I'm so glad we share the same opinion on this topic . Although I live in a Muslim country , finding a guy that prays consistently is rare , let alone reading the quran and having very basic information on our religion. I was made to feel guilty and delusional for wanting a guy that's religious and I'm slowly losing hope
I'm in my mid-20s and I was made to feel the same but I keep praying. If what was meant for us, was meant for us then it will come, otherwise it wasn't writren. Allah (SWT) knows best.
As a man, I deal with the same issues... I decided to move back to my home country, a Muslim country, and ironically I think I would have had a better chance at finding someone who has the foundations of their dean back in the west. For example, I get pushback when I mention to my parents that I wouldn't consider an engagement with someone who wasn't wearing hijab, but I guess I have it easier since I was able to convince them how their views could be worrying. Their points usually consist of "It's possible for women who wear hijab to have the worst qualities while non-hijabis can have some of the best". I agree with that, and perhaps I might be forced to consider non-hijabis, but looking for good qualities/characteristics AND a good foundation of belief is often neglected. (And to be clear, I'm not saying non-hijabis are bad Muslims, I have many hijabi AND non-hijabi family members, but I think it should be acknowledged that non-hijabis are actively sinning, some of whom do so without regret, which is much worse).
maybe look within the masjid community or if your actively studying the deen then within the students or the khadims as they would be practicing hence in that line of work/study
Basically the people who disagree are the ones that don't consider religion a priority so it's totally normal that they disagree but not normal at all to attack your opinion. Personally, I think exactly the same as you, and when I face such situation I don't like to waste the other person's time, not even talking about marriage here, even dating or spending time together doesn't seem right as ultimately I don't see myself with that person. Thank you Jasmine for talking about this 🙏 I'm surprised to see so many people going through the same thing!
Not exactly. For example I don't disagree because I think religion is not a priority. I disagree because I have see it done without religion. I have see good people being raised from non religious households. Children learn a lot by watching you and the action and decisions you make day to day. You as the parent need to set the right example for your children to follow, explain to them why you do what you do and show them how to be a good person.
Hi, im Christian and i really love your channel mainly because i love how strict you are in terms of your religion which is what i want to continuously implement in my Christianity and what you said here is all very essential and something i personally agree with. Thank you so much
Girl that’s not all of them, don’t let yourself be confused. Even the best Muslim is the same as the worst Christian and Jew.. Don’t Play yourself.. your sweating Ultra Muslims, the same as sweating super Christians from the MidWest
100% agree with you. My Husband motivates me to be a better Muslim when I see him pray and really embody those pious humble characteristics of a good Muslim man.
Im 22 and thinking about getting married when I move back to Canada. I never thought about this too much, and I am glad you brought it up. My mum is keen on finding someone who is religious, but as I grew up i didnt think it would be important, but as you were shedding more light on the topic I realised, that yes, it is important. Considering I did meet a person and we talked for two years, and realised he was a complete narcissist and a toxic person. So now i know that i need to look for 2 things by the least when wanting to get married. Religion and how that person is. Thank you Jasmine for being that person who is willing to talk about topics our mothers refuse to talk about. As a person who has been following you ever since covid started, you have become this sister to me who has the answer to almost everything i need. Thank you
Inshallah you will find a fitting partner that aligns with your values and morals. But also please be careful, the world contains horrible people in it that hide under a mask and show their true colours once they get what they want. However, they can’t fully hide and there will be signs, being rational is very important. 🤍
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.
That’s so true, my Mum used to pray and fast always as for my Dad never had an interest in practising As for my sisters and I we were never taught anything about Islam and just left it up to us if we wanted to learn. I can’t express how difficult I found it to learn and practice as an adult in my late 20’s. So happy you’ve brought this topic up is so important for people to really decide what’s important to them in marriage. ❤🤩🧕🏻
I’m someone that almost never comments on videos but I am soo HAPPY someone has finally talked about this topic. I have been thinking about it a lot recently even though I am still young and not planning on getting married any time soon. In my family when a potential spouse comes for someone I feel like religion is never asked about as cast and ethnicity is what everyone is more concerned about. I do want my parents to find me a potential spouse in the future and my mum does joke to me saying she going to have to find me a Molvi, but all I’m asking for is the bare minimum (someone that does the fard and is close to Allah) because I feel if they are focusing on pleasing Allah and so are you then he will be a man that will treat you right and all the problems that may happen in the marriage won’t escalate or matter because at the end of the day we will both go back to our foundation. Islam Once again thank you for talking about this.
@@nuskyahmad6375literally molvi = imam. But I think in this context someone who is majorly focused on religion and doesn't care about this world at all
These are suchhhhh good points!!!! Especially the way that the father sets the foundation. It made me notice things I didn’t see before. Like my dad always makes it a point to pray in front of us too and would take us to friday prayer every week and not playing music in the car etc and it really left it’s mark
I only loved one person in my life. He was my best friend from school. We had the same interests, the same ethics. However as a practicing Muslim, I never could see him as a partner. I never told him about those feelings and I mourned a story that could never be for a long time.
I love this. This is so true. Thank you for being the big sister we needed. Dawoud is really lucky to have u. In fact all your family members are. You will make a great mom, Jasmine. ;)
I agree with you 💯. Mashallah love how knowledgeable you are and I am so grateful to have you in this community to help guide our sisters onto the right path ❤️
Hi Jasmine, I’m a Christian and I completely agree with this. If my future husband isn’t religious, I don’t believe it will work especially when kids come into the picture. It’s hard to find that person but I trust God and that it is worth the wait. Thanks for your words of advice 🙏🏻
As a male who watches your videos, I sincerely appreciate you for making this video as it gives me a perspective on how I can be a better potential spouse. Deen is the #1 most important thing for me and although it may seem that the video is only for guys it's a two way street and both parties need to make that constant effort to push one another to keep seeking knowledge about Islam. May Allah bless your guys' relationship. Jazakallah 😊
I would also add that even if they *seem* like strong, faithful muslim men, don't assume that they are perfect in their faith and will be great muslim figures as an absolute truth. I follow a different religion, but very strictly as well (ie. modest dress, covering our hair, etc) and married a man who my family and I had personally known for years through the temple and was a very respected young man within the community. He preached a lot, gave religious sermons all around the country etc. I was 23 and he was 25. I thought I was winning the jackpot when I married him and that he would be the best partner to grow even further in faith with. Well, got married and 6 months later I found out he had been cheating on me. It was a shock to everyone in the religious community too. My point is, you can never know too much. Always be careful and don't assume the best of anyone. Dig deep to really make sure they are who you think they are.
True. Many people just pretending. Also, as a man I will say that women generally are more practicing. Another comment, this is also why Islam allows polygeny. Theres definitely a major urge for some men to have multiple women at the same time. Instead of going behind the womans back like what happens in the West, its better to be upfront
I can relate. I married someone who seemed very religious, read the Quran daily and prayed, I was really happy about that. But after marriage he played a lot of games emotionally and was obsessed with having lots of women, he used polygamy to excuse his behaviour even though he didnt have enough money to provide for more than one wife. I discovered him sexting another woman and on video call. Now we are divorced!
I really enjoy hearing your perspective and admire that you don't veer from your values. I am a non-practicing Catholic, definitely not religious. Regardless, I admire your convictions, and feel that you give sound advice, especially to young women. Keep on being you.
So well put Jasmine 👏 👏👏 we forget that as women, we have no obligation towards guys (that we meet) that do not meet the basic standard of religion (prayer, fasting etc). Very rarely do men change their religious habits after marriage, despite the good intentions of both parties. Marriage is about moving forward and growth, and it's pretty much impossible to do when you are having to start at the very beginning for someone else and which is essentially, out of your control anyway. Unfortunately, the lack of control over time will mean that you grow resentful towards your partner, even if they are going at the pace they are used to (which isn't really their fault either, they are only doing what they know). Bottom line - start your marriage with somebody at the same starting point, it is the fairest thing to do for yourself and any potential partner.
I never usually comment but felt compelled to after watching this,Thank u so so much for this video🥲❤️ u don’t understand how much it has helped n it honestly couldn’t have come at a better time for me, I really needed to hear this and absolutely everything u said just solidified to me what my intuition has been telling me recently, so may Allah reward you for that!!
Couldn't agree more 💕 As a Qur'an teacher, I was trying to convince myself that morals are more important for choosing a future partner..Bla bla bla but actually Without Deen the building falls.. ! Thank u for this video Jasmine :-)
I agree with you 100% and it's not just your opinion it's mentioned in various Ahadeeth to look for a pious spouse! Thank you for speaking about this, many women of the youth struggle with this. A man provides the structure and foundation and the woman beautifies it.
I have been meaning to say this since I started watching your videos...if we knew each other personally we would be good friends bc our way of thinking is soo similar. The only difference is you can communicate it so well unlike me. Honestly couldn't see what people might be offended about in your reply since you literally started it with "for me..." and then went on to explain why you think that way. I guess people took the morality and the foundation part as harsh but it's really about perspectives. I am not on a lot of social media so not sure what people said. It does take all kinds to make the world and that's what makes it interesting! :)
Masha’Allah I loved this! I agree with your opinion; it’s best to be with someone on the same religious level as you. You can’t risk being with someone who’s shaky on religion, and possibly bring down you or people close to you (for ex: your kids) I’m not married or anything, but it’s still very logical
I'm so grateful i happened to see this video otherwise i wouldn't have this as a priority when it comes to marriage! Thank you yasmin lovee your content!
Thank you so so so much Jasmine for making videos like these its really helpful and appreciated may Allah reward you immensely and grant you and ur loved ones Janatul Firdaws 🤲🏻❤️
I totally admire the way you state your opinion and agreed with the most states you made, this is a video much needed! The only thing I would love to add is that children in this kind of household are raised by parents with „different lifestyles“ and suddenly you may become a mother figure (eg) that is forcing children to do so much religious stuff and meanwhile they watch their father living a more comfortable muslim-lifestyle. Of course its the right of everyone to raise kids they want but in the stated example it is much harder to guide your children to become good muslims. They would always have the other „truth“ their father in front of their eyes, watching him and learning from him too. Again not that in this example the father figure is evil or sth, he would just not be the children’s second most important person, supporting your priorities in their religious education and i can also imagine that this problem may get bigger when they enter puberty..
I think it’s absolutely valid to search for a practicing parter, but only as long as you practice what you preach. First of all, don’t be a hypocrite 😅 but more importantly, don’t put such expectations on someone else. You cannot burden your loved ones with responsibility of changing YOU and making YOU a better person 👏🏻
Im a Christian women and I agree with you. I want a man who is practicing my relationship not just Christian in name. He will be the head of our family so must be religiously strong. So I agree 💯
Jazaki Allahu khairan for bringing up a much needed topic. If we want spouses to live with forever in Jannah then religion should be our number one priority.
I agree with you 100%. I have worked to be where i am, it's my parents upbringing too. And SubhanAllah deen is something that gives you so much confidence, content and the courage to survive as a minority. Just that intention 'for Allah' can make you so strong and overcome so many hurdles. I would hate to see everything that I grew up with to go into drain and not see your children as practicing. Basically we would be answerable to Allah in regards of upbringing the children, so why not take control when you can. It's super frightening but when you make it for Allah, He gives you that courage
I literally went through this and I couldn’t put into words why him not being on his deen was such a big deal to me, but everything Jasmine said is basically how I felt 😭🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 alhamdulillah I said no to him
I love your maturity. You are sharing gem like information here. Thank you so much for this video. I shared with my friends and family so that they can learn from you. All your words echo with my thinking. Love and respect for you from the core of my heart for the sake of Allah❤
Thank you for making this video Jasmine Talking about this topic and being honest and firm was like a sacred duty that you fulfilled I’m sure this video will help a lot of people Myself included Wishing you the best
if hes not practicing your plans wont revolve around prayer so day to day activities become sources of tension. a basic example could be he wants to take you to dinner but your not planning it around your prayers so its not been accomodated i.e. pray before you leave or make sure you finish before the prayer ends
so insignificant when compared to the msg of the entire video but I gotta say it - i adore that you say la La la instead of bla bla bla. It’s so refreshing and sweeter lol!
I agree with you 10000% thank you for actually saying this because not many ppl are giving solid advice much like all other aspects of your life there has to be compatibility with your spouse and as Muslims religion has to be the focus point...and not enough ppl think about this person being the father of your children...do you want your children to be like your spouse ? Men DEFINITELY don't think about this enough...
I agree 50/50 😅, I know so many people that are reverts( so they didn't have any example) and I know so many "born Muslims" that pray and fast and are good Muslims even if their parents are not religious at all
I agree with everything you said and thank you for sharing this , I'm just going to add to what you said something very important that we're talking here about " practicing Muslim" there's many Muslims that actually don't practice Islam in any shape of form and don't follow the principals of Islam , so when we say a Muslim we're talking about something that is Muslim and his religion is a big part of his life and it shows on his actions.
I’m a practicing Catholic but I agree 100% It’s super hard to find a single man around my age that practices my faith, at least where I live. I also agree that it’s not your responsibility to change him- if he decides on his own that he wants to value religion, great, but if he changes it will be because of him, not you. It’s not your responsibility to fix him.
I hope every girl and woman watching this video LISTENS VERY CAREFULLY to what Jasmine is saying. She is speaking so wisely mashaAllah tabaarakAllah and what she said is so very important. JazakiAllah khairan Jasmine - from a 40 yr old mother, married for 12 miserable years, and wishing someone had told me this 20yrs ago 😭
@@shiratnamatovu6619 I usually post this dua when ppl are seeking marriage but it is also permissible and valid to say it after marriage. May Allah bring barakah into all our marriages. Here is the dua: Dua for a righteous spouse and children from Surah Furqan (25:74): رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا Transliteration: rabbana hab lana min azwaajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata a’yunin waj’alna lil muttaqeena imama. Translation: Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.
Long story short : Never ever trade your imaan (faith) and your deen (religion for the sake of love !! It doesn't worth it at all !! At the end of the day, it's between you and your Lord and not between you and your lover !! Deen over love always !! So, choose well your partner because if he/she doesn't correspond to your moral values then love will blind you anyway sooner or later !!
Ngl, without Islam, I get scared about what I would have become, or even if I would still exist today (yeah, gets super deep :/). Alhamdulillah that I continue to practice this beautiful and only true religion.
Jasmine, May Allah bless you for sharing such an important topic. I'm so glad someone from the Muslim community is talking about this in more detail so that girls who are looking for potential spouses are able to open their eyes and understand the importance of religious values in a relationship
I'm so glad we share the same opinion on this topic . Although I live in a Muslim country , finding a guy that prays consistently is rare , let alone reading the quran and having very basic information on our religion. I was made to feel guilty and delusional for wanting a guy that's religious and I'm slowly losing hope
Don't lose hope he will come on the right time have faith and make dua 🥰
I'm in my mid-20s and I was made to feel the same but I keep praying. If what was meant for us, was meant for us then it will come, otherwise it wasn't writren. Allah (SWT) knows best.
Girl don’t settle inchalah you’ll find the one ❤
As a man, I deal with the same issues...
I decided to move back to my home country, a Muslim country, and ironically I think I would have had a better chance at finding someone who has the foundations of their dean back in the west. For example, I get pushback when I mention to my parents that I wouldn't consider an engagement with someone who wasn't wearing hijab, but I guess I have it easier since I was able to convince them how their views could be worrying.
Their points usually consist of "It's possible for women who wear hijab to have the worst qualities while non-hijabis can have some of the best". I agree with that, and perhaps I might be forced to consider non-hijabis, but looking for good qualities/characteristics AND a good foundation of belief is often neglected. (And to be clear, I'm not saying non-hijabis are bad Muslims, I have many hijabi AND non-hijabi family members, but I think it should be acknowledged that non-hijabis are actively sinning, some of whom do so without regret, which is much worse).
maybe look within the masjid community or if your actively studying the deen then within the students or the khadims as they would be practicing hence in that line of work/study
Loved this Jasmine. You are one of the few Muslim influencers who is keeping up the Muslim values and says it like it is
Basically the people who disagree are the ones that don't consider religion a priority so it's totally normal that they disagree but not normal at all to attack your opinion. Personally, I think exactly the same as you, and when I face such situation I don't like to waste the other person's time, not even talking about marriage here, even dating or spending time together doesn't seem right as ultimately I don't see myself with that person.
Thank you Jasmine for talking about this 🙏 I'm surprised to see so many people going through the same thing!
Not exactly. For example I don't disagree because I think religion is not a priority. I disagree because I have see it done without religion. I have see good people being raised from non religious households. Children learn a lot by watching you and the action and decisions you make day to day. You as the parent need to set the right example for your children to follow, explain to them why you do what you do and show them how to be a good person.
Hi, im Christian and i really love your channel mainly because i love how strict you are in terms of your religion which is what i want to continuously implement in my Christianity and what you said here is all very essential and something i personally agree with. Thank you so much
Girl that’s not all of them, don’t let yourself be confused. Even the best Muslim is the same as the worst Christian and Jew.. Don’t Play yourself.. your sweating Ultra Muslims, the same as sweating super Christians from the MidWest
And theyyyy aaaaall hiding something. They ain’t Jesus of God, especially Yasmin and Dawood.
Hey Joyce, I agree with you! Their devoutness and fervour for their religion encourages me to be the same with Christianity.
This video is completely gold, even for a (Muslim) male as me: a lot of useful inputs and a lot of nice reflections. Jazakallahu khairan
100% agree with you. My Husband motivates me to be a better Muslim when I see him pray and really embody those pious humble characteristics of a good Muslim man.
so happy for you, may allah bless you guys and make you happy together. yarb ameen
Im 22 and thinking about getting married when I move back to Canada. I never thought about this too much, and I am glad you brought it up. My mum is keen on finding someone who is religious, but as I grew up i didnt think it would be important, but as you were shedding more light on the topic I realised, that yes, it is important. Considering I did meet a person and we talked for two years, and realised he was a complete narcissist and a toxic person. So now i know that i need to look for 2 things by the least when wanting to get married. Religion and how that person is. Thank you Jasmine for being that person who is willing to talk about topics our mothers refuse to talk about. As a person who has been following you ever since covid started, you have become this sister to me who has the answer to almost everything i need. Thank you
Inshallah you will find a fitting partner that aligns with your values and morals. But also please be careful, the world contains horrible people in it that hide under a mask and show their true colours once they get what they want. However, they can’t fully hide and there will be signs, being rational is very important. 🤍
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.
@Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
@Rose Allen her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster.
@Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Them bots are advancing lmao
That’s so true, my Mum used to pray and fast always as for my Dad never had an interest in practising As for my sisters and I we were never taught anything about Islam and just left it up to us if we wanted to learn. I can’t express how difficult I found it to learn and practice as an adult in my late 20’s. So happy you’ve brought this topic up is so important for people to really decide what’s important to them in marriage. ❤🤩🧕🏻
I love your mindset, You are genuinely right as you say "The things we find in a muslim man we can't find anywhere else"
I’m someone that almost never comments on videos but I am soo HAPPY someone has finally talked about this topic. I have been thinking about it a lot recently even though I am still young and not planning on getting married any time soon.
In my family when a potential spouse comes for someone I feel like religion is never asked about as cast and ethnicity is what everyone is more concerned about.
I do want my parents to find me a potential spouse in the future and my mum does joke to me saying she going to have to find me a
Molvi, but all I’m asking for is the bare minimum (someone that does the fard and is close to Allah) because I feel if they are focusing on pleasing Allah and so are you then he will be a man that will treat you right and all the problems that may happen in the marriage won’t escalate or matter because at the end of the day we will both go back to our foundation. Islam
Once again thank you for talking about this.
Loving all these amazing thought process in the comments. It's like we are all circle of close friends who have the same values
whats a molvi?
@@nuskyahmad6375literally molvi = imam. But I think in this context someone who is majorly focused on religion and doesn't care about this world at all
These are suchhhhh good points!!!! Especially the way that the father sets the foundation. It made me notice things I didn’t see before. Like my dad always makes it a point to pray in front of us too and would take us to friday prayer every week and not playing music in the car etc and it really left it’s mark
I only loved one person in my life. He was my best friend from school. We had the same interests, the same ethics. However as a practicing Muslim, I never could see him as a partner. I never told him about those feelings and I mourned a story that could never be for a long time.
You're so well-spoken, everything said was facts. Thanks for this reminder!
I love this. This is so true. Thank you for being the big sister we needed. Dawoud is really lucky to have u. In fact all your family members are. You will make a great mom, Jasmine. ;)
I agree with you 💯. Mashallah love how knowledgeable you are and I am so grateful to have you in this community to help guide our sisters onto the right path ❤️
I could listen to you all day without break . The way you speak is so strongly ❤❤
Jasmine gave such a precise and good answer. I completely agree with Jasmine.
"why don't we hold these men accountable too" 💯
You could not have said this better. I agree sooo sooo sooo much! You always have the most amazing ways of explaining things.
This video could not have come in a better time. I absolutely loved your sweet and simple explanation💕
8:38 Yes 🎉
We want a whole video on the topic “The qualities in a pious man you won't find elsewhere”
Also you are so well spoken and interesting to listen to! ❤
Thank you for addressing this. 💯 On point Jasmine.
Hi Jasmine, I’m a Christian and I completely agree with this. If my future husband isn’t religious, I don’t believe it will work especially when kids come into the picture. It’s hard to find that person but I trust God and that it is worth the wait. Thanks for your words of advice 🙏🏻
I don’t know why I’m so obsessed with this channel. You guys make such quality content and jasmine your so pretty❤️
Perfectly said, jazakillah kheir Jaz❤️🤲🏻
As a male who watches your videos, I sincerely appreciate you for making this video as it gives me a perspective on how I can be a better potential spouse. Deen is the #1 most important thing for me and although it may seem that the video is only for guys it's a two way street and both parties need to make that constant effort to push one another to keep seeking knowledge about Islam. May Allah bless your guys' relationship. Jazakallah 😊
Don't listen to women. Women don't know what they want. They will say one thing but always mean another. When you get married you will see.
I would also add that even if they *seem* like strong, faithful muslim men, don't assume that they are perfect in their faith and will be great muslim figures as an absolute truth. I follow a different religion, but very strictly as well (ie. modest dress, covering our hair, etc) and married a man who my family and I had personally known for years through the temple and was a very respected young man within the community. He preached a lot, gave religious sermons all around the country etc. I was 23 and he was 25. I thought I was winning the jackpot when I married him and that he would be the best partner to grow even further in faith with. Well, got married and 6 months later I found out he had been cheating on me. It was a shock to everyone in the religious community too. My point is, you can never know too much. Always be careful and don't assume the best of anyone. Dig deep to really make sure they are who you think they are.
True. Many people just pretending. Also, as a man I will say that women generally are more practicing. Another comment, this is also why Islam allows polygeny. Theres definitely a major urge for some men to have multiple women at the same time. Instead of going behind the womans back like what happens in the West, its better to be upfront
I can relate. I married someone who seemed very religious, read the Quran daily and prayed, I was really happy about that. But after marriage he played a lot of games emotionally and was obsessed with having lots of women, he used polygamy to excuse his behaviour even though he didnt have enough money to provide for more than one wife. I discovered him sexting another woman and on video call. Now we are divorced!
I definitely agree with your answer . It's perfect
I really enjoy hearing your perspective and admire that you don't veer from your values. I am a non-practicing Catholic, definitely not religious. Regardless, I admire your convictions, and feel that you give sound advice, especially to young women. Keep on being you.
This was so needed thank you jazakillah Khayr
Your ability to formulate your ideas and build a concrete logic is super brilliant mashaAllah 😍 God bless you Jasmine💛💛
"I'm asking you for the bare minimum" EXACTLY
I really loved the way you talk, completely true.. and you share your opinion very well 🥰
Love love love this video. 100% agree with every single thing you said. God bless you jasmine ❤
Preaaach, the terms!!! Love this so much, may God bless you and your marriage
I love your mind set and the way you explain every thing may allah protect you ukhtii
Thanks for discussing this taboo topic we needed someone to lay it out there
100% agree with you, thank you for making this video so beneficial! x
So well put Jasmine 👏 👏👏 we forget that as women, we have no obligation towards guys (that we meet) that do not meet the basic standard of religion (prayer, fasting etc). Very rarely do men change their religious habits after marriage, despite the good intentions of both parties. Marriage is about moving forward and growth, and it's pretty much impossible to do when you are having to start at the very beginning for someone else and which is essentially, out of your control anyway. Unfortunately, the lack of control over time will mean that you grow resentful towards your partner, even if they are going at the pace they are used to (which isn't really their fault either, they are only doing what they know). Bottom line - start your marriage with somebody at the same starting point, it is the fairest thing to do for yourself and any potential partner.
Well said
I totally agree with you, thank you for this video 🙏
I never usually comment but felt compelled to after watching this,Thank u so so much for this video🥲❤️ u don’t understand how much it has helped n it honestly couldn’t have come at a better time for me, I really needed to hear this and absolutely everything u said just solidified to me what my intuition has been telling me recently, so may Allah reward you for that!!
Couldn't agree more 💕
As a Qur'an teacher, I was trying to convince myself that morals are more important for choosing a future partner..Bla bla bla but actually Without Deen the building falls.. ! Thank u for this video Jasmine :-)
100 percent agree with you! I loved this video. Definitely would love to see more like this in the future inshallah!
such an important topic to discuss . it's a good reality check for those who are looking for their future spouse .
Perfectly said💯
I agree with you 100% and it's not just your opinion it's mentioned in various Ahadeeth to look for a pious spouse! Thank you for speaking about this, many women of the youth struggle with this. A man provides the structure and foundation and the woman beautifies it.
I have been meaning to say this since I started watching your videos...if we knew each other personally we would be good friends bc our way of thinking is soo similar. The only difference is you can communicate it so well unlike me.
Honestly couldn't see what people might be offended about in your reply since you literally started it with "for me..." and then went on to explain why you think that way. I guess people took the morality and the foundation part as harsh but it's really about perspectives.
I am not on a lot of social media so not sure what people said. It does take all kinds to make the world and that's what makes it interesting! :)
Masha’Allah I loved this! I agree with your opinion; it’s best to be with someone on the same religious level as you. You can’t risk being with someone who’s shaky on religion, and possibly bring down you or people close to you (for ex: your kids) I’m not married or anything, but it’s still very logical
I'm so grateful i happened to see this video otherwise i wouldn't have this as a priority when it comes to marriage! Thank you yasmin lovee your content!
Thank you so so so much Jasmine for making videos like these its really helpful and appreciated may Allah reward you immensely and grant you and ur loved ones Janatul Firdaws 🤲🏻❤️
I totally admire the way you state your opinion and agreed with the most states you made, this is a video much needed!
The only thing I would love to add is that children in this kind of household are raised by parents with „different lifestyles“ and suddenly you may become a mother figure (eg) that is forcing children to do so much religious stuff and meanwhile they watch their father living a more comfortable muslim-lifestyle.
Of course its the right of everyone to raise kids they want but in the stated example it is much harder to guide your children to become good muslims. They would always have the other „truth“ their father in front of their eyes, watching him and learning from him too.
Again not that in this example the father figure is evil or sth, he would just not be the children’s second most important person, supporting your priorities in their religious education and i can also imagine that this problem may get bigger when they enter puberty..
Love your video and I totally agree with your main points!!!❤
I think it’s absolutely valid to search for a practicing parter, but only as long as you practice what you preach. First of all, don’t be a hypocrite 😅 but more importantly, don’t put such expectations on someone else. You cannot burden your loved ones with responsibility of changing YOU and making YOU a better person 👏🏻
Completely agree with everything you said!
Im a Christian women and I agree with you. I want a man who is practicing my relationship not just Christian in name. He will be the head of our family so must be religiously strong. So I agree 💯
A Christian woman that accepts that a man is the head? Respect
I agree with you and you explained the topic beautifully
Jazaki Allahu khairan for bringing up a much needed topic. If we want spouses to live with forever in Jannah then religion should be our number one priority.
Thank you dear!!!! 😘😘😘😘 so much wisdom
I love you so much! Honestly this is so important x
Barkallah very well explained sister!
I agree with you 100%. I have worked to be where i am, it's my parents upbringing too. And SubhanAllah deen is something that gives you so much confidence, content and the courage to survive as a minority. Just that intention 'for Allah' can make you so strong and overcome so many hurdles. I would hate to see everything that I grew up with to go into drain and not see your children as practicing. Basically we would be answerable to Allah in regards of upbringing the children, so why not take control when you can. It's super frightening but when you make it for Allah, He gives you that courage
I literally went through this and I couldn’t put into words why him not being on his deen was such a big deal to me, but everything Jasmine said is basically how I felt 😭🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 alhamdulillah I said no to him
I love your maturity. You are sharing gem like information here. Thank you so much for this video. I shared with my friends and family so that they can learn from you. All your words echo with my thinking. Love and respect for you from the core of my heart for the sake of Allah❤
i 100% agree with you!! you answered this question so well!!! mashaALLAH!!
Masha’Allah, beautifully explained.
100% on point. We'll said. Love all your vlogs🤗💕
Well said jasmine 💯 May Allah reward you🤲🏽
Thank you for making this video Jasmine
Talking about this topic and being honest and firm was like a sacred duty that you fulfilled
I’m sure this video will help a lot of people
Myself included
Wishing you the best
Your absolutely right Masha’a Allah❤ This is pure logic and everyone should think like that
if hes not practicing your plans wont revolve around prayer so day to day activities become sources of tension. a basic example could be he wants to take you to dinner but your not planning it around your prayers so its not been accomodated i.e. pray before you leave or make sure you finish before the prayer ends
so insignificant when compared to the msg of the entire video but I gotta say it - i adore that you say la La la instead of bla bla bla. It’s so refreshing and sweeter lol!
Great video Jasmine! I totally agree 👍🏻
ur best vid ever!!
I agree with you 10000% thank you for actually saying this because not many ppl are giving solid advice much like all other aspects of your life there has to be compatibility with your spouse and as Muslims religion has to be the focus point...and not enough ppl think about this person being the father of your children...do you want your children to be like your spouse ? Men DEFINITELY don't think about this enough...
Very well said !
I agree 50/50 😅, I know so many people that are reverts( so they didn't have any example) and I know so many "born Muslims" that pray and fast and are good Muslims even if their parents are not religious at all
It’s great educational and I love it Jasmine! Keep it up
I agree with you 100%
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I agree with everything you said and thank you for sharing this , I'm just going to add to what you said something very important that we're talking here about " practicing Muslim" there's many Muslims that actually don't practice Islam in any shape of form and don't follow the principals of Islam , so when we say a Muslim we're talking about something that is Muslim and his religion is a big part of his life and it shows on his actions.
Thank you, sister❤️❤️❤️ This video was very helpful, and informative
I’m a practicing Catholic but I agree 100% It’s super hard to find a single man around my age that practices my faith, at least where I live. I also agree that it’s not your responsibility to change him- if he decides on his own that he wants to value religion, great, but if he changes it will be because of him, not you. It’s not your responsibility to fix him.
i loved this so much keep making this kinda of vids ♥️♥️🌹
I strongly agree with you Jasmine🤍🤍🤍
I hope every girl and woman watching this video LISTENS VERY CAREFULLY to what Jasmine is saying. She is speaking so wisely mashaAllah tabaarakAllah and what she said is so very important.
JazakiAllah khairan Jasmine
- from a 40 yr old mother, married for 12 miserable years, and wishing someone had told me this 20yrs ago 😭
I feel your pain
@@shiratnamatovu6619 I usually post this dua when ppl are seeking marriage but it is also permissible and valid to say it after marriage. May Allah bring barakah into all our marriages. Here is the dua:
Dua for a righteous spouse and children from Surah Furqan (25:74):
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Transliteration: rabbana hab lana min azwaajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata a’yunin waj’alna lil muttaqeena imama.
Translation: Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.
Well said Dear! ❤
Long story short : Never ever trade your imaan (faith) and your deen (religion for the sake of love !! It doesn't worth it at all !! At the end of the day, it's between you and your Lord and not between you and your lover !! Deen over love always !! So, choose well your partner because if he/she doesn't correspond to your moral values then love will blind you anyway sooner or later !!
My first comment. I agree 100000% with you. I am much older than you and from my experience what you said is so so true.May Allah bless you.
Love what u r saying ❤
Happy seeing u again active in here 🥺❤
omg i can’t stop commenting because i’m enjoying watching this so much right now “marrying into a diy project” 😂😂😂
100% agree with you!
jasmine you are so pretty!! :)
It would've been great if you turned this girl talk into a podcast. Jazaki Allahu khairan sis
Jasmine. You nailed it! I like it when someone expresses my point of view aloud :) May Allah protect you.
Well said Jasmine! 👏🏿 May Allah swt reward u ❤
Ngl, without Islam, I get scared about what I would have become, or even if I would still exist today (yeah, gets super deep :/). Alhamdulillah that I continue to practice this beautiful and only true religion.
Jasmine, May Allah bless you for sharing such an important topic. I'm so glad someone from the Muslim community is talking about this in more detail so that girls who are looking for potential spouses are able to open their eyes and understand the importance of religious values in a relationship
Foundation is the most important, doesn't matter if you like same shows and activities if your way of life is completely different