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I've been told that I was annoying by other kids as a child and it pretty much stayed with me my whole life. I can't talk to anyone without feeling like I'm being annoying. I can't reach out to a friend first without feeling like they don't want to talk to me and I'm just bothering them. I'm really not sure how to stop feeling this way because even if I mentally know I am not bothering someone, emotionally I feel ashamed of myself for even speaking to someone.
I feel exactly the same thing, I had a period where I felt like my family hated me,my boyfriends and best friends, strangers i just met. It was never ending. But i feel better now, first i needed to understand it as anxiety and then I found this picture of me when I was little and put on my background on my phone. And everytime I have these thought I know it's something they said to that little girl and now I am hating on her as well and I want to support her not hate on her. I know it sounds a little weird but many first times I had these thoughts I cried so much, I felt guilty towards myself. And then slowly it just stopped the thoughts. Also the picture you find, it help best if it is a picture where you express love, like hug someone or a pet. Cause thats what is inside and that is what you need to remember about yourself! ♥️ I'm still not 100p, but it really helped a lot.
@@denmark23 Very surprising to find a story here that was posted recent on an almost 2 year video. Apologies to intrude, but I share somewhat of a similar background in-terms of the origin of my feelings of being an annoyance. I grew-up in a shaky household, always feeling like things were my fault. Having to watch my drunken parents fight and always spread their anger to those around them. From my entire childhood, saying sorry and feeling like a burden haunted me and continues to haunt me to this day. The constant emotion of uncertainty and fear, the fear of driving others away from just what I say, how I come across, what I look like, and what I do. Now, I know that's a lot and we may not be similar in-terms of our experiences and lives, but, I just see that we've both had some kind-of situation(s) that originate during our childhoods. I don't know. Again, I apologize to bother you, but, sometimes it feels better to type these kinds of things down rather than let them simmer. I'm glad your trick helped you, and, I just hope that you're able to overcome your guilt and pain.
Syrollesse, I unfortunately don't know you. But I do know you're not annoying or a bother to me. Just wanted to let you know.
That’s exactly the same problem with me, and it doesn’t help that I’m antisocial
they thought calling me annoying after the sleepover is funny...Ouch
When I'm confident and myself I feel like I'm bothering others. I'll get a sense that they're more talkative with others but with me, they're very limited to the point they seem bothered. I'll receive one-word responses and the tone of their voice would sound different. It keeps me from being my true self and it sucks
Try to spread yourself out. Sometimes you’re just a specific person and it’s just because you haven’t found your person or people.
And give people a chance. Don’t judge by first impressions or past them if they seem to be different now
You just made the wrong friends. Be patient. You will find your tribe.
Overthinking is my worst enemy. And makes me think I am always annoying, cringe or bothering people, especially girls I'm talking too
I've always felt like I was one of the different one's. I'll always try my best. But I can't lie, I feel pretty lonely. Sending love to anyone going though a hard time. Feels like everyone is though we don't always show it.
Thank you, and I hope you stay well.
hey how r u, do you still feel like no one likes you, you may realize that other people are a bother and annoying and full of drama and you would probably love a friend who was exactly like yourself, if that is true which it probably is, then you know you are a great person because you would choose a friend like you over the other people around you, they probably annoy you and you dont like their drama, but you would love a friend that was exactly like yourself,
That's exactly what I feel right now. It doesn't feel good. I just decide to shut down and not talk and have conversation to avoid anything I might say .
Its better to be humble and wonder if everyone around you is okay than to be arrogant and assume everyone likes you. That said, glad for cool folk like yourself giving me some guidance. Sick of the “oh it’s you” sense. Wish only rich kids dealt with that. Thx
I have a lot of good friends, but I feel like I talk to them a bit too much. Therefore, I feel like I''m annoying them a lot. It's mainly because they're heading to uni soon, so I don't want them to lose contact with me. But I feel in doing so, I'm trying too hard and disturbing the flow when they're in conversations with others too. I feel like a bit of an outcast in the group, I can't lie.
collinder hey how r u, do you still feel like no one likes you, you may realize that other people are a bother and annoying and full of drama and you would probably love a friend who was exactly like yourself, if that is true which it probably is, then you know you are a great person because you would choose a friend like you over the other people around you, they probably annoy you and you dont like their drama, but you would love a friend that was exactly like yourself,
People like you are making our life so good I am in higher school and I feel like I am so annoying because I stay happy do my work happily I am always chaotic I eat my food with full happiness I dance I sing I honor my family parents teachers everyone I don't try to annoy people but they are frustrated all the time and I feel like I am annoying them and when I shut up I feel like I am boring I don't want to be left out thanks for your recommendations
You explain things so well and my anxiety always dissapear when I listen to your videos
It's an amazing feeling when you get up in age like me, and suddenly realize you don't give a $hit if people like you or not, lmao!
We can all be annoying at times. You just gotta be a bearable person. Some people are just unbearable. What gets on my nerves is some people who are unbearable see that people are annoyed by them then they want people to feel sorry for them. If that doesn’t work then they don’t care if people don’t like them or are annoyed by them
It’s real. The other person doesn’t want to be bothered. It’s true. Some people really are just jack asses and don’t want you around. I want ya’ll around ❤be safe. Stay away from haters & surround yourself with good people
I find it difficult to sense that, as well. I really do hope to be a positive part of ones life then it turns sour, since I was called annoying and then blocked by the other party.
I wish I understood why.
Thank you so much, I needed this because I always feel like a bother no matter how hard I try to be good and helpful...
this feels accurate
hope you're ok man
Thank you, this video calmed my mind and gave me good information 👍
Why did this litteraly exaplain my whole entire existence
Love your chanel, thank you for your videos!
I'm going through a lot and I was wondering if I'm annoying my friends. And it makes you feel unwanted, uneeded, and well just not worth it. And I'm really starting to think that I'm not good enough at all. No matter what my friends tell me. I'm always 2nd best it seems. "Hey! Need someone to talk to? Why not Dan?" And it really makes you feel like nothing. And they just don't talk to you when they don't need you.
Thank you
It's hard if i talk too much im bothering them if im not talking I'm bothering them ugh
whenever i get comfortable with someone i trust i always end up getting annoying because I'm overly hyper and i hate myself so much for it because i just push other people away and i wish i knew how to control it but it just comes out
Yea, sometimes.
Thank you for the video it realy helped me .
Thank you.
Everyone feels that I was annoying person and I wanted to chat with my friends but they feel that they wanted me to be quiet and so is everyone I wanted explain to something but it was all annoying and yeah others think I always lost control of my speaking and I don't know how to shorten the sentences as it is
Thanks for your insightful video. I’ve been having this problem for a long time and not sure how to overcome it or train my mind to overcome it. I constantly feel that I’m holding myself back because being afraid of making mistakes or accidentally say something that would offend people. When I’m asking favors from others, I feel I’m being a burden and I’m creating hassles for them. And asking for help has been difficult and unpleasant. I’m better with people I know well or feel comfortable being around with. But with others, it’s been difficult because I’m being held back by my self-doubts. It’s been frustrating but I’ve gained a better understanding of why I feel the way I feel. Thank you!! Would you considering to create a video addressing the fear of making mistakes and how to stop being so self-criticizing?
Glad, it was helpful! People don't talk about it as much and we should be aware of it. It makes you feel pretty stuck, because you can't ask for help...then what are you supposed to do? It's like a chicken and egg problem.
I'll definitely look into the topic on mistakes and self-criticism. =D
I’m 19 and have this problem because the people I know are starting to get jobs so it’s kinda hard to text them half the time but I also remind myself that they still care for me but they just barely started their lifes
Finishing it later
I feel so bad for asking people for references aghhhh
But I really am a burden, so therefore I found the best solution is deal with whatever is bothering or hurting me on my own. Other people already have so much on their plate already and it would be very selfish and annoying if I add up to that just because I wanted to talk about what i am going through. I am a very unlikeable person who keeps overwhelming people with my personality when I try offer any help or love. I found that when I stopped telling people anything about my life, they were happier and even though i am internalizing so much self hate and pain, that would be good because hurting myself is better than hurting anyone else. To be frank maybe if i did not exist my parents life would have been easier, my friends would not have to deal with my existence, even my co workers seem to dislike me, well i don’t blame them. So yeah i guess shutting up on my side is the best i would have done for other people.
I know that feeling, but I'm pretty sure a lot of that is what YOU think, not what the others think. :)
I relate to this so much.
I talk too much. I say things normal people do not say a loud. I correct people when I think they are wrong.
i never strived to be liked but it is starting to have a negitive impact on my career goals :(
Same. I feel like the most annoying person in the world, every day is a loop of pain, hating myself, and regret. Why is life so fucking hard? Why can't I just shut up? Why can't I just be quieter? Less opinionated? More serious?
I hate myself so much.
@@eternallyeiI feel you, but trust me, I bet you're the most interesting and fun person to be around. Everyone has their annoying moments but that isn't all what you are. I bet there are times where you impact the people around you in a positive way. You are not a burden, you're just a human in a world full of other humans trying to get by
@@tsukkiblu7799 You don't understand how much this simple comment helps me. Thank you so much. You are such a kind and amazing individual! I hope you also know that you are loved. 🤍
I love being in a relationship, but I feel like I'm annoying and a jerk in a relationship. How do I avoid feeling like this? I hate feeling like I'm sabotaging my relationship. Could this be just no big deal???
I feel like ppl are annoying and gets me tired fuck up my schedule , they always need something,
Yes
i need help
Im not going through exactly this but i used to be an extremly funny person but now stuffs been going on and ive lost that like and i also feel like im slowly getting boring and this might not seem like a big to you but being funny is pretty important to me and like there is this girl in one of my classes that i domt thing is really that funny And i used to think i wqs easily funnier than her (don't come at me for having an ego) i mean like i thought she was nice and cool n all but not funny so now all the jokes she makes that were really dry are better than the jokes i dont crack amd like i always just say my funny self is fading away just in school because of everyone and all ( i don't like anyone and my 2 friends arent the type of people i wanna be friends with and i dont know what to do) but now i just cant crack out good jokes at home with my bsf (who lives in a different country, i moved away) and like im never in a good mood and im kinda feeling worthless and yk and dont vome at me being like "being funny isnt that important your amazing just the way you are" like no its the reason i wake up in the morning and yk wanting to continue the day so like yeah idk i just wanted to let it all out in the youtubes comment section
Insta king sir
Growing up, my stepfather told me I was too loud and told me I was annoying all the time. As an eight year old I remember realizing that I was an annoyance to everyone and wondering what was wrong with me. Eventually, after years of being told this, I just stopped talking and stopped socializing. I began to believe I was annoying and stupid, and I got depressed, by the time I got into high school I had thoughts of offing myself almost every day. Then I turned 18 and got the fuck out of that family, went to therapy, went to college, and it was the hardest time of my life but so worth all of it. That was four years ago and now I am happy. While I still feel like I am annoying and bothering people sometimes, I have to constantly remind myself that is just my trauma speaking. I have to tell myself I am worthy of speaking just as much as anyone else, and if someone tells me I am annoying, or even implies that, that is their problem, and its likely the other person pushing their insecurities onto me.
i think i’m annoying my only friend.. sure he likes me but i’m just so unfunny and annoying, man..
No offence I relate to you Every one’s talking to read more 💀
I was severely hyperactive and loud as a kid so whenever I tried to talk to people or people who I thought as friends, I was actually annoying them and they would leave me. My dad was on my case too and always scolded me for everything because of how I was. Overtime I just grew up and wasn’t hyperactive and happy 24/7. Now I feel like a burden or an annoyance just talking or asking for help. Womp womp feeling 💀💀
I feel like that everyday since I can remember nobody even cares if your there or not and rushes you away even if your being nice try to help treat the best or don't bother them at all and yet they find some way to find the worst in you to pick at nothing ever good enough to anyone and they expect you to walk around and smile why not a positive energy shit oh your a negative vibe yea I wonder why maybe if you treated way I am youd be little negative too but that's people for ya I knew from even being a little kid that people could be cruel so i stayed away was told okay get friend whatver worst mistake like no one real no more sad