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  • @briasia319
    @briasia319 Před 3 lety +384

    I go to sleep alone and at peace, knowing I love and respect myself. I’ll die alone before I bend over backwards to please a man. Ladiesss be the queen the most high called you to be.

    • @InspiredUno
      @InspiredUno Před 3 lety +6

      All of this sis!!!💯

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +4

      Amen 🙏

    • @lovettatobeyea190
      @lovettatobeyea190 Před 3 lety +3

      Absolutely! 👏🏾🙌🏾❤️

    • @VintageAfro91
      @VintageAfro91 Před 3 lety +15

      Right! And a lot of grown boys out here are trying to scare women with that whole “oh you’re going to die alone.” They prey on the women who fear being alone. Once we as women learn how to be happy with or without a man, we’ll be fine. 💕✨

    • @TysVideoDiaries
      @TysVideoDiaries Před 3 lety +2

      💯

  • @reinaquisha9418
    @reinaquisha9418 Před 3 lety +334

    "To a real man, one woman is enough"
    The end 💯
    🎤🎤🎤 Drop

  • @Kaylagregg2076
    @Kaylagregg2076 Před 3 lety +423

    Yess ladies focus on having FUN, traveling, enjoying life in your city , enjoy being courted, working on your business , coming home alone being able to take your wig off and relax. So many women just not living their best life so busy worrying about pleasing/finding a man. Life is to short for all this nonsense.

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +8

      Amen!

    • @MahaloMegaun
      @MahaloMegaun Před 3 lety +49

      When u said taking your wig off and relax... I felt that part lol

    • @InspiredUno
      @InspiredUno Před 3 lety +18

      Preach Allie!!!! Life is way too short to waste on chasing men!!!💯💯💯

    • @InspiredUno
      @InspiredUno Před 3 lety +15

      @@MahaloMegaun ion even wear a wig, but I felt that too!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @vlee7217
      @vlee7217 Před 3 lety +17

      Exactly 💯 lol Bra too 😂

  • @KimG777
    @KimG777 Před 3 lety +221

    Ladies, Make a Man
    -Communicate with you
    -Court you, -Earn your love
    -Commit to you wholeheartedly
    -Make love to your mind
    -Marry you
    THEN, You give him All of You

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 Před 3 lety +153

    “A man who wanna be kept ain’t got to be kept.” TG

    • @BeautyWithinKakra
      @BeautyWithinKakra Před 3 lety +5

      This!!!!!!

    • @JessicaBeBrave
      @JessicaBeBrave Před 3 lety +7

      This is one of THEE BIGGEST LESSONS That I Had To Learn The HARD WAY.
      It does not matter WHAT You Do To KEEP A MAN, Because It Has To Do With The Man's CHOICE To STAY.
      So If The Man WANTED to leave, Its Because HE CHOSE To Leave.
      You can cook, clean, wash his clothes, serve him and everything else... but if he wants to leave, he will leave.... because it was his choice to leave. That choice has nothing to do with you, and more to do with himself and what he is after.
      When I Figured That Out, It Really FREED ME.💯💯

    • @Dr.Elaine1
      @Dr.Elaine1 Před 3 lety +4

      @@JessicaBeBrave
      Blessings for you. There is nothing we can do for a man that will remove his freedom of choice.

    • @officialwatchamber
      @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety +4

      Girl!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @whatsnextsis2904
      @whatsnextsis2904 Před 3 lety +3

      🔥

  • @vamanm
    @vamanm Před 3 lety +74

    "We got weak men who looking for a mother they could sleep with and call her a wife.... tell me I'm wrong." - Tony. YOU ARE SPOT ON!!!

  • @officialwatchamber
    @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety +86

    Serving a man is something a feel we as women are “taught” to do. Today it has gotten completely out of control. I had sex with guys when I wasn’t even ready because I thought I had to please him in that way. It left me with a disease I will have for the rest of my life! I don’t wish it on anyone. Thank you Tony for doing the work. 🙌🏼🙏🏼

    • @RondelleMartin
      @RondelleMartin Před 3 lety +4

      Thank you for your transparency. God bless 🙏🏽

    • @blessedtobless.
      @blessedtobless. Před 3 lety +5

      May the Lord bless you for your transparency. And healing be your portion 🙏🏽💜

  • @Iamirealla
    @Iamirealla Před 3 lety +128

    You dropping gems!💎 Judge Judy also said, never cook and clean for a man that's not your husband. Stop giving wifely benefits to a boyfriend.

    • @wonderfullymade9750
      @wonderfullymade9750 Před 3 lety +7

      I agree. Judge Judy very wise and just woman.

    • @osolvholts
      @osolvholts Před 3 lety +19

      Judge Lynn Toler said the first time she cooked for her hubby was after they married

    • @Iamirealla
      @Iamirealla Před 3 lety +1

      @@osolvholts Absolutely

    • @officialwatchamber
      @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety +1

      That part sis!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @nataliet.3023
      @nataliet.3023 Před 3 lety +2

      @@osolvholts and even then, she says she dont cook cause she can't cook 😂😂

  • @athompson8232
    @athompson8232 Před 3 lety +108

    “You ain’t got to audition for no man” - TG. Yesss...Thank you Tony!!

  • @queenpeace17
    @queenpeace17 Před 3 lety +330

    "Understand the difference between cool points and fool points." That's right, Tony! Stay Blessed.

  • @blacksongbird100
    @blacksongbird100 Před 3 lety +76

    Facts!! A guy just told me that I'm old fashioned bc I told him that I would not live with a man before marrying him. He later said that I'm "so picky" about who I want to be with. My response "you are absolutely correct". I have absolutely NO shame in any of my choices.

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 Před 3 lety +3

      same as you ,wont live with any man before marriage , many live with 'partners' out of convenience .I have no shame either I actually shame people being conformist. Next time tell the man 'You are a conformist' because if he was born in 1890 he wouldnt say this.

  • @officialwatchamber
    @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety +49

    “Men need to stop looking for a mother that they can sleep with...” MY LORD!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @MichElle-py8lk
    @MichElle-py8lk Před 3 lety +198

    The only person I want to serve is my Lord Jesus Christ who bled and died for me 💯No man is worth serving like my king. Point blank period‼️

  • @chrisparker6249
    @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +261

    I definitely agree with this message. Women are being cultured into believing that this is the way to a "man's" heart or to keep him. Far from the truth when in actuality it will fuel the fire of lust. Ladies, Queens, let God choose your partner, teammate, your King. Your breasts will forever satisfy him....Song of Solomon.

    • @tinajones1932
      @tinajones1932 Před 3 lety +9

      The blessed book of Solomon! Watch out.

    • @yamiyascott1598
      @yamiyascott1598 Před 3 lety +4

      💯

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +20

      @@dangdeionn Those aren't men, they're users.

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety

      @@dangdeionn I am a user but I'm also a replenisher. I agree with you 💯%

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +8

      @@sherricason1548 The investment in understanding who and what we're dealing with must be made, before we make any movement at all towards the bedroom. A "man" is only going to do what a woman allows him to do. If a woman never sees her value reflected in mirrors, a grown boy will only treat her like a shadow.

  • @brittanyjohnson588
    @brittanyjohnson588 Před 3 lety +237

    Straight Facts . That's nasty and so many people are lost broken and confused. I've been called lame so many times for not entertaining that mess. I might be 24 but im not desperate or dumb. I've had to unfriend a few people that was on that mess

    • @brittanyjohnson588
      @brittanyjohnson588 Před 3 lety +33

      Being 24 with no kids trying to do it the right way. It be the same friends who dealing with baby mama drama and baby daddy drama and want to wrap me in their situation. That's the reason why people be in that situation, trying to be so called fun and free. That's not fun to me. Exiting stage left

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +16

      The bible says come from underneath them and that's we have to do when we know we are set apart from the average. Never rest your crown on the ground but on your head!🙏👑💜

    • @anitaeast9201
      @anitaeast9201 Před 3 lety +28

      @@brittanyjohnson588 GOD BLESS YOU BRITTANY!!! My daughter is 25, no kids, and is a certified CNA, also pursing a degree in Nuclear Medicine. I sharing with her the mistakes I have made. I am a single mom, she is my only child. I don’t want her to be no baby mama! Keep your standards young lady. Pray to GOD. Accept JESUS, as your personal LORD and SAVIOR. Allow GOD TO SEND YOU A GODLY MAN!!! I love to hear when young ladies like yourself don’t sell themselves to the fake and phony hype, of the world’s standards. Please keep watching these videos. Mr. Gaskins is GOD SENT. It is serious out here in these streets, it is no JOKE.....but GOD.....JESUS.......HOLY SPIRIT!!!!! AMEN!!!

    • @carmel5187
      @carmel5187 Před 3 lety +4

      Brittany ❤️

    • @saywhatondat
      @saywhatondat Před 3 lety +10

      You have the mindset God wants us to have please continue standing for your values. You are much wiser than most! Some learn later

  • @RondelleMartin
    @RondelleMartin Před 3 lety +12

    "Don't give all of you to a man that don't want half of you!" That part!

  • @Best-ThingYouNeverHad
    @Best-ThingYouNeverHad Před 3 lety +35

    The woman who holds a man accountable is the woman who gets his heart. 💪

  • @ishanasweetncool
    @ishanasweetncool Před 3 lety +87

    exactly at this day and time last year, I was getting put on hold by a grown boy, after making all the mistakes possible(except threesomes , which he asked for ). Having a spiritual calling, I dumped him the very same day, 2 hours later. Little did I know, that 1 year from that day, I will be sitting in the comfort of my home, with no anxiety knots in my stomach, in the company of my parents , taking leadership opportunities in my fraternity and learning about womanhood from a man I had know Idea ,existed till last year. Excited to wake up tomorrow and exercise, also excited to continue on my research, ane also excited to study for my clinicals in med school. Thank you for reminding me, that I am God's own daughter. Also, thank you for writing- A woman's influence. It's a revolutionary book.( It also put me in a habit of reading)

  • @aneesahm4301
    @aneesahm4301 Před 3 lety +50

    “You got to be willing to lose a man to keep a man” ... ~Tony Gaskins
    I felt that statement. Great video!

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter Před 3 lety +11

    Listen to Tony Ladies. I bought my own engagement ring, paid for the wedding and honeymoon, and he moved in with me. Stupid I know, but I truly didn’t know better. All he ever did was give me babies and attitude. Finally discovered my worth, turned my pain into purpose and wrote books and started a CZcams channel to help other ladies. Please listen to Tony! A man who loves you will do for you just as much or more!💯

    • @ms.thang1977
      @ms.thang1977 Před 3 lety +1

      Congratulations 🎈 I subscribed to you.

  • @msvonne6044
    @msvonne6044 Před 3 lety +220

    “Wife material is not cooking and cleaning.” - TG

    • @ericawhitfield7876
      @ericawhitfield7876 Před 3 lety +28

      Right!!! I had to explain this to my husband. I like cooking, and I don't mind cleaning. However, I work 40 hours, sometimes more a week, too. I am not Molly the Maid.

    • @msvonne6044
      @msvonne6044 Před 3 lety +3

      Unfortunately we’ve been conditioned incorrectly. We need a soul (mind, will & emotions) detox.

    • @kikic7637
      @kikic7637 Před 3 lety +3

      Yes. I know women who can't cook, don't clean...but got wifed up. It doesn't matter if you can cook or not...clean or not. You can still become a wife. That 1950 mindset doesn't apply today.

  • @Mirror_My_Ambition
    @Mirror_My_Ambition Před 3 lety +68

    I am NOT serving or giving ANY MAN but my husband wife benefits. I need the commitment. If you want a "sample" go to the buffet.... PERIODT!

  • @stephtrader4662
    @stephtrader4662 Před 3 lety +71

    I like this "... you've got to stand up to get get a stand up man"

  • @akasiaandelisechannel
    @akasiaandelisechannel Před 3 lety +29

    As women i don't understand why we cant raise our standards to what a man got to do to keep or please us, we always trying to please them to keep them when we are The Prize we are their blessing

  • @amiragreen2577
    @amiragreen2577 Před 3 lety +30

    This is why a lot of older guys want much younger women,even ones that are younger than their own daughters 😌

    • @Nekole1
      @Nekole1 Před 3 lety +4

      This is so true. I agree.

  • @kayrawlins7719
    @kayrawlins7719 Před 3 lety +28

    “You don’t have to audition for no man” when I tell y’all Tony changed my LIFE. He definitely changed my perspective on life and relationships. I’m so thankful for him.

  • @mariw2185
    @mariw2185 Před 3 lety +38

    A word! My soon to be ex husband used to make me feel like I wasn’t enough, but after watching Tony i know i am more than enough. I am God’s daughter- a queen ♥️

    • @audreyderrick4972
      @audreyderrick4972 Před 3 lety +2

      Yes you are. Your God's child.

    • @mymakersdaughter6041
      @mymakersdaughter6041 Před 3 lety +2

      Yes👸🏽!!!!

    • @DeenaLucille
      @DeenaLucille Před 3 lety +4

      Mine as well. When I tell people why I got a divorce they looked at me crazy. Emotional abuse is abuse.

    • @mariw2185
      @mariw2185 Před 3 lety +3

      @@DeenaLucille amen! So so true! It takes so much out of you.

  • @IamKarryanne
    @IamKarryanne Před 3 lety +71

    Wow. I appreciate you for sticking to your calling. I know this isn’t popular but it’s setting us free.

  • @vickif2939
    @vickif2939 Před 3 lety +39

    I wished id heard this video back in 1989. He demanded all these things after we married. I was abused for 15 years. I finally said this enough. And i divorced him. Thank God i did !!

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 Před 3 lety +3

      I'm so happy you've regained your freedom!!!

    • @KimG777
      @KimG777 Před 3 lety

      Keep pressing Queen. You’re on the right path following Tony Gaskins!

  • @AllThingsTiffanyTV
    @AllThingsTiffanyTV Před 3 lety +182

    It’s so Sad Our generation has come to this. 🤦🏾‍♀️ 😔

    • @carlyc9891
      @carlyc9891 Před 3 lety +2

      So true

    • @tinkerbell8507
      @tinkerbell8507 Před 3 lety +14

      Sorry to say but the generation before was/ is like this too, only a bit secretly

    • @erynd.9911
      @erynd.9911 Před 3 lety +5

      Exactly! And they spread this trash and lies on social media for it to go viral 🙄😒🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @saywhatondat
      @saywhatondat Před 3 lety +1

      Very

    • @akasiaandelisechannel
      @akasiaandelisechannel Před 3 lety +1

      Seem likes it's getting worse but i pray it gets better🙌🏾

  • @lindawhite4606
    @lindawhite4606 Před 3 lety +11

    " Get off yo back"," Close yo mouth" , Ok Tony. Words that women really need to hear.😁👏👏👏

  • @cooser06
    @cooser06 Před 3 lety +87

    Ladies he is telling no lies..everything he said has happened to me..I wish this video was out 4 or 5 years ago. Eventually had the strength to leave but it almost took me out. This is why I have been a follower since the interview with the breakfast club. Thank God for u Tony and bless you and your family and have a wonderful holiday!

  • @ladyb3796
    @ladyb3796 Před 3 lety +128

    Yep cooking and cleaning ain’t gone help. Food ain’t the way to his heart lol. You can be the best cook; he’ll gobble that food up and still hate alllllll yo guts.

  • @roowens8799
    @roowens8799 Před 3 lety +65

    LOVE YOURSELF SIS
    REALIZE YOUR WORTH
    YOUR HAVE BEEN BRAINWASHED AND SERIOUSLY MISLED...
    YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS!
    LISSSTEN CAREFULLY TO
    TONY. HE IS HELPING YOU, IF YOU RECEIVE IT and I pray that you do receive it.

  • @Godislove818
    @Godislove818 Před 3 lety +21

    “make a man earn your love” felt that!

  • @trulyoptimistic3469
    @trulyoptimistic3469 Před 3 lety +13

    I felt this. I was with a grown boy a few years ago. I thought he loved me. One day he asked for a threesome. I told him how disrespectful that was. That relationship ended that day. I realized that he had no respect for me and he hated me because he knew he was not my first choice.

  • @pat4eva09
    @pat4eva09 Před 3 lety +73

    THIS! Thanks Tony. I often wonder about these so called celebrity relationships or relationships period. Example: T.I. and Tiny. They are married, they go to strip clubs together, have partaked in threesomes, he's cheated, they both smoke weed, etc., but they "seem", to the outside world, like all is perfect. And that CAN'T be true. That's not the way a healthy, loving marriage is sustained.
    Thank you Tony for preaching the truth. So many people see the outside and don't realize that's not reality.

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +19

      Facts and fiction are blurred through media. Celebrity couples don't last for the most part because they are living in a lie. God intended us/men to be with one rib/woman.

    • @nikkinanette8807
      @nikkinanette8807 Před 3 lety +6

      They’re the only ones I think of when this topic comes up. The sads 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @venishacharlemagne2402
      @venishacharlemagne2402 Před 3 lety +10

      They r both nasty

    • @pat4eva09
      @pat4eva09 Před 3 lety +4

      @@chrisparker6249 Agreed. But they've been together over 20 years... Whatever they are doing is "lasting" for them, although there's no way they can be genuinely happy. Just my opinion.

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 3 lety +14

      @@pat4eva09 Don't buy into the false perception. They are feeding each other's lust. As the man/leader of his household, TI should take charge and show that his wife is just enough.

  • @abby-hv6ll
    @abby-hv6ll Před 3 lety +29

    i’ve watched many of tony’s videos and something he always says is “the women who holds him accountable is the women who gets his heart.” so true.

  • @khocolateable
    @khocolateable Před 3 lety +32

    Monyetta Shaw , Neyo ex fiance did 3somes with Neyo ..She admitted she didn't want to do it but she wanted to please him. She wrote a book about women not doing 3somes and you see wat he did .He didn't married her . He married someone else .

    • @atiyathompson2564
      @atiyathompson2564 Před 3 lety +4

      Wowwwww......😵😔😣😭......

    • @xoxo-vp7ww
      @xoxo-vp7ww Před 3 lety +14

      I don’t want to gossip esp since they both seem to be in a great place and she is loved by many. But, I hope this helps someone: Neyo also told her to get her tubes tied b/c he didn’t want anymore children. He later married another woman and had kids with her. Praying that all women take care of themselves first and don’t compromise their mental health/self worth. 🙏

    • @julianacheriza1575
      @julianacheriza1575 Před 3 lety

      What’s the name of the book

  • @sarge5280
    @sarge5280 Před 3 lety +18

    ‘His daddy wasn’t there’ so true!! I served that man in every way he wanted. He never loved me. I understand this. I lost myself. Praise God for rescuing me. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jessica.7777
    @jessica.7777 Před 3 lety +17

    There’s a certain “tone” Tony has when these folks have aggravated his spirit. It’s all up and throughout this video 😂😭😭

  • @reinaquisha9418
    @reinaquisha9418 Před 3 lety +28

    I have made all of the mistakes I'm willing to make. Amen and amen

  • @TINAVTATUM
    @TINAVTATUM Před 3 lety +43

    Tony got me hype!!! I feel like I just heard the best single's ministry sermon EVER!!!!

  • @AFROcentricFLO
    @AFROcentricFLO Před 3 lety +3

    He said rubbing carpet... omg! Make it plain Tony!! Lol

  • @SermonsSubtitled
    @SermonsSubtitled Před 3 lety +15

    You're seriously doing the LORD's work, Tony!! This is like spiritual warfare causing women's mind to degenerate, and with it causing generations to fall, and you are like a force used by God to stop and reverse that process! Thank you so much Tony!! Seriously, THANK YOU!! God bless you and your beautiful wife &family!

  • @reinaquisha9418
    @reinaquisha9418 Před 3 lety +38

    "Good slaves get beat" TG
    Soooooo many gems in this one video!!!!
    I praise God for the peace and pure joy I've had in this single season. I've never been so grateful 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

    • @officialwatchamber
      @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety +2

      Girl!!!! That part almost made me SHOUT!!! Wow! That was a word 🙌🏼🔥🔥 And yes girl!! A peace like NO OTHER!!

    • @reinaquisha9418
      @reinaquisha9418 Před 3 lety +1

      @@officialwatchamber Amen 🙏🏾🙌🏿👊🏾

  • @jeneciagallimore7096
    @jeneciagallimore7096 Před 3 lety +24

    Make sure ur not in a relationship where u are being slave. Make a man earn ur love. Let a man respect u and let a man have ur body when ur married. Amen tony preach

  • @linw5643
    @linw5643 Před 3 lety +49

    I felt this in my spirit. I have never been this type of person but I have not always been wise in my dealings with men. But this is something we should teach our children because back in the day this wasn’t told to us in this manner

    • @nettas5437
      @nettas5437 Před 3 lety

      EL Dubb same here! I agree 💯%

    • @xoxo-vp7ww
      @xoxo-vp7ww Před 3 lety +5

      Definitely need to taught. I’m so disappointed that I wasn’t told.

  • @vlee7217
    @vlee7217 Před 3 lety +12

    "Fool points not cool points!!" I hear that 👏

  • @felishapittman2778
    @felishapittman2778 Před 3 lety +35

    Thank you for addressing THIS! 🙏 I learned the hard way...he ain't lying about these men. I was my ex-husband's all and he still left. I didn't love myself then but I love Felisha now!

  • @LatoyaD444
    @LatoyaD444 Před 3 lety +46

    Facts...he’s gonna leave and he don’t value you! This is on point Tony! ❤️

  • @reneejacobs8183
    @reneejacobs8183 Před 3 lety +32

    FACTS OVER FEELINGS!!! Look yourself in the mirror and REASON with yourself!!! YOU KNOW HE IS NOT LYING!!! Don’t just like this video, share it with your love ones. 🙏🏽❤️

  • @amiragreen2577
    @amiragreen2577 Před 3 lety +12

    That grown boys lust and thirst is unquenchable 💯

  • @rocko5928
    @rocko5928 Před 3 lety +14

    I'm completely prepared to be alone for a while and I'm fine with that! Have a good vacation Tony! ✌🏿👩‍👦

  • @ayannatyler3059
    @ayannatyler3059 Před 3 lety +13

    I can tell by the thumbnail that this is gonna be good

  • @kiwthebeauty
    @kiwthebeauty Před 3 lety +70

    It’s sad there are women who rather go through all of this than to be single. It’s sad.
    All this sexual fantasies you doing how are you going to maintain a man way into your 60s and beyond? It’s gonna be sad when after all of that doesn’t matter your stuck with a man you probably don’t even love just a man who you had on your sexual prime years.
    Take sex and kids out and many people have nothing in common with the person they are stuck with.

  • @vchild
    @vchild Před 3 lety +14

    Boy I wish I would've known this sooner. But better late than never. Never too old to change.
    I'm staying off my back until God sends me a man who honors me.

    • @NR-yt4ku
      @NR-yt4ku Před 3 lety +1

      @Tee Key...Tony makes single women want to learn self love. I really think this should be taught in schools.

  • @iknowwhatsup2880
    @iknowwhatsup2880 Před 3 lety +4

    I was told in a "Christian" counseling (not qualified) that you can never say no to your husband. I thought to myself, this is no good for a man to get whatever he wants whenever he wants. I find these seminars, classes always focus on what woman should do and never focus on the man's role as Christ of his home.

  • @Glamrocs
    @Glamrocs Před 3 lety +16

    A hit dog will holler!
    “ A weak man is looking for his mother he can sleep with.”

  • @msdurham2
    @msdurham2 Před 3 lety +7

    Served a man for 16 years, waiting, blaming myself, correcting myself, giving everything I had. The only thing I had was the Dummy Award, OMG! Tony G I thank you for putting some humor to my shame as I watch, learn, change and grow. Be Blessed.

    • @christineporter9914
      @christineporter9914 Před 3 lety +1

      Amen ,Sis I agree with you my realtionship was 12 years no marriage in the picture up until the time he passed away now this January will be a whole year he's been gone. So feel you.

    • @msdurham2
      @msdurham2 Před 3 lety

      @@christineporter9914 my condolences. I hope all is well your way now and as you continue to learn, grow and seek better. Because we are worthy to get what we give.

    • @christineporter9914
      @christineporter9914 Před 3 lety

      Amen Sis, I am growing and getting this New knowledge listening every day to Bro Tony it's truly helping me alot. It's hard at times because I find myself thinking about him and missing him and I know that ain't nothing but thoes soul ties. Please pray for me to come through.

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 Před 3 lety +14

    One of the most realist messages EVER! Tony, you are reversing generations of wrong teaching. Thank you for all you do! God bless!

  • @patwilson1257
    @patwilson1257 Před 3 lety +5

    I got to say this, like tony said, theses men act like you auditioning for a part or something. They EXPECT you to try to show how good you are. Like they are all that and THEY are the prize.

  • @erinncole6246
    @erinncole6246 Před 3 lety +13

    Thank you for speaking life into us. Some women have never experienced a good relationship with a man their entire life. Some women never had a healthy relationship with a man ever, including a father. This is what girls need to be taught when they are young. Thank you for blessing us🙏🏽

  • @GoodGrief101
    @GoodGrief101 Před 3 lety +21

    It’s sad that people are so broken that they think that this is normal behavior. We’ve got to do better! We need to rise above our childhood traumas, insecurities and pain. Get help, knowledge and do the work. Nobody deserves to feel this way. We all deserve to be happy and feel whole. Not being under a man feeling like a whole garden tool. Thank you Tony and y’all be blessed!

  • @ABlackGirlandHerCoffee
    @ABlackGirlandHerCoffee Před 3 lety +10

    I wish I would have heard this information years ago

  • @gmb6050
    @gmb6050 Před 3 lety +8

    Speak the truth Tony! I am middle aged and just learning that I have been “serving a man” instead of “being loved by a man.” Going forward, things will be different.

  • @shegotstandards
    @shegotstandards Před 3 lety +4

    "Make sure you're in a relationship and not in slavery"- Tony Gaskins
    Powerful inspiration and Truth!

  • @Synquette
    @Synquette Před 3 lety +12

    Whew! What did we do to deserve this!? Another banger. This tough love is good to the SOUL!

    • @kokoluv21
      @kokoluv21 Před 3 lety +1

      I'm forever grateful 🙏🏼

    • @Synquette
      @Synquette Před 3 lety +1

      @@kokoluv21 you & I both! ❤️

  • @gdsldy1661
    @gdsldy1661 Před 3 lety +19

    Tony is going IN!!!

  • @cindeed4422
    @cindeed4422 Před 3 lety +14

    Isaiah 30:9 “That this is a rebellious people, Lying children, children who will not hear the law of the Lord”.When you lie to yourself, you lie to God. Many of these women are broken within themselves. They need validation. Get your validation from the Lord. Then you won’t be so broken. Stop rebelling. Stop lying to yourself. Stop being used. God loves you and so should you.

  • @Pam_ela
    @Pam_ela Před 3 lety +21

    Real woman STAND UP! Wow! Tony you are the truth I'm sharing this for all those in the back of me!

  • @victoria-mg5de
    @victoria-mg5de Před 3 lety +4

    I live in Chicago and I am hearing no lies from Mr. Gaskins’ mouth at all 😭

  • @whatsnextsis2904
    @whatsnextsis2904 Před 3 lety +5

    “I done made all the mistakes imma make, deliberately.... I gotta trip and fall into a mistake now.”
    Now THAT’s the statement right there!
    I felt that deep in my spirit, Tony! 💯💯💯

  • @freckledfacedbeauty151
    @freckledfacedbeauty151 Před 3 lety +4

    Tony really went off in this video‼️

  • @MsKB7
    @MsKB7 Před 3 lety +13

    Only the word of God controls lust. Lord please help this lost generation.

  • @tonitaquetaparks3304
    @tonitaquetaparks3304 Před 3 lety +5

    Finally someone out here telling the truth.

  • @Godsonechild
    @Godsonechild Před 3 lety +2

    This video was seriously on point. I love how he always keeps it raw and real. Men these days have all kinds of tactics and foolery. Thank God for the wisdom on this channel. I've learned so much and implemented what I've learned. Keep giving us wisdom and knowledge and I'll surely be watching every video.

  • @cbembow1
    @cbembow1 Před 3 lety +23

    Yessss Tony! Real men respect Queens!!

  • @genevasanders1883
    @genevasanders1883 Před 3 lety +1

    PREACH PREACH MY BROTHER. LADIES ARE YALL LISTENING. BE BLESSED 🙏🙏🙏

  • @MizzWiggy
    @MizzWiggy Před 3 lety +12

    Whew....the slavery analogy. My God in heaven

  • @cpresley45
    @cpresley45 Před 3 lety +11

    Another spot on video. I happened upon his videos in February while crying from a break up. I was scrolling looking for something, anything. then up popped a video and it was pertaining to what I was going through..I immediately subscribed and started binge watching the videos, podcasts,whatever I could find. I even read his history because I was amazed at how real he was. I had to see if he was a fraud. I had never heard a man be so straightforward..my father told me stuff but nothing like this. It seemed as if he was looking at my relationship and marriage through a crystal ball. I'm 55 and I found the videos after the fact, but I know what not to do going forward. He spoke of soul ties on yesterday..they are real. I'm going through what he said. The dreams, the thoughts..its all real. LISTEN , PLEASE LISTEN COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO THOUGHT SHE HAD A GROWN MAN BUT WAS A GROWN BOY. AND THEY COME IN ALL AGES...MINE WAS 69 WHEN WE BROKE UP IN FEBRUARY. Thanks, Mr. Gaskins..

    • @officialwatchamber
      @officialwatchamber Před 3 lety

      Wow sis!! So inspired by your story & strength 🙌🏼🔥 So happy you found Tony!! He’s a life & game changer ❤️

    • @cpresley45
      @cpresley45 Před 3 lety +1

      @@officialwatchamber yes, he is!! Every time I think I have heard his best, he drops another...what makes the videos even better is the sense of humor.

    • @otegaben1
      @otegaben1 Před 3 lety

      @@cpresley45 out of curiosity and learning for me, what exactly aren't you going to do on your next *intimate* partner journey?

  • @ericajanellelifecoaching
    @ericajanellelifecoaching Před 3 lety +14

    Preach Tony! You are telling the truth!

  • @user-pn6qh7nk5q
    @user-pn6qh7nk5q Před 3 lety +6

    All u girls out there.. single and building on you and your brand... utmost respect..... u dont need anyone👐🌟❣🎓😘🙆

  • @anointedstilettos
    @anointedstilettos Před 3 lety +12

    This was difficult to hear, but true. I needed to hear this. Thank you Big Brother Tony 🙏.

    • @anointedstilettos
      @anointedstilettos Před 3 lety +1

      @Gloria Ann Me too. I learned a lot of lessons that I needed, but gosh, I wish I could go back and undo so many things.

  • @elizabethodunlami
    @elizabethodunlami Před 3 lety +15

    Tony I see you in your ministry. This message is going to bless so many as much as it’s blessing me. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @vanessasoto2928
    @vanessasoto2928 Před 3 lety +3

    I needed this!!! I have felt so renewed since I found Tony. Finding my purpose, way back to God, focusing on me, getting my three B’s in line!! 💕💕

  • @lisa05K
    @lisa05K Před 3 lety +1

    My third time listening. I wish we could clone you Mr.Gaskins. We need millions of men like you, all ages 20's, 30's, 40's and 50's....lol...probably some 60 years old too.

  • @Fit_Ministry
    @Fit_Ministry Před 3 lety +3

    I hat what have been passed down to me from older women, “Girl you better learn how to cook so can get you a man” and I cooked and cleaned and all that only to end up being manipulated and hurt in the end.

  • @tarahbruno3793
    @tarahbruno3793 Před 3 lety +5

    This message is so powerful! Straight from God

  • @Sleepylittlesea
    @Sleepylittlesea Před 3 lety +18

    Just to prove doing "everything in the bed" like Cardi B in W.a.p or Iggy or whatever - doesn't keep a man. Ladies, don't be afraid to lose a man or rather.. a grown boy. They can smell the insecurity on you.

  • @lerandabrewer3923
    @lerandabrewer3923 Před 3 lety +11

    Just like Coach said!!! POINT BLANK PERIOOOD!!!

  • @Shanice1
    @Shanice1 Před 3 lety +5

    All of what Tony said is true! POINT. BLANK. PERIOD.

  • @mstijuni
    @mstijuni Před 3 lety +3

    I wish I had a screen record. This was powerful. I want to share this with my friends but they ain't ready and I ain't the great debater. So I'll keep this knowledge

  • @elizabethschilling7178
    @elizabethschilling7178 Před 3 lety +6

    Ladies respect yourself!

  • @1novabella
    @1novabella Před 3 lety +5

    Love this video!!! So much sound biblical advice. I will never serve a grown boy again. Thanks uncle Tony!

  • @TheTiaNetwork
    @TheTiaNetwork Před 3 lety +4

    I felt the energy from his soul in this video. Preach!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @wadakealotswe4784
    @wadakealotswe4784 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you Tony G. The Lord bless you. With love all the way from Botswana 🇧🇼

  • @misst72
    @misst72 Před 3 lety +7

    You better SPEAK that truth, Tony! I know my worth!!

  • @katrinawilliams5928
    @katrinawilliams5928 Před 3 lety

    PREACH UP IN HERE TONY!!!!

  • @shannaq.4896
    @shannaq.4896 Před 3 lety +11

    Tell her Tony!!... I totally agree!