Q: Will Your Alienated Child Come Back into Your Loving Family?
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- čas přidán 1. 08. 2024
- A heartbreaking question from alienated parents is always, will my alienated child come back to me? I share my thoughts and perspective for parents in this video.
Hi, my name is Ryan Thomas and I’m a child of parental alienation. I began speaking out after I reconnected with my Dad after decades of rejection, in hopes it could help other families.
My goal is to use my real-life experiences to help parents understand how their children think after parental alienation, and what they can say and do to rebuild the relationship - even in the most extreme cases.
I’m grateful that I’ve had the opportunity to work with rejected and alienated parents in over 25 countries, helping to create breakthroughs and reunifications. It’s an amazing experience to play a role in the rebuilding of a loving parent-child relationship that has been needlessly torn apart.
I hope this video provides new insights, new perspectives, and hope that reconnecting is possible, no matter how difficult the situation or how long it’s been.
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*tears* thank you Ryan Thomas, your true spoken words are inspiring. I am beyond grateful that I stumbled across your video. I miss my two boys everyday for the past 3 years and I live with so much pain, anger, shame, resentment and fear. I miss them more than anything. Thank you for sharing your story, you are an absolute angel.
I know the pain you're going through. I'm also in a deeply hurtful and just plain wrong situation with my two sons, who I haven't seen for nearly 5 years. I hope you find the right resolution. I suppose the only positive for people in our situation is the thought that our kids haven't died, where there's life there's still hope. I also find it helpful to concentrate on other aspects of myself; to work hard in my career and creative things I like to do, to try to be a better person. Being a father is a huge part of who I am but it's blocked from me day to day, so I don't allow myself to be defined by that denial.
Steve Bailey I hope you find resolution as well. It's definitely been hard to figure out who I am since my kids have been gone, what I enjoy etc. Your in my thoughts, stay strong.
@@jenniferdougherty7160 I'm in the same situation...
I know your pain. I have been alienated from my 3 son's. 2 of them will hug me now & sometimes says I love you. But they won't spend time with me or answer my calls/texts. My 14 yr old did hang out with me one day 2yrs ago when I moved back to live close to them but the next day he didn't want anything to do with me from then on. Prior to me moving back they were supposed to visit me by our state's guidelines but their dad refused to correspond which made our times impossible. It got to the point he allowed them to decide if they wanted to visit me or not before I moved away. And of course they never wanted to because they didn't want to upset their dad. He made them feel awful for wanting anything to do with me. He would make fun of me and cause my children to laugh in my face at his jokes me being the brunt of them. It's been pure hell. He was always in contempt of court but nothing ever happened to him. I know the everyday endless heartache so I feel for you. I was invited to my oldest graduation party yesterday. It felt akward being there because so many people at the party were the same people who helped keep my boy's from me. They would hid them. They would take my children when it was our time together. And the ex's girlfriends would always try to take my place and try to pretend I didn't exist. This newer gf helped with my son's graduation party and that still feels like a dagger in my heart because that should've been me. She's always been hateful and jealous so I'm sure it was intentional. It wasn't her place I asked if I could help but of course no one responded. No one ever does. I swear they pretend I'm dead. They forgot who gave birth to those boy's who nursed each one of them and who was the only one raising them when their son kicked me out. I had to beg him for diapers I had to beg him to keep his children and then he would only take my potty trained son. I'm venting because I have no one in my life who can fully understand or relate to this constant pain I live with. I hold on to my faith and the fact I know God wants us to be together. I'm just waiting on his timing but it's not easy like today is always hard. The day after I see my children or right after we depart I sink into this sadness which is why I'm on yt looking for Parental Alienation video's. It's good to know your not alone completely. God bless you and your children
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Thank you, Ryan! Your words are reassuring. One thing I'm stuck on is the reaching out to the kids when the alienating parent manipulates the messages. Texting doesn't work. It doesn't feel safe to even call the kids. These master manipulators and controllers can manipulate our words even from a great distance away. The only way it seems is when the kid decides to call the alienated parent. But they're so brainwashed that they won't. You give hope. Thank you.
I am so happy I found this video. My story is a little different since I became estranged from my daughter when she was older (17) and it was by my own family after I came forward about sexual abuse from when I was a child. It has now been over 5 years since she has spoken to me and it still kills me every day. Thank you for this little bit of hope.🌻
We are an ONG from Argentina that work against alienation and to promote a shared childhood. Your video is just great to help parents and make all this visible. The needed video for this era.
i was 47 years old when i finilly realysed that i was lied to about my dad so it,s so different for everyone.
I'm a father who has not been allowed to see his kids and over 10 years due to My ex wife alienating the kids so I appreciate your videos and it's very uplifting and I've never given up I never will
I've used my ex-wife s alienation tactics as fuel for my motivation
same here. 10 years. Two sons.
Keep fighting .
Same for me! 14yrs now, no contact due to their mothers alienation, a daughter that's 22 and a son that's 20, I miss them and pray for them every day!
Bless your heart for taking the time- it means more than you would probably ever know.
My scrolling stopped upon your inspiring testimony. When the parent is longing for their child whom refuses contact- all that could go through that parent’s mind is “they hate me, it will never be, or I never was a good parent.”
This brings great comfort to a 7 year - heartbroken- estranged mother.
I hope that life has continued to bless your relationships immensely throughout the years since this was made. Thank you.
Thanks again, Ryan. I've been one of those parents who laid back, not wanting to make things more difficult for my daughter. I sent her a brief "Thinking of you on your birthday" in 2009, a one page letter in 2010 telling her that I understood and would be here when she was ready, a "Thinking of you over the holidays" in 2010, a Grad wish in 2014 and a letter in Jan 2015 explaining some things, as well as why I waited until she was 18. I have never even mentioned her mother ... just that I love her, miss her and look forward to reuniting one day. I've seen her three times in six years ... twice while I was working and once in passing at the park. My family tried to retain contact but eventually gave up a couple of years ago. Too frustrating not getting a response and not knowing if her mom was intercepting. She'll be heading to university in the fall ... about 600 kms away from home. Her Grandpa (who doesn't do internet) is thinking of writing her while she's away at school. No pressure. Just a first opportunity to contact her without her mom getting in the way. She's always stated that she wants a relationship with her grandparents when asked by the court but her mom hasn't allowed it to happen. Would writing her cause more problems? And how much worse could it get?
I feel you mediahound....its been 15 years for me..she was 12..oh did I mention the 12 years for my son?...they have it bad..
I hope it gets better for you someday soon
Ryan can’t answer you here but he does counsel privately. It didn’t work for my situation for a variety of reasons but I DID get a text back from my son after I followed Ryan’s guidance. Try emailing him or signing up for private counseling. I think we are all so desperate and although I see many similar issues with everyone dealing with PAS, he is only one man. It’s a suggestion. One of my twins will reach out randomly. The other has cut all ties. My ex AND his girlfriend made it their full time job to get my children away from me. I wish you the best. I know this is hell.
I hope you fix up things but I think the game is over. Your post to seven years old my bet is that kid never took the time a day for you and that is sad.
Ryan, I want to say that I have watched all of your videos regarding your experience with PA, thank you for sharing your valuable insight. I have been able to find hope for my daughter and myself . She is now 28 and I lost her at age 14. I never saw it coming ,knew nothing of PA. This case extends to my entire family and close network of family friends.
Shame , humiliation , heartbreak are feelings I can’t escape as I approach my 55th birthday. I am so scared my daughter will never know the love we have for her. We keep up with her life through photos from social media and friends that share what they know. We have absolutely no contact, have not been able to call, visit or email for 14 years. I have written hundreds of letters and send cards for all special dates and occasions.
My hope is someday I can set down with her to move forward but at this point, we are just waiting for a gleam of hope. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Me too I'm heart broken. My daughter told me I have to apologize to my alienators if I want to see her cuz it's so terrible
Thank you ! I am so glad that I found this video ! I have been severely alienated from my 3 daughter’s for nearly 6 years now! I have been taking my ex-husband back to Court for years now and I always win my case “IN COURT!” But unfortunately,Still nothing ever changes in my /0ur situation! It is absolutely heart breaking and gut wrenching! I have been grieving the loss of my very much alive living children for years now! My oldest Daughter is now 19 yo and is currently serving in The United States AirForce and she also recently got married! She aged out of the legal system before I ever got to see her,and everysince she turned 18 (last May 15th!)I’ve no longer been in a parenting plan with her and even though She’s out from underneath her father’s thumb and out of his house she still lost in your own STUBBORNNESS! And has decided that she still wants nothing to do with me right now! I’m heartbroken! 💔
I have tried Reunification Therapy with my middle and youngest daughter’s who are currently 16 turning 17 this year and Junior in High School and 11 turning 12 yo reps Year in the 6th grade! Unfortunately our Reunification Therapy got shut down by our Reunification Therapist because of all of the covert and in covert behaviors from my daughter’s Dad and Step Mother ! All of they adults in their family that had such STRONG RESISTANCE that couldn’t be naturalized! Also it was our LPC-Licensed Professional Counselor’s Professional Opinion that the whole Reunification Process had been totally undermined ! That my relationshionship with my youngest daughter was sabbatoged Completley!
That at that point it was only causing both my daughter and myself more HARM! So she had to call off our Reunification and end our Reunification Therapy all together! Shut everything all down all together !!!!
I am so frustrated,sad,discouraged,depressed,desperate,
Hopeless, and just truly heart broken ! 💔😭
Bless you and your dad, I feel your sincerity and love for what you are doing. May a thousand or more angels make all of your crooked places ever straight along your way....
It's killing me like cancer
Do not live on hope. They may never come back.
I understand it can be hard to feel hope, but without it, that fear of them never coming back is stronger than ever. We believe that is always hope, and we will always take that stand for parents.
Suicide
@@bubba400 pshaw... homicide.
At 47, I believe my son can never overcome the brainwashing of 42 year estrangement. There should be an intervening person or group because the self awareness to make this (empathy) happen diminishes with time.
thank you for passing this on ,
Your videos have been immensely helpful to me. Thank you
Not only has my child been alienated me from my daughter, but my family too. My sister has made herself my daughter's mother. My daughter is 22 years old it's been 15 years I've been estranged. I sent her ��️ on a number that I have. I text her she didn't know who I was and she text back and told me that I have to apologize to my sister and her father the two main people that are alienating me from her and I have to apologize to them if I want to see her. It's so abusive it's not even believable
Thank you Ryan. This has impacted too many of us....wounds that may not heal.
Yes really my daughter i didnt get her more than 25 years
Ty Ryan all I can do is keep hope. I hope he can go deep in his heart and stand strong to discover his own views and options. I have been there with my marriage I know the real experience of how it was. He was just too young and I kept wondering myself what was going on. Until we separated then it all made sense with educating myself
It’s been almost 3 years and my own son hasn’t talk to me checked up on me or anything. He’s my son, I love him, but I’m done.
Leave the lines of communication open and be as supportive as possible and they will come back. You must give them the time to see that they have been manipulated. And if you did do wrong, apologize, and treat them with respect moving forward. Some will come back and others won't. I was alienated from all 4 of mine and all have come back over those 13 years. Truth exposes the lies eventually so stick to that. Most importantly, take responsibility for your part in the damage that has been done because none of us are perfect or innocent when it comes to the problems we had in whatever that failed family dynamic was. Lastly, let go of the resentment you have for your ex or at least stop bringing it up when speaking to them. They love that person in spite of your feelings regardless and should not be constantly put in the middle of it all. Patience is a virtue. Good luck.
Thank you so much for the positive input!!
Minute mark 4:58 - 5:05. I think (as the alienated parent), I finally reached the epiphany of not taking anything from my daughter personally, realizing that she is doing what she needs to do “to survive” to have the love of her father amidst his harem of followers (the “regime” you called it- that’s great, by the way), accepting that my ex (who I thought I knew) will never be able to behave as a mature compassionate adult, letting go of the daughter I used to know, and also having realistic expectations about the relationship I currently have (and might always have) with my daughter. All of that has helped me to care about just about her, as far as she will allow me to.
Adding my "thank you"s and blessings to everyone else commenting here. This gives me hope to get my kids back.
Thank you! I feel the same has happened to my 19 year step daughter that has always lived with her bio mom. It is a grieving process for my husband and I. I have been in her life since she was 5 months old and married to her dad for 11 years - it hurts me so I can't imagine truly how her dad feels. Communication started dying over a year ago but just finally informed her dad of her decision to "love him from a distance" because he has wronged her mom just about 5 months. So sad...and my heart breaks for what my step daughter may have experienced and going thru.
Ryan, you have given me hope.
Hi Ryan, I appreciate your videos and what you are doing. I'm an alienated parent. Have you thought of making a video with Dr. Craig Childress? I think it would be great to see you both speaking on parental alienation.
Thanks for the truth, my girls were 9y.o. and 6y.o. when he assaulted me in front of them, 2 weeks later threatened to kill me and run to file a TRO only to secure total power and control over them, and a tactical advantage ref custody. Both girls ended up harmed and disabled. My eldest is 18y.o. and so smart that overcoming his sabotages, she made it to college. It has been a year since she left. It is as you say "anything can happen" your child has yo get that exposure, build perspective out of your exs lies, and you yourself need to work on your healing of trauma, depression, anger and FORGIVENESS. Even then your kid is an independent being, his/her free will has to be respected. Don't take it personally, and DO NOT GIVE UP on your child! Keep a journal, deposit there the things you would have wanted to share, PRAY cover him/her with blessings and protection every day through that. Seek support: Your own counselor will giide yoir healing process. Other groups like co dependents anonymous or groups at church / in your community.
Your life has value and a purpose outside your deep love for your child. Love is to allow them the freedom to chose to be your kid after your ex's hook on them is gone, and keep loving, forgiving (which is actually unhooking your own self of the past). "God works it all for the good of those who love and fear Him" right now i am still like Stefanny Hamilton after the shark bit off her arm "HOW???" but God is real and faithful to His name, so IT WILL BE for my children's and my own good but I have to let go of the control on when and how our relationship will be repaired and thrive despite all he did to us
Great video. Thank you Ryan.
Thanks for the words and advice, I am currently experiencing this and it’s debilitating.
You're welcome Berend. This is a global issues that thousands of parents are dealing with, so we are doing everything we can to help. If you would like to share your situation in more detail to see if we can guide you through it, please click here and fill out a short application. My team and I will personally review it. Just so you know, our deadline for applying is Aug 15. ryanthomasspeaks.com/work-with-ryan-thomas/
Yes, they are children, that's why they need responsible adults, making the important decisions for them. Alienated kids, don't have that...but they end up seeing, who was transparent and who was not.
I agree with everyone! God with us and never say never, one day at a time.
(Been about two years now fighting the “Parental Alienation” and not being able to see my teenage son & daughter ) ❤️✝️🤘 Keep loving our children regardless of the pain and stress
You’re videos are amazing!🌷
Thank You, when as a parent you understand how the entire dynamic operates, there isn’t much you can do there is no way to protect them, or to convince anyone even involved in their lives as adults that they truly do need it, your perspective at least gives me hope which is very difficult for any severely targeted parent to maintain
Great video. Minute mark 4:20 to 4:50 I would like to know more about the alienating parents “playbook” and how not to play into their hands. No matter what I do, it gets twisted. I don’t understand how they think.
I came back to my dad. Only because of my uncle.
I would say his shot was a 50/50 if it weren't a discussion to address with my husband and re-evaluating my mom and her side of the family's behaviors. I still think he hasn't taken full responsibility for his behavior but I love him either way. I just won't take his excuses for why he didn't do more.
My children are 16 & 14. I havent seen or spoken to them for over 5 years. Alienated from me by their father.
Chaide Elwood I'm very sorry. My son is also with his Dad. It's been almost 2 years..I'm beyond broken hearted
@@amieekennedy2792 I'm in the same situation. It's horrible
Feel for you. It looks like this will be my fate too: I am still seeing my children but my eldest 13 yrs old daughter has been rejecting me for a few weeks and wants to increase her time with her father, but basically said as soon as I can I'll pack my bags and leave. Dreading it.
Omg. Mine are 16 & 14. The toxic environment their father has them in led another one of my children to kill themself. I haven’t spoken to and/or seen my 16 yo for the last 6 months. I found out after my son killed himself that my ex husband & his wife were dealing fentanyl laced Xanax out of their house, as well as were giving the children drugs to sell as well. Police & DHS have been made aware and are involved, however, it’s not making anything better, only worse. I couldn’t imagine going 5 years. My heart breaks for you. I’m sorry.
Thank you😢
Never. Poisoned by their big shot dad.
My son was parentally abducted @ age 7. I hit my knees and if not for GOD I would have died that day of a broken 💔. I never, ever would have thought it would be 10 yrs. Later when he would call me last mother's day and told me how much he loves me but still went no contact after that. Then the next mother's day he called me again always from a private number and he was so excited bc he said "mom dad says I can talk to you everyday if we want"" and we got connected on a game social media called discord. We where so happy. I had no idea Satan was just cutting the floor out from under me one more time. I never heard from my son again he went totally incognito. I felt almost as bad as I did that first time I realized he wasn't coming back. It's almost mother's day and I pray 🙏🙏. I know my son loves me and God will prevail and click to his memory, hey, I remember!!! I pray for all our children as well as us. All I can say is get GOD ! Your child depends on it. For you to be just the opposite of what you've been made out to be. Ryan, God bless you and what you are doing to help parents like me and children like mine. I was asked by Team hope ( I'm sure you're familiar) to volunteer bc I was handling things so well but when I told them it wasn't me but God that was so strong they said , Oh well you can't talk about God. I was out. My son is 17 now and I'm not sure why he doesn't use a friend's phone and just call me? The questions play like a broken record but the Word of God gives me peace of mind and I know there's a reason and in due season we will all get what we deserve. God bless you again and btw my son's name is Sydney and he is 17 now.
Oh and I forgot to say my son was a miracle from God as all children are but in my case it was really a miracle. The day bf my hysterectomy the Dr. said, I was 2 wks pregnant and he had not even ordered a pregnancy test the nurse just did one out of habit. I had a condition called endometriosis and was told I would never have a child. Well about 2 wks after deciding to go through with surgery I got down on my knees and prayed , God plz, plz, don't let me miss out on being a mother. I wanted a baby so badly. Well I got one and well I'll shut up now but I had to give God glory for that too. ❤❤❤I could go on and on about the torment of losing a child not to mention All family and friends bc he planned this for some time maybe even yrs. It's satanic.
WORST PAIN EVER....
Oh God Ryan, I hope you are correct. My daughter and I are alienated from each other, but I blame that on the fact that she is living with a narcissist boy friend. He is negative, disrespectful, shows bad behaviour and has an 'I don't give a damn' attitude, gives no validation for your feelings which narcs do. I have tried to warn my daughter of this, but she's been manipulated and brainswashed by him and now thinks and acts like him. Makes up excuses for his bad behaviour. I told her to educate herself on what exactly narcissism is, so hopefully down the road she will and come back and say 'oh my God mom, you were right all along". This was great, thank you Ryan, that makes me feel a lot better.
Hmmm ... my question from a year ago still remains. Daughter reached out to Grandpa and Grandpa, they had a couple of great visits before Narcissist Alienator put a stop to it :(
I am waiting for 17 years, since then they have changed their last name to another man who is the 3rd man their mother married. Our sons had a connection with their biological dad, but since she alienated them due to POWER AND MONEY i have lost more than any family member on either side can understand
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Hi Ryan - I have been alienated from my son since March 23rd. 2016. I found it interesting about what you said about children being more likely to come back, the more they are exposed to different experiences. Shortly after my child left, he changed his circle of friends, stopped playing football and the piano, so that he was no longer exposed to a football coach who would counsel him or any adult that had any connection to me. L'm wondering what your thoughts are on the family courts and social workers. Why is it that when you search Parental Alienation on the web, it is such a huge problem, but those who have the power to change it, don't? Surely experts listening to someone like you should now know that the 'voice of the child' is in fact the alienater. Why do they choose to ignore all the research, desperate millions of parents online and you, living proof of what is going on?
Dr. Craig Childrss says it best: it's because they don't want to solve the problem, they want to be "experts." Two very different things and you will see this all over society.
My ex daughter in law kept their oldest child and gave the youngest to my son..I went to court to get Grandparents rights to see the oldest...was allowed visitation with an exception
I had to give her 72 hours notice..which gave her time to make " other plans" which meant I never got to see him...he's grown now and I have no relationship with him..he doesn't know me...
Not only she alienated my child since birth but she put someone else as the father so I couldn't fight my battle. My son is 15 years old . I tried to reach to him when he was 8 years old but they called the police and I was accused of harassment. Since then I have tried everything but the Belgiun law is one of the worse laws in the world. I know none can help me.
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Thank you for this videos. My lil one just turned 8 last month and I'm fighting in court for unsupervised visits. Her mom keeps playing games and turned my lil one against me. I'm winning in Court but the mom speaks so bad about me. I hope things get better soon. Thank you again.
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@@sarahlove9830 Thank you so very much it's highly appreciated. I will definitely see if this guy can help. I miss my little princess so very much it hurts.
The pain it feels for me as a Mom too give birth, love my Son's unconditionally and have my husband of 20 years. His father of him do this to me? I really found out the truth from my 13 year old Son.
My 19 year old was repeating the things that caused his alienation towards me to my 13yr old. He was trying to make my 13 year old believe him!
It was the one single thing that makes me know I need to divorce my husband. I need to run as fast as I can. It's my only chance. I know it.
My 16 year old daughter told me in text message that she wasn’t coming home. In a text message. She’s been so loved and cared for but didn’t like boundaries. It feels like bereavement that nothing could have prepared me for. I saw my husband ( her father) cry for the first time. why is it that I have to remain the best mother who has to accept and not defend herself while I’m being stabbed in the back and my heart is broken into pieces. Why do I have to accept my daughter’s relationship with someone who’s five years older than her, dropped out of school and encouraging her to escape? Why do I have to shut up and suffer so that I’m giving her space and not showing my true feelings? Why is it that the low allows a 16 year old child to leave home while the home is loving and not abusive? We struggled to put our daughter in private schools so that she can have a good education. We both are highly educated loving parents who read a lot to get informed about how to be the best parents. Why is it that there’s no accountability or responsibility put on teenagers for being selfish and hurting their parents. I am totally devastated. She had broken me.
Something similar happened to me. Sorry.
Sorry to hear this. I know how painful that is.
You sound like a codependent.focus on yourself and learn. We are all products of our past and environment. Don't blame.take care.
It is because there is a totally broken and useless field of psychology that produces "professional" people who t"professionally" tear families apart: i.e. a teenager has some regular growing op problems that we all had their age and we just grew through them with a help of community and peers in a society that was not as dis-regulated as it is now: there were some norms and authorities, there was faith or at least expectation of civil behaviour. Now, if anyone has a problem - they go to a psychologist/ psychotherapist and there is one of those at every corner. These people need jobs and billable hours, so if your child goes to see them (and there is a huge push to go for therapy rather than talk to your parents or someone who wishes them well) and they face a professional scam artist who does everything s/he can to keep the client, so instead of starting some work on their problems (i.e. teenage depression) and provide some tips how to get out of it, they go to the "root of the problem" as they call parents these days and "work on the root" for years of billable hours after which time young people are so confused that they perceive their parents as their worst enemies and follow the advice of professional scammers, cut contact with parents, start taking medications (therapists quickly refer them to their friends psychiatrists who prescribe meds getting a cut from pharmaceutical companies and diagnoze them with multitude of illnesses or disorders unherd of just a few years ago but devised to keep the system going). Often after a few year these professionally cut off children develop addictions because they are being re-traumatized and trained how to hate parents and there is nothing a parent can do. Psychologists/therapists advertise themselves that they can "help" parents to deal with the trauma of estrangement that often their spouse or co-worker caused in the first place, before they take on another client - a young person whom they will isolate from their parents (who will be the way pay for their treatment, or their insurance will) ..... This is systemic and aimed at breaking families apart and creating a generation of docile, drugged, easily manipulated people who follow the system and don't have any connection with the past - for that parents need to be eliminated from the picture and any memory of normalcy is gone ...... Read "Loser Letters" by by Mary Eberstadt - eye opening into what is happening with young people. Pray for your child and this generation and, if you see any negative results of therapies, etc. , report any "psycho-destroyer" to their association - they need to be overwhelmed with complaints and regulated. Also, fight that the insurance that is to be used for their services - could be used for other community support building organizations/ networks. Otherwise, their greed will destroy the generation of our children. Fight for changing the laws through your local MP, get involved and check/protest what is being thought at schools. Fight for your daugther - lead out from the point you are in - it's painful, but she is in a worse situation because she is brainwashes and lead to destroy her life ......
Its Been one month Two weeks i havnt heard from my son His blocked me wants nothing todo with me . His mom has brain washed him in such away that breaks my heart and soul . Thank you for your vidoe … all i got is Hope But i prey every day he Will came back to me
I love him so much Im broken . Please any can help me how do i go about it Please
I’m going through the same thing with my son . I totally understand what your going through.
This ruined my life after my ex husband moved my kids out of State and the alienation began.
I love and miss my Kids even though they are adults 💕
For the parents who reunited with their child: how does he/she feel about the alienating parent? Are they now mad again, but now with the other parent? Any experiences? Thank you.
Ryan, I wonder, can you share with us how the light bulb switched on for you? What made you realise the truth?
My 18 year old and I had one big argument 3 years ago. I'm 44 and I am dying in 90 days, maybe even a year if I am lucky and he refuses to call me, etc..my mom is the only other family. She always going to lunch or dinner with him because he tells my mom that his dad ignores him and doesn't College :( She said she does not think he will never talk to him again. I reached out but it's been 3 years and he blocked me on social media.
Do you advise sharing your videos with the alienated child?
Thank you
Ryan Thomas...how come you don't talk about the current relationship you have with your mother? Do have resentment? Do you still have a relationship with your mother? Why did it take you so long to realize that your father was not the villian?- 30 years old is long time.
Do you have any advice on what alienated parents can do during times of no-contact with their children that could help to support reunification later in the children’s lives?
My children are young: 13 and 8 years. I haven't seen them in six months; nor have I spoken to them in the phone. Their mother and grandmother intercept any attempts. That entire side of the family in fact bombard my kids with lies and negativity about me to turn them against me. With no access to me nor any voice contradicting what they're being told, is their any hope of ever having a relationship at any time? Is there anything I can do to keep the door to their hearts open to me?
Pray to Jesus
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What should an alienated parent do when the alienated child blocked them? Impossible to reach out. 😢
Please answer me. May be from experience. My baby mother brought my son to me. 6 months later which is today she came and took him. And he is 4 years. And am sure I will never see him again. He was crying when his mother took him. Please how do I cope with this and will he come back when he gets old.
My daughter 22. I've been alienated from her for 15 yrs. I need opinions about texting this video to my daughter? Or is this nor a good idea
My son was taken at 9 months old. He's now a year old. I have lost temporary custody of my son because his father lied. My son has down syndrome and it's trauma for child and I've realized the father has kept me away from doctors appointments and only allows me to see him with temporary court order, Texas is hard to find lawyers to get my son back, he's bouncing from place to place while his father works. I don't think this is appropriate for him nor healthy. These people were never in my sons life until I filed for child support. I need help to get my baby back!
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ED was alienated for 13 years. I was in a fatal car accident and in a coma for 6 weeks. When finally awake, she visited me and I could speak. She on the 4th visit started screaming at me saying that I was a good mom but she needed a better one and her grandma was her true mom(that woman is passed). I recovered and have not heard from her in 14 months, her 29th birthday is in 4 days.
I've been estranged by my three adult children from my narcissistic ex-wife.
That's what narcs do. I totally understand!
Write your babies letters. Only full of love. Do not talk bad about their mother, no matter how much you want to.
Let them know that you are here for them and make sure they have all your contact info.
Do not make excuses. Only pour out your love.
I've done this. I hope it works for me as I hope it works for you too
My adult children were alienated from me the moment my ex husband walked out I heard nothing from my children, I e no idea what they were Pre conditioned to hear, no idea why they completely stopped loving me or wanting telationship I missed my daughters wedding possibly a grandchild being born. It’s been 5 years on a adult son and a adult daughter. In their late thirties. It is about brain control with my father a grandparent working together with my ex husband to control them.
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Joan I am in the same situation. My adult children cut me off after their narrisitic father left. Its been 8 years for me. I've missed weddings, birth of grandchildren and seeing my gbabies. Both my kids are fowl to me bringing up untrue things. I've even had a restraining order placed on me. When I read out I get a bloody stub back. My daughter told me not to contact her anymore. It's a mess. My kids do sound like their abusive dad when they did talk to me. Your not alone Joan. I'm at a loss.
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It hurts so much. My daughter has not spoken or contacted me since 2015. It has been 7 years.
THE ANSWER IS NO.
MY DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED 5/28/22. SHE HAS BEEN ENGAGED FOR A YEAR, BUT I WASNT TOLD. I AM NOT INVITED TO HER WEDDING...I FOUND OUT ABOUT HER
UPCOMING MARRIAGE LAST NIGHT.
I WONDER WHY GOD HAS ALLOWED THIS TO HAPPEN TO ME.
NOTHING CAN MAKE ME FEEL BETTER...NOTHING.
DEATH WOULD BE BETTER THAN THIS HELL I LIVE...😭
I understand
I get it. It's a takes a chunk out of your heart. Smashes your spirit. Living a nightmare.
I get it. I'm there with you.
My God I can't handle this anymore! My kids have been taught to hate me ... While their father is BRAINWASHING them and now my 3 teenage KIDS HATE ME ... WHEN THEIR DAD IS THE ONE WHO RUINED OUR FAMILY I HAVE GONE 10 months with out seeing my daughter now she is 19 she HATES she won't come see me and only calls me to ask for money! My 16 and 13 yr old sons won't take my calls AND MY 13 YR old son ain't text see or call me.. if I'm lucky my 16 yr old will send me a one sentence text. And then I won't hear from him for months at a time! And during all this their DAD IS MOVING MULTIPLE WOMEN IN AND OUT OF THE HOUSE! and their dad moved in a Convicted child ABUSER .. now gfriend #4 that he has moved in is OUR DAUGHTER'S FRIEND SHE IS only 2 yrs older then our daughter ITS SICK
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A lot depends on the relationship you had/have with the child before the alienation begins.
I raised mine for 7 yrs but now they don't remember our bond. They are teens now
I'm wondering how that comes into it? Are you saying because the alienator is jealous of the close bond so that's why they use the child to hurt you? It's a well known fact that majority of alienated children were very closely bonded to the parent before alienation hit. Are you parent blaming on the target instead of seeing the abuse inflicted on them with mental mind games by the alienator?
Not to the people that alienated him/her. Probably not.
Probably not. Only when the narcissist supply of money dry up. That when she'll discard them
she'll find more suckers to refill her purse with. There is no shortage of simps out there.
It’s been 35 yrs for me.
mine never did
Thanks
My son was stolen from me when he was nine by CPS and the serial adopters that had custody of me as a kid. I will find him when he turns 18 next year. How do I do my part to let him know that I'm here for him and that I fought for him and I cannot be taken from him again. How do i deal with all the stuff he's been through. I've saved some of his things from our life together will that help?
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@@sarahlove9830 I will consider anything. What would you suggest? I have till September 19 to figure out what Caleb would consider most meanful and most loving and least hurtful.
I have two son's.HELP ME!
Doubt it so you just move on and say whatever. If you were married to a narcissist you get used to losing people you just have to start a whole completely new life maybe even get new kids. Mourn the death of everything and move on sadly
They take everything that you love.
They ruin so many lives. They will hurt their own children
But God will still let them in heaven.
This is what I struggle with.
If you have 8K+ maybe.
Will my 40 year old daughter come back to me?
Hi Ann i think it depends on how old your child was when the alienation started.Um a lot of times when they are a toddler or younger chances are it may not happen. If the child was older like 9 years to 13 maybe there is hope in them wanting to contact you! I'm speaking from my own experience. Like Ryan who was alienated from his dad came back to his father! At first it can be the i miss you i love yous having some laughs yes ! It might be later that there emotions have those mixed feelings all over again and have confusions and could even bring up things about the past when it comes down to the parents. if you are in a whole new relationship your adult child may not be okay with those changes on top of everything else that was a change in there life. Sometimes those Adult kids go down paths get involved in drugs and drinking that they are not thinking about you or anyone but themselves. sometimes it could be they just went on with life.
Only God knows. Pray for her
She was 20 when we became alienated after I divorced her Father. He wanted to get back at me for leaving him, (even though he is now with a new partner, and has been for a long time0. She is now 40, and it has been off and on again several times. I got so sick of it I went "No Contact" and had not seen her for 6 months after she told me she hated me, and never wanted to see me again, and only loved her darling Daddy? So why turn up at my doorstep on my birthday, with a card and gift? It's like opening up a wound that is healing, and then you take the scab off.
P.S. I live on my own, and do not have a partner!
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Question: Will Your Alienated Child Come Back?
Answer: No.
There. I just saved you 6 minutes.
Everyday I add to my plan to ghost my narc mom. I laugh at whatever vain attempt to find me she'll do.
Woman's a goat with tech so ghosting will be as easy as breathing
If was your relationship status it's not everybody you're giving advice to people just based on your relationship another perspective of why it might have been that way
Yes when they need money 💰
Forgiveness is a con. Capitalist con.
Do yourself a favor and move on.
I will never forgive the first person I bore. He won’t even call me by my name, Mom. Wish I never had him. He was an oops baby, in more than one way. Ungrateful
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Probally because you a terrible ass person let along parent look at the shit you just posted.
I can see why you're kids don't want you
What about the narc father there might have been a reason why was an alienated what about the nerd father who walked away from his children because he wasn't getting it Supply and your beat up on the mother because his son is missing the father and they're desperate to have a relationship so they want to blame the mother instead of their fathers an a******
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