Why You Procrastinate - and How to Stop it for Good | Elyssa Smith | TEDxBabsonCollege

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  • čas přidán 1. 05. 2024
  • NOTE FROM TED: Please do not look to this talk for mental health advice. This talk only represents the speaker's personal views and understanding of trauma, procrastination, and the brain. We've flagged this talk because it falls outside the content guidelines TED gives TEDx organizers. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/t...
    Elyssa dives deeper into the factors that trap individuals from unlocking their full potential and guides you on the path to self-reflection and becoming a better version of yourself. Elyssa Smith is a trauma-informed life strategist who specializes in empowering women to overcome self-sabotage and trauma, enabling them to break free from procrastination, people-pleasing, and overwhelm. Her expertise lies in reprogramming the effects of trauma, unlocking increased productivity and inner calm. Her innovative self-compassionate time management model has been featured by Forbes Magazine, Thrive Global, and Fox59 Morning News. Elyssa has also shared her knowledge with audiences worldwide through speaking engagements. When not working, she enjoys spending time with her family on their Indiana farm, where she keeps up with her energetic nine-year-old and her furry loyal small-but-mighty companion. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 97

  • @CoachKiki-qs5en
    @CoachKiki-qs5en Před měsícem +13

    The regulating exercise was my aha moment. I started doing this exercise and my to-do list is becoming my ta-dah list. I'm grateful.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      I'm so so happy you found the exercise helpful! YAY for a ta-dah list! So great! Thanks for watching!

  • @MariaAdeleRosenfeld
    @MariaAdeleRosenfeld Před měsícem +9

    I love how the speaker breaks down this information to make it accessible and practical to apply to my daily life! So many good takeaways!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm so glad you found it helpful and practical! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @Natalie-Abbott
    @Natalie-Abbott Před měsícem +8

    NOTES TAKEN 📝Sharing this to all of my friends - we all need to watch this!

  • @trueblue8179
    @trueblue8179 Před měsícem +6

    This beautiful person is amazing! Her message will change the world! 💜

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      This is so kind! Thank you so much for watching - I hope you found it helpful!

  • @shizahmad
    @shizahmad Před 25 dny +2

    Love this...this actually made me realize a lot of things about my procrastination. I think I know what to do to help myself now.

  • @rebeccalomax3398
    @rebeccalomax3398 Před měsícem +9

    Wow! What a groundbreaking subject. I’m excited to see more on this topic especially as scientists continue to uncover the capabilities of the brain.The possibilities are endless.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      The brain is amazing! Thank you so much for watching! I hope it was helpful!

  • @roxanneking-clark270
    @roxanneking-clark270 Před měsícem +6

    The world needs more of Elyssa 💓💓

  • @CoachKiki-qs5en
    @CoachKiki-qs5en Před měsícem +4

    Elyssa is phenomenal. I can truly relate with procrastinating. It was a coping mechanism that I’ve embraced. Thank you Elyssa for this most helpful and inspiring talk.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +3

      So many people just call themselves "procrastinators" and feel ashamed...but we can regulate ourselves and let go of it!

  • @hijlkemarketing
    @hijlkemarketing Před měsícem +10

    This is amazing. Imagine a world of people who don't procrastinate?! How much better the world would be because of it.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      Isn't that an amazing thing to think about? Such an inspiration to work for! Thank you for watching!

  • @melissagamarra7611
    @melissagamarra7611 Před měsícem +5

    So interesting! Crazy to think that just a few easy steps can help rewire how I’m thinking and feeling.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm glad you found it interesting! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @UClyKsv3Bfcvx5VUrQraQlyw
    @UClyKsv3Bfcvx5VUrQraQlyw Před měsícem +4

    What an informative talk and method to conquer the monster of procrastination. I can relate.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @treena3651
    @treena3651 Před měsícem +4

    I can totally relate, thank you for breaking down the why and telling us how to begin overcoming old procrastination patterns. This talk is gold 🙌

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      You are so welcome ! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @bradleejaymz
    @bradleejaymz Před měsícem +7

    I’m definitely going to use this advice. I find myself struggling to start working on a very large project at work. I can definitely see the correlation between procrastination and a related trauma of mine.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm so glad you found this helpful! It helps so much to know that it could be related to something prior. Thank you so much for watching!

  • @hanta4682
    @hanta4682 Před měsícem +3

    Love how she influences others
    This is amazing definitely apply all those rules
    Thank you

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      You are so welcome! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @morganabbott1541
    @morganabbott1541 Před měsícem +3

    Absolutely inspirational! We need more of this content!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      Thank you so much! I'm so glad you found it inspiring - thank you for watching!

  • @chatterboxbrands6270
    @chatterboxbrands6270 Před měsícem +3

    This talk has been so impactful and makes so much sense. It is really making do a deep dive on this internally.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm so glad you have found it helpful! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren
    @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren Před měsícem +4

    Clear explanation. Effective options for me to change my ways. An opportunity to make such great positive changes in my life. Thank you Elyssa!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      You are so welcome! I'm so excited to see how it goes for you! Thanks for watching!

  • @sarahferguson6479
    @sarahferguson6479 Před měsícem +4

    Great information! I appreciate these obtainable steps toward stopping procrastination. I especially liked at about 12 minutes in the vagus nerve calming exercise. What a sense of calmness and clarity I felt after a short 1 minute exercise.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      I'm so glad you found this helpful! The vagus nerve exercise is so powerful. Thank you so much for watching!

  • @inacove9808
    @inacove9808 Před měsícem +2

    I am so proud of you. You are good enough. You are SO much. You are just perfect. THANK YOU for this.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      THank you soooo much Ina! I literally wouldn't be here without you!

  • @JK-pt3pt
    @JK-pt3pt Před 29 dny +15

    There are thousands of videos to teach you how to stop procrastination yet we wont stop. Something is seriously wrong here. If you procrastinate, that means you are running away from something you just dont want to do. Its not stress purely. Say if you wanted to be a soccer player and your parents forced you into college of engineering. You cant be a good engineer. you will always procrastinate. No video will help you stop procrastinating and start studying maths that you hate in the gut. The only way is to get your mind and body into doing what you actually want to do.

    • @nemeth.bernadett
      @nemeth.bernadett Před 6 dny

      True! But I'm in a situation, where in order to do what I really want, I have to do some stuff I don't want. 😅 Now what?

    • @JK-pt3pt
      @JK-pt3pt Před 6 dny

      @@nemeth.bernadett that simply means U don't "really want". Other wise U won't be making complaint. Once U set in Ur mind U "really want" something, there is no stuff left "U don't want". Real answers are in subconscious. That "really want" part comes from conscious. Ur subconscious actually is not up for it that's why U feel so. Keep talking sweetheart🙂

    • @Coach_MarcyBob
      @Coach_MarcyBob Před 3 dny

      This was an entire paragraph of “victimization”

    • @JK-pt3pt
      @JK-pt3pt Před 2 dny

      @@Coach_MarcyBob for me it's an honour such a beautiful lady took time out to read my woe.

  • @notvanilladigitals2829
    @notvanilladigitals2829 Před měsícem +2

    This makes so much sense, really logical! Few easy steps I will now be applying to my life every day - Thank-you Elyssa!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      You are so welcome! I hope you find it all useful! Thank you for watching!

  • @roxanneking-clark270
    @roxanneking-clark270 Před měsícem +2

    Such an inspiring talk!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      Thank you so much! And thank you for watching!

  • @TaniaKinsey
    @TaniaKinsey Před měsícem +2

    This resonates with me a lot. The vagus nerve exercise is such a quick, but effective, calming activity too. X

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      Isn't it such a nice quick reset? I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching!

  • @lcplaunt8341
    @lcplaunt8341 Před měsícem +3

    I watched this presentation at the TedX event. I'm glad it's on CZcams now so I could watch it again, but also so I can share it with friends.If you watched this because I shared it with you, reply and let me know what you think.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      Thank you so much for watching live and on replay! I hope you found it helpful!

  • @itsgillean
    @itsgillean Před měsícem +1

    Such an important message! Thank you for sharing Elyssa!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      You are so welcome! Thank you so much for your comment and for watching!!

  • @kristyanderson5475
    @kristyanderson5475 Před měsícem +1

    I have loved getting to hear from Elyssa about this topic and I'm so excited that she has a Ted talk now that's easy to share! That last line gets me, so powerful!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      AH thank you so much for watching, Kristy!

  • @ecjdferguson
    @ecjdferguson Před měsícem +2

    Excellent advice on how to calm the nervous system in order to help stop procrastination for good.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      Thank you so much for watching! I hope you found it useful!

  • @sarahcooper3476
    @sarahcooper3476 Před měsícem +3

    This is so good!!!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      Thank you! And thank you so much for watching!

  • @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren
    @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren Před měsícem +1

    A topic that I thought was impossible to understand, I now understand AND know what to do about it. Thank you Elyssa!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I'm so glad this was helpful! You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!

  • @lisaferguson7223
    @lisaferguson7223 Před měsícem +1

    A piece of brilliance to inform the way we experience our one day at a time. Thank you Elyssa!

  • @UnemployMan396-xd7ov
    @UnemployMan396-xd7ov Před 28 dny +1

    I will definitely use the calming technique here, I have always speculated but am not sure if procrastination is the symptom of a bigger problem in life.

  • @RachelJaneBoleyn
    @RachelJaneBoleyn Před měsícem +1

    What an amazing talk, thank you Elyssa!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +2

      AH thank you so much, lovely! Thanks for watching!

  • @roxanneking-clark270
    @roxanneking-clark270 Před měsícem +1

    Smashed this Elyssa! 👏🏽👏🏽

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem

      Ah thank you, friend! Thanks so much for watching!

  • @grantwilliams-qn4jg
    @grantwilliams-qn4jg Před měsícem +1

    This is great very insightful thanks

  • @kateycooper23
    @kateycooper23 Před měsícem +1

    Wow what a powerful message with real life practical tools to use to get us started! I wish everyone could see this video- this is awesome stuff! I need to hear more from her!!!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      Thank you so much! I'm so glad you found it helpful. Thank you for your support and for watching!

  • @creativecostumeacademy
    @creativecostumeacademy Před měsícem +4

    This is so eye opening! Thank you so much for sharing this! It makes so much sense and is such a logical perspective. The more tools we have the better we can all be.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      You are so welcome! Thank you so much for watching - I hope you find it useful!

  • @glorywipfli781
    @glorywipfli781 Před měsícem +1

    This is really helpful info. Thank you.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      You are so welcome! Thanks so much for watching!

  • @kmcgheecoaching
    @kmcgheecoaching Před měsícem +1

    What a thought-provoking idea! Loved the activity at the end. Can't wait to try it out!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the talk! Thank you so much for watching!! 😊

    • @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren
      @EasyEcoLifeWithKaren Před měsícem

      The activity really works for me, how did you find it?

  • @christianagarza2740
    @christianagarza2740 Před měsícem

    So good Elyssa ❤ Thank you for sharing your message.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem +1

      Thank you so much! And thanks for all your support!!!

  • @virtualtechangel
    @virtualtechangel Před měsícem +1

    I really need to figure out what my "tiny t trauma" is! This talk is so interesting and so well explained!

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem

      I'm so glad you found it interesting! I hope it was helpful for you. Thanks for watching!!

  • @missjsews
    @missjsews Před měsícem

    This is was a great talk and I am saving this so I can use the strategy later. I’ve recently adopted a policy of doing the thing I want to do the least, first in the day and that is working greatly so far. I am also trying to respect my mood to some degree by doing the physical tasks when I feel strong and the mental tasks when I feel most alert and creative. I’m a work in progress but your calming exercise will be used regularly for sure. Thank you

  • @hartbeepsbishopsstortfordh1340

    Great watch and easy steps to follow.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem

      Thank you so much! And thanks for watching!

  • @taruniyadav8567
    @taruniyadav8567 Před měsícem

    Tiny T trauma...a new concept for me. This was an amazing episode, and love the way you explained so beautifully.

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem

      Thank you so much! And thanks for watching - I hope this was helpful!

  • @UnemployMan396-xd7ov
    @UnemployMan396-xd7ov Před 13 dny

    cant believe this talk get flaged, Maybe the speaker are a bit naive about the depth and complex nature of procrastination. But mistake is what it make growth, just like my journey to combat procrastination

  • @roxanneking-clark270
    @roxanneking-clark270 Před měsícem +1

    Count the lightbulb moments you'll have!!

  • @user-lb7mg3xc5v
    @user-lb7mg3xc5v Před 16 dny

    ❤❤❤

  • @roxanneking-clark270
    @roxanneking-clark270 Před měsícem +1

    👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @MandaMoniumMUA
    @MandaMoniumMUA Před měsícem +2

    Elyssa is truly a gift to the world and will help make it a better place to exist. Thank you for giving her a stage to help in that process. 🩷

    • @Elyssa-Smith
      @Elyssa-Smith Před měsícem

      Ah thank you so much! I hope this was helpful for you -thank you so much for your support and for watching!