@@CharlieApples same, i wouldnt mind dating a bisexual guy bc im bi as well, but we need to be real with everybody about who we are and what kind of situation we want to be in. men of all sexualities feel entitled to lie to and use women in one way or another.
A guy being bisexual wouldn’t bother me at all. He is bi not gay, so he would equally be into women and men. Being bi doesn’t make someone more likely to cheat. As long as someone is single, only dealing with you and has no STDs then it doesn’t matter if they are bisexual.
I'm one of those women that's ok with it as long as you're honest. I think women would be surprised to know how many men are actually bi. There are a lot that come out to me when they learn I'm ok with it. You wouldn't even know..
I once dated this guy, he told me I had to lose more weight, I am 5’4 and was weighing 138Ibs. I told him, he as well was overweight and if he wants us to lose weight, I am open to it and we can do it together (he was probably 300 Ibs). He had a belly and he looked funny but I overlooked his appearance. He then said I was body shaming him. Damn.. lol. These men😅😅
next time a man says to you: I'd hang out or date you if you lost weight...you say to him: if I lost weight, I WOULDN'T date you. This man was obviously taking your temp to see what you were willing to put up with, next time this happens, don't be polite because he wasn't polite to you, and say: I'm outta here Jabba and get up and LEAVE. Don't entertain a pile of $h*T like that.
The lady in the beige top with the small bum story is a clear attempt at the guy trying to 'humble' her. I'm so glad she has her self-esteem intact and dismissed him without any second chances because she's beautiful. If someone is showing you horrible character traits from the very beginning, they absolutely will get progressively worse over time. Run!
DRIVE TO YOUR DATE, HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY, DO NOT GO BACK TO THEIR OR YOUR HOME. TELL A TRUSTED FRIEND OR FAMILY WHO YOUR MEETING AND WHERE YOUR MEETING.
AND IF YOU CAN, SEND A PICTURE OF YOUR DATE, A DESCRIPTION OF THEIR CAR/WHAT THEY'RE WEARING, AND THEIR LICENSE PLATE. SHARE YOUR LOCATION UNTIL THE END OF THE DATE/ YOU'RE HOME SAFE.
This reminds me of the guy I met who BADGERED me for my number in person, I give it to him after a while thinking ok maybe he's cool. We talk on the phone the first day and he asks my age. I tell him and he's like oh u a lil old for me, I was like oh ok. He's like maybe you can make it up to me and basically prove that he should still talk to me. I said ok bye. He calls again and is like why u not responding to me, I'm like u said I'm too old for you and I'm not convincing you of anything. U wanted to talk to me, I was minding my business. This man proceeded to call me and text me for over a damn year. I never answered again.
Oh yeah this guy told me that too after a 5 hr date. When I told him I didn't like that, he said he was only kidding and I'm too sensitive and laughed about it like there was something wrong w me. #gaslightinggames
SAME! This man was so aggressive when asking me out, I said, "let's go out rn then". A few days later he says he's not into me because I'm "too negative", then wants to be "friends" and "maybe something can come from it"? I said "no thank you" and blocked him. I saw him again, he tried to talk to me and I walked away.
My worst date was with a guy I had been talking for 3 months. I told him "maybe I don't like you in person, it happens a lot to me, bc photos are different than real life". And that's what happened, he was uglyyyyyyyy. He was a creepy, he insulted me being vegan (he had never done that over the phone). And the cherry on top was he saying "you can not leave without having sex with me". I left safely and blocked him
Oh no same thing happened to me before Xmas. The guy was super weird, dirty teeth, and didn't act like he wanted to be with me. I got home and blocked him. I'm done with dating ❤❤
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName still not the same, some can be decent on video, but I can end up not liking his way of moving. And I don't use dating apps anymore, so no need of doing that tango
@@anabelsamado not video chat but definitely should go on first date within week of number. Don’t you ever waste your time without a man taking you on a date.
I've had so many crazy and even dangerous encounters with men in my younger years. After one date this guy wanted to continue hanging out. He claimed his friend was having a party. I decided to follow him in my own car to the "party". He lead us to an unsavory neighborhood and tried to get me to follow him down a dark, suspect alley where nothing but dudes were standing around, but I declined. I told him to enjoy the party, but I'm going home and would catch him later. I started driving away and he backed out of the alley to follow me. Long story short we got into a high-speed chase around the city that ended when I drove into a Walgreen's parking lot to flag down some cops that were posted up chilling. This fool had the nerve to call me the next day like nothing happened.
I really appreciate and love the fact that the gay/bisexual man did not get mad at the woman for his gay partner cheating. He knew she didn't know and did not blame her. And that's how women should act first unless they find out. The other woman knew then fight her 😅🤣🤣🤣
My mom was on a date with a dude years ago. He wasn't gay or bi, but a friend of the wife wandered up and told my mom he was married. Mom left so fast.
My husband took me to dinner and 2 movies on our first date lol When I ordered a meal that wasn’t a salad he was actually happy. He said he didn’t like how women pretend they don’t eat. I even ordered desert. He paid for everything of course. 😊❤️
Those guys were doing the break you down thing. There's a guy who explained it. Sort of "she's out of your league so knock her self-esteem down so she doesn't have the strengthen mentally and physically and emotionally to leave and then drag her through the mud". Basically men have to break women
called negging. Men who suffer from low self esteem neg women because they know the women are out of their league. I had a guy did me like this last year, blocked him from phone and social media. He was still ON IT even using his daughter's name as a trap for me to respond. I called the cops they couldn't do anything 😢 but finally called told him off when I threaten him with 🚓 and harassment. No more dating scene for me not even a simple hello in public, men are too unhinged.
@@katherinecordero2958 Plan an escape. Easier said than done but you have to because it won't get any better and please don't get pregnant because folks don't like to admit it but men definitely trap women all of the time with children. Some men can't take hearing "no, it's over or etc" and will/may try "harming" you. Sometimes words are just the beginning
It's wild that women in Atlanta will keep dating knowing that 80% of the men their are baby daddies, super spreaders OR on the downlow. I could NEVER move to Atlanta and it's annoying cause a lot of the Atl folks move to Houston and bring their shenanigans with them messing up the local dating culture.
Girl ive been STUCK here since i was a kid and ive always HATED the dating culture and the men out here. Im a simple girl with fucking MANNERS! I just want a good man who communicates and is considerate. Ive been dateless for ages because its so bad out here. Every dudes either a creep, deadbeat, horny & unreliable, DL, nasty af, sensitive af, triffling af, and/or a do nothing ass bitch aka hobosexual. I legit wanted to go take a trip to Houston because I heard the dating scene was better there. But now your telling me the toxic birds from here are fucking up Houston too??? We cant have shit out here😭😭
About 30 years ago, I had a man take me to HOOTERS for MY birthday! He was completely clueless about why I wasn't happy about it. I mean, it was HIS favorite place...he just KNEW it would become mine too!
This is a true eye opener. I appreciate these type of videos. I don't understand how we as a society has fallen this far. People really out here acting like highschoolers and applying that childish logic to adult relationships. These men are on some serious bull shit. They are up here worrying about women weight, looks and other unnecessary childish crap instead of getting to know a person and see if they are compatible smh....
males never wonder what type of husband they will be/are and if theyre qualified to be in a relationship. They feel you should be just happy to be in their presence.
Yeah there worried about her looks to a point we're some of them now want you to tone your look down to a 5 or 6 so that they can feel comfortable to manipulate the situation and some of these women don't realize that if a guy expects to be catered to like a woman then he might be bi sexual or gay. Men never tell you there preference when they meet you. You always have to find out the hard way later on after a lousy date on the town with a cheater and it's still cheating when you look at it if you really want to embarrass these guys make a big deal out of it that he cheated on you with a man it might get them both to sober up because I'm kind of concerned when guys turn gay id be afraid one of them might have an STD.
Society was always terrible to women, do you not remember how women couldn't even legally inherit if they had male family members or a husband because everything goes to them? Why? Because property cant own property.
The best way to disarm a game player is to laugh your head off at the first stupid thing he says. Then look surprised to find out it's not a joke. Play it cool for the rest of the evening. Get home safely and forget you ever met him.
I have no hope left either 😂 Worst date I went on was a guy in the middle of a bad divorce (I didn’t know), he was already angry when I got there, asked me nothing and talked at me about his life story and how much of a b his ex wife was. Then when he realised later I wouldn’t be putting out he just started insulting me and being rude. I’ve spent the last few years hung up on a friend/situationship and it took me so long to realise I’ve just been a nice accessory to his life and nothing more but he’s given me mixed messages the whole time 😢 so I’ve finally cut it off. I’m so very over it. So tired of trying. They can have the win. I’m looking after me now and so far it’s going great!
@@narcfreekeekee9168 it’s refreshing to not think about it anymore tbh! I’ve had a couple guys show interest but I’m just not bothered, I have a few strong relationships and am part of a nice community so that’s really all I need, plus my dogs 🥰. Life is pretty good on the whole.
If you don’t mind me asking, what “mixed messages” was he giving you? You said that he was a “friend” and you were in a “situationship” so by your own words he never fully committed to you. Did he commit and retracted it?
It's really a sad state of affairs. Men who are/were socially awkward think listening to podcasters will help more than therapy. What's happening is tragic. Seems they go out, apply manospheric tactics, traumatize some poor woman then congregate online to bash on women for not respecting the so called "good man". The more I hear, the more I sense that some men resent and don't like women. Be safe out there ladies.
It's exactly that. You described this phenomenon so well, the vicious circle that slightly socially awkward boys/men get themselves into, and as a consequence ruin it both for themselves and for the girls/women.
In my youth I dated a guy just to find out he has a boyfriend, a wife and at least one kid. he was a musician so I thought to myself 'oh well he's an artist, that's what they do'. Now I'm grown and know that's what 90% of men do 😅
Woah… women really be going through it with men. It’s sick! I’m so glad that I’m out of the dating pool because it’s rough out here and I don’t miss it.
These stories are wild. That ATL one takes the cake though (only because of the details). Someone you’re in a relationship with has your location (you have to monitor where he goes), you still go to cheat anyway; this is probably a place that you have been before together, his body language shifts several times throughout the night…. It sounds unbelievable, but people are truly WILD. Like I remember when one of my friend’s ex-boyfriends was hitting on me IN FRONT OF HER FACE. She said nothing, and I’m looking like… so, you’re not going to check him? I have to? And that’s still a tame incident.
I don’t wait for an explanation from anyone. The minute I see or hear anything suspicious… I block IMMEDIATELY✌🏽 ain’t nobody got time for the BS 😂 #treatthemliketricks #pettylabelle 🥂
I’ve got one. Dated a man who could not accept me being loving towards him. Flipped because I sent lunch to his job and he said that “He’s too private for that??????????! Weird. He thought I was conspiring with the receptionist 🤷🏾♀️I’m still not sure about what.
I was thinking the same thing. And continuing to respond to him. Ignore and block is really that simple. I guess some people like the attention even though they're complaining about it. Others continue the exchange just so they have an outrageous story to tell.
I think a lot of guys just don't know how to talk literally. I was on a date once, the guy kept adding into the conversation that I was 'quite big, as in tall.' his terminology was awful, i asked if he meant fat but he said 'no, like your legs are really long, have you ever measured them?' whaaat? Freaking weird times we live in.
I find that women overlook a lot less f things we don’t like about men, whether it be physically or not. We overlook. We need to stop and tell the truth just like they do.
My friend met a guy on hinge went on a date and dude pulled something out and smoked something. And it was crack you guys!!! in front of her. He said he was a functional crackhead 😭😭😭
For the first story; the man who had a boyfriend is a cheater. the issue isn't his sexuality, its that he lied and betrayed his partner. additionally, bisexual men exist, so its safe to assume that he might be bi, not gay.
Being bi-sexual is part of the issue if he didn't bother letting the woman he asked on a date know that beforehand. He just assumed she'd be ok with dating a bi-sexual man and he was wrong for that. Some women only want to date a heterosexual man and that's ok!
@@commanderinqueef why must everyone disclose their sexual orientation? there’s a double standard for men who aren’t hetero vs. women who aren’t hetero. a man rejecting a bi woman is less commonplace than vice versa; homophobia is thinly veiled as a preference when it concerns women’s dating preferences, hence why so many men are down low/closeted. let’s be adults here.
@@nejenje My preference is straight men, if a guy is bi it's not for me, we are adults so he should be open about his orientation, is he ashamed of being bi or something? Nothing wrong with it just not for me
For the first story: What if they get married and have kids???? Don’t you mean, what if she gets that incurable disease that will eventually end her life because he is on the down low??? That’s the question!
The first girl said she didn't want to the guy to pick her up because she wasn't comfortable with him knowing where she lived just yet but she let him send her a car. Wouldn't he need her address for that?
don't be simple minded ......I've driven 30 seconds to a plaza, another complex over, close cross roads, park MY car, .. send that address.. long as it's not your address or complex.... like ... duh
Response to lady who traveled to go out with a guy I know women think if he pays for a flight it’s a good thing but ❌ nooooo. The fact that you made the trip to see him instead of him catching a flight to see u is why he made up that story he was running game to see what other boundaries you were willing to let him cross. Never fly to go meet a date first as a female. These men run game to test you. You made an extreme effort to go meet him that is where the first mistake was made.
I don't understand why there is still any kind of communication going on, once it is realized and established that there is something about the person you don't like or that there is no chemistry. That calls for an immediate block! 🚫🛑Once something makes your antenna go up, block! 🚫🛑 Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Also, just because you don't let the guy pick you up, don't let him send a car either, then he'll have your address.
Thank you for posting these dating stories 🤗 We need the real stories of what women go through out there. I have considered online dating and usually the success stories are shown but this is the balance we need.
All of these stories let’s me know that women are still in a sunken place, unable to detect dust from afar and willing to deal/entertain with any and everything. Soon as you detect some nonsense. BLOCK. Why are y’all entertaining dust?!
Maybe if society quit trying to convince women to give the “nice” guy a try or that we’re somehow missing out on “good men” by being too picky or having standards of preferences then we could dodge these time wasting situationships.
@@Nitra813Society isn’t to blame for women allowing themselves to be insulted and mistreated by rubblebuckets. That’s 100% on women. We’re all adults. If some women are still willing to entertain these dust buckets despite the tons of red flags, well that’s on them.
@@dianaprince3176 Sorry dear. The statistics prove otherwise. Society absolutely socially conditions girls to settle for “good enough” Were groomed to be male-identified the moment we start to menstruate 🩸. This doesn’t start at adult age. It’s ingrained into our psyche under the guise of “nature “ Why do you think so many men and women are opposed to channels like these? Despite the overwhelming evidence that the pool of eligible men is LOW we’re told our life won’t have meaning or that we’re selfish for not wanting children or to get married. Our standards are too high and that’s why we’re not meeting the “right guys” 🙄 We’re told anything outside of having a relationship with a man and giving him access to our womb will NEVER be fulfilling nor is anything else worth pursuing outside of staying home to serve our husbands. We’re told constantly that men dont care about women being educated and or her ability to earn a high income so no “good woman” who pursue either. We’re told working women are independent bi***es and are miserable. Any woman who goes against “nature” is a divisive, man-hating, rebellious jezebel 😒
@@dianaprince3176 Have you not been paying attention? It’s being promoted in our movies, books, families, online, at schools and unfortunately from the pulpit. Society wants so badly for women to “stay in their place“ and for women to go to back to the way they were.” Even if a woman desires better for herself, she’s highly criticized and sometimes even marginalized into defaulting to these old teachings. Thats the point
These girls talk too much. If yall dont learn how to block people and keep it moving. Nothing is more powerful then removing someones access to you. Also, if you feel like a date is going left, leave. Don't waste your time and don't waste their time.
Not my worst date, my nieces. Her friend say that her boyfriend had a friend that would be right for her. He was biracial. On the date, he wanted to know, if her color was as white as it got. She thought this was weird. He said he liked really white girls, she wasn't white enough. What a whack job. So she told him to go on a date with a ghost and left. She called her friend and said don't bother setting me up with any of your boyfriends other weirdo friends.
First story: Why would you get drunk with a perfect stranger and expect him to take you home? The gay thing wasn't the worst of your problems. Edit: WHAT'S WITH THE RISKING YOUR LIFE FOR A FREE RIDE?!
I just made 40 , it’s even more tragic in your 40s. By this time the men have a ton of baggage, set in their ways, and if they don’t live a healthy lifestyle their 🍆 won’t work properly.
Now see... the first girl. I knew she was gonna say she got stuck with the bill. Nope. The MINUTE they came out that bathroom tusslin...I would have gotten up from that table. Nope 🙅♀️.
Ladies, Please stop putting yourselves thru this and In dangerous situations dating these males. Get Yo bag up and take yourself where you wanna go. It's safer that way😮😳🤦🏾♀️
I'm born and raised in Atlanta. The downlow is still a thing. Sure, there are more outwardly gay and proud gay people here. But the downlow culture never disappeared. Date safely, ladies.
video 1. wow just wow. SMDH video 2. NARC!!!!! video 3. NARC and body shamer. video 4. NARC, control issues, a real good story teller, a fight just waiting to happen. video 5. LMFAO. i just can't. I didn't give up, butta, um, shit is crazy out there. I'm good till God tell me otherwise.
So there are still people in this world who don't know bisexuality exists? That's pretty embarrassing. Not as embarrassing as those dusty dates though, not gonna lie.
I like the stories but I don't need her to come in before or after the video for the extra talking. The only reason I say that is because she isn't giving any thing other than what we see in the video
black women are so pretty. too pretty for this shit ☹️
There are so many bisexual men who need to just be honest. The kind of girls down with that exist and you know it.
@@CharlieApples same, i wouldnt mind dating a bisexual guy bc im bi as well, but we need to be real with everybody about who we are and what kind of situation we want to be in. men of all sexualities feel entitled to lie to and use women in one way or another.
A guy being bisexual wouldn’t bother me at all. He is bi not gay, so he would equally be into women and men. Being bi doesn’t make someone more likely to cheat. As long as someone is single, only dealing with you and has no STDs then it doesn’t matter if they are bisexual.
It’s called DL. If he’s bi he’s open and honest. If he’s hiding then he’s DL
More importantly, he’s a cheater 😒
I'm one of those women that's ok with it as long as you're honest.
I think women would be surprised to know how many men are actually bi. There are a lot that come out to me when they learn I'm ok with it. You wouldn't even know..
I once dated this guy, he told me I had to lose more weight, I am 5’4 and was weighing 138Ibs. I told him, he as well was overweight and if he wants us to lose weight, I am open to it and we can do it together (he was probably 300 Ibs). He had a belly and he looked funny but I overlooked his appearance. He then said I was body shaming him. Damn.. lol. These men😅😅
next time a man says to you: I'd hang out or date you if you lost weight...you say to him: if I lost weight, I WOULDN'T date you. This man was obviously taking your temp to see what you were willing to put up with, next time this happens, don't be polite because he wasn't polite to you, and say: I'm outta here Jabba and get up and LEAVE. Don't entertain a pile of $h*T like that.
@@heneverforesakesme4038 thank you!! I will remember that 😊
🤣🤣 not body shaming him
@@sydlaw2941 these men🤭
You're a healthy bmi, he's insane
I love it when a guy that’s not your type try’s to humble you like I’m not even interested 😂
😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
This ! ❤😂
The lady in the beige top with the small bum story is a clear attempt at the guy trying to 'humble' her. I'm so glad she has her self-esteem intact and dismissed him without any second chances because she's beautiful. If someone is showing you horrible character traits from the very beginning, they absolutely will get progressively worse over time. Run!
Why do they need to do that? It's sick!
Humble is the wrong word. It's called negging. She has no ego so she doesn't need humbling.
@@Fran-px1oh to make you hooked on their validation or just to make you settle with them.
His 'non apology' apology is sick smh the audacity to come back and keep trying after insulting her
Its called narcissism.. to insult someone then be insulted that they say f off
DRIVE TO YOUR DATE, HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY, DO NOT GO BACK TO THEIR OR YOUR HOME. TELL A TRUSTED FRIEND OR FAMILY WHO YOUR MEETING AND WHERE YOUR MEETING.
AND IF YOU CAN, SEND A PICTURE OF YOUR DATE, A DESCRIPTION OF THEIR CAR/WHAT THEY'RE WEARING, AND THEIR LICENSE PLATE. SHARE YOUR LOCATION UNTIL THE END OF THE DATE/ YOU'RE HOME SAFE.
Never tell a man your insecurities. I’m so glad she learned.
This reminds me of the guy I met who BADGERED me for my number in person, I give it to him after a while thinking ok maybe he's cool. We talk on the phone the first day and he asks my age. I tell him and he's like oh u a lil old for me, I was like oh ok. He's like maybe you can make it up to me and basically prove that he should still talk to me. I said ok bye. He calls again and is like why u not responding to me, I'm like u said I'm too old for you and I'm not convincing you of anything. U wanted to talk to me, I was minding my business.
This man proceeded to call me and text me for over a damn year. I never answered again.
Why didn’t you block him?
@ccannon1 That part. But I'll give her the benefit of the doubt because he could have made text now numbers etc
😂 I’m glad you told him where he could go … ❤
Oh yeah this guy told me that too after a 5 hr date. When I told him I didn't like that, he said he was only kidding and I'm too sensitive and laughed about it like there was something wrong w me. #gaslightinggames
SAME! This man was so aggressive when asking me out, I said, "let's go out rn then". A few days later he says he's not into me because I'm "too negative", then wants to be "friends" and "maybe something can come from it"? I said "no thank you" and blocked him. I saw him again, he tried to talk to me and I walked away.
My worst date was with a guy I had been talking for 3 months. I told him "maybe I don't like you in person, it happens a lot to me, bc photos are different than real life". And that's what happened, he was uglyyyyyyyy. He was a creepy, he insulted me being vegan (he had never done that over the phone). And the cherry on top was he saying "you can not leave without having sex with me". I left safely and blocked him
Oh no same thing happened to me before Xmas. The guy was super weird, dirty teeth, and didn't act like he wanted to be with me. I got home and blocked him. I'm done with dating ❤❤
Why didn’t y’all video chat first. Before going on a date ALWAYS FaceTime with the person you meet online.
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName still not the same, some can be decent on video, but I can end up not liking his way of moving. And I don't use dating apps anymore, so no need of doing that tango
@@anabelsamado not video chat but definitely should go on first date within week of number. Don’t you ever waste your time without a man taking you on a date.
These stories was wild I'm married to myself until further notice 😂😂😂
I’m going to start using that comment ❤
I'm with you 💯😹😹😹🙅🏾♀️
Same ! 😂
very smart sis
Lol. Ditto
I've had so many crazy and even dangerous encounters with men in my younger years. After one date this guy wanted to continue hanging out. He claimed his friend was having a party. I decided to follow him in my own car to the "party". He lead us to an unsavory neighborhood and tried to get me to follow him down a dark, suspect alley where nothing but dudes were standing around, but I declined. I told him to enjoy the party, but I'm going home and would catch him later. I started driving away and he backed out of the alley to follow me. Long story short we got into a high-speed chase around the city that ended when I drove into a Walgreen's parking lot to flag down some cops that were posted up chilling. This fool had the nerve to call me the next day like nothing happened.
Wow that’s scary AF , I’m glad you had common sense and paid attention to your inner instincts. ❤
Omg that's so scary 😱
They was gonna do terrible ish and leave u in a dumpster! Seen this in Boston and NY before
my heart was racing reading this WTAF im so so happy youre okay
She’s so right about those trigger words. Instant red flag.
Yea but why would you still go out with someone who is actively saying “trigger” words? Idk girl lol seems like that was her out, but she proceeded.
@@JCsDaughter610 I just said she was right bout the words . I can’t answer for her but I wouldn’t keep entertaining anyone like that.
The girl with the "small bum" had me rolllllinggg 🤣🤣
I died ☠️☠️😂
The “I don’t want to get to know garden gnome” got me 😂😂😂
When she called him “gnomie” 💀
She spent too much time talking to him. Stop the conversation & block the gnome..🙄
I really appreciate and love the fact that the gay/bisexual man did not get mad at the woman for his gay partner cheating. He knew she didn't know and did not blame her. And that's how women should act first unless they find out. The other woman knew then fight her 😅🤣🤣🤣
Fight another woman over an XY? 😂😂😂 LOL that could never be me
exactly!!! just assume the other person does not know...bcuz usually they have no idea.
My mom was on a date with a dude years ago. He wasn't gay or bi, but a friend of the wife wandered up and told my mom he was married. Mom left so fast.
I will eat as much food as I want on a date. I don’t care what the date says. If I happen to be hungry I’m eating my meal lol.
For real. I used to hold back, but the older I got, I’m like screw him, it’s life, we get hungry, we eat!
Got that right and I don't want no salad or chicken tenders either!
My husband took me to dinner and 2 movies on our first date lol When I ordered a meal that wasn’t a salad he was actually happy. He said he didn’t like how women pretend they don’t eat. I even ordered desert. He paid for everything of course. 😊❤️
Hell Yeah. I wonder why men expect women to not eat. We work hard too Damn it!!
Those guys were doing the break you down thing. There's a guy who explained it. Sort of "she's out of your league so knock her self-esteem down so she doesn't have the strengthen mentally and physically and emotionally to leave and then drag her through the mud". Basically men have to break women
called negging. Men who suffer from low self esteem neg women because they know the women are out of their league. I had a guy did me like this last year, blocked him from phone and social media. He was still ON IT even using his daughter's name as a trap for me to respond. I called the cops they couldn't do anything 😢 but finally called told him off when I threaten him with 🚓 and harassment.
No more dating scene for me not even a simple hello in public, men are too unhinged.
I been through this !! These men are wild for behaving like this !
No one will ever knock my crown 👑 off, tried and failed.
going through it rn with no clue what to do :/
@@katherinecordero2958 Plan an escape. Easier said than done but you have to because it won't get any better and please don't get pregnant because folks don't like to admit it but men definitely trap women all of the time with children. Some men can't take hearing "no, it's over or etc" and will/may try "harming" you. Sometimes words are just the beginning
It's wild that women in Atlanta will keep dating knowing that 80% of the men their are baby daddies, super spreaders OR on the downlow.
I could NEVER move to Atlanta and it's annoying cause a lot of the Atl folks move to Houston and bring their shenanigans with them messing up the local dating culture.
Agreed. Atlanta is a mess but everyone wants to move there🙄
If you are in ATL you may as well get a mail order groom.😂
I have been hearing that for yyeeaaarrsss as well as how awful ATL is yet Black Women STILL keep moving there.🙄🙄🙄
In Houston and noticed that too . Polluting the pool even more 😅
Girl ive been STUCK here since i was a kid and ive always HATED the dating culture and the men out here. Im a simple girl with fucking MANNERS! I just want a good man who communicates and is considerate. Ive been dateless for ages because its so bad out here. Every dudes either a creep, deadbeat, horny & unreliable, DL, nasty af, sensitive af, triffling af, and/or a do nothing ass bitch aka hobosexual. I legit wanted to go take a trip to Houston because I heard the dating scene was better there. But now your telling me the toxic birds from here are fucking up Houston too??? We cant have shit out here😭😭
Some guys will try to make you feel a little insecure so you try to please him and he will manipulate you and abuse you
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Always come to a date in your own car or a rental/Uber so no one can trace you to your address. There are too many evil folks out here.
1st story: problem isnt that he's bi; thr problem is he's a cheater
Exactly, let's not bring biphobia here. A straight man could have done the same
Correct!
Majority heterosexual women are only interested in heterosexual men and that's okay. The problem is that he is bi, a liar, and a cheater.
Naw...a straight woman wants a straight man. Bi nor tran is not needed or wanted. But you are correct anybody can be a cheater.
The bisexual erasure is real
About 30 years ago, I had a man take me to HOOTERS for MY birthday! He was completely clueless about why I wasn't happy about it. I mean, it was HIS favorite place...he just KNEW it would become mine too!
"His favorite place".... I guarantee those servers viewed him as a creepy pervert.
This is a true eye opener. I appreciate these type of videos. I don't understand how we as a society has fallen this far. People really out here acting like highschoolers and applying that childish logic to adult relationships. These men are on some serious bull shit. They are up here worrying about women weight, looks and other unnecessary childish crap instead of getting to know a person and see if they are compatible smh....
males never wonder what type of husband they will be/are and if theyre qualified to be in a relationship. They feel you should be just happy to be in their presence.
Yeah there worried about her looks to a point we're some of them now want you to tone your look down to a 5 or 6 so that they can feel comfortable to manipulate the situation and some of these women don't realize that if a guy expects to be catered to like a woman then he might be bi sexual or gay. Men never tell you there preference when they meet you. You always have to find out the hard way later on after a lousy date on the town with a cheater and it's still cheating when you look at it if you really want to embarrass these guys make a big deal out of it that he cheated on you with a man it might get them both to sober up because I'm kind of concerned when guys turn gay id be afraid one of them might have an STD.
Yeah the guy thinking about sending a father a video of his daughter's "activities." Very childish
Society was always terrible to women, do you not remember how women couldn't even legally inherit if they had male family members or a husband because everything goes to them? Why? Because property cant own property.
The Italian restaurant dude was playing mind games and trying to make her feel insecure and scared.
he put his BS off on her
The best way to disarm a game player is to laugh your head off at the first stupid thing he says. Then look surprised to find out it's not a joke. Play it cool for the rest of the evening. Get home safely and forget you ever met him.
I have no hope left either 😂
Worst date I went on was a guy in the middle of a bad divorce (I didn’t know), he was already angry when I got there, asked me nothing and talked at me about his life story and how much of a b his ex wife was. Then when he realised later I wouldn’t be putting out he just started insulting me and being rude.
I’ve spent the last few years hung up on a friend/situationship and it took me so long to realise I’ve just been a nice accessory to his life and nothing more but he’s given me mixed messages the whole time 😢 so I’ve finally cut it off.
I’m so very over it. So tired of trying. They can have the win. I’m looking after me now and so far it’s going great!
I’m so happy for you. I understand how you feel. I’m not letting anyone else hurt me.
@@narcfreekeekee9168back at you 😃 I’ve always felt guilty for doing anything nice for myself, no more!
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@@narcfreekeekee9168 it’s refreshing to not think about it anymore tbh! I’ve had a couple guys show interest but I’m just not bothered, I have a few strong relationships and am part of a nice community so that’s really all I need, plus my dogs 🥰. Life is pretty good on the whole.
If you don’t mind me asking, what “mixed messages” was he giving you? You said that he was a “friend” and you were in a “situationship” so by your own words he never fully committed to you. Did he commit and retracted it?
A formal first date shouldn't have flying or hotels involved
Not necessarily. It’s a lot to ask but one can make sure both are safe and comfortable, then why not?
It's really a sad state of affairs. Men who are/were socially awkward think listening to podcasters will help more than therapy.
What's happening is tragic. Seems they go out, apply manospheric tactics, traumatize some poor woman then congregate online to bash on women for not respecting the so called "good man". The more I hear, the more I sense that some men resent and don't like women. Be safe out there ladies.
It's exactly that. You described this phenomenon so well, the vicious circle that slightly socially awkward boys/men get themselves into, and as a consequence ruin it both for themselves and for the girls/women.
She said Atlanta, capital of DL dudes.
And she wasn’t wrong.
I gave up hope too. These men are RIDICULOUS. I am focusing on myself, my kids, and my community. Everything else is not my business 💅🏾
Beware of those NARCS online … a lot of these stories giving narcissistic vibes.
Yep
In my youth I dated a guy just to find out he has a boyfriend, a wife and at least one kid.
he was a musician so I thought to myself 'oh well he's an artist, that's what they do'. Now I'm grown and know that's what 90% of men do 😅
Never let a man drive you on the first pr second date … its not ever safe. He is a stranger.
Woah… women really be going through it with men. It’s sick! I’m so glad that I’m out of the dating pool because it’s rough out here and I don’t miss it.
I gave up dating when i was 20
I am 27 now
No men no stress
The second story she was too cute! His loss. And the dating scene is in hell, I’m happy being single.
@AllMenRuleYou stop talking to me
@@sourcandydoll I don't know why but your simple response had me on the damn floor. You're a vibe lol
@@sydlaw2941 😂💗💗💗
@@sydlaw2941 thank you 💗
OT but your pfp is so cute !
These stories are wild. That ATL one takes the cake though (only because of the details). Someone you’re in a relationship with has your location (you have to monitor where he goes), you still go to cheat anyway; this is probably a place that you have been before together, his body language shifts several times throughout the night….
It sounds unbelievable, but people are truly WILD. Like I remember when one of my friend’s ex-boyfriends was hitting on me IN FRONT OF HER FACE. She said nothing, and I’m looking like… so, you’re not going to check him? I have to? And that’s still a tame incident.
So many bullets dodged here
Indeed😮
You ladies are a lot more patient than me. It'a a straight block and delete for me ✂️
Everyone talking about "block" .. did you not listen to the girl who blocked the man and had to change her number! These men are out of it!
Today's males are unhinged 😮
2:45 “Maybe these are the opps” 😂😂😂
No maybe about it😮😳👹🤛🏾
I know too much about these men now,too ever want to date one again. Nope.
Same
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I dont want to get to know a garden gnome 😂😂😂
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I don’t wait for an explanation from anyone. The minute I see or hear anything suspicious… I block IMMEDIATELY✌🏽 ain’t nobody got time for the BS 😂 #treatthemliketricks #pettylabelle 🥂
This
That location story: man wanted to monitor her. Stalk her with her permission. He wanted to control her.
I’ve got one. Dated a man who could not accept me being loving towards him. Flipped because I sent lunch to his job and he said that “He’s too private for that??????????! Weird. He thought I was conspiring with the receptionist 🤷🏾♀️I’m still not sure about what.
Nope, you are the one with the issues here. Sounds weird sending someone you‘re merely dating lunch at their work place.
I don’t understand why the small bum girl didn’t block him!
I was thinking the same thing. And continuing to respond to him. Ignore and block is really that simple.
I guess some people like the attention even though they're complaining about it. Others continue the exchange just so they have an outrageous story to tell.
@@sensimania Yeh I think it was for the attention ngl. I’m just annoyed for her that she didn’t get to block him before he blocked her!
Right!
I think a lot of guys just don't know how to talk literally. I was on a date once, the guy kept adding into the conversation that I was 'quite big, as in tall.' his terminology was awful, i asked if he meant fat but he said 'no, like your legs are really long, have you ever measured them?' whaaat? Freaking weird times we live in.
I find that women overlook a lot less f things we don’t like about men, whether it be physically or not. We overlook. We need to stop and tell the truth just like they do.
These stories remind me of why I do not date anymore ‼️
YES! 😮😳
[This] is why many are saying "I rather be single & #sane vs coupled-up & CRAZEEE!"
*Honor your Soul's sense of Sanity!*
My friend met a guy on hinge went on a date and dude pulled something out and smoked something. And it was crack you guys!!! in front of her. He said he was a functional crackhead 😭😭😭
Not "a functional crackhead" These men are unhinged.
For the first story; the man who had a boyfriend is a cheater. the issue isn't his sexuality, its that he lied and betrayed his partner. additionally, bisexual men exist, so its safe to assume that he might be bi, not gay.
Being bi-sexual is part of the issue if he didn't bother letting the woman he asked on a date know that beforehand. He just assumed she'd be ok with dating a bi-sexual man and he was wrong for that. Some women only want to date a heterosexual man and that's ok!
@@commanderinqueef why must everyone disclose their sexual orientation? there’s a double standard for men who aren’t hetero vs. women who aren’t hetero. a man rejecting a bi woman is less commonplace than vice versa; homophobia is thinly veiled as a preference when it concerns women’s dating preferences, hence why so many men are down low/closeted. let’s be adults here.
@@nejenje My preference is straight men, if a guy is bi it's not for me, we are adults so he should be open about his orientation, is he ashamed of being bi or something?
Nothing wrong with it just not for me
I have no interest in a man who wants to be with men in a romantic way. If I'm homophobic for that, I'm with it.
@@nejenjepreach
For the first story: What if they get married and have kids???? Don’t you mean, what if she gets that incurable disease that will eventually end her life because he is on the down low??? That’s the question!
Seriously good luck. Cuz I don't have any hope in men anymore
Not even a little bit😹😹😹🙅🏾♀️
Something similar happened to me years ago in Atlanta at the food festival. So many BM are on the DL
The second womans story, ya gotta block a guy like that after the first disaster its not worth it
. Agree 💯
The first girl said she didn't want to the guy to pick her up because she wasn't comfortable with him knowing where she lived just yet but she let him send her a car. Wouldn't he need her address for that?
🎯 yep, I peeped that, too. The math ain't mathing.
I think you can gift a person a ride without their location…
don't be simple minded ......I've driven 30 seconds to a plaza, another complex over, close cross roads, park MY car, .. send that address.. long as it's not your address or complex.... like ... duh
Response to lady who traveled to go out with a guy I know women think if he pays for a flight it’s a good thing but ❌ nooooo. The fact that you made the trip to see him instead of him catching a flight to see u is why he made up that story he was running game to see what other boundaries you were willing to let him cross. Never fly to go meet a date first as a female. These men run game to test you. You made an extreme effort to go meet him that is where the first mistake was made.
I don't understand why there is still any kind of communication going on, once it is realized and established that there is something about the person you don't like or that there is no chemistry. That calls for an immediate block! 🚫🛑Once something makes your antenna go up, block! 🚫🛑 Do not pass go, do not collect $200.
Also, just because you don't let the guy pick you up, don't let him send a car either, then he'll have your address.
I love so much! Thank you. That's true! And spreading diseases.
So glad! 😌
As soon I say no thank you, shaming starts 😒
It’s not talked enough about how gay and bi men can be just as misogynistic and disrespectful to women as het men.
Thank you for posting these dating stories 🤗 We need the real stories of what women go through out there. I have considered online dating and usually the success stories are shown but this is the balance we need.
All of these stories let’s me know that women are still in a sunken place, unable to detect dust from afar and willing to deal/entertain with any and everything.
Soon as you detect some nonsense. BLOCK. Why are y’all entertaining dust?!
Maybe if society quit trying to convince women to give the “nice” guy a try or that we’re somehow missing out on “good men” by being too picky or having standards of preferences then we could dodge these time wasting situationships.
So out of all of these stories, you somehow found a way to blame the women for how horrible these men behave??
@@Nitra813Society isn’t to blame for women allowing themselves to be insulted and mistreated by rubblebuckets. That’s 100% on women. We’re all adults. If some women are still willing to entertain these dust buckets despite the tons of red flags, well that’s on them.
@@dianaprince3176 Sorry dear. The statistics prove otherwise. Society absolutely socially conditions girls to settle for “good enough” Were groomed to be male-identified the moment we start to menstruate 🩸.
This doesn’t start at adult age. It’s ingrained into our psyche under the guise of “nature “
Why do you think so many men and women are opposed to channels like these? Despite the overwhelming evidence that the pool of eligible men is LOW we’re told our life won’t have meaning or that we’re selfish for not wanting children or to get married. Our standards are too high and that’s why we’re not meeting the “right guys” 🙄
We’re told anything outside of having a relationship with a man and giving him access to our womb will NEVER be fulfilling nor is anything else worth pursuing outside of staying home to serve our husbands.
We’re told constantly that men dont care about women being educated and or her ability to earn a high income so no “good woman” who pursue either.
We’re told working women are independent bi***es and are miserable. Any woman who goes against “nature” is a divisive, man-hating, rebellious jezebel 😒
@@dianaprince3176 Have you not been paying attention? It’s being promoted in our movies, books, families, online, at schools and unfortunately from the pulpit.
Society wants so badly for women to “stay in their place“ and for women to go to back to the way they were.” Even if a woman desires better for herself, she’s highly criticized and sometimes even marginalized into defaulting to these old teachings. Thats the point
The man in the second story was trying to neg her. If she stayed he would have treated her like crap.
For sure I’d say it was a shitty attempt at manipulation
I have the same challenge as the beige top beauty 7:28, blessings ahead of me rather than behind me, and being body-shamed for it
You worded it in such a wholesome way 😅
There's absolutely a reason the woman has her location on for her mother and sister... And it has absolutely nothing to do with cheating
These girls talk too much. If yall dont learn how to block people and keep it moving. Nothing is more powerful then removing someones access to you. Also, if you feel like a date is going left, leave. Don't waste your time and don't waste their time.
You cracked me up with that outro 😂😂😂😂
Yes!😹😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
9:29 “I’ve just got a thing for long limbs.” (Slurps) 😅😂This girl is sooo hilarious
She is in Atlanta nuff said
OK, so the League of Bisexual Defenders is in full force in the comment section 😂😂😂
Right!! Lmao
Yup. Like we want 💩 in our gina. 🙄
They nasty and selfish
Straight delusional
Not my worst date, my nieces. Her friend say that her boyfriend had a friend that would be right for her. He was biracial. On the date, he wanted to know, if her color was as white as it got. She thought this was weird. He said he liked really white girls, she wasn't white enough. What a whack job. So she told him to go on a date with a ghost and left. She called her friend and said don't bother setting me up with any of your boyfriends other weirdo friends.
People who’s “type” is a single race is weird even if it’s their own
I quit too Priscilla! ❤😂
The guy was wrong for cheating on his boyfriend. He is probably bisexual not gay.
Wtf?! Oh lawd! It is dangerous dating in the A! 😂
Around the world😮
Nah it’s scary out here
insane is more like it😮😳
Are men okay?!?! These stories are wild 😭
Today's males are unhinged and Demonic 😮😳
First story: Why would you get drunk with a perfect stranger and expect him to take you home?
The gay thing wasn't the worst of your problems.
Edit: WHAT'S WITH THE RISKING YOUR LIFE FOR A FREE RIDE?!
Black girl dating stories hit different
The Outro 🥹🥂🍾 Very Beautiful But I Give Up Too Chile 😅😂🏳️ Maybe I'll Date In My 40s But It's Looking Too Rough For Me.
I just made 40 , it’s even more tragic in your 40s. By this time the men have a ton of baggage, set in their ways, and if they don’t live a healthy lifestyle their 🍆 won’t work properly.
I never knew TikTok dating existed until I’ve seen lives of others looking for dates lol
God was protecting the first girl for sure!
Yo!!! that small bum story when he came back 😂 #thementalgymnastics😂
Right😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️🤡🤛🏾
The one whose date had a boyfriend..Did this take place in Atlanta? Then I wouldn't be surprised!
Now see... the first girl. I knew she was gonna say she got stuck with the bill. Nope. The MINUTE they came out that bathroom tusslin...I would have gotten up from that table. Nope 🙅♀️.
I wanna be friends with the girl who stayed on the phone for the plot😂😂😂
I do too😹😹😹🥰
Ladies, Please stop putting yourselves thru this and In dangerous situations dating these males. Get Yo bag up and take yourself where you wanna go. It's safer that way😮😳🤦🏾♀️
I feel like the first story, he was jealous of her beauty and wanted to destroy her self-esteem, knowing damn well he's gay
I love these!
imso glad women are sharing their stories
6:10 He could be bi and just a cheater.
Wow, please keep up this series!
Sis I’m with you on wishing others well and giving up❤❤❤
I'm born and raised in Atlanta. The downlow is still a thing. Sure, there are more outwardly gay and proud gay people here. But the downlow culture never disappeared. Date safely, ladies.
If you live in Atlanta and Blk males are your dating preferences...then God help you😂
Yesss I love these
video 1. wow just wow. SMDH
video 2. NARC!!!!!
video 3. NARC and body shamer.
video 4. NARC, control issues, a real good story teller, a fight just waiting to happen.
video 5. LMFAO. i just can't.
I didn't give up, butta, um, shit is crazy out there. I'm good till God tell me otherwise.
If a dude is dating both men and women that means he’s bi, not gay
So there are still people in this world who don't know bisexuality exists? That's pretty embarrassing. Not as embarrassing as those dusty dates though, not gonna lie.
I like the stories but I don't need her to come in before or after the video for the extra talking. The only reason I say that is because she isn't giving any thing other than what we see in the video
2nd story "I don't want to know a garden gnome!"
15:31 "left her on side of the road" -let him pick YOU up @ your house. Honey, be glad not a śerial ____ . Lucky to be alive. So naive
the stories don’t stop lol