Bridget Kelly on the Dynamics of Black and White Women's Relationships with Black Men
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- čas přidán 24. 06. 2024
- Bridget Kelly discusses the societal, cultural, and personal factors that influence interactions between Black and White women in their relationships with Black men.
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My granddad told me as a kid “Never fully trust women, once you start trusting women. Anything that happens after that is your fault.” 😂😂😂
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Shoutout to grandad for that good game 💯
He meant American women because of the bad parenting here.
He was bitter 😂😂
Dad told me the same, there's a limit to trusting women.
In light of everything that she said you’d think BM and BW would treat each other better. I don’t see the compassion, empathy, or grace among us. If anything we’re harsher toward one another, more often than not.
That is such a generalization to which a more well round perspective would suggest that virtue and dysfunction defy racial categorization. Outside of our own sphere of knowledge we seem more prone to generalize. Give black people their flowers 🌹 just as you seen to throw bouquets at those who are not black.
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Living in Hawaii I see a lot of bm married to asian women. Just like in Seattle. The IR marriage rates have also increased. Seems as if bm tend to be more compatible with others
@@primeva7579yea we are. Sysbm
There's reasons why IR is pushed, especially regarding BM but can't talk here about that since it's a pretty heavy topic.
Men and women in general have conflicts with each other, but add to that the social-economic status after slavery, testosterone difference, colorism & majority of black families being stuck in cycles because of the past it makes it worse for black people.
Other races also has their problems, and I would arguably say even worse because of their recessive genes & the actions we see of them & what they've done in the past.
For everything to start progressing, black men need to become conscious & start being traditional masculine, none of that complaining or redpill, mgtow stuff since these are full of males complaining about women while majority created their own problems with females & cope by circle jerking..
This is just 1% and basic stuff, the black men who are on their stuff & ain't no lame or thug knows whatsup.
“There’s no benefit for black women to compromise” ….there you go right there. Ain’t no point in believing in ANYTHING these women say…if the women you approach are not AGREEABLE there is no point in continuing on with them.
Facts don’t care about feelings. It may be an ugly truth, but it’s THE truth about human nature. Dogs aren’t even that agreeable if they don’t know you. 😂 Every smart human is calculating about everything and everyone they allow into their lives. There’s a desirability gap between men and women. 9 times out of 10, the woman isn’t attracted to the man as much as the man is attracted to her. That’s where the so-called “benefits” come into play. 🤷♀️
@@LoneWulf278 if a woman is not agreeable in your relationship, she don’t like you, she’s there for another reason….if you wanna be a trick go head and stay there. But Like the Pimps say “like who likes you” if a woman is always argumentative and always disagreeable but always looking for benefits you need to move the hell on…
@@LoneWulf278 I’m glad you brought up the desirability gap also….i call it “fuckability politics” a woman that likes you will give you whatever you want…if she sees you’re sweating her based on her looks she ain’t gonna give you nothing. The bottom line is don’t be thirsty I don’t give a damn how fine she is.
@LoneWulf278 nope. Its only that way with you. Yall on attack mode 24/7
fact
"Not coming across Sweet BW" That Statement is 100% Facts.
She's talking about black women get walked all over but black man get walked all over when they're polite kind and nice which is why I'm no longer a nice guy anymore I know how to be kind because I grew up like that but now I'm going to pick and choose which woman I'm going to be kind to
Then you understand perfectly.
Exactly
So you still mad about what a teenage girl did to you? Grow up....
@@ItzD stupid duck that never happened to me and it didn't happen to me ever in life but black men understand what I'm talking about so go listen to sexy red or something silly ass
@@ItzD Our brother sounded like he seeking a non-Black woman. Lets wait and see if he replies: "Love is love" or any anti-Black statement
As a black man I’m down for understanding, but the excuses are ridiculous
@@SupremeDynastyTV all black men have are excuses. Lol
@@LiterallyThoand all black women have is excuses yea very ironic
@LiterallyTho people only make excuses for bw....that's the truth. Bm have improved despite obstacles placed in front of us. Stats from 2000 to now show that.
@@LiterallyTho I’m literally a black man… don’t generalize people
@@primeva7579 exactly
I love this conversation! Not all black women think that the black man is the enemy . There is a whole population of educated black women who know how to communicate and value the unit . And honestly black women who don’t yell , fuss and cuss are boring to black men ! If a Spanish women talk to blk men crazy she sassy . If a white women talk crazy to a black man she’s hurt if a black women express frustration she’s irrational
It’s not a gender issue, the issue is inter generational trauma within the black community.
THIS!!! There is a HUGE difference based on how people were raised and the environment they grew up in. Yet, she isn't completely wrong that socio-economics does still play into that part as well. Yet...I agree it is NOT a gender issue.
Black is a description not a monolithic group nor a Lineage, you can't just flatten blackness. There is no ''black community,'' there is a ADOS Community.
They are not equipped to have a productive conversation with this woman.
Nothing she said made any sense, she talked about white privilege, in a relationship? Is she serious? Trying to be a victim even in the sexual market place is disappointing.
Correct.
They speak Ebonics and look like fourteen year olds they dropped out of high school...
Definitely not equipped!
Why would any would woman in her right mind want to be with this two goons??
Correct
I’m a man, and am refreshed by Bridget’s perspective here. She’s always been level headed on shit. We have to show up with more perspective as 40+ year old men. At least when you have an objective woman in front of you.
cap
When will people understand black people are not a monolith. Generalizing black women as well is insane. Every woman is different. Everyone have different paths.
Was just about to say this. I HATE PEOPLE THAT GENERALIZE PEOPLE! It shows you are too unintelligent to treat each person differently. It's like homie never left his hood or something.
people generalize white women all the time in a negative way and no one says white women arent a monolith
@@7damon8ietheredge54 We don't have to. It's a given that they aren't. TV, movies, literature, kids books, toys, etc, have made that clear for us our entire lives.
Came to say the same thing.
Generalizing black women is not insane. We generalize every single day. It’s apart of our nature. You’re only offended because that generalization isn’t painting y’all in a positive light
Why is she lying? She knows freakin well it is different how BW and WW talk to black men in relationships.WW that has been around BW all their life bring that same delusional energy into a relationship that BM nor WM will not tolerate. WW that grow up out of the influence of the delusional mindset, their energy is totally different. It's a percentage of BW that brings that relaxing energy that is peaceful and calming to a BM. Now that BM is getting that outside of the community, it's a problem.
Yeah what these women like to do is paint the narrative that bm with ww always have relationship problems when that's false. Ww tend to treat bm better than bw do. I grew up suburban and we had a rule to jot talk to white, asian, or mixed girls who had blk friends. For good reason
For us who date outside the black community we don’t see this as a problem. More so a solution 💯And those who cry about it are a problem and detriment to themselves. There’s a crabs in a bucket mentality going on here for decades that not many of us don’t want or choose to put up with so we move accordingly. I feel I don’t want to put up with bm attitudes and entitlement myself.
If you as an individual are getting treated differently by women you deal with, it is not because of color it's a direct reflection of you as a man.
Literally fighting with my girl because she keeps telling me “If I was man enough, if I was man enough” haven’t spoken to her in 3 days and I’m strongly considering ending the relationship so she can get herself a “real man” I’m embarrassed to even be saying this 😂
Bro it's not worth it
Leave her king lol
@@DeathsInverse really not bro
@@mcphearson25 I may need too 👑
Leave
Their having two different conversations imo. She’s speaking on a macro level citing societal and social-economic factors but the guys are speaking to interpersonal relationships. But both have some valid points
I think they all make valid points. But speaking as a black man, we are not extended the kind of grace we’re expected to provide to anyone else. That’s just how it is…
Because bottom line, we Black men don't give grace to each other. 🤷🏿♂️
He's 100 percent right but it doesn't matter to me because I don't deal with any black women who don't treat or talk to me the way I want to simple
@@SuperBrianMak nor to ourselves
Same for b w
There’s more points that need to be talked about here!!
Stop saying “Spanish men/women” it’s Hispanic, they speak Spanish
Unless they are from Spain then that’s Spanish men and women
Take it a step further because Hispanic was a term made up for the census. So-called Spanish people from "Latin" countries are actually Indian.
I've heard Hispanic is a derogatory term from multiple Latin people 🤷🏾♂️
@@tmac8604
Yeah because they don’t know any better, they barely speak the language properly and they definitely aren’t Latin (officially) neither
U ain’t from nyc
“I dont know any black men who are soft, and sweet upon entry” wow flat out lie
It definitely was a wow moment when she said that.
Theres a difference between Idk any
And THERE ARENT ANY
She has to be in New York! She is crazy masculine!
@@djdarkphadorshe may not know any. Especially if she’s from the east coast. Shit I only know maybe 3 off the top of my head who are “soft” upon entry😂
She basically said if you're broke, it's ok to have a terrible attitude and treat people badly.....gotcha🤦🏾♂🤦🏾♂
That’s what I got, as if that behavior should be excused based on one’s socioeconomic status.
@@TheDTrine it’s sad that our people don’t travel like we should because if we did we would know that there are poor people all around the world that still treat people with respect
Thank you!
Missed the point by a lot
@@bandthoven175 not at all….I heard it all and it was nothing but excuses for poor behavior without offering solutions 💯
Uhh she lives in an alternative reality. I do not agree with anything she said. Thinking like that will keep you stuck in life.
Agreed
Bridget is smart, I low key like her better than Mandy but I wish both those sisters much success and love.
They are both bi-racial with yt moms……. Mandy is just mad annoying
Smart??????
@@Skinny_Pimp you may not agree but she articulate her points well.
@@TSteele718 So you judge intelligence by the way it sounds NOT by what is actually being said. Interesting.
@@Skinny_Pimp never said that at all lmao. Just because you disagree with someone doesn't mean they aren't intelligent.
Thank you Bridget. Dude in gray demeanor is aggressive, voice elevated, interrupting while your speaking and have the audacity to ask why bw are not nice, pink and soft 🤦♀️😒
A few of men like him Ive came across were very argumentative, loud, and combative. As soon as an issue arises, all those 3 traits popped up and there is no talking things out with guys like him. Almost like having to use therapeutic communication skills with a person having a psychosis episode
@@desdior1207 it’s showing real time in the video. Bridget is measured in her verbal and physical response but if she matched his energy it would be see all bw are the same just want to argue. This is why I don’t entertain ignorance but kudos to Bridget 👏👏👏
I find it funny AA men who are the most aggressive, violent , least conflict resolution skills compared to their Asian, white, or Spanish counterparts think there won’t be some type of rub off effect on the women in their community. Women and children are a reflection of the men in their community. So stop comparing yourself to black women compare to your male counterparts and find out what they might be doing different 🙏🏿
@@francisikwueme1688 😂 tell Sade Robinson about how wm are less violent.
At the end of the day, as a woman, if not taking disrespect and accepting substandard behavior is me being aggressive, good, I have dodged a bullet.
Also, have you seen all White people argue? Please stop generalizing and being ignant. Dang!
Ok so here is my take. The black male female relationship has been fractured for some time now. And there is plenty of blame to go around for the fracture and continued disjointedness.
You can't negate what the sister was saying and in doing so you now have to discuss on the level inwhich she steered the conversation. There are many reasons but one huge one is socio-economic which is bigger than just money. There is a stark diff from the "ghetto fabulous" person who just recently came into some change vs the one who was raised in or has worked hard to obtain the change that they have. The conflict resolution is going to be diff the language is going to be diff the stimulus for the conflict in the first place is going to be diff when you factor in the economic stratus.
Although most problems are the same the way inwhich the problems come and how they are handled are diff as you go up the wealth pole. The way inwhich a poor poor person may deal with conflict is diff from the making ends meet person which is diff from the paycheck to paycheck person which is diff from the one who has just saved enough to get out of the neighborhood. Which will be diff from the one who has been raised with middle class means , then the upper middle class then the rich.
So yes the language will change (hurtful and total disrespectful) because no matter who you are cuss words can and will be used.
Coming from a person who was raised and still lives in the socalled liberal upper Midwest. A white woman is going to treat you the way in which she is allowed to treat you. And I don't care who the brother is he already knows that the white woman will have privileges and advantages that a sister will never have.
Now let's talk about conflict resolution. When things go left and the authorities are involved black men know going into it that there is a diff between the two. I've seen it far to often that the white woman first has the protection of the police first even when it's clear she is the perp. Then when it advances to in front of the judge best belive the scales of justice is skewed in the white woman's favor. For example when the marital assets are spit the white woman will get damn near 65% vs the sisters maybe 35%. And don't think that this is implied from the start. That's why the commentator said the white woman starts from a diff place than the black woman.
Examples would how was o.j. first wife treated vs Nicole, Barry bonds older set of children vs the ones by the white woman. The amount of money Michael Strahan had to shell out, would a sister have walked away with the type of money tigers wife got ( mind you she was the equvilant to the poor girl from the projects before tiger put those children in her) would the payouts be the same if they were sisters?
Having had to go back and forth to family court I would be sitting in the gallery listening to the shit that white women would be awarded vs what black women were awarded. Mind you this is all in the socalled liberal upper Midwest.
And for the record just sit in the courtroom and you'll see what it is that I'm saying.
She contradicted herself by saying our dating issues are socio-economic and not racial and then saying that a White woman can leave a relationship and still have more options because she’s white.
Because White women are socioeconomically privileged. That's why.
Truth is that the average bm with a white wife was at his lowest when he got with that woman, and she built with that man. They never address that though.
sorry couldn't watch all of this. she lying from the jump... your attitude isn't determined by your socioeconomic status
Yes it is. You can see that in the children. Even when when it’s two parents. I get what she is saying
Thanks for posting ❤
sweet black women exist, they are not common, but they exist.
naa you’re just using your anecdotal experiences to disparage your own race of women.. you’re not a man and never will be
I can atleast agree with that. But I dont think the dude was telling any lies to begin with.
I'd say they exist more than people think.
is it like a full time paid job to denigrate blk women or what?
@@doshpits idk but it does pay. i blame capitalism.
That dude is to old the be thinking stupid. The more he talk the more ignorant he sound!
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Its not stupid its sad blk women cant take critique
I mean, it's a lot of our experiences.
What this woman and her fellow sisters should do is take their product to the open dating market and see how well it sells against the product being offered by women of other cultures. At the end of the day it is not about how well you can articulate your gender war argument, all that really matters is how well your product sells on the dating/marriage market. If the latest story from the Hinge dating app is any indication, I would say that the product that Bridget and women like her are trying to sell is not in very high demand🤷♂
This chick mentioned socio economic. If you read btwn the lines, what she's basically saying is that black women will by default have an attitude towards men if they don't make enough money for their liking. Which is a poor excuse for not having common decency.
word, i was really tryna break that down. she lost me when she said a white woman starts off with more privilege.
We already knew this tho lol
@@SolidSnake240 fr, have woman seek you not the other way around 💯
@@neutral6175 if you can explain to me how white women aren’t inherently privileged in “American Society” then you would be correct ?
You lack empathy which is why you can’t actually understand the black woman plight. I bet you can’t understand why men kill themselves 70% higher than women
Powerful conversation!
She is right! How people see the world is based on economics. As a Black race we forget that each class has a set of norms and expectations even within our own race. Hood BW is not how all BW act. He is talking from a Black hood pov, nothing wrong with that. But that is not the only mindset.
I agree. I meet much nicer black women in high income areas. I stay away from the women who are from low income backgrounds. They definitely have attitude issues with random strangers, no matter how nice you are to them. Lol. It’s not politically correct, but it’s the truth. I’m sure it benefits them when navigating the mean streets of wherever tf they’re from. But it’s definitely unpleasant. 🤷♀️
They are having two different convos, but the way he's shitting on black women is wild.
Exactly. Everything is going over his head!
Yea he is disparaging half of his own people dumb
Nope....He's saying what most....not all...but most of what black men have experienced from black women. Lets call a spade, a spade. My black male friends, their friends and their friends have said the same thing. This is nothing new.
@@djdarkphador Black women haven’t had good experience with black men either. Black women don’t benefit in anyway from having children or a relationship with black men. Black women do better in interracial relationships. So there’s really no need for BM and BW to go around and continue to make videos like this.
And like she tried to explain to him, it matters what circles u roll in. A Black Astrophysicist is not looking at the same pool of BW that Pookie at the local strip club is dealing with
Guys wanna play in trash cans then complain that everything in there is GARBAGE.
My wife is white and after 8 years I can see all kinds of privileges that I didn't even realize. More people are comfortable and accept or tolerate me even having her around. This is a fallen world. I swear only God can save us.
It’s less about “oppression Olympics” and more about being acknowledged. If you can acknowledge your pain, then why not acknowledge your brother’s suffering.
She definitely has a point. But even with the socioeconomic variable considered there are differences within the races of how they view and go about dating. The sister states that black men arent sensitive, but white men are even less. She's definitely right about class and economics but only half right because there is a difference. Btw my Black Queen does not act in any way that he described. What he describes is ghetto behavior and lends to her point about starting point. My wife is from the hood but she ain't ghetto and doesn't prescribe to any of those notions or stereotype. Perhaps you need to change where you shop
Well said.
As I stated elsewhere, ppl play in trash cans then complain that its full of garbage!🙄
They go shopping in Monaco with 5 euros then complain everything is overpriced
They shop on Canal street then criticize merchants for having cheap fakes
They go to Save -A-Lot for groceries then say there are NO healthy food options in the world
VET before u GET
If u want a cat dont buy a dog then b*tch at it for barking
Im no Chinese Philosopher but these are my 2cents. Makes sense?
One love❤ 🇯🇲
Wow… great discussion.. 👏🏾👌🏾
Bridget knows how to deflect,
We always competing who has it worse but we arr all hurting and should learn to be empathetic and understanding
Smartest conversation I’ve heard. @bridgetkelly you really held your composure and spoke well for yourself and black relationship. Thank you
I like when Esso get in his bag💪🏿 great convo. Good work💪🏿👍🏿🫵🏿
She keep trying to use the money route that is not what they asked you instead of answer the question she will defense and try not to spend it and using the money what she saying we already know that has nothing to do with the question that they asked her
True.. a prime example im a mixed BLK/Irish woman from the hood.. when I dated men from my area I was too white for them.. when I dated 9-5 guys no matter the race it’s a different conversation & dating objectives all together.. the social economic part of what “Bridgette” said is true! It’s based on a lack of everything mostly w/ any guy from a poverty area..
I don’t see the correlation 😂 you’re too white for a hood dude but just right for a 9-5?
This vid just came across my feed as I don't know any of the speakers. Bridget seemed to have to hit the bullseye with pretty much everything she said. Great points made!
Points were made on both sides. But Bridget was preaching!!
I know a ton of blk women that dont come feom poverty. They still in most cases are not nice
Preaching the recipe on how to be ALONE only wanting county jail mf's wanting you
If you think what she said is preaching, or worse, wisdom to be followed....you are in for a RUDE awakening.
No man of substance or value is accepting disrespect in his household. Yall can say an do whatever you want outside the home, an actual MAN, ain't dealing with that
bridget called it within the first minute of the clip. i switched off 20 secs after that, cause this discourse is MAD boring. Stop with these boring ass, generalised, DRY talking points.
She's right. It is rooted in socio economics
She's right only because Westernized Programmed Black Females make everything about Economics.When That is separate issue from Interpersonal And intimate Relationships and Duty to Marriages.
Not entierly it isn't because this is not found as commonly in the Mexican community. It does happen, but not nearly as frequently.
@HiHello-wz6bx That's fine. They're talking about black men/women as is pertains to how we operate in regard to one another
@RyanMerch don't gloss over the fact that other groups face similar socio economic challenges but they still figure it out
@@RyanMerch " that's fine"? If Mexican women are working with their men as they flee impoverished conditions, that means it is not socio- economic. Eboni k. Williams has the same attitude and disposition as the rachet hood chick.
“1 drunk man is smarter than 3 women with PHDS” … I’m just gonna leave this here lol
interviewers are supposed to let the guess talk!
Guest Not!
It's called Host privilege and that's how it works, one does not over talk the Host.
Bridget is dropping gems on this ep. She spitting nothing but facts.
Talk that talk Es 🏆🏆🏆🏆
i dont get offended because this doesnt apply to me. Im naturally very sweet and soft. And have been bullied and beat up by black women and seen as weak because of it. So its hard for me to get mad at black men saying these stuff about black women when ive dealt with black womens attitude and aggression simply because they feel i dont act how they think i should. I think black womens attitudes has nothing to do with economics or race. But more to do with seeing their moms,aunts,friends act like that and picking it up. Social media just makes it worse. As you see black women picking up the same catch phrases,gestures and lango. Very robotic and Im seeing it with nieces.
Also to some extent the lady is right. Black men do not approach women the same way white men do. Its always with aggression or too direct. Ive only been in a relationship with one black man and had to leave. Because im not coming out of my feminine atmosphere for any man whos use to fighting with women.
Bridget be talking that talk I love her
He’s so animated that no disagreement with him would ever not turn into a argument battle lol
Bridget you was talking yo shit n u shut him down!
Naw, she didn't...they came from a little bit different perspectives...one side gave a little more grace to women, while the other gave a little more grace to black men.
Props to Bridget for her shirt tho 🔥 classic!✨
He's 100 percent right but it doesn't matter to me because I don't deal with any black women seriously who don't treat or talk to me the way I want to simple
What she is expressing is. White women would force herself to be comfortable in any type of relationship if their economic plays a part. Financial freedom through marriage is a big advantage. It’s easier to build a house with someone else. Black women were already setup to mentally be in survival mode. We have to work ten times harder to make sure we live comfortably.
Regardless of the background, it comes down to the individual's choices made at that moment.
The men just refuse to take accountability this ladies point is beyond valid
I watched a IG video where a black woman was saying "do not approach me if you aren't tall and fine". We are the only race who do this shit. Of course you are allowed to have standards but it's the masculine energy that is so off putting.
This is why educated women are feared. He wanted to push that ignorance off on bw so bad but she educated him respectfully.
cap lol
He sound crazy. Bridget is way too smart to have this conversation with these cave man dudes 😂
If both sides understood each other’s plight, then these kind of conversations wouldn’t happen. We have to stop dismissing each other’s experiences. We know the BM is considered the most hated in western society due to them being the most intimidating to other cultures (imo) but that doesn’t mean BW don’t have their own set of struggles in society as well. We need more empathy for one another period.
White Queens Rule!
Juvi said it best “handle your biz and don’t be crying & suffering”
It’s environment. When you change your environment the mentality is different. Men need to travel more especially out of the country. The mentality is a lot different with how women treat and cater to men in different places.
Beloved they are not coming because you are just not that Negus yet!!!! It’s spiritual and you don’t have it. It’s not about your money at all! It’s you.
Victim politics. Most ppl are talking from a corporate standpoint. The average person is blue-collar. So that age old story of being held back not as clear. As a nice caring black man. Ive said hello to black woman, smiled at black woman. Im from philly ex military an I've mastered code-switching. But i dont communicate like im still in philly i enunciation my words clearly. I dont talk with that Philly twang. I slowed down my speech. Here in OKC a lot of black women walk around like they dont love they self. Got hella kids. The black men here also. My friend got like 9 kids by multiple women. His brothers all have 5,6 and 7 kids by multiple women. Not that im mature in my mid 40's i attracted all types of woman. And black women are the most unreadable woman ive encountered. I usually be in shock when i do attracted black women.
Hi neighbor rep Philly also
She just couldn't get it thru his head
He rather compare white apples to black oranges and say how come I can bite the apple with the skin on but I cant do that with the orange??!
BECAUSE THEYRE NOT THE SAME
Not even the 2 black oranges are the same
There was a show Black AF that had a line " You can trace it back to slavery"
100% true statement
BM were bred to breed WITH MULTIPLE WOMEN including sometimes the slave master's wife
He wasn't afforded the luxury of being a loyal monogamous father to his enslaved wife.🙄
His Purpose was to be strong, work hard ( FOR THE WM FOR FREE) make lots of babies to work on plantations and be a sex slave for WW.
BW were obviously inferior to slave master's wife and kids ( hell, even his dog)
Think about basic psychology 101
Forget black and white
Imagine a family where 1 sister is loved and the other is ignored. The ignored child obviously grows up with self-esteem issues. Self-hate. Inferiority complex.
Now imagine ignoring their upbringing. 1 kid is favored, goes to private school, most ppl openly call her "the pretty one", she never gets spanked and is spoiled rotten
The other is called ugly to her face, is in the worst public school, parents never attend her school programs, she wears goodwill stuff while her sis is in YSL etc.
Think about how foolish u sound when u try to compare these 2 black sisters and asking her why arent u as sweet as your sister who got everything she wanted? How come u feel the need to prove your humanity. How come u dont know how to love and be loving like your sister? Where's ur confidence?....
Your experience growing up shapes who you become.
Slavery has affected GENERATIONS of AA
One black persons experience might not have been as toxic. So even comparing blacks is unfair let alone comparing a black woman to a white woman in america. Its just not comparable!
WW by nature and historically have hated BM while secretly fantasizing about their strong bodies and penises. BW had a VERY different experience. She saw him as a tool for white master. Sometimes he looked " weak" bc another man had Rights over him.
He wasnt exactly a prince charming with whip lashes all cut thru his flesh. He wasnt some "alpha male" or "high value man" he wasnt running the show. Psychologically trying to make BW not see BM as the kings they were.
Understanding trauma amd perception is key. You cant keep focusing on the SYMPTOMS while ignoring the ROOT of the BW/BM and WW vs BW dynamic.
These are obvious symptoms we see today that are rooted in slavery...
1) multiple baby mamas ( BM were bred to breed)
2) bp are lazy ( BP worked HARD for centuries for free
3) promiscuity( were used as sex slaves both men and women were SA'd
4) being loud( anger makes u raise ur voice BP had a lot to be angry about and they were constantly silenced)
5) illiteracy( was Illegal to learn or read)
6) fighting mentality( they had to fight for their lives and were constantly beaten and had no say)
7) anger issues(same as 6)
These stereotypes are rarely seen for what they are and not enough Psychologists speak to the obvious impact slavery has had on the way AA men and women move with the outliers( the oprahs, tyler perrys etc) being the equivalent of the house ne**o back then.
In order to understand ppl u need to ask WHY they do what they do...
It’s a class thing. Educated block people don’t “argue” they have disagreements, in a generally civilized manner. And their arguments definitely don’t look the same as poor black peoples domestic disputes.
Their response showed she the smartest on the podcast. Her answers were so insightful that they ignored her, and she got them to make her point for her.
Who taught you in your first school. Is dad active in your life..Its about knowledge of self! with that you'll become still....still waters run deep. You'll see the world different.
I’m a biracial female I do see a difference attitudes in races. My husband is Latino and he is done with Latina women he said they are not chill the flip the table at any given time. White women are more docile and black women do get upset loud angry if their not being heard
Bridget Kelly is deflected from what the Brother is saying, however some Caucasian Women treat you with respect when they are in disagreement with you. And some Black Women feel they can talk too you ,as if they gave birth too you. However I've had good experiences from Black Women that respected me,I've experienced different Women who had their attitude towards me ,emotionally but not hostile towards me ,but I checked it respectfully and have done it with my BlackWomen , like how Malcolm X conduct himself with the media attacking him, which I had the positive results.
Black women don't want a man to approach them warm and sweetly, most feel that is corny, so they set the tone in how they are treated, but these rules only apply to the men they are not attracted to
this conversation is very ignorant...I only agree with Bridgett's comments
Black men stay tearing black women down...just stop it
I don't think they're trying to tear them down. We just don't understand why they're so difficult.
The lack of self awareness from the guy with the braids is astonishing. It doesn’t seem intentional but it’s definitely offensive. Hurt made him that way.
She's talking about socioeconomics, and she's right, but they're dancing around a core issue.....how Black gender dynamics were formed during slavery.
Right.
So then what is she saying about having a lighter complexion than dark skinned Women?!?
Thank you, tragic mulatto thinking she’s depressed or relates to the life of a black woman in the projects.
Bronx chicks is wild, Queens chicks are decent, Long Island chicks are well off. Brooklyn is a gauntlet.
Call woman chick's is telling........
Telling of what?@@DAFGEEZY
3:52 I don't get what she's saying here. I need some examples from her on what she thinks the compromises men are talking about. For example, if I ask a white woman to compromise watching a TV show over a movie. How does that benefit the white woman in the end vs. A black woman with the same scenario. What she is saying only works when it's a financial compromise I think ......but even then I still need an exact example from her. Otherwise I'll have to say it's a non-point.
I totally disagree with the woman. We don't approach sistas soft & sweet?
All my black friends who are highly successful are married to non-black women. I've seen plenty of black women who always look miserable, grumpy, aggressive, and unapproachable.
what was the purpose of this comment?
She's right about socio-economic ... But there is a cultural aspect too.
These brothers have some good points, yet this sister is DEAD ON! And the whit woman stance was especially on point! Yet socioeconomics rules the day! Kanye' West said it best, "we hate ourselves and love their wealth"!
As a society we are suffering from extremist beliefs smh "every" & "all" aren't computible
Not all bw are the way he describes. And I’m totally speaking as me myself. I’m tired of that narrative. Then these guys look at me sided eye because I’m soft spoken and agreeable
I agree and disagree with both sides. Just repeating what everyone else said, first of all BW and all BM cannot and should not be put into such small generalizations. Secondly, I know kind sweet black women, he needs to widen out and meet new black people and then I disagree with Bridget's comment saying she's never met a black man that was warm and soft or treated a woman with delicacy. I've had more black men hold doors for me, offer me a ride home from work when I didn't have a car and they didn't expect ANYTHING in return. I've met black men that saw me not eat anything for lunch, which was by choice and they were up in arms that I wasn't eating. I mean some of the kindest, gentle men I've ever met were black men and shockingly white men come in second place with that. It's Asian and Hispanic men that are rude and treat me like I'm trash.
I dont think she said you have never met them...
I dont think she said they dont exist..
She said SHE hasnt met them..
@@sensis8036 I know that's what she said. But the way they both were talking, it was implied that these sort of BW and BM don't exist. I'm sorry you didn't understand that from what they and what I said.
Dude talks to much after asking a question allow space to answer even if they are incorrect.
Bridget is 100% right. I'm so glad she spoke on this.
If you want to better black men and women dynamics, thars one thing. I wish the comparisons between black and white (or other non black women) would stop. We (bw) have always had it much harder than other women. And how did the convo turn into who has it rougher- black men vs black women.
We need UNITY.
All about environment.
I know many sweet black women
My man is generalizing all black women. He needs to interactive with different people to formulate a more educated opinion.
It is all about your upbringing for the most part. Race has nothing to do it.She also make a valid point as far as class.
Esso was cookin on this ☝🏾
I totally agree with Bridget 3:35. YT women will use an army of people to make her moves and position herself to be the winner (cough cough victim) that’s how many of them get their way. A BW doesn’t get that break unless Colorism & Texture is in her favor, but even then with the right knowledge you can look at her and laugh-the court isn’t going to view you the same way as a YT. Then you have the BW or even Afro-Latina that isn’t seen as nice or graceful or feminine and she has had to operate in the world as a person who isn’t really considered worth anything given to Ladylike or Feminine women. IME, the state of mind of the woman outweighs anything else she has to offer. How she treats people she can’t stand or dislikes shows me her morals/principles. A lot of people operate without morals or principles. SMH I’m dodging some YT women right now-they hate being told no. Especially when they come from money and have a use for you.
I live in Europe, Spanish people are white Europeans not brown folks from Central America.
Peace to Supreme Clientele.
Ps Communication is vital and trauma is no joke. Social inequities are heavy as well.
That attitude dont get you nothing though since a lot of Black Women are still single and unmarried.
So if you're already disadvantaged, wouldn't make sense to compromise in order to secure the relationship/marriage to get ahead socioeconomically? Because if Black women don't (and they don't), they remain single and under the totality of their burden.
The way dude with the braids stereotyped black women .... he's definitely a pilgrim chaser !!
Ninjas like him love white woman but settle on Latina, and then sat his girl is blk, ninjas 🥷🏿 🙄 like him is annoying
He has a blk wife. Why cant you take critique. Blk women arent above reproach . The same understanding is never extended to a man
Dude literally said his wife is black. You really weren't listening.
@@Qleveretthe’s probably a Caribbean,