I’ve Fought Depression for 20 Years (Is There Hope?)
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- I’ve Fought Depression for 20 Years (Is There Hope?)
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I'm laying on the couch where I've been all day. Exhausted, alone, and in pain (emotional and physical). Today I couldn't do life and needed a break. Then I come across this video and he gets it. I'm at war with myself. I need to find a way to give myself peace and hope. I'm going to do the little wins exercise. I'm worth a try, I guess. 🤷🏾♀️🥺
You’re not alone in this fight. I’m here rooting for you 🙋🏾♀️. Let’s rest for a bit before we get back up again. Take the guess work out of it. You have value, worth, and you deserve peace.💗
@@ChelseaSB Thank you. Yes I need to rest. After five years of caregiving for my mom, spending 45 days (24 hours a day) with her in the hospital, and witnessing her transition, I need to give myself some grace and rest. I'm usually the strong one who always bounces back. But my mind, body, and spirit are spent right now. Hanging on by a thread, one day at a time.
Reach out if you need anything!! Please
6 months later. How it going?
A year later, hope you’re doing better
Something I learned in my 20 year battle...is I wanted to be depressed. Its easier to be depressed. Its harder to get up and read and do the work to get better. Childhood / adolescent trauma is where most of the issues start.
I’m 49 and have battled it all my life. I’ve given up on getting better, just haven’t given up on life yet
have you tried the new treatments mentioned in the video?
Same here. Stay strong my friend, one day at a time.
If you haven´t given up on life yet, you haven´t given up on getting better. Keep that in mind.
Been fighting the same battle for 46 years. You never get better you just get through. One day at a time.
@@wtfschindler 46 years!!?? I cannot even imagine. You must be a powerful soul my friend, God bless you.
I had bad depression that came on suddenly when I was in my early 20s and lasted for 20 years. One day in my 40s it was suddenly gone and never returned. Ruined the best years of my life.
Wow. That is interesting that it just went away like that. I'm so happy you have many more years without that darkness!
Wow! I have never met anyone who said their depression just went away like that, but that's great yours did. Enjoy your life now, wish you well.
By definition, your days spent in major depression were not the best days of your life. The future will be the best days of your life! It's somewhat a lie that your 20's and 30's are the best days of your life.
Something happened to me. 20 years, from 18 to 38 years of age.
Thank your lucky stars every day it went away. Ive felt terrible since 18. I'm almost 42 and still have it as bad as ever. Best years fucking down the God damn tube and still counting
To the man that called in: You are definitely a man that a lot of us are now rooting for. Just as John stated, you seem like a guy he and a lot of us would want to be friends with if we met somewhere along the way. My hope for you is that you can start seeing yourself the way others see you, the way your daughter sees you.
This episode was heart breaking because my husband feels this way and I can’t fix him. I can only pray and try to get him to speak to a counselor. He is finally in counselling.
I know this is two months old but please don't leave this man, even if he's a shell or his former self. I promise he still loves you, but he doesn't know how to show it because he doesn't even love himself most days. And because of extreme stress his body is numbing him and all of his emotions. Partners of people with depression deserve happiness, I get it. But so often we take offense to our partners body's defense mechanism against succumbing to depression that we become resentful. Your partner knows your frustrated, he's frustrated with himself more than you know. Make sure he continues getting help.
Ty for staying with him. Most woman leave
I’ve been depressed and ill for 20 years as well. It’s hell on earth especially knowing I’m hurting my wife and I’m not the husband and father I know I could be. It is so painful and God feels non-existent even though I seek Him so diligently.
You’re not alone brother, I’ve felt the same for a long time. Don’t give up hope, the tide can and does change, it just takes work sometimes.
My son died by suicide/ depression.. 28 and two kids.. pending a divorce.
I was just starting to come out of depression. Working out, getting outside, and eating/sleeping better was working. Then 6 days ago one of my cats went missing. Back into the hole we go. Watching my senior cat be heartbroken searching for his little sister is really hard.
I’m so sorry….😞
I was depressed, but i won the war, the best advice i can give to anyone depressed, once you see light at the end of the tunnel, once you start feeling better, never look back again, only once you are steps further to remember where you came from to compliment yourself, but do not keep re living the pain, this is what keeps you depressed, you have to get rid of the guild and regrets and look forward.
This is very good, but also keep in mind that not all depressions are the same. Certain events can cause certain types of depressions. The type I, and other have is called MDD or clinical depression, it doesn’t go away; there also usually isn’t even an initial cause, other than that your brain can’t make enough of the essential chemicals your brain needs for elevated mood.
..im jst sick of the tunnel 🥹
I really appreciate this podcast and am so grateful for it. Please continue to do this. I've struggled with chronic depression for years and have never felt ok with having it. It's terrible and I haven't fully accepted it yet.
I also really like your advice for the woman with an alcoholic mom. The grace you displayed and your virtual hug is astounding.
👆👆magic mushrooms are very helpful and beneficial if used properly it makes you more focused, less traumatized, less anxious, signs of PTSD & depression being suppressed you don't do it only to trip. It has many other health benefits. Look up man so good..
Look into trapped emotions and Dr. Bradley Nelson. It's been very helpful to me.
I loved this episode but it also broke my heart. My Dad died by suicide last year, and he was diagnosed with Massive Depressive Disorder too. He never got the help he needed. At least this man is reaching out, and looking for help. Just hearing how much he loves his daughter brings me comfort because I can visualize my Dad whispering that to me, I miss him so much. Things are not better because he’s gone. That’s crazy thinking. He’s out of his pain now, but I’m left with it. I can only imagine it was given to me because I have the strength to carry it. I love you, Dad. Again, an amazing episode. Thank you. ❤
I'm incredibly inspired by your strength and indestructible spirit.
Man it struck a nerve with me when he said depression is like walking through a desert and mental cancer I can’t sum it up any better then that it’s like your mind is that devil on your shoulder or that friend who’s really your enemy you don’t feel comfortable ever no matter what you just stay distracted from it for brief moments substances suppress it temporarily but it’s like a mental suffocation that’s hard to break away from been battling since I was 13 I’m 25 now and just now
Made it out that maze of a scary tunnel I’m surprise I’ve lived this long I just now feel like Im getting my life started willingly ❤️ love yourself before anything else
Keep working at it - YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT! Hugs ❤
Im proud of you my man. I know how hard that is. I pulled myself out of the darkest place.
Im so proud of you.
You're depression isn't going anywhere. It's always the same loop. You think you found something that can heal your depression and you revolve your life around it but after a while you realize it doesn't help and you're back to where you started. In the end you will realize that you can do nothing but watch.
Struggling myself. I’m
In a deep hole
For me I have just accepted it. I have not made it define me. I live with it and above it. 16 years, if it goes away it goes away. But God grace I’m a winner. Depression has put me through a lot but I’m successful, I have money, great income, good job, understanding little friends, loving family, above all God. Stop trying to fix it and just live life. Enjoy you little wins. Some days I call into work because I can’t get up, I wonder if I will get fired, so time I have quit my job, sometimes I have called my parents crying, or wishing for death. But there is that one good day. Somehow I always make it and somehow I lead a successful life. YOU CAN DO IT. Depression can do what it wants but I won’t be the death or limit of me. Thank God.
What you're sharing works for you but please don't shove it down the throats of others with platitudes, I Can You Can! It doesn't work that way and often pushes others further into their depression. Talk about making others feel smaller and darker!
You're amazing Shachede. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, but what you're sharing is really inspiring. Thank you for sharing your good attitude and trying to bring hope to others!
@@orphansparrow2 thank you, and you’re welcome.🥰
Yes. I’ve had mental health issues of various kinds since I was 4. What really helped me was learning to ride the wave and not let terrible dark days stay with me after the fact. If yesterday was very bad, the next day doesn’t need to be defined by that.
Little friends? That's an odd thing to say lol
We like you too, Z! Keep going ❤
Thank you for this one. This came at the perfect time this morning. I’ve suffered from Major Depressive Disorder now (officially) since 2017 after the grief of losing my sister became more than just grief. I’ve had a recent plateau on my meds which are now at the highest dose possible, so they’re considering adding more meds on top… and I too sunk into a bad binge drinking habit. it’s all a scary thought and cycle. I have had to postpone so many milestones and goals. I can relate to him with birthdays being so difficult. I hope he finds hope and relief, as I also hope this for myself. Best wishes to all out there that struggle with this ❤️ the advice to quit going to war with ourselves is helpful.
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He'll guide you properly and lecture you on psychedelics and microdosing for health benefits
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I can whole heartily relate to this young men. I too have coped with high functioning depression since childhood, and always find something inside me to get me going daily. My kids are a major motor but also acknowledging that Im worth the enjoyment of all the beautiful things in life gets me going everyday. Respecting the life that was gifted to me outweighs all the darkness and numbness I wake up feeling on a regular bases. Never have I taken drugs and that has allowed me to just find my inner strength. But no shame to those that choose to alleviate the pain with whatever helps them. Stay strong.
👆magic-mushrooms are very helpful and beneficial if used properly it makes you more focused, less traumatized, less anxious, signs of PTSD & depression being suppressed you don't do it only to trip. It has many other health benefits. Look up man so good..
I definitely take a med for depression. Works great 👍 Been exercising an hour a day. Good combo
Thanks for the quick upload in this one.
🙏🏾🙏🏾 you are awesome Dr. D
Love and hugs to this man!
I needed this so much today. Thanks for the tips I wrote them down for myself too!
I have been battling depression and anxiety my whole life. Since I was 3 or 4 years old :( I am now 40 and diagnosed with bipolar 2. I am so sorry you are also dealing with this...
What you said just before the 12:42 mark to the caller really resonated with me. That is a great perspective and shows also where meaning in suffering lies…when other witness you continuing to moving forward, not ever giving up, working through it, one day at a time--that’s a gift to those seeing you go through it, etc.…just how you said it Dr. Delony.
John, you never cease to amaze me how you respond and can really get what people are going through.
I had depression and generalized anciety disorder for more than 16 years. I ve kinda fu-&: up a lot of my life but it s getting better. Therapy has helped loads. It feels like I got out of jail or something. So much time wasted, the constant battle with myself, sooooo exhausting! There are still days where i feel like just giving up. But I owe it to myself to make up for the years lost.
Sounds like I am sitting listening to myself talking to Dr. John. The exhausting and tiring feeling is always there. Nice episode. I’m glad Dr John is making Z call him back within a week to celebrate together.
God bless you, thank you for this one
YES!!! 🎉❤🎉 You ARE the hope!!! You have fought it 20 years and you are still fighting! That is amazing! Keep up the great work! Live to fight another day, Man. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Start creating things to look forward to and then things go be proud of. Look for opportunities go be of service or where your experience can offer strength or hope to others.
You are so brave! Look at what you have been through and after all that you are courageous enough to call this host for a cheering section of support and resources!
I feel so grateful you called. Thank you! For letting us know how it is for you. That sounds like trying to manage a life through a filter of quicksand. What a mess.
But look how far you have come!
To have this without coping through drink or drugs is huge.
Have you gathered like a group of mentors or supporters or peers in your corner you can bounce ideas off of? Or support group who struggles with similar things and can compare notes to feel heard, understood, and supported?
Absolutely!!! Keep bringing it. Best addition to the Team.
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Ive battled depression on and off most of my life. Some day's are better than others. I find that it helps when i try to stay busy. Obviously easier said than done. Wish everyone a positive day.
Prayers , Eugene 🙏
Lol that's the city 😂
Wow i have the same story, grown up religious still somewhat, but I'm trying very hard to just get out of bed these days. The future seems bleak but all i have is to go on, see what happenes.
Man, I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Dr. Delony, for what you do. You are a blessing!!! I love that you speak truth, even when it’s the hard stuff to hear. ❤
Looking good
🎉🎉🎉Happy Birfffday buddy 🎉🎉
I have had depression for 60 years. First 20 years was awful. Now I take snri and it does the job. Get a referral for a script and enjoy your life.
I had depression my whole life until I decided to try meds, once my Dr put me on the right combination, it simply disappeared. Jesus is my rock,strength and Savior, without Him, I couldn't get through!
Yes it does. I’m only 32 but have MDD and have been depressed for my whole life. What I’m learning is I will probably always have a therapist I need to keep in touch with or touch base with. I need to write down how I feel and check in on myself. Learn the signs of being overwhelmed and stressed. I don’t take medicine anymore but there is still work to do. Take medicine at first and get help. Your brain doesn’t have to be cloudy anymore. I’m not quick to get angry, I’m patient, I try to be level headed as much as I can. But again, it’s work. You can do it though.
not objectively from the looks of it.
Dr. John, Can you expound on what some of these new interventions are? I've struggled for more than 40 years - it ebbs and flows but right now I'm having episodes that come out of nowhere. Don't know why - but really need help
Look up David Burns books Feeling Good/Feeling Great and commit to do all the exercises. Change takes effort and it's worth it. You're worth it. It's changed my life! There is hope ❤️
@@johnlaw6144 Your local library has or can get you a copy. Also watch David Burns videos here on CZcams.
I was dating a guy who confessed to being depressed. The worst thing is not communicating with your partner. I want Depressed men to know that your family/ your special person, wants to be there for you --- but we can only do this when you talk to us. Allow us to fight and be there for you:
1) seek professional help
2) invite us to your sessions
3) show concern for your Partner. Your Partner has bad days too.
4) see a light at the end of the tunnel
5) Remember whatever got you here is in the past.
Regrettably I had to make tough decision to break it off. I never heard him ask me - how I was - you know what I mean? It was like he is depressed and I am, in his mind, eternal sunshine.....
Ketamine therapy is curing people of chronic depression
👆👆magic mushrooms are very helpful and beneficial if used properly it makes you more focused, less traumatized, less anxious, signs of PTSD & depression being suppressed you don't do it only to trip. It has many other health benefits. Look up man so good..
It's not affordable and therefore unsustainable. Not covered by insurance. But yeah, helped me more than any pills and therapy.
Really? They're not taking antidepressants everyday after?
I tried and it was very helpful, it stopped the negative self talk right away and strangely made me care about people more. It gives you a fresh start but if you don’t implement healthy habits you lose the improvements.
14:55 what do you mean by losing the ability to trust yourself? What does that look like and how do you not trust yourself?
Next summer might be my last if my life doesn't get better 😢
Wow… havent cried in years but hearing this, made me tear up. The only reason why I keep failing my attempts is seeing the faces of my daughters. I hope that I am not infecting them with this poison…
It will destroy your life and hinder you greatly. I would have been more successful had I not suffered with clinical depression for the past 25 years. It will rob much of your success.
It will IF YOU LET IT. Don’t let it.
@Shachede With depression it's not about "letting it" win, it just is. The point is about reframing what success is. It's often about getting the help, using that experience to become a better version of yourself. That's so much more valuable than reminiscing about how our life would be without it.
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Yes it will. I will only just be graduating college at 28 due to major setbacks with it. It’s been quite the struggle to keep going every day. It’s a longer path, but it can be done ❤️
@@shachede6828 it’s not a light switch that you just flip on and off.
Okies I understand a bit now ❤😂😅😊😊😊
The world sets crazy unrealistic standards for fathers and men. In reality it's much simpler. Just being a non-violent man and father who dutifully supports his family as best he can with your co-helper wife. Don't let other people set goals that you should set for your own self.
so fucking true. men are expected to be james bond, walter white, tim ferriss, tony robbins, richard branson....
like w t f.... that is 0.00001% of dudes. who are already insane.
To anyone suffering from depression I would recommend the depression cure by Steve illardi. I used to suffer from severe depression and suicidal ideations and his book and lifestyle changes really helped me.
He would roast me. I already feel guilty and hate myself.
"It's the L Dubs man, little Wins."
Wow. ❤🎉
Tell him to get abs and then ask if he's depressed
So, just don't be depressed and go exercise? If you can go and do that when you're severely depressed, great, but some people have to get to be able to take one step at a time to even get started on that track, that's how debilitating it can be.
Exercise can definitely help if you can get there. But you can’t just snap into it. Gotta start with a little bit at a time and work on consistency. I’m trying right now. Wish everyone the best 🙏
I just started at home ketamine Dr John!
How is it going?
I’m shocked at what a difference it’s made.
Dr John you're absolutely amazing, I teared up on this one
In the end nothing matters. We are all winging it and we are all on the same sinking boat that inevitably ends in tragedy. Life Was not about happiness, it’s about survival. Tomorrow is not promised. Tomorrow does not exist. Now is all we have. Drop the ego and character that you are playing and live. When the brain dies consciousness dies and you cease to exist. Be greatful. Smile, your alive
Wasn’t Jason Voorhees born on Friday the 13th?
Jesus is the filler, the physician. He is my life.
Nope
There is hope in Jesus! Ask God to supernaturally reveal Himself to you and His presence alone will remove depression and anxiety!
Lola, I hope you can consider that depression isn't just a spiritual issue. And I also hope you can consider that every prayer prayed isn't necessarily answered the way we'd like. So yes, God's presence can and does sustain us, but that doesn't necessarily alleviate or "cure" depression.
@@Radspad77 the indwelling of the Holy Spirit instantaneously cured me of social anxiety and depression supernaturally. Yes Christian’s still struggle with mental illness but God is the great physician. Seek Him and He’ll draw closer. It’s everyone’s portion to live mental illness free. There’s freedom in Christ.
You don't get it at all.
Carnivore, water and beautiful nature walks. Listen to Mikhaila Peterson's experience.
Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance. That advise won’t relieve it
Spot on Jan! I can't believe how much my emotional, and physical health has improved since going Carnivore!
@@copperridgegrow3940 there’s no proof to that theory.
Many studies to debunk it.
Self-care - including proper nutrition and exercise - can be a huge part of treatment and wellness. Every BODY and mind is different…what works for one may or may not work for another. The key is finding the right combo of things to help you and can include prayer, therapy, taking care of your physical and spiritual health, medication, if needed, and more. I was on many, many antidepressants for 20+ years. But there were things that I could have added to that to help myself, too. Again - it’s finding what works for YOU. Much love, folks - hang in there. ❤
@@copperridgegrow3940 advice.
Honestly.. there's barely any hope.. and the ones who still are out there alive with deep depression.. are cowards..
I am a coward.. i don't have balls to su1clde..
This nation wants another substitute for help besides God. This society and nation rejects God which then welcomes wickedness and distress. 😂
“For the LORD giveth wisdom: Out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.”
Proverbs 2:6 KJV
So I'm assuming you have never gone to a doctor for help? And if you had an accident you would just rely on God, no hospital no doctors or specialists or medicine right? Your logic is illogical
@@loveubye2288 what 😂 so foolish why would I respond? Except to say why would I respond😂
@@elizabeth9345 this isnt completely true...where as God is a good place to start, there are things that jus need medication and other methods to cope, sustain and heal....it's jus not spiritual, even God expects us to seek out help when needed, as well as rely on him to help...but regardless if ppl reject God he still doesn't hold good from anyone...we are all givin free will and it's not up to anyone to judge another for anything....we will all answer for our own actions and reap what we sow....vengeance belongs to God not us. Regardless....religion aside medical treatment is a NECESSITY for ppl suffering from mental illnesses including depression and anxiety.
I agree with you. However, people go into depression for a lot of other reasons. Mine being postpartum depression.
Dang, Hold on... Depression is bound to tap at any moment too out of sheer exhaustion.