseyni I understand but still a commitment is a commitment whether you like it or not. I mean everyone has their own opinions but things like jealousy are natural feelings as a human being and it’s hard for me to picture relationships like this working out in the long run. That’s just how I view it 🤷🏻♀️
The more I learn about all the different kinds of people on this world, the better person I become myself. Thank you for this report. It's wonderful to see two people doing good things for each other and the world around them. ♥️
What a beautiful comment and sweet thing to say. Thanks for your response
Love Nico and Bethany so much ♥️ We don’t have to all agree on every detail of each others’ lives to be inspired by one another. They are such a beautiful example of love and devotion. Simply gorgeous humans. I wish them well in everything they do.
She would be perfectly fine only being with him. You can tell. He is another man who wants the benefits of marriage without actually being married..We are in dark times.
Truth. She admits to dealing with jealousy, and wishing he would feel a little jealous too. He's selfish. If we can see it so quickly, you know he can see it. . . 😒
Aw the last sentence from his mom definitely made me tear up. Beautiful 😍
Wait, soo why tf get married if your going to have multiple sexual partners? You could get health insurance and have children with domestic partners, why get married?
Confused, happy yet on drugs and sleep with many other people
To not feel lonely
marriage is a joke to them and something they did for attention and the comfort of some sort of security but their marriage is clearly a sham.
Lmao that interviewer looks like she’s done with this shit
Love his mother that she tries to be understanding and knows her son is much more important to her.
Love *their mother
Elise Reehl he said that all pronouns are okay...
funny1997 no they prefer they/them
I didn’t know that about him. I just thought he was very comfortable with his feminine side of him 😅 but that’s awesome :)
Just Me Them. Not Him
Jeez I wish I would make my font bigger to drown out all the hate with SUPPORT! I see two human beings who are happy and have their life figured out than most other people, and I am so disappointed that there are so many bashing them.
KEEP DOING WHAT YOURE DOING Nico and Bethany. You're bringing awareness and showing others that being yourself IS OKAY in this society when others just want you to be "the right way" by their determinations. I'd much rather be "wrong" than be unhappy.
Jade Evans 100% agree!
Yeesssssss !!!
TOTALLY AGREE!!!!! Life is all about love and happiness and there is not just one way to achieve it!
I'm confused
@Rick James how? What? Why?.
They are people who embrace their masculine and feminine sides.
I'd go as far as to say i am confusion
Sad for you.
@LAST CALL Damn. Your answer is definitely on point!! At this point, I might as well get a female blowup doll. At least I'll know what I'm dealing with. None of that "Well, I'm feeling alil feminine day, unlike yesterday where I felt more manly" type of stuff
They aren’t untraditional. This is the most contradictory video I’ve seen.
They are untraditional.
So let me get this straight. A normal relationship consists of being able to have other partners, have sex with other people, being a non binary couple (if u see a normal couple almost 100 pecent of the time will be man and women) so it doesn’t sound too traditional
The "open relationship" thing will wear thin in time. Sharing the one person you love is extremely hard, eventhough you may agree to it at the beginning. Trust me, ive been there...
I adore Nico and Beth and everything they stand for BUT, when Nico said “When I first realized homosexuality was an option...” - its not an option. It’s not a choice. It’s either there or it isn’t. This is the biggest misunderstanding by homophobes.
I don’t think he meant is as a general choice. I think it was more his own “personal” realization that it was okay to be him and figure out the inclusivity he’s speaking about...
Um no....that's not how that works
..just out of curiosity do u identify as lgbtq if.u do just a heads up it's different for everyone
And there are such thing as bi sexuality it's not all or nothing thing it's right there that B in LGBTQ
@@nicholethereadingmomma9050 they don't mean there's gay and straight and nothing in between, the point they're trying to make is that you can't just decide to be gay, you either are born this way or you're not. Not what I interpreted Nico was trying to say either.
@@dopeydiablo Not true though since you know gender is a complete social construct so can't be gay or straight anyway.
Wow this is all new news to me. I didn't know anything about him outside of Younger. I love his character on there! He's so handsome and his wife is pretty. I never noticed him on red carpet, modeling, or acted in other shows/movies so I am very shocked. He is very brave.
This. Is. Everything!!! They way they look at each other is so heartfelt. Everyone deserves a love like this, regardless of who it comes from. I admire them for being so open about who they are and what makes them happy. Love is love is love.
I would just have such a hard time having a love like that but also having my partner actively pursuing and being interested other people both sexually and emotionally. I know people make it work for them, but I struggle to understand how 🙁
Paris Sinclair I just feel like if it works for them, and they have a loving relationship and very respectful and thoughtful communication with each other, then it isn’t anyone else’s business how they choose to live their lives. Being so in tune with who they are and what they need to be happy is admirable. We don’t have to “understand” it, but we definitely need to respect it.
I came in here being really judgmental. Then I watched the whole interview. Good on you, Nico x
I saw nico 1st time on Younger & fell in love
I mean they r fuckin gorgeous
Then I googled both of them
And I followed Bethany on IG
I luv Bethany
These 2 beautiful humans work hard to make the world beautiful
Live unapologetically
Helping ppl
Making a world filled with luv
Who cares who loves who and what gender or pronouns they prefer?
If you're a genuinely good person none of that should matter
Love this!! The selfless act of nico when he mentions himself wearing a dress to be a voice for people who don’t have that privilege os amazing! Love them all ❤️
If your sobriety is “fluid” you’re not sober. It’s all well and good but don’t use the word when it doesn’t apply.
Love these two! There is clearly so much love, respect, and joy between them. That’s what builds a lasting relationship. And they have so much courage and faith to be bold and vocal in spite of the unnecessary backlash.
Love? Respect? An open relationship is far from love and respect. It's more about convenience and lust.
Everyone deserves happiness, monogamy isn’t for everyone. I just honestly can’t fathom the point of getting married just to sleep with everyone else but your partner. It is a growing trend which can be very annoying to go on dating sites to find a boyfriend and then you do and they’re all other peoples boyfriends. To each their own
Very important legal rights come with marriage. It entails far more than sex.
It's nothing new - many tribal cultures were this complex. It's new to OUR culture. Sort of. There's plenty of gender-bending in our mythologies and some in our history.
Everything but "fluid sobriety" nope not a thing.
yeah its insane he said that. but hey he is rich i guess he can do what he wants
Haha yeah but I think I understand the use of the word fluid in that context. We are never only one thing. We are many things, we're all multi-faceted, and we change constantly. Hence the fluid analogy. Having a problem like substance abuse does not define us, but it becomes part of our complex identity. It's a nice way of looking at identity.
Apparently NOTHING is real. Right, Wrong, 2+2=4, NOTHING can be what it is. Everything seems to get deconstructed...
And the world gets more divided, deconstructed, backward and nations crumble.
But hey! At least people are acting on their own whims, whatever they 'feel' like doing and have chosen self pleasure over every form of that OLD and DUMB idea of absolutes; right, wrong, etc. Lol
What a great big wonderful world of debauchery.
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 Doesn't it remind you of The Truman Show? Like reality is no longer the same for everyone, there are no boundaries for anything? Like someone says hey 2+2=2 bro. You're like nah man it's 4, you know you're right. But they become angry, it turns to an argument, and someone else walks over. "You're so rude why would you say that 2+2 IS 2!" Next thing you know you've got 8 people ready to fight you, passionate and certain that they're right. If you're not firmly planted in your mathematics, you'll start to think you're wrong. Even if you've studied math your while life. You'll walk around counting and recounting, questioning if you'd been taught wrong, and basically drive yourself mad trying to figure out how so many people could be so wrong and still be so sure of themselves. Maybe your wrong and if your wrong about something you've studied your whole life, maybe you should rethink everything you know. This is the generation of today, but nah bro 2+2=4 for me. Believe what you want, no love lost.
Some of these titles never existed until recently. That’s saying a lot, IMO. These 2 are using the titles as an excuse for their promiscuity.
Neither did our right to vote miss. An excuse for women to 'not follow the man'?
Because science and society aren’t allowed to progress? This comment is ignorant and unintelligent.
just because the label didn’t exist doesn’t mean people didn’t feel and behave and identify this way. people have always been people.
IMO people who can't see past their own sheltered version of 'normal' are sad fuckwits. IMO.
When does season seven of younger come out on my God I miss it
Not filmed yet I think!
Its outtttt
I would not have thought this is the actor behind Josh.
I don't even have words to describe how ridiculous and stupid this is
Own your shit, world is ending, don't be a bitch.
@@LazsalzariRomnzevroskki like you
I don’t even have the words to describe how judgmental and ignorant you are
Steve Dhi I pay for rent, groceries , electricity , car insurance , internet , and I have two very special needs children ... I am more of an adult than most people... oh and I’m a certified foster parent . Soooo how am I not a grownup ???
I do believe open marriages/relationships have always existed just like monogamous marriages/relationships. I respect others choices, but honestly what I don’t like is that nowadays if you say you don’t believe polygamy or that it’s not for you people call you narrow minded and judgmental. You can be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual +++ and still believe in the one and that marriage is something sacred between two people. It is your choice and you shouldn’t be shamed for it, just like people who believe in polyamory and open relationships shouldn’t be shamed for theirs. But it should be allowed to disagree and discuss, if you suppress opinions of people that is how you get extremely polarized sides. Just saying. Be open to hear and accept, but you don’t have to agree. That goes for all. So you people who are saying this is not for you, you have a right to your opinion and for those of you who love this and think this is great you have a right to your opinion. And let’s not forget these two have chosen to openly talk about this, so they have to be able to tolerate that not everyone will find this okay, and I think they are aware of that. Openly discussing and disagreeing is a good thing, people are different and have different levels of tolerance and that needs to be accepted. Go in ✌🏻
I’m speechless all I can say is PERIOTTTTT
What is it with all this fucking hate below here? Let Nico and Bethany live on with their fucking lives!
I do not understand this kind of
“Lifestyle identification” like at all.
You dont need to. It's what what works for them & makes sense to them.
Dez and that’s that on that...
Neither do I. But I don't need to. Because to for me...if they're happy and they aren't hurting anyone, who the hell am I to tell them who is and isn't okay to love? Or to tell them who THEY are? Nobody gets to tell anyone else who they are. Love is love.
Ashley B how do you know that it isn’t hurting anyone ?
kayla patterson I can help read “the book of law” from Aleister Crowley circa1904 it literally is the blue print of all this you have a hard time understanding.
Whoa, Nico acts so differently in this interview than on Celebrity Drag Race, they were super over-the-top flamboyant on that episode and are very chill here so now I'm confused which is their true personality. No shade to their relationship or life but I just don't know specifically what they are really like day-to-day with cameras off. Maybe they are still figuring that out, I guess
Maybe both and all? Kinda like how we shift our personality traits around different friend groups and in different settings. Like, do you talk to your grandma the same way you talk to your friends? We don’t change at our core, as in not the way you show love and kindness to people, not your world view, not the way you respect yourself and others; but if you notice there are outward personality traits that shift. We all naturally morph and play with our different personality traits around different groups of people. So I would say both and all are probably true representations of their personality. It’s his core, his heart that doesn’t change.
@@LibbyAnn026 yeah I feel like being around drag queens would bring that out, and also they may feeling like you have to play up that part of your personality to sort of prove you fit in with the group. I've never done it in front of my other gay friends but they are on the set of a show with cameras so that probably adds a whole other level of nuance.
Nah, they're just a normal straight couple having a role play session which is probably going to last only a couple of years..
Makekikkeli so true
They been together 20 years
Thank you for making love exactly what you want it. So many people hide in the shadows and never get to fully express themselves and you two have been incredibly brave to do so. Never seen two people more in love.
Beautiful people!! Sending you love and support! More power to people being free to be themselves!!
These are two people living their lives in a positive, inclusive, loving way. I loved his moms line of start putting down lines then you’re in a box. There is more than just man and woman and the societal constructs that have been brow beaten into all of us. Open you’re minds and hearts for once instead of judging people from behind a computer screen.
These are two extraordinary humans who promote nothing but love - for all. Haters only reveal themselves to be broken. I send love to the haters on Bethany and Nico’s behalf. When you see the light, those of us on the side of love will be here to welcome you.
What a great example of real love and being true to yourself. Love these two! ❤️❤️
Lynne Schramm this made me tear up I don’t think there is anything wrong with their lifestyle. My mom was impressed with how open I am to be honest it sickens me that people are cruel to people just because of their sexuality or race or even gender . We are all one we just look different sound different and come from different backgrounds
Respect them... just think there quite annoying. Let’s stop labeling and putting people in boxes and just be.
Damn straight ! ,Well said
Labels are important at the end of the day. Think about it, if your in a marginalized community or you express yourself differently than the general public you need to define your point of view. Robbing people of labels effectively erases their visibility altogether and further perpetuates violence, stereotypes and propaganda. It might be uncomfortable to you but their efforts are helping push for a more inclusive culture.
Anthony D I understand Anthony but some times people just want just put you in a box or labeled you because they are scared of the unknown and sometimes the person who’s been judged doesn’t even know what she/he wants they just feeling and going with the flow ,they just acting as a spiritual being not following any rules just being ,that is my point ,But again I understand your view.
They do come off pretentious. I don't take issue with their lifestyle. I have been with men and women and had an open relationship. But I do kind if get the feeling he's gay and she's his beard. Maybe not. You can vibe feminine and not be. But I just get that vibe.
Stacey Herald they
I applaud Nico’s mom for loving and supporting her son. She’s a wonderful woman.
That is so stupid
I love the concept, been there, done that. I only have one issue with it. Three letters: HPV. That's the real problem, not gender, number, pronouns or morals.
Wait, the disease? How so?
@@danielsoto6963 Google it. Having multiple partners makes it almost impossible not to get some sort of HPV. Male bodies might not get symptoms or signs, but they still pass it on to all the female bodies they have sex with. About 90% of female bodies will have some form of HPV in their lifetime. Some of them are dangerous, others are not. The vaccine provides limited protection. It is a complex issue and the main reason why I didn't sleep around in my twenties, I was too scared and tbh I still am. Oh and a condom won't protect you. :(
I identify as a Boeing AH-64 Apache helicopter.
d k and that’s wonderful for you 😁🌈✨💗🙌🏽🚁
🤣🤣🤣
As a gay transgender male I’ve had my fair share or hateful comments and opinions.
If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it. Nico and Bethany are living life the way they deserve to. You never know what people go through. Most people don’t understand the hardships the lgbtqia community go through. We deserve the same treatment as everyone else.
DONT LET THE "STRAIGHTS" DULL YOUR SPARKLE RAINBOW KING💃💃💃👑👑💕💕💕💕💎💎💎🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@cherrynicole4511 thank you
Love is love. People are people. Let’s just accept and love each other! Isn’t it so heavy to judge and hate? Let that shit go. Thank you, Nico and Bethany, for being so open. Thank you ABC for sharing their story.
Nico is a beautiful person 😭😍
Nico is beautiful. That jawline could cut glass...geez.
I love this guy. I wish I could be that free and honest with myself.
Such absolutely wonderful people! I love watching their lives from afar - it is clear if you spent any time seeing what they put into the world that they have deep and profound love for the world and their passions (and each other)! So much is in nuisance these conversations that hate overlooks.
Big big love for people who are open to learning and considering that other’s lives as as valuable as theirs, which I’m not seeing a whole lot in these comments.
Madison McElroy yessss, so many haydurs in the comments i agree
In 2019, driving for Uber, I had a rider who was in a relationship just like this. He was absolutely gorgeous and captivating, like this man, and I briefly met his gf when I dropped him off at a gender fluid club in Hollywood. She was breathtakingly beautiful and her energy was magnificent! As I drove him to the club he put on makeup and spruced up his hair because he was running late from work.
What he told me about their relationship, and where they had been prior to having met, literally made me cry. The unconditional love he expressed about her was so touching and she clearly felt that same love because of the excitement that exuded from her when he arrived.
I still cry when I think about the way he described their love and acceptance made them better people and they no longer knew where one began and the other ended.
I would like to someday feel that and give that feeling to another but if that never happens I'm happy for all those that have it 🥰
"Sometimes I get Jealous ..." um - red flag.
The reason why Nico is not jealous may be that he has no fear of losing Bethany
keptins - I didn’t consider that, that’s a good point.
I feel like maybe just a little bit of fear of losing the other person is healthy in a relationship because it prevents you from taking them for granted.
@@parissinclair6513
It's kind of hard to compete with someone who is newly partnered/infatuated when you have entered the comfortable stage of a relationship.
It's also hard to imagine that if you are truly in love and infatuated with someone that you can easily turn off those feelings and hookup with someone else.
And that is why I think it is hard for people not made for open relationships to understand people who are. It is their life, but if jealousy is creeping in ... I think they are kidding themselves.
Sending so much love for living your true selves and overcoming so much 💕💕💕 beautiful people.
So they have an open marriage and they are both bisexuality. ..I think I got it....do i...
They're non binary.
Married, non- binary (don't see them selfs as either sex) polyamorous, having an open relationship emotionally and sexually with others. Don't conform to gender dictation of appearance.
I don't think he's bi. I think he's a straight dude with wanting to be the center of attention problems lmao. This was the best way for him to find attention in Hollywood.
Hello World no he's bi , he came out years ago even before he get married
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Gender identity: Non-Binary
Sex: Nico has XY chromosones, Beth has XX.
Relationship status: Married
Relationship structure: Polyamorous
Cuteness level: "It's over 9000!!!"
Here you go :)
I love these humans!!! Bethany and nico’s relationship has inspired me for years - they are redefining what a modern partnership can look like. I am in my thirties and still have not found the strength to be 100% authentic with my mom because of fear and shame...seeing nico and their mom brought tears to my eyes.
vicvicvicvictorious have you thought about reading Nicos book? It might give you some strength. Keep on going, one difficult and honest conversation at a time.
When you follow your whims and desires, this is the path you go down. He is seeking happiness and contentment in all the wrong things. A life lived with out knowing your true purpose is a life wasted. May you be guided to the straight path, Nico.
Curious... how do you live your life. Honest question. You just do as someone tells you? These two are breaking no laws and are only allowing the other to love in the way they want. What is wrong with that? I have never seen two people who know their purpose more than these two. You certainly do not. Your purpose is only what you have allowed someone to tell you it is. I hope you are guided towards a life full of love and light. It's a beautiful place to live.
@@McDawnie77 I live my life submitting my will to the Creator of the heavens and Earth. I worship none but God. If someone lives life doing everything they desire, they have taken their desires as a god. The right way and the wrong way are both clear for the one who wishes to find it.
Right. And that's fantastic for YOU. But your beliefs are not everyones. Your God is not everyones. These people are clearly not going to go down a path they feel is wrong. They feel this is right for them. This works for their love. Leave them be.
Not to disrespect but I really can’t do open relationships.. For me it’s difficult see my partner with anyone else. Because you will always have that one favorite person.. You know we have father and mother but there’s always one favorite parent. For me this is next level. I know there are many people who are into open relationships.. I respect their choices in their life. But for me it’s difficult
She admits to dealing with jealousy, and wishing he would feel a little jealous too. She's allowing an open marriage for his comfort. He's selfish. 😒
They both seem like such lovely people. While they are both bold and unashamed of who they are, they also seem to understand that it may be confusing and new to most people. They leave room for people to ask questions.
I love this about them!
Well. I don’t quite understand this type of life. It’s definitely not my choice of lifestyle.
Paige Marshall it’s okay not to understand it. To each their own. It’s just important to remember that they don’t judge you for your lifestyle, so it’s only fair to not judge others for things you can’t relate to. ♥️
Chantel Haywood
I never said I judged them. My best friend is poly. I couldn’t live that way.
No one asked about your choice of lifestyle. We clicked for them not you
If you clicked for them and not her then why respond to her comment. Yet alone why bother reading the comments. There’s nothing wrong with her stating that, she wasn’t being negative.
Me too this is seems the type of life I will never get associated with ,but I do respect their choice in lifestyle ,but it’s kinda weird to being in an open relationship bond to an traditionally tie the knot ,they said they committed to each other in marriage but also has multiple sexual partner ,it’s sounds so morbid,but I am not mean any maliciously
Narcissus was in love with his reflection. It was in a pool of water. I guess that could be the first fluid identity. Well at least he's a star...That makes it all entertainment, and much more meaningful.
That's all this really is. These people are wildly self involved. The LGBT thing used to seem more benign, but these days it seems that the whole purpose of 2SLGBTQIAP+ is to be utterly and completely obsessed with one's self and to then be "proud" of that. It's purpose built to give narcissists a way to bully others, draw even more attention to themselves, shame and attack those who don't heap praise on them, and give themselves a whole identity centered around self worship. It's for no reason that people make the connection to satanism.
Real, meaningful identities have to do with one's relationship with the world outside themselves, and actually serve to diminish the self for the sake of something higher. An identity like father, mother, brother, sister - you define yourself by your connection and obligation to other people. Same goes for religion - a Christian worships Christ first. Or a national identity; your filial piety leads you to think of yourself as just a small part of a larger community that stretches back through time and that you intend to help usher into the future...
But the "queer" identities are all about me me me. How one feels about themselves, how they want to see themselves in the mirror, what sort of sexual debauchery they find the most satisfying... Quite often the "queer" identities involve shucking the obligations and duties that more meaningful identities would impose on someone - the rainbow flag replaces the flag of their nation, their boutique sexual preferences preclude them from continuing their dynasty and giving more children to their families, their gender fluidity allows them to shuck the norms, roles and expectations that traditionally would have been set on them because of their sex.
It really all centers around "I'M THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY OWN WORLD AND YOU SHOULD CELEBRATE ME FOR THAT" and this is truly a destructive, disordered, and ultimately fruitless way to live. Real purpose, real meaning, real fulfillment and real virtue comes from living for the sake of things higher than yourself. Conversely, nearly all evil stems from the pride of self-aggrandizement and self worship.
It's been really insidious the way the media and the celebrities have been encouraging everybody to adopt this terriblen worldview. Queers - we don't oppose you because we're grossed out or because we hate you and want you to suffer; we oppose your movement ideology because it ultimately brings about destruction, chaos, despair and damnation.
I don't see how any LGBT activist type can sit here and deny that their movement centers around being proud and impressed with one's self first and foremost. They literally call their parades "pride" parades.
This gives them an excuse to be totally unaccountable for any scew up they will do and they plan to do. Take responsibility for it! Start with your gender!
Dani Mark no it gives them the freedom to be who they are. They did take responsibility for their gender by going by what they identify as ( them) . They are two responsible adults who are more successful than you will ever be and they live their life this way and you don’t need to accept it or understand it but don’t spread your ignorance, judgment , and hate .
gender is made up bro.
@@whitney4220 actually "them" is plural. They are many responsible Adults🤣🤣
gotta be honest, i cannot stand all the labels. like we're all just human.
labels are important at the end of the day. Based on your profile I assume your a cisgender white female who hasn't experienced nearly the same adversity as poc, religious minority or a queer person. Think about it, if your in a marginalized community or you express yourself differently than the general public you need to define your point of view. Robbing people of labels effectively erases their visibility altogether and further perpetuates violence, stereotypes and propaganda. It might be uncomfortable to you but their efforts are helping push for a more inclusive culture.
And shouldn't humans be able to identify if they choose? What does this have to do with being human?
I've read Nico's poetry book, "all of it is you" and I've found it very meditative. I want to read their book.
I’ve seen that caption on their twitter and now would like to read the poetry book too. Didn’t realize it’s another book
@@adrianaavila8853 their poetry is amazing. Definitely check it out.
Honestly this is just cray-cray....
Do you, but, also... Narcissism, the couple.
Calling them, they/them is respectful. It doesn't matter if you agree or not.
The terms are so outlandish but I can clearly see these two love each other and embrace all sides of each other.
Aka look at me, look how special I am, look how virtuous I am, Love me, worship me peasants. Seriously either you’re transgender or you’re not. there is no they/them all this is, is just a ploy for attention.
They will probably change their tune when one of these 2 "open-minded" people bring syphillis into the marriage.
niceperson33 it’s very easy to get std tests with every new partner, so that shouldn’t be an issue.
Niceperson33 has a not so nice statement to share..
or HIV
Roxanne Louise y’all know there’s more than 2 STD’s right? So why just throw out guesses? List them all with statistics, you sound uneducated.
oh honey... because "closed" marriages never bring in std's?
We don’t have to agree on the boundaries of love or life. We don’t have to agree on religious or non religious beliefs. But we do have to agree on one thing... It still takes male sperm and female eggs to make babies-which is a total miracle in itself.
Ugh I feel like he wants this to be his thing so badly ... overnight all of this just exploded out of him. It’s a lot. I don’t know it’s hard to take someone with notoriety seriously ... so maybe he’s being genuine but ... idk.
Marriage is a beautiful GIFT from God to join two kindred spirits as ONE. It is also a COVENANT WITH God. "A 3 string cord is stronger than 2." Bisexual people get married all the time and DEVOTE themselves to each other, period. "Let no man be deceived. The enemy roams around like a lion seeking to devour souls." "Be in this world but not of it." Please seek TRUTH and do not allow yourselves to be deceived. God loves what is pure and holy. God is NOT the author of confusion. God LOVES the sinner, but hates the sin. 🙏🙏🙏