Postpartum Update | Sleep Routine, Working Out, Setting Boundaries, Mom Comparison + More! | Dr. Ali
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- čas přidán 13. 01. 2024
- This may be an unpopular opinion but I’m LOVING this postpartum life! How has your experience been?! I’d love to hear it down in the comments!
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Im a FTM of a 15 month old, and the mom comparison still happens! So so important to remember that each baby/toddler is different, and theres no one way to be an amazing mom ❤️
Bilingual books, language immersion schools, and travel to Spanish speaking countries has helped my 8 year old stay interested in learning Spanish. His reading proficiency is the same in both languages. Every little bit counts!
I grew up bilingual. My dad only spoke Farsi to me and my mom only spoke English to me. I knew it as normal I had no problem understanding both. Also I was around alot of other people that spoke Farsi so it wasn’t just my dad. I knew no different until the school or people would ask me how I did it. But I was like it just like how anyone learns to talk I just understand. So I’d encourage you only speak Spanish and your husband speak English to her and it will just be natural.
@sarahtate4825 do you have any tips for me? I’m pregnant and when I deliver I want my child to learn English and Spanish. The thing is we don’t speak Spanish lol. I figured I’d play videos or children shows that are in Spanish for the baby. Do you think my baby can become bilingual that way?
@@daphnefinley2259 hey, definitely no expert. But I think your baby could pick it up that way. I laugh because my dad when he came to the US didn’t know that much English and he learned the language by watching tv he said. So I believe you you watch enough Spanish speaking shows the baby and you might learn it 😊.
I am SO glad to hear you say that you felt like the bad fog you were in during pregnancy has lifted. I'm 31 weeks pregnant and I've also felt like I've been in a very bad fog most of the time too. I've started therapy, and it's been somewhat helpful, but I feel like I truly am chemically imbalanced and just not feeling myself at all. I'm prayinggggg that this gets better postpartum, always assumed it would get way way worse but it's so great to hear that's not always the case.
I grew up bilingual German and English. My mom immigrated from Germany to Canada when she was pregnant with me and I grew up speaking only German with her. She also brought a lot of books, toys, games, etc. from Germany for us so that we could learn about German culture. My dad spoke English to us, but he worked long hours while my mom was a SAHM, so I would say when I was young, my ratio of German to English was about 9:1. I'm so grateful that my mom was diligent about only speaking German with me and my brothers at home. Now, I'm 25 and moved out, so I speak more English than German overall, but I still speak only German to my mom.
My first baby neverrrr slept but my second baby did and I would wake her up to feed her because I’ve always heard to do that. Let your baby sleep! She was getting used to me waking her up and it messed with her sleep schedule then she started waking up at night 😅
I live in Oklahoma! I graduated from OU, became a teacher, and had my first baby in September 23 :) We had our babies super close together!
Our babies have the same birthday so I’m the same postpartum! We both had some complications after the hospital (hypertension for me, jaundice for baby) but things have settled down. I had the same rocky start to breastfeeding that you mentioned in a previous video but now we exclusively breastfeed and I love it, it’s such a sweet bonding time. I also go back to work in a month and I’ll miss it for sure. I think it’s so cool you’re teaching your daughter English and Spanish, I only speak english. I’m with you on pregnancy, the bump was fun and his movements were neat but it was so stressful with the complications. Postpartum is much more manageable!
I’m 4 months PP with my 3rd baby. This was also my 3rd c section and those first couple of weeks were so hard for me. I hated relying on other people for help but thankfully we are somewhat in a grove now.
I’m in no hurry to get back to the gym that’s for sure. My mind is on eating a lot of food so I can make milk for my baby. Let me tell you having a 3rd child is a game changer!
Spoke only English to our daughter as an infant, toddler and forward. She has been going to a dual language school since kindergarten and is now in 7th grade. She speaks and understands Spanish efficiently. So just a thought. She can learn in school.
3 weeks postpartum and thriving hereeee 💪🏾❤️ Thank you so much, I went through a similar experience with my baby boy being born 36+6days, and relate to you so much ! Keep educating us with tenderness 😊 Kisses to your beautiful new family from Paris 🇫🇷🇫🇷🇫🇷
I am 4months postpartum. I am also bilingual but my husband speaks English only. I really wanted to make sure my little girl grew up knowing both languages. I talk to her in Spanish and English right now but she LOVES Aprende Peque with Ms. Isa here on CZcams!!! It’s like a Spanish version of Ms. Rachel. I sing her all the Spanish songs that I learned during her bath times and play times and I’m hoping that all of this combined will allow her to learn Spanish just as good as English! ❤ Congratulations on that precious baby!!
I grew up in a bilingual environment where my parents spoke both but my grandparents didn’t speak English and my friends and school was only English. I feel like putting her in different environments with the languages is good. Kids learn quick because they want to connect and they are such sponges, it’s not like teaching a class, it’s just life and they usually just pick it up. My parents didn’t teach us Afrikaans, all our books were English, but they spoke as whatever language they were most comfy with and we absorbed that❤ ur a great, smart mama so she’s gonna learn quick:)
2 weeks postpartum here❤ loving it!! I love your vibes girl, good luck to us! and God bless!🎉
Dr. Ali, thank you so much for being so honest and candid- and thanks for all you do! Your channel is amazing! And you’re a great mama! Would love to see a video on how the body changes postpartum/what to expect after vaginal and c-section delivery. Thanks!
would love DITL vlogs! glad to hear you and Elenor are doing well!
It's a shame the US doesn't have a nearly year long paid maternity leave or 8w paid paternity leave.
So many hormones and the comparison and wanting to be perfect is so real. I think you’re doing a great job! Don’t feel guilty for taking moments for yourself. I truly learned that I cannot pour from an empty cup as a mom. I totally think the bottle at night helps. I pumped breast milk and my husband did nighttime feeds. I swear that’s why my two babies are great sleepers. Also, our first babysitters spoke only Spanish at home and English in public school. All three girls and their dad are bilingual. ❤❤ Love how honest you are. 😊
Right behind you all! I’m 38 weeks 3 days. Still cooking 🎉🥲
So from day 1 with both our girls, I only spoke in English and my husband only spoke in French. Now our girls are 2 and 3.5 and they're fully bilingual. They speak to my in-laws in French (as much as a 2 year old speaks anyway lol) and understand French completely. Same for English with my family and their friends!
I like your educational videos a lot, and enjoy lifestyle ones here and there
I bought my husband the same date night cards for Christmas! Off Amazon. 😂 we’ve only done 1 so far but just that one has brought us close together and will help bring up new ideas on date nights where we would normally just go out to eat and come home❤
My cousins husband grew up bilingual (Dutch and English). It was one parent one language in his house as well. It can be helpful to also get/read Spanish books, sing Spanish songs, and watching kids shows in Spanish (even if it’s just in the background).
Would love a vlog from you!
As a bilingual kid growing up, I used to ask for all my movies and shows in English, but Spanish subtitles helped me learn a lot. Rn, I'm 27 weeks+3d pregnant. It's been smooth sailing so far. Getting rashes and skin breakouts is my biggest complaint.
I went through the same thing, my husband does not speak Spanish, he speaks another language. We did the one parent, one language approach. I only speak to my children in Spanish, and my husband speaks to them in his native language. My children are now fluent in 3 languages. Also, when Nelly gets of age to watch television, have her watch her programs in Spanish.
Hi Dr. Ali! Congratulations on your sweet baby! I have a question about postpartum birth control. Which one do you use or recommend for postpartum? What do you think of the FAM for postpartum?
Can you please make a video on c section recovery tips! Thank you!!!!
9 month postpartum and my plan was also to do one parent one language because my husband is learning spanish. I have to say it is difficult to speak to my son only in spanish. Especially since i speak to my husband in English. I try my best to narrate everything i do in spanish, read in spanish and sing in spanish.
hi Dr Ali, since the other parent is English monolingual and you live in an English dominant place, baby is likely to be more English-dominant too. So the more you talk to her in Spanish, the better for her because the English will come for free. Being bilingual is awesome keep going!
Give yourself grace and relax. It’s ok for you to have you time. Ultimately happy mom means happy baby. It’s ok to read something for yourself or watch a show. And you still will have time for her. If she’s asleep and you’re rocking her, I do watch something that brings me distraction and fun. So don’t beat yourself up. It all will work out. As far as two languages, we did it. My first born is bilingual, my parents spoke to her from birth in our native tongue and at home I speak English/native tongue. My spouse is also English only. But I encourage you to focus on Spanish and let your husband focus on English. She’ll pick it up. Mine is almost 4 and she understands both languages just fine, she even mingles them together which lead to my husband start picking up my language too😂 only took 15 years.
Lastly it took me a second pregnancy to realize just how amazing our bodies are. And you’re right, we won’t look like we’re 20. But that’s ok, because our body is so phenomenal that it created life. And that’s much more significant than hot bod. Give yourself grace and patience. Don’t push it, let the journey guide you. It all will be worth it and all will turn out the way it’s meant to be. Much love. Sending positive vibes! ❤
Try to remember that babies need alone time too. It’s ok to do stuff for yourself too because babies learn a lot from just watching. U r perfectly ok to watch a show for one or two feeds as long as it’s not every feed.
Wanting to move my 5 week old to his in room as well but nervous . How did you decide to transition her to her own room rather than room share for 6 months .. ?
Was the idea to give formula after breast milk for the nighttime feed something that Taking Cara Babies talked about? I've never heard of this but may just have to try it when my baby boy comes! Thanks!
I have a 7 and 3 year old and still struggle with mom comparison and wonder if I am doing enough for them. I don't think those things ever end!
Talking about the bilingual culture, I have seen that it works a lot to emphasize in their first years of life with the second language, since they will surround themselves and will be immersed in the mother language from a young age, this can be learned by "survival" from the time they enter pre-k.
The second way is surround them with stimulus that will teach them the second language, such as playing music in Spanish, watching cartoons in this language, reading stories and books, etc., there are endless resources that are available today to stimulate the little ones with a second language, however the main thing will always be the perseverance and patience of the parents. Normally the parent who doesn't know both languages may be the one who can feel defeated and frustrated, but if you take it as an advantage, both the baby and the parent could be learning a new language together and a great tool for their lives! 😁
I hope everything goes wonderfully
Very common for them to sleep longer with formula!! As a nanny to newborns, I would suggest supplementing with formula at night or mix a bit of formula in when the mom feels likely they can’t keep going with only 1-2 hours of sleep.
This can easily lead to the newborn preferring formula and the breastfeeding journey coming to a premature end as well as reducing milk supply (as no longer feeding on demand = demand=supply)
to maintain supply, you have to remove the same milk the baby is not waking you for. You don’t necessarily win sleeping hours by giving formula top up if you need to pump it out anyway.
My birthday is also veterans Day and it's only in some school districts that have the day off. I went to kindergarten on an Air Force base and had thought that was a normal thing that schools did until we moved. I was very sad I did not get my birthday off anymore 😢
Do you have a video explaining blood clots or hematoma in early pregnancy
Which formula do you recommend
I would like to see a baby skin care from you as a nure/new mom what products are safe for hair body and face. How to bathe a nb how many times a week to wash babies hair.
Formula keeps them full for longer that’s why!
My kid is 13 months and I say everything in Spanish then immediately repeat it in English. I mainly do it because my husband also doesn’t understand Spanish, so it’s cool because he gets to learn and hears what I’m saying in spanish. He’s actually doing well and understands a lot of the things I say to her now, so I’m starting to say some things only In Spanish and so far we’re doing fine!🤍
Our baby is due in July, and my husband's FL is french, so we want our kids to be bilingual as well. It's going to be a challenge for me especially as the mother, as they begin babbling, I am worried I won't be able to understand what they're saying (my french is pretty good too, and I will be speaking it as well, but still!) --- but what we plan on doing is sending them to a french daycare to start (we're up in Canada). If that goes well and I don't feel like I'm drowning, then we will send them to a french school, and likely speak english at home, or a blend.
My question has nothing to do with postpartum.. but is it safe to get an ob pelvic swab at 15 weeks pregnant? Iv only had it done at 11/12 weeks I’m scared that being 15 weeks poking at my cervix could cause an issue
My parents moved to the uk from their respective countries and I picked up the languages spoken the most around me (Greek from mum) we didn’t only speak one language with our Greek relatives. I have a great accent and completely fluent in Greek and English and always have been. I don’t know any different. But I don’t think OPAL will work imo. What language are you and Cory going to speak in? She’ll feel different if you speak in one language to Nellie and another to Cory. My husband is learning Greek not only to communicate with his ILs but also to speak to baby in it.
I am have a C-section scheduled on the 22nd I was awake for both my previous c sections, but this time I want to be put to sleep is there a risk being put to sleep? Or doesn’t matter?
Mom guilt is fierce during the early postpartum weeks. I felt like I wasn’t a real mom because I had a surprise C-section and breastfeeding didn’t work out.
One thing that helped me was realizing that I can’t be 100% at everything. You have to make choice about priorities everyday.
I remember with my first I had an unexpected csection and man it was hard on my heart. I’ve come a long way now and just had my 11 Csection 3 weeks ago. A doctor once told me this…”only a mother would be willing to sacrifice (get cut open) herself for her child. That is true love, true sacrifice”. I thought that was a beautiful thing for her to tell me and brought healing for me.
Please remember, post partum is different for everyone- it takes time. It took 8 to 9 months to get where you are - it will take time to get back to where you want to be.
Love the cute Metallica shirt.
The advice I got was to stick to spanish only. English is so dominant in the US that the english language will be reinforced everywhere else.
Day in my life with a new born please 🥰
I have a question how to take a shower with a secondary
Its normal for babies to not sleep through the night.
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Thanks for sharing your story!
Is your baby able to digest extra 4oz apart from breastmilk at one go?
@alirodmd I love your videos, your are admirable, please make videos in Spanish, me encantaría y estoy segura que no sería la única.
Saludos desde Costa Rica 🇨🇷
You're breathtaking, doctor! 😍 I wish this guy I used to work with could see you in your metallica shirt, he used to say that rock n roll was for white people only and no true Latina would like it (he is Mexican-American). lol 🙂
Its taken you 9 months for your body to grow a baby and it may take 9 months or more for your body to go 'back'
With it being an election year, I think it’s good to be aware that Taking care of babies has donated (in the name of TCB) to the Republican party, if that doesn’t align with people’s morals and values there are a lot of other options out there ♥️♥️, and if it does that’s great too ✌🏼
Only speak spanish daddy can only speak inglisg so you dont confuse her.