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- Emily Baldoni brings her compassion and power to a transparent conversation about her marriage to Justin, the importance of communication, and the invaluable-and too often invisible-work of mothers.
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Emily Baldoni: The Invisible Work of Women
How can we start having more honest conversations so that our relationships are connected, balanced, and ultimately, more fulfilling? Actress, entrepreneur, and co-founder of Amma, Emily Baldoni opens up about her marriage to Justin and how becoming parents revealed the stereotypical gender roles that are at play in their partnership. With compassion and urgency, Emily challenges us to see the invaluable and invisible work of mothers and invites us to communicate in a way that deepens our connection and creates space for growth.
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I personally would LOVE Emily to have her own podcast. Such an intelligent, compassionate soul, could listen to her talk about anything
YES YES YES!!
I agree 100%
YES!!!!
Dear Emily,
if you read this please seriously put it into consideration to start your own platform through which you share your wisdom and thoughts. This could be through a podcast, but it could also be a different channel that suits your lifestyle with the kids, like a blog, etc.
Your voice is important and healing for the world.
Omg yesss!!
Before Emily even finished her sentence about mother's being forgotten I immediately started crying because as a mother I knew where she was going and just a flood of emotions came at me.
My husband and I watched maybe 15 mins and had to pause this episode. We ended up having a deeeeeeep conversation around the first 15 mins of this that lasted about 1-2 hrs. 😌 If you want to learn more about your partner have them listen to this and then ask their opinion on the points they're making! 😉👍👌 Forever learning thank you 💕
I teared up when Emily started crying...
The whole conversation was so raw and real. This podcast seriously needs to be listened by all MEN on the earth.
Problematic behaviours in society aren't caused by men alone, women also need to learn and mature, so the world can function better.
@@cloud6501 that's what women lack it's called accountability
@@mgtowmonk7044 truth is, and i don't like being negative and salty, but you're right, i see these kinds of comments by women and society alot, as if the world is only composed of men, or as if women are infallible, and it's just men causing issues, they don't want to shoulder the weight of having to change things, of carrying a boulder and going uphill with it, and soceity tries to shield them and pawns issues to men.
Yeah, that part hit me too. I'm a man and I had the role reversal here and I felt exactly like Emily on this one. I'm not sure if my female partner has any idea what I went through either. So I think it's not a male thing necessarily, it's more a role thing. There are lots of stereotypical things that do run kind of true. But woman are 100 percent guilty of doing the same things when the roles are reversed. This really triggers me. Because I've done both. I worked and provided and felt all the despair that goes with needing to work and wanting to be with your family and then I chose to be with my family but got absolutely none of the support from my partner that I expected. I felt like I was being resented or that I didn't deserve to be in that position. I'm still very upset by the whole thing. Roles have reversed again but I'm just very disappointed in my partners effort in all this. Now I do all the work which I hate and all the house work and I don't even see my partner anymore. I almost feel like I'd do better on my own at this stage. I do honestly feel like my partner has inherited some patriarchal hangups. All of the expectations of roles and stereotypes and none of the support and recognition when these roles get reversed. I think the Most important thing is to interpret your relationship with this whole thing. Most men are trying their best.
As a woman- this has become my favorite podcast. I am continuing to learn so much about men and finding compassion and grace. I am in awe of badass women -like Liz and Emily- who have decided to take back space and to hold their ground and hold men in their circles accountable and to a higher standard. This is helping me do this in my own life with my husband and family. Thank you for the work that you guys are doing here!! 💖
If only more men knew that being able to feel safe with them is one of our top desires in relationships. ❤ I really love Emily, she is a woman's woman.
I am a 16 years old girl learning here more than in school and identifying with certain things I never think anybody will talk about. Thanks! To all four of you, admire all of you! 💜💜
WOW, I love how transparent, inspiring and relatable the Baldonis are! Mothers and their work are not only underrated but consciously and continuously discredited by society, and I'm so grateful to see such a powerful woman like Emily speak up for them - because usually the norm, like she said, is "no one wants to hear my story". So glad you invited her on the podcast! Love her voice, her wisdom and how she creates spaces for growth and understanding!
When Emily said to Justin that he was the first true safe space for her, I felt that so deeply. I literally saw myself in her (like a future version of myself). I have yet to find my own safe space but have faith I will be blessed with it when the timing is right. Thank you for the vulnerability in this podcast
I’m a 19 yr old female and probably not part of the target audience you had in mind but I truly love sitting and watching this podcast in its entirety. Every single person is so well spoken and has so much to offer which makes it so captivating.
This podcast is for everyone. Yes, we need to reach men first and foremost, but this is a human conversation and all people will benefit if things change. Thank you for being here and for your support.
@@WeAreManEnough _"Yes, we need to reach men first and foremost"_
Yeah & how's that working out for you mate? As far as I can tell, I'm literally the ONLY man here in the comments. Every single other comment under this video has been from a women & I think one teenage guy. The fact that you are (supposedly) so desperate to "reach men first" yet hilariously fail to do so time & time again & only seem to pander & attract a near exclusively female audience speaks volumes about your true motivations & outlook on men & masculinity.
Here's a tip: if you can't manage to attract a particular audience, in this case men, despite your best intentions, it's because you give off extremely anti-male vibes. If you had a shred of intellectual honesty, you'd get ACTUAL MEN on the show. Or just people who don't subscribe to your radical left, misandrist, feminist ideology. And by "real men", I don't mean "alfa chads". I mean, actual MEN, not women, who aren't part of your simp cult, and are willing to debate these ideas... again, women who disagree with your cult would be fine too, except it would be harder for women to speak on masculinity, just as it would be difficult for men to speak on/dictate femininity for obvious reasons.
I love what Emily said about canceling each other might feel good *in the moment* but the long term essentially only separates us even more as a whole from the end goal which is connection
I as a stay at home mum i deeply felt Emily's words when she started speaking about how mothers are not celebrated enough.
It would be lovely if she can have her own podcast we can learn more from her.
The biggest relationship for a man is with himself and his wife. The biggest relationship for a woman is with herself and her children. That was the most poignant undercurrent that I saw in this beautiful conversation. Thanks for the candid words instead of coating responses or questions!
We need more men to listen this podcast sharing it with all my guy friends
Thank you so much. We agree! We love our female fans, but we ultimately are making this show for men. If we don't reach them, then nothing will change.
@@WeAreManEnough yes my friends but...
we are not fans !!!!
we support with our heart !
it is not by accident that women support this movement.
we softening our hearts......
we are one.....you dont see it ?
I am seeing the big picture !!!!
@@InnerJoyCreation Fair point. I won't call you or anyone a fan again. :)
@@WeAreManEnough thank you
love and appreciation 💙
Love this group. Such heart stirring beautiful brutal conversations should be made a part of our every day conversations.
Conversations that give us insight into ourselves, into each other. Conversations that help us connect and not a distraction to avoid real connection 😊🙏.
Would love you guys to bring on Glennon Doyle and Brene Brown.
Thank you for your support and feedback. Glennon Doyle was our second episode. Check it out:
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Men should just do. We don't need your "help" because these are not solely our responsibilities. We need you to DO because you're an adult who should share these responsibilities with your partner.
I am so grateful you guys had Emily on this podcast, so many people needed to hear her story!! As she mentions how the system is set up to not let her express her story is so freaking true!! So many of us mother's are just expected to do and no one ever think's about our value. I also love how she state's the truth about self destruction in mother's. I do believe it is important and crucial to be able to have these conversations. I wish every relationship could view this and learn. 1st of all you both are lucky to have each other!!! Thank you Emily for being our voice, your a badass too!!! Thankful for this podcast
Thank YOU for joining us in these conversations. So glad you responded to it.
This podcast is amazing, I'm a 19-year-old guy and I get so inspired when I listen to you guys talk about these topics, these conversations are so important and it is definitely true that listening to the conversations you guys are having will genuinely make people better, a lot of guys will question themselves and that's amazing, its a step in the right direction, I can say that because I am on the path like Justin and Jamey and listening to this podcast has made me realize that I might have to work on some areas myself and hopefully see self-improvement in the near future. Thank you so much for the work you guys do.
Thank you so much for sharing and for being here. We really hope it has those effects. The fact that it reached you that way is enough.
Justin
you are so blessed to have Emily as your wife. shes a fountain of wisdom, her words are so deep and thoughtful
We agree! Stay tuned for more Emily soon.
Honestly….I have seen ALL of your podcasts and have even shared it amongst my male circles who are embracing growth. I was begging internally that you would interview Emily, and holy s&$! this episode was THE MOST uncomfortable, yet so deeply felt and powerful to have seen the grace of all you four enter extremely deep issues that women have kept quiet for generations. The part that broke me open in tears was in minute 58 onwards when Emily spoke her (our) truth with such realness, utmost transparency and power that I cried hard (and I’m not even a mother yet). She explained so eloquently how and why women mother leaders would thrive and so witness hearing both of your journeys into this Union unfold was miraculous and sooooo refreshing. There was something that just hit different with this podcast; having two very strong women and two very opinionated and humble men truly put so many topics on the table that is necessary to hear for both parties. Justin, thank you so so much for allowing Emily to have a voice and share what so many woman face on the daily and yet, to radically be able to see you two men as husbands to show up better for your wives. I have always supported your Man Enough journey back from the HBO mini series, to the TedTalk, but this was on such another elevated level.
WHOLEHEARTEDLY, thank you so so so much! I have advocated for the masculine to rise and show up better *but* as a collective from our female counterparts. Hearing this made me feel not so alone as a woman deeply honoring this path as an individual and collective 💗💗💗💗
Thank YOU so much. This means the world to us.
I'm gonna share this video with as many people as I possibly can.
I was/am a man on this journy... I went from a lvl 1 or 2 to a lvl 4 just by listening through all of this podcast..
Every PERSON man or woman should listen through this talk about The Invisible Work of Women and Mental Load..
I appreciate you, all 4 of you..
Thank you! We appreciate you too.
This dude Justin is really the 🐐. Man the inspiration he and cast are taking. The conversations are raw and really legit. My respect for him not just as a actor as grew tremendously more as a person. He’s one of my favorite people now. I hope listeners really gain knowledge and use these tools in everyday life. Rafael from Jane the 🐐 too😉💪🏽. What a podcast❤️👍🏾
My goodness......this podcast is God sent. I love the rawness, the authenticity, the vulnerability.....Everything about this podcast is super amazing
We appreciate you being here with us Anne!
I look forward to 7pm Monday nights here in New Zealand watching this podcast. Lovely to see Emily on here. I loved the discussion about mothers. Here in NZ we have a Prime Minister, Jacinda Adern, who was pregnant in Office, running parliament while breast feeding, her husband stays home looking after their daughter. She is reknown for her compassion as a leader, and also the way she has handled Covid here in our country.
Yes, so much respect for the excellent leadership of your PM . 💚
A great thing to share as a true brilliant example!
@@GretchenHewitt there's so much more she does that's subtle, like sharing photos on social media of her attempt at making her daughter's birthday cake, or her partner's attempt. Or sharing a photo of her mother having made her lunch to take to work for the day.
I just think imagine what the little girls of NZ know what's possible for their future.
Emily after listening to Justin's book via audiobook, my main thought was "I can't wait until Emily comes out with a book". Also first time listener of the podcast because you are the guest. We DO want to hear your story, I'm sorry to hear the sadness that you feel and perception people aren't interested. I guess I can't speak for people, but I'm very interested in your story as a woman and I bet many others are also xoxo
We agree!
Emily Baldoni...... Thank you so much. Your tears spoke so much about how I felt when I was raising my children when they were young kids. I got into an argument with my ex about how my staying home and raising the kids wasn't an important job. I saw RED. Need I say more??? Thank you Man Enough team for opening the eyes of what parenthood means and how hard it really is. This Podcast is vitally important 👏🏿 🙌🏾 👌🏾 👍🏾
Childhood moments it's so so so countable, it is a blessing to enjoy them, organize them, and thrive through them. “PRESSURE IS PRIVILEGE”
And raising our children is life joy, not a duty, it is all about perspective
Definitely the best episode ever! There were so many important topics on the table. My favourite part (hard to choose one) was when Liz explained how we overemphasize fathers. In that moment I had to admit to myself that I was part of the problem, since as a woman, I have been often surprised by men/fathers doing their bare minimum. That's because it is so rare to see fathers doing something that automatically we say "Wow, he pays so much attention on his kids! As he comes home from work he is totally focused on talking with the kids, playing with them ect". This part of the podcast really makes me wonder that I should encourage such good behaviour (as Jamey said, to go from 1 to 3) yet keeping in mind that overemphasize could be counterproductive. Finally, as someone on the comment has already suggested, all these deep conversations on the podcast and reflections on those topics as well as Justin's book should really get translated as much as possible. Here in Italy, this book could represent a real earthquake yet it is necessary to bring some positive change on a cultural basis.
I'm just blown away by all the things this married couple have achieved so far. It's refreshing and helps me think of ways I can not only get my independence back, but also how to work on my marriage. Even if it's one sided, even if my husband isn't responsive, I can honestly say this helped me personally. This podcast and the book... thanks so much. Also of course Jamey and Liz , the three of you have already taught me quite a bit. 🌸
omg emily needs to have her own podcast, or at least be in more episodes of Man Enough cause she's so wise and i just learned so much from her, i could listen to her for hours!!
Stunned!I love you guys! Giving more power and Energy to Emily,Liz, Jamey & Justin...As a Man to learn new stuff from women is a blessing and I am deeply grateful to both of the amazing women on this podcast today..Wish you a happy day
Baldoni’s for the win! Emily is such an honest and earnest leader in the motherhood sphere and I am so glad she came to speak about her experiences as an individual, a wife, a mother, and an entrepreneur. Great episode!
I don’t miss a single episode 😭💕
Can we also have shame expert Brene Brown on this podcast ?! Shame is a common feeling when trying to re-define masculinity I’d love to see y’all on the same table 😭😭😭
Working on it. Tell her to come on too. :)
Amazed! The vulnerability in this podcast is mind blowing. Love that you are opening up the conversation Justin. Also, Emily is amazing!!! So strong, speaking on behalf of mothers, speaking on behalf of women and expressing herself so eloquently. Even as a woman, hearing this conversations helps me learn about men, about what mothers go through. I am a single woman, no kids, and to me listening to this podcast is still very impactful.
Liz talking about dating has been my experience. I have been on dates with men where they don’t ask me any questions about me. Honestly I used that dynamic to decide this guy isn’t for me. I figured it was showing me his capacity to consider me as a human. I don’t want to teach my date, I’m not a teacher like that.
What's the best part of being with her? Growing. What's the most difficult part of being with her? Growing.
This and other parts really sound like what I had going with Emilia. Sadly, she lives no more.
I am officially an Emily Baldoni fan now! Please give her more of a platform to speak more often, if she wants it! Because this is really important and valuable to everyone. mothers voices need to be heard! And please really LISTEN to what she has shared, and actually take action in all the little and big ways, daily, in the every day, rather than JUST listening. I appreciate all of you so much. THanks all of you for making this podcast a thing and being willing to grow. Love x
This was EVERYTHING. YOUR LOVE IS SO INSPIRING. EMILY, YOU REPRESENT WHAT A WOMAN WHO HAS REACHED A HIGH POTENTIAL LOOKS LIKE (AND SOUNDS LIKE!) THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR GEMS ALONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND, THE WORLD NEEDS TO SEE YOUR EXAMPLE OF EVOLVED COUPLES SO BADLY, AND GOD BLESS YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. I'M LEARNING A LOT FROM YOU TWO (AND LIZ & JAMIE). LOTS OF LOVE.
Am so inspired again, thank you from the heart dear Emiliy, Liz, Jamey and Justin, for lifting us up with such an authentic, true, profound and compassionate conversation. This work you are doing is supporting me (and so many others) in my endless journey to heal and become a better version of myself, day after day. So good not to feel alone, to see that everywhere, more and more humans are sincerely working their way to deeply transform individually and collectively, daring to show and share their vulnerability. Am feeling very grateful, as your podcast is helping me to weave so many threads in my life into a more and more coherent, meaningful and beautiful tapestry. It offers a safe and inspiring space to do so. Thank you . Yasmin from Switzerland
Thank you so much for your beautiful words. We're glad that this conversation touched you and is helping you to grown in your own life. We're so happy you're on this journey with us.
What she explained at 31:26 is the absolute truth. The thing is, women are defined based on men and it is what presents an identity
crisis for many women, especially in the reproductive age. You know, we are asked so often when will you marry, your name, your child's name, and so on to the point where women become invisible. Thank You for putting it so well and I am sorry that you had to go through that experience.
OMG! First I admire how much love there’s between Emily and Justin. 💜✨
In my country which is Mexico the reality is different… here in Mexico or in latinamerica, I
Think first we need to make understand women that been a mother and a housewife it ain’t just doing the laundry, it’s taking care of your house been a safe space for you and your love once, the work of mom’s it’s so important and with so much love….
Second, we need to teach man not to accept as a fact that women cooks and do the laundry.
We need to teach on the new couples to be a team just as Justin and Emily are.💜✨
Thank you, Novi. There's so much work to do. Eugenio Derbez talks about these themes in Mexico in his episode, and we have some more Mexican and Latin American perspectives coming soon. There's still so much work to do here in the US and all over the world.
My favorite episode so far!!
One heart for each of you ❤️+❤️+❤️+❤️=
✌🏼 ☮️ This one should go all the way viral!! It would save a multitude of relationships. Thank you all for your honest and helpful comments that help make us all regardless of gender, look at ourselves and try to be better.
YES! This is what I have been waiting for. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Emilyyy for the win. 🙌🏼 I also L O V E the dynamic of the conversation with two women and two men. The ways in which women communicate differently are obvious like this, but that’s precisely why it is the perfect contrast for this topic. Love love love. Best episode yet.🔥
One of my favorite episodes, just because Liz's air time is longer than usual. She's sooo great.
Liz is truly amazing. The hosts show up more/less across episodes. It's pretty free-flowing.
Is the communication and transparency for me, so hooked in this phenomenal podcast. It gives me so much hope.. So grateful 🙏🏾
after all, this podcast here is giving something 'real' for us to hear and feel we never really get to, and emotionally just being there through all of your minds deeply gives me a space of a very different feeling and relief which I've wanted for quiet some time. it was different for me how it has really been listening to this being 19 years old and it wasn't about just only about the things you talked about, there was a lot more that goes into that commitment of putting everything out on the table and being able to find a place where things are real and to connect everything going from mind to heart.
this place has become somewhere I found emotional comfort so there was a lot more feeling that was attached with listening to this podcast that nothing else gives. what you guys do through this podcast is incredible and a lot more to all people who listen to it, lots of love to all of you
Ok a quick experience I had a couple of days ago. Husband and kids were in the car, and I had a huge cart of groceries. I took off my mask, loaded everything into the back of our SUV, took out a water and put it on top of the car, talking to my toddler and gave her her first cupcake, then cart was empty. It was so hot! Then out of nowhere this white haired, older, like in his 60's, man walked up to me asking if he could take my cart. He mumbled something about it but he was putting into the cart caddy area, whatever that's called. But it literally made me feel so good. It was so sweet to me. He noticed me. He came to make it easier for me. Chivalry. 💜
This is my favorite so far, Emily was so raw specially about motherhood. Being a women and a mother in tech industry, I cannot emphasize enough on YOU will be lucky to hire mothers, they bring so much value. And yes yes yes! partners need to have this conversation, and NO father cannot do bare minimum and get all the appreciation and mothers giving everything get judged on smallest things ever! Liz and Jamey thank you for bringing value to this podcast.
When reading Justin’s book, one of my primary thoughts was that I wanted to know Emily’s story! I loved the book but as a woman I often feel more connected to other women and relate to them more, so I was really interested in hearing Emily’s perspective. I would love to hear her talk about spirituality, sexuality, being a woman, being a mother, and being human!
We're sure to have Emily on again. Also, we encourage you to read Liz's book, For The Love of Men.
Justin IS very lucky to have Emily as his wife. Definitely. But also they are very lucky to have each other and work as a team. They are a Fortress of wellbeing for them, for their children and for humanity.
When someone says “women are just better at x” it’s not necessary helping the issue or really a compliment because the undertone of that for some guys could be an excuse to not get better at communicating (or enter whatever skill women are “just better at”) THEMSELVES bc why would would they if inherently “women are just better”
Yes! My thoughts exactly.. is like, women are better at this and that's that... No! You also have to learn and grow, I'm not going to stand on this side alone, just because it's easier for you to let things be the way they are
well it is technically true in certain scenarios. Obviously there are exceptions, but in general yes one could be better than the other at things and it is not offensive to say that.
@@dinuxplay8003 i hear that. it depends on the context. from your example it is not offensive, from another context it can be. Such as if it’s being used as an excuse to not get better at a skill that all humans can and should posses to have healthy communication especially in close relationships.
Such important opinions that we should think more. Everyone should listen this podcast. And I agreed with Emily the world need more women leaders!
So authentic, raw, vulnerable. This needed to be discussed, and it was done so beautifully. Thank you for delivering this important message to the masses. So much heart.
I absolutely love this podcast! Emily you are amazing soul ❤ Justin is the very lucky one to have you as a wife and mother of his children♡
You are amazing couple 💑
I adore Emily so much. She speaks her heart out. Loads of love and respect for her.❤️❤️
Love you guys so much!! Thank you for making this very important content. As a women I am learning and gaining a better understanding of the issues we face. I also take it as putting more tools in my belt so that I can better explain and listen to men and also women who only see it from their perspective and maybe reach a gap. As Jamie I keep just saying, thank you for expressing a sentiment so beautifully and just breaking it down so it can be taken in. LOVE IT!
Liz brought up some very common dating issues. Its so rare you get a guy who actually asks questions in the dating world
I have to add that the part around minute 30 is multiplied when your kids have special needs. We become unpaid therapists, teachers, caretakers, nurses, and house managers / secretaries on top of what was expected of us with neurotypical children.
The thing that bothers me about the word 'help' in this kind of conversations is like it implies that housework and/or childcare is the mother's job and the father's just 'helping' when they are actually partners
Emily! You’re so smart and strong and I love how you talk♥️ Would love to hear more of your thoughts. When you spoke about safety around men and feeling safe with Justin. I’m working on communicating to my husband whom I love, that unfortunately I don’t always feel safe with him. Only if he became more vulnerable and less afraid to “lose” and actually listened, that would no longer be an issue.
For you both as a couple, Emily and Justin, i would love to hear the two of you speak on cultural differences. I’m a Russian-speaking Estonian and I’m married to a South African. I would love to hear how the two of you deal with any miscommunication that happens due to Emily being from Sweden and Justin being American. Thank you all in advance!
Thank you for sharing your experience! We'll definitely have to do another Emily episode, cause there's so much to talk about. We'll definitely take your thoughts into consideration. Perhaps, he might be willing to listen to an episode that might open up these conversations for the both of you? We appreciate you being here with us.
@@WeAreManEnough I have shared this episode with him, hoping he will eventually take the time to watch/listen. Watching this episode felt therapeutic, watching how vulnerably you men reacted to everything said by Emily and Liz brought me peace of mind. A fan of all of you and the work you’re doing. Thank you so much for your response, I feel seen and heard ♥️ I produce music and write songs about the complexity of heterosexual relationships, and would also love to see a you feature artists who do the same, would be so inspiring too. Keep up the truly good work you’re all doing.
@@xevenxmusic Love that. Thank you!
Wuoh! This episode was raw. I dont have a partner, but i can extrapolate a lot of this things with the experience that i have living with my parents. I love them, they are the best parents in the world, but sometimes, i dont show my love in a way that they can feel it. I can give them kisses, hugs, tell them that i love them (i really love them), but then, i dont clean the kitchen, or maybe i dont do the laundry... This kind if actions are also love gestures, respect gestures nd even independence, mature gestures.
This episode reminds me that i have to balance the love words that i tell to my parents with my actions. Respect my home, make the place comfortable for everybody its an amazing sign of love and respect. Not always letting others to take the iniative and do the fucking job. Cleaning, do the laundry, say love words... All this is an integral part of loving your community (and also loving yourself because you learn to be more independent and learn to value the different tedious jobs because you have 'suffer' it, its learning respect and honoring other).
Thank you for remind me that! Probably i will fail a lot of times, i will be lazy, i will be stupid, but i always try to find the good way to respecting my family and do the work. Thank you emily for your words! I really appreciate more the work that my mother and my fatherdid (and still doing) for me. Thank all of you for make this content accessible with subtitles and give me perspective. I will try my best, i hope my actions speaks louder than my words.
Love to all! Have a good day! Thank you!
WE NEED YOU😭❤️ oh my yes so triggered right now for myself and for men and for women and people as a whole. THANK YOU GUYS FOR ALL IT TOOK TO GET THESE CONVERSATIONS GOING.
I'm a 19 y/o girl experiencing these podcasts week after week. And although we're differentiated by nationalities, somethings truly need to addressed, regardless. And this podcast is purely that! Watching this and hoping my soulmate somewhere out there is learning from this too. Bec honestly, THIS is so pure. this podcast was plain window into Emily's charcter and what a beautiful soul she is and OH YES, JUSTIN IS SO LUCKY TO HAVE YOU!!!!! The way Justin owns up and some really really compelling things that Liz says just makes my heart scream! You guys have no clue what you're creating!!!!! It's terrific! Also "...mhmm" we're listening
Thank you for this - Justin and Emily! For sharing real people and real lives and not just inst worthy stories.
I have been watching since the first episode and have learned so much, reflected , and today my partner and I were talking about our own gender roles etc and it sparked a great conversation ! I love this podcast thank you to all of you for doing this ! ❤️
OMG, Emily, you made understand my saying when I was a young mother with hubby and said, sometimes there is nothing lonelier than being in the same room with someone you love. It is that disconnect that caused that lonely feeling.
Enlightening old soul that's what it is to me as a 19 year old girl . So deep deep I am so happy to start that journey early. Lots of love. You guys are helping me and many other . Believing that these words will be a true treasure in my heart for future✨❤❤sharing this maximum to reach this to all men out..... Understand the real FREEDOM
Also: I think we def need "Do the F'n Laundry" t-shirts from a ME Red Bubble shop or something. :)
I think we also need to better unpack how certain household chores are gendered
@@michaellayer7641 Agreed. Just the gendering of so many things. The Alok episode in general made me start to question so much about fashion, chores, etc.
this is such an important conversation to have and you guys do it from a place of empathy, compassion, support and love and thats so beautiful thank you so much
As a mama i felt so seen and heard and validated by Emily's sharing..which like she said, is a hard thing to come by in motherhood. And we don't only have to deal with feeling so unseen but then also deal with feelings of resentment and jealousy..this was a personal struggle for me because i then felt shame and guilt for feeling resentful and jealous ...so to hear Emily saying that she dealt with that as well was such a relief because i'm not alone.
This was such a great and necessary episode.
This really validated a lot of the experiences I've had as a hard working women learning how to navigate society. I've had a lot of trouble trying to confide in my male friends about these experiences and having my perspective shut down. Really grateful to have heard this discussed and to not feel like I'm crazy for wanting to be treated better or at least acknowledged for the efforts I make.
Well said!
This podcast episode is SO helpful ~ especially the vulnerability for both Emily & Justin which gifted me hugely. I learned a lot and learned about ways I still help keep patriarchy intact by my own biases. Ugh. So thank you for showing me where I still need to grow & be responsible. Specifically I need to support women & women with children. And support companies & employers to seek out & employ women with children. I’ve had biases “against” women with children being hired because it feels like there will be more complications. The “gifts” of the challenges I see will bring helpful growth & richness to companies & businesses. Emily thank you for helping me listen & make changes. Definitely I have more & more to learn. One thing I felt like was SO important to hear is for men not to “ask” what to do in the home but to just come in and do stuff…like chores. And if they don’t know what to do, look, learn, bumble & go for it anyway. (I want to know how doing the laundry is going too! 👍🏼)
I cannot wait to get your book and honestly just binge on it! Been waiting a long time and I'mna keep waiting. 😊Your wife??????? 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿She is everything I see for myself, how I'd like to be, how I'd like to communicate and it is so easy to see how the two of you are together. Emily Baldoni, you are amazing!!!! Thank you for who you are, thank you for paving the way, thank you for leading me to truths I've always had somewhere at the back of my mind but never quite knew how to being them to light! Thank you!
Oh my gosh!!! This episode is EVERYTHING. Revelatory, healing, overwhelming. BEAUTIFUL 💜 THANK YOU 💖
כ"כ יפה ומרגש לשמוע אנשים מפתחים מודעות וחשיבה מעמיקה.
תודה על ההשראה.
תודה רבה לך! אנו אסירי תודה שאתה כאן איתנו.
Love this, have watched twice now, and am beginning to share with friends. Quick note: the TEDtalk mentioned by Justin around 56:08 is by Michael Kimmel (not Kimball, as the CC transcription reads; searching for that name online didn't work well... just watched that and recommend it highly also). So great to hear these four tremendous people in conversation with one another, particularly Emily and Justin as a married couple being open and v honest about what works well and what doesn't in their marriage. The world needs and benefits so much from this type of honesty; immense gratitude to them. Anyone interested in the topic of honesty in marriage might also enjoy looking up the Gottmans (Julie and John, another couple; both are psychologists, authors, and relationship experts) on the 'Metaphysical Milkshake' podcast, co-hosted by Rainn Wilson and Reza Aslan. Gratitude to all involved in this podcast-!
Thank you so much. Glad this one resonated with you. We love the Gottmans, and of course Rainna and Reza, as well.
I'm really impressed, deeply touched by the truth you are all able to be and share. The world is a better place with all of you! Thank you!
Both male hosts are great listeners.
This really made me think about the work my mother did for us as a kid. It seems like most families don't raise kids to understand and value the work of keep a household running. As a kid I had no idea how many different chores my mom did to keep things going each week so I never valued her for it and I never thanked her for it. We can't appreciate what we don't see. Girls and boys need to be involved in housework so they grow up understanding that it is real work and part of normal life.
I completely agree with what Liz Plank said !! On dates, men don't often show interest to you. It is bothering when you have to do the entire conversation. At the end of the date I feel like I know all of his life and he knows nothing about me.
Bless u for these convos because i cry every time as the little boy in me hurts and heals. and, the deflection// comments like, "I'm an idiot," "I'm not doing enough. she does more," "without u, i'd be lost," "thank u for not giving up on me," "the wonderful question, the amazing so-and-so said," make me sad, angry, and hurt. i hear the humility and reverence for women, yet the self-deprecation in them contributes to setting the bar low for men and makes people feel like they aren't enough no matter what they do. celebrate ur greatness, regardless if it's the bare minimum, give credit to who taught u and uplift them, then move on. frequently this humility hurts u more than it uplifts women. and, from white people especially, it's used to mask our need for approval, and becomes a way to demand more approval without seeming like we want it-- "I am the humblest because I rag on myself," isn't healthy, especially for young men to hear. u are great, own that shit.
Wow Emily is so inspiring. I really feel a certain way after listening to this. I had to check myself, at first I jumped to thinking wow Emily is a little harsh. I almost instantly realised that is the internal sexism coming to the surface. Emily is a person, a human, with feelings and needs to express, we just don't give women the space to do that. Woman aren't objects, we aren't here to be silent smiling angels. Thank you for opening my eyes some more.❤ I love being challenged.
Damnnn... wow ... one of the best podcasts I've ever listen to... all those point about women better at communicating 100% true 💯... hearing everything that is being said in this podcast was so refreshing... kudos to all 4 of you... sending love & light💕
Thank you! Glad you're here with us.
I'm really enjoying this podcast today this is something that many people don't talk about this 😁🙂😊🤗👍
Just discovered this podcast and wow this episode was POWERFUL!! This is the type of content we need, more of this. Finally, Emily needs her own podcast, she is someone who we can learn a LOT from!!!
I honestly want to hear from Emily all the time -
Just talk to me Em. About anything. I feel like I want her as a friend. I don't know anyone like her.
I look forward to this podcast every Monday, I love you guys!
This was just so wholesome I wish this conversation was heard by just everyone ....
this is like the 3rd time I hear this episode, I just love Emily so much, Justin you are so lucky, I would love her to just be my friend
This episode just changed my life. I cried so much during this Podcast. Thank you so much ❤️
Whew, Emily is speaking everything I'm feeling about being a stay at home mom, but I've always felt it was unacceptable to say. Moms working their butts off at home are so underappreciated and often forgotten.
Sending you love. The world is built and upheld by amazing women like you.
We can live by being charitable. We can ask. We can suggest.
I love the book and also emilys and Justins honesty and vulnerability. Älskar hur öppna de är med varandra och visar kärlek passionerat till skillnad hur svenskar gör det.
Emily needs a PODCAST!!!!! ASAP!!!!
We agree! She's wonderful.
Wow I feel so seen and connected to what Emily had to say about being a stay at home parent. I would really love to see or hear you all talk about the perspective of men in that role and how it affects masculinity and gender roles.
We're so happy to hear that! If you haven't listened to our episodes with our incredible guests Kier Gaines and Shaka Senghor, they talk very openly about their journey as fathers and gender roles. Thanks for joining the conversation!
Even though this podcast is "man Enough" as a woman i am learning SOOOOOOOOO MUCH from YOU ALL! from the cohost to the guest. and in learning myself over and can share it with my partner in a more deeper intellectual way. so i would like to say THANK YOU! THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Again I find myself going back and watching again. So grateful! Emily 41:00. Whew! This helps me take my nickname for myself "Stands with a fist" (Dances With Wolves) and start to let the fist come down.
Emily is one dreamy human ❤️
Got to this podcast via first watching their marriage proposal. Firstly, I work in conservation and specifically behavioural biology (elephants to be exact). My immediate thoughts defaulted to a baseline question: Emily is from Sweden. That is her baseline learning. Coming into the US that is huge and not mentioned once. I struggle to articulate this dynamic because if you have never experienced coming from outside american, into american, then you will not get what I am trying to say. I have the opportunity to work with post grad students from all over the world, some from the states and some from Sweden, and I am always gobsmacked at the difference in mindset. Emily, as a behavioural biologist, I believe it is the Swedish in you that is bringing these questions to the table. And Emily, After watching your CZcams videos I tried to search for you. I had to go to wiki to search your maiden name and learned that you a Baldoni and very little about you. This is a result of search algorythms simply feeding into what you guys have actually discussed for so long.
Working with elephants you will be killed very quickly if you assume, if you do not concentrate and do not read their messages. You learn to listen. But then Justin, you have been amazing to break through the American crust that you have all discussed so extensivly.
Your and Emily's story has helped me , simply because before hearing you guys talk, I was too scared to say what I thought. Well done guys
Thank you for your feedback. Emily does discuss coming from Sweden, the difference in approaches for dating/relationships/child-rearing/household chores in the episode. She also discusses her maiden name. Perhaps you hadn't reached those parts when you posted this comment. Thank you so much for being here and we're so happy to hear it has helped you.
Emily is awesome!!!! She speaks so much truth.