am I the only one who understands him there XD it can be frustrating when people don't know how to navigate a crowd on their own when you're in a rush. that being said I walk really fast and consider myself great in a place like times square...but have had friends I had to look after and watch out for if they got stuck in crowds it can slow down a day. Maybe not frustrating to a red flag level but definitely a good trait to have aha
+Jerome Tiemsim (Chim) I would say if she doesn't like Wong fu then it's a red flag. If she hasn't watched them then I'll introduce them to it. And they will love it!
I agree with Ashley about how they treat restaurant servers (and service industry workers in general). That's really important to me. Other red flags: bad hygiene, not empathetic/judgmental, not socially aware.
Lack of social awareness grinds my gears. I think personally that the question about would you rather have some logical or someone with social logic. Social logic because it's employment would already be indicative of good logic. Does anyone agree it's sort of impossible to understand how some people can have such low emotional and social understandings?
Red Flag: if they diss the things I like WITHOUT a proper explanation or constructive criticism on why they do not enjoy the thing as much as I do so that I may understand their perspective better or if they diss it out of complete bias
+Scrofar I'd say that if they're seriously dissing the things you like (and not just teasingly or jokingly) then its a red flag even with an explanation. Your S.O. should be fine with realizing that you don't always HAVE to like the same things.
partially agree with you there @Tone Pursuit. Yes, a thoughtful S.O. should understand lovers don't have to like the same things. 100%. In regards to dissing the things you like...it depends. Dissing in a non-negative, constructive, and/or opinionated sense with an explanation of their POV should be ok. If it's unreasonable, then no. Why? Because there are some things that an S.O. can like that is harmful or negative to him/herself, and to others around him/herself. Not being open to an explanation is just closing off communication between each other.
A red flag for me would be if he/she was super closed minded. Just never wanted to try something new like food or try to understand someone else's point of view
Red flag: The person can't make a conversation topic or they can't take the conversation anywhere. Every now and then is cool but if it's like every single time we talk, it would be super annoying. One of us would eventually say "So...what do you want to talk about?" and it's basically a universal fact that it's never a good thing to say that.
+Suspect Lol I agree. Don't think I've run out of things to talk about with my girlfriend but probably because we already left that awkward barely-dating phase. We've gotten so comfortable with each other that on long car rides we're fine just listening to the radio and not talking. Or when we briefly sit in silence while eating dinner at the table we don't panic. Just happens that we somehow always have something to talk about. I always say there's nothing wrong with silence. It's normal. However, if you can't EVER find something to talk about or connect then its a red flag in the beginning.
I quite agree. I love periods of silence and do not find them awkward, but every person I've ever been out with always has to interrupt times of silence with something that usually makes it awkward. Kind of unnerving for me. My guy friends and I sit and do nothing all the time. Don't see why it's taboo to do that with a girl.
My boyfriend and I live 1500 miles apart (4 hour flight) and we're going strong!! We've been best friends (long distance again) for almost five years, and this year we made it official 😊 just wanted to say that long distance is doable!!
If he leaves my hand in a difficult situation saying "Every man for himself." That's a red flag for me. Having said that, I am quite independent but would like to know that I can depend on someone if in a difficult situation because that does not happen often.
HUGE Red Flag for me: Ambitions/Goals. If she is working a minimum wage job and has no plans or ideas as to what she wants to do in the near future or doesn't even want to try to get a better job/career then its a red flag for me. Also, if she smokes. It's super gross to me.
I didn't say it was. But if you're not motivated by a goal then the next best thing is money, is what I meant. Some people aren't motivated by either, enter the minimum wage job.
I lived 1000 miles away from my girlfriend and then fiance and now we are married and have a ten month old son. Long distance can work if that person is worth it and the right person.
Haha, so true about the Japan one! And after living here 12 years and going back to the USA I completely forget about having to tip... So, being hesitant to tip may be a cultural thing?
On the religious topic...I'm a Christian. I'm not going to go against my beliefs so I won't even go for someone who isn't also a Christian. (I have been attracted to non-Christians, but I've never grown an affection for them.) It just has to do with what my values are. All of my values in life are centered around Christ so it's natural I would want who I date to also have that mindset.
Girl! I understand. I have heard so many times that religion should not make or break the couple, but it often does. People behave so differently than what we fantasize how things should be. The truth is, there's a lack of intimacy if you can't understand and acknowledge the same beliefs, especially if there's already some resistance.
I agree and it worked out very well for me. Non-Christians sometimes don't understand how Christians are called to live. We are not perfect but our values are different. I'm glad I stuck with that because my marriage is super strong and gets stronger everyday (And I'm not just saying that).
Food wise, if they think different culture's food is gross without trying it or being willing to try it first? RED FLAG. That's not just about food and being willing to try new things but about respect and cultural sensitivity.
Same here, I don't drink, cause alcoholism runs in my family but I don't mind if my partner drinks~ I can still enjoy myself as long as my partner is having fun, is all that matters
"watch lunch breaks, its really really cool, every thursday, its really really cool, lunch, breaks, we talk about great facts" (in tune of heart and soul) @taylor and benson
I'm Australian and I don't understand the concept of tipping. How much do you tip? Does this count for every single shop/store that you go to? (Does this mean I can't date Benson cos I don't tip............ D':)
+Tammy Tan I'm not sure if it's just an american thing, but in particularly restaurants and cafes it is encouraged to tip the waiter/waitress with at least the minimum tip money because that's pretty much their entire paycheck. it's a pretty unfair system, if you ask me.
You tip a small percentage of the overall price. And no, you don't have to tip everything and everyone, mainly only for services like a pizza delivery, waiters, room cleaning, and sometimes cashier. Personally I don't tip cashiers often but if they have a "tip box" (which can be compared to a hat a street performer puts on the ground) I might tip if they are nice.
I'm from Singapore and we don't practice tipping either cos the restaurants will include a "service charge", which is 10% of the total bill, into the bill.
+Tammy Tan I will tip where the situation calls for it(for sitdown restaurants it's usu 15% of the bill as a minimum; when I go to nicer/fancier restaurants and the service is good I'll tip 20%) but I don't like tipping and tbh I think it needs to be abolished as a custom. It used to be that tipping was like "oh you did a good job here's some extra money" but now it's like i feel like you havta tip even if you didn't have that good service. Where I lived in the states, the sales tax was like 8-10%, so if I went to a restaurant and got a lunch for like 12.50, it'd end up actually being around $16.... Everyone who works as a waiter/waitress should just be paid an actual living wage(because tips are expected, the actual wage of a waitress might be like $2.50/hr, which in any other situation would be illegal). I don't see how tipping should be necessary because these people are doing their job. You're not going to tip the person who bags your groceries or your pharmacist, so I don't really see why waiters are exceptions. Sorry for ranting I just really hate this system. I've been working outside the US for 3 years now and it's SO NICE to not have to tip(and where the price shown usually includes the sales tax) and yet know that I will still get good service
I think the difficult thing that can happen with long-distance is that it slows down the speed at which your relationship moves. So, for example, even though a coupe has been together for 6 months, but they only see each other once every two weeks (especially if you're both in school), in reality, you've only dated for about two weeks. And it can become worse because you're not actually part of someone's life because it's easy for both of you to imagine your lives without each other. And in my opinion, that's when you know you're in love: when you can't imagine your life before or after that person. It's just unfathomable to you what you life would be like without them.
Major Red flag: isn't strong emotionally. Sure, now and then, if you're down, that's okay. But if I have to be your life jacket it's over. I won't keep on helping you if you don't help yourself.
Just wanna say that most of the things that I thought I didn't want ended up not even mattering once I met the right person :) Hold on to those red flags loosely. You never know what kind of amazing people you will meet!
Benson and the crowd thing hahahah I'm cracking up!! but thinking about it, it's so true!! I've lost so many people in concert pits smh they gotta stay close! 😂😂
If you're ever within hearing distance of Benson, just say the word "confidence" loudly and he might say "confidence" back. P.s. I couldn't think of a red flag except not liking animals...that's just wrong.
I once dated a guy who was nice enough, but there was something about him that I didn't quite trust. I couldn't put my finger on it till months after we had stopped dating, a friend of mine told me that he had a son that he never told me about. I knew there was something he wasn't telling me, but to not tell someone you have a kid...?! Redflag!
Oooooh. Inlaws ARE a big deal. You'd better have some kind of good relationship with them OR a shit-load of physical distance. You may not be marrying them.. but they will be there at every holiday. You will hear what they have to say about your wedding, your marriage, your kids and the way you raise them. Then if you stop showing up to these family events, your spouse will start to resent you. If you keep going against your will.. you'll start to resent your spouse. This was a big component of my first marriage failing.
My bf and I are on two separate continents(he's in california and I'm in Japan), we were dating for almost 2 years before I moved(and even before that we had a mini-LDR for about 6 months where he was in LA and I was in the bay area); we only see each other 2x a year and it's been great :) It really all depends on the person and how stable your relationship is. This year in August is our 5th anni and I'm actually moving back to CA but still two hours away by car.
THIS VIDEO WAS THE BEST! You guys are hilarious! Phil, you're awesome but the entire video all i wanted to do was fix the angle of your hat!! HAHAH Overall tho, this is definitely one of my fave lunch breaks! :) Keep it up guys!
red flag- he is a complete show off. He dines at the most expensive places. This one guy I went out with gave a 20.00 tip for drinks that we had that totaled 42.00. And insist that he's not drunk and can drive
this is so funny! my fiance and I are totally different - like opposite views on a bunch of stuff mentioned in this video (movies, music, drinking, big crowds, map navigating). but opposites attract is definitely the theme of our relationship, because it's great! lol keeps it interesting for us
OMG YES! Texting/using/play games on the phone during a date is a major red flag for me! Not just on dates but even with family and friends, I think that's just rude
This was very entertaining to watch. I particularly enjoyed the bit when Phil mentioned the emoji at the end. "You smoke? Oh! Let's talk about that." XD A red flag for me would be if an individual kept sending you messages. If it was on a daily basis when they ask you how you are or what you are doing it gets annoying very quickly.
Red flag - someone who says they can't date vegetarians and people who don't drink.. think about it, I'll never steal your food, but you can eat mine (because food is food and everyone's curious) and you never have to look far for a designated driver
I can understand his take on vegetarians because it is possible some conflicts could be raised on where to eat or what to eat. It would just be extremely complicated finding a way to eat together all the time without it becoming stale from going to the same place over and over. Drinking, however is different because it's not a lifestyle so I don't get why you'd get a red flag on that XD
+Phreid haha it's not really a red flag for me, it was a joke at how vegetarians are a red flag for him. If it was a red flag, it'd be so hard for me to date..
On the topic of food, yeah, basic table manners are necessary. I don't care if you don't know how to set the table 100 percent but like, showing an ability to have appropriate table etiquette like eating with your mouth close and forks are a must. I also think that people should know how to cook, it's honestly not only sad but annoying to hear friends say they don't know how to cook, because lordy you'll be doing it a lot. I am not expecting anything ambitious and I just want them to have the most basic knowledge of how to handle things. I think it's also tell tale if they don't wish to abide by a recipe at all, because I'd feel that'd be telling as to how good they think they are. I'd hope if they're so proud, that the outcome would be there to back the confidence. How many of you agree?
Red flag: if they're dumb and inefficient. Kinda like cannot navigate in the crowd sort of thing hahahhaha.. Benson's red flags are hilarious! This is actually the funniest lunch break I've watched so far 😁 Phil, I can't drink lol.
I hate when people take my stuff without asking first. Including food. Ask first, and I'll most likely say yes. Don't ask, and I'll be perpetually annoyed at you. It's an invasion of personal space to me.
I died when Benson said: "Being able to navigate through a large crowd." 😂😂😂
I loved Tae's reaction after! "what?" lolz
am I the only one who understands him there XD it can be frustrating when people don't know how to navigate a crowd on their own when you're in a rush. that being said I walk really fast and consider myself great in a place like times square...but have had friends I had to look after and watch out for if they got stuck in crowds it can slow down a day. Maybe not frustrating to a red flag level but definitely a good trait to have aha
its very new yorker of you
thought his movie analogies were better though, haha
He meant not fat.
Red flag- having too many red flags
Red Flag: If she don't watch and like Wong Fu Production
Sora!
Jelli Blubblez yow!!
+Jerome Tiemsim (Chim) I would say if she doesn't like Wong fu then it's a red flag. If she hasn't watched them then I'll introduce them to it. And they will love it!
+Jerome Tiemsim (Chim) YES! YOU WATCH NGNL. SORA~~~
Cherie Chan Is there a season 2?
I agree with Ashley about how they treat restaurant servers (and service industry workers in general). That's really important to me.
Other red flags: bad hygiene, not empathetic/judgmental, not socially aware.
Agreed but she also was hesitant to raise the red flag for tipping. Even bad service warrants tipping.
Lack of social awareness grinds my gears. I think personally that the question about would you rather have some logical or someone with social logic. Social logic because it's employment would already be indicative of good logic. Does anyone agree it's sort of impossible to understand how some people can have such low emotional and social understandings?
HUGE Red Flag: If he thinks a woman's role is in the house. That is a choice, not an obligation.
+KiuAndChic It depends though
No Game No Life it depends? How
very true. divi up the tasks, make it fair, help each other out
Sorry, I disagree.
KiuAndChic tbh idrc about that
Red Flag: if they diss the things I like WITHOUT a proper explanation or constructive criticism on why they do not enjoy the thing as much as I do so that I may understand their perspective better
or if they diss it out of complete bias
+Scrofar I'd say that if they're seriously dissing the things you like (and not just teasingly or jokingly) then its a red flag even with an explanation. Your S.O. should be fine with realizing that you don't always HAVE to like the same things.
partially agree with you there @Tone Pursuit. Yes, a thoughtful S.O. should understand lovers don't have to like the same things. 100%. In regards to dissing the things you like...it depends. Dissing in a non-negative, constructive, and/or opinionated sense with an explanation of their POV should be ok. If it's unreasonable, then no. Why? Because there are some things that an S.O. can like that is harmful or negative to him/herself, and to others around him/herself. Not being open to an explanation is just closing off communication between each other.
Make a lunch break about green flags maybe?
yes this!
when phil talked about a girl using the utensils wrong, i instantly thought "cause it's not the efficient way". hahaha.
we need a bonus video for wes on this topic🙈
A red flag for me would be if he/she was super closed minded. Just never wanted to try something new like food or try to understand someone else's point of view
Red flag: The person can't make a conversation topic or they can't take the conversation anywhere. Every now and then is cool but if it's like every single time we talk, it would be super annoying. One of us would eventually say "So...what do you want to talk about?" and it's basically a universal fact that it's never a good thing to say that.
+Suspect Lol I agree. Don't think I've run out of things to talk about with my girlfriend but probably because we already left that awkward barely-dating phase. We've gotten so comfortable with each other that on long car rides we're fine just listening to the radio and not talking. Or when we briefly sit in silence while eating dinner at the table we don't panic. Just happens that we somehow always have something to talk about. I always say there's nothing wrong with silence. It's normal. However, if you can't EVER find something to talk about or connect then its a red flag in the beginning.
I quite agree. I love periods of silence and do not find them awkward, but every person I've ever been out with always has to interrupt times of silence with something that usually makes it awkward. Kind of unnerving for me. My guy friends and I sit and do nothing all the time. Don't see why it's taboo to do that with a girl.
My boyfriend and I live 1500 miles apart (4 hour flight) and we're going strong!! We've been best friends (long distance again) for almost five years, and this year we made it official 😊 just wanted to say that long distance is doable!!
If he leaves my hand in a difficult situation saying "Every man for himself." That's a red flag for me. Having said that, I am quite independent but would like to know that I can depend on someone if in a difficult situation because that does not happen often.
Benson made me laugh soooo much !
Benson's red flag about not being able to navigate through a crowd LOL
One of my most favourite Lunch Break episodes!
Red flags: Takes wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to many selfies. Seriously
off topic but does anyone else think that Benson's practically a live version of Li Shang from Mulan???? bc the resemblance ONG
' why don't you like peaches?' ..... 'They look like butts' 😂👏🏽🍑🍑🍑
+Thy Tran When you put it out that way, I don't think I can unsee peaches now.
Starting to love Benson more and more lol
bensons a friggen genius
HUGE Red Flag for me: Ambitions/Goals. If she is working a minimum wage job and has no plans or ideas as to what she wants to do in the near future or doesn't even want to try to get a better job/career then its a red flag for me. Also, if she smokes. It's super gross to me.
If she's hardworking and is responsible with her money then I think that's ok. I mean, not everyone has goals and is motivated by money.
***** Having goals and being ambitious doesn't mean money is the focus.
I didn't say it was. But if you're not motivated by a goal then the next best thing is money, is what I meant. Some people aren't motivated by either, enter the minimum wage job.
Esteban Ramirez men who smoke are more gross.
i feel that "navigate through crowds" one. i walk fast and slip through the crowd if im determined. u better keep up
"who doesnt believe in tipping?" everyone outside of america....
Canada is actually quite a big believer on tipping
So true, There’s no such thing as tipping where I’m from my parents think it’s ridiculous and that’s how I grew up😂🤗
I lived 1000 miles away from my girlfriend and then fiance and now we are married and have a ten month old son. Long distance can work if that person is worth it and the right person.
In New Zealand we don't really have tipping. And in Japan if you leave a tip they will run after you and give it back😂
OMG Princess the second one sounds scary
Haha, so true about the Japan one! And after living here 12 years and going back to the USA I completely forget about having to tip...
So, being hesitant to tip may be a cultural thing?
Kay Fabrin what is tipping?
Red flag: guys who refuse to push themselves harder& also, guys who don't like learning
+ginaheartscupcakes People stop learning?
"I don't want to see ew..."
Ashley's pun game is getting stronger.
Anyone think of Nat when Benson talked about waiters spitting in food?
Red Flag: Wants to know what you are doing every single minute.
On the religious topic...I'm a Christian. I'm not going to go against my beliefs so I won't even go for someone who isn't also a Christian. (I have been attracted to non-Christians, but I've never grown an affection for them.) It just has to do with what my values are. All of my values in life are centered around Christ so it's natural I would want who I date to also have that mindset.
Yeah. If others choose to date those with different beliefs that's their choice to make, but for me personally, I can't go against what I believe.
Same. We can be friends, best friends... Not romantic partners.
you shouldn't be scared to defend your core belief :) stay happy
Girl! I understand. I have heard so many times that religion should not make or break the couple, but it often does. People behave so differently than what we fantasize how things should be. The truth is, there's a lack of intimacy if you can't understand and acknowledge the same beliefs, especially if there's already some resistance.
I agree and it worked out very well for me. Non-Christians sometimes don't understand how Christians are called to live. We are not perfect but our values are different. I'm glad I stuck with that because my marriage is super strong and gets stronger everyday (And I'm not just saying that).
the moment Phil said "let's talk about that" I started singing the GMM theme song
"If her favorite artist is like Fetty Wap, I might judge her a little bit". . . says the grown ass man who religiously listens to Taylor Swift -___-
+A. J. They both suck
Ger Vang Uhm. . . yes you can.
Food wise, if they think different culture's food is gross without trying it or being willing to try it first? RED FLAG. That's not just about food and being willing to try new things but about respect and cultural sensitivity.
+cindy agoncillo So much this, I can't stand people who won't try new things.
I miss Ted 😢
Kind of surprised at Phil's red flag of having to like drinking
Same here,
I don't drink, cause alcoholism runs in my family but I don't mind if my partner drinks~ I can still enjoy myself as long as my partner is having fun, is all that matters
Benson is bae. Bae-nson.
Androids represent!
+moonlight1890 It's all about android
+moonlight1890 He's okay
It's not a red flag, but I definitely agree with Benson on underhand throwing.
"watch lunch breaks, its really really cool, every thursday, its really really cool, lunch, breaks, we talk about great facts"
(in tune of heart and soul)
@taylor and benson
I loved how Benson referenced long distance relationships as being on the same level of different movies lol
I'm Australian and I don't understand the concept of tipping. How much do you tip? Does this count for every single shop/store that you go to?
(Does this mean I can't date Benson cos I don't tip............ D':)
same
+Tammy Tan I'm not sure if it's just an american thing, but in particularly restaurants and cafes it is encouraged to tip the waiter/waitress with at least the minimum tip money because that's pretty much their entire paycheck. it's a pretty unfair system, if you ask me.
You tip a small percentage of the overall price. And no, you don't have to tip everything and everyone, mainly only for services like a pizza delivery, waiters, room cleaning, and sometimes cashier. Personally I don't tip cashiers often but if they have a "tip box" (which can be compared to a hat a street performer puts on the ground) I might tip if they are nice.
I'm from Singapore and we don't practice tipping either cos the restaurants will include a "service charge", which is 10% of the total bill, into the bill.
+Tammy Tan I will tip where the situation calls for it(for sitdown restaurants it's usu 15% of the bill as a minimum; when I go to nicer/fancier restaurants and the service is good I'll tip 20%) but I don't like tipping and tbh I think it needs to be abolished as a custom. It used to be that tipping was like "oh you did a good job here's some extra money" but now it's like i feel like you havta tip even if you didn't have that good service. Where I lived in the states, the sales tax was like 8-10%, so if I went to a restaurant and got a lunch for like 12.50, it'd end up actually being around $16....
Everyone who works as a waiter/waitress should just be paid an actual living wage(because tips are expected, the actual wage of a waitress might be like $2.50/hr, which in any other situation would be illegal). I don't see how tipping should be necessary because these people are doing their job. You're not going to tip the person who bags your groceries or your pharmacist, so I don't really see why waiters are exceptions. Sorry for ranting I just really hate this system. I've been working outside the US for 3 years now and it's SO NICE to not have to tip(and where the price shown usually includes the sales tax) and yet know that I will still get good service
I think the difficult thing that can happen with long-distance is that it slows down the speed at which your relationship moves.
So, for example, even though a coupe has been together for 6 months, but they only see each other once every two weeks (especially if you're both in school), in reality, you've only dated for about two weeks.
And it can become worse because you're not actually part of someone's life because it's easy for both of you to imagine your lives without each other.
And in my opinion, that's when you know you're in love: when you can't imagine your life before or after that person. It's just unfathomable to you what you life would be like without them.
Major Red flag: isn't strong emotionally.
Sure, now and then, if you're down, that's okay. But if I have to be your life jacket it's over. I won't keep on helping you if you don't help yourself.
Red Flag: Ashley isn't the person I'm on a date with
Totally 😂😂😂
Just wanna say that most of the things that I thought I didn't want ended up not even mattering once I met the right person :) Hold on to those red flags loosely. You never know what kind of amazing people you will meet!
"Who doesn't believe in tipping?" All of Japan
The French.
it's more of a North American culture
lucky me basically everybody beside North America...? I’m not sure if this is Anglo-Saxon
You should totally do lunch break twice a week. Lunch break is amazing
+Oddishcookie _ i know right?? PHILIP WES BENSON!
READ THIS COMMENT PLEAASE
+Oddishcookie _ YAAAS PLSSS
There goes Phil's bad habit again....taking other's food.
Benson and the crowd thing hahahah I'm cracking up!! but thinking about it, it's so true!! I've lost so many people in concert pits smh they gotta stay close! 😂😂
Red Flag: if they try to force their religion/beliefs on me.
If you're ever within hearing distance of Benson, just say the word "confidence" loudly and he might say "confidence" back. P.s. I couldn't think of a red flag except not liking animals...that's just wrong.
love the crew in this episode! and the bad puns so good!~
Ahh Benson is so weird. I love it! xD
lunch breaks are actually blessed and so interesting to watch
🔺red flag- if they don't find Wong Fu funny mhmmm
every thursday I get ready to watch these omg, please can there be more...
I honestly love Benson man, some of the things that come out of his mouth are golden and I totally relate aha
omg benson just gets more and more lovable!
Benson is perf ~
I LOVE him.
Thanks guys! this is the funniest lunch break episode! Laughed so much!
"that's very picky" not sure if phil is allowed to say that after the list of pet peeves, lmao.
I once dated a guy who was nice enough, but there was something about him that I didn't quite trust. I couldn't put my finger on it till months after we had stopped dating, a friend of mine told me that he had a son that he never told me about. I knew there was something he wasn't telling me, but to not tell someone you have a kid...?! Redflag!
I would like to thank Benson for teaching me how to throw things xD
underhand and confidence. cause sometimes just confidence is not enough.
Don't worry Benson, I have an android phone too. The struggle is real
Me too. I even told my boss I couldn't see her lovely emojis.
+Miah Kuhaulua Me too. It might actually be a red flag if the person I'm with has an apple phone; cult-like tendencies
Oooooh. Inlaws ARE a big deal. You'd better have some kind of good relationship with them OR a shit-load of physical distance. You may not be marrying them.. but they will be there at every holiday. You will hear what they have to say about your wedding, your marriage, your kids and the way you raise them. Then if you stop showing up to these family events, your spouse will start to resent you. If you keep going against your will.. you'll start to resent your spouse. This was a big component of my first marriage failing.
My bf and I are on two separate continents(he's in california and I'm in Japan), we were dating for almost 2 years before I moved(and even before that we had a mini-LDR for about 6 months where he was in LA and I was in the bay area); we only see each other 2x a year and it's been great :) It really all depends on the person and how stable your relationship is. This year in August is our 5th anni and I'm actually moving back to CA but still two hours away by car.
Ashley took more than two bites this time!
oh lol
THIS VIDEO WAS THE BEST! You guys are hilarious! Phil, you're awesome but the entire video all i wanted to do was fix the angle of your hat!! HAHAH Overall tho, this is definitely one of my fave lunch breaks! :) Keep it up guys!
This was hilarious, i genuinely want to have conversations as funny as this hahahha
My red flag is people who can't catch things thrown over hand...
+Jess S There's two types of people in this world; those who throw underhand and those who wish to see the world burn.
What if they prefer sidearm?
red flag- he is a complete show off. He dines at the most expensive places. This one guy I went out with gave a 20.00 tip for drinks that we had that totaled 42.00. And insist that he's not drunk and can drive
I guess this is the longest Lunch Break Video, up to 15 minutes??!!(the longer the better)
And the first time to see you guys finish your lunch.. xD
this is so funny! my fiance and I are totally different - like opposite views on a bunch of stuff mentioned in this video (movies, music, drinking, big crowds, map navigating). but opposites attract is definitely the theme of our relationship, because it's great! lol keeps it interesting for us
OMG YES! Texting/using/play games on the phone during a date is a major red flag for me! Not just on dates but even with family and friends, I think that's just rude
Benson sounds like a keeper until he mentioned "crowd navigator".
benson is so good. i keep coming to this video to laugh about the navigation and throwing keys parts
This was very entertaining to watch. I particularly enjoyed the bit when Phil mentioned the emoji at the end.
"You smoke? Oh! Let's talk about that." XD
A red flag for me would be if an individual kept sending you messages. If it was on a daily basis when they ask you how you are or what you are doing it gets annoying very quickly.
Red flag - someone who says they can't date vegetarians and people who don't drink.. think about it, I'll never steal your food, but you can eat mine (because food is food and everyone's curious) and you never have to look far for a designated driver
I can understand his take on vegetarians because it is possible some conflicts could be raised on where to eat or what to eat. It would just be extremely complicated finding a way to eat together all the time without it becoming stale from going to the same place over and over. Drinking, however is different because it's not a lifestyle so I don't get why you'd get a red flag on that XD
+Phreid haha it's not really a red flag for me, it was a joke at how vegetarians are a red flag for him. If it was a red flag, it'd be so hard for me to date..
Red flag - Tardiness. I can be forgiving if you keep me updated on your way to the meeting place so I actually know where and how long you will take.
love the LOTR references Benson!
"Needs to navigate in large crowds." - Benson
So relevant!!!
"Benson you're using up my text messages! That never happens"
I laughed way more than I should've when Phil said that
Isn't unlimited text now for everyone? I see that in Canada plans now!
+Charles Reyes Nope, if someone doesn't text a lot (like me), buying minutes/paying per text is sometimes cheaper.
Extremely picky people are a red flag.
omg Benson, I have an android too and my friends get SO ANNOYED because it's so difficult for group chats hahaha
i want a friend like phil. he seems very friendly and easy to talk to.
Omg when they don't have freaking manners and eat with their mouth open ugh.
On the topic of food, yeah, basic table manners are necessary. I don't care if you don't know how to set the table 100 percent but like, showing an ability to have appropriate table etiquette like eating with your mouth close and forks are a must. I also think that people should know how to cook, it's honestly not only sad but annoying to hear friends say they don't know how to cook, because lordy you'll be doing it a lot. I am not expecting anything ambitious and I just want them to have the most basic knowledge of how to handle things. I think it's also tell tale if they don't wish to abide by a recipe at all, because I'd feel that'd be telling as to how good they think they are. I'd hope if they're so proud, that the outcome would be there to back the confidence. How many of you agree?
Benson is like the perfect human being.
yesss - completely agreee
Ashley is so beautiful! Her laugh is contagious and that smile!! 😍
That slight tilt of the cap Phil. Nice.
Benson is my absolute favorite!!! And we have the same red flags!!!!
Gonna go grab some food so I can pretend I'm eating with you guys.
I do this every time lol. Feels like we're ALMOST in the same room XD
"She needs to eat seafood". Heart breaks Benson 😂.
Benson and I would get along so well.
Red Flag: if the other person is clingy.
+Sandy Lim I think that's a general deal-breaker in any relationship
First 10 seconds = fun facts with Phil
Red flag: if they're dumb and inefficient. Kinda like cannot navigate in the crowd sort of thing hahahhaha..
Benson's red flags are hilarious! This is actually the funniest lunch break I've watched so far 😁
Phil, I can't drink lol.
without being aware of it, i started watching this video and realized i am hungry, i went to get my lunch got it and came back to watch it! :O lolll!
I hate when people take my stuff without asking first. Including food. Ask first, and I'll most likely say yes. Don't ask, and I'll be perpetually annoyed at you. It's an invasion of personal space to me.
Benson makes me laugh out load 🙇🏻😂
would love to see a lunch break with everyone bringing a homemade lunch
I always make sure I have something to eat EVERY TIME I watch a Lunch Break!(: