Coming out publicly as bisexual: my pros and cons (more pros so far!)
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- Since it's been about three months and some change since I've come out publicly, I thought I'd share a video about how it's going.
Of course, coming out is such a personal choice, and my situation is going to be different from yours. But so far, there are more pros than cons!
Let me know in the comments if you have your own coming out story. Let's support and lift each other up! xoxo
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Also, yes: when I was closeted, I felt like I was constantly obsessing about my sexuality. Once I was out, any thoughts about my sexuality faded comfortably to the background. Now I just get to be me!
It’s such a relief! I’m so happy for you!!!!
I'm just like you! I'm turning 30 in June, but only "came out" out to myself a few years ago, my husband a year and a half ago, and "publicly" almost a year ago! Being bi and in a committed, straight-passing relationship is its own unique experience (one often misunderstood and underrepresented) and so voices like yours are so important! Thanks for reppin' the specific millennial/LGBT+ niche we fall into! Good to see another friendly face! ☺
Well hello!!! My birthday is in June too! Haha. Thank you for commenting and watching. It is such a specific space but there are so many of us! Great meeting you 😊😊
I'm 31 and didn't "come out" until I was 30. Everyone I told was like "Yeah... I know." I just never labeled it before.
I think it's so important for people who "pass" and for bis in monogamous relationships to be visible. It helps dismantle misconceptions and stereotypes. I enjoy your videos! Thank you!
That really means a lot! Thank you for saying so, and thank you for watching Amanda 💜💜💜
Thank you so so much for the videos, I came out as Transgender MtF about 2 months ago and this month is 6 months on HRT pills. I feel free, 100% me and I feel so amazing....22 years of suffering and forcing myself to conform and be as others wanted me to is 100% over. Like you I am Bisexual as well but for right now I'm only dating women and I think I may have found my soul mate....but I will have to see and take it slow. I just wanted to thank you for the wonderful videos, they reminded me to be me and to stop the self hate!
I’m so happy for you!!!! Congratulations!!! Thank you for watching and sharing your story. I am so glad you are feeling 100% you - what a wonderful feeling!!!! Wishing you all the best in this relationship ❤️❤️ with yourself and your potential soulmate 😉
I finally came out publicly on Easter. I have known I was bisexual since I was 17 years old and my husband knew before we got married. It's been kind of a crazy journey getting to this point. Thank you for putting into words why it feels so weird when people haven't said something. I don't want to assume that they're thinking poorly of me, but it's kind of hard not to when I have gotten such loving and positive feedback from other people in my life.
Thank you for sharing! Yes - it is so weird. And it’s also weird when they say too much so it’s a hard balance! Hopefully they’re just not sure how to address it? But most importantly you know who you are!! 💜💜
I have a question, when u came out to ur husband did u guys talk immediately about opening up the relationship? Did he let you explore?
@@KarasmaticTV I actually got a pretty serious crush on a coworker about 4 years into being married and we talked at that point. He was totally supportive of me going for it. Unfortunately the coworker quit shortly after and I didn't get to ask him out. But after that we were even more open about crushes and attraction and eventually learned about polyamory. The rest has been a crazy amazing exploration and I'm glad I have him by my side through all of it.
@@dez6529 that’s nice I’m very happy for you , my situation is very different then. I am bi curious but haven’t kissed a girl since like 11 years old. I came out to my boyfriend straight male partner of 4 years and he either wants an open relationship or none. He won’t even let me explore being with a girl once unless he gets to explore too with me. Which is not him exploring he’s only been with girls and wants to be with just girls. I didn’t offer or want an open relationship or at least not now I’m too insecure for that. I don’t know what to do or how to get him to respect my sexuality without thinking I’m gonna leave him for a woman if I realize I like women more. It hurts
@@KarasmaticTV oh gosh. That's hard. My biggest concern is that it seems like your partner is fetishizing bisexuality and no loner seeing you and any prospective future partners as people with feelings, he's seeing a three some. I can't tell you how to handle this, but reminding him that you're into monogamy seems like a good start. Hugs!
I finally came out to my wife as bi two days ago and your videos helped immensely during the lead up. Thank you so much!
It feels so strange and freeing to be out, and my wife has been so supportive.
Congratulations Michael!!!! That’s so huge, and I’m so happy for you. I’m happy for you and your wife because now your wife also gets to know you on a deeper level. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful news! 🥰💗💜💙💫
100% relatable.
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I really felt a few of the cons lol. I’ve had a lot of different feelings about being bi and keeping them straight is hard so it’s great to see that you also know what it’s like.
Yeah - the cons were few but mighty. ha! Thanks for watching
Encouraging as always Jennica! So glad the pros outweigh the cons, it’s hopeful! ❤️
I’m glad too Michelle! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️❤️❤️ miss you!!!
Hi! I just found your channel a couple days ago and I just wanna say that you’re amazing! 😊
Well gosh I’m blushing!! Thank you so much! If you ever want specific content let me know!
love your honesty as always.
love YOU!!!
Oh my gosh, I finally came out to my Dad today as bi and he accepted me; I am so happy!!!!!😭😭💖💗💜💙 I gave him a hug immediately after and told him he's the most amazing Dad ever.🥰 Just wanted to share that; this is the biggest, greatest moment of my life!!🥺
I am so so so happy for you!!!!! Thank you for sharing! Hurray for your amazing dad!!!
“Your whole magical self” makes me so happy lol
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Just found your channel jennica your beautiful awesome video you seem like a genuine friendly love you the way you are I hate people that say you can't be bisexual because your married to a cis gender straight male you are who you are and that's awesome
Thank you so much, Liam!!
I know you may have busy things going on in your life. I have just now literally yesterday just put full awareness on my sexuality (bisexual) and I am 28. Although I had straight up clear signs as a kid and a very strong tomboy phase(not a phase because it’s still a part of my identity and I feel comfortable that way) but I would push those things way beneath me to where I was thinking they were just happenstances especially when it came to certain crushes of females that I came across. However I do lean more towards men but I still have a thing for women emotionally though(as what I know so far; still discovering). I do love your other vids that’s about loving yourself more and I wish you are able to do more motivating vids for that BUT I understand life has its loops and one must attend to what is most important in their life first. So at least I have a therapist I can share this with though lol.
I appreciate this so much. I wish I could be making more videos like that, too. Maybe one day I will again. Life definitely does have its loops and I'm hoping to share what's been going on with me on this platform when I feel ready
i just realized i’m bi after years of denying it i always lied to my family and friends it was so plain and obvious i would dress more tomboy and i never had a boyfriend when people would tell me “do you like girls “ i would say i’m straight.
i’ve been in the closet for years basically idk when i will tell my family they are so religious … thankyou for sharing ❤
@@lovelyrooot thank you for sharing too 💗
My wife and I love your videos! We just came out to each other after 15 years together and 11 years married! I was afraid to come out, so I did, but not my wife. She is my rock!!!!
i love that so much!! thank you for watching 🧡🧡
That closing advice about not coming out publicly until you're ready is really important.
I've been out in private (family and close friends) pretty much since I've known at age 20 but am only out publicly at age 36. While I wouldn't recommend waiting that long to anyone, it's important to let people know there's no shame in being closeted if you don't feel safe coming out and that it's also possible to come out to an increasing number of people you feel safe around to increase your comfort level when you feel you're not quite ready but getting there.
Also, nice channel and a friendly comment section :) These videos really are helpful in coming to terms with myself.
Thank you for saying so! I agree - it is really important that people don’t feel pressured to come out to anyone until they’re ready. I definitely told people as I felt comfortable, and that made all the difference in helping me accept myself as well. I appreciate you underscoring that based on your experience. And yes - I’m so grateful for the kindness and love in the comment sections. It makes me have more hope for humanity than I do just reading the news!
Currently preparing to come out as Bi @ 43. Extremely disappointed that it seems the GLBT community pretty much wants nothing to do with us, and Straight people don’t understand. 😔
I think it's getting better in some circles, but I am so sorry that's been your experience!!! I hope you can find a group of people who are there for you and do get it, so you can feel valid in your spaces. Also congratulations!!! Happy Pride.
100% agree
Hah yeah I think we are so starved for this kind of representation that I'm not surprised that we flock to those vids. 😆 I hope your other content gets more attention!
Thank you, Michelle
Hello jennica, i would have thought a canny few of your friends you have told would be happy to try it, am i wrong?
I'm not sure what you mean exactly. I don't want to assume.
What i mean is some of your friends might be hiding behind their own sexuality, a awful lot of people are to frightned to open up and come out.
@@stepuggmurr1350 i see what you mean - thank you for clarifying. maybe! i hope anyone who is struggling with it does feel more comfortable opening up to me about it now. i definitely had some people reach out after my first video. anytime i can help someone feel more comfortable in their skin, it’s a win.
No problem jennica. I've been bi since i was about 11 yrs old, and im 58 now and still have'nt come out.😀
@@stepuggmurr1350 always in your own time i say!
To my family I'm not in the closet per say, I'll tell most of them if any asks, it just isn't relevant to 90 percent of the time. I'm pretty sure everyone already knows.
Edit: it's your fault I fell into a bi-hole on CZcams.
i take fault proudly 😆
omg you look like Shane from The L Word in the thumbnail
STAHHHHPPPPP. What?!? 😭 best compliment ever lol.