Zazen and Dharma Talk with Frank Ostaseski

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  • čas přidán 2. 05. 2023
  • Enjoy this teaching from Roshi Joan Halifax and Upaya Zen Center, a Buddhist monastery in Santa Fe, New Mexico which offers daily Zen meditation, weekly dharma talks, and programs on Buddhist teachings, Buddhist art, neuroscience, and social engagement. We also conduct professional trainings for end-of-life care and Buddhist chaplaincy.
    Learn more about current in-person and online programs available to our global sangha at www.upaya.org/
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Komentáře • 35

  • @haven5181
    @haven5181 Před rokem +1

    This is very helpful. Thank you for your honesty and openness.❤

  • @marciasfriend
    @marciasfriend Před rokem +2

    thank you...The "contact" with death helps my ego to relax and expand beyond its limits keeping the Heart opened to All

  • @vandrosiglio
    @vandrosiglio Před rokem +1

    Thank you for being real Frank.

  • @joanmondress9934
    @joanmondress9934 Před rokem +3

    Frank, thank you for sharing your grief. I do listen to you with compassion and sit in presence with your teachings and your sufferering. You are the essence of humanity and presence as you experience your process of grief, bereavement within your heart. For me grief is deep sadness, like breaking of my heart and then finding the silence within when I stick with it and allow myself stay with the feelings. Meditation helps to allow my breath and body to feel right now in this moment.

  • @rachelsommer8957
    @rachelsommer8957 Před 9 měsíci +1

    My practice helps me stay in the pain with less fear.

  • @886888aa
    @886888aa Před 2 měsíci

    Staying with the raw experience and dropping the story line. Just sitting, just breathing, just being through and through

  • @janineclancy4697
    @janineclancy4697 Před rokem

    Im so sorry for your loss dear Frank. sending love to you

  • @devasadhvi
    @devasadhvi Před rokem +1

    Such a raw real talk. I thank you for this. I’ve been neglecting the feeling of grief of a best friend who died 6 months ago. I’ve put it on a shelf. You’ve given me courage to take a peek. Feel it in my heart. And then perhaps walk through the village when it’s time.

  • @katnip198
    @katnip198 Před rokem +1

    Frank, my heart is so full of gratitude hearing you be so honest, venerable, transparent in your grief over your brother's death. How much you have blessed me and I am sure others with this video. You didn't talk about beliefs, concepts, etc., only what you are feeling, and living with daily as this grief moves through you. Thank you again for your great sharing.

    • @Frank_Ostaseski
      @Frank_Ostaseski Před rokem

      All I know is to speak from the truth of my direct experience

  • @beatrixvantil8623
    @beatrixvantil8623 Před rokem +3

    thank you 🙏 my pratice made me bow to the person I have lost recently , a terrible death . Buddha came to help me and bring this tormented relative back to the human family , the gesture of bowing is powerful

  • @jms4406
    @jms4406 Před rokem

    Frank I met you several years ago in la center wa. At a hospice seminar. I'm sorry to hear about your brother. As I sit here trying to open my heart to my loved ones around me. I live in fear of deep relationship.

  • @jms4406
    @jms4406 Před rokem

    How practice helps my grief is that i find myself constantly wanting to disconnect from pain and suffering and ignore it. Practice helps me look at it and know what my fears are and how to open up to them. I usually try to joke, shrug it off, becone embittered, avoid emotions etc.

  • @kevincale4533
    @kevincale4533 Před rokem +2

    Frank, I would just like to say thank you for sharing your thoughts at this very difficult time🙏your wisdom and words continue to inspire and ground me in the work I am undertaking in a Yorkshire Hospice where I meet grief head on on a daily basis. My work, my life and my practice would not be possible if it had not been for the grief I experienced after my grandmother died, within hours of being present during her death i walked through the landscape she had loved and at the moment felt connected to life as as I had never done before from the blades of grass under my feet to the sheep in the fields who allowed me to pass between them without stirring to the little Robin bird that sat next to me when I rested on a rock. That was over thirty years ago and now hand in hand with my practice I work with the dying and grieving on a daily basis, I say work but it anything but work it is a privilege. Frank thank you for everything 🙏 Kev

  • @Beddy28Bury
    @Beddy28Bury Před rokem +2

    My wife died on 22. of April this year.
    And I listen to you.

  • @Contribute_TakeCare_Learn_Play

    I wish you loving strength

  • @davidgreenman4564
    @davidgreenman4564 Před rokem +1

    Thank you, Frank. Be well. Peace to you. Hamakom y'nachem etchem b'toch sh'ar availai tziyon ee yerushalayim.
    (May god comfort you among the mourners)
    L'chaim!
    (To life!)
    Gassho
    🙏💔❤
    Sincerely,
    Rev. Ryokan

  • @alexandraamihan
    @alexandraamihan Před rokem

    A month ago, I drew a sketch of what grief feels like (my dad died 2 yrs ago, and my oldest brother last year), and I drew a giant fist punching through my abdomen - which was also your description. It's like constantly waking up to a nightmare, a bad dream. I don't start with breathing - it comes later. I just let myself fall apart and trust that it will not destroy me - I weep, I wail, I protest. The surge is not permanent - then moments later I notice myself become aware again, my body starts to relax, and I breath to help that energy continue to move.

  • @rezmogm
    @rezmogm Před rokem

    Frank, I apologize this is not necessarily the appropriate place to make my comment but it's the first time I've arrived at some place where I could speak to you. I'm on the fourth reading (well listening to your voice) of your book The five invitations. I have only maybe a couple of months left to live and an old teacher of mine sent this book to me. You've changed my life and my outlook about death. Your book is helping me open to so many things, My heart, my ability to let go my abilities move into the moment. I just want you to know as you probably do how you have affected and changed my life thank you. I am sorry for your loss. But you have made it so much easier for me to pass on. With tears in my eyes I thank you from the bottom of my heart

    • @FrankOstaseski411
      @FrankOstaseski411 Před rokem

      I am happy to know that my words were of some small support.. trust your wise heart to be a reliable guide. It won’t abandon you.

    • @Frank_Ostaseski
      @Frank_Ostaseski Před rokem

      May your wise heart be a reliable guide. Keep trusting that there is an essential part of you, that is larger than the small, familiar, separate self we imagine ourselves to be. And this essential truth includes all of you. No part left out! Awareness does not need to exclude anything

  • @cjw4137
    @cjw4137 Před rokem +1

    🙏

  • @Anna-fj4dp
    @Anna-fj4dp Před rokem +1

    I wish I had gone through the necessary grief for the loss of loved ones. I’ve instead moved on and pretty much refused to feel the pain.

    • @Misszumicat
      @Misszumicat Před rokem +1

      not too late. it's still there...

    • @kevincale4533
      @kevincale4533 Před rokem +1

      Frank, I would just like to say thank you for sharing your thoughts at this very difficult time🙏your wisdom and words continue to inspire and ground me in the work I am undertaking in a Yorkshire Hospice where I meet grief head on on a daily basis. My work, my life and my practice would not be possible if it had not been for the grief I experienced after my grandmother died, within hours of being present during her death i walked through the landscape she had loved and at the moment felt connected to life as as I had never done before from the blades of grass under my feet to the sheep in the fields who allowed me to pass between them without stirring to the little Robin bird that sat next to me when I rested on a rock. That was over thirty years ago and now hand in hand with my practice I work with the dying and grieving on a daily basis, I say work but it anything but work it is a privilege. Frank thank you for everything 🙏 Kev

    • @Frank_Ostaseski
      @Frank_Ostaseski Před rokem

      Never too late.

    • @rachelsommer8957
      @rachelsommer8957 Před 9 měsíci

      Thanks is a small word to describe the gift you bring to this life. I say it humbly, thank you

  • @MrTetsukobu
    @MrTetsukobu Před rokem

    By the wrinkles of his face I know that he has spent a life trying to fill the well with snow.

    • @jms4406
      @jms4406 Před rokem

      When death comes your way and you witness it, then you realize those little judgments dont get you anywhere.

    • @MrTetsukobu
      @MrTetsukobu Před rokem

      @@jms4406 Absolutely!