I Am Addicted To Spending Money | Compulsive Shoppers Documentary | Absolute Documentaries
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- Shopping is something most people do - but for some, it can become an obsessive-compulsive habit making it hard to live a normal life. Jasmine Harman meets people suffering from shopping addiction while investigating the personal and very emotional reasons for developing this money-consuming habit. Watch this unique documentary about how the lives of compulsive shoppers are affected by their inability to say no!
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I remember a customer like Ebony when I worked retail and she was a beautiful person who filled voids in her life with shopping. When she died last year her estate sale was huge, and so much was still in packages and had tags, whole rooms and closets. It was so sad realizing she worked daily to buy things that ended up being sold for pennies.
Wow. I’m sitting here watching this like this is me but minus a zero and then her read your message and I think it was the first time that I actually have cried in years like in a good way. Thank you.
I love it when stupid people throw away their money like this.
@@jankay8569 Well you don't know what happen´s in a person head do you? is so easy to judge from the computer.
Estate sales helped me to curb my shopping. I like going to see the stuff and how other people lived. I remember seeing on a whole heap of stuff in one pile a year ago. And there was an unopened bbq gadget from the 1980s. 40 years unopened from a box.
@@sandraaguayocastillo4680 theres nothing going on in their tiny brains. Thats the problem
As a reformed shopaholic I can say that the key to healing from it is to really grasp the concept that the person who is shopping is robbing themselves of their own abundance and to get at the reason why they are doing that and to heal that.
Wow- very insightful and straightforward
❤❤
I totally disagree with you.
ALL addiction is for the sole pursuit of DOPAMINE RELEASE.
It is all the same.
Alcohol. Cigarettes. Junk food. Shopping. S....x Gambling Cocaine......it all works in exactly the same way.
No need to solve "deep problems". You are addicted to the dopamine release and the only way out is ABSTINENCE.
Good on you!
Like all addiction problems once it’s recognized it can be worked on and resolved.
Same with romance scams
When I was in my early twenties I also spent insane amounts on clothing and make up every month. I was severely depressed and looked for those moments to make myself feel better. I started with a 1 week no shopping ban and just carried on. I haven't bought any new makeup for three years or new clothing for myself for one full year. In the previous two years before that I bought two items of clothing which I actually needed. Having stuff didn't make me happy, as that feeling would fade but it was always something to look forward to for the next month.
I spent my money on therapy instead.
Good for you!
Im so Happy❤️
Are you happier now?
@@tahinaschwegler8112 I still have depression so good days mixed with not so good ones. It's just let me save so much more money and appreciate all the things I already have instead of spending to fill a void.
@@user-hi9cv1sc2i that makes sense! Less anxiety then about the clutter I’m sure. Thanks for answering 😊
Online shopping, especially Amazon, and social media (for example, unboxing/shopping haul videos on CZcams) really has made this problem way worse, I'm sure. It's easy to shop 24/7 and you get inundated with ads all the time to buy more stuff and get "deals". It is a dopamine rush to click the button to buy and to get the package and open it, but beyond that the thrill usually wears off quickly.
This is true. Online shopping is actually more dangerous and tempting than shopping in a physical store
@@thequeenmidas Yeah, it's easier to not realize what you're doing when you're just clicking a button! Like how for some people it's easier to spend more when using a credit card versus using physical cash.
You said it perfectly
Honestly yeah...... I bought a book off amazon and i got at least two days late so a lot of anticipation, right? Once i got the book, i was very excited. But since high school is coming to an end, i have yet to read it lol 😅😅😅😅
@@I_Am_NiiTA Congrats on finishing high school though!
A bargain is only a bargain if it’s something you need or were going to buy anyway and it’s cheaper. I do feel for these people and hope they’re now ok x
Recently Pizza Hut opened in my town and last week they were doing a deal were you could buy a regular pizza for $1. When I saw it I was like “wow, that’s such a great deal! What a bargain”. But then I realised I didn’t feel like pizza so it would of just ended up being a waste of $1 instead deal.
Slaves dont buy/sell even when the slaves are lied about.
Did someone tell you slaves buy?
21:30 the only thing worse than being "sure" she'll have children one day is the fact that she's already made them responsible for her own happiness 😔
I worry for her, too, because children will create a whole new level of temptation to shop.
@@jenniferfriesen7691she’s doing just fine. Running an award winning restaurant and cooking for the royal family.
People shop to get a high. Unfortunately for most it’s so brief that they’re looking for the next purchase to feel the same. You have to realize that material possessions are not what you need to be happy. People like these need relationships, hobbies, passions that don’t involve things.
I agree. It's never really the item that you want, it's the feeling that that item can give you for a short period. There's nothing wrong with buying something if you use it a lot for a long time but I think a lot of people shop out of social status, they fear what others will think of them if they don't have a particular thing.
This is how I use to be. No anymore. Now I get a dopamine hit when I see my saving balance grow.
If you're a true addict, nothing else will work but fixing the problem. It will come back if you don't.
If I was the wife of the online buyer, I would sell everything online and keep the money, since its has the tags and he forgets about it.
Yeah, too bad one of them isn't a reseller. They would have endless inventory. I've been a reseller for over 20 years and never had this much inventory. Personally I can't stand clutter and decided to stop reselling and just donate what I have left. I don't need the money and I love the clean open spaces I've created by not buying inventory.
Hahaha
I was thinking the same
Facts👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Most of it like the boxes of sunglasses is just trash
I'm a shopaholic, definitely always trying to fill a void from being an extremely poor child. Only way I've been able to curb it is building a house. Now I've got no money as it all goes to paying that off!
That's good that you're able to prioritise that though - good on you! 😎
Some shopaholics don't let lack of money stop them, though, as they go through credit card after credit card, so it's good you can just prioritise and stop.
@feanorian21maglor38 I have a disabled child who will be in my care for the rest of my life and needs me to make sure there's a significant inheritance to keep him in good care for the rest of his, that trumps any impulse behaviour on my part. It'll always be there but I make myself wait one day before anything now and that makes sure I have to spend that time considering what that money would do for him.
but you end up buying stuff for the house a lot
It’s a need to fill a void that never gets filled...these people need psychological help it’s some kind of trauma that never got fixed.
Could be true. My mom used to try to make me go see a psychiatrist when I was a teenager but I didnt go. Here I am, making money by my own and learn to spend on unnecessary things after saving. Guess Im better!? Lol
Just like all addiction.
i was wondering why the partners stay in situations like that, and then she said "Dean is on his fourth marriage" LMAOOOOO
Four people wanted to marry him. Many people don’t make it to one.
Good to see that Dipna is doing so well now with her restaurant - called 'Brilliant Restaurant' - and as an author, and with her supportive dad too! Also she got married this year
Amazing!!!
😂 getting married is not an achievement, nor is opening a restaurant with your parents' money.
Her poor husband. Unless she loses the addiction, she will turn to shopping every time she's stressed, unhappy, or bored.
This is amazing. I wish her well.
@@jenjones90how do you know she did it with her father's money? I'm sure he didn't write her books!
For some people getting married is an achievement and certainly a cause for celebration.
I have 2 male friends who thought they would never get married, as they had both been badly hurt, but both have now met amazing partners and got married and are so much happier.
The amount of denial is mind boggling. And all of these people are using shopping to fill huge emotional voids in their lives. I hope they get help.
When you struggle with compulsive behavior it’s amazing how blind you become to the truth and the gravity of the situation.
I think Dipnas case is especially sad, she places so much value on material items that don't fulfill her in the slightest. It's not bad to like nice things, but she has nothing in her life that brings her joy except for material items, it must be such a miserable, empty experience
Edit: Her father is in COMPLETE denial too.
Yes I had a shopping addiction but never went into debt and I had a miserable, empty existence. I still kind of do at times even though it's not as bad. We are not all happy puppies. One of the reason I got addicted to shopping is that I have known great poverty and lack growing up and I needed to feel full abundance/no restrains. I have calmed down luckily
And this is why being materialistic is bad
Her father's in denial to.
She seems so lonely. When she said what would she do if she didn’t shop, I wondered where her friends are?? if there are any?
@@user-vw7bx9ll8n I have no friends and I live with my parents as well. I am 22 and I worry I will stay like that forever. I am TERRIFIED of moving out.
The quantity of stuff in some cases gives me anxiety. I don’t mind spending on something luxurious that I will use. But collecting stuff I will never use stresses me out.
same :( I really hate keeping something I don't need. those stuff need to vanished from my eye sight ASAP!
I am fascinated by this, because I really dislike shopping. Clearly, Dipna’s parents have failed her by not raising her to be passionate about real achievements and truly important things. How incredibly sad. As for Ebony, she definitely needs to seek therapy. She is covering up some deep pain with layers and layers of denial.
Same - I can't stand shopping! The doc was interesting and sad in equal measure. Hopefully the people featured can continue to get better and find happiness in other things and not feel the need to shop.
You can see that Ebony doesn't listen and isn't open to change. Her eyes go distant while inside she's thinking of what to say and the process of her justification is preparing her reply or her defense, automatically. I hope she was able to get through the issue and allow herself to be vulnerable. Healing hurts sometimes.
Makes me sad that guy never thinks of his wife or buys her anything its all about him just watching him open packages broke my heart he better treat her right she's devoted and he takes advantage
Every single person in this documentary is self-absorbed af.
@@joanodom2104so are a lot of the comments.
@@joanodom2104Have some sympathy. Mental illness is a real thing, addictions included.
Exactly
Addicts can’t see past their addiction to consider others. While I feel bad for his wife she must have known he has these problems. She’s his 4th wife.
Can’t help but think of the number of times Dean was bidding against someone who truly wanted/needed the item only for it to go into a storage bin.
After you have kids your love of shopping doesnt just stop like that. It continues. Kids are stressful and you find yourself shopping again and again…and again.
Compassion is key. My compulsive spending developed from depression and a cyclic mood disorder.
It's almost like when people say 'I got a bargain' they think it's free. Who cares if it's 'on sale' - it still costs money. This really does seem to operate like a drug addiction does in terms of the brain.
If you buy stuff you don't need and use, even if you get a 1000 Euro item for 10 Euros - you wasted 10 Euros.
I used to be a compulsive buyer. I decided to be a minimalist and have sold most of my stuff. I’m never ever going back!
Me too and it feels amazing 😊
Me, too. But I remember the agony of the compulsion. Shaming and criticising does nothing to help it.
@@lizziebkennedy7505 your head feels clearer when you get rid of stuff
How do you just suddenly stop?
Think about all the money you can save now and all the extra space
You have to feel for the children of hoarders. It’s heartbreaking for everyone including the hoarder. It’s definitely a mental illness and depression and unresolved trauma or pain will be behind it.
This was my childhood, though one of my parents was trying their best to keep it in check as much as possible. But I would always be given clothes I didn't want, had so many toys I couldn't clean them up because there was nowhere to put them, there was always stacks of things in the hallway, etc.
I dont think a man and kids is the answer here. I think Dipna should move out and pay her own bills and find her independance. I dont see why ppl always think a romantic relationship is the solution. Co dependency is worse.
The funniest part was when she said "I'm not married yet" even finding a husband is not something she goes about independently.
I got a huge reality check when I moved out on my own. All of my bills have to be paid by me! My parents and other family members taught me how to save and be frugal.
Maybe they believe that it will give them the push to change to be a better person. It's not necessarily true that it will work out that way, but perhaps that's the thinking behind it.
If I feel a compulsion to shop, I try to focus that on something that's actually necessary, like groceries or house repair items; also, I remind myself that the best things in life are either free or very cheap.
its amazing how close this is to drug addiction.
Yes it is. My boyfriend is drug addict and I’m shopping addict.
Or like a gambling addiction
Yes and I am a recovering heroin addict and I can’t stop buying beauty products
Well yeh. Like any addiction?? Same parts of the brain light up.. Flood of Dopamine everytime. Brain and by extension our mind chases that high.
It's dopamine addiction, so is gym addiction. Anything that fires those chemicals can be addictive - and that's almost anything in different brains.
So Dipna had attachment issues which she tried to fill with things, Dean missed the excitement of his past career and youth which he tried to reclaim in auctions, and Ebony was feeling a lot of loss and rejection which she tried to fill by buying things for 'projects' which she felt might fix that
Dipna’s dad was totally in denial and no help at all.
Im poor so I just compulsively window shopping. Walking around the mall is good cardio.
Ebony's room/ house gives me such anxiety! Sooo much clutter 😢
you don't have to live there
I think some of these people need to reframe their perspectives a little. If the first girl resold two of her Chanel bags she would be out of debt and maybe have made a profit.
Like a car, once they leave the store the value drops significantly. I will never understand why people pay anything over 100-150 for an accessory or article of clothing simply for the brand. They can literally make everything from cheap Chinese materials for like $20 or less and charge you $500.
@@Beeboop7 that really depends on what the items are a lot of things actually increase in value particularly Chanel items. You obviously don’t know much about the secondary market specifically pertaining to brands Like Chanel, Hermès & Louis Vuitton.
Chanel bags keep their value in the resellers market.
@@Beeboop7 unlike cars, designer purses tend to increase in value. When they are no longer sold in shops it becomes harder to find them so people are willing to pay more when they do find one. I’ve heard some women are given designer handbags as wedding gifts from their family so in case they need to leave they have something they can sell for a lot of money.
@@Beeboop7Yes, except Chanel and Hermes. Both in a very differently category.
The young lady Dipna, single, no kids, and addicted to shopping having kids or a "partner" will not stop her from shopping. All that will do is "shift" her spending habit and instead of constantly shopping for herself, she will just start shopping for the children and the partner. DUH. It will never stop. Dipna is obsessive and a compulsive shopper, she has to want to curve this and make herself stop.
She has an addiction. No different to any other. As does Ebony, who does have kids.
@@lizziebkennedy7505 MAKING EXCUSES!!!🙄Dipna or whoever created this video cannot say if she had children or a partner that will stop her from spending. Absolutely BS! Addiction is an addiction. That individual has to want to stop. No one can make the person stop their addiction but themselves. They got into it they can work on getting themselves out of it🙄
Curb!
@@FairBeautyEssentials
Pack it in dear.
You aren't the Oracle
NOR are u superior to them.
A little compassion &
mentioning therapy
would help🙏💜🇬🇧💜
A good man would not want to marry a woman who can’t control her shopping.
Dipna seems like an only child who was born after many years of trying and is just a blessing for her parents. She cannot do any wrong in her daddy’s eyes! She is very lucky but at the same time is someone I would feel sorry for due to her loneliness of having no siblings to socialise with.
I was an only child, I never needed siblings as I had lots of friends to play with. I was also quite happy to play by myself, especially with my dolls house.
I hope these people are doing ok now
That bunny is sooooo cute 🥰 🐰
Dipna is. Google Brilliant Indian Restaurant London
Shopping fills a void… it’s also an addiction like any other
I feel her pain so much. Sometimes shopping and other obsessive-compulsive habit is just a symptom of a deeper cause within. The rush of dopamine is totally addicting. Thank God I'm able to get out of my own shopping spree. Phew! It was not easy at first yet I'm better now because I committed to getting to the root cause of why I'm doing what I'm doing.
Good for you.
I feel like my spending issue is on the verge of becoming a problem and I don't want to ruin myself financially so I've been watching shopaholic and recovered shopaholic content. The quote that stuck out to me the most is
NOT WANTING IS BETTER THAN HAVING
so i'm trying to retrain my brain
Have you heard of a Hannah Louise Posten? She did a session on the Channel called The Financial Diet where she discussed retiring her shopper’s brain. I found it transformative.
@@lizziebkennedy7505
I am going to watch this immediately.
Tomorrow definitely 🙏💜
I was headed down that route until I made it a rule to sell something for everything I buy.
It stopped me quite effectively.
I always followed the one-in, one-out rule, too. It works🙂
Btw, dipnas should volunteer at an orphanage as she loves children. It’ll help her tremendously
I really admire Jasmin Harman and the work she is doing to help people. Well done Jasmin and all your contacts for the efforts you are all making.
Honestly I just love seeing boxes at my door step. Coming home from work and seeing all the unopened boxes is like Christmas all year round. 🙃 but I do agree this is a problem.
I totally understand your feeling and I agree, it's problematic!
It is, especially since you can kinda guess what's in them. What's the actual surprise factor? XD Just not seeing the item you bought yourself? It's weird how our brains reward us for such things.
@@nikedoesthings You kinda forget what you bought, and that is the surprise factor which feels like getting a Christmas present 😊
Maybe you can try food and snacks subscription boxes? You don't know what you'll get, and you can try something new every month. If you don't like the food, you can just get rid of it(it's usually a small packet) so it doesn't hoard up.
No, i felt this 😭
I couldn't help but notice the irony of saying "there would be no life without shopping." while sitting in front of a statue of Om. Ebony made me so happy. I hope she continued down the road of tidying and getting out of her rut
@jameshusrt5323
This isn't a dating App, chap!
What are you doing?🙏💜
This isn’t just shopping, but this is also hoarding.
I feel so sad for Dipna. She has so much to give and yet she feels so empty.
She’s a wildly successful restaurant owner now.
As a minimalist this absolutely mortifying!
Ha ha Me too!! Clutter gives me an eye twitch
The only thing that shocks me is that these people are not MORE IN DEBT. Things just don’t add up 🤷♀️
Exactly! It doesn’t add up at all. Like that guy even being able to move to a bigger house with all that debt.
Maybe they have decent paying jobs but spend most of it on stuff, hence why they have so much and why some of it is very pricy.
That first story of the spoiled brat princess? A high-paying salary? Not one person in this documentary makes a high salary. And even if they did, they're still spoiled and self-absorbed.
I noticed that too
@@temmyid4618It’s called renting. I bet his wife earns.
Dipnas is clearly funded by her parents. Her 500 pounds/week earning would not have allowed her to buy anything. Her 7000 pounds debt is one of her bags, but she has the house full of designer purchases.
If she chose to re-sell or on-sell she’d earn quite a bit back. Enough to seriously dent the debt.
I also have a compulsive shopping problem; it started when I developed Bipolar Disorder. There is not enough recognition of compulsive shopping as an addiction.
I have no idea how Karen has put up with what she has for over 2 years. I wouldn't be able to stay in that relationship. Dean is neglecting her physically, emotionally and financially. 😥😥
Dipna and her dads restaurant featured in Gordon best Indian restaurant
omg!!
She was even cooking a couple of weeks ago on James Martin’s Saturday morning show on ITV…
@@nailddicteduk4685 So nice she got of the house to do something different rather than shopping. Maybe coking could be her new purpose in life.
Looking at how old the fashions, bags, and shoes are really drives home the idea that less is more.
When the things you own, end up owning you.
"Don't ask why the addiction. Ask: why the pain ?" Gabor Mate
Dean's wife has the patience of a saint and she must feel completely neglected and on the outside; So this is his fourth marriage? All I can say is at this rate it will be over soon if he can't alter this childlike spending.
I'm actually amazed that she doesn't speak up and say that this is ludicrous and discusses action for solutions and consequences of the spending. You can see how destructive the spending is and he clearly needs help with his problem. Having the patience of a saint isn't always good as being too patient in certain situations allows dominating characters to walk over you or for destructive behaviour to get out of control.
@@greenkitty82 exactly, she seems passive. Patience isn’t a good quality when it means no one is held accountable for their actions
He brings nothing to the table but 3 failed marriages, disinterest, debt and unhealthy living. Normally these loser types latch onto specific types of women. She doesn’t seem like that type, but I agree with the other posters that somethings odd in the reaction.
Lots of performers and artists are multiply married, even the ones that aren’t spendthrifts.
@@greenkitty82she probably actually knows how addiction actually works, and doesn’t waste her time on ignorant nonsense.
Consume products then get excited about consuming more products. It's what really makes the world go round.
I reallyy want to see how they've coped with lockdown
Good point. They probably splurged online 😔
Probably shopped online, like I did!!!!
Online Shopping
They shopped on line!!
Shopped more. It got worst
If you realise it's the thrill you get at the time, you are halfway there. You need to replace a habit with another less harmful habit that gives you the same feeling.
Dipna is never going to get married or have kids, which is a shame because she says she wants those things. She is 30 years old and has nothing in her life except her parents and her shopping. She’s not dating, or socializing or even open to those things. Her parents have used her to meet their own emotional needs and have completely smothered and stunted her. The whole situation is so sad.
You’re dumb. And wrong. She’s a celebrity chef now in London and not that it really matters, but she is married.
Compulsive shopping is related to OCD. Hopefully they all were able to get help for their compulsion.
o wow never knew that how so?
@@Crt374 Compulsive Shopping Disorder, or CSD, has similar symptoms to OCD.
Also ADD.
i cant help but think that ebony's decluttering will only make her buy more junk because there's extra room now. rly hope she doesnt fall back into her old habits though.
I think if people struggle to avoid accumulating stuff again, the best thing you can do if you can is get a smaller home so the circumstances alone will force you not to own things. I live in a shared house and there's no way I can accumulate stuff then if I had a large home to myself.
A 9 pound bargain isn't a bargain when you buy 10 of them.
Cards are such a temptation. When you run out of cash in your hand you know you have no money left.
Love the points, tho!
If you don't ever carry a balance=FREE MONEY :))
That’s why I much prefer using cash instead of card. It’s easier to keep track of. Sometimes with cards you have no idea how much money you have until the card declines. It’s annoying now after covid a lot of places have switched over to cards and places are no longer except cash. It gives me anxiety to use cash now incase the place doesn’t take it or if the cashier might think it’s dirty and might be unhappy I used cash.
If I were the wife of the man who bids on eBay, apart from trying to help him with his addiction, since he doesn't remember what he bought, I would sell it all back on eBay or elsewhere. (On eBay he might see it and want to buy it again. Just tell him he already got one like it.) I would keep all the packaging and use it to pack it back. The postman could take it all in the van when he comes. It is so sad, really.
Hi hi so a huge theory as to why people shop addictively and are so connected to material things stems from abandonment issues because you’re things can’t betray you or leave you or hurt you in the same way another person would- you substitute connection to others for connection to things. It brings you comfort, safety, security; you’re seeking these things so desperately, subconsciously that you will do ANYTHING accessible to you even if it makes you feel out of control or has negative consequences bc it’s the only place you’re getting that comfort.
I think you're spot on. Very insightful.
Yes and abject loneliness
I'm leaving my girlfriend she has this issue, her whole family does , she just "lended" her sister 1900$ and we need that for our down payment... That's what this causes is broken family's and relationships
Oh damn hope things are better now man
Dean doesn’t even seem to be sure that he receives what he orders. This is a serious problem.
It hurt so much to see that he didn't even fully unpack the item. He half opened it, handed it over to his wife and the next package got his attention.
Hoarding of all types stems from loss, or an anxiety over loss.
Dean, at least the loss of accolades being a pop star, or at the least the need to become a performer usually requires need of approval anyway.
Dipna, maybe a rejection. Obvious fear of loss of the security of her parents, maybe fear she isn't good enough or deserving to be a wife/parent?
Ebony, empty nest around the corner, no husband, loss of her baby.
So scary to think a human can try to fill a life with things instead of experiencing joy, love, family, and exploration.
Jasmine is a truly beautiful person....inside and out.
She is so sincere in helping people and helping others understand why people tick they way they do.
My mother was a hoarder .
In those days, there wasn't a name for it.
Jasmine' s series on this topic healed me in so many ways.
She is such a gift .
i thought she was judgemental and rude
Yes her face is very pretty but she could use losing maybe 100 lbs
I think my mom is addicted to shopping for food. There is sooo much food going bad in the house, and she keeps buying more. I had a friend whose mom was a food hoarder, there was no place to sit in her dining room. It was all covered with food. This is a psychological problem that can happen with anything, not just clothes. I feel so bad for the family members in this documentary. They must be so tired of dealing with this behavior and those people constantly talking about not having enough money. And they never will until they get rid of the addiction.
Jasmine is such an empathetic presenter with genuine concern for those she is interviewing. Her upbringing has brought about a much better understanding of the underlying psychological factors at play and she is a gentle, encouraging interviewer while still being able to ask the tough questions.
thats like the sweetest and best compliment i feel an interviewer could get. Its never good to step on people for a story
I think someone should start a youtube channel where they track down the people from all these old shows for follow ups !
Google Dipna Anand Brilliant Restaurant. She’s a celebrity chef now.
I have a major compulsive shopping habit.... however I am not in debt over it, use most of what I have, online shopping has made the problem worse for sure. I’ve had the same car for 5 years. I have a house, and I pay my bills. Grateful I’m not as bad as some of these people.
Same. I’m a functioning shopaholic. I believe in taking care of responsibilities first (bills, etc)
As bad is just so shallow and egotistical.
When it comes to spending money, I am totally the opposite. As a result, I do not like spending money and live a very frugal lifestyle. I don't buy things I don't need; I only buy things I need, and I always buy used . In the last 10 years, I've saved Tens of Thousands of dollars, have zero debt, and live a stress-free life thanks to my frugality.
As long as you are deeply happy, that’s awesome and inspiring.
Saving and not spending a penny on yourself is also a type of addiction. I have a family member that is 80 and still wears clothes from her late mother. She’s a very wealthy person but very stingy. Kind of sad too…
Den Menschen fehlt irgendwas im Leben und diese Lücke versuchen sie mit Shopping zu füllen.
Ist eigentlich sehr traurig.
Ich lebe auf 36 qm und lebe sehr minimalistisch. Ich zahle wenig Miete, muss wenig putzen und habe alles was ich zum Leben benötige. Minimalismus kann ich jedem nur ans Herz legen. ❤
My first year dancing I made $226k and I blew it all. I look at all of my things today and most still have tags and I’m just donating it all. It’s insane. I continue to make great money but I don’t shop like that no more. I travel, put much away and just stay home
My shopping addiction started when I travelled overseas for the first time to London. I stayed with my wealthy SIL & brother who bought the best quality of everything and I thought I had to keep up. I wasn’t earning much though and I also felt v lonely there. They ended up basically throwing me out of their flat and dumping me in the lounge of a friend of theirs. I eventually found a flat to stay in. I didn’t get on particularly well with the others. In the end all I did was work, run or walk for exercise and go shopping. I discovered high Street and thought I needed to buy high quality things to bring home to show that I had ‘made it’ in life. I remember thinking that the only thing that made me happy was shopping. It was a really sad and lonely time of my life looking back.
So sorry you went through that. Hope you’re in a better place now.
@@ashl8804 Thank you 💛. Yes, not perfect, but I eventually went home, got married to my partner and now have 3 teen aged children. It took me a LONG time to get over that shopping addiction though, almost became an OCD type obsession with clothes & shoes mainly. I would say I have mostly got over it in the last few years or so, but I have to say every year the same brother & SIL (in particular) still trigger me at Xmas time.
Excellent documentary. Well made and very well presented.
Having too much in my closet or home depresses me, too much clutter, i only want to see stuff that brings me joy. On the other hand i have a shop filled with stuff i sell that appeases my need to buy !
What is Dipna going to do when her parents are not there to support her financially? So sad.
I think she is ok. Don't worry about her
How is she in any way okay? She's a reprehensible, greedy, entitled brat.
@@emmaphilo4049i doubt she is really okay
@@lilg2300she’s a celebrity chef now cooking for Gordon Ramsay and the royal family. You were saying?
This documentary is actually depressing. I too, had to quit Ebay. It's very addictive.
It's easier to understand if you see it as self-soothing behaviour. We all have self-soothing behaviours, and this just a form of it.
Fill up your time with volunteering! It’s so satisfying! 🧡💛💚💙
For me ADHD, FOMO, liking nice things and stress plays into my shopping phases. I go from years of no-buys into phases of overspending, for which I make up by working extra hours. I am now shifting to investing into experiences (dinner with friends, a train trip), saving/investing instead of shopping. Most of my stuff is second hand, but while that's marginally more sustainable, it can still accummulate.
Now I shop my closet, I try to sell off what I am not using. My goal: Go from a 2 BR apartment (alone) to a 1 BR. I still get 50 bucks a month to spend on whatever, but it's on a seperate pre-pay card. All of my cards are pre-pay, I can't do overdrafts. It helps. Being offline more also helps. And selling what you don't use.
But understanding the "Why" and stopping yourself when you want to shop, is key. Do something else. Deal with the emotion instead of buying things.
Reading your comment makes me realise that I have a serious problem.
You have put into words the root causes I am also facing: ADD, FOMO, etc.
If not shopping, I am eating.
I need to stop self destructing like this
In many cases is a matter of feeling lonely and the need of occupying your time with something you enjoy so you don't feel that loneliness. It could be eating, shopping, bidding , reduces anxiety for a moment but It doesn't really work because doesn't help to fight against loneliness, they are all activities that don't involve other people. Very sad and a vicious cycle.
Dipna looks amazing for her age, I thought she was 20 at first honestly!
Agreed she looks young, almost child-like and no disrespect to her but it’s likely because she lives at home and doesn’t have the stress of worrying about bills and rent. I’m not judging her as I’m in the same situation tbh
As someone who left home at 18 I’d urge everyone to stay at home as long as they are able...
@@liverbirdxoxo1984 Nah, I left my home at 20 and moved abroad. Leaving my comfort zone was the best way to shape my character and become an independent person, not to mention the freedom that came with it :)
@@Kat-em7dp yeah I get that... I just meant it would be good to stay home n save money for a deposit on a house or a little business...
She is her parents princess and it shows ;) she is lucky in a way
Thank you very much for sharing this.
The relationship with the sales people can be very co-dependent. As a child of a parent with shopping addiction my heart goes out to her. Please get therapy. We as a society can do our part to stop valuing each other by what they own/buy. Good on them for admitting this.
The couple should use the money that would have been spent on auctions and take a wonderful vacation together, make memories, My Husband and I never had the opportunity, while this couple is healthy and have the money go for it!!
Hello how are you doing 😊👋😊☺️
They don't have the money. That's the stupidest part of this.
Dipna's dad is in more denial than she is!!
no one:
me: watching this while shopping at amazon
When life is empty, here's a shopping comes, just feel in your life more important and have fun, needs family and friends around ❤️
I also think that subconsciously some people with this disorder view an empty space in the home as a loneliness reminder. Constantly filling the voids so they can try not to see the same voids within themselves.
I never thought of it that way. That's a good point.
@@JulEnglefaris
It's always to fill some void
Therapists say.
Unfortunately our compulsions
this way eventually overwhelm
- admitting the reason, taking responsibility & Therapy
(& quitting the shopping!)
is the only way - but like
any addiction / compulsion
(even anorexia etc)
ppl are strongly avoidant
to admitting it's a problem
- humans are that way
Yes definitely
Dipna could turn her joy of shopping into a business like reselling designer labels or becoming a personal shopper for luxury clients
She became a celebrity chef instead. Google Brilliant Indian restaurant London.
Dipna's father runs the Brilliant Indian restaurant in Southall and it was featured on Gordon Ramsay's best Restaurant programme. Thought i recognised her
I too am a shopaholic. I buy clothes, shoes and jewelry. I’ve had this problem for years. I lost a lot because if it.
I love buying cute things and books, but I am scared to see my bank account empty. I am always stressed out when I have to go outside, when I have to pass in front of stores.
This is straight up coping but id call it a symptom really. When my anxiety flares my shopping does too and sometimes I can see that I’m doing it to distract myself and other times it’s like I can’t stop like I need to, I don’t want to. I want to put my phone down and not spend money but It’s like being stuck in a loop
I wish I could find an update on dipna.. she’d be about 40 now. Would love to know if she left home, has kids etc
Dipna Anand is a successful chef and is currently married ( since 2016 no less- this documentary was first broadcasted in 2014).
She’s a celebrity chef lol. Married too.
Giving to less fortunate is the best dopamine rush.
I wish I could have so much money as the first one has, I would definitely found better way to spend it