The key idea of the video is that true love goes beyond acceptance and involves appreciating and understanding all aspects of oneself and others, including disliked traits, in order to find gratitude and inner peace. 00:00 🔑 Acceptance is not enough, we need to change our mindset and language; strive to truly love ourselves and others by appreciating their specific contributions, even when we dislike certain behaviors. 03:13 🔑 People only grieve the loss of admired traits in others, so it's better to identify and understand disliked traits in yourself and recognize their benefits. 05:32 🔑 Shift from tolerance and acceptance to appreciation by recognizing the benefits of behaviors you judge in others, leading to gratitude and love for experiences that were once disliked or resented. 08:27 🔑 Don't forgive, but recognize the positives in others' actions, understand how their traits served you, and let go of unrealistic expectations; answer questions and be accountable to appreciate and love others, finding inner peace; neutralize infatuation and resentment by bringing balance and go beyond acceptance to truly love yourself. 12:29 🔑 Understand and accept your disliked traits, recognizing their value, in order to love yourself fully and dissolve shame and guilt. Unrealistic expectations and false ideals cause suffering and drama in our lives by expecting the world to be something it's not. 14:39 💖 Love yourself and others by fully appreciating and understanding all aspects, rather than just accepting or tolerating them, as true love goes beyond acceptance and embraces the upsides and downsides. 17:11 📚 Learn to appreciate and love yourself and others by understanding your values and linking behaviors to your highest values, so that you can see people as support rather than burdens.
I dont deslike people i just not well at times and avoid people i m silent person i know soeach is true ilike people i except your jugenant ye sometimes true your absolutly right 🎉
No, there are a couple of points in this that I will not agree with. As Dr. Martini was talking through the exercise I had a particular person in mind. Can I appreciate them for strangling my son, harming my children? Never, and it’s ridiculous to suggest such.
You appreciate that the person had issues. And accept it. Not that your son deserved to be strangled. You don't accept you allowing your son to get strangled. You appreciate venomous snakes exist and you don't hate them. You stay away from them. How can you hate an animal that behaves according to its nature or habitat or how they were conditioned?
The question you want to ask is what blessings have emerged for your son and your children as a result of this experience? Did you become closer, did your son experience the depth of your love, did it bring about transformation in your family dynamic that's benefiting you today, what new relationships did it initiate, what changes occurred as a result? When we see equal blessings to the challenge, we are able to adapt to the situation and use it as a stepping stone to build our lives. Anything we haven't seen the blessings in runs our lives and becomes a stumbling block in our lives until we process it by seeing both sides. If you'd love to explore this more then watch this online masterclass on the Hidden Blessings - it's free so you can access it by clicking here: demartini.ink/3yRJGG0 ❤️
@@DrDemartini Yes, I know you’re right and I can witness my own personal growth as a result of this person’s behavior. It’s not so easy to see how my children will benefit when they are presently dealing with the not insignificant resultant psychological trauma.
@@yolandadavidson9871 I can resonate with that! Something to consider is there is also post traumatic growth as well as post traumatic stress. Stress only becomes post traumatic if we can’t integrate it from a higher perspective(transcendence of disempowerment to empowerment) kids can grow and learn and become strong, allow yourself to believe that about them and watch it unfold!
You’ve got the trait you judge in another, it’s just in a different form that keeps you from recognizing yourself in others. Whatever you perceive in other people, you also have within yourself. It is wiser to go and look how you do have it in your own unique form.
Okay, this part of us having done the same I fully grasp, but that still does not make it okay right? Like... we do not have to stay passive just because we once did the same because that would not be very useful in tems of progress. Like... yes I have littered in nature, but does that mean we have to just accept and appreciate it if someone else throws their sodacan in the park? Or if someone is verbally abusing us, does that mean we have to be accepting and appreciative of that verbal abuse because we also have cursed people out at some point in time? I think its more about not getting too heavily triggered by them, but still express it when behaviours are unhealthy...
I'd advise listening to this masterclass on balancing emotions which goes into more detail: demartini.ink/3DTG8qF and you can also listen to this one on the hidden order: demartini.ink/3yRJGG0 - you'll find both helpful 🙂
I would never want to learn any lesson or have my life “enriched” if it ever involved the pain of a child. I’m sorry but I can’t agree with everything in this message, although I love your other teachings.
What the collective society represses the selective individual expresses. I have helped around 1,300 woman and men who have been raped discover meaning and opportunity out of each of their experiences. They have transformed their perceptions and actions and turned the event into something valuable. I do not endorse or promote rape but I help people who have experienced it turn it into something to grow by.
I have just came out of a toxic friendship. If I could go back....I wouldn't change a thing.
Love the message and dedication. Much appreciated❤️
We always love ourselves. Now is the time for us to love God and love neighbours as we love ourselves
WOW! 😲 That was so powerful! Thank you for sharing this that was a very enlightening video. ❤
Thank you!
I love this, asking "what specific ", excellent
The key idea of the video is that true love goes beyond acceptance and involves appreciating and understanding all aspects of oneself and others, including disliked traits, in order to find gratitude and inner peace.
00:00 🔑 Acceptance is not enough, we need to change our mindset and language; strive to truly love ourselves and others by appreciating their specific contributions, even when we dislike certain behaviors.
03:13 🔑 People only grieve the loss of admired traits in others, so it's better to identify and understand disliked traits in yourself and recognize their benefits.
05:32 🔑 Shift from tolerance and acceptance to appreciation by recognizing the benefits of behaviors you judge in others, leading to gratitude and love for experiences that were once disliked or resented.
08:27 🔑 Don't forgive, but recognize the positives in others' actions, understand how their traits served you, and let go of unrealistic expectations; answer questions and be accountable to appreciate and love others, finding inner peace; neutralize infatuation and resentment by bringing balance and go beyond acceptance to truly love yourself.
12:29 🔑 Understand and accept your disliked traits, recognizing their value, in order to love yourself fully and dissolve shame and guilt. Unrealistic expectations and false ideals cause suffering and drama in our lives by expecting the world to be something it's not.
14:39 💖 Love yourself and others by fully appreciating and understanding all aspects, rather than just accepting or tolerating them, as true love goes beyond acceptance and embraces the upsides and downsides.
17:11 📚 Learn to appreciate and love yourself and others by understanding your values and linking behaviors to your highest values, so that you can see people as support rather than burdens.
For sure I agree with him thank you Dr
You are amazing sir
Right i cant sleep o now i understand been humbel truetruelaughing
I dont deslike people i just not well at times and avoid people i m silent person i know soeach is true ilike people i except your jugenant ye sometimes true your absolutly right 🎉
No, there are a couple of points in this that I will not agree with. As Dr. Martini was talking through the exercise I had a particular person in mind. Can I appreciate them for strangling my son, harming my children? Never, and it’s ridiculous to suggest such.
You appreciate that the person had issues. And accept it. Not that your son deserved to be strangled. You don't accept you allowing your son to get strangled. You appreciate venomous snakes exist and you don't hate them. You stay away from them.
How can you hate an animal that behaves according to its nature or habitat or how they were conditioned?
The question you want to ask is what blessings have emerged for your son and your children as a result of this experience?
Did you become closer, did your son experience the depth of your love, did it bring about transformation in your family dynamic that's benefiting you today, what new relationships did it initiate, what changes occurred as a result?
When we see equal blessings to the challenge, we are able to adapt to the situation and use it as a stepping stone to build our lives.
Anything we haven't seen the blessings in runs our lives and becomes a stumbling block in our lives until we process it by seeing both sides.
If you'd love to explore this more then watch this online masterclass on the Hidden Blessings - it's free so you can access it by clicking here: demartini.ink/3yRJGG0 ❤️
@@DrDemartini Yes, I know you’re right and I can witness my own personal growth as a result of this person’s behavior. It’s not so easy to see how my children will benefit when they are presently dealing with the not insignificant resultant psychological trauma.
@@yolandadavidson9871 I can resonate with that! Something to consider is there is also post traumatic growth as well as post traumatic stress. Stress only becomes post traumatic if we can’t integrate it from a higher perspective(transcendence of disempowerment to empowerment) kids can grow and learn and become strong, allow yourself to believe that about them and watch it unfold!
Thank you
How do i get to senamus i cant
What if it's something you never have done?
You’ve got the trait you judge in another, it’s just in a different form that keeps you from recognizing yourself in others. Whatever you perceive in other people, you also have within yourself. It is wiser to go and look how you do have it in your own unique form.
Okay, this part of us having done the same I fully grasp, but that still does not make it okay right?
Like... we do not have to stay passive just because we once did the same because that would not be very useful in tems of progress.
Like... yes I have littered in nature, but does that mean we have to just accept and appreciate it if someone else throws their sodacan in the park?
Or if someone is verbally abusing us, does that mean we have to be accepting and appreciative of that verbal abuse because we also have cursed people out at some point in time?
I think its more about not getting too heavily triggered by them, but still express it when behaviours are unhealthy...
It's a good point Dr Demartini needs to address this more practical side and the boundaries of such a mindset.
@@merlinporterarts that would be nice indeed. I would love to hear a more complete approach of this method of integration.
I'd advise listening to this masterclass on balancing emotions which goes into more detail: demartini.ink/3DTG8qF and you can also listen to this one on the hidden order: demartini.ink/3yRJGG0 - you'll find both helpful 🙂
As per below - I just recommended watching the two masterclasses - I hope you find them useful
@@DrDemartini Thanks sir! I saw they are free and I want to express my appreciation for that ❤
Vi vant be there sorry
I would never want to learn any lesson or have my life “enriched” if it ever involved the pain of a child. I’m sorry but I can’t agree with everything in this message, although I love your other teachings.
Should we appreciate the murderer or rapist for the murders and rapists they are?
What the collective society represses the selective individual expresses. I have helped around 1,300 woman and men who have been raped discover meaning and opportunity out of each of their experiences.
They have transformed their perceptions and actions and turned the event into something valuable.
I do not endorse or promote rape but I help people who have experienced it turn it into something to grow by.
Even rape?