I've Lost Everything
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 4. 01. 2024
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Not for my sake but I'm hoping the more people see this video the more blokes it could possibly help & even save lives.
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Thank you so much for this overwhelming support from everyone đ I'm truly blown away by how many people have reached out & commented. I can't explain how much it all means to me. Especially those people who even helped me by becoming patreons. That support means more to me than I can put into words. Sorry if I can't reply to every comment. I'm doing my best but I wasn't expecting this much support â€ïž I wasn't expecting any help or support. I purely made this to help others speak out about what they may be going through but too afraid to speak up. As you've seen from this video if I can do it for the world to see don't be embarrassed confiding in a mate đ
Hey mate I've sent you a msg on Facebook
Hopefully I responded to it. I've responded to all the messages I can see on Facebook đâ@@lifestyledownunderadventur5456
You said this is nothing compared to what you've been through in the past. As a man in my late 60's who's certainly seen the ups and downs of life, my advice is to use what you've been through in the past to draw strength from to handle what you are now facing. You've done it before so you know what you are capable of mate, and can do it again.
You have to go to your son. That will fill the voids, give your life purpose, and the payoff is the love you'll get in return. The joy thats missing is giving back, that's why sharing and helping with this video feels good. Give back to your son. He needs you and you need him.â@Campingdownunder
Hey mate I know lifeâs hard right now but keep pushing keep trying, lifeâs not easy but your situation is temporary and things will get better.
The fact that she found someone so fast tells you everything. You can be something great.
Seems liked she literally had someone on the sideline just waiting for you to go peacefully
@@daronykoy8244 i was thinking the same thing. She is blaming you so she can keep her secret unoticed and play victim.
Women won't divorce unless they've already got someone else lined up and ready to go. Impossible to have a committed relationship while that's secretly going on.
She lined his replacement up long before he made the move to do this. I feel for this man, I've seen it happen to a friend and it's probably the greatest act of betrayal I've ever witnessed. @@daronykoy8244
Perhaps, it also doesnât take ppl long to fall in love if theyâre emotionally needy. Choose your partner wisely
Hang in there. I lost everything at 60 and wasn't sure what I was going to do. I had already retired on just a partial pension and had health issues that prevented me from returning to work. It was a terrible 2 years sorting everything out, but now at 67 I have to say I have never been happier in my whole life. You are never too old to begin from where you are. You have your rv, you are still young, you have a job. Why throw your money away on a house? Nothing wrong with renting a room and spending most of your time travelling. It is your time, follow your dreams, travel, explore. Maybe in time your son will see what an adventure your life is and want to join you camping. Hang in, it gets better, I promise.
It takes a real man to express his true feelings.
If a woman wonât work a hard as you have to get this far sheâs not worth your time especially if she jumped straight into the arms of another!
I look at relationships like this -
Is it equal ? Do you get back what you give or do you have to give give give to maybe get something?
Does she weaponise anything in your present relationship or from your past relationships,
Donât spend your life needing a partner Iâm on my own after 4 serious relationships 6 kids,
The damage family break ups family courts and greedy selfish people hav caused kills men !
It took me years of depression to realise Iâm at my best alone,
I make seriously great money cleaning and bird proofing solar panels for my self itâs crazy money !
Good luck reach out if you need.
Cheers pj
I lost everything at age 57 and was left with a heap of debt. Sounds like she was never going to move anyway and probably had someone else in the pipeline. All I can say is respect for putting this together. Keep your head up brother and just keep moving forward one day at a time.
My exact thoughts too.
This was my thoughts also she 100% was seeing someone
No doubt she will be back once his channel blows up
Nah mate you donât have to take responsibility for anything. You made a big move to better your family, if she folded after 3 months that speaks volumes about her and not you. You seem like a really great bloke, and youâre so brave to speak about your feelings. No idea why I was recommended this but youâve gained a subscriber! Take this opportunity to explore and take everything in freely. Look forward to updates and hope things get better
Plus she has 5 kids... faaack that đ the man dodged a bullet
Agree 100%
Same, new sub
Agree, woman fold all the time if things get a bit harder.
And another one. Nothing wrong with any decisions you made. Folding after 3 months like most have said is your ex loss.
Your channel has been around since 2006. This video that you've posted 6 days ago has more views than any other video you've made. That's a lot of love and support brother. Keep on going!
Wait, 3 mths she ended it AND found someone else?? Mate, you are NOT the problem! Hope things turn out for the best for you. Hang in there đ
seriously! with 5 kids as well! Gross
Yeah, I can't roll my eyes hard enough at her đ
Technically she was already cheating on him.
So she just jumped ship.
Poor guy, sounds like he's better off without her. â@@the-based-jew6872
who are already popping out kids of their own@@GillianMulholland
Hang in there mate. We all here to support you â€
Iâm nearly 40 and have been through some shit. Videos like this are really important because it shows real life and its ups and downs. When youâre going through hell, keep going!
Yeah it's a pretty shit club to be a part of, unfortunately more and more of us are joining every day.
Me too brother
This guy is smoking meth.
He's a con. Very expensive vehicle super clean. He could sell.that and buy a property!
Almost 40. Fucked up a lot.
Dude, this is insane. You only moved there in the first place for family reasons. Youâre very brave to speak so candidly. I hope everything works out for you â€
Amazing share. Single mom and psychologist so I get where youâre coming from on so many levels. It will change, there are always choices.. And there are always helpers. Just keep showing up for yourself and it will all fall into place. Youâve got this!! đ
Dude, the courage to film this and go through all this and still keep going. This is the beginning of a big triumph, for sure.
Farrk mate I feel for you. My wife left a 28 year marriage and 3 kids to find the spark. Lost everything including all future dreams . Bought a caravan, no rent al dramas or expense, live on my own now, wonât ever rely on someone else to provide happiness. Been 6 years now and gets better every day. Hang in there bud đ€
Sorry to hear that mate. This is the third time I've started from scratch with nothing. It bloody sucks. Glad to hear things improved for you. I'd actually prefer living out of a caravan than a house. At least your free to travel where ever you like & find work anywhere đ
@@Campingdownunder yeah thatâs right. Rentâs cheap, bout $100-120/week electricity included, no bond no rent in advance no lease. Thereâs always something going on in parks, keeps you from dropping off the radar. Itâs your own house you can do what you want when you want. I personally would think about heading back to the parents for a bit and set yourself up for your new adventure. And spend some time alone to process whatâs gone down. Donât put too much faith in the modern woman. If theyâre single at this age theyâre meant to be. Thereâs a lot of information out there by both male and female psychologists on how the female mind works. Do a little research, accept any faults of your own, youâll no doubt find some peace of mind. If your crazy enough to have another go at least youâll no what red flags to look for. Itâs hard to come up with a plan when your devastated but that worked for me and looking back on 6 years I donât think I could do anything better. Best of luck and stay strong đ€
Good for you buddy. Canât wait to get back on the road again in my van. đŠđș
â@@Campingdownunder sounds like you answered your own question. A caravan could work for you and your son while you decide what you want to do next.
@@scooterdude2030 i agree with you, older single women are single for a reason. i call them R.U.O.s ... recreational use only.
Men need to hear this. We don't talk about it nearly enough. Good on you for having the courage to put it out there authentically. You've helped more people with this hard hitter than we'll ever know. All the best mate
Mate I listened to every word you said and I was touched by your raw honesty. It made me feel like you were talking directly to me. Your story is very similar to mine, and where your at is very similar to me. I can really empathise with you in your pain. I have tremendous respect for your honesty. I just subscribed after watching your this clip. Please keep us all in the loop.
I also just subscribed because of the courage and vulnerability it took to make this video.
My hometown was hit with a suicide of a 38 year old this week. Seeing you sharing your struggles means so much more than you could possibly know. Thank you.
My neighbor, 41 yr old male multi-millionaire, hung himself during co vid ... he left 2 keikis behind ...
The homeless go on but the millionaires on the Hawaiian Islands are killing themselves ...
It sounds like youâre happiest when youâre out, camping and exploring, and making the videos to share with those of us who canât do the same. There are people who would never see the beauty of nature except to your videos.
Life has many high points and dark valleys. Follow your passion and head towards the light.
Perfectly said! â€
This is the first time I've come across your channel but wow I'm seriously touched by your candor. Thank you for expressing these feelings that so many of us experience but often struggle to articulate. Great thing that you're doing for the community, we're all connected by our love of seeing these parts of Australia but also all have experiences in life that can obscure the beauty of it. Gonna be following your story from now on and have no doubt that with this sort of attitude you'll land on your feet and find that stability again. Much love
You did NOTHING wrong. Any normal spouse wouldâve said to go for 3 months as youâve secured a job. Itâs her loss, do not think you have done anything wrong at all.
Agreed; she wanted to live in the new area, so it made sense for him to start working in the new area and get established.
Then she gets pissy about him not waiting 3 months before going to the new area? Come on.....that's some mind job.
yes 12 weeks soon goes for gods sake. cow .
Mate being away for 3 months is nothing. If that's all it's taken for her to leave, she probably isn't the most loyal person in the world.
I get that there are always other things going on. Relationships are so bloody complicated and some other little things have probably compounded, but at the same time, 3 months away to try and get a head start on your new life together is nothing but a small amount of patience and support.
If it wasnt now, then it would have been in a month, a year etc. Endure the sting and come out stronger for it.
God bless brother, never apologise for following your dreams đ
Do you really think that crap is helpful? No matter how you slice it, what heâs done has got him there. I understand youâre trying to be supportive but youâre actually just enabling. âIf you you want more of what youâve got, do more of what youâve doneâ. He is 100% responsible for his situation, thatâs the simple fact.
@@newforestpixie5297calling his wife âa cowâ is not helpful at all. People fall apart. No matter what he cares about her so calling her names just makes him feel bad and defensive, so good for you for being that guy. It happensâŠ.obviously, she didnât pack it in over 12 weeks.
The moment you realise you don't need anyone to be happy is the moment you'll start feeling better, Wishing you all the strength in these hard times.
Very true.
I would disagree. Evidence shows people are the biggest healers for mental health. Loneliness is more damaging to your health than smoking.
You need one or two people you can see every week just for enjoyment.
A minority of people can do the hermitd life, but not many.
@@MrZoomah Have to agree there, even introverts need to be around people, just less than normal. I find I can't be around too many people but I also can't be alone for too long. It's a balance.
Exactly ..it's not good to be sooo needy ....
There's some truth to what both you and the OP says. Humans do feel best when we have a close circle of peers. But too many people are not happy with themselves, and look for happiness from others. 'I will be happy when I get a girlfriend/boyfriend'. That is a surefire way to have a TOXIC relationship. To only be happy because of someone else, is to leech their happiness. These people jump from relationship to relationship as in, they're not single for a long time at all. Which imo sounds like what Camping Downunder's Ex is like.
To derive your happiness from another and not yourself, means you will sap their happiness. How can you truly love someone else if you don't love yourself first? The answer is, painfully.@@MrZoomah
I really needed this. I'm in such a dark space and feel like I've lost everything. Often I hate waking up
Man your comment made me sad, I've had more than a fair share of dark days mate, just remember life can turn upside down and leaves you feeling nothing but hopelessness but has a strange way of turning back around. Just don't go it alone share it with someone.
I get that feeling a lot. And man does it scare people (friends AND mental health professionals) when I say that I just want to sleep and not wake up until I'm 'well' in my head, my heart and my soul ! It's not that I don't want to be alive - I very much do! My desire IS to enjoy life AND to be able to be at peace and confident in my ability to cope in difficult times. I want to have the equanimity to embrace life's challenges and be able to make mindful decisions in the way I have in the past. But so often now there's a thick and discombobulating mental and emotional pall surrounding me. It envelops and attaches to me. It drags off me so heavily; it obscures my path and taints my objectivity so much that life seems unsolvable and overwhelming. I get so lost in that murkiness, so tired of trying to climb up and out into clarity, that I just want take a mental holiday. Take a time-out from the struggle and come back refreshed and in better shape to cope with everything. And I don't want to just sleep, because of the oppressive and vivid nightmares. I just want to switch off for a while, recharge, recover and then return to life, back in charge of my mental health.
So many people suffer .. and we loose good people to easy so please stay strong..
Youâve got this! †it may seem like everything has fallen apart but what Iâve always said is everything happens for a reason. I am proud that youâre taking the time to talk about it because so many of us are going through something similar to this but we sit in silence and hold it all in! Thank you for being brave and just know time heals everything and you are better off.
As a 30 year old man this hits really hard. Thank you for being open and showing that this is real life.
At 30 You're just beginning to live. There's so much ahead of you; you have no idea.
Happy Trails. đđ
You aint lost everything, you've gained your freedom back.
and that expensive truck
@@terrytownsend5583 Wow, you really didn't get the point of this video, did you?!
Ăve been happily married for 14 years and I'm really free my wife has never stopped me doing anything
Classic reply from a teen.
â@catsandcrafts171
..honestly, the uploader need to stop chasing females... he can't afford to live but has no intrest on working....đ€Šââïž
Thank you for your honesty and your bravery †I hope your reset trip goes well. You may be alone in your struggle but you are not struggling alone. Sending positivity your way.
Sorry that youâre going through all this, brother! Praying that you find the change that you are after †Thank you for trying to stay positive through the rough times. You are a legend and are loved!
I don't think you realize how many men needed to hear you. As a young man myself, I can speak for many of us...Thank you for opening up in a world where, as men, we are unconsciously told to hide our worries and "be strong". Life is extremely hard, and it feels like we are expected to be these dull rocks, and that we shouldn't show any of our emotional depth. We need brothers like you in our lives to share with. Thank you.
I'm not a camper....but this video popped up and I'm suffering terribly from depression. So you've got a new subscriber. I'm happy to watch and hope for your upswing to happen soon.
So sorry to hear you are suffering from depression. My wife also has depression and I just feel helpless. I really hope you get better, sending you all my love!
Go see a doctor they can really help đ
We dont belong here, even through your depression youre thinking of someone elses well being. youre an angel, and Jesus is calling you.....just listen. I love you and i pray that you hear Him.
Try Ketamine therapy. I was severely depressed for 3 years and I was cured after 4 treatments. It's expensive, but worth it.
Stop watching yt. It makes you more depressed
She found someone else that quick? She was already checked out. I went thru something very similar about 10 years ago.
Enjoy your solo time. Seriously. At first it will he rough. And it will feel lonely. But once you start opening up again, life will change massively.
Goodluck bud. You got this.
For real. For her to have 5 kids and already find someone willing to take 5 of another man's litter into his responsibility, that is extremely unlikely within 3 months of being single.
I canât imagine how hard this is for you⊠losing your kids, your partner, and not being able to find a house⊠as a fellow south Aussie please stay strong and keep us updated so we can help you in any way we can.
Hey Brother, single dad here with a special needs kiddo. I had this vid pop up in suggested and CZcams has done myself and probably plenty of others a huge favour by doing so. I'm a huge advocate for speaking up, even more so for men, so you are doing a huge service to heaps of communities. A HUGE cheers! đ» I'm just getting back into camping myself so I'll be supporting ya all the way. My motto above all else - If you're not doing what makes you happy, then what on earth are you doing! So, keep on doing that.. ya love the outdoors, ya love Perth, (so do I), your vids make a difference and sharing your thoughts always helps. Always here for a chat if ya need another ear. âïž
Rock on Marc you seem like a great dad. Men these days have it harder than ever. I lost my father in Law and my dad. My Dad most recently, 3 years ago. He was my best friend. I have 2 daughters and they are incredible so that really helps me.
When we embrace the change it makes it easier, focus on your channel you can make difference in someone else's life by sharing you're truth. My suggestion if I was you,work for now stay with that lady save your money, when she leaves quit your job and get to know yourself again, head to a area that's affordable and start again. People that jump into relationships quickly after ending one haven't healed, don't be hard on yourself, if she couldn't wait 3 months that shows you her commitment level to the connection..enjoy the ride. be flexible with change, most people freak out, reality is change is much better than staying in stagnate energy. Heal your heart and trust in process. .Let go of the idea you can't do it on you own, you can and you will. Best of luck buddy. Nothing is permanent remember that !đ
Single dad too. Have to tornados at home. Kudos for you. And keep it up
Yeah Marc, I am a single father with a young bloke who has cerebral palsy, sometimes life throws you curve balls but you gotta do what you gotta do
@@MomeGnome that's your opinion is it?,you are not being helpful, I mentioned he look for gold while being there,that's a way of garnering income,it earns you money, doesn't fall into the hobby bracket,maybe that is a way out, I don't know,until you actually are the father of a teenage son with a disability and don't have your own home or not much money like the both of us are going through I am sorry but you really wouldn't have any idea of our situation đ
I met a writer/author when I was living in LA. I asked him, what is your most important advice for a story teller, writer. He told me, tell the real, the ugly, the hurt. It's what people can relate to. With you brother, I'm in the thick of it too.
Yehhhhhhh!!!!! The ugly, painful truth so needs to be shared⊠weâre such a wounded species đą the facade is sooooo damn boring! đ this man is an absolute legend! May he be totally blessed⊠& you too eastongreenđ„°đâ€đ
Man ,,All I Can Say is Stay strong,,,Don't Give up,,,WE All Go thru this Sort of stuff,,,And Its Fukn Hard !!,,,Much Respect for telling it like it is !!
Thank you for sharing your innermost feelings and the things that
many people are too scared to share. I am not super familiar with your channel but you have gained a new supporter. Even if you may feel physically alone at this time, there are 1000s of people on this channel who support you as a person. If necessary reaching out for counseling or other mental health support can be good too. You got this man bad times will always pass â€
See the doctor. Meds do make a difference. You said âIâm that depressedâ See the doctor mate. You are awesome mate. You are changing lives by posting this video. You have everyone behind you now. Make the most of this and post some more content showing us how you turn things around.
Don't anybody say the CZcams algorithm doesn't work. Never seen your channel before but this video popped up. I've lost everything too. Home, car, dogs, job, belongings....basically my entire life. I have no kids and my family couldn't care less. Nightmares every night, wake up to shock at my reality every morning etc etc. And you're right, there is absolutely nothing worse than feeling completely alone on this planet. We'll be okay though man, we'll get back up there. Well done on making this video, you are crushing it!
Yeah same, i think it's because i've looked some outdoors/camping/construction videos that yours popped up and i'm happy to have seen it. It made me remember that happiness don't last forver so it's cool to enjoy it while it's last
How about we start a TG channel for our sorry asses and work together to get filthy rich?
@@MarketingStrategies28 what's TG?
@@mikehenry7878 te. Le. Gr. Am
@@mikehenry7878 YT delete stuff
When my marriage fell apart I hit a wall so I went to see a mental health nurse, he told me how I was feeling was perfectly normal and if I didnât feel like that he would be concerned. My relationship with my kids is better than ever and I have been with my partner now for 6 years married for nearly 1, it gets better mate. If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you. Accept the hard times and celebrate the good no matter how small and day by day it will get better, good luck
Yeah Iâd take that as a huge load off my shoulders and now youâve got more time and money to focus on himself and his kid and find a new partner that respects him
@@goseone412 absolutely
"If you were looking after some bird and her 5 kids and she finds someone new in such a short time that says more about her than you" I totally agree and it was something that stood out to me.
Year thats so fucking quick she must be a supermodel
@@taiopaisley1928 lotta guys have been dry for so long that they are just tools for women who wet their willy.
a good willy sucker will never be lonely, and will always search for the richest willy
I needed this today! Thank you đ This video is also proof that you are right where you need to be. Your willingness to heal is healing you. â€đ
G'day matey. Sometimes in life we need to put ourselves first. You can't look after anyone else if you're not around to do it.If your loved ones are safe and cared for where they are right now, that's okay. That's good. It gives you breathing space to take care of you without feeling that you have fight for them constantly. You say you've hit rock bottom, use that. From here on out the only way is up. right? Talking to someone doesn't automattically mean medication. it just means you're not alone. You CAN do this and come out the other side stronger which also means that you WILL be stronger for the ones you love. She'll be right mate. We got ya back. Cheers.
Mate, this is the first time I have seen one of your videos which was just by chance. I can assure you it's not your fault at all. You did what any responsible person would have done in your situation. Now you have to bite the bullet again and go back for your son. He's your responsibility not your mates and you have to put his needs ahead of what you want at the moment. Once you have some stability and security in you and your son's life then you can reevaluate. Hopefully you will see this when you have your break and your head clears. Best wishes.
this is the correct answer
I agree. This is the way forward.
Yes mate This may not be want you want or need at the moment. But it seems like the best want or forward. You could get the job back or a job and settle in a different area in S.A. for a while to see how things go. Never be in a rush to live your life,as that's not really living. A. God Bless.
Firstly congratulations on the bravery to share this to the world. It takes immense courage.
Secondly, I would go see the doctor. You might be amazed the additional clarity and personal resources you gain with appropriate support.
Third and last, I am typically against people offering advice to people on the internet. I don't know the full situation and who makes me qualified. With that in mind, I do however agree with the comment I am replying to. There is no shame in going back to be with your so , rebuilding and then having another crack in a year or two.
Agree with this comment. Go back and you'll feel better being with your son and he'll feel better having you around also. It doesn't mean you've failed in trying to make a change in your life, the relationship breakdown wasn't part of the plan and threw you curve ball. Time to go back and regroup, get some stability for the time being and reduce the stress levels so you can think clearly again and then you'll find a way forward. Improvise, adapt and overcome. Best of luck
Thanks for speaking about it mate. My ex wife cheated with 7 other people and convinced my family I cheated on her and I got blamed. When I looked for help all I got told was to man up and get over it. You are a true man for sharing too help others.
Australian women knows absolutely nothing about loyality do they?
Is your name David by any chance? Its just that youve described someone I know.
@@perrrry That's a disgusting sexist comment, I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls (one as young as 14 - omfg this is rape - she also had endured SA from her dad for years so was a little messed up re: relationships with men; as soon as I found out he'd been cheating and lying about his whole identity, I left). I had to get a restraining order against him when he falsely claimed I'd broke and entered his house, only to type a Word doco (?) on his PC. He also said he'd secretly filmed us being intimate and would post that online. I was only 18-19 at the time and had no experience in looking for psychopathic liars. Revenge porn, staling weren't crimes in 2011 (or so I was told). I was lucky he was too lazy to be really dangerous, he threatened to kill me, my dog, my family by burning down the house. I woke up my parents screaming in my sleep thinking he was on top of me, violating me (edit: he was outside, across the road, watching the house, breaking the restraining order but because of CHOGM, the police were too busy to enforce). Don't ever make such a sexist statement again. We all suffer from low-empathy, worthless people, no matter the gender.
@@skullsaintdeadI agree. However, I do think women are significantly less loyal in relationships. And when they cheat, thereâs always an excuse ( there is absolutely no excuse for cheating) most guys at least own it, and take responsibility. Women always blame someone or something else. That is awful that happened to you. Iâm so sorry you had to go through that .
@@skullsaintdead jesus calm down. Learn what the purpose behind a questionmark, and reading the first 5 lines of your comment you kinda imply there is some truth to it. " I'm an Aussie women and was cheated on probably up to 5 x times with different girls"
Thank you for sharing your story. You don't know how important it can be for someone experiencing something similar to be able to hear it from someone with a platform what they're going through.
Continue to share your story and just know that you are the voice for many.
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Hey mate, glad youâre sharing your story, and exposing harsh realities that others are commonly facing. Lot of shit that doesnât get talked about that makes others feel alone and misunderstood. I live in Perth currently, me and my brother go camping quite often all over WA. If you need a couple blokes to have a beer with đ»đ€
As an Aussie Mum with a son who has Down Syndrome and Autism and who is currently going through treatment for brain cancer, thanks for keeping it real. Im on meds for anxiety and depression and youre right it doesnt stop the hits coming, but it helps me deal with them as best i can and keep moving forward. I hope you reach a happier place soon...you never know whats around the corner.
Stay strong
Iâm so sorry, you have so much on your plate. Blessings to you and your dear son. đ
Iâm also a mum with a child with down syndrome and Autism and another Tucson with Autism Iâm so sorry to hear about your health. Iâve healthy issues but nothing compared to what youâre going through. :-(
Self sacrifice is the purest form of love there is.†You should be very proud of your character.
May God give you strength, answers and help.
Everybody loves a good comeback story. Keep going and don't give up!
Thanks for sharing this. That was very brave of you. This helped to make me feel not alone in my struggles as well. Sending love and healing energy âš I am optimistic about the opportunities that are around the corner for you. With any dark night, the sun will always shine again âïž stay strong!
You did nothing wrong. Keep trying, keep living, there's thousands of us here to talk. By the way, this video trended. I had never seen your channel until today â€
Same
Me also first time đ
Yes indeed, heâs popped up randomly in my feed today đâ€ïžđłđż
Same!
It sounds like youâve had a lucky escape âŠ.things will get better â€đŽó §ó ąó „ó źó §ó ż
Absolutely what I was thinking
Mate donât ever stop making these vids. Your helping so many people.. you could be saving someoneâs life.
I'm already feeling more positive after watching it
Don't be selfish dude
He's a con. The petrol.wouls.cost more than.a homes.power a day and he could sell that very clean vehicle and buy.a place. Hes.a.con.
AHD with your spelling I highly doubt you know exactly the prices of both. And he could sell his car? Maybe when he keeps going homeless his car is still a place he can always fall back on, a last resort maybe? Who says heâs driving it EVERY single day to use fuel? Assumptions.
@@ryanmcgarrigle1079 Yes maybe. I just dont trust all I see on CZcams anymore. Hopefully because he's not hopeless, he can get his life in order. Buy a piece of land to put his truck on. But id sell that, they're worth about the same as a single unit flat. But his lifestyle would be far better than being trapped in a self owned prison. But you'd be on the property ladder at least.
Thanks for sharing your story and helping others to know they are not alone. Your video came as a random recommendation but has really touched my heart. God wants you to know that He loves you and understands your struggles. Hang in there mate, I am praying that things look up for you â€
Great video, it's relateable and good on you for sharing all of these very hard trials & tribulations going on. đđ
This video shows how strong you really are. The Universe will provide, and you have all of us cheering you on.
You're not alone mate, theres many of us out here drowning in depression and financial difficulties and our families are suffering too. I'm so glad your video popped up in my feed. Keep being open and posting your progress. Don't give up. It's hard but you've taken the first step by reaching out. I'm glad you did. Answers might open up and maybe you can encourage many others as you go.
Sharing the hard stuff and asking for help is the beginning of the healing process. Keep it up and thanks for sharing. I am hoping for some better days for you!
Thank you for sharing your feelings, it helps others to speak about theirs. Please keep sharing and posting. âšđ§đœââïž
Iâm in my 60s and the last 13 years Iâve been on my own. Itâs been the happiest time of my life once you get used to it
I know this isn't for everyone, but I decided relatively early in my life not to get married/move in with anyone. Was just a personal choice, I still dated and had some pretty long-term relationships, but I've just seen marriage (or the equivalent of co-habiting) destroy so many men that I've known, both financially and emotionally, I just figured it wasn't for me. I really couldn't be happier to be honest. Luckily, I never had a major urge to have kids. When kids are involved, this whole calculation changes, but really with the right mindset I think living alone can be fantastic. Obviously if a relationship just ended, it's going to be rough going for a while, but yeah... Keep an open mind about it and don't be too hard on yourself. Men can be really hard on themselves, especially when they've convinced themselves they've failed their family. It's important to take responsibility, but men have a tendency to take on too much IMO.. Again, don't be too hard on yourself.
me too, 66.. love it.. i think for me,, not them..
10 more years big daddy, you will soon have to meet your maker.
Donât take this the wrong way, but she was looking to end your relationship regardless of wether you left or not. A normal relationship would get over you being absent for 3 months, and her finding another partner quickly also suggests that had little to do with it either. It sounds like it was a convienent reason for her to blame you and get what she wanted. Absolutely not your fault at all, donât let her twist it like it was.
Exactly what Instated above. She had the backup guy long before the 3 months. When the time came to choose not to be able to see that âotherâ guy she chose to brake it up.
100% agree with this - women are incredibly capable at twisting things to make men feel terrible. honestly mate you're well away from this one... she sounds awful
3 months is NOTHING
You havenât lost your kids, you can just go home, living that far away from them will be difficult, to be honest I see it as your choice.
She ''Monkey Branched'' the relationship your 100% right.
Shes the type to have a guy lined up before hand before committing with the break up, a lot of women do this...
Women are extremely good at creating an excuse based on blaming the bloke. They'll never tell the truth that they just got sick of you.
I know because I'm a woman.
â„ïž sending good vibes.. thanks for sharing your struggles.. we ALL face hard times and you sharing yours make us all feel less aloneâŠ
This is so helpful you sharing this. Praying đ for you! Trying to be grateful for what I have and not miss what I had to walk away from
My brother, ive lost everything more then once..and im still here and prosperingđ my point is, the mind is powerful, it controls the body, when your hard to deny, your chances greatly increase. The beautiful thing about a brokenheart, is what was inside. Kia kaha my broâ€
I gotta tell you, despite how you're feeling now.. posting a video like this and everything you have disclosed in the video shows tremendous strength and courage. Thank you for sharing. Hang in there.
Hey, your video came up on my recommendations on CZcams probably because I have been listening to Solfeggio music to relax me as I have been feeding anxious these past 6 months on and off. I watched your video and Iâm glad I did. I also watched your video I open up & Share my pain.. from 1 year ago.I really feel for you and what you are going through.Hang in there and never give up. You are a Beautiful Bloke with a Beautiful loving Soul. Thanks for sharing. Sending Love and Best wishes from Geelong Victoria. đđ§Ąđ€
Being authentic is a gift đ and it is so brave. Specially these times where every one wants to show only the fancy parts of there life. Hitting rock bottom is so so hard. You will heal and you will feel so much better soon. I promise. Send you a big hug over to the other side of the earth.
I hope you read these comments. Iâve never watched any of your videos before and this video just popped up in my feed. I never comment either, but I want to share that you are not alone. Praying for you, Paul.
Not sure if you'll read this mate. But I can give you one thing that you can do now that has always helped me out. At the end of each day just write down 3 good things that happened to you. Could be as simple as you saw an interesting bird when you were out walking that you've never seen before. Keep the positive thoughts flowing and you will be amazed what can change in a year
Great Advice đđ
Agree 100%
This is great advice and amazingly powerful to reset your mindset.
Firstly good on ya for sharing this as it is so important and you and your mental health is so important!
I fully get the shutting everyone out part. When we're overwhelmed it's hard to know where to start.
You can still go and talk to someone without needing to take meds.
You can start again and it will get better. I've started from scratch a few times..putting all my eggs in my partners basket has ended badly for me many times.
Now I'm building up a business as a solo mum of 3 to show my kids that we can overcome and we must be resilient and brave.
Mad respect from Nz đ
Best wishes bud, you've taken some hard knocks, but I see strength in you to overcome the adversity and raise yourself up. I lost my son seven years ago, and at times, the pain and heartbreak can overwhelm you, but we have to keep searching for the happy times ahead and dig deep for our inner strength. Greetings from South Africa
As a fellow SA I appreciate what youâve done, Iâm living in NSW now and married. I sometimes suffer from depression and youâre not alone mate.
Stop blaming yourself please. Life happens, sh!t happens. Stay strong. Good luck. You're not alone. Sending love. â€
The problem is, heâs not blaming himself.
â@@MGTOWGreatestHits thats dead right, needs to take some ownership stop blaming others. Man up
@@MGTOWGreatestHits He did say it's on him for moving too quickly and not waiting. I watched his previous video about his kids and seems like he's selfless to a fault.
He left his first wife who cheated on him from the start with so many men she couldn't count and left her two cars and all the house furniture so he started from scratch. He got another partner and started from scratch again
I don't like the term man-up, but having some bloody self respect would've saved this guy a lot of money so he's not constantly on struggle street.I'd be fighting DHS tooth-and-nail if my ex was abusing my kids like that and I couldn't see them. I'd make her chase me for child support.
@@seanrawlinson Totally! Itâs the pathetacism mode, sitting there whining like a baby about some rotten skank, leaving his own son with a friend, itâs a recipe for the situation heâs in. Iâm a single dad with full time care of my son and we homeschool and weâre both so unbelievably happy with that, our energy and resources go to that, Iâm not chasing dirty cheating whores or letting anyone cuck me or take my time, energy or finances away from us, and that must be number one priority. He should be thinking more like this particularly given how finite his resources are.
Youâre so courageous for sharing your story. Thank you for your transparency â€ïž. Weâve been not okay and thatâs okay. Youâre strong willed and you will get through this. Weâre all rooting for you. The light in me sees the light in you, be well â€ïžđ
Sending positive vibes your way. It sounds like life has dealt you a tough hand, but as they say, the hard times only make you stronger. I'm sure that rings hollow when you're actually going through it. Here's hoping things improve for you soon. Take care of yourself and definitely seek help if your mental state gets worse.
Thank you for posting this. You're not alone brother. I've lost not everything, but most everything too. Husband, step child, health, ability to do my nursing job, and thus ability to provide for myself. Extremely hard times but there is a way through. One day, one hour, one minute at a time. You're a brave man and I admire your honesty and vulnerability.
Please keep in close contact to the people that you care about. It's the hardest thing to do but the best
â€â€â€ stay strong đȘ
Hang in there mate when one door closes another will open, sometimes the worst things in life can happen for the best! đâïž
Thanks mate I hope so đ
@@Campingdownunderitâs true. I lost everything ten years ago. It hurts like nothing I ever experienced and still does if I let it. But life goes on regardless and you make the best of it. You will be fine, give it time and donât dwell on it, donât blame yourself and keep on doing what you love.
I second that. My worst life experience turned out to be a blessing in disguise, although it took several years for me to realise it!
I 3rd this comment. Itâs been my experience that closure of a life chapter allows a new chapter to commence. I encourage you to keep your exciting dream to work, live, and explore WA. May your new home be âjust around the cornerâ and within your budget. Thank you for sharing your raw feelings. May you be blessed by doing so.
This video is very important. Thankyou for sharing. Hope things pick up for you soon. Subscribed today after seeing this video, take care of yourself
I'm sorry for what you've been through. I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom, and it hit hard, but it also gave me a place to start. THE ONLY WAY IS UP. Keep going. Thanks for sharing. Thanks for inspiring. Keep up the awesome đ đđ»
Wow. Iâve never seen a video like this before. Possibly the best mental health advice Iâve seen. Your strength and courage to be so vulnerable is heartbreaking. I really do hope you weather this storm and see the sunshine and rainbow afterwards. Youâre in a situation a lot of fathers find themselves in. Just by sharing youâve made us realise weâre not suffering on our own. God bless you and enjoy your camping trip with your mate.
You were chasing a dream, she didnât have enough faith to wait. You donât know me at all, but Iâm proud youâre still here. Dealing with all that and youâre still here. Iâm looking up to you! Please stay with us and not give up. You have our support
It's madness to think a woman with 5 kids would leave security for a poor plan
I know exactly how you feel mate. I'm going through alot the same but I'm injured so bad ontop I can't even work anymore. You can get through anything, stay strong, stay positive about the little things, an the big things will follow. Thanks for sharing your story. Amazing mate.
Thank you for being so open and clear about things going on in your life. For every person out there (especially man) please speak up, nobody should be alone in a situation like this. My best energy and wishes for you. God bless you
Iâm in my 60âs. Iâve struggled with depression since my early teens. Life didnât turn out the way I thought it would. I count my blessings though: Iâve been married for 40 years; I have a roof over my head; I have a steady job; I have positive people around me. I still struggle. I hope you find some answers on your 10 day trip with your friend. Youâre not alone. Definitely not after this video. đđ»
Iâm the same. Iâm in my early 60s. Iâve had major depression since my late teens. My life took the rocky road. Nothing was easy. I think you have to appreciate what you do have. A roof over your head, food in your belly etc. itâs only now Iâll be able to do a bit of travel and spoil myself a bit but my health isnât great anymore.
Are you sure or did some woke doctor just tell you you had "depression" when you were down for a while?
I'm 40 and struggling hard with anxiety and depression
37 here, same boat. Got so many things I want to do in my head but always feel stuck. Definitely didn't turn out like I thought it would but you do have to try and look at the good stuff that's going on, even if life isn't what you want it to be
â ââ @@protocoldroid7388yeah when a 60 year old says since their teens it means âfor a whileâ.
Did it make you feel better? Sounds like you relate more than youâd let on if you just said nothing.
I was a my rock bottom a year ago, thanks to people like you I came out of it, i am the happiest I have ever been in the last 20 years. I promise you that the same will happen to you. It's ok to not be ok. You are an inspiration to all men out there. Things will get better brother, stay strong. Sending love from đšđŠ Canada
Glad youâre doing better these days dude. Iâm from Canada as well
And I have to ask, is your username âlandmine lieutenantâ a reference to Celph Titled?
Traveling helps a lot! Even if you have nothing, starting fresh in a brand new place that no one knows you, going to a new church, joining a menâs group, or finding a new job helps tons. Be honest with your position, with the new people you meet, donât be too proud to say youâre starting from scratch, etc. people will generally understand and try to help. Iâm in a great place right now but God knows Iâve been in that spot so many damn times itâs depressing. Youâre not the only one whoâs been there, donât be ashamed
â@@Day-ZDukeyes sir, the one and only
That's a beautiful positive story bro, well done
Just wanted to send a message of love and support. I'm sorry you are going through tough times, but they will pass and you -in all of your strength - will remain. Allow yourself to experience your emotions and be kind to yourself. â€â€â€
Much love being sent your way. I have also struggled under different but similar circumstances. You are to be commended for your candour. Mental health is not easy to talk about as we don't want to burden others, not realising perhaps that they too are struggling. It can sometimes be the lifeline you both need to say to yourself. It's OK to feel sad and grieve our loss.
As soon as you shared about your partner blaming you for the 3 months decision, I knew it wasnât about you . Clearly she had already exited the relationship and was only thinking of herself and I am so sorry to hear that. I went through a terrible marriage break up, so I know how hard it can be. Let me tell you from a womenâs perspective, because you really need to hear this, â It was not your fault â! My advice is, yes find a counselor to talk to, and keep doing the things you love , find some good mates and take good care of your health. Once your head is in a good place, things will look much better and life will start to flow again. I donât know how old your son is, but I am sure given time things will evolve for the better where he is concerned. Might be good to do some research into ndis funding and help with housing for him near you, if you cannot find a place together. Though everything you have done is not the ideal, and youâre currently struggling, please know that things can improve. My whole life changed some years ago and I now suffer from a disability, that prevents me from travelling like you do.. and I love 4x4, fishing, camping etc so watching CZcams channels like yours help fill a void for me and keep inspiring me to keep fighting to get better. I do have my own 4x4 and Hobie kayak and camper but can only do very short trips. I would love to travel full time, but itâs not possible. So while I am on the couch struggling, I watch others enjoying their adventures, which brings me a lot of joy and helps pass the days Iâm in terrible pain. So here is my message, please enjoy your life, pick up your camera and keep posting as there are plenty of people like me whose lives are blessed by being taken on adventures while sitting at home. I certainly would have gone stir crazy đ€Ș without vids like yours. I lost my youngest son, 6 years ago so I understand the depths of depression, and I had to find the smallest things to cling to, to hang on, and find away through it.. find what makes âyouâ happy and everything else will eventually fall into place! Right now youâre grieving your losses and thatâs normal, but please make a decision to not stay in grief and find the joy you deserve. Best wishes and stay strong .
I came to the comments looking for this. SHE was already out of the relationship before he left. SHE set that up by encouraging him to plan the move. I am not someone who sides with men, I've had to watch this twice looking for holes to blame him. But Yes. SHE CAUSED THIS not him.
He needs to get on meds temporarily go to therapy, and go about his life. Work save money. Nothing wrong with living in a vehicle.
Thank you so much for your advice. I'm so sorry to hear about what you've had to go through. My son is 21 & has been with the NDIS since he was 18. We've been trying to organise housing for him & possibly myself as well as I'm his carer but it's taken months so far & we still have no idea what's happening. We have a meeting with them this week. Hopefully we can get an answer. He's happy to move across here as long as he has a bed each night
I pushed her away over the past year as we were in a bad place in our relationship. She was actually the one putting in all the effort trying to fix our relationship even seeking professional help to try & better herself. But I did nothing. I should have put equal effort into fixing or at least attempting to fix our relationship after about 8 months of trying as hard as possible to fix things in the end she just gave up. So I do still take blame even though we were both in the wrong & the way she ended it wasn't the right way to go about it
Her other relationship will probably not last, it sounds more like a rebound relationship instead of a new rock steady one.@@Campingdownunder
@@Campingdownunder Your honesty is refreshing. Youâve totally got this. Just the way you explained both sides of the situation shows youâre already processing everything, which is an awesome step. As others suggested; work, earn, take time to adjust, contact with your son, some trips to refresh with like-minded friends & you will get there. It may take longer than you want but if you keep focused on your goals things will start happening.
It sounds that this lady was not committed to you and it was you that was making all the changes for her. At this moment it is important that you look after yourself and your mental healthcare and take one day at a time. đ
Thanks for sharing all that. Youâre brave and special just for doing that. Iâm sending you a big hug from Florida. You will be fine.
Hey, just randomly came across your vidâŠsometimes life has a funny old way of doing shit, but I feel somethingâs paving the way for you onto bigger and better things. Youâre a good guy, youâre going to do bloody awesome just you wait! New sub here, look forward to your new amazing adventures!đ
First time Iâve come across you and I sat and watched this. Very touching, keep pushing mate. All the best
Same, I hadnât seen any of your other videos, but stayed and watched until the end. I really appreciate the realness. Itâs a rare thing to find these days. I can see a real joy and passion in what led you there, hold that close. Hoping this community can hold you up now!
I'd never seen your channel pop up before now and I just wanted to comment and say how much appreciate you sharing this kind of thing, it's so important for men to talk about what's going on for them especially about costardy issues and struggling to be in kids lives, to have this demonstrated in a casual video is exactly what so many people need to see! All the best with your journey mate, you've got this so just keep on keeping on and don't isolate yourself completely for too long!
I spent decades battling depression. Good on ya for being vulnerable. It helps. My key to handling depression is faith, turn to God when you feel alone. Bless you brother, you got this.
Iâm sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time like this. I had a situation some years ago where I was homeless in my country and I had no friends or family. It was a miserable time, and it was important to find anything that could give me some pleasure, which it sounds like you are doing with your trips. Someone at the time told me that when things have reached bottom, things can only get better. It takes time to heal and build a new life. Please be patient - even though it might feel now that nothing is moving, things will eventually turn around as long as you want them to. Keep pushing forward, mate, and youâll make it through to the other side.
Hey Paul it's Tim here from the old Big River days! Very sorry to hear about your current situation. One step in front of the other champ. You got this mate!
As a woman, it is shocking to me that she found someone else so soon. That seems like betrayal, whether or not she was upset that you left 3 months early.
You did nothing wrong. Stop taking the blame. I wish you well.
It's very common in my experience that women move on very quickly with a new man.
Easy to say that when you only hear one side of the story, I'm telling you there's alot more to it and been going on alot longer than betrayed on here. She's living the life she deserves now with respect and support, a mum of 5 with no support is no way to live
â@@mrmisterno1only when gold digging
Because they don't. She already found someone prior to the breakup
My thoughts exactly. My husband live in another state from me for 3 years and I never would have thought to dump him and definitely not get another man.
Just subscribed to you. Looking forward to supporting your future videos. Keep your head up, brighter times will come. Life is in waves, your time to surf WILL come again. Please keep the faith. Prayers are with you. You are NOT alone. Your online community is with you.
Thanks for sharing this. Hope it all goes better in the future. I'm sure things will improve.
Hey bro - really appreciate you speaking out, we need to talk about real sh*t more often rather than the social media gloss and fakery. I donât have any answers for myself or anyone else, sadly, but all I can say we just have to keep getting up and going every day. You just donât know whatâs around the corner. Keep talking about things, it will help. Best wishes for you mate
Mate, so brave being open and vulnerable - starting the chat and showing you don't have to keep your struggles to yourself. You've got a community around you and shows if you reach out there will always be someone there to support you xx
he just wants donations
@@DrGreenThumbNZLmate he made a video last year basically saying how broke he was and didnât seek donations. Heâs just trying to shed a light on menâs mental health.
I salute you for having the courage to show your vulnerability and the encouragement you give to others to open up and share with someone else what is going on for them in the hard times. This honesty is what the world needs. The world needs you. Thank you.
Good luck. Thanks for sharing your pain it helps others to know there not alone.
I am absolutely not a camper or remotely interested in camping but for some reason I got this video on my feed. Take care mate, keep your head up. I respect that you take responsibility for your part but it honestly doesn't seem like you did a lot wrong. And about taking meds: they are not about changing your circumstances, see them as a crutch if you suffer from anxiety. All the best, just hang in there!!