Adjusting for Love; Girl Dad Dilemma
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- čas přidán 6. 12. 2020
- Do men really believe women never change in relationships? We discuss what adjusting really looks like in relationships. Then we dive into a #GirlDad dilemma. And we’re also weighing in on people who show off their good deeds on social media.
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TWENTY THREE MINUTES???! Look at us getting spoiled
Yes🙌
The longest video upload everrrrrrrrrr. Def spoiling us today.
About time 👏
We really are
I don't know why ANYBODY should be asked when they are having children in the first place. Very intrusive.
Very
word.
Thank you! Let people be and stop bringing up kids it's gets annoying especially if you 25+
Eh, it’s a bit difficult because many people who ask are asking from a good place, aka they’re excited for you to experience the joy of children/a growing family. But also yeah some people are just nosy AF and just like to give opinions 🙅🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
Thank you. People need to stop asking that.
Loni does not need a stylist or makeup artist. She's doing an amazing job on her own!
“What you said shoulder?” 😂😂😂😂
🗣yaaaaaas Loni!!!
I’m dead
💀💀 I'm here for this banter/Jab! 😂
Jeannie is always funny😂
Lol I didn’t understand this comment until AFTER I watched the video 😂😂
I just want to say that Loni's skin is beautiful. She has blossomed so much in this time
23?! I have been here since the beginning and I have never seen a video this long. Keep them coming, please!
It’s so funny how Adrienne and Jeannie go so deep into these topics and Loni comes on and makes it so simplistic 🤣🤣🤣
I feel like Loni's just trying to be funny
It gets annoying sometimes
Actually not the right topic for the laughs. I yelled STFU. Child rearing is a lot. The since they married and if he wants kids now they should do it. Loni is making me pass on the real CZcams clips.
@@gospel3067 I agree👍 Theyre still young. They have time to have children. At the end of the day its nobody's buisness or anybody's place to judge on whether or not Justin and Hailey should have kids or fast they decide to have them.
@@gospel3067 Right!
Essential workers should be time person of the year. PERIODT. No hazard pay and still had to work and keep this economy running while risking their lives.
* that includes ALL of them, and NOT just healthcare workers!*
Agree
Definitely!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
And yes I was one of those people!! Lol.
@@MelLovesMoviesAndBooks God bless you, my love. My mom is a nurse so I completely understand. Big ups to you guys. The real heroes💞💞
Well it depends sorry systemic racism in the hospital field is still happening. 😶 And what about Farmers, and people as a whole working in the food industry they should be on time as well after all they too are risking their lives it’s not just doctors and nurses 😶.
Am I the only one that thinks these 4 ladies would be so great in a movie together? Sex And The City type of movie but with women of color! 👑
That would be nice, but that slot is for a GIRLFRIENDS movie. :) That writers’ strike is what messed up things. I’m STILL waiting. :(
Sigh.
I see the movie about them going on a trip somewhere.
Agreee!
They could a movie that’s similar to Girls’ Trip or Rough Night. I would go see that :))
Thank you Jeannie for acknowledging the essential workers. Especially to the medical workers and volunteers who are overworked, under appreciated, and continuously sacrificing themselves to save our lives.
I was kind of uncomfortable when loni made the have babies when young comment around Adrienne. Things do not work out as planned at times. My son died in delivery when I was 26 - and tbh.....my mental I need to wait. It’s not easy for everyone in their 20’s.
Sorry for your loss hun 🙏 I hope you will heal and be blessed with healthy happy children when you're ready 💙
Around Jeannie too ..❤️
THANK YOU! I felt the exact same... those kind of comments are hurtful.
I’m sorry for your loss! ❤️
Sorry for ur son!🙏
@S J in what world? 26 is still young and this is coming from someone 10 years younger.
I think all celebs should wait as their marriages never last anyway.
💀💀💀💀lmsi
🤣
savage
Lmfaoooooo Bruhh 😭😭
True
I love how A asks for help on a word 😭 just her little quirk
It’s the brain fog from Hashimoto’s. She does so well though.. it’s endearing 😍
As a hijab wearing woman please no men walk into the ladies room..We are rearranging and fixing things 🤣. As Adrienne said family room is the best.
That’s a very interesting point. Personally I am a fan of unisex bathrooms for the reason Jeannie said and to allow Dads to help their daughters. But I respect that reason too and want a solution that’s in everyone’s best interests.
Maybe they should install a third Unisex bathroom with a Family stall. Women in hijabs can use the women’s room, parents of either gender can change their baby in privacy, people of all pronouns can use a bathroom in safety, and men and women wearing hijabs and other religious-driven attire can change in their respective modesty. And before you guys say “who can afford that,” people used to say the same about ADA accommodations. And admittedly some places still don’t have those, but the point is THAT A LOT OF PLACES DO BECUZ THEY LEARNED TO ADAPT.
Thanks for family bathrooms are getting more popular
THEY BETTER GIVE US 23 MINUTOS TOMORROW THAT TAM TAM IS COMING
Tam is coming 😿
The girl chat videos are longer now.... interviews depending on how long they are will be one or two segments (which will be two parts on CZcams )
“While changes can come from the outside, growth always comes from within you.”.....And can I just say I love how genius speaking up for herself more these days
The loose tousled bun on A just made my day 😩😩😩 YESS!!!
Can we talk about how Justin got this question when typically women only get these questions!! That alone shows that times are changing to be more inclusive even when there are still periods for growth on these things and how we talk about them.
Agreed 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽
That orange looks stunning on Jeannie! STUNNING
The difference between growing because of a relationship and changing for a man is a combination of the motivation behind them and the authenticity behind the motivation
Giving it up for this 23 minute girl talk! Finally !🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Right!
There were even quite a few cuts in the video, so it probably was actually longer! 😍
They are blessing us👀
@@t_better99 actually the cuts were made so we wouldn’t have to see hem constantly say l we have to take a break “
Forreal! They could make so much money on CZcams posting full clips! And putting ads!
Jeannie so shady talking about “whatcha say shoulder (Loni)” 😂🤣🤣
Hilarious
I think that was more hilarios than shady the shady part was probably somewhere in the beginnig when she was preaching and going off about something😕😏😊 I dont know I don't remeber espeially when she mention Adrienne's height now that was shady shedidn't have to do all that😳🥴🥴🤭
I wanna get Loni's look one day 😭😭😭, she's so fllllyyyyy
When Adrienne began laughing when Lony googled the word I could not help but burst out laughing😂😂lots of love from Holland♥️
That color is EVERYTHING on Jeannie
Adrienne looks extra lovely today. She is glowing! I love her hair and makeup!
I think what Jeannie meant that Loni was acting like she wasn’t getting!! 😩 It’s that vain, superficial change versus healthy natural evolution/growth
“Thank you Mai friend” 🤣🤣 Loni !!!
I totallly agree with Loni, Jeannie just getting tied up on a word. That’s why her and Adrienne are friends cause they are truly long winded.
😂 You ain't wrong!
I do think that is part of what makes them so enjoyable. Loni and Garcelle are enjoyable too; they all have different characteristics that make them interesting as well as different histories to influence their perspectives.
@@t_better99 Lmaoo when Garcelle said what about us they jeannie didnt answer her lmaoo when she said that's why Im your friend Adrienne aww I felt kind of and lol but its ok thats why she had loni since her and lol seem to have their thing when the show was still on like you said😊
Oh when Jeannie says let’s take it a step further 🤦♂️ another 5 minute spill, even Garcelle started laughing 😂😂😂
Why Loni look like she going to the motherland? I like it. 👍
I felt bad for Adrienne during the first few mins cause she is much like me and wants kids but it ain’t happening for her... when people say stuff like “ have your baby’s young!” It hurts... look at her face during that... she’s trying to be cool but I know exactly how she feels 😔
Can't she have kids?
There are always going to be clout chasers, but I love watching good deed videos whether that is someone doing something nice for another person or rescuing an animal, whatever the case. It's Beautiful to see the compassionate side of humanity to balance out all the hate and negativity in this world.
I love that we are getting the full girl chats these days thank you!!! I get what Loni is saying but its like Jeannie said it sounds like Justin spoke about this with his wife, so if he is willing to wait then good for them.
I also loved the topic where Jeannie spoke about growth and evolving, so true! You can see that happened to her once she got involved with Jeezy, she's not the same person she once was and that's okay. People mature and I was really impressed with Adrienne agreeing with her.
The girl chats these days are so refreshing, everyone stands by their opinions without there being any tension. This is how the girl chats should be where you can speak your mind and respect each others opinions without the drama.
The whole changing room thing is wild to me because in the uk and here in Australia the changing room is seperate from the toilets. It’s generally a whole room with changing tables, private breast feeding rooms with sofas and a play area for other older children within the changing rooms and it’s a requirement for the cleaning to be done every hour
Ive seen those in the states but if it’s a small store or restaurant then that’s not he norm to ave all the options. In malls and large stores and big venues, that’s more prominent.
Wow.
I understand everyones point I feel that being with the right person can make you better you both can nurture each other and bring out the best in each other I have been a fan since season one and I see the growth in Adrienne and how she was when she was with her last guy to how she is with Israel shes even said his love brings out the best in her!!!!!
Also, I love everyone’s look ☺️ but Adrienne’s look is so beautiful to me 🤎🧡😍
Change is actually necessary. As you get older it's impossible to stay the same. However it's up to you if that change is for the better or for the worse.
yep, all the essential workers definitely deserve it. All those nurses, doctors, mail people, cashiers, stockers in stores, agriculture workers who never stop working & thanks to them we have food in our tables. For me all of these are our true heroes!!!
Changing and Growing are the same. I understand what Jeannie is saying but now we're picking straws lol
When you grow you change but when you change you don't necessarily grow, So let's not.
At the end of the day, it’s still change lol that’s what Loni meant
That's not what Jeannie was explaining, it's not the same concept.
Why do I always get the vibe that Loni purposely gives the opposite answer or another opinion on purpose... not because she truly believes what she’s saying !! Idk her vibe throws me off
I think she's just trying to give more perspectives this season because before, it was mostly unanimous
She has admitted to playing devils advocate sometimes just to keep the conversations interesting.
Loni often doesn't have much to add so the only way to be apart of the conversation and sound smart or funny, she comes with these weird perspectives. It makes her feel better and sound like someone who is more mature and looks at things from another angle even though it doesn't makes sense.
Loni’s perspective was the best. I know Justin wants babies so bad from the interviews I have seen but he seems like he is putting up with his wife because he loves his wife. She only said it would be nice if there is a discussion between them about the timeline.
Aquarius-woman Loni perspective has always been good
Ladies’ Choice
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Look at Justin!!! First of all I have to say... even though I’m younger than him by like 7 years... I’m proud to see the growth in Justin... we went from him singing “Baby” to him being open to the idea of having babies with his wife but still giving her time to do her things and let her process on her needs before they end up baring a child of their own... it takes s real man to understand and support his woman no matter the circumstance... as long as they’ve communicated , have a deadline and both have the same,e vision for their marriage and can agree on something and are happy... hell I’m happy for them... ya know what I mean ?
Pick Your Person
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I would love Stacey Abraham’s to be on the cover for obvious reasons... I mean come on..l this election was THROUGH THE ROOF due to her hard work to expand voting areas and also helping people register to vote! I would like for Joe Biden & Kamala to be on the front once again for obvious reasons... I mean Joe has been in the political game for years and has FINALLY at his old age maintained the consistency to make sure he became president for th and first time within the past 4 decades he’s been involved in politics... And Kamala I mean the first woman, a HBCU alumni and a biracial VP at that! Layers on layers on layers!! And I would like to have black female voters be on th cover cuz BLACK WOMEN... mannnn when i tell you black women were the BACK BONE of this election they came through!!
Adjusting For Love
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Ok I feel like we’re focusing on the semantics of the word too much... TO ME the idea of change means to conform into something you’re not to benefit someone else and not yourself... evolve means to become a BETTER version of the self you know you could be based off the mistakes and the things you’ve learned going forward with your life!!! Either way , whichever word you use... I think you should not be changing for any damn body... especially if those changes don’t add to ur joy or ur peace of mind! You can change for someone else and not be happy... but only you can change for yourself and evolve into the best version of yourself
Girl Dad Dilemma
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I love how Jeannie mentioned the other people that don’t get the proper recognition...I mean it would be nice to have gender neutral areas for parents with young kids , or for non-binary people or trans people... but the reality is things as much as I would like to support the idea behind it... people who aren’t open minded and only worried about their societal standards and they’re stubborn then they don’t care
no
Ur 19 Myronn? From all your comments I always thought u were a middle-aged woman 😄
@@rae52835 right?! WTF 😂
I love the show like this. The audience clapping was too much. Wendy Williams show too!
Maybe not the clapping but having them on set where they can do the game segments or have FRIYAY drinks I miss that 🥺💗
@@tamerilee I agree. Have some fans of the show on occasionally on a zoom video chat.
I actually forgot about the audience!! I guess I don't miss them either. The clapping slowed their convo because they can't be heard sometimes over the cheering and whatnot. Also, they have to pause for the audience's reaction before proceeding. I remember people teased Adrienne for waiting for applauses since she said something that she believed was clap-worthy.
Loni looks good in purple
According to Google when you are growing your moving steadily in one direction. This could mean gradually becoming a better parent. Consistently working towards a promotion or career shift, getting a degree, or other qualifications. While CHANGES come from the outside GROWTH always come from within you.
So Jeannie is indeed correct‼️ I'm proud of both her and Jay for growing. Otherwise, they'll repeat their mistakes from their last relationships. Kudos to her for knowing the difference. ❤️
I feel like woman change for every season in their live. When they meet a guy, when they become a mum, when they with their friends, when they alone. I feel like we change depending on the situations and time of life we’re in.
And the change might not necessarily be for the better.
Agreed 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽
DNice should be an honorable mention, he is just everything!!!!
Yes Jeannie....essential workers for sure! Agreed!
Jeanie is prime example of ladies who change when they enter a relationship. Is ok Jeanie just accept it 🤪🤪🤪🤪
Exactly
How did she change?
My university department had a vote and last year we reopened our building with unisex latrines on every floor. It's so much easier. And everyone grown enough to respect each other. It's great.
I actually would not have liked that at all.
I think everything depends on balance. As far as the bathroom thing - how about just make them all individual, closed off private rooms, with doors and walls that reach all the way down to the floor and every single room has a changing table? That way, anybody could use any room and they could truly be unisex restrooms. 💁🏽♀️
Samantha Rose Murphy-Keller how about we keep them same sex?
Completely disagree with the unisex bathroom idea. I would feel so uncomfortable using a public bathroom with a man in the bathroom and i would never send my daughter in to a bathroom with men. Thats dangerous.. People dont behave as they should in public as Jeannie suggested. Unisex bathrooms is asking for trouble.
Same. I think it’s okay if there are single unisex bathrooms as well as gendered bathrooms separately. I know small stores wont be able to do that so before they introduce unisex, the priority stays as separate bathrooms. Sharing bathrooms with men are gross.
Ke Go right. The amount of girls that have been assauIted by a man in a bathroom is staggering!! But nobody cares, only maIes feelings matter. 7 year old girl was recently rped in a unisex bathroom by a man. Shocker 🙄
I disagree. Unisex bathrooms are add on bathrooms, no one is saying the men or women bathrooms will no longer exist. They will still be in use and there can be unisex bathrooms for other people. I like the idea of it a lot and have seen this idea implemented in my college and works completely great.
There are ways to design public restrooms that increase privacy for the person using the toilet and the safety of families with children who need to use bathrooms. I’ve seen it in NYC and in Japan. Even traditional public bathrooms could become unisex by knocking out the walls to the public area and having full length doors on each stall. Almost everyone has unisex bathrooms in their homes in the US. If we think of it that way, it might be easier to understand.
A growth is still change Jeannie. You still talking about being different. Growth is just more specific. Wokeness problems.
Yes to every single one of your looks ladies!!! 💛💛💜❤👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🌻
Love Jeanie but she needs to be directed to let others speak
Agree
She and Adrienne constantly interrupt.
The really talk over each other so bad lmao
The conversational structure of The Real compared to its big sister The View's very strict and orderly structure for sure has its pros and cons. Talking over one another is a definite con.
Very Annoying
It’s annoying but it’s also really hard with zoom because of everyone’s connection.
This episode was really bad.
Garcelle and Loni look gorgeous ❤❤❤
Soooo true. I always said I wanted a lot of kids until I got pregnant and was so miserable I swore I would never do it again
That was me after my miscarriage. Never again! My body didn’t feel like mine. I was moody. My body was never the same and I have trouble with it now and people treat you different forever
Leora Cho, same thing here. Love my little one with all my heart but I have decided I'm a 1-child mother 👩👧💕
Wow 23 minutes. On Christmas can we get a full episode pleaseeee???? Like a whole 45 mins!!
Crying laughing 😂 Adriane said ...y’all playing games 😂😂😂 Jeannie said ok shoulders....cracking up....but seriously I really hope Jeannie changed and wants a baby with her soon to be husband jeezy 😍😍
Guys I think our baby A is releasing her pick-me ways🥰
@beyone queen omg yes!! So tired of her lately
beyone queen she’s draining
I think she’s like this bc she got PICKED! She so happy w Israel so that insecurity she letting go
Yeah cause she got picked
@beyone queen y’all think anyone is a “ pick me “ how can someone be a pick me... when they’ve already BEEN PICKED! You don’t have to agree lol this isn’t ‘ the real where if I have the popular opinion that means I’m good” it’s “ the real where all conversations and opinions are welcomed and ar able to be shared even if they disagree
I love the 4 of them together!! Garcelle is a lovely addition to the show.
Y’all are awesome keep being you and so gorgeous fr I love this show we need more shows like this 😌😌😌
Jeanie was shady with that “this is why your my friend comment”
It’s not shade... she always say this it’s her way of saying “ that’s what I’m saying “ or “ see you understand what I mean “
It was definitely a shade. A very smooth one, but Loni got it at least from her expression.
@Lady Scorpio she is ASIAN !!! SHE IS NOT OF EUROPEAN OR OF CAUCASIAN DESCENT !!! SHE IS NOT WHITE... AND ADRIENNE IS PUERTO RICAN & ECUADORIAN !!! What is your obsession with speaking negatively about non black poc
@Lady Scorpio it’s called The REAL... u don’t get to “ criticize “ any damn one especially when it comes to their race... you are s troll
I hope Tamera is in every segment tomorrow, but they’re probably not going to give us that satisfaction. I guess I’ll take what I can get.
bro she’s gone she ain’t on the real no more XD
@@emiliandreablue9201 she is a guest on Tuesday’s show.
It should ultimately be the woman’s decision. I’m not sure where Loni was going with that 🤔. You should absolutely talk as a couple about what you think is reasonable and most realistic in terms of children, and the wife can definitely take the husband’s opinions on the matter into consideration, but ultimately, again - it’s the woman who has to carry the child. Loni’s never gone through childbirth, so I don’t think she can really have a say on this because she’s never gone through child birth, post partum depression, loss of sleep every night after the newborn is born, etc. It’s not all roses, rainbows, and butterflies - it’s expensive, thankless, hard work 💁🏽♀️
think the way justin said it was thats all on her ... but think as a couple it should be more this is our decision to wait for her career. Not her decision alone.
@Mariam Tsehay I agree with your point
@@tanvi7532 I would hope that they’ve talked about it, and that is what he meant. Might’ve just come out wrong 🤷🏽♀️
@@tanvi7532 i agree... i think it should be on the man and woman to decide
She just wanted to play devils advocate and try to advocate for men after all marriage is a lifelong commitment a lifelong union between the opposite sex(es).
(Or same sex now just saying I don’t discriminate over here 😊)
Adrienne’s top is so cute. I love the colors!
Loooveeeed the longer clip!!!! Thank you, I missed those❤
totally agree with loni and what justin said. also i felt so bad for adrienne when she said “have your babies young” 😢
I Agree!!!!No Matter what you say or Do,Can't Change aMan!That's Facts!
A thank you to who ever uploaded this long ass video! 🥰🥰🥰
Adrienne looks absolutely breathtaking! Lord have mercy! 😫
I don't know why I always find something off (particularly with the Bieber boy) any time I see the couple's picture. The girl has a settled look in her eyes but the guy's eyes screams uncertainty. I just hope he doesn't the girl's heart...
Sounds to me that Justin was saying that he is open to children at any point but his wife wants them later and he is ok with that. They both want children but now isn't the best time. Doesnt sound like he didn't have an opinion on it he just comprised with his wife. Sounds like they have a good marriage. I think that was mature of him. When the time comes they will both be happy when they start their family. Seems like Loni always wants to start something....lol.
I agree with Loni, yes it her body but it’s their baby so it should be a collective decision. If they both agree, great! If they don’t...idk but that ain’t my business😂I don’t have an answer
Have you ever heard the phrase: Mama's baby, papa's maybe"? Justin got it right. The woman must be the one to decide when and how many children to have cause she has to carry and birth them and. Plus she'll most probably be doing most of the child rearing. When they get divorced, she will probably be the one with primary custody. It's not a coincidence that men are able to move on faster after a divorce than women. Justin is just being fair and realistic.
@@omphilemoerane2569 What if she don't want kids but he do what then
@@shantell4847 then they'll do what Jeannie and Freddie did.
Loni is the mediator so she always has to challenge what the other girls say to offer a different perspective. That gets kinda annoying.
@@shantell4847 this should be discussed before even getting married. That way everyone knows what they’re getting into and can leave if that’s not what they want. That seems like the most fair thing to do for both parties
Everyone’s reaction at 13:22 has me DEAD 😂😂
Adrienne, Loni, an Jennie look so beautiful in this clip like the whole look is put together so well😍😍
Jeannie can talk for days 😂😂😂😂 she be going so deep she looses me. Bless her 😊
I see what Jeanie was saying it’s like a flower it grows not change into a different flower
Like that "Grown and woke."
Loni is looking royal 👑 💜
You girl are educating me i love all of you
. perfect😘
23 minutes?! 😳 I'm READY
That Ankara head gear looking gooood on Loni 😻
Adrienne face @9:12 That's my face like what! UH! Yes!😆😆🤦🏾♀️
So I don't know if you guys have seen The view lately during the pandemic, but I like how the moderator presents the topic and then chooses one of the hosts to answer first and then it goes to the next host in the next host and I feel like the real should adopt that format because it makes for a more organized discussion and they're not talking on top of each other once the topic is presented. Because that kind of back and forth only works in person and it's not so jarring but when it's a video conference it's kind of confusing and messy.
i love it when loni calls adrienne munchkin its so cute
So for Loni, Time's Person of the Year is America. The voters, the protesters, essential workers, victims of injustice and victims of COVID. That's actually a really good idea because even though it would include perpetrators and supporters of injustice, 2020 was the year we got to see the depth of those people's ignorance and prejudice which showed us the work we need to do as a nation.
Adriennes eyes look amazing today, damn!
Growth is a Decision you made on your own because you want to grow.
Change is usually forced by Life but we're too Prideful to admit that.
Love A's hair 🥰
Jeannie should have her own show.
Oh my goooooosh! The woman who was a ballerina is the best story ever💛
Loni looks amazing! Her stylist on the show need to be fired!
I would also like to add Chadwick Boseman to that list for the strength he showed the work ethic he showed by not looking for pity but working his very best up to the end. I imagine those fight scenes he did in black panther were taxing on his body when his body was less than able to endure it. I felt proud and inspired by him. To all those who like to say that black people are lazy and don't like to work SMH. Knowing that he wasn't in the minority but the majority. May he rest in peace and love. 🇧🇧
Love the family rooms. Hate that the employees use to hide and use their cell phones or to take dumps. So many times I'm waiting and its always an employee coming out in one of those scenarios.
They all look gorgeous
Yes Justin!! (Yes Garcelle)! 👌🏽👌🏽😁💖
Growth is change!
A flower grows and changes.
A cocoon changes into butterfly. Growth IS CHANGE!
That is still the same person or changed into a BETTER VERSION OF WHAT THEY ARE!
Jeannie and Ade doing too muvh with that WORD!
THANKYOU LONI
My husband said the same thing, all up to me ❤️