Metalhead turned Swiftie - A song made me hate a man
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- čas přidán 13. 08. 2023
- ...and if one song can make me feel that towards someone I don't know anything about, imagine what two can!
Emotional stuff! Damn!
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For the past 20+ years, I've listened mainly to Metal and Video Game music. My wife on the other hand, is a Swiftie. One of her biggest bucket list items was seeing Taylor live. With the Eras Tour coming to Europe, that dream is now becoming a reality. And I'll be going with her!
In the spirit of this, I've been challenged by her to become a Swiftie by May 2024. That's in 300 days.
I've heard a lot of Taylor Swift songs around the house and in the car, but I've never really PROPERLY listened to her music. Hearing it and listening to it are two very different things after all.
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Imagine someone writing the lyric, “ I regret you all the time” about you and really meaning it.
I always think of the Lewis Capaldi son “forget me” and how he says that forgetting him is the worst and I was like bet. 😂
I once told a guy I was leaving that he was the worst thing that ever happened to me but he was just confused. I doubt the subject of that lyric had any more of an impact than my ex did 🙄
Yes I can imagine it
@@emcee5922 You saying ur ex is worse then a man that was 32 who dated 19 year old Taylor, groomed her and manipulated her?
imagine your daughter singing “give me back my girlhood it was mine first” that is STRONG and sad af.
As someone with a 5yr old daughter (and 7yr old son), it's unfathomable. If someone did that to them, I wouldn't know what to do
I have a 13 yo son and I picture him being so wrecked by someone in only 6 more years. Kinda puts violence in my heart. 😭😂
I think this was her mother's motivation in "accusing her of losing her mind." She wasn't really questioning her daughter's sanity, she knew this relationship was wrong, she saw all the red flags, and yet was powerless to do anything about it because Taylor was legally an adult. Taylor's mom is her best friend and biggest confidant and still attends every one of her shows (along with her dad). We love Mama Swift!
@@madwoman_at.thelakes Uhhhh my heart.
@@madwoman_at.thelakes yes! i love her too! i keep wondering how hard that mustve been on her family
The man knows NOT to pause during her bridges! (Quick learner!)
I try my best! 😅 solos in general is the same rule. Don't pause in the middle of them. And if you do, go back and start over from before they begin! 😅
@this is a man who clearly respects the music…no matter what genre! Otherwise you would not think of these details! Respect!
@@lorihenrytaylor4438 🥰🥰🥰
A man of culture 😁
From "I should've known" to realizing actually the blames on him with "You should've known."
I love how in Dear John the guitar sounds just like how John Mayer plays! I’ve said before, if you’re age starts with a three, leave the nineteen year olds alone.
100%. I find it hard to believe there's no manipulation in place when the age difference is that great. Obviously it's not a blanket thing, but in general, it's probably true
The guitar is almost like a concentrated John Mayer-like sound. VERY deliberate!
Yes! You've said it all!
"shining like fireworks over your sad empty town" because he's the Mayor 😂 honestly I've always loved his music, his guitars are iconic, which is makes the fact she uses his sounds for dear John. These are both in my top 10 Taylor songs, they're so powerful and sad and meaningful because most girls have been there, and now we're grown women, it still haunts us, it leaves a permanent mark and trauma, which is why I don't blame her for writing him another song 12 years later when she hit his age. It's mind-blowing.
A line that really hits me is "if clarity's in death then why won't this die?" because I think it's talking about the fact that even if you have analysed a situation and feel like you have fully intellectually understood what happened to you, the feelings don't always go away.
Interestingly, John Mayer has a song titled “Clarity” (released 2003) where the theme of the song is about someone who has been weighed down by worrying about something or things, but has now woken up this morning calm and unburdened and free. The closing chorus of the song has another shared reference… this time to Dear John:
“And I will wait to find
If this will last forever (yeah)
And I will wait to find
That it wont, and it won't and it won't
And I will pay no mind
Worried 'bout no RAINY WEATHER (yeah)
And I will waste no time
Remaining in our lives together”
Unfun fact: John went on a whole lot of interviews trying to downplay everything and "erase them" as Taylor said it in her song. He also said that Dear John was "cheap" songwriting, but then wrote "paper dolls" about Taylor and the song is literal garbage
Nothing about these 2 songs are cheap 🤯 such a douche he sounds like.
Let’s talk about the “why you no love me” pathetic lyric. He had so much nerve to insult her own game?!
Ok cmon paper doll is smart asf not mentioning anything that could be directly linked to her if not for ridiculous speculation, like she literally smashes his name in the title.
@@lucaskopke6886 In what World is paper doll smart?
@lucaskopke6886 You clearly don't know much about what your talking about so let me educate you a little here:
○ "You're like 22 girls in 1" -> Taylor released the song 22 just before that
○ "Fold a scarf moroccan red" -> taylor just released the album red, with the song "all too well" that got massive amounts of praise and the very first Verse is about a scarf
○ "none of them know what they're running from" -> "run as fast as you can" ...
○ "if none of those angel wings can fly, I'll paint you another sky" -> "you paint me a blue sky, then go back and turn it to rain" ... need I say more
That's not over analyzing, he literally takes lines from her song and answers to them. Even if you want to call it "over analyzing", it doesn't make paper doll even remotely smart. It sounds horrible, the "music Video" ,or whatever that was where this poor lady makes a fool of herself for 3 minutes, is bad.
“I feel like someone should be behind bars for this” 😂 you have become a TRUE Swiftie my friend
Even with him having 13 years on her, she eclipsed his talent, fame, and status thousands of times over. “YoUr BodY iS a woNderLaNd” COULD NEVER
she was not the only one who suffered in his manipulative hands, jessica simpson and katy perry are unfortunately on the list as well. i HATE the guy he’s everything a woman doesnt need in her life!
Sounds like a man who should spend some time behind bars and rethink his behaviour 🤬
@ Yeah, the stuff Jessica Simpson wrote about him in her book is disturbing. Not only manipulative but very stalkerish, like getting in close with her family to use them to get what he wanted from her. Horrible, horrible man.
And Jennifer Love Hewitt I believe
@ John Mayer is on record (Rolling Stone & Playboy) for completely debasing women in some in-depth articles. His whole approach is horrible.
the thing that just makes me feel so physically sick about the situation is that taylor’s lucky number famously is 13, and their age gap is 13 years so she probably saw it as some great sign when they got together. it just breaks my heart
A little additional context for WCS: Taylor wrote this song with Aaron Dessner after the 2021 Grammys (where they won AOTY for Folklore). John Mayer also performed at the event, and she had to sit there in the audience and watch him. They probably hadn't been in the same room in over a decade. That experience likely brought a lot of these old wounds to the surface, acting as the inspiration for this song.
I did not know that! It makes a lot of sense to me now. I developed PTSD-symptoms when I came face to face with an abuser I hadn't seen in years, and it was very strange and kind of hard to come to terms with how that encounter hobbled me for months when the abuse at the time did not have the same effect.
I’m still REALLY pissed off at the organisers of that event for having John perform when Taylor was likely to win AOTY - when they KNEW what he’d done to her. But, then, maybe if they hadn’t, we wouldn’t have the masterpiece that is Would’ve. I hate to think, though, that this event could have brought back all the feelings to a point where all the growth her & Joe had worked through suddenly flipped & caused their breakup.
The “my mother accused me of losing my mind” part is sad, but so much more upsetting and heartbreaking and (regrettably) relatable (as a daughter) when it’s followed up with “but I swore I was fine”.
They were in a relationship when she was 19 and he was 32, so when the relationship ended and she saw how he had manipulated her and how wrong it was that he was willing to be in a relationship with someone that young. She wrote the song Dear John, as the lyrics called him up (a 19 year old was the one that called him out and not his older exes), his ego got hurt and made a lawsuit against her 😂 and wrote her a song called Paper Doll. Now that she is 32, wrote the second song and it's the track 19 of the album (´cause she's a mastermind lol), reflecting it wasn't that she shouldn't know, the problem was that him as an adult accept being with someone that younger and manipulated her having so much advantage, grooming her and knowing that he was her idol. Love both songs, the first always give me chills, but the second makes me almost cry thinking that this situation is so common and they always blame it in the young girl, not the grown man. Love your reactions, hope you're enjoying this journey! You are in it for a surprise! Greetings from México!
the lawsuit thing is bogus, he never did that. i hate that rumor because it's factually untrue.
also dear john has the melody and instrumental very similar to john’s style of music! she is smarter than you think. she took his biggest hit “gravity” for inspiration and irony, if you listen to his song you can kinda hear it
THIS. She told us this year, she’s a mastermind.
Thank you for giving Would've Could've Should've the respect it deserves. That song has played a massive part in my healing journey, in teaching me that I can mourn the part of me he took AND be absolutely full of rage that I have to do it at all. Lots of love man, enjoy the concert when it comes around
I’m so glad you understood these songs so well- so many men write them off so quickly to be “over dramatic”. I loved that you acknowledged that there are a lot of people whom this song speaks to deeply. I’m one of them and cannot NOT bawl my eyes out every time I hear them, anyone who says these songs aren’t masterpieces are insane.
This is for predators! Stay away from young girls. Thanks for your reaction! Really love it!
Yeah! All predators can f... off. Great message, that I fully support!
Taylor was 19, and John Mayer was 32 or 33. One of the best parts of the song, I think, is at the end when she finally says, "You should've known." Since throughout the song, she kept blaming herself.
Saw an ad on a Billboard into town for a concert he's doing here. Me and my wife both booed it loudly
@🤘🤘🤘
As someone who’s gone through an abusive relationship (15 - 18) he was (18 - 21) these songs really stab through my heart. Especially the girlhood line, I ALWAYS cry
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These two songs just hit so hard. Dear John, when she was fresh out of that relationship when she was still raw from that trauma and then WCS, when she was the same age that he was at the time and her looking back and having lived through that trauma and seeing how wrong and twisted that whole 25:08 situation was. Even in WCS she talks about how the media and critics portrayed her as the corrupter “If I was some paint did it splatter on some promising grown man” when she was still essentially a child and the grown ass man was the groomer.
Such a powerful line. The ridiculousness of societal standards where, no matter the age: man are the promise figure(generally speaking). Like you said, the blame was put on her as if she had stained his promising career, regardless if her career was strongly and steadily going up. 🤦🏻♀️
Imagine playing your most famous song “gravity” and being reminded every time of one of the biggest hits and one of the most acclaimed songs specifically written to burn you
Wait that really happened to him?
@@Rocio.Suarez if you notice, the style of the song is very purposefully made to sound like gravity so every time he plays it as his concerts he’s gonna be reminded of this song
That’s pretty gangsta - go, girl!
As a long-time Swiftie, those fireworks bring tears to my eyes every time. Doesn't matter how many times I see it.
This is a sledgehammer of a song. All too well is, in many ways, more savage because of it’s subtlety. In both cases she spatchcocked the subject of the song. She killed them, cut them in half, flattened them and then threw them on the flames. Both songs are examples of a lyrical songwriting genius right at the peak of her power.
And then came back and wrote “would have could have should have”
Ryan Tedder calls her a song writing savant and he is not wrong.
If you haven't yet, I'd recommend comparing the original All Too Well with the updated ten-minute version. Absolute perfection. Enjoy the journey!
Working towards it! Trying to cover a little bit more ground first, but in a week or two maybe 😉
Would've Could've Should've is the first time I ever heard anyone articulate how I felt about one of my relationships. I was so ashamed of that time in my life before I heard that song, not anymore.
This bridge makes me cry every time. That “give me back my girlhood it was mine first” just hits so hard. Having passed trauma from an abusive ex at a youngish age (I wasn’t 19 but 23) it just hits so hard. I think these songs are so powerful because it wasn’t just that a 32year old grown ass man messed with a 19yr old girl it’s also what dick he was afterwards and accepting near zero accountability for his actions in the whole thing and down playing it. I think that’s why would’ve could’ve should’ve hits so hard.
Yeah this one gives me the chills and makes me sob every time. With the lyrics of this and Dear John I'm afraid to know what kind of mental abuse he subjected her to, and the power imbalance.. not only was she a fucking teenager (I think the "if I was a child did it matter/ if you got to wash your hands" line points out how he was obviously a predator but she was not legally underage), but she idolized him long before they met.
I am two years younger than her, and I recognize the kind of delayed trauma that occurs when I look back at some of the relationships I had in my teens and early 20s. I didn't really see the abuse for what it was when it happened, and mostly wish my older and more experienced brain could let it be. The tomb won't close.
Also: "fight with you in my sleep" gives me strong PTSD-vibes.
Yeah, POWERFUL lyrics! 🤯❤️
Same. So much same. ❤
“I don’t know what to say, I just feel like fuck you man” I COULDNT AGREE MORE. When I first heard this song it genuinely broke my heart, because I know how she felt and feels now
I was lucky enough to see this song at the Eras tour, night 2, Minneapolis. It was magical.
SAME
Oh you are LUCKY
Can confirm it was amazing and probably one of the most shocking experiences.
Dear John or SWC??
I know this came out a month ago, but i was just watching it for like the tenth time while reading the comments & i don't think anyone mentioned that in a 2022 interview, Aaron Dessner was being interviewed & he was working with both Taylor & Ed Sheeran at the time (Taylor really encouraged Ed to do the collab as it was so impactful on her during folklore) & they asked if he could comment on any of the songs & this is pretty close to his quote "There's one i did with Taylor called Would've Could've Should've that may be my favorite song I've written to this point. I won't say what she wrote the lyrics about cuz that's her story to tell but we had a session in LA RIGHT AFTER THE FOLKLORE GRAMMYS (EARLY 2021) & it just seemed to write itself. It's very emotional & i love the arrangement. I think people will really react to that song" Aaron was very careful with his wording here but two things simultaneously would have been happening at this point in Taylor's life-1) She was rerecording Speak Now, which would have been bringing up a lot of JM emotions, then on top of that, John Mayer was a guest guitarist in one of the Grammys performances on the stage very close to Taylor's table. I don't think it's ANY coincidence that they were in the studio the next day because she probably had GET THAT SHIT OUT a la All To Well EXORCISE THE DEMONS style of writing in her head & the main vocals were recorded that same day! It's fair to say some shit cane up for Taylor & when they were done you just know she looked at Aaron after screaming those lines-"This can't go on the standard edition-it'll be the only thing anyone talks about!" I mean the childish high pitched vocals of "it was mine first!" How many times did she have to do it before there weren't tears! (Oh, & PS-he was just a really bad influence on Tay, manipulative, condescending & encouraging drinking, partying, pushing drugs at her-the innocence lost from seeing am idol like that is what lost her her girlhood so she wasn't this wide eyed optimist anymore. She's been clear on what the All Too Well scarf represents & losing ones innocence & ones virginity are very different things for girls that age! Anyway, i just thought you might enjoy a little more behind the song lore! Loved this again!
Thank you so much for this! Love learning more about these things.
Also can't believe it's been a month already! Really need to edit the one I recorded 5 days ago...
@ We would love that, but do it when you can! Don't burn yourself out friend!
An interesting fact about the second song. She mentions Would've and Could've a bunch and not so much Should've. People believe its because all of the Should've is in Dear John.
I am loving this series.!!!
Dear John always made us rage for her, and Would've Could've Should've is just gut-wrenching. releasing it at 32, and making it track 19 is just the level of petty mastermind we love for her.
Have you given All Too Well a listen yet? I recommend the live performance of it from Saturday Night Live if you are up for 10 minutes of lyrical prose.
The riffs are something John Mayer always does in his songs and she decided to make him mad cause she is hurt and he deserves it
Ahhhh I'm so happy you took my suggestion! Thank you for really paying attention to the lyrics, they mean so much to me. Taylor Swift has this way of being able to succinctly say what so many women feel about things in their life, and Would've Could've Should've is a song I didn't know I needed until I heard it. Being able to intellectually process what happened to you and know that your abuser was in the wrong, but still feeling a little culpable for your own pain because you loved him and you wanted him in your life. She way she takes "I should've known" from Dear John and turns it into "now that I know, I wish you'd left me wondering" is so incredible. She SHOULDN'T have had to know, but she was curious what being with this older famous man would be like and now her regret isn't that she should have known, just that he answered her questions and the reality of it was devastating.
"If I was some paint did it splatter on a promising grown man?
And if I was a child did it matter, if you got to wash your hands?"
Really sums up so much. He feels that she ruined his reputation by writing Dear John about him, and people took his side without actually listening to the lyrics - just including his name in the title was bad enough for people to feel sorry for this grown man and not for the teenager who was groomed by him. But in the end he came out unscathed because he could wash his hands of the situation and relationship and trivialize the whole thing, but she was just a child and can't get rid of the scars he left behind. He got to move on, and she can try but she never fully will.
So many women go through this type of manipulation. So many. Make sure your daughters never know shame from your words or actions. That won’t protect them from harm. But it will make you someone they can trust when they need to ask for your help the most! ☮️💜
The best part of Dear John is her use of the guitar riffs that sound eerily similar to his Gravity riff.
Such a good lyricist… even tho it’s specific to her relationship,it’s relatable for most people
YESSS I WAS WAITING FOR THIS ONE!!!! thank you thats exactly how you should’ve done! glad you enjoyed, doesnt it show she was always far from ordinary, even on her start, back in 2010 when speak now was released? of course she gets better and better but is remarkable to me how can a 19 year old write something this deep! and the live perfomance is indeed better than the album, she’s so teatrical! i’m living for your journeyhahahha and i keep with the hope that adult men listening to taylor and getting deep with the lyrics could make a lot of them better man!
I think it's up to opinion, which is better, I'm a sucker for the album version D:
They are both so great though :) (and the fireworks do add sooo much)
@@davisfinney7526 they were some great fireworks
Did you know Taylor was interested in musical theater before she started writing songs and learning the guitar? I think this is one of her more theatrical performances ever.
I’m a metalhead turned Swiftie too.
Don’t be a d*ck is perfect life advice.
Works for everything! 😅
@ truthfully, it’s what I have always told our (older) children; whether it be your partner, your teacher, a police officer, your friend, no matter the colour of their skin, their financial situation, the language they speak. We are all human, check your own conscience. Don’t be a d*ck.
I can't listen to SWC without balling my eyes out. 7 yrs later I still struggle to let go and close the wounds. The regret is crippling. I'll regret him every single day of the rest of my life. I hope my tomb closes one day.
So glad you liked it! I am sure others have said already, but she was the same age making Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve as the famous guy was when they were dating, so you can definitely hear the perspective that brings. And yes, just a gut punch to hear the emotion still so present even after all this time.
He groomed her too. He wanted her to sing on a song on his album and that’s how he got his foot in the door spending all that time with her, then they performed at Jingle Balls together that year. He’s a piece of work.
The fact that she released this song when she was the age John Mayer was during their relationship… Something about that is really devastating to me? Because I had a similar relationship when I was 22 and the dude was 32. And there’s a world of difference between 19 and 22, but when I turned 32 and thought back on how he treated me… Yeah, it really feels like this. This feeling of ‘How could you NOT know better?’
John Mayer wrote a song in response to “Dear John” and it somehow makes him seem even worse. Every line screams gaslighting (in the sense of trying to make someone feel crazy/stop trusting their perceptions). At least to me.
Speak Now is such a great album. I’m pretty sure that’s the one she wrote entirely solo, no cowriters.
…huh, according to youtube, I got here 23 seconds after you posted this…
Fantastic reaction, by the way! Hope you got some sleep after. :)
I made the mistake of going to the Genius page for the Paper Doll lyrics. The annotations are reaching. It sadly shows just how casually misogynistic people can be.
Hahaha I messed up the recording again and had to manually sync the music with the video. So, I ended up heading to bed at 1.30 am in the end, but that did include 30 minutes of Baldur's Gate 3, cause that game is my everything at the moment and I'm loving it 😅
So, considering I'm now awake and lost my spot in the bed to my kids, at 6am, I'm working on that sleep still 🤣
But wow! The more I learn about John, the more of a dick he sounds like. 😡
I’ve only heard this song since I started listening (post Kelce). Seeing her do it live brings home just how young she was.
A person can’t really “listen” to Taylor Swift without indulging into the lyrics, they’d be missing out of getting her talent.
In the live she is literally a story telling. She doesn’t need a book to tell us the story, we can read her face and voice is enough to understand what she is telling us💜
Taylor had an idea to create a netflix series about her songs and folklore exactly
I've said this before, but that head nod at 14:42 is just so evil, and so awesome!!!
I was 17 and he was 30... this song very much effects me when I hear it.
*hugs*
Hope you're managing ok! And don't hesitate seeing a therapist if you need it. I dragged my feet for a long time before I saw one when I needed it the most. Probably still could use one from time to time and I'm back to dragging my feet. Mental health is important!
@BjornBrorsson ty for caring about my mental health. I'm 43 now, so I've had alot of time and therapy over the years to get thru the damage. I'm very happy to know you're taking care of urself as well
This song to me gives a prime description of a narcissist to me. She talks about walking on eggshells, and a person with a huge ego who is always talking about their achievement and not caring about yours. They manipulate, and intentionally preying/grooming someone who's a lot younger than him and less experienced and taking advantage of that. You never know each day what you are going to get from this person -- what mood they will be in. They sabotage your happiness intentionally to hurt you and things are fine until they're not. The good times with this person won't last.
Often these people disguise themselves so it's hard to recognize them especially in the beginning when they are love bombing. Once they have you into a relationship then comes the abuse. It's important to know the red flags.
She also talks about self-doubt and thinking that it's your fault instead of theirs. They pray on empathic people. Then she talks about the smear campaign they go on against their Ex's by always playing the victim especially to their new target. They have the most tragic effect on a person whom they are abusing causing "tired lifeless eyes". In other words creating trauma.
Taylor's a strong women and you can hear throughout her discography how much experience she has with these terrible people.
Kudos to Scott Swift for the restraint not to have killed the SOB. His career did suffer. At least that is something. She’s not the only one pulled this crap on. Jessica Simpson was older but he still played her.
I’m so glad you decided to do these! Yeah… the lyrics really speak for themselves I feel. When this was released she was absolutely dragged by him* and the media for “defamation”. Which is so unbelievable to think back on considering how far we’ve come in viewing these large age gap relationships between a young woman and older adult man (he was 13 years older I’m sure someone’s already commented that). If anyone reading the comments is interested, John did a playboy interview around the time they were involved and it is… quite telling and really horrible to imagine Taylor as one of his playthings
If you are looking for another duo, you can do All to Well, and The Moment I Knew off Red.
As a SA victim I cried with your reaction to the last song. You are the first man I see saying the right things about the lyrics. Thank you ❤
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I'm sorry to hear! Hoping you're finding/have found a way to deal with your trauma and are able to be the strong person you are!
And I don't think there are any right things to say in a situation like that. There are less good things, but not sure someone without first hand experience of it could or should try to understand how that will affect a person. All we can do is be there and support those who have.
Thanks for watching the video! ❤️
Thank you for just being a good human!
Wow. You didn’t even really need to say anything, just watching your face was enough. My favorite lyric is “Now that I know, I wish you’d left me wondering”. Maybe you have to be a woman for it to really resonate, but that made a lot of (sad) sense to me.
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Bro was in IN FLAMES live got my whole respect and sub
Imagine being someones regret that many years later... you would feel like shit!
These are both rough to listen to. Would’ve should’ve could’ve has so many lines that can be applied to trauma in general and just means a lot to me.
Been loving following your journey! Greetings from a fellow swiftie from Brazil, who's waiting for her tour date as well!
Hey, also from Brazil
When are you going?
I still get chills every time I listen to dear John, especially after seeing the tour live. “I’m shining like fireworks OVER your SAD empty town” just hits different in this version 😅
Update: the chills actually happen as soon as she says Don’t. Look. Now.
And I absolutely adored seeing your face light up when the fireworks happened ❤
@@TheHayjay2013 it's such a great line! 😍
This song broke me. Thinking back to her at 19 with a 32 y/o and if she did in fact”give him her innocence” a girl/woman never forgets that and being with someone who should have known better smh my heart breaks for baby Taylor. John makes my stomach turn smh. Love your honest reactions 🫶🏻
It speaks to me on levels that you can’t even fathom after thinking about how many women or people it speaks to to begin with. Every single word, except change 19 to 15, and every single word speaks to me. It’s, quite seriously, like she wrote my story in this song. And, that’s not all, since she’s speaking to John Mayer, and this is a follow up to dear John, my guys name is John too🤯 No lie 🤷🏻♀️ Taylor is an absolute beautiful GENIOUS 🥹💜🥹
also i was the one who said the “should’ve” on the midnights song was in dear john! the should was already there, she didnt need to say it again! shes a geniouuuss
Yes! Sorry, I forgot to screenshot it and add it in. Ended up having to sync the audio manually again, cause I'm an idiot who forgot to check my audio before recording, so forgot! 🤦
@ noooo problem i was just happy to know you’re invested and paying attention!
i loveeee watching your videos i hope you’re enjoying your swiftie journey
Generously sprinkled with Mayer-esque guitar licks.
for your next reaction you should listen to ‘Ronan’ from RED(taylor’s version) album. It’s one of the saddest songs i’ve heard but the story is so beautiful and touching. She wrote it in memory of a 4 year old boy who died of cancer
Literally cannot listen to this song without crying so hard I almost throw up
Taylor had a bad habit of falling this hard in love when the relationships only lasted 3-4 months. I’m so happy she seems to be in a good and healthy relationship!
She very much deserves the fairy tale ending 😊
I love you for acknowledging those of us who relate to these lyrics firsthand. Thank you for your humanity.
The stained-glass windows line is also a reference to the old, converted church that John Mayer lived in when they were together as well
Metalheads unite for Tay Tay !!! Greetings from The Netherlands from an Nightwish/Sabato/Arch Enemy fan.
Those are some awesome bands! Did you see that Sabaton is going back to the studio next year?!
Of course you’ll become a swiftie. It is inevitable.
The fact she looks SO young singing Dear John, and the song was written and recorded a year-ish before the tour speaks volumes. She was too damn young for his bullshit .
I will click on every one of your videos just to see the goat sing "Trouble"! LMAO!!!!!
It's such a fun meme 🥰
"Don't be a dick." Best life advice ever.
Words to live by!
Dear John has that similar JM (rip) guitar from Gravity... would've, could've, should've hurts because I know too many women whos girlhoods were stolen. Mine included. Thank you for exploring! Taylor is SO good at reflection and can teach you about perspective and how that changes everything. Great video thanks for sharing!
Important to note as well, when they dated he was 32 and she was 19- She then released would've could've should've when she was 32 and made it track 19 on the album.
A true master of symbolism ❤️
You should check out Marjorie at some point. It’s a powerful song with an amazing video and beautiful lyrics. It’s a tribute to someone who was very special in her life. :)
He definitely should! I swear sometimes I can't even think of that song without tearing up
@@nva4687 I knoww! Tugs at the heart strings for sure and so well written!
My fiancé suggested marjorie the album version he said it was the first one he heard me listening to that made him go oh wow the production on this is really cool. (It has a recording of her grandmother in it and is about loss it made me bawl at Eras Taylor cried during it. It’s really lovely). He said fellow Swifty widower to another lol he wanted to make that rec.
Hahaha tell him thanks! I'll check it out as soon as I can!
I was 20 and the guy was 37….Trauma.😣
the fire works and the song just brought me to tears
LOVED YOUR REACTION❤
14:42 is everything . Sad and savage
He treated her like a thing to use and throw away. I think he has somewhat reconciled as best they can. He appeared at her bff’s stadium show as a fill in. Ed Sheeran & Taylor must’ve had a convo about it.
That appearance rubbed me the wrong way, I really hope they had a convo. We will probably never know.
Just the fact that John was opening for Ed is the biggest burn. Back when they dated, John was a hugely famous guy and Taylor was the new girl on the country music scene. She admired his music and idolized him. Fast forward to her Red Tour, and she gave Ed, a UK singer/songwriter who was yet unknown in the US, his big break by having him open for her on tour. Now she is on the biggest tour in history, Ed is doing his own massively successful tour, and John...well, he's opening for Ed. Karma sure tracked him down.
@@madwoman_at.thelakes That’s some meta stuff! The guy who burned her ends up opening for the guy who opened for her!
KARMA:
Ask me what I earned from all those tears ($$$)
Ask me why so many fade, but I’m still here (dear John… do tell)
I’m a huge metalhead myself, but I also love Taylor Swift, only modern day artist I like
Absolutely correct, John Mayer deserves prison.
When I was 19 the same thing happened to me and I was very innocent and I was a performer but not on the same level with him as he was a drummer in a pretty successful band. He went just short of forcing me into sex after he invited me over for dinner and then did something with himself right in front of me and on me. Then he cleaned up and took me home. I was traumatized. I had a huge crush on this guy who was 32. His wife had died in a car wreck on the way to meet him to reconcile so he had some issues. Was also drinking way too much. Years later he had become a born again Christian around time Facebook started and actually asked me out quite a few times but mostly asked me over to drink a beer etc. He also moved closed to where I lived. I just could not. He’s married again now. Narcissists don’t really ever change. Good luck to her.
That sounds horrible! I hope you have found a path forward ❤️
Also I don't know if anyone is pointed it out yet but the melody in dear John is very much reminiscent of the style of music that John is known for.
A great touch. Fuck John!
I’ve been a swiftie since the beginning. I had no idea who John Mayer was until Dear John was first released. It was definitely not the way you wanted to be introduced. I’ve never hated anyone as much as I hated JM, and when I found out he has done this to many women my blood boiled. I have younger female cousins, gosh thinking about them and hearing this song makes me want to scream and punch something 😅. This song is Therapy I tell you, screaming it at the top of your lungs on a long drive is freeing.
When there is a big age difference in a relationship, the older person is usually manipulative and sometimes narcissistic. When men or women consistently date younger, they aren't looking for an equal partner, but someone they can control. They can also more easily pressure the younger person to do things they don't want to do or that goes against their character. The sad thing is they can usually find another young one to replace when their current interest gets wise.
I lived this for 24 years and finally left! Narcissism at its best!
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Your wife and I say the same thing about this young poet! She just keeps shakin’ off the critics who doubt her.
Great minds think alike!
Speaking of shaking it off, maybe it's time for that one soon.... I've obviously heard it a lot of times over the years (it's been everywhere since it came out after all), but I've never LISTENED to it.... 😅
@ it’s great fun, and a great message!
Love the channel name btw
Hahaha thanks! My gaming channel was called DadPlaysGames and my first name is the Swedish word for Bear. The rest wrote itself I guess
I really wish there was a video of her performing Would’ve, Couldve, Shouodve because the contest in her age & maturity is so vastly obvious. To her credit, she did ask her fans not to go harass someone over something that happened a million years ago.
I respect you for saying what you said at the end. ❤
It had to be said! ❤️
After what he did to Jessica Simpson and hearing his disrespectful remarks about women, I stopped listening to his music. Then finding about this when it happened, I knew I made a sound decision. At 32, he knew exactly what he was doing, and it sickens me. 😢
Have you done "The Archer" yet? I'd do the live version from Paris, 2019.
Didn't know she had a song called that, but I do like myself some fantasy RPGs, so always down for archers! 😅 will add it to the list!
Yep, it's fom "Lover". And while the studio version is great (Antinoff had a couple of missteps on this one, notably "Cornelia Street"), the live version from the Paris show is gutting and powerful. @
Just found your channel - I'm loving these videos and am so happy you did these 2 songs together!
I recommend the song State Of Grace (Taylor's Version) - it's from the same album as We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together, but leans much more soft rock. That album (Red) is all about the ups and downs of a breakup, and was the bridge between her country and pop sound, so it's very sonically diverse. You might also like Eyes Open (Taylor's Version) that she did for the Hunger Games soundtrack.
If you want a much older one, Should've Said No from her first album is rockier, too. She did a mashup of that and Bad Blood on her Reputation Stadium Tour that's worth a watch.
Another recommendation - and it's a huge fan favorite with exceptional instrumentals and lyrics - Enchanted (Taylor's Version). This one is from the same album as both Dear John and Haunted. She did a live mashup of Enchanted and Wildest Dreams that fans love, too. This is about meeting someone for the first time and being totally enchanted by them, hoping that you'll see them again.
Finally, one from folklore: peace. I personally recommend the studio version over the Long Pond sessions as I think the fuller instrumentals really add to it, but they're both great. That one is about her fears that the media/her crazy life will destroy a sacred relationship, and asking if her partner thinks being with her is worth all the trouble.
Thank you so much! So many great recommendations! 😍
Saw someone say the "should've" doesnt get mentioned in Would've could've Should've because the "should've" was already in Dear John...
EDIT:Ah you already know.
Two amazing songs and you really did them justice, listening and absorbing both words and music.
Since you talked about dealing with depression and other mental health issues, i think you would really appreciate a more recent song she did with juston Vernon and Aaron Dessner for their band Big Red Machine called "Renegade" if you get around to listening to it Id love to listen and watch along as you hear it and react to it. (If you do)
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Yeah, mental health is a big topic for me. It killed my sister, so whenever I can raise awareness, I try to do so. Will check that one out as soon as I can!
@ I also lost my (oldest) sister over 25 years ago to suicide caused by mental and real world issues (she lost her kids) so you have my deepest sympathy. I was always left wishing I had done more and been able to help her more. Something one never really completely gets past.