Should I Buy A House With The Mother Of My Children?
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"I'm not asking her to marry me anytime soon" it's been 10 years dude. You don't have any plans to marry her. Period.
He is already married to her.
@@insideoutsideupsidedown2218 No. They just live together. You need to understand the mentality of âliving in but not marriedâ. There is no love, no commitment, just convenience.
If he doesn't marry her, she can't divorce him.
@@jomontanee then they are not living together. If he and or she is calling the other boyfriend/girlfriend, then they have a physical commitment without saying so. They are sharing the bills, food, utilities, cable, trash. And if they have made baby humans together, then they are committed, even if they think otherwise, to equally supporting the child. Stop using TV shows to define what is reality.
No reason for him to marry her now after she's been giving up the goods for 10 years. Why pay full price for a used car. She's about to end the relationship and he can go get one with less miles.
People treat having kids with the same level of seriousness as buying a goldfish, but they canât figure out why theyâre struggling.
Why have multiple kids with a woman you donât like? Kids are wayyy more of a commitment than a marriage.
I guarantee you rn that he will not support them anymore and will kick them out once they reach 18 years old
Or a condo. He's talking about making a "big life decision" when he's already made them.
They are too comfortable with the toxicity
@@unfairsanic5089 idk how you go that
I don't get why she would continue having kids with him either.?
he started with saying he is on the verge of making a serious life decision đ€Șđ€Šââïž ...buddy the biggest life decision is having a child not buying a house
Spot on!!
yikes
In his case having multiple kids
Technically kids are 18 year commitment mortgage is a 30đ
@@Mkay999 Children are forever. You don't stop caring for them at age 18.
She's not the only one with communication issues... Trying to understand anything that guy was trying to say was excruciating.
The best comment of the post. He had a nerve..............
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Pulling teeth sounds easier
Imagine giving one of your greatest gifts to a man and him speaking about you like this. I COULD NEVER!!!! Sadly, sheâs not his dream girl. Too bad she had his kids.
Marry before you carry.
Maybe he is right and what he says is true. I find it funny so many low quality women want to be wifed up so they can be goldiggers. Make your own money and keep your hands in your own wallet.
We hear single mothers speak badly about their childâs father all the time. Nothing new. And yet the father gave them one of his greatest gifts.
Women donât create babies by themselves.
52 options of birth controls. Women need to try accountability and ownership for a while, try it out, see what itâs like
@@alandbs329 And how many brands of condoms?
10 year relationship and multiple kids with no marriage = Tacky AF!
Not really, this is 2022, not 1922.
@@sehoujay pretty cringe bro
Agreed. You know thereâs problems and it screams LOSER mentality.
I feel sorry for this woman and the kids, they have an indecisive flaky dad.
Yeah right. You can live together with being married.
All about choices.
Nothing new. Women do this all the time.
May take two to tango but she is the gate keeper.
Heâs not a flaky dad! Heâs just đŻ all the way in on getting married and every time she does something that he doesnât agree with, makes him rethink marriage altogether!
You feel sorry for the woman? LoL WHY?? She is just as wrong as the father here. She willingly and voluntarily stays and creates children with a man who doesn't want to commit to her.
@@Austenfan177
And weapons in family court.
I see these cases at jury duty on occasion.
Something about Being married calms a woman down. Itâs the security thatâs put in place that calms her down. Playing house is very dangerous
Bingo
It doesnât calm all of them down.
This is soooo true ! Because why am I making all the other commitments, having kids with u & still going along with seeing u, when he never proposed before then⊠a solid foundation needs to be set
Something about being married calms a man down. I was with my ex for 10yrs praying she loved me enough to commit. My issues came from not having security and a lifetime commitment. And I did go to counseling...they told me this.
@@robr268 oh wow, thatâs good to know though that like thereâs still men out there that hope to get married 1st before any other thing like kids. Also hope youâre doing better now & found the woman whoâs meant to be with u đ€
You all knew what Dave was gonna say
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Well heâs pretty stupid to ask thinking heâs just different for him than the other caller and yes everyone else knew already
Heâs concerned more about a short term commitment (Condo) than the one that lasts for the rest of his life (kids).
He doesnât want to marry her and he doesnât want to buy a house with her. He doesnât want to pay child support. He doesnât love this woman.
What you need to do is man up, pay your child support and let her go. You clearly donât want to be with her đ€·đŒââïž
Why should he pay child support ? Thats not fair considering women have the right to abortion.
âŠâŠ.little late for that Taylor
I bet he does love her but has "attachment issues"
@@taylorsmith9629 bro, I need you to read what you just typed because you sound uneducated.
@@taylorsmith9629 It takes two. And killing a baby is not the answer. I know my son would do the right thing, and I know men who HAVE done the right thing.
Marriage is not the finish line, its the starting line.
He is not stepping up to the plate and she has no expectations of him (and this goes both ways).
Marriage is a formality.
Earn your own money and stop stealing from men.
This epitomizes the problem with modern America when it comes to families. People believe the legalities of getting married or buying a home together is not just bigger, but far bigger than having children. And the point isn't hat the former are not important, but that the latter should be viewed as a far bigger deal than it is currently.
Because it is for men
Itâs pretty obvious that those kids are accidents. I agree with you but it sounds like this guy isnât 100% in the relationship
Yes, kids are for life and the most expensive endeavor most people will experience.
@@kman20 how could the second kid be an accident? Is this guy just too stupid to function?
@@kman20 hmm, and I wonder what decisions he made that led to these accidents? đ€
Desperate women put up with second class relationships
Thank you for holding him accountable!!! Dude is a clown đ
Ten years? Dude is committed without the official commitment. đ
Dave tells everyone to get married you knew what he was gonna say bro lol
Who thinks heâs lying about being faithful? đââïž
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He's not really invested and will stay as long as he wants. They don't need to get married. They need to get away from each other and raise their kids in a respectful manner. (personally, I don't know why that woman puts up with him)
Thatâs not fair cuz you donât kno how she acts, to make him feel that way
She's half responsible for the relationship. She chose this loser to father her kids, not once, not twice, but THREE TIMES.
She's a loser herself for putting up with him. They're both a mess.
@@terriesmith2616 I believe you could be right!
I bet theyâre getting benefits that are meant for single parents.
This!
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And minorities.
"Paint or get off the ladder" đ
This guy is like the kid who climbs up the ladder on the high dive and then freezes at the end of the board. The longer he stands up there before without taking the plunge, the more ridiculous he looks.
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Why would anyone get married and take all the risk?
Just pay child support and let her have her own life. It will take years before you realize what you lost.
Yes!! âWeâre engaged but Iâm not asking her to marry me anytime soonâ smh feel sorry for her
@@tparker4458 They are not engaged either at 0:29
@@tparker4458 You need to let her go. That is evil to do that! Your wasting her time where she could meet someone that will want to marry her and love her. Dumb!
Or, he gets custody and she pays child support. Mic drop.
@@michaelpalumbo4880 itâs extremely rare for men to fight for sole custody. They willingly give it to mom
It sounds like he wants to raise the kids together and bail when the kids are 18+.
Everyone wants to play house but no one wants to commit . Iâm not going to lie, I think this is the culture he lives in .
I wish theyâd let him talk-I want to hear his reason for not wanting to marry her.
Because all his loser friends are doing the same thing.
The way he was talking, it would take a three months long video...
There must be a reason.
The caller is a member of the lowest common denominator club. How low can you go.
He wants to have kids but not marriage so,
a) if he walks all he does is pay childsupport and have the kids " visit"
b) as an unmarried mother she could possibly qualify for food stamps, welfare benefits inclusing insurance . I know women who collected , lived with their men and had his salary to spend but did not report it
c) easier to kick out or leave someone you aren't married to
d) if the property was in his name no matter what amount of money she put in unless they had written proof would be returned to her if they broke up
e) he says to her they aren't married so when he cheats it doesn't count
Or
f) heâs just an immature person and is desperately clinging to something that absolves him of taking full responsibility for the decisions and responsibilities in his life
Oh oh oh me me me!
All of the above?
Nope. Quit depending on tax payers.
@Joe Troll wrong. She allowed herself to get pregnant. She chose to have kids. No child is born unless the woman wants to. Sheâs at fault. This whole thing is her fault. He doesnât want to marry her.
@@dcg590 52 forms of birth control. Her body, her choice, her problem
For thumbnails yall should use dave to let people know he's in the video.
Why be together for ten years but not get married?
And why not?
Both my partner and myself are completely against the concept of marriage. So why does it matter?
Dave just explained why it matters. The legalities if nothing else.
My girlfriend and I been together since 2001. No kids.
Also no contracts, lawyers,family court,loss of assets, etc...
It is what it is.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 just bc u live that way that doesn't mean it is right.
U don't have to comment to every single person here not to marry.
How would u feel if someone keep telling u to get married? That's exactly what u r doing right now. Just opposite nagging.ă Ą.ă Ą
No he shouldnt marry her. In fact he should turn her lose. It sounds as heâs staying for his kids. When Dave mentioned that she up moved way. Heâs response was or Vice versa. Sounds like planning leaving her at some point. Itâs not fair heâs dragging her long
This man treats his GF like a â Brood Mareâ, nothing more, he only thinks with one part of his head! He is tied to this woman for life! He truly needs to grow the F⊠up! I feel sorry for her n their Children!
It seems he only stays with her for the children to have a parental environment but these two kept talking over him.
Exactly. This guy is trying to do the right thing, but heâs in an incredibly difficult situation.
"Mother of my children" used to be called a "wife." Maybe she shouldn't marry a commitment-phobe. BTW she is a common law wife. Regardless of what you think, 10 years is certainly that. In the eyes of the law as well.
Common-law marriage cannot be established in California.
Nor in New York. It's a state law issue
How emasculated would he be if she up and married someone else, and rejected his child support. đ€Ł
She gave him all the benefits of a wife but didnât get a ring first. Why should he marry her after 10 years? Itâs obviously coming to an end.
Common is non existent in CA.
Are they staying single so that she can collect a check
He won't marry her because of "communication issues."
Lol he can barely string a sentence together.
@@nunyabidnes6010 Luv yr screen name!
This one was great! Loved it.
He can come and go as he pleases, and đŻ see other people.
Exactly.
they're just playing house
Average L.A. relationship
If youâre been in the fence for 10 years, itâs time to move on. Sheâs wasting her years on him.
This guy.....đ€Š
he didnt wanna get married because without the marriage there is always an easy out. but in his situation it doesnt matter anyway because he had kids, so there will never at this point be an easy out.
It will be an easy out down the road when they are 18. Also when he retires then realize how much less paperwork is involved not being married and not needing to share his wealth.
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I wonder if the kids have any respect for their dad...
@@ohhoho5876
It's up to the kids.
Mother don't matter at that point especially if he didn't like her anyway.
@@ohhoho5876 why wouldnât they?
@@ohhoho5876 I wonder if the kids have any respect for their mother either?
What did the csller expect to hear. On another subject before anyone buys a condo, they must carefully review the association's financials. Have they reserved enough for major repairs? If not, there will be assessments be assessments. If the board votes to replace the roof and there isn't enough money, there will be an assesment in addition to your condo fee.
I feel bad for Dave as heâs watching the metamorphic reconstruction of US culture economics and politics take place before him
Poor lady what a waste of life for her who knows what else
POOR LADY?? She voluntarily and willingly produces children and stays in a relationship with a man who doesn't want to marry her.
May be she think she doesnât deserve better.
@@Naturefan354 So sad yet so true.
@@Naturefan354 I was not aware that parthenogenesis was a thing in humans. Manufacturing children on her own, is she?
Dave: âSheâs hiding at her uncles in Idahoâ
Caller: âor vise versaâ
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This dude is freaking out over buying a condo but didnât have a problem with HAVING a BABY, a whole HUMAN being with this woman! Dude move on cause you clearly donât love her!
So this is just a bait call, plain and simple. He was adamant that no marriage was in the picture.
One of the best videos I have ever seen
This is the kinda guys in my area... Do everything a married couple do except committ and the marriage ceremony. There's issues with this couple. She I'm sure has fear that he will leave. And him most likely has someone catching his đ eye... So why would he put a ring on it?
More are becoming aware of what happens when they sign that marriage contract.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 BINGO
Great advice!
Not enough context about the relationship
David grow up and get married. It sounds to me that you don't plan on being "true" to the mother of your children. You want to fool around. OMG
The biggest life decision buying a house! đ€Ł
Bro!!! You made babies together!!! Thatâs a big life decision!!!
This is the problem , start a family before marriage. They choose to not marry so the women can collect benefits even though the father of the children is in the home . Free ride on the tax payers , Iâm sick of this loop hole they have allowed .
We left LA for goof balls like this. First, he does not know those kids are his. She says so does not make it so. Second, there is nothing in it for him. All he gets is legal obligation for nothing more. Those kids already have the morals of their parents, in other words, no mas.
Say it again! They dont hear you!!!!!!!!!
They were dating, she got pregnant. He figures he might as well have all the kids with her and try to keep things together to give the kids the stability of two parents, but he's not that into her.
Someone needs to send this woman this video.
Dear caller, welcome to the true masculine manhood. Just arrived myself, and itâs beautiful. Take care of your family and improve yourself first.
Great advice
We're doomed as a country!!
Speak for yourself.
I'm even looking forward to this recession.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 nobody asked.
@@ohhoho5876
I wasn't answering a question.
You included everyone in your statement of fear by saying "we're"
Only me who heard him say "we're engaged but I'm not asking her to marry me"? I thought an engagement WAS asking someone to marry you?!đ
I think he said "not engaged"
đ€Ł He's getting ready to make a serious commitment... with buying a house lol. OMG people are insane. The biggest commitment of your LIFE is having children.
Jon/ if I asked her she would eat Iâm not safe đ what did you hear to make sure sheâs not safe lmaooo
I love how Dave and John didnât go easy on the man
Do it with a pre nub. Dont let anyone force you into marriage. If it goes south no one will be around to save you
And donât write it on a napkin
Being unmarried is the modern unaffordable luxury.
The kids weren't planned obviously.
Times three. A real brain trust.
@@genxx2724 could be triplets lol
Person that called, if you are reading this: PLEASE listen to the wisdom Dave & John provided you with. Then, meet with a professional or a good church leader to have couples counseling/premarital counseling to solve the communication issues.
Iâd wanna know more about what the issue is with this woman . I donât think you should marry everyone that has your kids . Donât need to chase one mistake with another
SELL YOUR CAR!!!
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dont do it bro, your gonna lose the condo and end up paying for it! DONT DO IT BRO
Terrible advice, as if marriage is the answer. He obviously doesnât feel that way.
Poor lady of he doesnât marry her I hope sheâs smart enough to leave and find a man whoâs willing to commit âŠ.. she has no say if heâs in accident or money or pension if he even has it âŠâŠ. Heâs not ready
She lay down with him.
She willingly and voluntarily reproduced with him and stays in a relationship with a man who doesn't want to get married to her.
I don't know why people shacking up with kids get surprised when, they are told get married on this showđ
This is a horrible idea. I believe they get married and then she get a gets a divorce and she gets half of everything
David presenting his long-time partner as "the mother of my children" is interesting. From the beginning he distanced himself from her. At this point in time, for some reason, it sounds like David is unsure and doesn't want to commit to moving forward in the relationship.
I'll try calling it Dave Ramsey I been through a divorce and Evey one hates me I feel so depress Even Dave won't pick up. I feel ever distiom I made was wrong.
Aww Iâm sorry. What makes you think everyone hates you?
Lol. You're shacked up with your baby mama. Good luck with that
its definitely better than marriage
Oh my gosh John đđđ
Ps did anyone believe him when he said heâs not looking for other people đđ?
I don't think he should get married. If he wanted to commit to a relationship he would of already gotten married. The marriage would fail and end in divorce if he puts the same amount of energy into the relationship he is currently putting.
This guy is swimming in lava refusing to admit he's a tad warm
This guy reminds me of tyrese movie babyboy
Youâre actually really married dude, youâre probably still hoping to find someone in the future ooops
Noooooo! Not unless you are married.
If they do buy a house in two years she and the kids will have a house and he will be sleeping on a buddies sofa.
Don't have kids with anyone outside of marriage. I don't understand people today
End the relationship and pay child support. There is clearly no love. Both this msn and the woman are to blame. They continued having kids even though the relationship clearly isn't stable.
he was hoping dave would say he shouldn't commit to her any further, so he'd have an out from his relationship.
You buy the house and don't put her on the loan or deed. Then it's yours and if something changes then it's still yours.
After 10 years.... They are likely common law married..
His playing house with his old lady.
Man up.
Bad advice. The guy should have been married before he made a baby and shacked up. Getting married now is a completely different question.
I hope the woman listened to this and RAN
Deloney wants to grow up to be "Dave."
Heâs even preachier than Dave is
Weâve been together for 10 years⊠sheâs the mother of my kids⊠I donât plan on marrying her. đ€
Guarantee those kids weren't planned. Ppl who plan to have children dont then have such a hard time deciding on commitment.