Are Relationships Different In Colombia? | Weird Things In Colombia | Part 4
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After living in Colombia for over 3 years we got pretty much used to the Colombian culture and their costumes. But for those who haven't been living here, some things may be perceived as weird.
This is already the fourth part of "Weird Things in Colombia", check out the other parts if you haven't seen it yet.
Please be aware, that "weird" to me means something being different, uncommon also funny. It is in no means meant to be disrespectful to the Colombian culture. Those are just things I have never seen before or things that are managed differently here.
In this video, I'll talk about:
Men cheating
Wildlife bridge
Name-calling
Loud street vendors
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In less than 2 weeks I'll be here. I'm so excited.
Pull up.
@@Ace_Sosa Say less! I'll be in Santa Marta
How did it go?
I have a friend in Bogota whho constantly calls me "mi amore" or "mi Philip" - I was getting ready to have a chat with her about not really having those kinds of feelings, but 5:20 made me calm down a bit haha.
Is she in a relationship? Because I would be pretty upset if my girl was calling another guy “ mi amor” maybe she wants something with you.
I could use an extra day every week! Maybe the idea will spread. Good video!
Thank you Tacha! Waiting for the Fifth :) Also, it's a great idea if you show us a different kind of food that they eat there.
Great video Tacha. I would love to hear more about the unique foods that you have come across in Colombia. Thanks
In central England they also call you "love" as a friendly gesture. Shop assistants sometimes greet you with "Hey love"
Really? That's lovely! Thanks for sharing.
How do you respond?
old ladies do the same here in canada
@@GH-cy6fh with an awkward look to be honest :)
@@HowToExpat Same in the Southern part of America.
"Mi Rey" is the same thing as saying "campeon". As far as nicknames goes, yes Colombian culture is similar to American Italian culture in which a friend will call their buddies "Tony two chins, Frankie Fingers, Big Sam" etc. I'm 6'6" and my close friends call me "pollo de Finca" which translates to "Farm Chicken" 🥵 because they're usually bigger than pen raised chickens. I might add that you have no choice in which nickname you're given so you must just roll with it. If you get angry it will only get worse. lol.
As far as cheating it does happen a lot. Mostly by men. Every day more woman are not taking this crap anymore and they are fighting back. I think it happens all over the world but Colombian men in general are less careful about getting caught. I personally have been faithful to my second wife for 25 years. I learned my lesson.
Cheers!
The other day a homeless guy called me pollo and I got really angry. I thought he was insulting me because in English calling someone a chicken is calling them a coward. I've lived in Spanish speaking cities continuously for the last 40 years including 5 years in Medellin and I have never heard that expression. Ya learn something new every day eh?
@@gnolan4281 LMAO! Too funny!
@@gnolan4281 Pollo o Gallina? 🤔
@@apofis05 Pollo. Later I learned that in some of the northetn coastal cities of Colombia it's a common expression and not meant to be an insult at all.
*Everything Tacha is saying is 100% correct oh since my brother in law is a police sergeant he gave me the heads up, ley seca on the 24th.and the the 31th. so stock up as I'm doing this weekend!* 😉
*Merry Christmas and enjoy a MUCH BETTER New Year* 🥳
Merry Christmas Ralphie! 🥳🥳
@@HowToExpat 😉👍🏻
We say "what's up king" here in the states too. Hip-hop culture, black culture. Lol
Cringe. I would never call a friend "king"
It really doesn't matter what country you're from toxic people are everywhere.
Calling each other "love" or "amor" is very common in Colombia. It really has no significance other than just a friendly gesture. Similar in Mexico they call each other "amigo/amiga" or "primo"
Don't generalize, it's by zones. in bogota when they are friends or they call each other by their diminutive name, I never say love to someone who is not my partner. Don't generalize
@@dianacastro8916 Probablemente tengas razón. Las únicas chicas con las que he hablado en Colombia han sido del departamento de Santander, y es muy común allí. Disculpame.
@@MrMajikman1 No te preocupes 😊
I used to work with a lot of spanish speakers. They used to call me flaco, but not any more.
Haha :D
You gained weight?
I just love your videos
Great VIBES..... Colombia to the World.......
I've been in Medellin for almost a month dating here is interesting to say the least 😳. YES OMG why does EVERYTHING have CHEESE ON IT?! So weird seeing cheese in hot chocolate LOL! Also what I noticed is when I'm with someone white walking in the streets, I hear gringo quite often but when I'm alone no one says anything LOL! My Uber drivers always ask where I'm from. I've had a couple of Uber drivers speak english that was a shock. OMG and yesterday I heard a "ice cream truck" type of song playing from this van in Laureles but it wasn't ice cream...a woman went up to the van and dude was selling donuts! LMAO!!! And can't forget the street vendors walking around with microphones. There are so many quirky things here.
It is true. My girlfriends father left his first family to begin another. Men cheating is common. Some women tolerate it, some will not tolerate it in the least. My girl will not tolerate it. But unlike my USA girlfriends she is not super jealous. This is 1 reason Colombian women like foreign men. They are less likely to cheat or have a side chick. No way can I keep 2 women happy. Forget about it.
Everyone is “Amor”. At first I was like. It is to early in our relationship for you to tell me you love me. She’s like no-it is a cultural thing. Very confusing.
Good video “Amor”. 😊
Thanks for sharing "mi rey"! LOL
The cute names really threw me when I was there the first time. I thought this guy was flirting with me, only to realize that was a local cultural thing. But i've also found esp the Paisa people to be extremely warm friendly and affectionate. I'm accustomed to hugging my friends and family not necessarily someone I've just met. After getting used to it, it's rather an endearing trait. That, and meeting a persons entire family that you've only just met. Blew....my.....mind!
I live in USA , south Louisiana, lot of Cajuns and creo here. It is very common from some of the older women to cook you, boo or baby or even love to women or men. It is normally done out of respect.
Thanks for sharing!
Hi - where did You get the Colombian woven cover?
Great video 😁😊😁 maybe you also want to make a video about the Plastic Surgery culture here ? You can't miss it 😁 also maybe a video about street vendors (if you don't mind filming outside). you can't miss that neither and is not that common in the West. 😉
Thanks for the input I'll definitely think about it. Actually already planning an interview about that.
8 and 15 days thing "De hoy en 8"..If you count from "todays" day uo to 8, you will end up on the same day of the week as today. so if today is tuesday and they say " de hoy en 8" it means next tuesday. " De hoy en 15" would mean tuesday the following week.
After 6 months of not being able to visit my fiance started seeing another guy. When I found out I was told he was just company and he was told I was her priority.... It was strange to have her mother defend her and try to convince me not to leave her daughter. Before her I was seeing a woman who I found out months in she had a boy friend and lived with him. She told me I made her feel more loved but she met him first. Both assumed with their reasons I would be okay with it... It's is strange and difficult for me.
I assume she’s in Colombia? I have been in the same situation. It’s just that for Colombian women, interaction and physical contact is important. So long distance doesn’t really work. I’ve been in 3 ldr and I’ve learned a lot.
Every woman has different motives. But if in the beginning there is chemistry, the same goals, motives, and both people are looking for a serious relationship........it is still going to be hard for a long distance relationship to work. For the woman, she is going to have so many guys after her in Colombia. Obviously most of them just want to have sex with her. And she might be ok with that, meaning she fools around, but doesn't take them serious. She may be faithful, but it is highly unlikely if you are not seeing her on a regular basis. There is so much temptation. Plus, maybe 1 out of 5 of these guys might turn out to be a good colombian guy, who wants a serious relationship. You on the other hand are like a dream come true. You as a foreign man, is like winning the lottery.......it's highly unlikely that she'll win......but it is worth the shot. The Colombian women tend to think that most men are dogs, so how is a forienger much different? It's hard for them to think that you, as a foriegner are being faithful, not exercising your options in your country. So they figure that they will shoot/hope for the best in a long-term relationship with you, but if you wait to long to go and see them and/or other good/decent/handsome/sexy colombian guys, cross their path, she will probably cheat. That has been my experience. My best advice would be to: Go to Colombia for a long period of time, like 6 months or a year ( this way you get to know the person and spend quality time with them) and PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR ACTIONS, not their words. It's a number's game. Finding true love is like playing the lottery. Not everyone wins, but you still have to play in order to win. If you win, life is great!
Thank you for the pleasant videos. I'll come and visit Colombia when the world calms down a bit. I'm interested in a coffee plantation.
SO TRUE about the DRY LAW/LEY SECA. If you're planning to go to Colombia, do your research about the time you are visiting. I visited Bogota in October of 2019 and I had no idea i booked my trip around the city election. My last two days sucked because we couldn't go out a night to any bars, etc and it was like Saturday and Sunday if i remember correctly.
I got caught up by ley seca once. It sucks.
@@rodneyprince18 its THE WORST 🤣
Almost every married guy that I know there has a side chick, a side family not so often. As far as name calling, yes it's common. For example if you're the chubby guy in the group, you will always be known as El Gordo.
Thanks for sharing!
Good video and interesting observations.
In the vast majority of the Spanish speaking world (if not all of it), it's the norm to address people with "amor", "cariño", "mi reina", "negro, negra", gordo, gordita" and the list goes on. Don't over think it or get excited and think the person you're talking to is interested in you.
And with "negro, negra", the person being addressed can be white as a sheet. It's also common for couples to call each other this, and yes, even white couples. People in relationships can also address each other as "gordo, gordita" affectionately.
But in general, Spanish speakers also use words like "pelón", or "gordo, gordita" to simply describe someone (in addition to addressing them) without the intention of insulting. Giving people nicknames (apodos) is very common, many of which those of us from the US would find insulting.
Cheating....well, what country doesn't have people that cheat, lol. It's the norm, the question is just how open is society when it comes to talking about it or acknowledging it.
Here's some Colombian Spanish related to cheating:
La moza or El mozo (amante, side piece)
Poner los cachos (cuernos) - to cheat
El ganado - Literally a herd of cattle. One or more side pieces that you're talking to
La oficial - your actual girlfriend or wife (I don't know if they have a term for men)
La surcusal - The side piece / girlfriend
Have fun with those, LOL.
The wild life bridges is so cute and considerate
I think so too!
Also some cooking videos would be cool
Cities have changed a lot in Colombia.. If you knew Medellin in the early 80’s you wouldn’t recognize the city now. People is completely different and also culture and relations. Downtown Medellin was a very sophisticated area where teenagers and middle class and rich people went for a walk or shopping in high rated stores. Also the best jobs and services were located in downtown. La Playa was a beautiful boulevard full of trees and gardens. Today downtown Medellin is a huge public market and most of the people were not born in this city and they brought their Caribbean culture to an Andean city and also their own culture, food and social relations. Street food became a rule, music and noise everywhere a mixed with vallenato, champeta or heavy metal and sex and relations became more temporal specially in the lower social strata. Richest people move to El Poblado and other people took their areas in Laureles, Bolivariana or Prado. Today it’s very interesting because people are moving to Rionegro, El Retiro or LaCeja to live in peace with nature and without the stress of noise, security and traffic difficulties . It’s a very alive city with many social interactions and changes in just few years.
cheating is very normal here. VERY. Since I am a man I talk to other men about love affairs a lot and the majority have cheated or are currently cheating.
I joke that if a woman finds a man who is loyal that she hit the jackpot lol
Thanks for sharing
What a wonderful social characteristic. That’s like staffing employees that are actively moonlighting from day one!
@@allstarmark12345 thats what happens when there are more women than men
:(
Wish you'd talk more about cheating, to give us guys perspective of the culture and how women feel about it or accept it.
That’s what I want to hear about also
they pretty much expect you might cheat on them. The majority of men are cheating or have cheated. Its actually pretty difficult not to.
I grew up in LA and did not get into too many relationships while I was living there.
when i first moved to colombia i only wanted a wife but after i saw how easy it was dating here i kind of started fooling around...
I currently have like 3 GFs.....
@dsvilla
Take it from me, I'm Colombian-American and I can tell you through personal experience that if you're faithful to your wife, she'll reciprocate and not play around on you. This is assuming you want a woman with good fundamental family values. I'm oversimplifying for the sake of this forum. As long as you show her that are a "varon", a man, in all senses of the word like providing for the family, being good a father, displaying kindness and supporting and standing up for her when need be, you'll be fine.
On the other hand if you decide to play the field, all bets are off. Colombian woman are extremely passionate and this passion can roll over to vengeance or at the very least, she'll leave you and that's it. You'll have to move on. I think it's common sense but I love the way a good Colombian, Venezuelan woman will support you through thick and thin. They will always stand up for you and in general you can rest assured they won't back stab you for no reason. Good luck and don't fret. You'll be fine.
@@AscendedWarriors You’re living my dream. I’d love to have a Paisa as a side chick
@@AscendedWarriors 🤦♂️😂
I'd like to have the next video captioned. Unfortunately, my oral English is weak, I don’t understand everything. The caption would help a lot in comprehension. I also learn English, of course, but I’m still weak.Thank you very much. :)
This is happening with a guy I've met, but luckily I'm still in another country. So how do you know if they're interested in a real relationship with you and not just playing?
For Colombia men cheating is very common but having a second family less so
Is common in the north, caribbean coast , specifically in states like La Guajira or Cesar. Men can have until 3 families, 5 - 6 kids with three different women.
I am planning to fly to Bogota from Florida, and from Bogota to Pasto Colombia 🇨🇴 in a few weeks. What procedures do I need to take? Do I need to do anything other than book a flight ✈️? Do I need to take a Covid test or anything else? The last time I was in Colombia was 2018
Make sure your insurance covers kidnappings.
Is it not safe to visit ?? Like should not wear gold or whatever
Mostly safe. Don't flash wealth.
i want to learn more about the cheating
Pharaoh Phoenix 150.000 a hour 250.000 peso two hours guys don’t over pay 💰 it’s heaven on earth 🌎
@@GS-ms1cj that is not what I meant, you degenerate, I wanted to learn more as to whether cheating is a normalised part of their culture or not.
@@GS-ms1cj 🤣👍
No disrespect. But, Tasha, you're very beautiful! And your skin is flawless!
Cant wait to move there in 7 months.
How did it go?
Definitely the Colombianas. I've seen it as well as experienced it.
Are you in Cali, Colombia?
I have read articles about the problems with promiscuity and infidelity in marriages in Colombia. It is real.
Normal
Do you know if there's Filipino relationship with a Colombia women?
México is the same way.. they are just terms of endearment. If you are an American from the U.S. or a Mexican national, none of Colombias foods, especially cheese would be considered salty by their standards. Colombian hot chocolate is very delicious, and it is similar to Nestles Abuelita commercial chocolate. I tend to bring the brand POPULAR chocolate from Mexico to Colombia and all that try Popular say it's an extremely delicious chocolate. Of course, I don't put in cheese.. I put in malvaviscos instead and with a touch of cream and 1 cinnamon stick.
For Western 7 or 14 days is nights and 8 or 15 days in Colombia is number of days. not nights.
The most beautiful, the only way to describe you. 😊
I like the food video idea...how about local street food as well?
Good idea!
I thought Tasha was from Colombia but when she said that „mi rey“ translated into german makes no sense and proceeded to translate it with „my king“ I figured she must be german as well as me lol
Usually it’s very obvious if people are Germans because of the accent but this was different
Haha I know what you mean. I definitely don't have the typical German accent. 😃
My girl has cheese with pancakes! No way for me!
I justicia like to rimaindyou that the colors of my flag are up side down colores are suppost to be
Yellow,blue and red thankyou
By the way i like your show
language is important in the development of science and culture. When you have a language that sets no social boundaries or rules of engagement, it causes confusion and miscommunication. Hence a reason why latin america on its own never developed as far as the west or asia did in science. Nothing in history of worth/uniqueness was ever invented in the americas.
I think they said mire which means look( at me im open), not mi rey my king on the soccer field
Believe me, they say "mi rey" 😉
You can’t eat pizza everyday sometimes you need a pork chop
No cheese in hot chocolate or changua for me.
Tacha is hot. Buenísima
If someone calls me bella, mi amor, mi ..., Un beso, un abrazo.....how can you know if they may be flirting with you. If these are just common to use in the culture.
Having 3 families with 3 different women , its more common in the north (Caribbean coast) specifically in La guajira or Cesar states. Women in this area only cares about money their man can provide to the own homes, They just resign that her partner is a womanizer or "perro".Not all of them, but it´s not rare to hear about cases. I know this beacause come from this area.
That's interesting, thanks for sharing!
It's common throughout LatAm to use words like "Negro" or "Gordo" or "Flaco" and it's not an insult. It's more like a descriptive thing, no offense intended.
8 days or 15 days, they count today as day 1. Yes, it's hard to get used to. I respond by asking for the specific day or date so there's no confusion.
Is normal
yes you know what i call all this flirty talk which is normalized?
basically tons of foreplay without the sex
and what is worse is, when you dont talk to colombians so lovingly, they feel you are rude.
They do that in Trinidad call people names eg fat guy called slim thin guy called maga. Also side chick is side outside woman. Ethnic makeup dougla chineeman. Sometimes people more known by nick names I was called Vision 2020 early this century PNm government had Vision 2020 for developed status by 2020
Yeah, that happens a lot in Peru too. It's a Latino thing. Gordo/Gorda for someone overweight. Chino/China for someone with Asian eyes. Negro or Negra for someone with even a little darker skin. Calvito for someone bald or losing hair. They're used as an endearment, not derogatory. SJW's would have a very hard time in Latin America.
That's a similar thing in East Africa. You can get nicknames for a description of you.
This is disappointing. Its awful
You left out marrano "pig" and marraneando. I am sure these are not terms of endearment. Once I found out about these words it gave me a new perspective about Colombian culture.
True, some aren't so endearing.
Lol lol that’s what they do lol
Interesting, last time I asked you about your background, you said you were SWISS and now you're a COLOMBIAN?
So, which one is it? lol
I know your husband is Swiss and lived in Switzerland etc ...
I don't know where you heard me saying that I'm Colombian, never said that. I'm Swiss.
Colombia has changed a lot in the last 30 years and people have moved from rural areas or small towns to bigger cities for many reasons like the famous Colombian conflict between guerrillas, paramilitary and Colombian army. Other moved for better education or better jobs. Cities have became a big social and cultural pots from different areas of the country. Social relations have changed specially about cheating and having many women or many husbands. In Tropical areas people always were involved in temporal relations so never they got married but women had many children from different Men. It’s the same now in big cities like Medellin, Cali or Barranquilla. According to your social status you will see it more often or not. The problem for me is not having many relations in your life but having many children. Poverty is very difficult to eradicate when people don’t have social a birth responsibility.
Did he get a side chick and she moved out?! 🧐
Call you
So a lot of foreigner men come here trying to find a wife and the only way for them to pick up is always showing how wealthy they are and first thing they want is sex. If a Colombian girl wanted sex she would do it with a local, because let's be real, foreigners are not good at sex and they only talk about how wealthy their life is where they are from and their travels around the world. How the hell does a foreigner pretend to be taken seriously by a local girl in a third world country just flexing how cool their life is??? So when they leave they just say "oh! They are a bunch of gold diggers". I KNOW overseas when you are trying to find a partner what matters is how tall, how fit, which car do you have, you job.... Believe me, here as long as you treat people right, you will find someone, DON'T BE FUCKIN SUPERFICIAL!!! Richest people from here are not like that, for example Shakira or Sofia Vergara which are the ones you might know. They are not as plastic as american celebrities.
What kind of cheese
Hello pretty one, how to be expat in your country?if you don't mind to to respond me,thank you😘
I'm girl
Hi Sue,
What is the specific question that you have?
I married a Colombian. He calls me bebe. My brother in law calls me sarita. It's cute 😍
I love your videos question Do you ever wonder if your husband is cheating being that there are some many beautiful women in Colombia
If guys have side chicks is it because girls have lovers. Isn't it?
nop, Its because Colombian culture makes it normal not to mention has double standards about relationships.
I'm 36 6.4 tall fit and young looking for my age would a younger Colombian women be into me?🇨🇦💞🇨🇴
The Colombian food is good but bland. I have to always ask for black pepper and just a tad of salt, but thats me
I agree but I think that's because in America we have been eating food from all over the planet for many years. Mexican, Thai, etc. Very hot and spicy. Colombia is opening up to more international cuisine as time goes by. Colombian food is similar to Italian in which very little hot spices are used. Also more basic than Italian. I can adapt to either. I can't go too long without good hot and spicy Mexican food however. My favorite!
Cheers!
@@LouieManza That's good to know since I am going to Colombia in February. I am not a big fan of hot and spicy food, (like Mexican food) and I was a little worried that is all they had there. Good to know!
When I go out to eat, I bring a small bottle of tabasco with me.
Bogota Food is not nice.
The "cheating thing" or th "sidechicks" is something that does happens here more than it should but it's not like "a thing" from our culture, it's not like we want that or we are thought that, it's just that happens more than we would like too
Ps: We are not on a rush to cheat, or we are not looking to cheat on our partners, so don't be afraid to be with a Colombian
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
tasha, you are so beautiful
In regards to cheating...Relationships are not finite like they are in the NA and Europe. Love is something that is not limited to who I married. I can love many people but still feel I have one stable relationship. That is one of the reasons the word “amor” is so commonly used. Most men and women have cheated but that does not mean they stopped loving their spouse. Sex is different than marriage here. It is a macho culture here where men lead and women understand how men are. The United States, by comparison, has turned into a feminized, confused mess where traditional male-female relationships have been destroyed. No one is happy there. Love should not be defined by the government, but what is natural. Colombians do a good job of accepting this idea and it is one of the reasons why it is one of the happiest countries on earth.
Regarding names, consider it a reference point. If someone is fat, he is el Gordo or gordito. That way it is understood who I am talking about.
lmao no ♥️
stop saying macho culture like its expected and acceptable. It's a shit culture in that regard, and women shouldnt put up with that shit if they were more educated and had higher economic mobility. as of now the latest data shows only 65% of colombians have access to internet.