Things I Regret Buying & What They've Taught Me About My Style
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Today's video is all about some of the things I regret buying and what they've taught me. I hope these lessons help you reflect on your own wardrobe mistakes so that you can learn from them to make better purchases in the future. Thank you so much for watching xx Audrey
WHAT I'M WEARING:
Sezane Shirt: bit.ly/3euifsS
Mejuri Necklaces: *gifted bit.ly/34OHcuH
THINGS I REGRET BUYING:
Tuckernuck Earrings
Persol Sunglasses
Naadam Sweater
Elizabeth Suzann Pants
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When a piece of clothing doesn't feel right, it really doesn't matter how good others think it looks. The color of the sweater surprised me most because on my screen, it is a rich, caramel color.
minkie , I agree regarding feeling good on something. There were occasions where people tell me that something really look great on me but I just didn’t feel right and therefore when one doesn’t feel right one loses one’s overall confidence.
Agree with you minkie, the color looks like dark caramel.
I thought something was wrong with either my phone or my eyes! The colour, 'orange' to me represents the fruit 🍊! However, the sweater does have undertones of burnt orange perhaps.
minkie yes it does not look orange here either.
So true
I always feel so guilty when I buy a piece of clothing or shoes, and then don't wear them. Even if it's inexpensive, I feel badly. It's good to know that everyone seems to make purchases that sometimes don't work.
Yes! People always talk about things they spent too much money on and don't wear as a mistake, but I feel just as bad about the inexpensive items. I have purchases so much stuff from the clearance rack because it was such a good deal. But how foolish if I only wear them once or twice. Live and learn.
I refer to this as "the lure of beautiful items." All too often I have been sucked in by a gorgeous fabric or jewelry design, only to find later that (as Audrey says) the item doesn't play well with anything else in my wardrobe. Still trying to find that balance between statement/boring.
Autumn Mancuso I try to wear everything at least once before donating it. What I have trouble with is loving that Cape Cod type blue striped sweater dress that is just too warm to wear in the summer...have two or three. Medium knit in a summer theme only works if you go boating. They are now in the donation bag.
One mans trash is another mans treasure. I get satisfaction to pass on my “mistakes” to someone who loves /likes, the item.
I had the same. Then I started to think about "How long have I to work for it?" Then I started to count how much I spent. Now I m free of this kind behaviour. Good luck!
I love the idea about moving the sweater to your “loungewear”. I’ve recently discovered I really enjoy having *nice* loungewear to throw on, and still look put together, and I don’t need to use only leggings and t-shirts when I’m around the house.
I move things to my gardening clothes. I’ve got more gardening clothes than I can ever use. So many bad choices.
Phew, I am glad you don't regret getting the cat!
ildefonsaimpala2 My thought as well.
Hi, Audrey, love today's video. The linen blouse you are wearing is beautiful, can you post where you got it please.
Mae from Canada.
lol
I ❤ cats too! I really like orange but I need warm colors .
Your burnt orange sweater would look great with my coco brown cat🙂
That's what happened with my ex. I wanted to love him forever, but I ended up giving him away.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
You nailed it!!!
Hahahaha
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Audrey, try the orange sweater with navy. Try a navy scarf to provide a break between your face and the sweater.
Excellent idea
X55S I agree--and I also love pairing warm orange tones with a range of gray slacks, khaki chinos, and stonewash denim. Simple matte gold jewelry or wooden pieces go well, too, I think. But not sure if Audrey would like to invest in these color bottoms since she's mentioned that she's got olive undertones in her beautiful skin. Just a thought...
Same thought👍
Great thought!!!!!
Audrey you are a lovely person, such a joy to watch your videos💕
Am I the only one that didn’t see a bright orange sweater?
It looked more caramel or possibly terracotta to me.
Yeah I was like wtf is she talking about
I didn't see orange either. Caramel is more like it.
I had the same thought.
It's a brown beige color to me and a perfect neutral as well. Neither warm or cool. I think Audrey just reads too much into the color theory and biases her opinion.
There were orange undertones
I love that you don’t have a zillion ads in your videos like other influencers do. Beginning and end ads would be fine if you ever decide to, but the ads in the middle ruin the video experience for me. THANK YOU!❤️
Great video!
There are many regret purchases in my past. The key is to purge these items and move on, without being hard on ourselves. I consider these purchases a "sunk cost" which helps me get over it quickly. And Goodwill benefits from these cast-offs.
I will often look at sale prices on designer goods and then take a step back and ask myself if I'd still like it if it were made by an unknown designer. It keeps me honest/humble. Just because the price is amazing doesn't mean that we should go for it! And that doesn't only go for designer goods, but for fantastic fabrics (silk, etc.) that are the wrong color or shape.
I also loved the idea of moving clothing from a “staple” in the closet to loungewear. What a great idea to recycle an item that’s not often worn! Love your videos!
So true, Mary. I am older, love unique, interesting, well-fitting, eye-catching stuff (oversize pants and huge earrings for sure). With COVID and much less going out I've been wearing my "nice" tops and pants around the house to water the plants, dust the floor, get the email, read a book with a cup of tea and yes, walk out to give the horse a carrot. What the heck am I saving these items for??
My old tees become either garden wear or sleep wear
It’s okay to ship stuff. My eBay store (sewing notions and art supplies) has been crazy busy. We hand sanitize, pick, pack, and ship! Love your channel! 💕
I love seeing that even Audrey still makes purchases that she regrets :) lots of love
Hi Audrey!
I case you are looking for video suggestions - I would love to hear more about olive skin tone and how to work with it!
I didn't find enough meaningful information on the web, and I really love how you explain concepts, so I think me and other people with olive skin would greatly benefit from you sharing your knowledge.
You already saved me a lot of money and effort by telling that one can have pale, but yellowish skin with cool/neutral undertone, and I had that "Aha! That's why I don't look good in orange, warm beige, but do look good in ivory and cool green, no matter that my skin definitely has a yellow overtone".
Thank you!
The "orange" sweater looks more like tan on my tablet but either way I think it looks very good on you.
In real Life though it doesn’t look good on people with her complexion. She’s a Winter like me and I completely understand what she’s talking about. Orange, caramel, warm beige, warm gold make us looking sick.
Exactly re black/orange and Halloween. Interestingly, I too have olive skin color and dark brown hair, but I can do orange, lots of it! It's a great color for me. Cindy
smedgirl1 I agree it certainly doesn’t look Orange & does suit Audrey.
I respectfully disagree - I think Audrey looks amazing in crisp whites and she does appear sallow to me in that sweater. Edited to say - can she pull it off? Sure. Is it her best color? No.
@@tonpap Goodness, you are so right! I am the same. I love that military green color but it looks horrid on me. Not only am I a winter, but I'm a deep winter, which I think is limiting in terms of colors that look good on me. I love pastels but if they are not icy, I can't wear them. And it's hard to find icy. I can't wear jewel tones- they make me look like I'm trying too hard. I wear a lot of black (it's really my favorite), white, & navy.
Thank you for this very honest video! I feel frustrated when I see intentional, ethical, curated, sustainable, etc. bloggers gush so much about a new purchase, but then the item is never to be seen or heard of again in future posts! This was refreshing to see you as a blogger be totally open about mistaken purchases and how you parted with them in a thoughtful, non wasteful way. I also enjoyed your discussion of admiring something that someone else is wearing, but realizing it may not fit in with your unique personal style- and that’s ok! One thing I’ve learned on my own personal style journey is the need to see the difference between something I appreciate about what someone else is wearing versus what I would actually wear myself. I now view seeing other’s style in the same way I view art- I can enjoy many pieces of art in a museum, but I wouldn’t hang every piece in my home.
I used to really appreciate the English rose print dresses with big full skirts -on others- just don’t fit my style.
Thank you for saving us some money Audrey. I'm very selective based on what looks good on me and the outfit I'm wearing it with, the value and how I feel in it. There isn't a lot of represenation on social media with these values. I appreciate your detailed reasons for your style.
Thanks for your transparency, that makes you relatable and trustworthy.
Love you Audrey
I looove your videos! You remind me so much of chase amie in your elegance and delicacy, but your purchases are sooo much more thoughtful, and you don’t just immediately buy everything you want. You’re exactly how I want to be!!
Audrey, I see that sweater as more cinnamon, which looks great with greys & navy...thought it was very elegant on you, neutral but with a little kick. The pant would be fun with a cropped top, boxy, loose, but right for your proportions. Guess it's really about how we feel when wearing things in the end. You always look lovely.
Orange? The sweater looks soft caramel on screen, and is beautiful! Same with the sunglasses - the shape is perfect for you - and I can't see what is wrong with them - but if you don't feel good about them, I understand. Lot of thinking involved in this video, and it begs the question (at least to me) do you ever buy anything just for fun?!!
Fiona Frazer I thought the same, it’s more like terra-cotta color! Not orange and not caramel!
Audrey has a capsule wardrobe and practices thoughtful purchasing, so I don't know that "shopping for fun" makes sense in this case, as often those purchases aren't consistent with her lifestyle and will likely result in more regretted purchases, since fun purchases typically aren't made thoughtfully.
I don't recall if her motivation is for sustainability/ethical reasons or more personal/financial reasons, but I do know she promotes a "thoughtful purchasing" mindset, so I thought I would chime in here.
Also, I agree with you and everyone else, the sweater looked closer to dark caramel or maybe a more subtle burnt orange(?) on my screen.
Begs? It *raises* the question.
Perhaps thinking about and thoughtfully planning her wardrobe IS fun for her? I get the impression that she genuinely enjoys and finds satisfaction in thinking about fashion/style...which is probably why she's so good at it!
What do you mean buying for fun though? I for example consider it fun and great if I buy something I need and I like and which looks good on me at the same time. Sometimes I would buy things I don't really need, but I still think a lot before my purchase, like how much I like it, how good does it look on me and where would I wear it. Otherwise it doesn't make sense at all for me to spend money on it. I'm not a millionare lol.
Aargh that last one is a knife in my heart. I've done the same thing where I have certain designers I admire so much but their clothes do not suit me. I actually love those black pants on you but I understand what you're saying. Great video, very helpful and thought-provoking.
The black pants look fantastic on you. Maybe the looser feel is something that just needs to be 'gotten used to'. And they are great for spring and summer. Add a belt? I love your videos and your style.
steven nicodemus or maybe we all have different preferences and what other people think makes no difference. Ultimately if something makes you feel less than great for whatever reason “getting used to” would mean you will miss out on wearing your favorite pieces
I have a skirt from the same brand and the wide elastic waist (same as on the trousers) is much wider than I anticipated and looks very bulky with a belt...
Except for the elastic they looked nice.
I think the pants look great. But if they bother you, they bother you, and that's important, too.
I think the pants look too large on her. They look great on taller people with untucked tops.
you're like a breathe of fresh air in this society of fast fashion.. I'm trying to put the same effort and contemplation into my own wardrobe (and I'm also olive :)), so you're videos have been really helpfull. thank you!
I'd actually love to hear more about olive undertones, because from your videos, I feel like I might be in the same situation - with an olive undertone and yellow overtones, and I'd really really really like to hear more! Especially since there isn't really much out there already :/
Same! I’m in a similar situation; I have really pale skin but I definitely have yellow overtones/appear more olive in comparison to most people as pale as I am, who often appear more pink. I’ve always been confused about my undertones because I “should” be warm but I look awful in warm colors!
Me as well!! I'm definitely olive toned, though I'm super pale. And I too have found little guidance online to help very pale skinned olive folks. I do want to add though that orange complements my skin beautifully, same with yellows, navy, and soft corals. I cannot usually pull off any pastel colors, or very many shades of green. I'd love to find out why our complementary colors are different! (My hair is medium brown, and my eyes are medium brown too, both are definitely more warm toned.)
Same here. Pale olive with yellow. Warm colors look terrible on me. Gold and silver do nothing for me. Rose gold looks great tho. Not a lot of info out there, and what little there is, it's conflicting. Please more info.
Me too! I have a light skintone with olive undertones and I’m pretty sure yellow overtones. I’d love to see a video helping those of us with similar colouring to find flattering shades to wear since it’s been really confusing for me so far. I did have my colours done quite a long time ago and at the time I think I was told I was a winter though I’m not 100% sure.
Yes, I join my voice to yours gère 😊
personal style always evolves, fortunately and unfortunately! two years ago I thought I figured out a "foolproof" guide of what I liked and looked good on me. looking at those items I bought now, I realize I don't like 80% of those things anymore, and I've switched to prefer silver over gold. I'm making sure to be extremely conscious and purposeful for my future purchases now! 😂
Me, too. It's quite extraordinary how the reemergence from lockdown is so different from before.
Preach! I have olive skin and it is so so so hard to figure out colors. I only learned that olive is neutral/cool from your videos and it makes so much sense. I also have noticed that my skin changes in high humidity warmer climates and none of my clothes that I carry to those places work for me and I end up feeling like I have nothing to wear and I have to go buy clothes. Now I get it
Honestly Audrey, I don’t think there is anything that doesn’t look good on you ❤️
But that being said, I have learned so much from you, I live in SC and every time I visit Charleston, I think of you, while I am walking around beautiful Charleston ,and shop those beautiful stores, I think wouldn’t it be nice to by chance run into you
Charleston is one of my favorite places! I go at least once a year.
When I read the title, I was so excited about the content. Again, so informative. This video continues to inspire us all to feel, reevaluate, and adjust. Sending my love!
So often, we just cycle through purchases and are not mindful of why we don't like them. This has given me food for thought! Love the blouse, too. Love!!
Hello, I like your style, it is elegant and classic, but what I like most about you is your honest and simple attitude. that's what gives you the most class. Thanks 👌🥰💕
I love that orange sweater...and the blank comfy pants. Definitely would purchase and goes with my style
That Sezane blouse is so perfect on you.
Not sure if you’ve heard of it, but I suspect that you would be a type 2, secondary 4 in the “Dressing Your Truth” system which is very consistent with what you shared in this video, as well as consistent with your sweet voice and demeanor, current hairstyle, makeup and the colors, jewelry and clothing styles (especially tops) you prefer. In that system the “secondary 4” explains your impeccable poise and why you like to bring some structure into your overall look (eg pants).
TheLatonya999 I follow that system as well! I agree with your assessment. I am a t4/2, so I love Audreys recommendations.
Great to analyze what doesn't work. Mistakes aren't a complete lost cause... but a learning curve. Thanks!
I love your channel Audrey! My personal style is radically different from yours, but your advice has still been so valuable. I've learned so much about making smarter choices as a consumer. I've also learned so much about colour, fit, etc that I can apply in service of my own style.
That orange sweater may work with colors like chocolate, gray, and navy.
The colors you mention are for warm tones skin. She has cool undertones color.
@@haonhu7884 Navy and gray definitely work for cool tone skins. Look at the color charts; gray and navy are both basics for cool tone skin.
She doesn’t like the way she feels in it. Must take that into consideration
I loved hearing what your personal misses were. I’m the same in that my hopes for all things I buy will last forever or get worn for years to come but I’ve also learned that we can just never know! I have pieces I swore would add value to my wardrobe and literally never get worn because I’m not being quite honest with myself or didn’t realize it wouldn’t work with my style-but again I wouldn’t have learned that lesson as well if I didn’t get that item. Being as intentional as we can definitely helps keeps waste low even if not all pieces make the cut! You are right that not all is lost. If anything our wardrobe misses teach us something and make even better decisions later! Thanks for the great video!
As of today, I am a new subscriber to your channel!! First of all, I was searching CZcams to find ideas about the Cladwell $299.00 course on capsule wardrobes. I found your channel and 100% fell in love with your voice. OMG what a beautiful voice! I watched a video on your skin care routine, another on your perfect hair and makeup routine and one on what you won't wear in 2021. Then I found your blog and e-book on how to build a classic capsule wardrobe and I am 100% hooked! I don't think I will be purchasing that course, instead I will be buying some items suggested in your e-book. Audrey Coyne you are AMAZING! Thank you for so many great tips. I know there are so many more to come. I am so grateful I found you!
I’ve always dreamed of finding a perfect pair of wide leg pants with a wide elastic waistband, like you showed, but with belt loops to be able to break up the “casual” look with a decorative belt!
I love your attitude of making the best of wardrobe mistakes and just learning from them!
The sweater is "ginger." I own it and LOVE it. Great color for fall and winter. It was tending this year 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I'm so relieved to hear that you have occasional shopping regrets, too.
5:15 omgggg 😭 adorable...look at its velvet nose, i can't!
(I also noticed, cool tones look best on you ❤ )
Great video, Audrey !
How she jumps back and forth between her real voice and her fake video voice is so jarring aha but lord did she ever give me a lot to think about in my wardrobe. I bought similar pants I love the look of that I just have never been able to leave the house in, and she really framed it for me. The waistband! The pockets!!
I very much enjoyed your video today Audrey! I would love to see you discuss an olive complexion and how to tell if you have one in a future video. Thanks for your uplifting content and no matter what you wear, you always look beautiful to me.
Loved that you shared your thought process. "Carrot cake" made me laugh out loud!
Love your filming style. The light, the settings, the contrast, color, ... And your voice is very soothing.
I tend towards warm colours - I'm an autumn, and love autumnal colours. The sunglasses and sweater are the sort of colours I would go for; it's a shame that you feel they don't suit you, but that's life. You always look so well put-together and polished!
I'm slowly sorting my wardrobe out; I've got a long way to go and need to remind myself not to buy burgundy if it shades cool because it doesn't look right on me!
I think it's odd that Audrey made a really thoughtful video, with in-depth reflection and analysis about why she chose to let go of these wardrobe pieces after repeatedly trying to make them work, and some people are commenting as if to convince her to keep them 🤔😆
Well maybe with some tweaks she would like them, such as the pants. Maybe a tailor could take them in to make them slimmer for her. People can comment, you know! 🤨
I really enjoyed how you analyse the reasons why you end up not wearing these articles. I myself have many things I love in a sentimental sense but do not make me feel confident by wearing them. I think in my mind I associate certain clothes and accessories with ideas, moments or memories but that is not an efficient or healthy "relationship" with my wardrobe. I usually gravitate towards the same kinds of pieces and the majority (!) is always in storage often never-worn. I regret how terribly wasteful that is but sometimes it's hard to let things go.
You crystallize what it means to really know your personal style. It's not just a state of mind, but practicality and comfort that play into it so much more than we might like to believe! Great video!
Audrey, this issue is so important!! Just today I filled an entire bag of items I have hardly worn and finally decided to release. It is annoying to waste money and precious resources on these items. This video is so timely because I also did some analysis of where I went wrong. I have come to the conclusion that you shouldn't have to work too hard to make something belong in your wardrobe. There are so many gorgeous pieces out there and you just know when you have hit the jackpot!! I will restrain and be patient until the right item comes along.
I'm lucky to have my mother and sister both of who wear almost the same size clothing and shoes as mine, so whenever I don't fell like wearing something anymore, the size didn't fit or I just don't feel comfortable with it, I just give it to them. And they're happy, especially my sister, haha. I buy mostly second hand, so a returning a purchase is not much of a go for me. I also have been experimenting quite a lot for the last couple of years, a friend of mine gently pushed me to go further and deeper in trying new things, as well, which has been a nice journey for me. Now I definitely know what I love, enjoy and feel comfortable with, only remains to see what else I do not find fit for me and my style.
It's always nice to see your videos and recommendations, tho. I discovered you just a couple days go and I find your videos and style lovely. Keep up the good work!
I have made many wardrobe mistakes, because I love a designer. When I saw their label, something happened in my brain and I forgot all I’ve learned about what works for me. I now cut the labels out of my clothes, because they bother my neck, so I really have no incentive to keep the clothes after the label is removed. After spending the money, it’s hard to donate these expensive items...but it’s a good teaching tool for me. I can now walk away from a favorite label, even when it’s a great buy! Thanks for the reminder. Stay well and be blessed. 💕
When you said; “ next thing is” and panned to the cat😂 my mind filled in some blanks.
Lauren Morris this made me laugh so hard!!!😀😀😀
im not sure we have the same definition of bright orange...
PS: LOVE your videos :)
Most colors get washed out on camera. I’ve seen olive green turn into both gray and black in a video.
Shannon Nonnahs
The fruit color.
It's the lighting! It's orange! 😁
Actually, you look lovely in the orange sweater.
I think I understand your problem with the black pants. I’m also a slim petite, and really like wide leg pants, but I’ve found that the fabric used is the key to fit. Structured fabric like twill with fly front and belt loops (example: Everlane) look good on me, while drapey unstructured elastic waist pants just look and feel like pajama pants. I’ve learned that petites need structured style clothing.
Cheryl Sykes I identify so much! I bought a pair of off white wide leg linen pants and I am still struggling with styling them. The elastic on the back coupled does not justice to my (lacking) behind. I really wanted to wear these in summer though...
Hi Audrey. You made me smile today because I have the exactly same jewellery and clothing mistakes. Im 167cm tall so I have learned big girl needs big jewellery and bags. But it does not always fit. As you say...it must feel right and I have happily followed your rules and found a few jewellery items I always turn to...and they go along with my wardrobe. Your "cupcake" feeling I also have had!;) wrong "red" colour on a beautiful cashmere sweather. And baggy bottoms is not my cup of tea...too much fabric for my lifestyle. In fact I dont think they do anything for either petite nor tall girls like me. Thank you for inspiring me to learn from my failures..not just forget about them ;)
So generous to have a giveaway. I think giving to essential workers would be a great idea-doctors, nurses, restaurant employees, grocery store employees, teachers, postal workers, etc
I've been loving your style lately. Especially the square neck lines
I have exactly the same complexion and undertone ! And I can tell you that with age, it tends to get yellower! Unforgiving!! So more important to stick to cool colors for everything.
Love you videos and everything about you 😊
Everything look great on you! I don’t see any mistake! Love the orange sweater, looooove the earrings! And the blank trousers are really nice! 🥰 ...
I love the colour of the sweater! I looks like a muted caramel, not orange at all (and I’m obsessed with orange, so I would know!) I agree with the pants, I’m 5’0” and 97 lbs. and I also find that baggy clothes consume me.
That Naadam sweater tricked me too! I also have olive undertones, and I covered that sweater for a long time. I finally bought it, and when I put it on it was just a huge “no”. The color was totally different from what I expected. What’s so funny is all the comments about it being caramel not orange!!! I thought the exact same thing before I saw it in person! But I know what you mean, Audrey. Totally. By the way, I also have the same thoughts about Elizabeth Suzann - love the creator, but I just don’t think the styles would suit my frame or my wardrobe.
Between your thoughtful analysis of your pieces, soothing voice and eye for slow fashion, your videos are absolutely a pleasure to watch.
Great advice thanks, Audrey! You are in such a good shape. It would be nice to have a video about your exercise and diet routine. Thanks!
Self reflection and criticism is so constructive. This is positive and the we learn and grow.
This was a great video. Thankyou.
Yes...I really get you on the pockets issue...I am very fussy about how pockets lie in a skirt, trousers, pants or dress also! I love pockets but only the right ones for me. Like you, I can't wear oranges or brown tones. I can totally understand why you need to re home these items. Good talk through...thanks.
I think it's really great that you're promoting a more conscientious and sustainable mindset by analyzing why certain purchases didn't work out before discarding them (or relegating them to lounge wear). One mistake is a lesson, but the same mistake repeated over and over again is waste.
I've been guilty of this in the past, and I'm definitely going to make a conscious effort to be better.
I have so many purchase regrets. I am now seeing the trends in my closet of what I love. Flutter sleeves, puff sleeves, creams, navy, black/grey, emerald green, terracotta, red, earth tones. All of these go well with my Deep Autumn coloring. Thank you Audrey!
Inspiring.
I love that you explain your process. Your way of being deliberate and precise with your rationale is so helpful.
Creating the value of self knowledge puts these pieces, in my opinion, in the winner category.
Thank you.
If you're thinking about parting with some of your workwear-esque pieces, Dress for Success is a great organization to consider!
Audrey's suggestion of sitting down and making a list of why it's time to part with things, to understand ourselves better, and make more informed purchases is an interesting idea.
I'm downsizing now, and have been thinking through things, but not writing it down. It would be interesting to see if I wrote things out, would it help me to make better choices with my money, time, and pleasure.
OMG you have a very soothing voice. Perfect for ASMR
I have learned so much from CZcams videos like yours Audrey. I am 73, a retired professional who used to wear high quality blazers, silk blouses and skirts in my profession. The odd thing though is I was paying $100 and up for all my blazers and silk bouses....in the 80s from Lord and Taylor, Saks, and Neiman Marcus...sales only for NM! Now Zara and other places charge that for blazers and even coats. The difference, besides made outside the USA by low wage workers, is the quality of materials. Structural garment parts like interfacings, shoulder pads and trims like buttons were so much higher in quality in the past, as was the fabric. I love how you buy to maintain in your wardrobe for years. This is what everyone used to do. Styles changed slowly except for casual clothes for the youth market eg jeans styles. I still stay away from trends. I mever have worn low rise or mid rise jeans bec I am a figure 8 so my high hip measurement is the same as my low hip.....I would not have been able to keep those up! I learned long ago not to wear boxy jackets, short or long ones,the double breasted non fitted ones look great on the tall and super slim...not on my petite frame! We have to know what styles work best for us as individuals, colors too, so we dont get tempted by marketers. I cannot wear wide leg clam digger pants, as they were called in the 70s, like your black ones either. ITs good you have trained your eye to see that something is "off" and then analyze the why. You will save yourself many future mistakes.
Re: items you decide to eliminate, one influencer I'm familiar with has a store on Poshmark where she sells clothes that no longer work for her. I like the idea of a giveaway too. :-)
Re: purchases that just don't work as expected, I've learned that I sometimes expect too much from a piece, and then don't enjoy it properly, or that I am drawn to pieces that make a statement in and of themselves, and consequently don't play nice with the rest of my wardrobe (or even me), or a variety of other missteps. Money poorly spent, unnecessary bills, etc. Live and learn. Everything you mentioned in this video. :-)
I love the plants in the background of this video, wanted to let you know that I appreciate your honesty and the delivery of this video, thank you so much for your time and energy in making this video
I love that you are intentional, responsible, analytical...
Hi Audrey, I just wanted to let you know that I love your style and you have been a big inspiration to me. Where have you been all my life! My clothing waste has plummeted since watching you and I have learned how to purchase quality used clothing that would have been way out of my budget before.
I loved your comment about pockets. I don't wear anything with patch pockets. I just don't like the way they look, and that's one of the earliest personal preferences that I noticed in clothing, long before I was consciously aware of having any sense of style! :)
I loved this video. It brought together so many key elements from your other presentations, including the visceral response at play when wearing an item. As always, your insight is practical, erudite and inspirational. Thank you, Audrey.
I agree if it doesn’t feel right I won’t wear it! Sometimes If a color isn’t quite right wearing a scarf makes it work for me.
Thanks for the learnings Audrey. The hardest thing is having regrets about purchases and then not being able to part with them because we keep on going through our mind how much money and time we have spent on those items . I have to keep on reminding myself that those unworn items may be appreciated by others. Regret sometimes keeps us from moving forward. I have donated thousands of dollars of clothing, purses and furniture. I also have many working clothes items in my wardrobe which I will be donating to shelters where for example women will be requiring nice clothing to wear to interviews or potential new jobs. Keep safe !
I agree that the sweater looks like a dark caramel rather than orange but perhaps in natural light it reads orange. The black pants, however, look like perfect travel pants--loose with an easy waistband. I'd keep them for long drives and flights (hopefully in the future) when you want to be comfy but look good on arrival.
With regards to your orange sweater, if the sweater is made of a natural fibre such as cotton or wool you could potentially hand dye it a colour that you prefer. I have rescued a number of items this way. I like that you are brave enough to assess why certain items haven’t quite worked for you as a way of honing your individual style.
I appreciate how much time you took to explain in detail why these didn't work for you. It's nice to have a place to discuss these kinds of things with others. (For the record, I would have skipped on the pants, too -- as a pear-shaped woman, the elastic and pockets would not have worked for me either, haha.)
You made me laugh in this one! And I learned a new tip about moving something to “house-wear”! Great tip!
Try hand-dyeing the sweater a darker colour if it has a natural fibre component and not purely synthetic. You may not end up with the result you were expecting but it's fun experimenting and sometimes you get a great result. I dyed some bright camel pants 'jeans blue' and they came out a beautiful teal colour - perfect for my wardrobe.
I have some problems with the colors too! I feel awful with some shades of yellows or oranges, but I feel absolutely beautiful with blues and reds. I think I just love that colors
I’ve learnt a lot of the same lessons, like you have, through trial and error; and now I’m very careful about what I buy. I love that you’re choosing more feminine silhouette’s, which is much like my style - mostly because my short pear shape is complimented more with floaty dresses and skirts, and I feel so much better when wearing them.
Great video, made me realise that I am not alone in making errors in purchases. This week I went through my wardrobe and took out the items that I couldn't see myself wearing again, and they were mostly recent purchases. I fell for each of the snags you mentioned! Thank you and stay safe xx
Thanks. Great video and a reminder to think about why we don’t wear something after we have purchased it. I know I should never buy things online because generally if I had tried it on in the shop I would not have purchased it. The last online purchase I made, I ended up unstitching the pockets and belt and reassembled to suit me. I also contacted the designers to obtain extra buttons to add, which they did free of charge. I am now happy with it and am actually wearing it right now.
...I very much relate to you regarding the ear rings, I too prefer small jewlery....and the glasses too....
If someone’s says, “but I love the color” it shoots up a red flag. I have learned like I hate looking at anything blue BUT it looks good on me. I stayed away from many beautifully made clothing because I’d say, “I hate that color”. So trying out a few colors of blue over the last 10 years, I had received more compliments while wearing them. I LOVE looking at orange so I’d been buying some for of orange to wear.
I have learned ,at 50 , I can buy orange for my home, placed where I can enjoy it the most. I have purchased and wore colors of blue that do look the best on me.
When buying any type of white shirt, I alwAys bought two. As a hairstylist, I took that even further by buying two of everything from trousers, skirts, blouses and jeans. All with the intentions of saving one just for my Civilian wardrobe and one to wear in the salon. While I have loved having a minimal wardrobe out of sheer loathing to choose outfits, I some how lost my damn marbles these last few years keeping the same habit. I am retired!!!! I’ve always donated my clothes and because I am a bigger gal, the women shelters have such a need for larger, decent clothing because they rarely get those items in. After this week, they’ll have plenty!
Audrey, Thank You for this video and the many choices for belongings that no longer fit, for whatever reason. May I add another choice...my husband and I choose a family in our community with many needs. We send them packages on a regular basis, household, garden, clothes and often add extras we know their little ones need. They are not aware who their packages are from and we are not aware what items are used but it is delightful fun!!! Love your videos, Linda
Thank you, this was very informative. Especially supporting sustainable brands just because you like them and not necessarily because their clothes fit you well. I also made this mistake. Learning a lot from you!
I find your videos so educational and your perspective and voice so soothing in this crazy stressful time. Thank you
I just discovered your channel and really love this! I learn something new in every video and your voice is so calming :)
I am a fashion and style newbie and your channel is hands down the best! Practical, excellent advice, down to earth, and your voice is incredible. Out of all the clothes you showed today the pants are definitely the least you. Good decision to part with