The Real Reason You Feel So Busy (and What To Do About It) | Dorie Clark | TED
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- These days, almost all of us feel pressed for time. Leadership expert Dorie Clark shares three hidden reasons people fall into an endless loop of feeling constantly busy, and invites you to question what really motivates how you spend your time.
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I saved this to my watch later playlist because I was too busy.
But I realised you never "find time" you "make time" to do what matters. Sometimes that needs to be prioritising down time.
Well said. I think a lot of what makes us busy can be redefined as thinking with someone else's priorities to make *them* happy and that can be personally satisfying. But it comes at the expense of thinking for ourselves, which means that on some physiological level we're not respecting our own happiness. It takes a certain degree of dissection, depends on communication between both parties, and enough time & resources to follow the matter through to completion. It sounds obvious in hindsight, but memory is there to remind us how complicated it actually was.
Good luck expressing yourself. (I mean that.)
@@richardlopez2932 I need all the luck I can get when it comes to clearly articulating my thoughts in a way that others truly understand what I am trying to convey. But thank you for your thoughtful wise words.
Important topic, I've been conditioned to feel guilty when I'm doing nothing and now I'm so bloody tired. I also do probably less than other people.
I felt this comment
It takes a bit of experimentation and practice, but do less and you'll find you achieve more. It took me a while to see that what I had achieved was enough for that hour, morning, afternoon or the entire day. Once I could see all of the small tasks I had completed, that motivated me to to do a couple more the next day and so on, and before I knew it the house was tidier, things were more organised AND I was less tired. Be patient with yourself and you'll not only see just how much you're able to get done, but you may look back over the week and wonder 'how did I do it all so quickly'? My magic stopping statement which I say to myself is "that'll do donkey, that'll do". My name has connection with donkey's, and I'm a big fan of Shrek😝. I hope this helps.
I was searching for some video to show my students and found this.
Honestly, I've realized that the real reason of my busyness is the desire to numb myself down.
I'm from Ukraine and I'm full of uncertainty about my future and fear for safety of my family. That's the real reason why few months ago I decided to find second job and escape from this endless circle of concerns.
Of course, I persuaded myself that I've done that to improve my skills and archive success but It's a complete lie.
Thank you for your work.
When It started. I Just couldn't help but to listen "We live in a society"
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Excellent talk. In the last little while I have tried to invest my time in strategic thinking to figure out exactly what I want for myself in the next coming years. What would truly make me happy.
Reading many comments from people who don’t relate or don’t get it.
Invest your time wisely life goes by fast people
I think we´ve all been in some of those situations, sometimes we have to look from other perspectives in order to realize what´s going on
He was refering to business men, executive and CEO, but there's another reason to be overbusy, the fear to lose your job and the fear of not find another one in a few time. What about those people who isn't executive ones? What about a simply worker exploited in his/her job under the menace to be fired?
This was so needed!
Thank you! It is very helpful 😌
Great talk ... Dorie is a remarkable person!
Wow! Amazing! Thanks for this video!
I am 24 years old right now and I didn't want to take the Bs Social way back then but now I appreciate it wholeheartedly because I can feel how it fulfils me🥰
What to do about feeling busy: do nothing.
Paradoxical, I know.
Life balance!!
Great video.
Thanks Dorie Clark 👏👏👏👏👏
Excelente!
short and to the point!
Very interesting topic and even more interesting explanation, just by reading the title I'm very interested to watch the video until it's finished, you are well dressed and very expressive making the audience feel comfortable. I was excited to get new information, that busyness had a number of reasons behind it, and on second thought it turned out to be true I did. Choice is indeed something difficult, we must be prepared to take risks to make choices, but it seems that it is indeed better than being stuck in uncertainty. We also have to value ourselves and our time more.
Thank you ❤
Nice talk!
Well Said 🙏🏽💯
Thanks
a mindfullness approach
Very nice
After I watched this video, I came to understand what really happened in life before it was "busy". It can be said based on this video that the real reason there are not 3 things is status, obscurity, and numbness. Status makes a person feel busy, he thinks that he has an important role in something so he continues to focus on that thing. then obscurity, we often want to pursue something unclear doing everything possible to achieve it but we are not on the way to achieving that goal. the last one is numbing busyness into our stress, frustration, other uncontrollable feelings. In fact, the one who controls us is ourselves, we must have priorities in order to achieve what we want. Our busyness and free time are two things that we both determine. We make choices that put ourselves in a position where we are busy and make time for our free time. To decide the real reason being busy is that we have to be honest about what motivates us to make choices, we have to create space to breathe, and space to think. And choose with whom we want time time.
I know right? Status, Uncertainty, Numbness are very paramount reasons for assuming the ‘Busy’ title.
Great speech sage 👏
Woww this is interesting! I think this video is related to another Ted Talk video which talk about how to control your free time. Our busyness and free time are two things that we both determine. We making choices that put ourselves in the position where we're busy and make time for our free time. Time is a choice, we better make time for something we'll do than make more time or find another time (postponed it) because time will stretch to accommodate what we choose to put into it.
Most important: Long-term strategic thinking
3 main reasons:
1. status
2. uncertainty
3. numbing
suggestion/solution: create a space to think about how we want to live
The status that i am suffering is so busy.I need to go over the Accouting, Auditing and Strategy of the CPA,but i also be asked to publish an paper in order to meet the demand of a Master of degree.
I have been working to finish my six-book series. So far, first book of 147,000 words and 60+ illustrations published in 2021. Second book of 120,000 words and 100 illustrations will launch over the solstices of 2022. Book three will occur in 2023, and so on.
After that, I'll probably be on my death bed, and that's OK with me. I haven't found much of anything uplifting nor worth getting involved in since around 2018, so... I'm looking forward to dying. Seriously! :) I'm excited about it, and I'll be EXTREMELY glad that I no longer have to suffer anymore.
this dude speaks a lot of sense
nice
Okay, was listening to this and when he brought up Gideon, I thought he was talking about his son dying. Gave me a spook there man.
Not everyone is ready to hear the truth. For those of you complaining about the quality of this content, I challenge you to go within, dig a little deeper.
Is this the smallest Ted stage ever!??
Work is an anesthetic. Great quote. Most things are a distraction from the truths we don’t want to face.
real reasons that you feel busy: 1) Status 2) Uncertainty 3) Numbing
i took this speech personally
I was just thinking about this, odd timing
A lot of good points made but the presentation could have been more organized. I also liked how you compared staying busy constantly to drug addiction. It’s very true as both drug addicts and busy people can be using to numb their inner thoughts and problems . And you said too at the end that it’s good to give yourself space to think
Nice TED talk tho👍 the criticism I made was because it seemed like you were jumping around to different points and the flow was a little off imo
Maybe he is busy too haha
2:47
4:55
Yes. Numbing. Busy work. I keep busy when I feel depressed. I also call it putsing
Putsing's an honorable way to go if you're serious and revitalized by what you're doing. It's sustained many an effort that kept me out of the hospitable or working a job where I was persistently subtly harassed by the public for no good reason at all. Three (enthusiastic) Stars.
noice talk
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And by the way I chose this video because I feel I'm a busy person, whether it's because of assignments or organizational problems, so I think this video is suitable for me, and maybe for you guys. This video talks about three hidden reasons people fall into the endless loop of feeling constantly busy, and invites you to question what really motivates how you spend your time. Most of us are often stuck in a busy state, and it turns out that the first reason we feel busy is status. We feel busy because of our status, whether we realize it or not, when we say "Oh I'm very busy", what we really want to say is "Oh I am in an important position, I am very important". Second, uncertainty, when we are faced with uncertain challenges, such as “you have to get to 90”, the many ways to achieve that goal confuses us and puts us in obscurity. Third, numbness, we use busyness to turn ourselves off. I totally agree with what this video says, that being busy can feel lonely, frustrating, and like having a life that we don't have full control over. And the way to beat busyness forever, is that we have to be honest about what motivates us to make choices, we have to create space to breathe, and space to think. And choose who we want to spend our time with. Finally, hopefully we are not all busy people who are full of pressure.
Bon courage
We are all over worked until we all chill out and this is on a whole
We want more so we work more… maybe if we have less wants - we won’t work as much cause at the end of the day. Maybe we work so much cause we want it to be easier for our kids but what are we setting them up for?? :)
This is directed at people who have this choice. For most people on the planet, being busy when you'd rather not be is a necessity for material survival.
You ever seen The Way of the Gun? Especially what Ryan Phillipe's character says about stepping off the path? I realize no one here is going to kidnap a pregnant surrogate mother or any of that, but...if you consider his can-do nihilism and the idea of achieving short term goals for the sake of a larger accomplishment there's something to be gained.
Of course, I wake up before 6 AM most mornings to write fiction in a notebook before spending the day getting ready to drink and watch videos on the internet. So, you can hold me to account for that.
intro is op
we are always in hurry... still never on time :|
I face a big problem with English as my mother tongue is arabic and I try to learn English by myself .... I advise you to learn arabic really It's amazing and has emotions
HOW DID YOU KNOW??!!!!!!
“I’m so busy I can’t implement this advice”
Before I ask this, sorry if this sounds so "overthinker" but somehow I doubt myself, and these sentences appear in my head "what if the survey, the people you asked didn't give a real data, not by they lying but they don't really have that question before so they answered it that time, as you ask them immediately and not accurate", basically it's that feeling when someone asks you a question and you answered it after thinking for a while, but then the moment passed and you started to think again about the question and noticed that you have a better answer to it... but when you do a survey to some people, they might doesn't like to answer much survey so I guess that's isn't easy to be proved nvm this is just an overthinking thingy of a frustrated collager, but I'll appreciate it really if someone can answer and cure this doubt in my head thanks.
nah, i can totally understand your paranoia bcs this could really happen irl and it's most likely possible as well. Since i, myself have done the mistake you've said in giving survey answers.
Not to forget, all these people interviewed were very busy or at least trying to look busy - so why spending time to truly answer a random study?
Also people tell you very different things than what they really do or think.
That 'long term strategic thinking' thing kinda seems unlikely. To get numbers like that the participants were likely prompted.
She means the bigger picture. That if you're not just shooting in the dark all the time, and you have something to compare all the decisions that are made along the way to that bigger picture, that goal, then you can separate the right answers in a particular context to the wrong answers that just muck the whole thing up and leave you with less energy than when you started and the long term just ends up becoming further away and futile and insufferable. In less words: don't worry about money or a ton of success, and just listen to what you really want out of a particular challenge and measure progress according to that.
Do or do not there is no try yoda :) gotta find a balance
It was a wise word.We did not learn to enjoy life..Because we do not know what our mission is on earth?
62 meetings a month, 3 meetings a day.. If they were all the right meetings at the right time, they would help take care of not just short term fires, but also long term strategy... So, make your meetings work for you. Or cut them in half.
But, you would not do it, if you fear loss of status, experiencing uncertainty or pain and instead would revert to continuing to use work to numb out all that pain. That numbness though is itself suffering. The only way out is to take breaks to relax and reevaluate and rebalance. Wisdom and sanity return when we allow them to return.
The fact that Ted Talks had a man Dan Marsh who broke into an elderly couples home, stabbed them to death, tortured and disembowled them as a speaker is sick..surprised you didn't invite the victims family to the front row.
Ehy is it marked TED when its TEDx?
These comments are not it💀I thought it was a good presentation, correlating "being busy" with status is definitely something I've been conditioned to think
Of course, there's just as much time in a day as there's always been, and you rightly say that a workday is used inefficiently (wasted) because of:
Meetings
Email
Self-distraction from difficult thoughts or decisions
Numbing
...but, in addition, many of us have what are called "bullshit jobs" which entail many little "bullshit tasks".
On top of work tasks, a significant proportion of every day is spent in non-productive digital delay.:
Click
Wait
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... and sitting in a car by oneself, commuting to work, from work, between work sites, etc. If you attention is on the task of driving, which I hope it is, it precludes any other activity or thought process. This part of our wasted time is a result of unnecessary suburban sprawl, and would intuitively be a large contributor to the current "epidemic of loneliness".
God is with us all, people need to wake up!!!! Buy XRP, and XLM.
Grasshopper Less is More. When you give up what you want, you will have what you need. Prosperity comes with value so even if you was a survivalist you going to be busy just trying to survive. In Modern Life we are always busy because we are always exchanging our time for a Time document called money so that we can live the most out of our life. As long as you need money you will always be busy. And even if you have a lot of money you will be busy spending it. This presentation is not relevant to the human Condition that we are currently in
She looks a bit like Rhea Butcher.
But it doesn't get in the way.
Yellow Tail Vineyards probably wouldn't mind being associated with this.
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The _real_ reason we feel so busy is because there are more things to do than ever before, than that's because there are more people than ever before. As usual, like all problems, this too is caused by overpopulation.
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He just assumes that everyone is escaping their lives and his solution is really trivial... 👎
Awfully presumptuous title,no?
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The quality of these talks has gotten so low that kindergarden presentations are more interesting.
@@Dimitris_Balf at least you’re taking it cool and not trying to kill him. Thanks for being cool about his opinion. 🤙🏻
@@Dimitris_Balf It is how the commenter's brain perceives value. Nothing to do with content. You can only see/feel/perceive value IF it has certain CONTEXT to you.
@@Dimitris_Balf so he said that in some people some of the time, busy-ness has reasons other than the amount of work they are obligated to do. Ok but pretty obvious points. The title promised me something that would apply to me and it addresses nothing of my situation or the situation of a lot of people who are busy for reasons other than the exceptional ones cited. The title promised solutions of which the video had none. Complete disappointment to a lot of people.
So TED Talks have devolved so far down that this confused "person" is trying to tell me the definition of "busy" >>> wtf.. smh
I know, I need some life advice. So I'll take it from a woman who thinks she's a man. She must have all of her ducks in a row. Nothing seems completely off when I look at this person. Therefore their advice must be amazing too
Bruh
Thank you for wasting 8 min of my time. You stated the obvious and nothing more.
Is this a guy?
You need to know what’s between their legs? Why?
@@alestevez950 just curious. I couldn't tell
@@alestevez950 Why do you think asking for a gender refers specifically to genitals? Sometimes one just want to know how to speak about someone else in the right way ...
@Niels: Maybe just google the name and you'll find your answer.