when you are in the friendzone, act like a man instead of a boy. be direct with your intentions, if she doesn't want to link up with you move on, simple. dont complicate things. you can also go ghost on her, and work on your purpose, post thirst traps on social media, and yourself with other girls, and she will bounce right back, viewing you as a high value man. try for yourselves.
What if I deleted my social media due to heartbreak and low self esteem? Most likely she’ll forget me faster? Cause it’s been 4 months already without any social media. I honestly already feel forgotten for good 💔
@@final58fant58 Don't try to manipulate her back into your life by posting on social media and indirectly trying to get her attention. You need to ACTUALLY move on and stop thinking about her.
@@PentaKillMedia I deleted my IG a day after she blocked me so there’s no way for me to post on social media and if i did im pretty sure she would never check on me im dead to her and fucked up by messaging her recently that i miss her and love her. I just need to stop thinking about her and i already left her alone and stopped stalking her because it would just make it worst to forget her. But somehow i still have her face ingrained into my mind and dream of her alot it’s so annoying 😑
This guy speaks the truth. Staying in the friendzone is nothing but false hope and a world of hurt. You have to make the logical decision by ghosting her and focusing on YOUR goals.
no, you dont have to ghost her, thats not right at all, if someone means something a lot to you, you shouldn't ghost them, keep them in your life, but remember where you stand and you can find someone else to be with whilst keeping her as a good friend
Don't ghost them! Tell them you're done and cut them out of your life! Otherwise, you'll be a total loser and never get a meaningful relationship with that person or any other person. Cut that person out!
@@mortalkomment8028 don't listen to that advice, if someone is special to you even as a friend, then you dont need to cut them out of your life, you will not be total loser for keeping that person in your life whilst respecting your boundaries, and you can still get into a meaningful relationship with someone else too
Wish I could say the same.. I again feel I lost a opportunity something special it still hurts and it's going a month now.. We had so much fun yet she needed time she said. Then two weeks later hooked up with someone else.. But trying to focus on my purpose but proving difficult..
Focus on career and net worth. Cut all non-essentials. Invest in yourself. Learn the personal financial system. Determine one*s goal and go for that and only that. Every day you don*t increase your net worth, and free yourself from the Man, is a wasted day. When the hourglass is empty, it is EMPTY. Rent, never buy.
Couple things to remember here: 1. You never have to apologize for being intentional and anyone who makes you is bad news for you. 2. It's hard to let go of something that isn't working out, but much better for your mental health when you finally do. 3. You think you can't live without the person who doesn't want you, but you will realize how wrong you are when you do live with the person who does want you. #3 is hard as it's not an experience most have had or even have had examples of. Dysfunctional relationships are getting so normalized within the past 20 years or so that people settle for toxic situations because they think it's the best they can do for themselves. When you actually find something that is legitimately healthy for you, you'll forget all about how attached you were to any previous toxic individuals.
You may get your feelings hurt, and some might even struggle to let go. But the important thing to remember is that life is short and you shouldn’t really waste your time on people who don’t feel the same. Take good care of yourself, dream big and achieve your goals. Don’t change yourself for other people, be yourself at all times, and I’m sure you will find love one day. Who ever is reading this, i hope you have a happy and successful life💫🙌
Usually when you develop feelings and fall in love with a friend is just because you don't have options, you go 100% on this person because you have that person there and you don't have to exert any effort to meet new people, so you start to think that that person is the right one for you, but it's false, it's just a flaw of the mind, the world is full of right people for you if you are willing to meet them
Wella, ciao 🖐️ long time no see. A sto giro sono proprio d'accordo con te haha😂 sempre parlare con almeno 10 donne tutte assieme, non si sa mai in che modo ognuna di loro può deluderti, quindi options options options!!
@@freddylimpster7137 ahahahahahahah e sono cambiate tante cose, ho una vita completamente nuova e stravolta, comunque si, in genere questa cosa accade anche perchè, come dice Lloyd all'inizio del video, si suppone che l'autore della domanda sia molto giovane e perchè ripeto, sostanzialmente non hai opzioni e passi il 100% del tempo solo con quella persona e finisci o per prenderti una sbandata/cotta perchè non vedi e senti altro che quella persona o ad autoconvincerti che quella sia la persona giusta per te, ma basta vedere e/o sentire anche solo due ragazze in piú e ti accorgi che frequentare una sola persona ti fa finire in quella cosa che gli americani chiamano one-itis, altro che sentimenti e amore, prendi semplicemente una fissa perchè è l'unica persona con la quale trascorri il tempo. P.S. Aggiungo che anche focalizzarsi su stessi, che so il proprio lavoro, i propri studi, una passione, uno sport, ti aiuta ad evitare queste fisse e a capovolgere la situazione, in quanto se una ragazza vede che tu sei cosí tanto focalizzato sulle tue cose e a migliorare te stesso finisce lei per prendersi la fissa per te
Sorry but I get pissed everytime people say... oh don't worry, you will find the perfect partner...that girl was not the right one for you...this world has 7 billion or so people so yeah right there's always someone out there who will give you the love that you desire... but guess what not everyone is super rich to travel the world and find their soulmate and even then... human beings have limited time at their hands ... probably 10 years or even less... since men generally start finding their life partner at age 25 till 35 .... if they can't find the right partner... then it's over LOVE IN MY BOOK IS ALL ABOUT LUCK ... NOT DESTINY So goodluck convincing me that there exists a perfect life partner for me. I am 35 already and single... was cheated on by a stupid low class girl who slept around with 20 other men.
@@TheSelfAwareIndianEmpath it's not about money, I'm really poor XD, it's not about travelling, it's not about luck, it's not about destiny, dating game it's all about your skills as everything in life. If you want to get promoted at your job you need a certain level of skills that you improve over time, if you want to success at school you need a certain level of skills, if you want to success in sports also here you need a certain level of skills, and you have to be patient to develop skills you need in a certain field if you really want to be successful, you will go through a lot of setbacks, but if you want something life is in this way. In my opinion and in my experience the greatest skill that works with every woman is pull and push technique, all women surrend to this technique also the most beautiful ones, it's not about that shitty stories you will meet your soulmate or the partner of your life, these are just bullshit, all women work in the same way, someone with a little bit of difference, but the way to make them fall in love with you is always the same, i.e. putting thoughts and doubts inside their mind, and the most powerful and safest way to do it is by showing and not showing interest, pull and push technique, hot and cold, sometimes you care about them, sometimes you do as if they don't even exist, believe me this works with every woman
I couldn’t agree more that keeping a girl you’re romantically interested in as a close friend is worse than no relationship at all. I had a female friend who I was into who started dating a mutual friend. As much as I wanted to be happy for them and stay friends with her, having to see them together all the time just sucked. Eventually, they both distanced themselves from our larger group, so the situation worked itself out in the end.
You put yourself in the friend zone. It's communicating feelings and intentions. Not playing social manipulation games, etc. If they don't see you that type of way, then distance yourself from them. If need be, tell them you can't be friends with them if they don't see you the same way and move on.
You know what, that’s scarcity mindset. If you truly feel that for someone then you need to let them know or make a move even if it dissipates or makes the friendship awkward.
By the way I am not knocking having female friends if the friendship starts from the right place. You can turn female friends into relationships or sexual partners. I do this all the time. For me the friendzone doesn't exist. But in this example he started and continues as a friend because that is all he is ever going to get.
@TheSingleGuy What about if you are having sex with her and are more than just FWB (talk and text everyday) but it's more like an unofficial open relationship (both seeing other people), yet she doesn't want a relationship and maybe you do, and you love her and she doesn't feel as strong. Tips appreciated!
@@felbaud It only works if you started as friends with the genuine intention to be friends, become interested in each other as you get to know one another, and are genuine about your escalated intentions when you get attracted. Becoming friends with someone with the hidden agenda of dating them is a surefire way to get ghosted because it communicates very low self esteem and in several ways is disrespectful to the other person. Nerves or not, everyone deserves the decency of the truth.
@@michaelpatterson7062 In my opinion, this is a situation where direct communication is the way to go. If you tell her that, she keeps your relationship open, and you still want more than that, you have to let go of your feelings and move on. It takes two committed people to make up a successful relationship and one cannot pick up the other's slack. It's painful to let go of unrequited love for sure, but much healthier for you to not be reminded of it every single day than it is for you to stick around when you aren't getting what you want.
I reunited with a friend that i haven’t seen it 20 years back in August, i began thinking of her as more than a friend but with all my bad luck, i came to my senses and stopped before things got worse
It's honestly great to see other brothers talk about their experiences with this. It's so common and painful, but it's also no one's fault at the same time. The only time it becomes someone's fault is when you keep hoping in vain that something will happen, even though there's a 99% chance nothing ever will.
You are very articulate and honest, I am so happy that you got through your struggles and that your here today, helping others that are in similar circumstances to the ones you were in(during your hardships). Props to you!
I was in this situation and actually followed your advice before I even watched this video about the same time you dropped it, glad I did the right thing
I have spilled feelings, been shot down, told them that I can’t be “just a friend” and cut ties. Just to have them reach back out to me months later and try to force me into the friend box. That trying to force somebody that you know has feelings for you to be your friend is what I refer to as the friend zone these days. Keep up the great work man, I think your the most honest channel about this stuff, and you don’t tell us to be somebody that we aren’t, nor tell us that we are wrong because we aren’t blaming ourselves for everything (looking at you, dr nerdlove)
I've been watching your videos for a while now and I've really learned a lot. You offer solid advice for a previous single guy. Your points are valid and better than most of these CZcams dating experts
Want to get out of the friend zone? Stop simping on her and making her the priority in your life. Focus on yourself, your life goals and your own self improvement. As Lloyd said, it is a losing battle and absolute torture (to yourself) to stick around her waiting for her to finally 'come round' and see your value. Your value will come out only when you become confident in yourself (by working on yourself) and eliminate the need for validation by others including this girl. And don't believe what you see in the movies, that's a load of nonsense. I've been there a few times as well but the last time was the final straw and when I got friend zoned and rejected upon telling her how I felt. It sucked but I later turned the tables on her when I decided to stop calling, texting, wasting time on her and instead prioritising myself, thus eliminating her from my life. She came running right back to me but by that time, I just didn't want to know.
He’s right i’ve took a lot from this video and his other videos thank you for helping me i’ve been in love with this woman and we’ve been on and off for the past year and a half and I spent eight months trying to win her back but she doesn’t feel the same way about me anymore so i need to just put my self first and get out of this situation as she spends half the time ignoring my messages and ignoring what I’m saying not even hearing me out yes I made mistakes but it doesn’t make me a bad person i’m going to stop showing her that I’ve changed because that’s not the right way to do it I don’t think she’ll ever come back round if she does great but I’m not waiting around forever I’m going to get myself back out there and find someone that wants to be with me and the next time I find true love I’m not gonna mess up and I will be keep watching your videos because they do help so I think I’m on the road to recovery thank you again why is love so complicated but she’s not with my time she’s not worth my energy I deserve better than this I know I do
Just wow !!!! This is what I realised and implemented in my life and you made a video on this 💎 such a gem .. u have a brain loyd , keep going , the best Channel
A genuine friendship between a man and a woman rarely exists. 9/10 the man wants to sleep with her so sticks around wasting his time until he realizes he isn't getting any, then the 'friendship' ends. Occasionally the woman wants to be his girlfriend so runs around doing a load of stuff for him thinking it will win him over until she realizes he just wants to F younger, prettier women.
Ya great advice Out of all the times I’ve been in the friend zone with a girl. I think it only worked out for me twice where I stuck around and hooked up with them. But those were rare occasions. I agree. Put that energy elsewhere You’re standing on the pitchers mound. While she’s not even in the ball park. Life’s too short to spend time trying to win a losing battle.
My social skills are horrible and it's even worse when it comes to girls, but now I'm really surprised at myself because I spent last week just overthinking my friendzone situation and came up with the idea that I might just quit. I wasn't really confident about it thou but now that I see someone advising the same thing I'm confident it is the right thing to do. Sometimes you just have to face the reality.
This is definitely one of the things I wish I had learned when I was younger. Spent too long pining for a girl than I should have. Took way longer to overcome the situation than I should have - I'm talking years of trying to balance the friendship and suppressing the feeling. Eventually this feeling died out, and I still keep her friendship to some degree - not as close as it used to be. But things could have had gone another way had I not let myself fall deep into that hole. Men need to learn to not fall into the trap of young love.
At the 5:10 mark Your advice was perfect!!! ~~ If you have a Burning desire to be with someone & you think being a friend is better than being nothing , YOU'RE WRONG!!! Being nothing is Better than that because now you have the option of meeting someone else who is going to desire you. " Best advice I've ever heard, Thankyou, Mr. Loyd .
why being friend with her stopping you from meeting someone else? you could easily meet someone while being friend with her. But you need to have a little emotional distance with her.
Honestly, dont bother telling your feelings to her. You would have moved past being friends if she gave the signals. Ghost her, and let her ask why, and put it simply: if our feelings arent mutual, this isnt continuing a second longer.
I can relate to this video I’ve been friends & been inseparable since will started talking to each other & that I absolutely adore she says there is no romantic Link on her side. So i walked away It was like a major break up my heart was so broken it took months to get over her.
about a year ago I walked away from what I will call a “friendzone” situation. One of the things I told her was I apologized to her for ever letting her believe that I was ok with being just her friend. It was a hard moment of my life but ultimately a weight came off my shoulders tremendously. Some bitterness and hurt is there but im working on that and will eventually get past it. I think what alot of dudes don’t realize or maybe they don’t want to realize like myself is the way out of the “friendzone” is to walk away. Like you said I was torturing myself.
Thank you i really need this to open my mind,, im this situation and its good to be nothing than hurt every day that maybe she will have feelings for me.
She texts me, but I stopped initiating texts. 2 weeks later she still text me, but no deep conversations. I'm not investing too much in what is probably not likely, but maybe I shall close that door forever?
He is right on following a man or a man to lead them I get so overwhelm if i had to do that. That is very unattractive in a man when he does not have a plan in life
These girls are the worst too. When you pull yourself out of the situation you realize how toxic they are. It might take a couple of years but you’ll see how bad she would have been if things miraculously worked out the way you hoped. It’s weird but people crush on those that would absolutely be the worst for them. Always remember, if you have to insert yourself into her life, it’s not going to work. She’s looking for the guy that she can follow and get out of her shitty life.
If she was your friend you could tell her you liked her and if she didn't feel the same she would try to comfort you and that freindship should be just as strong
Move. The last time I fell in love but was trapped in the friendzone I made sure we do not live on the same continent. It took me only 3 years to get over her. Unfortunately, I didn't find another woman to date, so I still keep her at a distance.
Don't fall into the friendzone trap. All they want is to use you for resources and attention. Don't waste your time. Focus on bettering yourself and getting in shape
My best advice is to go out with another woman. When she see's you having fun with another woman that's when she will actually be interested and come around. That's how I have come out of the friend zone in the past. Honestly don't wait for that to happen. Just have fun dating other women and if she has any feelings she will come around
I’m be honest 2 years ago I had a crush on my close friend and I had to decide to tell her or keep friends and I decided to keep being friends and got over it and we got closer it’s tough but decide
Guys, if you ever get put in the friend zone tell her that you don’t want to be friends and move on. There are 4 billion women in this world, stop putting these girls on pedestals
why is it that women have a hard time verbalising relationship stuff? example: a woman will say something like 'it just happened' meanwhile the guy they got with is like :stage 1, stage 2, say a joke, stage 3 touch her arm, stage 4 make a move.
My guess is because guys are more logical, they like to break things up and organise them. Women tend to just go with feelings Plus women don't really need to put effort in early on
Usually it is not the woman's job to initiate the relationship. That's the guy. However when it comes to maintaining a relationship. Listen to all the theories they have
Because women have a harder time with being intentional and taking accountability for their actions. Most women act on how they feel versus most men act on how they think. Women don't want to logically justify your relationship, they just want to feel attracted. They don't talk about it because 1) they want you to have high enough emotional intelligence to figure it out yourself and 2) being honest about how you genuinely feel about someone is scary. Most people are not attracted to the majority of people they interact with, but women never want to verbalize this because they never want to be the bad person. They'd much rather blame their lack of attraction on you or something you did than admit to you they just weren't feeling it because that would require accountability.
@@TheSingleGuy Good point, it is interesting the verbiage they use to describe the courtship and how vague and innocent it can be, like sometimes you watch an interaction between a man and the woman and you can tell the man is putting on moves-meanwhile the woman would say 'we were just talking :) x'
I think it depends on you and that girl. If you have a lot in common & you view life logically to think I've gta try romantically with other girls but shes worth keeping as a friend and you can really do that, then do it. But if your too emotional and are going to wish to keep trying to get with her, then you must walk away. Best option all around. But she's not gna go out with that guy
This is essentially the experience I had. However, there was one evening when she gave me clear signals of interest, and like an ass I thought “she’s turned me down before, I’m not gonna go for it straight away, I’ll wait till next time”. And so I waited, and circumstances got in the way, and there wasn’t a next time, and she told me a while later by phone that she wants to be friends. And I’ve stayed in touch by text, of course hoping that something will change, but it hasn’t, and probably never will. So I need to cut her off, but it’s really hard. We became very close, and it really felt like there could have been something amazing between us.
Thinking maybe this makes more sense: some men aren’t used to the fact that women think they are top tier….they get friendzoned. Those that realize what women are thinking will not be friendzoned.
This is so true, about a year and four months ago I had a girl at work flirt hard with me so finally I manned up and said I like her too she then told me I like you but it can’t be more because of her ex boyfriend, I stuck around in hopes the mindset flips and at times it did but I kinda lingered around for like six months trying to get her to commit and it was miserable. After that, I met a girl who was in a relationship and before I knew that I told her I liked her so I stuck around as her friend for like 7 months, they broke up and I broke it to her again, she then said she needs time, I finally realized the mistake I kept making and it was latching into hope, fuck that, stand up for yourself, hold your value, if they wanna tag along then they will hit you back up. I pretty much told her listen even though you say you like me but you need time I told her I’ve waited for 7 months now I’m going to put that energy into someone who wants me now. She’s super upset and blocked me but it’ll go one of two ways. 1. I find a chick that’s ready or 2. She realizes she fucked up and is losing someone of huge value. Don’t wait around for their bullshit boys it really is fucking miserable snap that shit off right when you notice the friendzone
Wish i found this video sooner i asked this girl out in my school as we used to hang out alot and she said no lets just be friends i went along with just being friends then 2 months later we stopped speaking to each other
Few months back ..somehow I ended in the friendzone ... numerous girls had crush on me and would here and there talk to me and try to start conversation with me and I would ofc avoid(Not reject) in a nice indirect way.... Oneday i tried getting out of friendzone by just confessing directly and as you have guessed... went horribly wrong... for days I was confused, sad and depressed ... I tried couple of more times but to no avail..... That is when I said Enough .... I completely stopped my things with her and treated her like just a friend not even a good friend just a friend.... I started to talking to literally all the girls that I used to dodge.... she realised all these girls who like, always flirting with me and writing their numbers for me.... I would purposely make sure she knows about all these girls and how crazy they are to me.... I tell you boys ... the impossible has happened ... at first she started acting all depressed and angry at me for no reason... the old simp me would have ran to her and asked her what to do for her.... I gave zero shit and didn't care... I didn't even try to talk to her even ..... then after she realised that I truly moved on( which in reality I did) she came back slowly... she started speaking to me slowly slowly.... after she started showing hints and then she dropped hints.... I immediately rejected clearly.... and made sure for her to see all the girls I have now ..... Revenge is sweet and I still do it ... she is just depressed now and Idc Moral of the story- Make Girls jealous My experience- Girls for some reason will eventually like the guy most girls like
A girl I liked but didn't felt the same for me, so I removed her number and blocked her. I haven't looked back or talked to her in over a year. She was the one that asked for my number.
Manipulative women don't reject you though, they tell you ''not right now'' or something similar and string you along to make you think you have a chance, while they sleep with someone else.
Does this advice only apply if you have feelings or does it also apply if you are (platonicly) friendzoned and want to be friends with benefits? Does it make any difference if the girl in question is in your friendship group?
I agree with that..."Step away from the thing causing you pain". Wow powerful. Great lesson.
Yes. That's it.
Even if your ain’t attracted to her it would come a point where you would wanna fuck her !! It’s nature so go no contact
when you are in the friendzone, act like a man instead of a boy. be direct with your intentions, if she doesn't want to link up with you move on, simple. dont complicate things. you can also go ghost on her, and work on your purpose, post thirst traps on social media, and yourself with other girls, and she will bounce right back, viewing you as a high value man. try for yourselves.
What if I deleted my social media due to heartbreak and low self esteem? Most likely she’ll forget me faster? Cause it’s been 4 months already without any social media. I honestly already feel forgotten for good 💔
Don’t expect her to come back. If she’s back it’s okay but don’t expect. Move on dude. Love yourself first.
@@kolamenh8659 I've never felt so worthless 😞
@@final58fant58 Don't try to manipulate her back into your life by posting on social media and indirectly trying to get her attention. You need to ACTUALLY move on and stop thinking about her.
@@PentaKillMedia I deleted my IG a day after she blocked me so there’s no way for me to post on social media and if i did im pretty sure she would never check on me im dead to her and fucked up by messaging her recently that i miss her and love her. I just need to stop thinking about her and i already left her alone and stopped stalking her because it would just make it worst to forget her. But somehow i still have her face ingrained into my mind and dream of her alot it’s so annoying 😑
This guy speaks the truth. Staying in the friendzone is nothing but false hope and a world of hurt. You have to make the logical decision by ghosting her and focusing on YOUR goals.
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no, you dont have to ghost her, thats not right at all, if someone means something a lot to you, you shouldn't ghost them, keep them in your life, but remember where you stand and you can find someone else to be with whilst keeping her as a good friend
Don't ghost them! Tell them you're done and cut them out of your life! Otherwise, you'll be a total loser and never get a meaningful relationship with that person or any other person. Cut that person out!
@@mortalkomment8028 don't listen to that advice, if someone is special to you even as a friend, then you dont need to cut them out of your life, you will not be total loser for keeping that person in your life whilst respecting your boundaries, and you can still get into a meaningful relationship with someone else too
What's worse than friendzones is keep attracting women available for you that you don't like
Learn when to walk away from a relationship for your own good
I just stopped talking to a girl I really liked and it was the best feeling. Now that it’s over I feel way less emotionally drained.
Wish I could say the same.. I again feel I lost a opportunity something special it still hurts and it's going a month now.. We had so much fun yet she needed time she said. Then two weeks later hooked up with someone else.. But trying to focus on my purpose but proving difficult..
Focus on career and net worth. Cut all non-essentials. Invest in yourself. Learn the personal financial system. Determine one*s goal and go for that and only that. Every day you don*t increase your net worth, and free yourself from the Man, is a wasted day. When the hourglass is empty, it is EMPTY. Rent, never buy.
It's a shitty feeling...going through it now. I left the door open...but walked 2 months ago
Couple things to remember here:
1. You never have to apologize for being intentional and anyone who makes you is bad news for you.
2. It's hard to let go of something that isn't working out, but much better for your mental health when you finally do.
3. You think you can't live without the person who doesn't want you, but you will realize how wrong you are when you do live with the person who does want you.
#3 is hard as it's not an experience most have had or even have had examples of. Dysfunctional relationships are getting so normalized within the past 20 years or so that people settle for toxic situations because they think it's the best they can do for themselves. When you actually find something that is legitimately healthy for you, you'll forget all about how attached you were to any previous toxic individuals.
You may get your feelings hurt, and some might even struggle to let go. But the important thing to remember is that life is short and you shouldn’t really waste your time on people who don’t feel the same. Take good care of yourself, dream big and achieve your goals. Don’t change yourself for other people, be yourself at all times, and I’m sure you will find love one day. Who ever is reading this, i hope you have a happy and successful life💫🙌
"Life is short" it really gets me, thanks for this powerful message and i'll remembering it always 🙏
@@yogad7814 yeah
Usually when you develop feelings and fall in love with a friend is just because you don't have options, you go 100% on this person because you have that person there and you don't have to exert any effort to meet new people, so you start to think that that person is the right one for you, but it's false, it's just a flaw of the mind, the world is full of right people for you if you are willing to meet them
Wella, ciao 🖐️ long time no see. A sto giro sono proprio d'accordo con te haha😂 sempre parlare con almeno 10 donne tutte assieme, non si sa mai in che modo ognuna di loro può deluderti, quindi options options options!!
@@freddylimpster7137 ahahahahahahah e sono cambiate tante cose, ho una vita completamente nuova e stravolta, comunque si, in genere questa cosa accade anche perchè, come dice Lloyd all'inizio del video, si suppone che l'autore della domanda sia molto giovane e perchè ripeto, sostanzialmente non hai opzioni e passi il 100% del tempo solo con quella persona e finisci o per prenderti una sbandata/cotta perchè non vedi e senti altro che quella persona o ad autoconvincerti che quella sia la persona giusta per te, ma basta vedere e/o sentire anche solo due ragazze in piú e ti accorgi che frequentare una sola persona ti fa finire in quella cosa che gli americani chiamano one-itis, altro che sentimenti e amore, prendi semplicemente una fissa perchè è l'unica persona con la quale trascorri il tempo.
P.S. Aggiungo che anche focalizzarsi su stessi, che so il proprio lavoro, i propri studi, una passione, uno sport, ti aiuta ad evitare queste fisse e a capovolgere la situazione, in quanto se una ragazza vede che tu sei cosí tanto focalizzato sulle tue cose e a migliorare te stesso finisce lei per prendersi la fissa per te
Sorry but I get pissed everytime people say... oh don't worry, you will find the perfect partner...that girl was not the right one for you...this world has 7 billion or so people so yeah right there's always someone out there who will give you the love that you desire... but guess what not everyone is super rich to travel the world and find their soulmate and even then... human beings have limited time at their hands ... probably 10 years or even less... since men generally start finding their life partner at age 25 till 35 .... if they can't find the right partner... then it's over
LOVE IN MY BOOK IS ALL ABOUT LUCK ... NOT DESTINY
So goodluck convincing me that there exists a perfect life partner for me. I am 35 already and single... was cheated on by a stupid low class girl who slept around with 20 other men.
@@TheSelfAwareIndianEmpath it's not about money, I'm really poor XD, it's not about travelling, it's not about luck, it's not about destiny, dating game it's all about your skills as everything in life. If you want to get promoted at your job you need a certain level of skills that you improve over time, if you want to success at school you need a certain level of skills, if you want to success in sports also here you need a certain level of skills, and you have to be patient to develop skills you need in a certain field if you really want to be successful, you will go through a lot of setbacks, but if you want something life is in this way. In my opinion and in my experience the greatest skill that works with every woman is pull and push technique, all women surrend to this technique also the most beautiful ones, it's not about that shitty stories you will meet your soulmate or the partner of your life, these are just bullshit, all women work in the same way, someone with a little bit of difference, but the way to make them fall in love with you is always the same, i.e. putting thoughts and doubts inside their mind, and the most powerful and safest way to do it is by showing and not showing interest, pull and push technique, hot and cold, sometimes you care about them, sometimes you do as if they don't even exist, believe me this works with every woman
Speaking facts
I couldn’t agree more that keeping a girl you’re romantically interested in as a close friend is worse than no relationship at all. I had a female friend who I was into who started dating a mutual friend. As much as I wanted to be happy for them and stay friends with her, having to see them together all the time just sucked. Eventually, they both distanced themselves from our larger group, so the situation worked itself out in the end.
You put yourself in the friend zone. It's communicating feelings and intentions. Not playing social manipulation games, etc. If they don't see you that type of way, then distance yourself from them. If need be, tell them you can't be friends with them if they don't see you the same way and move on.
The best way to not get friend zoned is to not start it It the first place.
It's either all or nothing. Being friends with a woman you love will only cause extra heartache and pain.
You know what, that’s scarcity mindset. If you truly feel that for someone then you need to let them know or make a move even if it dissipates or makes the friendship awkward.
By the way I am not knocking having female friends if the friendship starts from the right place. You can turn female friends into relationships or sexual partners. I do this all the time. For me the friendzone doesn't exist. But in this example he started and continues as a friend because that is all he is ever going to get.
So what do you suggest to turn female friend into relationships partner ? Thanks
@TheSingleGuy What about if you are having sex with her and are more than just FWB (talk and text everyday) but it's more like an unofficial open relationship (both seeing other people), yet she doesn't want a relationship and maybe you do, and you love her and she doesn't feel as strong. Tips appreciated!
@@felbaud It only works if you started as friends with the genuine intention to be friends, become interested in each other as you get to know one another, and are genuine about your escalated intentions when you get attracted. Becoming friends with someone with the hidden agenda of dating them is a surefire way to get ghosted because it communicates very low self esteem and in several ways is disrespectful to the other person. Nerves or not, everyone deserves the decency of the truth.
@@michaelpatterson7062 In my opinion, this is a situation where direct communication is the way to go. If you tell her that, she keeps your relationship open, and you still want more than that, you have to let go of your feelings and move on. It takes two committed people to make up a successful relationship and one cannot pick up the other's slack. It's painful to let go of unrequited love for sure, but much healthier for you to not be reminded of it every single day than it is for you to stick around when you aren't getting what you want.
So do you delete her? Like what do you do
Never ever have a woman as a "Best Friend" period! Not Today!
Had to listen to this 10 times to really face my reality thank you bro i really needed to hear the truth
Glad it could help man. Don't worry. Every guy goes through this
This man should've won a Nobel Prize 👏🏼
It's simple keep your mouth shut, and step away because she's holding you back from seeing other opportunities around you.
I reunited with a friend that i haven’t seen it 20 years back in August, i began thinking of her as more than a friend but with all my bad luck, i came to my senses and stopped before things got worse
Love it how he says "i'm not the single guy"!! Definitely his new girlfriend telling him to say that !!
It's honestly great to see other brothers talk about their experiences with this. It's so common and painful, but it's also no one's fault at the same time. The only time it becomes someone's fault is when you keep hoping in vain that something will happen, even though there's a 99% chance nothing ever will.
You are very articulate and honest, I am so happy that you got through your struggles and that your here today, helping others that are in similar circumstances to the ones you were in(during your hardships). Props to you!
Thank god for Lloyd. Nothing but the honest to god truth everytime
I really appreciate that you actually gave advice on how to potentially make it happen, not just saying to give up and find someone else.
Can’t stop watching this video absolutely spot-on
I was in this situation and actually followed your advice before I even watched this video about the same time you dropped it, glad I did the right thing
Loyed out here saving lives 🙏🏽
I have spilled feelings, been shot down, told them that I can’t be “just a friend” and cut ties. Just to have them reach back out to me months later and try to force me into the friend box. That trying to force somebody that you know has feelings for you to be your friend is what I refer to as the friend zone these days.
Keep up the great work man, I think your the most honest channel about this stuff, and you don’t tell us to be somebody that we aren’t, nor tell us that we are wrong because we aren’t blaming ourselves for everything (looking at you, dr nerdlove)
I've been watching your videos for a while now and I've really learned a lot. You offer solid advice for a previous single guy. Your points are valid and better than most of these CZcams dating experts
The stock analogy really hit me hard 🔥
Want to get out of the friend zone? Stop simping on her and making her the priority in your life. Focus on yourself, your life goals and your own self improvement. As Lloyd said, it is a losing battle and absolute torture (to yourself) to stick around her waiting for her to finally 'come round' and see your value.
Your value will come out only when you become confident in yourself (by working on yourself) and eliminate the need for validation by others including this girl. And don't believe what you see in the movies, that's a load of nonsense.
I've been there a few times as well but the last time was the final straw and when I got friend zoned and rejected upon telling her how I felt. It sucked but I later turned the tables on her when I decided to stop calling, texting, wasting time on her and instead prioritising myself, thus eliminating her from my life.
She came running right back to me but by that time, I just didn't want to know.
tHIS WAS VERY WELL NEEDED THANK YOU
Staying friends is like a lap dance. You never going to get what you want
Thank you for this video
He’s right i’ve took a lot from this video and his other videos thank you for helping me i’ve been in love with this woman and we’ve been on and off for the past year and a half and I spent eight months trying to win her back but she doesn’t feel the same way about me anymore so i need to just put my self first and get out of this situation as she spends half the time ignoring my messages and ignoring what I’m saying not even hearing me out yes I made mistakes but it doesn’t make me a bad person i’m going to stop showing her that I’ve changed because that’s not the right way to do it I don’t think she’ll ever come back round if she does great but I’m not waiting around forever I’m going to get myself back out there and find someone that wants to be with me and the next time I find true love I’m not gonna mess up and I will be keep watching your videos because they do help so I think I’m on the road to recovery thank you again why is love so complicated but she’s not with my time she’s not worth my energy I deserve better than this I know I do
Just wow !!!! This is what I realised and implemented in my life and you made a video on this 💎 such a gem .. u have a brain loyd , keep going , the best Channel
You have to choose… To risk or not to risk… If you want to risk, say your piece… if she doesn’t reciprocate move on. Walk away.
If a woman friend zone you, cut off all communication with that woman. I don’t come in second place for anybody.
Of all the friendzoned videos I like this one the most! No bullshit straight to the point
Just move on
I totally agree with his opinion because there are plenty of fishes in the sea…
A genuine friendship between a man and a woman rarely exists. 9/10 the man wants to sleep with her so sticks around wasting his time until he realizes he isn't getting any, then the 'friendship' ends. Occasionally the woman wants to be his girlfriend so runs around doing a load of stuff for him thinking it will win him over until she realizes he just wants to F younger, prettier women.
Ya great advice
Out of all the times I’ve been in the friend zone with a girl. I think it only worked out for me twice where I stuck around and hooked up with them. But those were rare occasions.
I agree. Put that energy elsewhere
You’re standing on the pitchers mound. While she’s not even in the ball park.
Life’s too short to spend time trying to win a losing battle.
My social skills are horrible and it's even worse when it comes to girls, but now I'm really surprised at myself because I spent last week just overthinking my friendzone situation and came up with the idea that I might just quit. I wasn't really confident about it thou but now that I see someone advising the same thing I'm confident it is the right thing to do. Sometimes you just have to face the reality.
This is definitely one of the things I wish I had learned when I was younger. Spent too long pining for a girl than I should have. Took way longer to overcome the situation than I should have - I'm talking years of trying to balance the friendship and suppressing the feeling. Eventually this feeling died out, and I still keep her friendship to some degree - not as close as it used to be. But things could have had gone another way had I not let myself fall deep into that hole. Men need to learn to not fall into the trap of young love.
Nicely said. I think step 1 is being willing to walk away.
Don’t settle for a friendship
Personally I don't ghost or never talk to them again but I just move on and date other girls.
Its less brutal, and more civilised. If someone has been ok, there's no need to be rude, I agree.
Holding on is always more painful than letting go.
At the 5:10 mark Your advice was perfect!!! ~~ If you have a Burning desire to be with someone & you think being a friend is better than being nothing , YOU'RE WRONG!!! Being nothing is Better than that because now you have the option of meeting someone else who is going to desire you. " Best advice I've ever heard, Thankyou, Mr. Loyd .
why being friend with her stopping you from meeting someone else? you could easily meet someone while being friend with her. But you need to have a little emotional distance with her.
Honestly, dont bother telling your feelings to her. You would have moved past being friends if she gave the signals. Ghost her, and let her ask why, and put it simply: if our feelings arent mutual, this isnt continuing a second longer.
bad, ghosting is bad full stop, dont take the ghosting advice people
I did that shit, she tried calling me everyday for a week but never picked up
I agree, this definitely applies to staying friends with an ex that you had strong feelings for.
I can relate to this video I’ve been friends & been inseparable since will started talking to each other & that I absolutely adore she says there is no romantic Link on her side. So i walked away It was like a major break up my heart was so broken it took months to get over her.
about a year ago I walked away from what I will call a “friendzone” situation. One of the things I told her was I apologized to her for ever letting her believe that I was ok with being just her friend. It was a hard moment of my life but ultimately a weight came off my shoulders tremendously. Some bitterness and hurt is there but im working on that and will eventually get past it. I think what alot of dudes don’t realize or maybe they don’t want to realize like myself is the way out of the “friendzone” is to walk away. Like you said I was torturing myself.
Well said
Thank you i really need this to open my mind,, im this situation and its good to be nothing than hurt every day that maybe she will have feelings for me.
I get friend zoned every fucking time I like a girl
Couldn’t help but laugh at the thumbnail
“She never was your friend”
I’m here like “Shitttt that’s not my friend ? Ok!”
Real wisdom
Great video as always !!!!
She texts me, but I stopped initiating texts. 2 weeks later she still text me, but no deep conversations. I'm not investing too much in what is probably not likely, but maybe I shall close that door forever?
He is right on following a man or a man to lead them
I get so overwhelm if i had to do that. That is very unattractive in a man when he does not have a plan in life
It's hard to say no to that though cuz those can be very strong connections
Song at the end? Great content per usual! Thanks!
Damn great advice..
These girls are the worst too. When you pull yourself out of the situation you realize how toxic they are. It might take a couple of years but you’ll see how bad she would have been if things miraculously worked out the way you hoped. It’s weird but people crush on those that would absolutely be the worst for them.
Always remember, if you have to insert yourself into her life, it’s not going to work. She’s looking for the guy that she can follow and get out of her shitty life.
If she was your friend you could tell her you liked her and if she didn't feel the same she would try to comfort you and that freindship should be just as strong
Friendzone means you are only there for HER benefit ....not yours
Move. The last time I fell in love but was trapped in the friendzone I made sure we do not live on the same continent. It took me only 3 years to get over her. Unfortunately, I didn't find another woman to date, so I still keep her at a distance.
Lol you kidding right
Don't fall into the friendzone trap. All they want is to use you for resources and attention. Don't waste your time. Focus on bettering yourself and getting in shape
On Point
My best advice is to go out with another woman. When she see's you having fun with another woman that's when she will actually be interested and come around. That's how I have come out of the friend zone in the past. Honestly don't wait for that to happen. Just have fun dating other women and if she has any feelings she will come around
A woman doesn't put you in the friendzone: YOU put you in the friendzone.
I’m be honest 2 years ago I had a crush on my close friend and I had to decide to tell her or keep friends and I decided to keep being friends and got over it and we got closer it’s tough but decide
Guys, if you ever get put in the friend zone tell her that you don’t want to be friends and move on. There are 4 billion women in this world, stop putting these girls on pedestals
why is it that women have a hard time verbalising relationship stuff? example: a woman will say something like 'it just happened' meanwhile the guy they got with is like :stage 1, stage 2, say a joke, stage 3 touch her arm, stage 4 make a move.
My guess is because guys are more logical, they like to break things up and organise them.
Women tend to just go with feelings
Plus women don't really need to put effort in early on
Usually it is not the woman's job to initiate the relationship. That's the guy. However when it comes to maintaining a relationship. Listen to all the theories they have
Because women have a harder time with being intentional and taking accountability for their actions. Most women act on how they feel versus most men act on how they think. Women don't want to logically justify your relationship, they just want to feel attracted. They don't talk about it because 1) they want you to have high enough emotional intelligence to figure it out yourself and 2) being honest about how you genuinely feel about someone is scary. Most people are not attracted to the majority of people they interact with, but women never want to verbalize this because they never want to be the bad person. They'd much rather blame their lack of attraction on you or something you did than admit to you they just weren't feeling it because that would require accountability.
@@TheSingleGuy Good point, it is interesting the verbiage they use to describe the courtship and how vague and innocent it can be, like sometimes you watch an interaction between a man and the woman and you can tell the man is putting on moves-meanwhile the woman would say 'we were just talking :) x'
You definitely should express yourself as soon as you feel that way You don't want to lie to her about how you feel either..
I think it depends on you and that girl. If you have a lot in common & you view life logically to think I've gta try romantically with other girls but shes worth keeping as a friend and you can really do that, then do it.
But if your too emotional and are going to wish to keep trying to get with her, then you must walk away. Best option all around. But she's not gna go out with that guy
This is essentially the experience I had.
However, there was one evening when she gave me clear signals of interest, and like an ass I thought “she’s turned me down before, I’m not gonna go for it straight away, I’ll wait till next time”. And so I waited, and circumstances got in the way, and there wasn’t a next time, and she told me a while later by phone that she wants to be friends. And I’ve stayed in touch by text, of course hoping that something will change, but it hasn’t, and probably never will.
So I need to cut her off, but it’s really hard. We became very close, and it really felt like there could have been something amazing between us.
Embrace pain
This dude looks like prince
I’ve never been in that situation and I’m 27
Thinking maybe this makes more sense: some men aren’t used to the fact that women think they are top tier….they get friendzoned. Those that realize what women are thinking will not be friendzoned.
This is so true, about a year and four months ago I had a girl at work flirt hard with me so finally I manned up and said I like her too she then told me I like you but it can’t be more because of her ex boyfriend, I stuck around in hopes the mindset flips and at times it did but I kinda lingered around for like six months trying to get her to commit and it was miserable. After that, I met a girl who was in a relationship and before I knew that I told her I liked her so I stuck around as her friend for like 7 months, they broke up and I broke it to her again, she then said she needs time, I finally realized the mistake I kept making and it was latching into hope, fuck that, stand up for yourself, hold your value, if they wanna tag along then they will hit you back up. I pretty much told her listen even though you say you like me but you need time I told her I’ve waited for 7 months now I’m going to put that energy into someone who wants me now. She’s super upset and blocked me but it’ll go one of two ways. 1. I find a chick that’s ready or 2. She realizes she fucked up and is losing someone of huge value. Don’t wait around for their bullshit boys it really is fucking miserable snap that shit off right when you notice the friendzone
They are only stunting there own growth of finding happiness. By just being that friend hanging around waiting
If y'all ain't kiss or more keep it moving
Wish i found this video sooner i asked this girl out in my school as we used to hang out alot and she said no lets just be friends i went along with just being friends then 2 months later we stopped speaking to each other
Thanks million diamond times real life your breath
You gotta be willing to flip the chessboard in the air. If you want more, ALWAYS deny being just friends
How tf do u have an answer for everything??Thanks for the help tho it rly made me realise that i am dumb and i should focus on me
GREAT advice, dont waste time, men. You are only on the planet a short time and women are not the romantics that the dumb movies show
Few months back ..somehow I ended in the friendzone ... numerous girls had crush on me and would here and there talk to me and try to start conversation with me and I would ofc avoid(Not reject) in a nice indirect way.... Oneday i tried getting out of friendzone by just confessing directly and as you have guessed... went horribly wrong... for days I was confused, sad and depressed ... I tried couple of more times but to no avail..... That is when I said Enough .... I completely stopped my things with her and treated her like just a friend not even a good friend just a friend.... I started to talking to literally all the girls that I used to dodge.... she realised all these girls who like, always flirting with me and writing their numbers for me.... I would purposely make sure she knows about all these girls and how crazy they are to me.... I tell you boys ... the impossible has happened ... at first she started acting all depressed and angry at me for no reason... the old simp me would have ran to her and asked her what to do for her.... I gave zero shit and didn't care... I didn't even try to talk to her even ..... then after she realised that I truly moved on( which in reality I did) she came back slowly... she started speaking to me slowly slowly.... after she started showing hints and then she dropped hints.... I immediately rejected clearly.... and made sure for her to see all the girls I have now ..... Revenge is sweet and I still do it ... she is just depressed now and Idc
Moral of the story- Make Girls jealous
My experience- Girls for some reason will eventually like the guy most girls like
Hi , could you make a video on being led on then rejected
A girl I liked but didn't felt the same for me, so I removed her number and blocked her. I haven't looked back or talked to her in over a year. She was the one that asked for my number.
I don't like that the girl gets mad at you for liking her
Man those Eye Brows
if you ask a girl out your not going to have a friend ship either way shes going to date you or reject you and then youll walk away
Manipulative women don't reject you though, they tell you ''not right now'' or something similar and string you along to make you think you have a chance, while they sleep with someone else.
When you get put in the friend zone, go ghost. IMHO a girl telling you she wants to just be friends is very disrespectful
Does this advice only apply if you have feelings or does it also apply if you are (platonicly) friendzoned and want to be friends with benefits? Does it make any difference if the girl in question is in your friendship group?
Pain
For me I’d pass on a friend zone I’d rather invest in someone else. Guy friend is different talk about sports, women, life,etc.
the bright side to being in the friend zone is other women desire you because your attention isn't on them