As a black man listening to this was heartbreaking ....how many of us fellas have held the door and said “hi” and got the nastiest, ugliest, unappreciative look, much less a hello or thank you. 😔
@Demond B - I am a black woman and I can say that I have NEVER given ANY man (black or otherwise) a nasty look for holding the door for me (or any other polite gesture). IJS I don’t know 🤷🏽♀️ what the heck is wrong with some (or most) black women.
Facts. I’ve gotten “The fu*k you looking at? Fu*k!” from women. We were in the dollar store so many be that’s why lmao but 🤦🏾♂️ I don’t engage with people for that reason. I don’t want to offend anyone, particularly our women because they’re usually ready to turn up or call someone on me over a look or whatever.
C'MON WITH THESE FACTS! Some have no problem making a baby with somebody, but ask them about getting married? "Let me finish college first." 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
I heard it today. Someone asked, "you look upset - is everything alright?" And they responded, "it's 2022 stop asking women to smile." He said, "I didn't say to smile - I asked if you're alright."
@@Kimberly-tx7nnyou're definitely part of the problem... Because one thing you need to look at is when he states she walks around with a resting *beep* face she smiles... So a person is polite and engaging we get attitude but call her a beep and we get playful smiling manor RIGHT!!!! funny how women interpret engagement...
@@Kimberly-tx7nnAnd the most you could come up with is because a person asked you to smile often there is some type of problem... And how many times a person gets asked it becomes a issue my god where did we fail....
This reminds of when I was in college and applied for a job standing in line, not online, it was 2001. The HR person had a line of people applying for any job to get into this company, I was fourth in line, the HR person said ‘you know why I picked you?’ I responded “no”, she said ‘because you were the first one that smiled and dressed like you wanted the job’. That was Costco Wholesale, before that I was an insecure twenty year old. After that smiled more because people paid to shop there. I noticed it became infectious and I smiled more outside of work and my opportunities with women in school and other places improved because my overall demeanor changed / improved because I smiled more. I am where I am today because of college job and it started with a smile.
opened a door for a young black lady entering the store once... and she said, "uh... ain't nothing wrong with my hands." i just smiled at her and said, "this is what my parents taught me... have a nice day." on the way OUT of the store, i opened the door for an elderly lady, and she said, "why thank you young man... i hope you have a nice day." these young women are lost... and say, "chivalry is dead," but they're carrying the murder weapon.
I did the same thing once, but the girl made the mistake of saying her shit before getting to the door. I had time to slam it in her face. When she got in a rage I told her I'd have done that to any man who had spoken to me in that tone and asked her what equality felt like. Apparently, she didn't appreciate the sentiment at all.
This is some crazy shit , that this conversation happens and that it's about smiling ,somehow , somebody somewhere has managed to turn the smile on a human face into a controversy and some kind of assault, WE ARE SCREWED. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT HE SAID IT IS , CRAZY, AND U DONT HAVE TO LIKE HIM OR WHAT HE DOES , TO SEE THAT ITS TRUE.WHY WOULD U HAVE TO ARGUE WITH SOMEONE ,ABOUT A CRAPPY ATTITUDE BEING A BAD TRAIT. HOW CAN SOMONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND DEFEND THAT POSITION, ITS UNTENABLE.
This mindset is not new , theres always been just nasty people , the difference now is it championed and defended by so many and to make it seem that this should be the norm,I bet their grandmas smile and they love it , cos recieving and giving a smile makes u feel good , NEWS FLASH , ITS ONE OF THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT BEING HUMAN, this is sooooooo ignorant but its pervasive unfortunately.
@@PowerPuffGurl86 Me too, I say, "Thank you, Sir." Simply because he was polite to me and I'm appreciating him being gracious to me. When did being Ladies and Gentlemen go by the wayside? This is exhausting.
Notice how she only smiled when something offensive happened like KS doing the slapping sound effect. These women are wired incorrectly, they smile when someone means to offend them but get mad when you are polite to them
I passed a random guy one time, he said, "Hey Ms Lady, it's gonna be alright, smile." I smiled back and thanked him. Sometimes you are thinking of things, but that doesn't mean carry the thought on your face. He snapped me out of my thoughts, and that made me smile.
Key, just gonna be honest here. As a black man oftentimes when i walk passed white women, they generally smile. But oftentimes when i walk passed black women, i don't get the same. Its just being honest.
@@cadencarlisle3772 I don't agree. I see them all happy, sad, mad. I will say I love life and enjoy the sun, I'm definitely more happier than not. Best wishes ❤️
I'm married but may not appear married in public when out shopping and encounter women doing the same when their changes for some odd reason...I just rack my wedding band across my face to indicate I have intentions of crossing their path. Moreover, I've have mothers of young women approaching me to see if I was available while the young lady is present, but will begin a relevant conversation once noticing my wedding band.
As a Black man there's nothing more inspiring, than having a beautiful black sista smile at me . It's not sexual, it's just good cultural relation . We use to have such a beautiful way of communicating with one another .
I went to school in the ghetto from 6th grade to 12th grade dealing with little girls who turn into animals like this..... I 100% understand her logic and it's a mixture of factors that produce functional insanity. We have feeling unsafe, institutionalized White supremacy, Feeling out of control, trauma, false self empowerment indoctrination, Ignorance, emotionally derived perception, personalization and over eaggeration mixed into one homogenized mess. If you take the time to understand what she's saying it makes sense from the standpoint of someone who is totally a victim, Powerless, out of control and psychological unsafe within her own mind. There is no reasoning this out because a mind that has acquired this much damaged isn't working on healthy nueral circuitry. There is no separating fact from fiction because the trauma of growing up being a victim has left a mark on the identity of the being. Her spirit is not In control of the prefrontal cortex. The defensive ego that is driven on lower chakra energy and stimulus response Is in charge of higher mental function when it should not be. What we are witnessing is classical and operant conditioning at its finest. Remember, a damaged mind from trauma will invariably produced mental, emotional, physical and perceptual distortions of an extraordinary magnitude. Listen with care, love compassion and also avoid this type of being like the plague. 🤝🏿🙏🏾🤲🏿👐🏿🙌🏿
@@sond.lollipop8919 🤔 clearly you understand very little about the psychological trauma caused by institutionalized white supremacy so I can definitely understand why your mind would result to the notion of blaming white people ...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're soo funny...
I know right!? Smiling isn’t considered to friendly or pleasant but rather it’s rude and assumed it’s only being done because you see them as a “sexual object” or “a piece of meat”, holding the door open isn’t considered to be a nice gentlemanly thing to do or a polite gesture, but rather a sexist and/or even “oppressive” act, and yet those same women will use onlyfools, and show every sexual private part of their body for cash and considered to be empowering and perfectly moral. Our world is as backwards, lost, and morally bankrupt as I’ve ever seen it. And unfortunately, we haven’t seen nothing yet, because it’s gonna get faaaar worse than this…
@@GodofwarKratos14 I agree, it is just being cordial and approachable. That conversation was exhausting. She just doesn’t like people telling her what to do, especially a black man, even if it is actually just a nice gesture. Just yesterday I was on my way to work and a guy’s dog was being playful, I smiled at the owner telling him I have to catch my train and he smiled during the exchange. That wasn’t flirting. It was just a human interaction.
@@babe8917 yeeh you right, a black man telling her to smile is the issue there. I don't know what she must have gone through, and I don't live in the US to understand the relationship between black women and men. Nigeria men and women interact differently like the black folks in the US, like what you did to the dog owner. You were just having a conversation no flirting, I think people just overthink too much and they get all defensive. I understand the world isn't safe but life is fun to live in too.
When I run in my neighborhood, I smile at everyone I see, including my mailman. It's not weird, if just means I'm cordial and not an angry, bitter woman. All of this over a smile.
I'm on the autism spectrum & my entire life I thought smiling was insincere & ridiculous. Beginning about 2 years ago I woke up with a changed attitude. My goal is to smile & exchange pleasantries on a daily. Black white, men women, young old, hood bougie, my life has changed drastically. First time in my life I'm not on antidepressants. A smile can change people's attitude & it doesn't cost anything 🌺
It’s crazy how I’ve been told, “you’re too nice” because I smile and say hello to people. Smiling is free therapy. It brightens not only your day but the other persons.
How can you be "too nice"? People like that just tells me they enjoy people being rough and rugged with them. Keep doing what you are doing, sweetheart. This brotha appreciates it.
@@elhajjmalikel6266 I agree. How tf can you be too kind? The world needs kindness now more than ever. And considering the suicide and anxiety rates, people need happy people. We need to get rid of this mindset that happiness or kindness is weakness. Feeling good is literally strength for your body and mind.
I mean yes, however, if you have a cruddy life, even anti-depressants are going to do so much. If you need therapy, you need therapy. And a good therapist too, not the ones that tell you to hide from your issues "because you're triggered."
@@lanticcitynoruber140 women get offended now if you call them a female??? Wtf 🤬 is wrong with them? i said well when y’all fill out an application for a job and it ask what’s gender are u what do y’all do in that situation? Get made at the company for asking are u a female 🤷🏾♂️
This is blowing my mind when I was in Iraq 🇮🇶 and Afghanistan 🇦🇫 I had women who barely spoke English or didn't speak it. every young girl and grown woman they all smiled at us American service members and we was at war car bombing suicide bombers and just straight fire fights in the streets. They all had time to wave and smile even with all the chaos and confusion.
I use to have this mentality in my mid-20 and I had to check myself. Even with a man you should still offer a smile. You never know how the smile can turn someone's day around. We're so conditioned to ignore one another's feelings and emotions.
She is not offended by being asked to smile, she is offended by the person who asked her. Because if is a good looking guy she would show her wisdom teeth.
Can't ask them to smile because it's "promiscuous"...... Meanwhile they are walking around with the bottom of their ass hanging out and their tities are poppin out their blouse with caked on make-up lip stick with fake fingernails, short shirt showing off their belly switching their hips so hard it might slip the disc in it soon....but smiling is promiscuous....right
Im glad me and my friends always say thank you, we were raised in korea and manners are huge here, men to men, men to woman etc. Respect is a big thing here. Never have I ever seen anyone give another person shit for doing a kind thing. But I will say, even if they are rude bc you did a kind thing, you do you, dint let someone stop you from being a kind person. They can be rotten on their own. Dont let them spread that to you.
I saw a guy on the bus breathing really hard the other day. I asked him if he was ok since he was wearing a mask. Before he could even turn his head to look at me, the woman with him popped off with, "hes fine, mind your damn business" Apparently even showing concern for a person is offensive to women
How many times you get that thank you though brotha? I bet not much. I’ve gone the extra mile to carry things for mothers with young children to a certain location and not received a simple thank you. So many women feel entitled to these acts of kindness from men because we are men but often give nothing in return.
True Story, about a year ago I was walking into a crowded convenience store and held the door open for a woman, she gives me a bad look and says out loud for everyone to hear "I can get it myself" thank you in a hateful manner me and says I think I can get it myself. A few weeks later I'm walking in I just left the door closed behind me as a woman is walking through the parking lot about 10 feet from the door. Same crowded convenience store, different woman, she walks in and says out loud well "I guess chivalry is dead". And I said out loud for everyone to hear, "Yes it is dead, and feminism killed it". From that day forward I only hold doors open for children, elderly, and Men. The hell with these entitled idiots
If you smile it gives you many chance and choice in life and with different places and people of you smile you give good vibes and let people know your friendly frowning only gets you into fights or isolate you from people do he or she want to be bothered
I think the point is. We most times don’t even see the person. We could be shopping and someone, we didn’t even notice will randomly approach us and say SMILE 😃. For women, it happens all the time, and it’s weird at times. I can understand if u have eye contact and we don’t say hello and smile, then I could see the point of the argument.
@@CrystalJanelleTV the point is, even if it catches you off guard, it would seem as if a reasonable woman would be PLEASANTLY surprised but Black women are so bent on controlling all interactions they take it as a command or an unreasonable request and get offended. It should be a SMALL thing but not for Black women " Oh hell no. No he didnt"
No she isn't. She's informing you that a total stranger has no right nor dominion over people simply because they're female. Fact is, bm are NOT defending bw anyways so why are bw b!tching about protection from a total stranger when we have 2A rights is beyond me.
Bro when he said you called into the show specifically to complain about being asked to smile, this is crazy; I was so caught off guard lol. I wasn't even thinking about the fact that she did straight up call this guy to complain about that. That really put this whole thing into perspective for me.
What’s wrong with smiling ? I smile (at least try to) during most interactions just because I try to be a ray of sunshine ☀️ to people I encounter daily. It’s a social “obligation” of sorts as we interact in society … plus smiling makes ME feel better…and that’s the most important to me … 😂
I am a white woman, I live in NYC, married, middle age. Black men (like most men) are very friendly and cheerful, regularly making friendly small talk and yes, saying things like "I like your smile!". "Hey I like your dress!". Just nice. No ulterior motive. I always say something nice back. This is just normal life.
@@traestarz1 I don’t think she’s bitter. She’s actually shining a light on why she feels like not smiling or being friendly. As a boy I was taught a black man shouldn’t be smiling all the time. It makes him a mark. Even women will not take him seriously. I just shook it off and did my own thing. Who cares. Smiling releases endorphins, makes me feel better, and Helps me have a positive outlook on day to day life.
They can enjoy the man because they feel giving their man what is required is too hard..this is some real bull...if i had to do it over I WOULD NOT DATE A BLACK WOMAN..too much shit to deal with
A smile is a very powerful thing and one of the most basic tools we have as humans to project positivity. The beautiful thing about it is it's completely free to do. As the list of "offensive" actions becomes longer it's clear the women that believe in the list have become more aggressive and unhappy. Being feminine or carrying oneself in a more old school way isn't a weakness, it takes strength in todays world to fight against the factions of feminism that clearly don't have women's best interests at heart.
I'm a straight white man, people tell me to smile when I'm walking around looking grumpy. You know what i do? I SMILE AT THEM. Smiling produces endorphins, it makes you feel better. People are telling you to smile for your own sake, not for their pleasure.
YOU get it...I"m the same...a buddy did that all the time and I grinned at him.....I run my own business so usually have a million things on my mind and I'll give him a shit eating grin, we'd both laugh, and it'd lift both our spirits.
Making eye contact and smiling is the most basic level of simply being polite and respectful. Anyone who has spent more than 30 seconds in customer service knows this. Smiling on it's own is so important it's not unusual for people who interact with customers via phone only are often expected to smile during the entire call even though the customer can't see their face at all.
This is so sad. I enjoy the random engagement I recieve from BLACK men. I revel in walking through a door held open by a man. I usually don't give a Black Man a chance to ask for a smile. It's automatic for me.. It's like my duty. 😊It's not sexual. Or advancement. It's respect. It's a masculine feminine dance. We both walk away from that interaction feeling good about ourselves and receiving a boost to our M/F energies. A woman's job is to spread love.
Sad it only happens for black men. If a white woman only smiles for white men she’d be racist. Crazy for you to word that like you only have respect for black men. So if I hold the door for you and I’m white and respected you enough to do so then I still didn’t earn your respect? Odd. If it’s not sexual and you’re a good person why not smile at everyone? This is interesting to me.
@@moosedrummer1 I'm sorry you misread what I said. I spoke about how much I enjoy interacting with black men. They are my men. But I said I enjoy the niceties of men, like him holding the door for me, altogether. Don't worry, you'd get a smile too. I just wouldn't enjoy the dance as much as I do when the gentleman is black.
You get it my sister if women understood the role they played in just my growth as a man we would get way better results. When I was in college and first becoming a police officer in Atlanta. I had numerous occasions black women gave me a coat(not asking for me to return it) umbrella's (plural), and beanie knit cap/ hats (plural). One day I spoke to a sister while grabbing some milk. I said hello to this lady that clearly was not from our area as I was in a small town outside of Atlnta, GA. I commented that she had beautiful eyes without any sexual ambiguity. They crazy came out all over me. If I told you how many times I have said that to asian, latina america (native women included), or caucasian women without any craning of their neck shaking of their hands or heads, or hostility of any kind. I have stated for years we Black-Americans do need to, and want to encourge our people and ourselves for our people to be better than this. However, this starts with me/us/we (black man) and with you (black woman) as well.
Smile more! You look so much better when you smile. I love seeing smiling faces. Now that we have mask.... smile with your eyes and/or a quick cute little 👋. Spread love PEOPLE🙏🌹
Alot of times it be just that, and sometimes it comes from men who know you're out of their league!...... "I'm ugly so I know it's hard but you're beautiful at least smile"
@Chinon Chinan it's clear you dont understand! Then to say it's stupid that men get offended. What's stupid is that you think men are offended even less about smiling
@Chinon Chinan No one is doing what a stranger tells them to do baby thats where ur missing the point! The point is its not that deep to get mad or offended when a male is just being nice smh
Looking at this back now it’s really been eye opening. Because from women who are in their early 20s to mid or even 30s, they don’t smile no even on their social media pics, all you see is smirks or straight faces.🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Just some insight from someone that USED TO think that way: The "smile" unfortunately tends to come across as presumptuous when you don't know what they're going through. I think differently now and understand a little better now bc I'd had it explained to me, but I legit used to think people were actively being rude
A guy stopped in his car to let me cross the road, I gave him a big smile and thanked him and he said you are absolutely gorgeous. That was 20 years ago and it stayed with me. He made my day that day and since.
I'm on the train just getting off of work, business attire from head to toe, clean shaving, smelling good, looking like the first handsome man on the planet. All I did was look at this sister and gave her a half smile she gave me the doodoo face. we get on the train and she's sitting with Brad and I can see all the molars in her teeth cuz she had her head back laughing, teeth running all over the train cuz he was telling her some corny jokes. I can't make this up.
I like this interaction because coming from a family that day good morning good evening and good night it used to perplex me when women get mad when you say these things or you should smile more your beautiful they would rip your head off
This was an interesting conversation. I don’t understand why it’s an issue to smile especially at your own kind. Black men seem to go through just as much as the black woman. I am Puerto Rican, Native American, Jamaican, & Irish. So some black women have felt that I shouldn’t have an opinion on the open f*ckery we ALL witness just because I am mixed. I’m kind, and nurturing. Smiling could make someone else’s day. This was wild af to listen to. I thought it was scripted for a moment bc I couldn’t believe it. My fiancé is Native American and Dominican but was shocked by what he was listening to as well.
I am a black women and another black women told me she thought I was fake because I was happy all the time.🤦🏽♀️ Happy women smile all day and are pleasant. I meditate daily always in deep thought and smile 24/7 shit I smile in my sleep (so my husband said).😉❤️🥰🧘🏾♀️☀️
@@ascendingvegan2004 You got 2 things raising your PRANA: Meditation + Veg food. Ones base VIBES change; food & mind are connected. But Meditation can tune anything eventually.
@@africanavenger5786 I have to comment...you have made the best sense of all. I have been struggling reading these comments as they put all black women in the same basket. They know not all white and other races of women smile all the time...that is ridiculous. Also, when a lot of them do smile there is usually more to it... It's about changing your circle for real you're right. Black men and women that support this "black women don't deserve our protection" rhetoric is dangerous, soul destroying and damaging. No "negative" behaviour from an individual or group of black men could stop me from loving and protecting our men. It would never happen. This is breeding a generation of black men (boys if they support this), that hate black women so much they won't protect them whatsoever; forgetting that this extends to their own daughter's, sister's, mother's etc. I'm baffled... if there is so much distrust and hate for us by so many black men for simply not smiling at them, how did they manage to forgive/bury their hate for white/other races of women that have lied and had them brutally lynched and imprisoned to this very day? Where does this "trust" come from after all that has been said and done and is still being said and done? If they really peeled back the layers of what she was really trying to say they'd (maybe not), have a better understanding of where she was coming from. Black women's lives/existence is no way as simple as that of other's especially the white woman. Before we even leave our homes we have to brace ourselves and put our amour on. The same goes for black men... why can't we pull one another up instead of tearing each other down? How many white and other races of men have channels doing this to their women? We need to stop this madness as it makes us look like the imbeciles the whole world believes us to be. I used to feel uplifted and safe when i saw black men, now very sadly i feel unsure of how they will receive me.... i get nervous now and fear making eye contact as i've had some ugly glares and comments. The thing is i am naturally bubbly and smiley and still i get the bad vibes from some...tears me apart. i have to stop watching this toxic rubbish as it is soul destroying. Thanks again. Apologies for the long comment! Peace, Love and Blessings from the UK :-)
I had a day in midtown NYC. A 60 year old woman said to me,"smile handsome i got the virus and i still smile everyday" she was talking about AIDs. Shit really put things in perspective for me and from then on i chose to take her advice from that day forward. Women get offended by the dumbest shit.
She really said that putting a smile on her face means she’s for the streets🤦🏽♀️ LOLLL if that’s the case then I’m just ran thruuu because all I do is smile and laugh😂😂🤷🏽♀️
If u get offended if a man tell you to smile 10 times out of 10 you got a attitude to start with !! She legit made my damn head hurt listening to her 🥴
I am mixed, and thought that I wasn't attracted to dark skinned women. However after listening to KS and the ladies that join. I realized since elementary school, the majority of dark skinned girls/women were very abrasive, very defensive and offended by things not to be offended by. It was never about race.
@@devanteswang93 LOL! Now that is such a joke !!! He has so many Red Flags they can not even wave in the air..definetly do not need that kind to find out anything for me. I know why i love being single by choice .. Thank You for the thought anyway..💝💝
To all men....Please don't stop! I know its discouraging but there are plenty of WOMEN that appreciates all of your efforts and Say thank you with a smile
The minute she volunteered direct info that "she's had people tell her that she comes across as unapproachable just simply by the way she looks" this convo begun going downhill from there.
Correct. The funny thing, back in my early college days, a very attractive half Spanish, half German chick got enough guts to tell me that she's been attracted to me for a while but I looked intimidating, so she didn't approach me. How did I handle that? I didn't get offended. I looked at myself in the mirror, made some adjustments, and notice more people, including women, approached me more. Hopefully sistas understand this simple principle
I’ve had black men to tell me to smile and I realized that I must have had a frown on my face or I was looking stone faced; but I really appreciated that! I want my outside to reflect my inside! BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
Lots of men when they say that are more than willing to at least attempt to turn your day around even if it's just getting you coffee or another minor gesture. Some of you women are missing out because you're too far in your own head. They're just commenting that you look upset without being overly committal. Also forcing a smile has been known to help make people cheer up slightly. Cheers to you and other women that don't over think a gesture only meant as kindness and an icebreaker.
I was told to smile by a man once. My mother had just died.... Many times when I've been told, not asked, told to smile, it's been a precursor to bring holla-ed at, or being followed, or even getting groped. It's been happening since I was 13, growing up in New York City, and it's a problem...
You also have to consider that maybe that man may be trying to create a better day for himself as well. If that man thought you to be beautiful, your smile could quite literally take him off the cliff that he’s hanging on. Not only is that man freeing you from a posture that you may not know you even had, you are also freeing him with your beauty and kindness.
A smile is free, give them away often as you can as you never know when it could be at a time that someone really needs it or you could just make someone’s day.
Bruh I work in customer service and this white woman looked teary I asked her if she was OK and she snapped and me saying I was condensing and embarrassing her because that's her natural face 😳 from that day I stayed away from white women
Im a 29yo black woman and I SMILE EVERYDAY. She's broken inside and I'm PRAYING for her. Be blessed girl. Gather yourself and smile! It'll make you feel better in times of trouble
And you have a nice smile. People would rather see your pleasant smile than her miserable sourpuss, any day. There are physiological studies which prove smiling puts others at ease. Like if you're a boss at your job and you enter the office with a smile, it puts everyone at ease & boosts morale/productivity. Whereas if you come into the office with a scowl & sourpuss, employees gonna be like "Oh damn....it's gonna be a long day", and they're gonna be stressed out & on edge all day. A smile also give a *MUCH* better first impression on people. Keep smiling, girl. 😊 When you're smilin' When you're smilin' The whole world, it smiles with you. When you're laughin' Babe, when you're laughin' Well, the sun comes shinin' through. (from "When you're smilin'", written by Larry Shay and Joe Goodwin)
@@TownBizznizzJS Thats facts! I always get respect and people stay doing nice things for me......I'm the same way to others tho. We only get what we put out
@@darrylrevok9936 Thats true! I read this book called FISH about boosting moral. I just remember as a kid my grandmother telling me "Its easier to smile than to frown" AND it keeps you looking young. I can get hecka deep on here rn this makes me wanna do a response video
I smile a lot! People call me smiley but I can tell you how many black woman have told me to stop always smiling in men’s face. That’s why I get taken from stupid. I smile still and I engage because you ever know what men especially are going through. I think women make life beautiful and when I can make someone day I will always smile and say hi!
A smile lights up a room. Everywhere I go I make sure to smile. I understand black women hate me, but I will always make sure to love my self. Love the self to find love, learn the self to learn others.
I smile every morning being a single man, no kids, in my own house, money right, peace quiet and freedom. No stress, do what I want, when I want...you dang right I’m smiling. 🙂
I'm on the same way and it's astonishing how many women are like WOW you have your life together. Well I'm glad I didn't just fall int having children right after highschool and focused on going to college getting a career, traveling the world etc. I'm seeing this regularly in my dating scene... Many are surprised that there are even men out here keeping to the basic format. I'm usually dating women with children that I let them know it isn't going any further because I don't have kids it breaks their hearts but it is what it is. Tried the step dad role once never again.
This was amazing and sad.. High Value people smile, are mostly civil, & project a positive mindset. Even IF they are "sharks". How can she not realize this? Don't do it for others do it for ourselves, to raise our positivity & chances for success.
I interact with 300 people everyday (I'm a man) at work and I smile and say hello a good morning to EVERYBODY!! and I'm the happiest person in the world and I can only imagine the joy I spread. Life is beautiful
Yes you are a man. Yes women of other races smile. The difference is when a blk woman smiles at a blk man the man seems to take it as an invitation to invade your space and say vulgar things to you if you ignore him and he follows you around. A blk man would NEVER harass women of other races this way. Blk men know a blk woman would not call the police on him. NO SMILES FROM ME.
I'm starting to think they like being treated like dirt. "Slap noise" "did you slap me?" Yes you want another one "slap noise again" her: "I love you Kevin" and smiles. After she said asking her to smile is offencive lmao
It may not have been the best moment for jest, but I think the young woman was trying to make lite of the insult. And she did so with class. It is true some are comfortable being treated like shit, because expecting them to respect themselves seems like TOO MUCH WORK to them. But I did not get that vibe from her. Kevin just got a little triggered and then trigger happy.
To the girl in this video, you should smile more often!! You have a beautiful smile so why not show it off? Hope this brightens your day!! Please take care and stay blessed
As a black man listening to this was heartbreaking ....how many of us fellas have held the door and said “hi” and got the nastiest, ugliest, unappreciative look, much less a hello or thank you. 😔
It’s a fuckin shame bro I kno EXACTLY what u talkin trust we go through it but in the end we get what want 😎
The sad part is that they don't behave like that towards men of other races.
That’s just called being ugly
@Demond B - I am a black woman and I can say that I have NEVER given ANY man (black or otherwise) a nasty look for holding the door for me (or any other polite gesture). IJS I don’t know 🤷🏽♀️ what the heck is wrong with some (or most) black women.
Facts. I’ve gotten “The fu*k you looking at? Fu*k!” from women. We were in the dollar store so many be that’s why lmao but 🤦🏾♂️ I don’t engage with people for that reason. I don’t want to offend anyone, particularly our women because they’re usually ready to turn up or call someone on me over a look or whatever.
Smiling is promiscuous, but sleeping around and having kids out of wedlock isn't? What a world we live in huh?
Ouch
Its called open minded nowadays bruh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Amen
So u talking about future right? Cuz that man got all kinds of baby mommas out of wedlock
C'MON WITH THESE FACTS!
Some have no problem making a baby with somebody, but ask them about getting married?
"Let me finish college first." 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
I heard it today. Someone asked, "you look upset - is everything alright?" And they responded, "it's 2022 stop asking women to smile." He said, "I didn't say to smile - I asked if you're alright."
🤦♀️
But, in reality, she effectively answered the question. Something *is* wrong with her.
That’s bad
@@Kimberly-tx7nnyou're definitely part of the problem... Because one thing you need to look at is when he states she walks around with a resting *beep* face she smiles... So a person is polite and engaging we get attitude but call her a beep and we get playful smiling manor RIGHT!!!! funny how women interpret engagement...
@@Kimberly-tx7nnAnd the most you could come up with is because a person asked you to smile often there is some type of problem... And how many times a person gets asked it becomes a issue my god where did we fail....
This reminds of when I was in college and applied for a job standing in line, not online, it was 2001. The HR person had a line of people applying for any job to get into this company, I was fourth in line, the HR person said ‘you know why I picked you?’ I responded “no”, she said ‘because you were the first one that smiled and dressed like you wanted the job’. That was Costco Wholesale, before that I was an insecure twenty year old. After that smiled more because people paid to shop there. I noticed it became infectious and I smiled more outside of work and my opportunities with women in school and other places improved because my overall demeanor changed / improved because I smiled more. I am where I am today because of college job and it started with a smile.
Well done Sir. 👏👏
What an encouraging testimony of what a genuine smile can do for someone's life
I’m happy for you
Thank you for smiling! I love to smile, too!
opened a door for a young black lady entering the store once... and she said, "uh... ain't nothing wrong with my hands." i just smiled at her and said, "this is what my parents taught me... have a nice day."
on the way OUT of the store, i opened the door for an elderly lady, and she said, "why thank you young man... i hope you have a nice day."
these young women are lost... and say, "chivalry is dead," but they're carrying the murder weapon.
I did the same thing once, but the girl made the mistake of saying her shit before getting to the door. I had time to slam it in her face. When she got in a rage I told her I'd have done that to any man who had spoken to me in that tone and asked her what equality felt like. Apparently, she didn't appreciate the sentiment at all.
Everytime I'm out and a man holds the door for me I always say "thank you." Some women don't respect men who respect them.
This is some crazy shit , that this conversation happens and that it's about smiling ,somehow , somebody somewhere has managed to turn the smile on a human face into a controversy and some kind of assault, WE ARE SCREWED. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT HE SAID IT IS , CRAZY, AND U DONT HAVE TO LIKE HIM OR WHAT HE DOES , TO SEE THAT ITS TRUE.WHY WOULD U HAVE TO ARGUE WITH SOMEONE ,ABOUT A CRAPPY ATTITUDE BEING A BAD TRAIT. HOW CAN SOMONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND DEFEND THAT POSITION, ITS UNTENABLE.
This mindset is not new , theres always been just nasty people , the difference now is it championed and defended by so many and to make it seem that this should be the norm,I bet their grandmas smile and they love it , cos recieving and giving a smile makes u feel good , NEWS FLASH , ITS ONE OF THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT BEING HUMAN, this is sooooooo ignorant but its pervasive unfortunately.
@@PowerPuffGurl86 Me too, I say, "Thank you, Sir." Simply because he was polite to me and I'm appreciating him being gracious to me. When did being Ladies and Gentlemen go by the wayside? This is exhausting.
Notice how she only smiled when something offensive happened like KS doing the slapping sound effect. These women are wired incorrectly, they smile when someone means to offend them but get mad when you are polite to them
They call good evil and evil good
Good observation
@@sunnywaffles That's the Word (bible) right there!!!!!
Noticed that too...the dysfunction is real
Therapy.
Offended by a smile. Now imagine everything else that offends them. EVERYTHING.
😅😅
I passed a random guy one time, he said, "Hey Ms Lady, it's gonna be alright, smile." I smiled back and thanked him. Sometimes you are thinking of things, but that doesn't mean carry the thought on your face.
He snapped me out of my thoughts, and that made me smile.
Key, just gonna be honest here. As a black man oftentimes when i walk passed white women, they generally smile. But oftentimes when i walk passed black women, i don't get the same. Its just being honest.
@@cadencarlisle3772 I don't agree. I see them all happy, sad, mad. I will say I love life and enjoy the sun, I'm definitely more happier than not. Best wishes ❤️
yee sir you're Absolutely right i get the same results smg
Smiling, supposedly can produce some joy hormones. I was told this by a woman, telling me to smile, lol.
How TF did this even become gendered
Once upon a time a man asked a beautiful woman to marry him.
She said, "No."
And he lived happily ever after.
HOW MANY TIMES ARE YOU GOING TO SAY
@@someone-mm5jz that guy is lame as hell he got defensive when i said the same thing lol
@@someone-mm5jz shit its the first time i seen it
😂😂😂😂
Bahahahahaaa!!
Trust me ladies, smiling, looking well kept, and not carrying masculine energy can change the encounters with men you have throughout your day!! ☺️
Tru dat 💯
Amen
Absolutely
I'm married but may not appear married in public when out shopping and encounter women doing the same when their changes for some odd reason...I just rack my wedding band across my face to indicate I have intentions of crossing their path. Moreover, I've have mothers of young women approaching me to see if I was available while the young lady is present, but will begin a relevant conversation once noticing my wedding band.
100 💯
As a Black man there's nothing more inspiring, than having a beautiful black sista smile at me . It's not sexual, it's just good cultural relation . We use to have such a beautiful way of communicating with one another .
Her: “I have a man and I smile at him regularly”
Also her: “if black men didn’t talk to me I’d be sad”
Yup 🤦🏾♂️
She has a learning disability
I picked that up too
"Having an Onlyfools is honorable and liberating, but smiling pleasantly is promiscuous." -women 2021
I went to school in the ghetto from 6th grade to 12th grade dealing with little girls who turn into animals like this..... I 100% understand her logic and it's a mixture of factors that produce functional insanity. We have feeling unsafe, institutionalized White supremacy, Feeling out of control, trauma, false self empowerment indoctrination, Ignorance, emotionally derived perception, personalization and over eaggeration mixed into one homogenized mess. If you take the time to understand what she's saying it makes sense from the standpoint of someone who is totally a victim, Powerless, out of control and psychological unsafe within her own mind. There is no reasoning this out because a mind that has acquired this much damaged isn't working on healthy nueral circuitry. There is no separating fact from fiction because the trauma of growing up being a victim has left a mark on the identity of the being. Her spirit is not In control of the prefrontal cortex. The defensive ego that is driven on lower chakra energy and stimulus response Is in charge of higher mental function when it should not be. What we are witnessing is classical and operant conditioning at its finest. Remember, a damaged mind from trauma will invariably produced mental, emotional, physical and perceptual distortions of an extraordinary magnitude. Listen with care, love compassion and also avoid this type of being like the plague. 🤝🏿🙏🏾🤲🏿👐🏿🙌🏿
🤦🏻♂️
@@spiritguidenajee7106 a lot of what you said is very plausible but you lost all credibility the moment you tried blaming white people for her actions
@@sond.lollipop8919 🤔 clearly you understand very little about the psychological trauma caused by institutionalized white supremacy so I can definitely understand why your mind would result to the notion of blaming white people ...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're soo funny...
I know right!? Smiling isn’t considered to friendly or pleasant but rather it’s rude and assumed it’s only being done because you see them as a “sexual object” or “a piece of meat”, holding the door open isn’t considered to be a nice gentlemanly thing to do or a polite gesture, but rather a sexist and/or even “oppressive” act, and yet those same women will use onlyfools, and show every sexual private part of their body for cash and considered to be empowering and perfectly moral. Our world is as backwards, lost, and morally bankrupt as I’ve ever seen it. And unfortunately, we haven’t seen nothing yet, because it’s gonna get faaaar worse than this…
I'm a Nigerian, our ladies smile with their hearts out and we love them for that. We even communicate with smiles, smiling is a sign of communication
Yes, I am not Nigerian but I am from Algeria and I think smiling can mean thank you or good or even hello. It just a nice gesture.
That is beautiful
@@babe8917 Exactly, I can smile at you doesn't mean I want to come to you to have a conversation.
@@GodofwarKratos14 I agree, it is just being cordial and approachable. That conversation was exhausting. She just doesn’t like people telling her what to do, especially a black man, even if it is actually just a nice gesture. Just yesterday I was on my way to work and a guy’s dog was being playful, I smiled at the owner telling him I have to catch my train and he smiled during the exchange. That wasn’t flirting. It was just a human interaction.
@@babe8917 yeeh you right, a black man telling her to smile is the issue there. I don't know what she must have gone through, and I don't live in the US to understand the relationship between black women and men. Nigeria men and women interact differently like the black folks in the US, like what you did to the dog owner. You were just having a conversation no flirting, I think people just overthink too much and they get all defensive. I understand the world isn't safe but life is fun to live in too.
When I run in my neighborhood, I smile at everyone I see, including my mailman. It's not weird, if just means I'm cordial and not an angry, bitter woman. All of this over a smile.
Smile, though your heart is aching. Smile, even though it's breaking. When there are clouds in the sky you'll get by .....
Girl just say you're a pick me
I'm on the autism spectrum & my entire life I thought smiling was insincere & ridiculous. Beginning about 2 years ago I woke up with a changed attitude. My goal is to smile & exchange pleasantries on a daily. Black white, men women, young old, hood bougie, my life has changed drastically. First time in my life I'm not on antidepressants. A smile can change people's attitude & it doesn't cost anything 🌺
Similar situation
Great advice 👍👍
It’s crazy how I’ve been told, “you’re too nice” because I smile and say hello to people. Smiling is free therapy. It brightens not only your day but the other persons.
How can you be "too nice"? People like that just tells me they enjoy people being rough and rugged with them. Keep doing what you are doing, sweetheart. This brotha appreciates it.
@@elhajjmalikel6266 I agree. How tf can you be too kind? The world needs kindness now more than ever. And considering the suicide and anxiety rates, people need happy people. We need to get rid of this mindset that happiness or kindness is weakness. Feeling good is literally strength for your body and mind.
I would never say that
Well Said
I mean yes, however, if you have a cruddy life, even anti-depressants are going to do so much. If you need therapy, you need therapy. And a good therapist too, not the ones that tell you to hide from your issues "because you're triggered."
If she’s not feeling u or interested, everything you do will be offensive.
Bingo 💯💯
Damn i’m not interested in her jus walking 🧍🏿♀️🚶🏿down the side walk and ask her to smile 😊 what’s with the attitude 😾
@@notfriendly9551 lol you can hold the door for a female and she’ll give you a stank face look.
@@lanticcitynoruber140 women get offended now if you call them a female??? Wtf 🤬 is wrong with them?
i said well when y’all fill out an application for a job and it ask what’s gender are u what do y’all do in that situation? Get made at the company for asking are u a female 🤷🏾♂️
@@notfriendly9551 if u asking random woman walking down the street to smile you a weirdo
This is blowing my mind when I was in Iraq 🇮🇶 and Afghanistan 🇦🇫 I had women who barely spoke English or didn't speak it. every young girl and grown woman they all smiled at us American service members and we was at war car bombing suicide bombers and just straight fire fights in the streets. They all had time to wave and smile even with all the chaos and confusion.
Selah... I'm meditating on the picture you just described. Your job & difficulties my have seemed alot harder if they were scowling/frowning at you
I use to have this mentality in my mid-20 and I had to check myself. Even with a man you should still offer a smile. You never know how the smile can turn someone's day around. We're so conditioned to ignore one another's feelings and emotions.
She is not offended by being asked to smile, she is offended by the person who asked her. Because if is a good looking guy she would show her wisdom teeth.
truth
Rofl
😂😂😂
Lmao
💀💀💀
He said "Don't ask a Black Man to care about ur traumas when u can't even smile at us"👏👏👏🤣 Fucking love this guy👍👍😎
Fr fr bro he was spot on with this
Facts lol
Nothing but straight facts. The Godfather does it again
He's my new favorite guy on youtube.
@@cennon facts
This man continues to live on! Very important to smile. It's a trait that all people should embrace.
If you look for a reason to be offended then you'll find Something in every single interaction
"U can't ask me to smile but if you see me being harmed you better protect me" - Modern women
and when they ask call me stevie wonder cause i aint seen nun 😂
Can't ask them to smile because it's "promiscuous"......
Meanwhile they are walking around with the bottom of their ass hanging out and their tities are poppin out their blouse with caked on make-up lip stick with fake fingernails, short shirt showing off their belly switching their hips so hard it might slip the disc in it soon....but smiling is promiscuous....right
I always tell my sister when she gets herself into a dangerous situation she can avoid "Just remember I'm not your bodyguard"
Half of them act like men.
I’m team keep walking and let their independent asses be independent
A smile is the simplest, yet one of the most effective ways to make the world a better place.
That smile in the pfp makes my day better
Yeesss!! Smiling is letting Our Almighty father in Heaven know you're thankful for another blessing he's given you.
@Eoghan I'll bet you weren't smiling when you texted that.
See?!
Steve, that is the most remarkable statement yet!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@subjugation G0lDen GOD Worshipping this is such a foolish comment
Im glad me and my friends always say thank you, we were raised in korea and manners are huge here, men to men, men to woman etc. Respect is a big thing here. Never have I ever seen anyone give another person shit for doing a kind thing. But I will say, even if they are rude bc you did a kind thing, you do you, dint let someone stop you from being a kind person. They can be rotten on their own. Dont let them spread that to you.
"It doesn't sound crazy to you cause you're the crazy one." 😂🤣😂 And another nugget of wisdom from the Godfather that went right over their head.
I saw a guy on the bus breathing really hard the other day. I asked him if he was ok since he was wearing a mask. Before he could even turn his head to look at me, the woman with him popped off with, "hes fine, mind your damn business"
Apparently even showing concern for a person is offensive to women
They are just miserable, when your miserable just existing is taxing I guess.
@@czarface5615 . I swear I feel like I can't be myself. I'm a friendly guy. And I swear if a woman is anywhere near my age. I ignore them. Its crazy
@@bribricruise3256 White women are the same way. Don't be fooled
@@ConstantChinner to bring up another race to make ur point is pure ignorance
Welcome to the New world order
“It doesn’t sound crazy to you cause you’re the crazy one.” 😂
😂🤣
I hit the floor 😂🤣
Maaan, please!!! 🤣
Bang bang bang bang bang!!!!!!!!!!
😂😂😂☠️
I needed this confirmation...I'm so for this message
This sister feels like (for whatever reason) smiling is a sign of weakness. I takes more than one counseling session for her.
I hold the door open for any women I’m around. I don’t expect anything in return, but a smile and a thank you goes a long way.
Courtesy is free...
100% right.. I do settle on a simple nod of acknowledgement or a monotone thanks...
I treat men and women almost equally. But I treat them all with respect and kindness unless they give me reason to not.
How many times you get that thank you though brotha? I bet not much. I’ve gone the extra mile to carry things for mothers with young children to a certain location and not received a simple thank you. So many women feel entitled to these acts of kindness from men because we are men but often give nothing in return.
True Story, about a year ago I was walking into a crowded convenience store and held the door open for a woman, she gives me a bad look and says out loud for everyone to hear "I can get it myself" thank you in a hateful manner me and says I think I can get it myself.
A few weeks later I'm walking in I just left the door closed behind me as a woman is walking through the parking lot about 10 feet from the door. Same crowded convenience store, different woman, she walks in and says out loud well "I guess chivalry is dead". And I said out loud for everyone to hear, "Yes it is dead, and feminism killed it".
From that day forward I only hold doors open for children, elderly, and Men. The hell with these entitled idiots
Kevin is so good at staying on topic which shows me he’s not driven by emotions
Every time they go off base he stops them in their tracks.
if you rersponding emotionally you cant react mentally.thats why
Black people in this country takes in western culture because African people are generally friendly and love smiling when greeting
Smiling change energy in the room its addicted.
He runs his show like judge Judy runs her courtroom
If you smile it gives you many chance and choice in life and with different places and people of you smile you give good vibes and let people know your friendly frowning only gets you into fights or isolate you from people do he or she want to be bothered
I'm white and married and I smile and say thank you if a black man (or any man) opens the door for me😮💨
She's fighting and defending a Black womans right to be unpleasant.
I think the point is. We most times don’t even see the person. We could be shopping and someone, we didn’t even notice will randomly approach us and say SMILE 😃. For women, it happens all the time, and it’s weird at times. I can understand if u have eye contact and we don’t say hello and smile, then I could see the point of the argument.
@@CrystalJanelleTV the point is, even if it catches you off guard, it would seem as if a reasonable woman would be PLEASANTLY surprised but Black women are so bent on controlling all interactions they take it as a command or an unreasonable request and get offended. It should be a SMALL thing but not for Black women " Oh hell no. No he didnt"
Deep catch
No she isn't. She's informing you that a total stranger has no right nor dominion over people simply because they're female. Fact is, bm are NOT defending bw anyways so why are bw b!tching about protection from a total stranger when we have 2A rights is beyond me.
@@q.t.gamingfamily God damn sis. If I speak to you and you speak back, in your mind, some type of way, it implies that I have DOMINION over you?????
Notice she only smiles when she’s offended by Kevin..every single time. This sister definitely needs therapy.
She needs Reverand Ike.
Bro when he said you called into the show specifically to complain about being asked to smile, this is crazy; I was so caught off guard lol. I wasn't even thinking about the fact that she did straight up call this guy to complain about that. That really put this whole thing into perspective for me.
What’s wrong with smiling ? I smile (at least try to) during most interactions just because I try to be a ray of sunshine ☀️ to people I encounter daily.
It’s a social “obligation” of sorts as we interact in society … plus smiling makes ME feel better…and that’s the most important to me … 😂
I am a white woman, I live in NYC, married, middle age. Black men (like most men) are very friendly and cheerful, regularly making friendly small talk and yes, saying things like "I like your smile!". "Hey I like your dress!". Just nice. No ulterior motive. I always say something nice back. This is just normal life.
Right.. being friendly costs nothing and makes for a harmonious society.
This may be why white women end up missing so often. 🤷🏾♀️I was raised in Brooklyn in the 70s. I was not raised to smile at random men I did not know.
Dr. Bvo......Well I SURE Believe THAT, A Smile Should NEVER Hurt ANYONE, EXCEPT......You Know WHO!!!!!!
@@BklynBabe girl it’s a FUCKING SMILE! Not a whole damn conversation you don’t even have to stop walking you just bitter as hell
@@traestarz1 I don’t think she’s bitter. She’s actually shining a light on why she feels like not smiling or being friendly. As a boy I was taught a black man shouldn’t be smiling all the time. It makes him a mark. Even women will not take him seriously. I just shook it off and did my own thing. Who cares. Smiling releases endorphins, makes me feel better, and Helps me have a positive outlook on day to day life.
All these women say “I have a man.” But they always calling Kevin. Enjoy your man and shut up.
So true 🤣🤣🤣
They are gigantic liars. They have no men.
Chuuuuuuuuch lol
They can enjoy the man because they feel giving their man what is required is too hard..this is some real bull...if i had to do it over I WOULD NOT DATE A BLACK WOMAN..too much shit to deal with
👊🏾😆😆😆
A smile is a very powerful thing and one of the most basic tools we have as humans to project positivity. The beautiful thing about it is it's completely free to do. As the list of "offensive" actions becomes longer it's clear the women that believe in the list have become more aggressive and unhappy. Being feminine or carrying oneself in a more old school way isn't a weakness, it takes strength in todays world to fight against the factions of feminism that clearly don't have women's best interests at heart.
I had random woman walk past me one day she said "Hello" and she smiled...that simple act made her look so amazing
I'm a straight white man, people tell me to smile when I'm walking around looking grumpy. You know what i do? I SMILE AT THEM.
Smiling produces endorphins, it makes you feel better. People are telling you to smile for your own sake, not for their pleasure.
True
YOU get it...I"m the same...a buddy did that all the time and I grinned at him.....I run my own business so usually have a million things on my mind and I'll give him a shit eating grin, we'd both laugh, and it'd lift both our spirits.
I don’t like smiling, it’s not my personality.
@@gracex9286 Ok.
@@gracex9286 miserable is not a personality trait
Smiling by itself is one of ANY woman's most attractive qualities.
Anybody's most attractive feature.
It sure is.
I’m a large muscular white guy and big black girls smile at me alllll the time.
Just sayin…
Except for that evil smile or smirks that some women have, like nothings ever gonna happen to them. That cocky ass attitude.
@@kingdomgorillastudios983 More so a woman’s. A woman’s main value is her beauty, a man’s is his career.
Making eye contact and smiling is the most basic level of simply being polite and respectful. Anyone who has spent more than 30 seconds in customer service knows this. Smiling on it's own is so important it's not unusual for people who interact with customers via phone only are often expected to smile during the entire call even though the customer can't see their face at all.
Making eye contact is a tricky one. In most nine white cultures you do not look an elder in the eyes. That is respect
Kevin Laid good work for a lot of these missed guide that women out here. His videos can teach forever
This is so sad. I enjoy the random engagement I recieve from BLACK men. I revel in walking through a door held open by a man. I usually don't give a Black Man a chance to ask for a smile. It's automatic for me.. It's like my duty. 😊It's not sexual. Or advancement. It's respect. It's a masculine feminine dance. We both walk away from that interaction feeling good about ourselves and receiving a boost to our M/F energies. A woman's job is to spread love.
Sad it only happens for black men. If a white woman only smiles for white men she’d be racist. Crazy for you to word that like you only have respect for black men. So if I hold the door for you and I’m white and respected you enough to do so then I still didn’t earn your respect? Odd. If it’s not sexual and you’re a good person why not smile at everyone? This is interesting to me.
@@moosedrummer1 I'm sorry you misread what I said. I spoke about how much I enjoy interacting with black men. They are my men. But I said I enjoy the niceties of men, like him holding the door for me, altogether. Don't worry, you'd get a smile too. I just wouldn't enjoy the dance as much as I do when the gentleman is black.
@@adrian.knowsitall actually you emphasized BLACK men and never mentioned any other or all men so I don’t see how I misread.
But I do respect your preferences.
You get it my sister if women understood the role they played in just my growth as a man we would get way better results. When I was in college and first becoming a police officer in Atlanta. I had numerous occasions black women gave me a coat(not asking for me to return it) umbrella's (plural), and beanie knit cap/ hats (plural). One day I spoke to a sister while grabbing some milk. I said hello to this lady that clearly was not from our area as I was in a small town outside of Atlnta, GA. I commented that she had beautiful eyes without any sexual ambiguity. They crazy came out all over me. If I told you how many times I have said that to asian, latina america (native women included), or caucasian women without any craning of their neck shaking of their hands or heads, or hostility of any kind. I have stated for years we Black-Americans do need to, and want to encourge our people and ourselves for our people to be better than this. However, this starts with me/us/we (black man) and with you (black woman) as well.
Love how she only smiled when Kevin 'insults' her (Slap Sound Effect/Resting B Face)... but think smiling is offensive. Wow.
Yo thats hilarious 😂 😂
Message‼️
Unfortunately that's how it is.
that says a LOT
I thought I only was the only one who pick that up
genuinely i smile from my heart, which is my resting face.. and youll be amazed at how many men compliment me for my smile,,
That ending was epic. Salute my brothers
It's not about smiling; it's about being pleasant to be around.
A smile shows one as being a pleasant person to be around.
...and approachable. If you want to make friends you must first show yourself friendly.
It is amazing how they really don't get it and actually get offended.
When she was cursed at, she smiled and laughed. It was genuine. This is madness
Madness? THIS IS SPARTA!
@@eliporter3980 hell yea
I noticed that too. 🤔
They are crazy
She admits it at 06:37 "you not wrong Kevin ", but damm....it took a whole debate to get that honesty out of her.
Smile more! You look so much better when you smile. I love seeing smiling faces. Now that we have mask.... smile with your eyes and/or a quick cute little 👋.
Spread love PEOPLE🙏🌹
I work with a bunch of single black nurses and wonder why they are single because they are beautiful and financially ok. Now I understand…
Whenever i had a guy to tell me to smile I never get offended because I think guys dont like seeing beautiful women looking sad or mad
Alot of times it be just that, and sometimes it comes from men who know you're out of their league!...... "I'm ugly so I know it's hard but you're beautiful at least smile"
@Chinon Chinan it's clear you dont understand! Then to say it's stupid that men get offended. What's stupid is that you think men are offended even less about smiling
@Chinon Chinan No one is doing what a stranger tells them to do baby thats where ur missing the point! The point is its not that deep to get mad or offended when a male is just being nice smh
So is it ok for ugly women to be sad? Pls stop only focusing on " beautiful ppl" . So superficial.
@@lilikaramirez1848 nobody said anything about ugly women but you specifically pointed that out....superficial much! Smh
Asking or wanting a man to make 6 figures is not demanding but a quick smile is very demanding. Ladies make that make since ! 🤡
Sense and they always have a victim mentality
A man is successful - women most affected .
They're not ladies. They're just girls in grown women bodies.
They don’t go off of sense they go off of feelings and emotions
Lmaaaooo at the 🤡!!!!
Looking at this back now it’s really been eye opening. Because from women who are in their early 20s to mid or even 30s, they don’t smile no even on their social media pics, all you see is smirks or straight faces.🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Low self esteem women are always in a bad mood
A lot of modern women think it’s a game until they realize they have nobody but a dog.
Or cats.
Or a cat and boxed wine😁
Invest in pet food. $CHWY
Exactly
She looked so pretty when she smiled and laughed at what you said, Kevin
If a man tells you “smile beautiful” it’s because you look like you’re having a bad day and he doesn’t want to be intrusive.
And he may be trying to break the ice without saying something that all guys say
Just some insight from someone that USED TO think that way: The "smile" unfortunately tends to come across as presumptuous when you don't know what they're going through. I think differently now and understand a little better now bc I'd had it explained to me, but I legit used to think people were actively being rude
@@r.rich7382 BINGO
What’s wrong w these women!?!?!
💯💯💯💯👍🏼
A guy stopped in his car to let me cross the road, I gave him a big smile and thanked him and he said you are absolutely gorgeous. That was 20 years ago and it stayed with me. He made my day that day and since.
When a women smiles it just sends a message that shes approachable or has a pleasant demeanor.
When I hold the door for someone and they don't say "thank you", I tell them they dropped something outside so they can go back out the door🤷🏾♂️
LMFAO This is what im doing from now on
I am so going to do this!
Ill be using that
🤣😂
I'm gonna remember this & use it. Thanks for the idea!
"yes i slapped you, you want another one? " * SLAP* HOLY CRAP I DIED
His face was serious on the second slap lol
Bro for real, he really was super serious hahaha
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm on the train just getting off of work, business attire from head to toe, clean shaving, smelling good, looking like the first handsome man on the planet. All I did was look at this sister and gave her a half smile she gave me the doodoo face. we get on the train and she's sitting with Brad and I can see all the molars in her teeth cuz she had her head back laughing, teeth running all over the train cuz he was telling her some corny jokes. I can't make this up.
@@toussaintlouverture4820 SMH. That's a damn shame
I like this interaction because coming from a family that day good morning good evening and good night it used to perplex me when women get mad when you say these things or you should smile more your beautiful they would rip your head off
This was an interesting conversation. I don’t understand why it’s an issue to smile especially at your own kind. Black men seem to go through just as much as the black woman. I am Puerto Rican, Native American, Jamaican, & Irish. So some black women have felt that I shouldn’t have an opinion on the open f*ckery we ALL witness just because I am mixed. I’m kind, and nurturing. Smiling could make someone else’s day. This was wild af to listen to. I thought it was scripted for a moment bc I couldn’t believe it. My fiancé is Native American and Dominican but was shocked by what he was listening to as well.
I am a black women and another black women told me she thought I was fake because I was happy all the time.🤦🏽♀️ Happy women smile all day and are pleasant. I meditate daily always in deep thought and smile 24/7 shit I smile in my sleep (so my husband said).😉❤️🥰🧘🏾♀️☀️
You're living a good life, I'm happy for you
@@JoJo_dazia Get a new circle of people, people did the same thing to me and I got in a new circle. 10x better now :)
@@JoJo_dazia just like the person above said change your circle of people hun. It’s not you it’s them!!!
@@ascendingvegan2004 You got 2 things raising your PRANA: Meditation + Veg food. Ones base VIBES change; food & mind are connected. But Meditation can tune anything eventually.
@@africanavenger5786 I have to comment...you have made the best sense of all. I have been struggling reading these comments as they put all black women in the same basket.
They know not all white and other races of women smile all the time...that is ridiculous. Also, when a lot of them do smile there is usually more to it... It's about changing your circle for real you're right. Black men and women that support this "black women don't deserve our protection" rhetoric is dangerous, soul destroying and damaging. No "negative" behaviour from an individual or group of black men could stop me from loving and protecting our men. It would never happen. This is breeding a generation of black men (boys if they support this), that hate black women so much they won't protect them whatsoever; forgetting that this extends to their own daughter's, sister's, mother's etc. I'm baffled... if there is so much distrust and hate for us by so many black men for simply not smiling at them, how did they manage to forgive/bury their hate for white/other races of women that have lied and had them brutally lynched and imprisoned to this very day? Where does this "trust" come from after all that has been said and done and is still being said and done? If they really peeled back the layers of what she was really trying to say they'd (maybe not), have a better understanding of where she was coming from. Black women's lives/existence is no way as simple as that of other's especially the white woman. Before we even leave our homes we have to brace ourselves and put our amour on. The same goes for black men... why can't we pull one another up instead of tearing each other down? How many white and other races of men have channels doing this to their women? We need to stop this madness as it makes us look like the imbeciles the whole world believes us to be. I used to feel uplifted and safe when i saw black men, now very sadly i feel unsure of how they will receive me.... i get nervous now and fear making eye contact as i've had some ugly glares and comments. The thing is i am naturally bubbly and smiley and still i get the bad vibes from some...tears me apart. i have to stop watching this toxic rubbish as it is soul destroying.
Thanks again. Apologies for the long comment! Peace, Love and Blessings from the UK :-)
“Yeah I slapped you, want another one?” 😂😂😂😂
that's pimp talk 😆
She smiled and laughed at that, the bf better take notes 🤣
My fav🤣🤣🤣
“What color’s my underwear?” *slap*
😂😂
Wish y’all could’ve gotten deeper with the convo. Maybe more questions asked to see her pattern of thinking where it comes from etc.
It’s not even about smiling or not smiling. It’s the general attitude.... the lack of smiling is the symptom.
I had a day in midtown NYC. A 60 year old woman said to me,"smile handsome i got the virus and i still smile everyday" she was talking about AIDs. Shit really put things in perspective for me and from then on i chose to take her advice from that day forward.
Women get offended by the dumbest shit.
I hope that the lady with AIDS get nothing but the best for her. She's wiser than the younger ones.😶
todays generation gets offended by the dumbest shit they need to be weeded out of existence
@@leejee88 too far, buddy.. too far. 😬
That's because they're emotional creatures
@North West exactly .
She really said that putting a smile on her face means she’s for the streets🤦🏽♀️ LOLLL if that’s the case then I’m just ran thruuu because all I do is smile and laugh😂😂🤷🏽♀️
Never stop!!
👍
Shitt youre more than the streets, youre the whole city
😁
Your a Gemini ♊ right?
If u get offended if a man tell you to smile 10 times out of 10 you got a attitude to start with !! She legit made my damn head hurt listening to her 🥴
I am mixed, and thought that I wasn't attracted to dark skinned women. However after listening to KS and the ladies that join. I realized since elementary school, the majority of dark skinned girls/women were very abrasive, very defensive and offended by things not to be offended by. It was never about race.
I’ve met many light skinned women and Hispanics that act the same
"Yes I slapped you. You want another one?" 👏🏾 🤣
That had me cryin. Lmfaoooo
Hahaha
Well... she smiled at that... just like that ;)
edit: @4:31
She got turned on 😂
😂😂😂😂
This man makes me appreciate the single life
Yes after watching a few of his videos im so very proud of being and staying Single.. Loving Appreciateing Loveing Me Myself and I..
@@SharonStar62 Kevin will find out why your single 😂😂
@@devanteswang93 LOL! Now that is such a joke !!! He has so many Red Flags they can not even wave in the air..definetly do not need that kind to find out anything for me. I know why i love being single by choice .. Thank You for the thought anyway..💝💝
Not all women are they way bro, the good ones are hard to find but they exist
😂😂😂
To all men....Please don't stop! I know its discouraging but there are plenty of WOMEN that appreciates all of your efforts and Say thank you with a smile
smiling is now a problem. this is crazy!!!
The minute she volunteered direct info that "she's had people tell her that she comes across as unapproachable just simply by the way she looks" this convo begun going downhill from there.
Correct. The funny thing, back in my early college days, a very attractive half Spanish, half German chick got enough guts to tell me that she's been attracted to me for a while but I looked intimidating, so she didn't approach me. How did I handle that? I didn't get offended. I looked at myself in the mirror, made some adjustments, and notice more people, including women, approached me more. Hopefully sistas understand this simple principle
@Butt Head She would be approached by crack dealers, then, at least.
We could have guessed that without her telling us lol.
@@RudyCarrera or undercover narc agents
Big. Facts.
“Through all the rain and pain, you gotta smile.”
-Tupac
How dare he tell me to smile! 😬
@@alisab4811 😂 Exactly..it makes NO SENSE .
“You always was a black queen, mama, even when you were nothing but a dope fiend mama “
-Also Tupac
@@GeneralBlorp it doesnt say "nothing but a " 🤨
MODERN WOMEN: "HEY I'M OFFENDED". LMAO!!!
When I was young I assumed anyone asking/telling me to smile was an attempt to cheer me up, it really is a matter of perspective huh.
This is one of Kevin's best.
I’ve had black men to tell me to smile and I realized that I must have had a frown on my face or I was looking stone faced; but I really appreciated that! I want my outside to reflect my inside! BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
Very well put and you have a nice smile too so keep smiling
Exactly and I always smile when they ask me to.
impressive outlook. respect.
I enlarged your picture, and that gorgeous smile and beautiful face seemed to scream, " great person!"
Same! I don’t feel bad about them saying that to me
I've been told to smile by a man when he could tell I was having a bad day.
It actually made me smile because he cared to notice.
Makes me feel better that they do notice most of the time it happens to me it’s just an innocent compliment to me.
Lots of men when they say that are more than willing to at least attempt to turn your day around even if it's just getting you coffee or another minor gesture. Some of you women are missing out because you're too far in your own head.
They're just commenting that you look upset without being overly committal. Also forcing a smile has been known to help make people cheer up slightly.
Cheers to you and other women that don't over think a gesture only meant as kindness and an icebreaker.
And it didn't rip you appart right? This girls that have this nasty vibe are just petty from youth probably no love from their parents...
I was told to smile by a man once.
My mother had just died....
Many times when I've been told, not asked, told to smile, it's been a precursor to bring holla-ed at, or being followed, or even getting groped. It's been happening since I was 13, growing up in New York City, and it's a problem...
You also have to consider that maybe that man may be trying to create a better day for himself as well. If that man thought you to be beautiful, your smile could quite literally take him off the cliff that he’s hanging on. Not only is that man freeing you from a posture that you may not know you even had, you are also freeing him with your beauty and kindness.
A smiling woman makes men and woman feel good. Smile 😊. Be kind.😉 We're all Gods children!
A smile is free, give them away often as you can as you never know when it could be at a time that someone really needs it or you could just make someone’s day.
I've heard white women complaining about being asked to smile too - I think it's just a popular feminist thing to be offended at men in general
I guess there wasn't anything else to be offended by that day
Truth
Exactly
Bruh I work in customer service and this white woman looked teary I asked her if she was OK and she snapped and me saying I was condensing and embarrassing her because that's her natural face 😳 from that day I stayed away from white women
@@xandykkaudy8252 ahah thats a gem
Im a 29yo black woman and I SMILE EVERYDAY. She's broken inside and I'm PRAYING for her. Be blessed girl. Gather yourself and smile! It'll make you feel better in times of trouble
And you know what you going to get far and at the end of the day a man got to respect you as well ain't nothing wrong with smiling I smile I say hey
And you have a nice smile. People would rather see your pleasant smile than her miserable sourpuss, any day. There are physiological studies which prove smiling puts others at ease. Like if you're a boss at your job and you enter the office with a smile, it puts everyone at ease & boosts morale/productivity. Whereas if you come into the office with a scowl & sourpuss, employees gonna be like "Oh damn....it's gonna be a long day", and they're gonna be stressed out & on edge all day. A smile also give a *MUCH* better first impression on people. Keep smiling, girl. 😊
When you're smilin' When you're smilin' The whole world, it smiles with you. When you're laughin' Babe, when you're laughin' Well, the sun comes shinin' through. (from "When you're smilin'", written by Larry Shay and Joe Goodwin)
@@TownBizznizzJS Thats facts! I always get respect and people stay doing nice things for me......I'm the same way to others tho. We only get what we put out
@@darrylrevok9936 Thats true! I read this book called FISH about boosting moral. I just remember as a kid my grandmother telling me "Its easier to smile than to frown" AND it keeps you looking young. I can get hecka deep on here rn this makes me wanna do a response video
What you do truly mean and when you say. I AM PAYING FOR HER. is it just words with no true intent?
I smile a lot! People call me smiley but I can tell you how many black woman have told me to stop always smiling in men’s face. That’s why I get taken from stupid. I smile still and I engage because you ever know what men especially are going through. I think women make life beautiful and when I can make someone day I will always smile and say hi!
A smile lights up a room. Everywhere I go I make sure to smile. I understand black women hate me, but I will always make sure to love my self. Love the self to find love, learn the self to learn others.
He ended the call and slapped her on her way out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!!!
I smile every morning being a single man, no kids, in my own house, money right, peace quiet and freedom. No stress, do what I want, when I want...you dang right I’m smiling. 🙂
High 5 to you brother, I am the exact same way!!!!
Amen
smile through the pain 🫂
I'm on the same way and it's astonishing how many women are like WOW you have your life together. Well I'm glad I didn't just fall int having children right after highschool and focused on going to college getting a career, traveling the world etc. I'm seeing this regularly in my dating scene... Many are surprised that there are even men out here keeping to the basic format. I'm usually dating women with children that I let them know it isn't going any further because I don't have kids it breaks their hearts but it is what it is. Tried the step dad role once never again.
Dam right I'm in that same boat.
This is so hurtful an embarrassing for our ppl... but the women don’t see it
@Andrew Evans lol couldn’t of said it better
Blk men are hurt to see their greatest oppressor is not the white man, but the blk woman
@@anthonyrobinson7715 Lol what?
🍻
Definitely 😭 sad
This was amazing and sad.. High Value people smile, are mostly civil, & project a positive mindset. Even IF they are "sharks".
How can she not realize this? Don't do it for others do it for ourselves, to raise our positivity & chances for success.
She does not want to smile but is willing to get 4 kids with 4 different men
I interact with 300 people everyday (I'm a man) at work and I smile and say hello a good morning to EVERYBODY!! and I'm the happiest person in the world and I can only imagine the joy I spread. Life is beautiful
Preach brotha
I interact with 1000 people minimum daily .soni know the joy you can spread with just a
Smile.
Yes you are a man. Yes women of other races smile. The difference is when a blk woman smiles at a blk man the man seems to take it as an invitation to invade your space and say vulgar things to you if you ignore him and he follows you around. A blk man would NEVER harass women of other races this way. Blk men know a blk woman would not call the police on him. NO SMILES FROM ME.
I'm starting to think they like being treated like dirt. "Slap noise" "did you slap me?" Yes you want another one "slap noise again" her: "I love you Kevin" and smiles. After she said asking her to smile is offencive lmao
They love being treated like shit.
It may not have been the best moment for jest, but I think the young woman was trying to make lite of the insult. And she did so with class.
It is true some are comfortable being treated like shit, because expecting them to respect themselves seems like TOO MUCH WORK to them. But I did not get that vibe from her. Kevin just got a little triggered and then trigger happy.
thats exactly what i thought thanks
@@andinoayala4254 - *yawn...
Devil’s advocate they’re usually raised by abusive/combative mothers so they wouldn’t know good treatment if it slapped THEM in the face as well
Oh man that broke me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣 well done Kevin 👌
To the girl in this video, you should smile more often!! You have a beautiful smile so why not show it off? Hope this brightens your day!! Please take care and stay blessed