Why I Love Being Alone | Dealing with loneliness as an introvert | Slow Living Cottagecore Vlog
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
- Dealing with loneliness as an artist / working from home.
I was always an introvert, quite often forced to wear an extrovert mask throughout my life. I moved away from home when I was a teenager, away from family and friends, which forced me to build new connections and relationships with people. In this globalised world, it's become so much more difficult to build friendships - most of my friends moved away eventually too.
I also work from home since 2020. I graduated from a university in 2016 and went straight into self-employment. I worked at an office until 2020, and since then I started working from home as an editor, now also earning through social media as well.
Sometimes this feels like a very lonely journey to be on, but I also love being alone. I love people, and enjoy spending time with friends, but being alone is when I recharge and feel my best.
I'd love to find a healthy balance between both, but I also believe that it's important to build a healthy relationship with yourself in order to have that balance in the first place.
What do you think?
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00:00 - 01:30 Loneliness is complicated
01:31 - 04:06 Why we are lonely
04:07 - 05:31 The need of connection
05:32 - 09:04 Relationship with self
09:05 - 14:31 My story
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key words: how to enjoy being alone, alone but not lonely, loneliness, cottagecore, slow living, finding friends as an adult, how to spend time alone, introvert diaries, introvert, slow living, cottagecore aesthetic, english countryside, slow living vlog
Hello friends, a video about a more vulnerable subject today. I’ve always been a loner and enjoyed my own company the most. I know it’s not for everyone.
I worked as a freelance photographer, videographer and editor most of my professional life. Even though a portion of my work always requires communication, most of the time is still spent alone, creating and working on the computer. It can get pretty lonely if I don’t find a way to connect with people in my spare time.
One other way to socialise for introverts that I forgot to mention, is joining art classes and lessons. I joined an evening pottery class with only other 5 people, and it was a lovely way to add a mindful social experience to my day. Even if you don’t speak much, it’s the activity of doing something while surrounded by likeminded people, which can add a needed social fix into your day. 😊
I agree with you about the art. I do it as often as I can, even online with a wonderful group of people. 💕
My job makes me to connect with lots of people but I find it exhausting 😅 I just love being on my own too ❤
Daria, i loved the way you speak! such innocence.
I love to be alone as well... it feels like such luxury and I can finally breathe and recharge.
L'uomo non è un'isola
I live alone with my rescue greyhound Madge, at 67 years young. I would rather live alone, than be with someone I was not happy living with. I have not been out and about since January 2020, and I sold my car, as due to my sever anxiety, driving was making me sick, and so not using my car, I could not afford to keep it. My nearest village shop is a mile away - there are no houses around until I get to the village - and I can not walk that far to it, as I am afraid that I will be unable to get back - I sometimes get nose bleeds, or my leg gives way - and I have no one to call on to come and get me if this happens. I do walk Madge 4/5 times a day, but they are short walks, and sometimes I can walk further than others, but I am always so relieved to get back to my home, my safe place. I love being out in nature, so I enjoy my walks with Madge so much, and I would rather be alone with her, than with someone else. I enjoy doing my own thing, without having the worry of thinking about another person. Blessings to you, from Jilly & Madge, from West Devon, England. xxx
When I’m alone I am more relaxed, happy and comfortable. I find it easier to think about things I want to do and not get swayed by the opinions of others around me.
As an introvert myself I rarely feel lonely despite loving being alone. For me the cure for loneliness isn't more people. It's being understood 🌌
Often introverts are afraid to be themselves due to cultural norms. I go to public places and read/write. Recently I went to a pub with my journal. People were.having drinks with others, enjoying each other's company and me: I was by myself writing and I loved it ! I think it's so important to fully accept yourself as an introvert and get to a place where we no longer care about what other people might think of us. Reading books about introverts really helped me. But most importantly having the courage to show up authentically to the world 💪💪
And introverts (believe it or not) are not always quiet. With the right person I can talk for hours on end. Whereas with someone else, after a few minutes I am like: "I need to make up an excuse asap to get out of this situation asap !" 😅😅
Very well said👍
What are some good books about introverts?
I love my solitude ... I like my friends and enjoy their company .. but I truly LOVE my time alone to just think, garden.. read, listen to my favorite music and be with my animals. It's blissful to me :)
Feeling lonely and being alone are two different things, and I have felt them both. I often don’t have much to say to others, but when I’m comfortable with someone else I can have almost too much to say. I find I need a certain amount of time alone every day to be calm and happy. I love that you mentioned being bored by yourself. It’s almost an acquired skill. Thank you Daria. It was nice to see your face today. Have a wonderful day 💕
You are so right! Oh and I get the feeling, usually if I’m comfortable I can talk a lot, but a lot of people told me I’m too quiet before! 😅 It’s tricky isn’t it, but I’m glad us introverts and loners have space to be ourselves!
I was about to comment the same thing. I've been in social situations and around loved ones and felt lonely.
I understand!! I also need time to be alone everyday to recharge, be on my own and do what i want 🌼 It then feels so comfortable on my own.
I not only like being on my own, I really need it to be able to feel good. Most times I get exhausted being around people. Beautiful video! 🌟
/Ditte 🤓
I love being on my own ❤ I really need it too. I never understood people that got bored 😁 My alone time never feels long enough
I feel the same. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about loneliness because it's something we don't talk about enough or acknowledge as being ok to actually crave being alone. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but society seems to put so much negative pressure on us to conform to social "rules" that don't fit us as individuals. I too get exhausted by being around too many people, or with a person who talks too much because it takes so much energy to focus and listen to them when they don't seem to understand that conversations should be two-sided, and they just unconsciously don't think about their companion's right to interject or share. I usually arrive home after such an experience feeling disrespected and even anonymous because I wasn't seen or heard myself - I just ended up feeling like a sounding board. I don't feel lonely when I'm painting or sewing or reading. I'm lucky to have things to do that fulfill me in that way. But you're right about something else...how spending time with people today seems to require planning because life is so busy, people are involved with work and their families and just trying to take care of their necessities. Spending spontaneous time with a friend is an almost impossibility. Please do share more topics like this. I think there are so many of us who have connected with your words. You help more than you know.
I don't hate people either, but i just prefer being alone and live in my own head.
You're right that you are never really alone, even though you would like to be and then there is a spider who disturb your moment of silence and when you do speak with your audience there's a bird to sing through your speach....I had to laugh about it. I loved your talk with us.
I know exactly how it feels when you are exhausted by too many people and being an introvert you need a lot of alone time to replenish your energy.
Being alone is indeed different from being lonely. Especially when I am in an crowd of people with whom I don't feel connected then I start feeling overwhelmed and don't feel safe. That's when I feel most lonely. But when I feel connected with a friend, and we have deep conversations one on one, then I feel enriched and loved. That is for me really quality time spend with friends, so that I can spend the rest of my day alone without being lonely..
Have a great day today, kind regards from Elise
We both really liked this video. It was a nice treat when you sat and talked to us. My husband is an introvert. He doesn't like to be around alot of people. I like to be alone and also with people but not big crowds. Thank you so much ♥️
I believe in quality time by oneself. This 'lonely time' recharges me, helps me build myself, discover my talents and inspirations, sit and enjoy a book, look at nature, or just be. We live in such a hectic world, it's a need for me to stop and be with me - to be still. Big gatherings make me feel uncomfortable. I enjoy the short moments with a friend and the longer moments with my husband. That's me - that is right for me and I love it. The beauty of humanity is its differences. Thank you for your lovely and insightful reflections.
That part about preferring to connect one on one rather than group of people is so true. I personally feel alive and comfortable with just one person at a time, as the number grows, I get anxiety and I feel obliged or forced to read all the people's emotions and act accordingly so as to not hurt anyone's feelings and that's exhausting.🙂
oh, I felt this so much! Like you spoke my mind!
I am in a similar situation - I also moved away from "known and safe" to North England, maybe not as young as you, but the majority of my adult life happened here, in the Unknown Land ;) I think is so refreshing, after years of keeping myself in big "packs" (which I really loved, I used to be that extremely extroverted kid!), I love solitude - until I crave that immediate connection. Sometimes I miss being able to just get out of the house and pop to a friend for a brew, or go with them for adventures. As a highly sensitive human myself, I take those hits really close to the heart and they are excruciatingly painful sometimes...
But still, I enjoy my own company most of the time. But am I ever truly alone if I'm always with my dogs, and have a man to go through life with me? ;)
It is lovely to see you talking directly to a camera, I think you could do this more often 💚
So lovely to see you face to face while you talking. The older I got the more of a loner I became. And I love it! I love to be with myself. I came to know myself better when I'm spending time alone. Thanks for the lovely video! God bless!❤
I enjoy being alone, especially now that I'm retired after working years in a hospital, managing was worst; too many people to work with, disrespectfulness of others, responsibility for many etc being an introvert, it was exhausting, especially 24 hour call (wish I was paid for that). Now the silence and alone time is bliss. Loneliness hasn't come yet, as it's been only 4 years, and PTSD is what I'm working through and my relationship with God is so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing ❤, balancing life is key.
You stated beautifully exactly how I feel. My first thought when I saw your video was that I want to share it with acquaintances I know so they can understand why I prefer to be alone. Large social groups exhaust me and I'm comfortable with my own company. It's my time to relax, have a chat with my inner self and just take stock of my Life. I'm 67 years old and have always felt this way. It's my nature. I am always surprised when I meet people who have never had a cup of coffee by themselves or been to a play, concert or museum by themselves and are afraid of being alone. I think also it's because we're so used to social media and interacting through it, and are always being told to make every minute productive, that we've forgotten how to just relax, sit and breathe. I would rather have one good friend than a million acquaintances. Thank you for another wonderful video.
I just turned 25, and I’ve also spent most of my adult life alone, and I’ve always been rather satisfied with my situation (with lots of different hobbies).
But sometimes I wish at least I had someone to think of even if we’re not always together physically. So, I think it’s so lovely for you to have your husband whom you could think of even when you’re alone at the time…
Thank you for your beautiful work, your videos are always oases for me😊🌱
I love my own company too. I feel whole, complete and enjoy my sports and hobbies alone too. I have always been self relient, independent, resilient and learnt to enjoy my own company. I cycle for miles in the forests near where i live, stopping at a favourite spot for something to eat, and read, meditate and just being with nature. Sometimes i dont see a soul. Im free, happy and content. I love and connect with your videos.
You have cute and shinny character, as someone who enjoys being alone, I loved it so much.❤
Fully understand everything you say, Daria❤ I am a loner (not lonely) since childhood, and I learnt to accept myself. Being alone for me is the only way to feel my true self and do what I love. When I need people, I find gentle ways to connect. Love your video, as always❤
Thank you. Loneliness is a state of mind, when loneliness found me it became my best friend. ❤
Im a writer and being alone brings me peace tranquility as I go into different worlds within my stories. I’ve just started watching your channel and love it. You’re videos are so comforting to the soul. Love from Yorkshire England
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and your fear for spiders. I am an introvert also and love it. INFP, 54, single, works from home. Yes, I will occasionally socialize but happy to be home when it’s over.
I am also an introvert. As I get older, I am finding more and more that I understand George Carlin's thought about being able to handle people in small doses is joyous. Having a brief interaction can be trying on my sanity.
Hello Daria,
I love this video!! The field with buttercups is amazing and not a lot of people, so you can really enjoy!
I think you had a lot of courage leaving your familiy and friends at the age of 16! Making friends that are 'compatible' to your soul is not always easy. So good to hear that you surround yourself with kindred spirits in an art class. I love to be alone too, it brings me calm and hapiness. But i also love people, in honesty: i sometimes have to give myself a push to leave my home, my safe place. I'm an amateur classical ballet danser (still doing it at 62). So weird that, despite i love it, i have to 'push' myself .......
I do love to hear you speaking to us directly, as if a friend is talking to me! Lots of love and have a lovely week 💕
Your video is my comfort, thank you so much for sharing your humble life with us.
What a beautiful video you have made 🍃🌼 hope you have a wonderful day! Being alone sometimes is a good feeling cause you get rid of the outside noise and distractions we have on a day to day basis.
Wonderful video, today. As always, anyway. Beautiful words, beautiful thoughs. Congrstulations and thanks a lot for all your work❤
¡Mil gracias!!! 🥀🍃
Me encantó este video, me considero introvertida, y este tema es sensible, no siempre se comprende esta situación.
Me gustó la sugerencia de buscar
conexion cuando no se está a gusto
con estar solo. Convivir consigo mismo es muy importante.
Gracias de nuevo por la frescura de este video y por tu sonrisa. Cuídate bien y disfruta de la naturaleza 🌿🪻🌸🌼 Saludos desde Costa Rica 🇨🇷
My son just graduated high school and my mother was here at our home. We watched your video together. We both resonate with you and your message. We enjoyed your video immensely. Please continue the chats in person we got so tickled over the spider with you! ...video highlight. ☺
I love these videos and it’s so nice to see your face. I can relate to this so much. I adore my circle of people, but being social is physically and emotionally draining to me. Extroverts will never completely understand that.
Side note: I recently moved out to the country and often when I watch these videos I find myself wondering “why are there no bugs? Out here they are everywhere. There’s no way I could lay down in the grass and not have at least 5-10 on me”, so it was interesting to see you joined by a little friend. 😊 12:56
I adore your way of thinking and talking it out, I am also an introvert who gets exhausted by constant company of others but still seeks connection with the right people. My best friend moved away as well and ı can understand you so well. Sitting with the right people and not putting much effort by simply being your true self is so relieving. We should keep in mind that life is everchanging, so you never know, maybe you'll meet your kindred spirits soon ...
It is profoundly true that nothing can be poured from an empty cup. In some instances, filling that cup can come from the rejuvenation of quiet time, like reading a book, or walking through a forest. In other instances, it can come from being fortified by good connections.
I love nature, but I'm terrified of spiders too!😂
All about balance ❤️ it’s hard to be alone but also hard to be around people too much. I’m not sure which word would describe it the best but there is a warm and pleasant solitude and then there’s loneliness, the sad and dark one. It’s important to have one but not the latter 🫠 beautiful video, and i loved the last part of it ❤️
A beautiful video,I love my solitude most of the time but enjoy being with friends and family thanks for sharing ❤❤❤
I'm very introverted and I also feel lonely. I have a new friend I walk with. She's more sociable, but she considers herself an introvert, too. Since the pademic, I've stayed away from gatherings because my health is vulnerable. I liked your conversation at the end.🌸
Oh boy, this video resonated with me. I recently been doing alot of Self Discovery, and found out that I am a INFJ. I am a Intervort, but I do enjoy meeting New People but on one on one. I'm not into Crowds. I used to be so out there meeting people and being Social. But since I got Sick, I've had to change my Lifestyle. I do struggle with Loneliness, even though I am happily married. But sometimes I miss my Old Life!! I have alot to learn about Self Discovery! Thank you for this video! I think if we ever met in person, we would become fast friends 😊☺️🙂
I love you talking to the camera, you should do that more often 😊. I love being alone although I am an extravert person but because of a burnout fifteen years ago, I can't be in groups anymore, it costs me to much energy. Even loud noises are problematic. So I live in the Netherlands in a cabin near the forest with my six dogs and I love that, I never feel lonely. I work from home but I have two friends in the neighborhood who I speak regularly. Thanks again for this lovely video ❤
😃👍 Loved this video so much, Daria!! 🤗 Suddenly, it was as if I had popped up there in the secret garden in front of you! 🤭 (Although I would have certainly jumped away when the spider passed by!! 😱😂🤣😅) Naturally, being an introvert like you, I totally agree with everything you expressed!👌😊 I'm so happy you're there to say these things! Thank you so much!! 🙏👏👏👏🥰😘
Beautiful cinematography and the topic you choose to address in this video is amazing.
Really like it. Everything you spoke was directly from heart.
Wonderful video & sensitive topic for me. I have spent these later years very much alone due to circumstances, but I have found life & solace in books, music, & in nature. The arts express the state of loneliness beautifully, as well. I hope you’re enjoying the colorful spring & thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I adore you Daria! Like you, I often find myself seeing just my partner when he comes home, if I don't ever go shopping, even though my family, his family and my best friend live nearby. I guess I'm a loner by choice and I also love it, but sometimes I crave company so much that I start calling everyone I know just to seek a bit of connection!
Very nice video Indeed. Totally feel like you. My close friends are far away and the COVID appalling crisis has reshuffled relationships so there's basically no social events in my life anymore. But I'm very lucky to bé with a wonderful husband, and I have my books, nature at hand, my art, and a good sense of humor. So not lonely 😊.
I love being alone until it gets too lonely.. I agree loneliness is not by choice but by consequence and some of our past choices good/bad! Sending you love from Malta 🇲🇹
Hello, dear Daria.
I rarely leave comments, but this video was especially resonant. It so happened that I, too, have been a loner all my life (I’m 25) and it’s not that this was solely the result of my choice, that’s how the circumstances developed. But it has changed me in such a way that I really value my loved ones, I can see friends a couple of times a year, but I try to make these meetings warm, soulful and strengthen the deep connection between us. So it turns out that when someone else is nearby, I automatically switch my attention to the person and give as much as I can give, the surrounding background blurs out, I stop seeing what is happening around, stop remembering the road and taking a meaningful approach to actions,.. so traveling, going to museums and watching films is much more enjoyable for me alone. When I'm alone, I'm present in the moment and I hear myself. When I'm with someone, I stop hearing, my inner voice is drowned out and I begin to adapt, sometimes to such an extent that only looking back I notice how much I was mimicking.
When I'm alone, I don't need to dance with tambourines and come up with topics for conversation, I can just be myself.
I'm trying very hard to learn how to communicate naturally with people in order to maintain that honesty of my own self, but so far I still have a long way to go in this field.
One person once told me that I am “an introvert in communication, an extrovert in perception,” and indeed, when I am alone, I feel sharper, brighter, more fulfilling.
But at the same time, connection with people is a very important component of life, everyone needs support from time to time, everyone needs “their own pack”, even if it consists of a couple of people.
Recently I read a popular science, near-psychological book of Alfred Adler, there was the following phrase: “In the modern world, people communicate, but do not feel a community.” This is probably what I am most worried about right now. Living in a city with a population of millions (greetings from St. Petersburg!), I see that everyone is for himself, at the same time, in practice or part-time work somewhere in the north/mountains/taiga, not everyday you can communicate with people, but you really feel this community, belonging.
It seems to me that this is what we miss so much when we feel lonely.
Paper letters help me cope with the influx of such moods. Handwritten with fountain pens and ink, with a large wax seal and dried herbs. You put warmth into such letters, you send a piece of your heart to the recipient, and even though a lot of time passes before you receive an answer, it’s as if there is a thread of light stretched between you. I will be glad to write you a letter if you also like this kind of thing.
Thank you for allowing us to look at the world through your eyes.
With wishes of peace, calm and warmth,
Darinika
After my workweek I love to spend a time alone. Actually I don't want to see or speak people. I feel like I need to restore myself. Thank you for your peaceful video!❤
Hi 🌿🍃have a wonderful day🌱and your absolutely right right being a alone so peaceful 🐇
I think it's okay to feel lonely sometimes, even when you're around people, including your family. I don't know, at least that's how I feel sometimes. btw looove the thumbnail!
Such a surprise to see you talk to us like this ! That was great! Please, do it more often 🙏
Thank you very much Daria! I love to be alone sometimes but my family often needs my presence and support, my colleagues too.. and so I look for someone little precious moments to be with myself, especially during the night 😅.. see you!
Hey, I loved your smile in 8:51 and it was really nice to get to see you talking to us directly 😊 I also spend a lot of time alone, and I enjoy the company of youtubers such as you who just make me feel warm and cozy. Thank you!
Hello again Daria and thank you for your post ☺. I am now having to learn to do a lot of things alone since I lost my beloved husband Terry in December 2023, to soon and to quick and my heart is broken 💔. We were together for for 54 years (we were babies when we wed in 1970). I have my two kits, Tally and Luna 🐱🐈 that are giving me a reason to get up in the mornings but the house is so lonely now, I miss him every day. I'm taking baby steps but my days are still very up and down right now. Not having children, we knew that one day one of us would be alone but you are never fully prepared for what that feels like. Terry told me to be strong and to carry on creating, for if you are a creative and you don't create, your soul will die. And of course to be in nature, for nature helps us to heal. We were always together, alone .....
Sending love light and Summer blessings 🐞🌹🐝🌻🐾🐾🐾 xx
This was so visually stunning! I love buttercups. It was lovely to see you speak candidly again 🥰 I like a lot of alone time but I love socialising too, just not too much as my battery also drains very quickly.
What a lovely surprise to have you sit and chat, you should definitely do that more often when you feel comfortable. It was just lovely! I’ve been following you for a while and I really loved this part of your video this time 💗
Yet another lovely video from your hand ❤️and I loved that you spoke to us. I am like you an introvert. Everything you say makes so much sense and resonates with me. I love spending my days at home, without any company or music, A whole day at home without any plans and just see what comes to me is the best ❤️
I was telling a friend visiting just the other night that I have never experienced loneliness, even though I spend 90% of my time alone. Perhaps if I didn't have one or two home comforts around me, then it might be possible. And if my freedom was taken then I might definitely feel lonely. But up till now that's just how it is.
I had no idea you were not english 😮
I felt this video.
As an only child I was always used to being alone and cope with it.
I had many friends, but there were plenty of moments when it was only me and myself, so I learned to be fine with it.
I moved to the UK uh 10 years ago, to live with my husband to be.
I work in a coffee shop and I have my connections wih our families and our friends/coworkers, but most of the time it's only us and, likewise, we absolutely love it.
We may be alone, but not lonely.
Sometimes you can be lonely in a crowd.
Being comfortable in your own skin is a wonderful thing, solitude is a great time to reflect on yourself. Personally I use alone time to meditate and keep in touch with God (my higher power). But I like how you said there is a balance. Human beings are social creatures, so putting one's self out there is also a good thing.. Cheers.
This is so me, you are not alone. ❤ 🤗🌈☺️
Being an introvert in my village is a nightmare...it is not possible to feel happy n enjoy life...but I try to except my self as I am in my little happy family...thank for sharing this video ❤
As a HSP I connected to you so much on this topic ❤️
I have been on binge watch on your videos . Your videos are so calming in this hot 44° c weather . I am pretending to be in your secret garden .
Oooh that’s so hot! It’s only 20C here today, so sending you some cool weather!
Love your videos.
This one is amazing, so beautiful.
Ciao from italy, ❤
Thank you so much! 🥰
All I need is a peaceful garden like yours.That feels like heaven.❤I prefer this kind of alone peaceful life..💓
I just like watching your vedios. they are so relaxing and I feel releaved . Also giving much information and mother nature in every vedio 😍
Thank you so much! 🥰
Thank you for yet another beautiful video! I love your content so much, it brings me so much peace and inspires me as a content creator myself!
Your shots are so stunning and I love your message in this video 😊
"Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was." - Cheryl Strayed 🤎🍀
I believe us introverts gather around the world to enjoy such videos as yours which are peaceful and serene quiet voice as yours is soothing your creativity is calming and your views are shared with those of us who also our own company! Even as a child I enjoyed playing by myself though I did have childhood friends and of course school but I always felt the happiest when I played with my dolls or stuffed animals alone 😊I too have had friendships throughout the years also preferring just one close friend as opposed to many and now I too find myself with only me which I do not feel alone I too have my husband but still enjoy my alone time most of all…. Nature is my favorite place and Autumn is my favorite season crafts books and creative videos are my way to enjoy my time. Thank you for sharing as there are many kindred spirits closer than you know 🍂🍁🌻🌳🌿🕊️
Thank you for this video Daria, I really appreciate it ❤
Love this Daria, can definitely relate ❤
I love your beautiful videos!! Thank you for sharing! ❤
It's strange that what she said , I feel the same way I'm kinda similar to her .
Thanks for making this video and i really prefer staying alone than big groups who don't appreciate my choices.
Simply loved this
Like you I became alone due to circumstances but I am loving it now. I have a few precious friends I trust with all my heart. But I love my own company. Big crowds exhaust me.
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
Interesting.. when I was in my teens, 20's, I loved being around others, I'm now 53.. and very much introverted and I love it.. I do feel somewhat isolated at times or socially disconnected, I own this, however I do enjoy my quiet life and solitude.
I feel exactly the same. As an introvert, I like intimate conversations and avoid big companies. Recently I've read a good book on this subject: "Quiet Power" by Susan Cain.
I thrive by myself. I love to travel solo and do things by myself. I do love people though but like you I get exhausted.
I have that as well, when I am with people, it is difficult for me to focus on myself. I go with my attention mostly to the other one in conversation. Socialising, i don" t like that, but you have to sometimes.
Another beautiful, contemplative video Daria. I can really relate to your topic. Being alone is mostly a positive experience for me even though I also love one on one conversation. Loved your time on camera and your adorable cat reminds me so much of Max, my part siamese. May I ask what is the lovely music you used at about 4:12 when you were hanging your laundry? Thanks again for your creative and sensitive works you share with us💚☺
Great video!
So great when you find a special place not many people go. I found an arboretum that i can visit occasionally and it's magical.
Your cat is just gorgeous. Can we have a short video on her (?) one day? Please give her a pat from me and this is for treats. ❤🐈⬛❤
I like to live like you who is alone. It calms the peace away from the attitude of hypocrites. Greetings from Malaysia❤
Ahaha the spider!
I'd be curious to know your thoughts on friend groups, small or large. I think it's tricky; it's a bit hard when all my individual friends have their respective friend groups. Mostly I'm not bothered by that, but there are those instances--major school events, celebrations and crowds, what have you, where people tend to congregate in their groups--and then I'm painfully confronted with my aloneness.
It gets really lonely as you approach 40. I wouldn't trade my single life with anything else but I do regret not compromising and finding someone when I was younger. I didn't think much of it then, never thought it was for me at the time, always thought I had plenty of time. Then suddenly whoosh you're over the hill and it's too late.
To be honest, people drain me, especially family.... I know, controversial. I have some lovely friends whom I've known for years and very occasionally I get to meet up with some of them. I do live with my husband but we are both loners if that makes sense. I lived for 12years on my own before I met him. I love being by myself and I am never bored. I am creative and have so many interests. I am almost 70 with many health and mobility issues. We are all different. ❤
I also love to be alone❤ in people I really feel suffocated. Its really hard to find like minded people. I admire your beautiful videos🥰
Super Video 😇💟
I could really relate to you in this video. Yes, why is it so difficult to make a friend whom we can talk to whenever about whatever after becoming an adult? I would like to meet some kindred spirits but every time I try to make a new friend I either get disappointed or hurt. Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me.
Calming😊
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كلام من ذهب ❤
It's so weird that you can also feel loneliness when you are with so many people, and you can be happy alone enjoying your own company too. It shows that only matters what you feel inside and the relationship you have with yourself.
This was nice 😊 hope you talk to us more
wow you live in paradise, it seems so nice and quiet without many people around, does this place really exist?
Being an introvert, for years I used to love my loneliness time, away from social life but now after entering adult life I really hate it. Now I just really crave to go out, chill out with friends, find some connections, find a partner as well because I have also recently moved to a new country but I am not able to do at all. Staying in the room alone the whole day really scares me out, deep down I just want to sit with someone and have some hour long conversations but now I really don't know how to do it.
Hi, your comment resonated with me because I was in the same situation when I moved to a new country as a young adult, so I just wanted to say, things do get better. Eventually you'll meet someone, a friend or an acquaintance, and they'll introduce you to their friends, and maybe some of them will become your friends. One thing I did during a period when I felt particularly lonely was sign up to volunteer at a second-hand bookshop. I met some amazing people and one of them is still a close friend a decade later. Of course, volunteering may not be an option for you, but I hope that you can find something you can do that gets you out of your room, and sooner or later things will fall into place. Moving to a new country is tough and scary, but it changed and enriched my life in so many ways, and I hope it will be the same for you. Wishing you all the best 💚
@@yuliyaivanova7949 Thank you so much for these kind words.
And I'll definitely check out some volunteering opportunities as well.
Lovely video! I am exactly the same as you, maybe because we are both HSP!
I wish I lived in England as well so we could be friends and meet sometimes ❤
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Thank you for this video❤. Can i ask what you use to edit your videos please thank you.