Also 7:29 , hit some high pull slams with the weight sand bag, or squat to high pull with dumbbells, but don't slam the metal. Round is not a good look for you.
1. How you made us feel. 1a. Your vibe, energy, presence (Desperate for sex, or not?) 1b. Do you make me feel safe? 2. Eyes, smile (not forced, positivity), scent 3. Posture, head high 4. Sexual-ness 5. Dominance / Power in the space / Self- assurance
Guys: Be yourself, and do what your passionate about. Forget about figuring out women. The best sex of your life will most likely not be with the most beautiful girl of your life.
"its not about what you do, it is about who you are", probably the most solid advice I ever received. No secret formula hidden in a youtube ad. Just be a better person
I've studied "PUA" and mating psychology for about 12 years now. I've had numerous women tell me they've never been so attracted to someone before as they are to me and they don't even know why and can't begin to explain why. Women don't know what they want and will even do the exact opposite of what they say they want. If you really want to know how to attract women, listen to guys who are good at attracting women, not women themselves.
I love the lack of judgement in this video. You told us the things women notice, without saying we should change who we are. And that's great! Cause, even though all women probably notice these things, they don't all want the same things.
@@gn26422458 Helps you minimize the Bias and Prejudice. I try to(as much as possible) to follow Jordan Peterson's rule "Listen to people as if they know something that you don't."
No one asked. She is telling how she feels and thinks. You obviously go find men who are successful but you got to be a fool not to listen to what a women says just because you are a man and men must always be giving you the right information. I have heard some of the dumbest advice growing up by other males.
Thank you Caitlin, some events in life are timely. 3 years ago, I lost my wife, my two brother-in-laws, my mother and my father-in-law in the space of two years. With a son to support and a disastrous attempt to start a new relationship. It’s been a traumatic three years and left me lost and personally destroyed. The timing and content of your video has been life changing. I found this video at a very low point actually rock bottom point in my life. How do I get back to the person I was and maybe a little better person? I decided to use this video to refocus myself to the man I once was. Thank you, you are a sparkling diamond.
Thank you soooo much for your videos. I am new to dating again and at 49 it is not easy. I did meet a single mom. She is 46 and we have gone on several dates. From comedy clubs to miniature golf to a professional basket ball game. This video makes me confident that I am taking all the right steps so she knows I have her best interests in mind and not looking for a "hit and run" night. She is becoming more and more affectionate as we date. I like how this is developing. Thank you.
stop wondering what women want, women pick up on that subservient weakness in 2 seconds. Be on your purpose and they'll reveal themselves to you. seriously
@@OfimaxSedille what does what mean? Soon as you make being a successful bachelor a priority and put in the work to raise your quality of life. The women will will be there. Dont make women a priority in your life and forget about what's really important. Be successful, cuz women just stand at the finish line and fuck whoever comes in first. Your thinking of sex, women are only thinking about security.
@@OfimaxSedille It means that you should never ever do anything that ressembles seeking for her approuval. She should be seeking for your approuval instead.
I’ve been called a ladies man by a lady. Very flattering. I just want happiness and women to feel secure and noticed. That’s what most women want. To feel noticed ❤
Thank you, Caitlin. Great video. Lots of great advice and, as always, such a great presentation, focused on positivity. I am practiced at smiling with my eyes first and that this typically is retuned with a smile before I’ve even opened my mouth. You can maintain your masculine frame and it puts people at ease, which speaks to your point on feeling safe around someone. If I may, let me add that the behaviors you mentioned should be incorporated into your everyday life. You can’t put on this confident persona only when you are headed to a situation where it may be needed, but rather cultivate these behaviors as part of your personal standards, not as affectations. This will increase your confidence by increasing your comfort in how you present. People will be able to pick up on whether or not you are putting on an act - comes off as fake confidence. If you adopt these as personal standards and practice them every day in every way, I suspect you will find you will not likely even need to go somewhere to meet Women, they will let you know they are all around you as you have made yourself visible to them. They may not approach you with any discernible frequency but they will find ways to put themselves where you will notice and hopefully approach them. I think that makes sense. Looking forward to your next.
They're attracted to unavailability. If you asked them why, they would probably tell you it's because they like a challenge, but I suspect the real reason is they're jealous of another woman being happy with someone.
@@incorrba Bingo. All those wankers building those elaborate evolutionary theory to try to justify female's actions... there is no biological reason behind. It's simply ego and happy/exciting feelings. That's all there is to it.
Because a woman get cues from her social circle on who to date. She'll keep her feelings secret until she sees you with another girl. So she know that someone else, other than her, likes you as well.
The amoount of demands/needs , nuances, requests, moods, positioning, vibes........unbelievable. What about you ? What does a woman bring to the table ?!
Terrific video Caitlin, excellent points. Since I've started doing more of these things/being more this way, I've gone from having pretty much no women showing interest in me/showing no signs of attraction, for years, to having them doing so pretty much everywhere I go on a regular basis now. It all started with a commitment to making strong eye contact with everyone I meet/interact with (don't even remember why I did it, and it certainly wasn't because I thought it would make me more attractive to women, but it turned out to be a game-changer in that regard) and then I started to add in other things, like better/stronger posture/body-language, smiling more, dressing better, speaking with a stronger voice, etc and it's made a dramatic difference. Those who are dismissing the advice in this video because it's "come from a woman" are being incredibly foolish. Good advice is good advice, no matter who it's coming from.
My eye game is so on point. Your eyes will burst into flame. My physical presence is intimadating. I'm not small. I'm not quiet. My smile is pretty cool though. Advice from girls just sounds silly.
@David Thomas May not be such a fake ass comment after all. Many people are just so caught up in their daily lives that they cannot be objective about themselves. Human beings have a need to be reminded and jostled about. He may already be a "good" person, but needed to be reminded of a few "techniques" to improve interactions with women. Very few men are natural born pickup artists, as for the rest of the male population it remains a learned skill just like most things in life.
@murphsviews Glad to know you're improving yourself and getting rewarded for it! The best advice I ever read in this regard came from a book titled Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. That was a game changer for me. Realizing that whatever I did, I could not have all the women for myself, and learning that the best thing I could do to improve my chances (and then the quality of my actual relationships) was to improve myself as a person was truly liberating. It's something I was already doing naturally, but to get told it would also bring about one of my greatest desires was exhilarating. And I have to say, it works! Simply being honest and feeling badass about it are the sexiest things ever. I love myself more now and I can see other people around me picking up on it and getting attracted to it. The advice in this video meets a lot of the points made in the book. I think you'll like it.
I would say that if you’re not “smiler” then rather than simply not smiling, you should try to practice at it regularly (not just when you see a pretty woman). A comfortable confident smile seems to be one of the most attractive (or alpha if you like) behaviors that can be exhibited in daily life. That is even aside from the many many other benefits (both physiological/hormonal and psychological) that can come from smiling more and having a more positive mindset.
This is spot on! Sad to see so many men in cognitive dissonance in the comment section due to their HABIT of blaming things they can’t really control as a way to dull the pain of not being able to attract a woman by being an attractive person
Being an "attractive person" i.e., tall good looking and wealthy. Stating the obvious has nothing to do with cognitive dissonance or pain. Speaking of cognitive dissonance, why is it easy for people to point out the shallow things men like but everyone gets all bent out of shape when people point out the things women are shallow about?
for smell: Floss your teeth. there is ALOT of stinky stuff in there. rinse with Plax or mouthwash. eating some lemon helps too. all the way in the stomach. get that breath smelling good.
Drawing a parallel to cologne was really clever. I use a pretty subtle amount because I've always said that "Cologne should be discovered, not announced.". I never really considered that I should project my personality with it, working alongside it. That was a wise way of framing things, thank you.
Let me translate: 1) Peacock to get her attention, this is what she calls a "vibe" 2) Soother her antipickup and antislut defenses 3) Look like Tom Cruise/Brad Pitt, with a gorgeous smile and gorgeous eyes 4) Shower, brush your teeth, clean clothes, breathmint, a good cologne 5) Stand and act like an Alpha male. Masculine, dominant, commanding, leadership, confident, like you are the boss and all must obey you Nothing to it, easy, right?
Well, I'm DONE with this routine. Most women CAN'T understand the underlying PRINCIPLES of a GOOD MAN. I'm not flashy, and won't pretend to be. I don't have to be "dominant", if the woman thinks along the SAME LINES as I DO.
Excellent video, Miss Caitlin. 😘 Interesting that you mentioned sensing desperation in a guy. My friends and I noticed the difference in how women interacted if a guy had a girlfriend or was single. The guy in a relationship always drew more attention even if his partner wasn't there. The guy without a girlfriend was almost avoided, like there was a stench of desperation on him. Is there some mark only visible to women that says "Taken"? Lol Dealing with people is like operating heavy lifting equipment. You have to be aware of where and when you are. Being aware of your surroundings can save you the embarrassment of being seen as a bull in a china shop. The when, you have to be in the here and now, no point in fantasizing until you have her attention. I had a coworker who was telling me about talking with a really hot woman. Knowing that he was probably focused on her chest, I would ask him what color her eyes were. His response was usually a rather sheepish, "I don't know." 🤣 It's far easier to just be myself and enjoy the setting than it is to be stressed about getting to your endgame.
@@stevenduncan7380 I feel it does as this 'validation' screens you as being attractive to women. It also ties into jealousy and 'wanting what you can't have.' if I look at myself as admittedly at times been wanting to be chosen by a girl who already has a boyfriend, it's an ego and insecurity thing aswell.
I recommend all the men go watch Darius m channel, that guy will tell you everything you need to know about how women work and what games they play, and how to get the women you desire.
Good job Caitlyn. Don't let the haters bother you. You are trying to give much needed perspective. That smile and those eyes are crazy attractive and makes it easy to gather the info you are dealing. Not to mention an obviously very intelligent lady. Keep up the good work.
I wonder how much the comment section of the last video influenced or motivated this video. Good timing, there was a lot of people that needed to see something like this.
I like that you mention aspects of Masculinity as being healthy and good and not Toxic... I've had recent discussions about this on social media that didn't go over well with the millennial generation, whom for some reason, feel ANY display of masculinity is Toxic. Even young men nowadays seem emasculated and embarrassed or even shamed for being male and exhibiting those traits. And yet, the truth is.. that I would notice out in public, many men whom were almost overpoweringly masculine (much like too much cologne) with or surrounded by beautiful attractive attentive women who seemed to do their every bidding.. so what women say they hate, despise and dislike about Alpha dominant males..and what they go for, compete for, and choose or settle for.. are almost identical. lol Usually it is hard for me to get through a video like this.. but you have this cute and spunky personable way about you so it made it almost easy. I have plenty of my own theories of why women do what they do... what they are attracted to.. and what turns them off..hehe.. but the point you make about "It's not what you do (or what you have), but who or what you ARE".. just BE- ing that male that they want.. that idea is powerful. I was very introverted and timid in my early 20's back in the day.. so I came up with a plan to "act" as that guy you describe.. "confident, commanding space, attention to detail with style, smell, body language, a genuine smile" and even included some mystical strategy. I wanted to see if this would really work. So to prepare for this transformation.. I would go to dance clubs and stay out of sight and just watch..I noticed whom the dominant males were and studied how they presented themselves, how they walked and talked and danced.. what styles they wore.. how they interacted with the ladies... and after a few months of this I started transforming myself into that image of masculinity.. Then came the real test.. I went to a new club where no one knew me and walked in like I owned the place.. it worked very well..I was surprised ! I did notice that now I was on the dominant male's radar as a direct threat though. But other than that..I found that I could go find a new gf in a day or two if I wanted...but then the problem was, what happens when the facade fell away.. so I had to figure out how to incorporate those traits into myself permanently, so It was really me she was attracted to and not an act or an image. Over the years.. I found that many women were just happy with the image and were not looking for something real, so as long as I could keep that up I could keep the interest going. So, I came to the conclusion that yes, you need to have those traits to attract a woman.. but that you also needed to find the kind of woman who was also looking for more within you, than what was projected or on the surface. I guess many guys wouldn't care about that, they were just looking for short term lovers..but for a solid relationship you need to have that and much more.
Which is the reason why it’s always best to recognize the feeling they are experiencing and end the conversation on that note... It’s like comedy. End the show when they’re laughing... I enjoyed your expression of this.
PROVERB: Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, you ask the fisherman TRANSLATION: Never ask a woman how to get women, you ask the bad boys and jerks. Even if you aren't good looking. Ignore them, give them no attention, learn some game from bad boys, and let them chase you. Men, you are the prize.
Yeah about that smell thing... i had intense experiences with scent dating women, BUT it was not fragrance. I think fragrance is actually bad because it hides your natural scent. It is nice to put on when you're already comfortable with each other, something you positively notice about your other half. But the experiences i talked about earlier were all about body perfume. I remember 2 times when it caused really strong attraction and arousal.
Speaking about confidence in general: I think people are mistaken about something. Attractive men are confident, but they’re not attractive because they’re confident, they’re confident because they’re attractive. Doesn’t have to be physical, but they’re confident because they already know something about themselves, whether it’s their looks or they’re humor, or whatever. So if you’re lacking confidence from the start, you can’t really fake that, and you do it’s not gonna work. Being fake is something women can spot from a mile away. I’d argue fake confidence is worse than lacking confidence.
Ali Hassan the problem with that is that you can get some extremely good dating advice from women (eg. Caitlin, Kezia Nobel, Marni, Sarah RSD, etc) and it's basically the exact same advice you'll hear from the good male dating coaches, so does that mean you shouldn't listen to the guys either, since they're giving the same advice?
The master key to masculinity is [dignity]. Obey the principles of dignity in your thoughts words and actions and you will fortify your psyche and your character with dignified masculinity. Imo, dignity and masculinity are synonymous. Dignity and masculinity are about ownership, accountability, objectivity, balance, reason, efficiency, effectiveness, grounded, stable, present, presence, self-sufficiency, independent, boundaries, law and order, ability to say "no", fortitude, forbearance, resiliency, etc. Thus, dignity and masculinity require one to bring all aspects of ones life into optimal functioning balance. That includes your psychological disposition (your mental & emotional health and the relationship between the two), your financial health, your relationships, your physical health, and your sexual health. When a man takes ownership of his flaws, fears, mistakes, wrongs, emotions and desires, he becomes more centered upon his core masculinity. The more a man takes ownership, and the more his thoughts, words and actions are congruent, and unified, the more dignified power he will embody in his presence. This is bcuz dignity/masculinity is power. The amount of power a man can hold, without utilizing it for his own selfish means, determines the degree of masculinity in which he has mastery over. Masculinity is a power. Tho, its power is not his own. It equally belongs to others. Thus, when cultivating masculinity, a man must strive to overcome the personal temptations that come along with its power. Pride, greed, selfish pleasures, etc. all must be overcome in order to utilize its power efficiently, as is intended. Then, when a man is capable of selflessly handling a given degree of masculinitys power, in a dignified fashion, the more dignity and masculinity he will develop as a result, and the more masculine power will be allotted to him. The more a man takes ownership of his flaws fears, his space, and the more his thoughts words and actions are congruent and unified/dignified... while simultaneously taking ownership of his sexual energy, (being absolutely grounded and present with it)... the more potent his masculine presence will be. And, this is the potent masculine energy that all things yield to. This is the potency of the alpha energy. Imo, this is the potency of God (the alpha of all alphas). This potent masculine energy can elicit attraction from women without a single word being said. Such a man elicits attraction with the sheer potency of his presence, alone. Everything about him is communicated in his presence alone, because his thoughts words and actions are unified and he has taken ownership of his fears, flaws, failures, his sexual nature and his space. All things yield to such a source of dignified power and presence. (All things yeild, both, willingly and involuntarily/automatically). All things yield to the degree in which this dignified masculinity is mastered and perfected. Thus, imo, this is the perfect masculine nature of God. Perfect dignity, which elicits perfect yielding, subjugation and submission from all people, and all things (both willingly and involuntarily... simultaneously). This is why God "the Father" is the Father of "man" and "man"-kind. Because He is Source of dignity and the Father of masculinity. Christ is the feminine source of perfect unconditional love. The Son is subject to the Father as wife is to husband. This only holds true because dignity must dictate how unconditional love is allocated. Masculinity dictates the behavior of femininity. But, man is not superior to woman. A man who is in a position of power is in equal need of the dignity as the woman is. He must become a humbled, selfless vessel. Only then is he sufficiently qualified to handle such a position. His duty is to humbly obey the principles of dignity, and to selflessly serve the needs of others, to the same degree that he serves himself.
If I go to club and start talking to a woman .I do not worry about keeping the woman safe.That is why the club hired a security guard to keep the customers at the club safe.
Sam interesting, that’s why you have to disregard what they say because if you look at who they end up with, the Adolf Hitler‘s of the world, the motorcycle gangs, The drug dealers; it is as if social path likes social path. And giving man advice is just another way for them to practice self referential narcissism.
wethecaptain now I think if we had a government that did less for the people’s survival, if the people then had to rely on each other; then the behavior of the weakest among us would radically change. I think it would be the females then who would be jumping through the hoops for they would need you a lot more then vice versa
CHARLES SCOTT You know , I think corruption in any society appears parasitically by mimicking strict paradigms. Small government has been used by the left to justify extreme feminist/leftist ideas. I believe in small government when it comes to allowing the natural forces of people to conform to each other But I do think government has to be strong enough that people fear it like they fear political correctness of today
Yes, being nice & respectful gets you nothing but trampled on. Most females prefer the bad / tough guy. It's just too bad for real men who can't compete with women's Fantasies. No guy needs to live up to that. Makes me wonder if anyone's real anymore. Society seems to have taken over. Good luck, Just saying.
I would just like to say to all of these "Status/Money/don't take advice from women/MGTOW" fellas in the comments section here you will rarely find a more articulate and self aware woman than Caitlin here. She's really hitting the nail on the head here and her advice is amazingly sound and well thought out. Great stuff, Subscribed.
*sighs* 1) Stop thinking about what women want, what they like, notice, and all that crap; 2) Stop wasting your time on someone else's ''feelings', desires, emotions, etc; 3) Forget about this video and the crap in it; 4)*Focus on yourself and your goals*; 5) Let that sink in.
What a great advice. All these points are somehow hidden/intangible yet the best and only solutions. Between two guys with same physical and and financial attributes, these are the key points that determine the success or failure with women.
Great video. This is a good quick prescience check up one can do while at the same time it is also import to be yourself at the same time. I see it as saying that your personality prescience is equal to what clothes you are wearing at a given day.
Eliciel Cajigas let me tell you something ... I got got girls to sleep with me when I was making in a week what I now make in a day! You are an utter FOOL if you think you need to have money to attract a woman. You need a good presence in other words you need to be confident and fun. Women and men are biologically HARDWIRED To look for personal traits as dictated by MILLIONS of years of evolution. It is preposterous to think that only rich men are walking around with girlsLOL!
Eliciel Cajigas this is just wrong. You can never say with absolutely certainty what a 100% of any group likes/will do in every circumstance. I have never dated someone for their wallet. I am very good looking too and have many choices. My current boyfriend is younger than me and is not wealthy. I adore him and actually wait on him too, making sure he always has what he needs and wants. I hate anti men feminists as much as anti women red-pilled men simply because you can’t paint everyone with the same brush.
I am a fairly earthy person myself but if a date is showing up in the 'getting to know you' phase and they didn't shower that day...that is a problem. Either they literally do not care at all or they have significant hygiene issues. Take a shower and put clean clothing on.
These tips are accurate for being attractive, and I like the depth they have because a guy could be very attractive if he really embodies these traits. However, I do fear that only an "advanced pickup guy" (guys that have practiced for at least 2 years generally) can understand why these tips work. They communicate a guy that loves himself, has had an abundance of women in his life and knows how to be attuned to what women around him want. These things take experience in the real world for a guy to learn, so I don't think the me 4 years ago before I internalized these ideas would believe or know how to do them. Also a lot guys believe in cherrypicked science that shows them why they believe their existence is a stain on humanity and that it's a physical law that they are chosen to fail for who they are. Use the actual science and the stats that go with to prove from a third party (they won't trust positivity, it looks like an agenda or manipulation, frame it as it's impossible not to be attractive because the science is incontrovertible, rather than "I really feel that you should be good enough please feel better" that comes off as condescending, as they believe it's the outside world that has decided for them that they are judged to be the scum of the earth because they don't naturally fit into an attractive stereotype. They believe that they have been exposed to a truth that can't be changed, "working harder" isn't an option and that causes despair. That won't go away with "my experience tells me" sorts of advice, but more impersonal "mathematical proof this works" sort of advice.
Caitlyn V I don't have many regrets in my 63 years I really don't But here's one I wish you'd have been around 30 years ago with your advice. The advice I've gotten from you is outstanding. It truly is THANK YOU!!! 🖖👍👍👍👍👍👍😍🥰🇺🇸🎼🎶🎶🎶live long and prosper
I was at a bar and I was by myself but I started shifting my weight to the beat of the music and a girl came over and said she liked my vibe. It's real
I'm autistic and a lot of this is hard for me to do. I don't know how I'm supposed to carry myself or tone my voice. I look and act awkward. It's frustrating. I wish I knew how to flirt and pick up on when girls are flirting back
Agreed height is not that important, and women who really care about height can be educated on the hurt that their beliefs cause and how they are misguided
Feeling attracted to another person without actually knowing this man/woman results from compatible Venus/Mars in both birth charts. But this type of attraction doesn't say anything about intellectual or spiritual compatibility. That's why nowadays deep relationships mainly start when people come to know each other at their workplace.
Daniel Mwendwa stop women dont have a hard time getting dick thats bs they dont have to do anything but stand their and point and they get dick. In the relationship women demand even more but most men dont know how to handle it, tell her to shut up when she talks to much, say no when she says WE have to go out because men are afraid of the loss.
lol I think they're not trying to "get dick" they're trying to get love, connection, and respect. Which I think is actually what men (esp MGTOW) want: love, connection, respect.
What makes people attractive is the same for both men and women. Physical vitality, good posture, happiness, warmth, humor...all these qualities are simply expressed differently. The male expression is more expansive while the female expression is more introverted.
Soo...I just watched the video where she touts semen retention and it's benefits....then in this video (which I realize is older) she touts "loving yourself" so you don't have pent up desperation...
I really don’t understand why people put negative comments in. Just move on. I guess none of you had a mama tell you if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything. Anyway, another great video.
What you are saying is true Savvy. Most guys would turn a blind eye most of the things she mentioned. Posture? Most women carry themselves well enough. I'm not going out with an 80yo women with a hunched back:)
You might want to join forces with a narcissism coach and disability coach. My friend and I both have Spina Bifida and are bound to power wheelchairs. What is one to do with posture, scoliosis, catheters, depends, urostomys, colostomies and wounds associated with our conditions? We both have either been financially and emotionally used and cast aside into the friend zone even after intimate encounters and in one case, being proposed to and running around picking engagement/wedding rings?
@@Ali01007 That's not you really showing off your masculine polarity by 'not taking advice from the fish' but that's just your ego. Caitlin is a certified expert and whatever advice she's giving is pretty valid.
This video confirms the RedPill. It is definitely a feminine point of view. I don't think a man can understand what he is seeing and hearing at all unless he aware of and well versed in the Red Pill. But with the Red Pill it is most informative. I want to call attention to one thing she said that stood out to me like a sore thumb, something I would have missed before the Red Pill, and point them out to men. 7:10 - She mention posture. 7:23 - In regards to posture she says that pulling your arms back, (which is a natural by-product of being muscular or of deliberately sticking out your chest), makes you look courageous, brave, compassionate, and willing to connect with other people. I want to call attention to COMPASSIONATE? I am sure she is unaware of this, but in essence she said that being muscular makes you look compassionate. From a logical perspective this would make no sense. Whether or not a man is muscular enough that his arms naturally pull back and his chest sticks out has 0 correlation with whether or not that man is compassionate. However, what this tells me is that a woman's mind projects qualities of compassion on to muscular men. From a red pill perspective this makes perfect sense. She thinks, no, she FEELS that the strong guy who is never actually treats her with any compassion is actually compassionate, while the nice guy who treats her with nothing but compassion is not compassionate at all but is only treating her with compassion because he wants to get sex from her. It explains why Chad can kick the crap out of his woman but she stays with him while she gives her beta orbiter no shot. It explains why nice guys finish last with women. It explains why chasing women and working to get women don't work. It just explains a lot. The lesson to take from it is that if you want a woman to view you as compassionate, don't worry about actually treating her with compassion; worry about making sure she views you as strong.
@Bob Smith - It's not about changing who you are; it's about seeing the reality for what it is. Once we see it for what it is we can deal accordingly. It's not about doing what she tells men to do either; you never take dating advice from women anyway. But that doesn't mean that we can't learn anything from listening to what women say. What she gave us in this video is in my opinion one of the few things that we can take from women, that is their memories on how they feel. She spoke about feelings, complete with all the illogical vagueness that we expect women to have when they are caught up in attractions. I think this video and videos like it can be valuable compliments to red pill knowledge. If a man is well versed in the Red Pill, it will tell him what women respond to. However, knowing what they respond to is not the same as knowing WHY they respond to it. If I know why they respond to what they respond to, then it becomes easier for me to see how they will respond to other things I have not tried yet. Since we all know women act based on their feelings, then honest, slut defense free, reports on how they feel are most insightful. Furthering that insight broadens our knowledge and is valuable.
Caitlin !!!!! Am soooooo in love with ....... you.....R extraordinary content 👏👏👏👏 You are honestly one of, if not the BEST, coaches on this entire platform!!!!!! I’m in my 40’s and am a creative person....the fact of the matter is that I’m just starting to get out there after having recently been with a narcissist!!! Anyhow, your info is sooo bloody fantastic !! I have nothing but praise for you and the amount of "inside info" you’re offering us all! Would love to do your course but atm I am courting a lass in her late 20’s.... I have to add ....I look like I’m in my 30’s fortunately as am of Latin American background...(way more cooler if you grew up in Australia like me !) I digress, am so grateful to you for verifying a lot of things that I kinda forgot about but also had a hunch about. No doubt You are helping millions of men out there!! Thanks heaps you legend!! Hugs..
Dear Ms. V, I just learned of your podcast not too long ago and my girlfriend and I really enjoy it. I hope this is as rewarding to you as it is to us. Just to discuss likes, dislikes, feelings, wants and desires w/ no judgement attachedWe are pretty vanilla, but it is really amazing to just lay down and talk of what does and doesn't turn us on. Before this, I believe she and I just expected our intuition to guide us--but once we really started communicating w/ each other, Ithink we became much better lovers, and, much better partners. Thank you SO MUCH for your time and effort--you have definitely made our relationship--and our lives--better! It is truly amazing what open and honest communication can do. Again, we thank you so very much for your efforts! Take care of yourself and stay safe! Warmly, Don Bailey
Well I feel you are very attractive. I'm not sure if it's your accent..hair style..smile..voice..hand talking..clothing.. jewellery.. advice..aah eyes..but your presentation is very nice. Cheers from an Aussie
best pickup advice is: don't go for "pickups."if she's down for that you're better off w someone else. I've walked away from way more women than I've "picked up" and I've had so many walk straight up to me. I've even had friends tell me: " dude, she came over here just to talk to you!" yeah, so what? wait for the woman you get to know and about whom you decide after getting to know her you don't want to be without her. If you practice shallow superficial relationship(s) that will just grow more dominant in your personality in time and you'll never have a real connection with another person. And even if you don't like that last sentence I guarantee you that what you ultimately want is someone who will not cheat on you, someone who will stand beside you even if all hell breaks loose and you get laid low. someone who can laugh w you. and live life w you as it comes however unpredictable and crazy it gets. Also remember, this chick's opinion is just her opinion not an expression of collective female conviction and consciousness on the subject. And bottom line you will usually end up attracting those who are most like you, not less so hold out for a mutual connection that is real and that grows into genuione knowledge of the other, not some superficial "pickup" crap, I did that when I was a teenager and it was generally a large waste of time and a dead-end. sheez. Pickup? If you're an adult and you even think in these terms you need to grow up.
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😂😂😂Great advice 😁🙃
Fellas, put that throat tattoo on the front of your shoulder, not your neck. Leave something to her imagination and talk about it and then show her.
Also 7:29 , hit some high pull slams with the weight sand bag, or squat to high pull with dumbbells, but don't slam the metal. Round is not a good look for you.
1. How you made us feel.
1a. Your vibe, energy, presence
(Desperate for sex, or not?)
1b. Do you make me feel safe?
2. Eyes, smile (not forced, positivity), scent
3. Posture, head high
4. Sexual-ness
5. Dominance / Power in the space / Self- assurance
Thanks!
As a woman, this is hella true haha
Thank you
Shorter summarization: Be a man, not a little bitch she'll never respect.
Guys: Be yourself, and do what your passionate about. Forget about figuring out women. The best sex of your life will most likely not be with the most beautiful girl of your life.
The most beautiful girl Ive ever had was also the best sex Ive ever had, by a good margin.
Yup. I had the best sex with a woman who was not the most beautiful. She was the most sweetest. Made me crazy. 😁
@@dr.hugog.hackenbush9443 Yea man, she was good
Be the best you can be* fuck the "just be yourself" bs
True
"its not about what you do, it is about who you are", probably the most solid advice I ever received. No secret formula hidden in a youtube ad. Just be a better person
👏 👏 👏
Ya know what works better than these 7 things? Ignore women and confidently go about your biz. Seen it work a million times
correct
Agree
Yep.
absolutely
Yeah, same here
I've studied "PUA" and mating psychology for about 12 years now. I've had numerous women tell me they've never been so attracted to someone before as they are to me and they don't even know why and can't begin to explain why. Women don't know what they want and will even do the exact opposite of what they say they want. If you really want to know how to attract women, listen to guys who are good at attracting women, not women themselves.
100% agreed!
Favorite quote, "Be a great lover to yourself."
I am a master of this skill! 👋
Ditto!
I love the lack of judgement in this video. You told us the things women notice, without saying we should change who we are. And that's great! Cause, even though all women probably notice these things, they don't all want the same things.
Chaps - after all these points, remember for women in general, "watch what she does , not what she says...."
Hypergamy is very much real.
You don't ask a Fish how to catch a Fish, Your ask a Fisherman.
- Late Patrice O'Neal
Hardik Gupta I guess you hear from both sides
@@gn26422458 Helps you minimize the Bias and Prejudice. I try to(as much as possible) to follow Jordan Peterson's rule "Listen to people as if they know something that you don't."
@@hardikgupta4398 I think Jordan Peterson is a hack but on the surface that seems like good advice
No one asked. She is telling how she feels and thinks. You obviously go find men who are successful but you got to be a fool not to listen to what a women says just because you are a man and men must always be giving you the right information. I have heard some of the dumbest advice growing up by other males.
That's solid!
Thank you Caitlin, some events in life are timely. 3 years ago, I lost my wife, my two brother-in-laws, my mother and my father-in-law in the space of two years. With a son to support and a disastrous attempt to start a new relationship. It’s been a traumatic three years and left me lost and personally destroyed. The timing and content of your video has been life changing. I found this video at a very low point actually rock bottom point in my life. How do I get back to the person I was and maybe a little better person? I decided to use this video to refocus myself to the man I once was. Thank you, you are a sparkling diamond.
Bless you man
I hope the days get better for you
Thank you soooo much for your videos. I am new to dating again and at 49 it is not easy. I did meet a single mom. She is 46 and we have gone on several dates. From comedy clubs to miniature golf to a professional basket ball game. This video makes me confident that I am taking all the right steps so she knows I have her best interests in mind and not looking for a "hit and run" night. She is becoming more and more affectionate as we date. I like how this is developing. Thank you.
For the love of God stay away from single moms
Dont listen to the other reply. At our age almost every single woman has kids. Avoid these women only if these kids are assholes.
I am so happy that you are dating hopefully it is the love of your life
According to this video I should be getting over whelmed by women. 🤣😂🤣
Me too.
Meanwhile all women have to do is breathe
If they are at least 4/10, then yes. But fat or ugly girls have it as hard as we men do. Nobody wants them.
@@Touchite1 mostly yes but we all know men who would fuck a barbers floor.
@@Touchite1 no they don't
Hahaha so perfect
Nah they have to be reasonably interesting
Finally an explanation from an intuitive perspective (she’s probably an ENFP).
This has made way more sense than other videos
The comments here are gold. Glad to see the men watching out for each other.
stop wondering what women want, women pick up on that subservient weakness in 2 seconds. Be on your purpose and they'll reveal themselves to you. seriously
what does it mean?
@@OfimaxSedille what does what mean? Soon as you make being a successful bachelor a priority and put in the work to raise your quality of life. The women will will be there. Dont make women a priority in your life and forget about what's really important. Be successful, cuz women just stand at the finish line and fuck whoever comes in first. Your thinking of sex, women are only thinking about security.
@@OfimaxSedille It means that you should never ever do anything that ressembles seeking for her approuval. She should be seeking for your approuval instead.
@@dutchdettweiler someone has been taking advice from bill burr
@@WaltersMGM It's called being a Man, worry about your own shit. lifes too short to placate to anybody
I’ve been called a ladies man by a lady. Very flattering. I just want happiness and women to feel secure and noticed. That’s what most women want. To feel noticed ❤
"women remember how you made us feel" ...*points* that...that's pretty much what it was. Then that Nala chasing Pumbaa scene ensued.
@Equillizer Armtwister I don't mind being the Pumbaa to her Nala. "she's gunna eat me!" *tries to pretend to be scared *
3:45 "good guy!" ... wait, I cannot say that: It has a wrong meaning now....
- You can see her think it. XD
The last two thoughts, sexuality and dominance, are gold explanations coming from a strong woman...the whole video is worthy of going over often 💯
Thank you, Caitlin. Great video. Lots of great advice and, as always, such a great presentation, focused on positivity. I am practiced at smiling with my eyes first and that this typically is retuned with a smile before I’ve even opened my mouth. You can maintain your masculine frame and it puts people at ease, which speaks to your point on feeling safe around someone.
If I may, let me add that the behaviors you mentioned should be incorporated into your everyday life. You can’t put on this confident persona only when you are headed to a situation where it may be needed, but rather cultivate these behaviors as part of your personal standards, not as affectations. This will increase your confidence by increasing your comfort in how you present. People will be able to pick up on whether or not you are putting on an act - comes off as fake confidence. If you adopt these as personal standards and practice them every day in every way, I suspect you will find you will not likely even need to go somewhere to meet Women, they will let you know they are all around you as you have made yourself visible to them. They may not approach you with any discernible frequency but they will find ways to put themselves where you will notice and hopefully approach them. I think that makes sense.
Looking forward to your next.
Ed Sanchez, well said. 👍
YES!!!!! you NAILED IT!! Thanks Ed, for your kind words and reflection!
I know that when I have a gf, even girls who don’t know start flirting with me immediately.
Perhaps it is because you are no longer advertising your neediness in your body language?
I don't know I often kiss them being totally honest and I don't know how to proceed
They're attracted to unavailability. If you asked them why, they would probably tell you it's because they like a challenge, but I suspect the real reason is they're jealous of another woman being happy with someone.
@@incorrba Bingo. All those wankers building those elaborate evolutionary theory to try to justify female's actions... there is no biological reason behind. It's simply ego and happy/exciting feelings. That's all there is to it.
Because a woman get cues from her social circle on who to date. She'll keep her feelings secret until she sees you with another girl. So she know that someone else, other than her, likes you as well.
The amoount of demands/needs , nuances, requests, moods, positioning, vibes........unbelievable.
What about you ? What does a woman bring to the table ?!
vagina
Its what she brings under the table.
Terrific video Caitlin, excellent points.
Since I've started doing more of these things/being more this way, I've gone from having pretty much no women showing interest in me/showing no signs of attraction, for years, to having them doing so pretty much everywhere I go on a regular basis now.
It all started with a commitment to making strong eye contact with everyone I meet/interact with (don't even remember why I did it, and it certainly wasn't because I thought it would make me more attractive to women, but it turned out to be a game-changer in that regard) and then I started to add in other things, like better/stronger posture/body-language, smiling more, dressing better, speaking with a stronger voice, etc and it's made a dramatic difference.
Those who are dismissing the advice in this video because it's "come from a woman" are being incredibly foolish.
Good advice is good advice, no matter who it's coming from.
Men are supposed to make women feel good....and who makes men feel good?
Chris Mitchell, what goes around comes around.
My eye game is so on point. Your eyes will burst into flame.
My physical presence is intimadating. I'm not small. I'm not quiet. My smile is pretty cool though.
Advice from girls just sounds silly.
@David Thomas May not be such a fake ass comment after all. Many people are just so caught up in their daily lives that they cannot be objective about themselves. Human beings have a need to be reminded and jostled about. He may already be a "good" person, but needed to be reminded of a few "techniques" to improve interactions with women. Very few men are natural born pickup artists, as for the rest of the male population it remains a learned skill just like most things in life.
@murphsviews Glad to know you're improving yourself and getting rewarded for it! The best advice I ever read in this regard came from a book titled Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. That was a game changer for me. Realizing that whatever I did, I could not have all the women for myself, and learning that the best thing I could do to improve my chances (and then the quality of my actual relationships) was to improve myself as a person was truly liberating. It's something I was already doing naturally, but to get told it would also bring about one of my greatest desires was exhilarating. And I have to say, it works! Simply being honest and feeling badass about it are the sexiest things ever. I love myself more now and I can see other people around me picking up on it and getting attracted to it.
The advice in this video meets a lot of the points made in the book. I think you'll like it.
As a married man. This was very helpful. Thank you.
I would say that if you’re not “smiler” then rather than simply not smiling, you should try to practice at it regularly (not just when you see a pretty woman). A comfortable confident smile seems to be one of the most attractive (or alpha if you like) behaviors that can be exhibited in daily life. That is even aside from the many many other benefits (both physiological/hormonal and psychological) that can come from smiling more and having a more positive mindset.
Honestly, hearing you talk about charisma passionately makes me attracted to you.
This is spot on! Sad to see so many men in cognitive dissonance in the comment section due to their HABIT of blaming things they can’t really control as a way to dull the pain of not being able to attract a woman by being an attractive person
Blaming other and playing victim is the standard for entry in the MGTOW club
Being an "attractive person" i.e., tall good looking and wealthy. Stating the obvious has nothing to do with cognitive dissonance or pain. Speaking of cognitive dissonance, why is it easy for people to point out the shallow things men like but everyone gets all bent out of shape when people point out the things women are shallow about?
for smell: Floss your teeth. there is ALOT of stinky stuff in there. rinse with Plax or mouthwash. eating some lemon helps too. all the way in the stomach. get that breath smelling good.
Drawing a parallel to cologne was really clever. I use a pretty subtle amount because I've always said that "Cologne should be discovered, not announced.". I never really considered that I should project my personality with it, working alongside it. That was a wise way of framing things, thank you.
Let me translate:
1) Peacock to get her attention, this is what she calls a "vibe"
2) Soother her antipickup and antislut defenses
3) Look like Tom Cruise/Brad Pitt, with a gorgeous smile and gorgeous eyes
4) Shower, brush your teeth, clean clothes, breathmint, a good cologne
5) Stand and act like an Alpha male. Masculine, dominant, commanding, leadership, confident, like you are the boss and all must obey you
Nothing to it, easy, right?
A fisherman explaining what the fish meant to say
Well, I'm DONE with this routine. Most women CAN'T understand the underlying
PRINCIPLES of a GOOD MAN. I'm not flashy, and won't pretend to be. I don't have to be "dominant", if the woman thinks along the SAME LINES as I DO.
Women also felt safe around Ted Bundy. Just sayin'.
Wow! LOL!
Excellent video, Miss Caitlin. 😘
Interesting that you mentioned sensing desperation in a guy. My friends and I noticed the difference in how women interacted if a guy had a girlfriend or was single. The guy in a relationship always drew more attention even if his partner wasn't there. The guy without a girlfriend was almost avoided, like there was a stench of desperation on him.
Is there some mark only visible to women that says "Taken"? Lol
Dealing with people is like operating heavy lifting equipment. You have to be aware of where and when you are. Being aware of your surroundings can save you the embarrassment of being seen as a bull in a china shop. The when, you have to be in the here and now, no point in fantasizing until you have her attention.
I had a coworker who was telling me about talking with a really hot woman. Knowing that he was probably focused on her chest, I would ask him what color her eyes were. His response was usually a rather sheepish, "I don't know." 🤣
It's far easier to just be myself and enjoy the setting than it is to be stressed about getting to your endgame.
The first paragraph - 'pre selection' . Women are attracted to men who have women interested in them.
@@kieransimpson4965 I accept pre selection.
It still doesn't explain the attention difference even if she isn't there.
@@stevenduncan7380 I feel it does as this 'validation' screens you as being attractive to women. It also ties into jealousy and 'wanting what you can't have.' if I look at myself as admittedly at times been wanting to be chosen by a girl who already has a boyfriend, it's an ego and insecurity thing aswell.
Lmao “ ask a female friend to see what you smell like”..Smell my butt ... what am I a cat?
Men, if it smells like Cologne leave it alone.
11 years married... I think I needed this refresher course. Thanks (Consciously rolling my shoulders back).
I recommend all the men go watch Darius m channel, that guy will tell you everything you need to know about how women work and what games they play, and how to get the women you desire.
Good job Caitlyn. Don't let the haters bother you. You are trying to give much needed perspective. That smile and those eyes are crazy attractive and makes it easy to gather the info you are dealing. Not to mention an obviously very intelligent lady. Keep up the good work.
I wonder how much the comment section of the last video influenced or motivated this video. Good timing, there was a lot of people that needed to see something like this.
I like that you mention aspects of Masculinity as being healthy and good and not Toxic... I've had recent discussions about this on social media that didn't go over well with the millennial generation, whom for some reason, feel ANY display of masculinity is Toxic. Even young men nowadays seem emasculated and embarrassed or even shamed for being male and exhibiting those traits.
And yet, the truth is.. that I would notice out in public, many men whom were almost overpoweringly masculine (much like too much cologne) with or surrounded by beautiful attractive attentive women who seemed to do their every bidding.. so what women say they hate, despise and dislike about Alpha dominant males..and what they go for, compete for, and choose or settle for.. are almost identical. lol
Usually it is hard for me to get through a video like this.. but you have this cute and spunky personable way about you so it made it almost easy. I have plenty of my own theories of why women do what they do... what they are attracted to.. and what turns them off..hehe.. but the point you make about "It's not what you do (or what you have), but who or what you ARE".. just BE- ing that male that they want.. that idea is powerful.
I was very introverted and timid in my early 20's back in the day.. so I came up with a plan to "act" as that guy you describe.. "confident, commanding space, attention to detail with style, smell, body language, a genuine smile" and even included some mystical strategy. I wanted to see if this would really work.
So to prepare for this transformation.. I would go to dance clubs and stay out of sight and just watch..I noticed whom the dominant males were and studied how they presented themselves, how they walked and talked and danced.. what styles they wore.. how they interacted with the ladies... and after a few months of this I started transforming myself into that image of masculinity..
Then came the real test.. I went to a new club where no one knew me and walked in like I owned the place.. it worked very well..I was surprised ! I did notice that now I was on the dominant male's radar as a direct threat though. But other than that..I found that I could go find a new gf in a day or two if I wanted...but then the problem was, what happens when the facade fell away.. so I had to figure out how to incorporate those traits into myself permanently, so It was really me she was attracted to and not an act or an image.
Over the years.. I found that many women were just happy with the image and were not looking for something real, so as long as I could keep that up I could keep the interest going. So, I came to the conclusion that yes, you need to have those traits to attract a woman.. but that you also needed to find the kind of woman who was also looking for more within you, than what was projected or on the surface. I guess many guys wouldn't care about that, they were just looking for short term lovers..but for a solid relationship you need to have that and much more.
A thick wallet will bait a lot of them... this not a huge secret. Will be more a wallet-mate than a soul-mate however.
In other words, a GOLD DIGGER!!
You have to have money to go on dates.
@@kerryviens7049 what makes you think that I don't
Which is the reason why it’s always best to recognize the feeling they are experiencing and end the conversation on that note...
It’s like comedy. End the show when they’re laughing...
I enjoyed your expression of this.
So true! Love it!
When you find that woman on the internet that is actually giving good advice and its obvious from the first things she says. Thanks for sharing!
PROVERB: Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, you ask the fisherman
TRANSLATION: Never ask a woman how to get women, you ask the bad boys and jerks.
Even if you aren't good looking. Ignore them, give them no attention, learn some game from bad boys, and let them chase you. Men, you are the prize.
I don't live to impress women, i live to impress myself.
Yeah about that smell thing... i had intense experiences with scent dating women, BUT it was not fragrance. I think fragrance is actually bad because it hides your natural scent. It is nice to put on when you're already comfortable with each other, something you positively notice about your other half. But the experiences i talked about earlier were all about body perfume. I remember 2 times when it caused really strong attraction and arousal.
I learned so much in 12 min that I feel I can do this. I can't wait to meet my future wife. Thanks for the knowldge you are a godsend lady.
Michael Sanchez ffs haha 😂 good one mate!
Speaking about confidence in general: I think people are mistaken about something.
Attractive men are confident, but they’re not attractive because they’re confident, they’re confident because they’re attractive.
Doesn’t have to be physical, but they’re confident because they already know something about themselves, whether it’s their looks or they’re humor, or whatever. So if you’re lacking confidence from the start, you can’t really fake that, and you do it’s not gonna work. Being fake is something women can spot from a mile away. I’d argue fake confidence is worse than lacking confidence.
NEVER EVER NEVER listen to what a woman SAYS.......................You know the rest. MGTOW
totw41, that's foolish nonsense.
murphsviews, his referring to dating advice and I agree with him.
Ali Hassan the problem with that is that you can get some extremely good dating advice from women (eg. Caitlin, Kezia Nobel, Marni, Sarah RSD, etc) and it's basically the exact same advice you'll hear from the good male dating coaches, so does that mean you shouldn't listen to the guys either, since they're giving the same advice?
lol
The Beta's will disagree with you.
The master key to masculinity is [dignity]. Obey the principles of dignity in your thoughts words and actions and you will fortify your psyche and your character with dignified masculinity. Imo, dignity and masculinity are synonymous. Dignity and masculinity are about ownership, accountability, objectivity, balance, reason, efficiency, effectiveness, grounded, stable, present, presence, self-sufficiency, independent, boundaries, law and order, ability to say "no", fortitude, forbearance, resiliency, etc. Thus, dignity and masculinity require one to bring all aspects of ones life into optimal functioning balance. That includes your psychological disposition (your mental & emotional health and the relationship between the two), your financial health, your relationships, your physical health, and your sexual health. When a man takes ownership of his flaws, fears, mistakes, wrongs, emotions and desires, he becomes more centered upon his core masculinity.
The more a man takes ownership, and the more his thoughts, words and actions are congruent, and unified, the more dignified power he will embody in his presence. This is bcuz dignity/masculinity is power. The amount of power a man can hold, without utilizing it for his own selfish means, determines the degree of masculinity in which he has mastery over. Masculinity is a power. Tho, its power is not his own. It equally belongs to others. Thus, when cultivating masculinity, a man must strive to overcome the personal temptations that come along with its power. Pride, greed, selfish pleasures, etc. all must be overcome in order to utilize its power efficiently, as is intended. Then, when a man is capable of selflessly handling a given degree of masculinitys power, in a dignified fashion, the more dignity and masculinity he will develop as a result, and the more masculine power will be allotted to him. The more a man takes ownership of his flaws fears, his space, and the more his thoughts words and actions are congruent and unified/dignified... while simultaneously taking ownership of his sexual energy, (being absolutely grounded and present with it)... the more potent his masculine presence will be. And, this is the potent masculine energy that all things yield to. This is the potency of the alpha energy. Imo, this is the potency of God (the alpha of all alphas). This potent masculine energy can elicit attraction from women without a single word being said. Such a man elicits attraction with the sheer potency of his presence, alone. Everything about him is communicated in his presence alone, because his thoughts words and actions are unified and he has taken ownership of his fears, flaws, failures, his sexual nature and his space. All things yield to such a source of dignified power and presence. (All things yeild, both, willingly and involuntarily/automatically). All things yield to the degree in which this dignified masculinity is mastered and perfected. Thus, imo, this is the perfect masculine nature of God. Perfect dignity, which elicits perfect yielding, subjugation and submission from all people, and all things
(both willingly and involuntarily... simultaneously). This is why God "the Father" is the Father of "man" and "man"-kind. Because He is Source of dignity and the Father of masculinity. Christ is the feminine source of perfect unconditional love. The Son is subject to the Father as wife is to husband. This only holds true because dignity must dictate how unconditional love is allocated. Masculinity dictates the behavior of femininity. But, man is not superior to woman. A man who is in a position of power is in equal need of the dignity as the woman is. He must become a humbled, selfless vessel. Only then is he sufficiently qualified to handle such a position. His duty is to humbly obey the principles of dignity, and to selflessly serve the needs of others, to the same degree that he serves himself.
Sorry thats too much work. I'll just focus on making money and that will do the rest :)
Wamen just money
No one could have said it better than you !
That's correct.
This is why you are single
2 chicks at the same time
If I was a millionaire I can probably hook that up. Chicks dig dudes with money
If I go to club and start talking to a woman .I do not worry about keeping the woman safe.That is why the club hired a security guard to keep the customers at the club safe.
I wonder who’s going to jump through all those dam hoops while still trying to pretend to be spontaneous
Sociopaths. Then women wonder why they end up with "bad guys".
Sam interesting, that’s why you have to disregard what they say because if you look at who they end up with, the Adolf Hitler‘s of the world, the motorcycle gangs, The drug dealers; it is as if social path likes social path. And giving man advice is just another way for them to practice self referential narcissism.
Donza for president
wethecaptain now I think if we had a government that did less for the people’s survival, if the people then had to rely on each other; then the behavior of the weakest among us would radically change. I think it would be the females then who would be jumping through the hoops for they would need you a lot more then vice versa
CHARLES SCOTT You know , I think corruption in any society appears parasitically by mimicking strict paradigms. Small government has been used by the left to justify extreme feminist/leftist ideas. I believe in small government when it comes to allowing the natural forces of people to conform to each other But I do think government has to be strong enough that people fear it like they fear political correctness of today
Awesome I just watched this to see if I was on the point as a man. I do believe I have all the right qualities going on.
Be dominant? I’ve been trying to be respectful my whole life.
Yes, being nice & respectful gets you nothing but trampled on. Most females prefer the bad / tough guy. It's just too bad for real men who can't compete with women's Fantasies. No guy needs to live up to that. Makes me wonder if anyone's real anymore. Society seems to have taken over. Good luck, Just saying.
Why did "50 Shades of Grey" (a book about S&M) sell over 100 million copies? Contemplate...
Don't be the nice guy.
You can be both in the same time. Dominance is not rudeness.
Being the nice guy got me nothing in life. I even had a woman tell me I'm a nice guy with contempt in her eyes. Women want the bad boy.
I would just like to say to all of these "Status/Money/don't take advice from women/MGTOW" fellas in the comments section here you will rarely find a more articulate and self aware woman than Caitlin here. She's really hitting the nail on the head here and her advice is amazingly sound and well thought out. Great stuff, Subscribed.
Awesome video! You’re so infectiously bubbly and fun but also so informative and insightful I love watching your videos. Keep it up 🙌🏻!
*sighs*
1) Stop thinking about what women want, what they like, notice, and all that crap;
2) Stop wasting your time on someone else's ''feelings', desires, emotions, etc;
3) Forget about this video and the crap in it;
4)*Focus on yourself and your goals*;
5) Let that sink in.
Thanks Caitlin. Another exceptional video.
What a great advice. All these points are somehow hidden/intangible yet the best and only solutions. Between two guys with same physical and and financial attributes, these are the key points that determine the success or failure with women.
Me Too stopped all this, sorry girls but too hard now, you can’t be trusted
Great video. This is a good quick prescience check up one can do while at the same time it is also import to be yourself at the same time. I see it as saying that your personality prescience is equal to what clothes you are wearing at a given day.
Women fool themselves. What they're really interested in is the size of the wallet, or the potential wallet. Either that or you're their baby.
Patrick S you just revealed how much of a failure you are with women.
Eliciel Cajigas let me tell you something ... I got got girls to sleep with me when I was making in a week what I now make in a day! You are an utter FOOL if you think you need to have money to attract a woman. You need a good presence in other words you need to be confident and fun. Women and men are biologically HARDWIRED To look for personal traits as dictated by MILLIONS of years of evolution. It is preposterous to think that only rich men are walking around with girlsLOL!
@@gordodacat ok normie
Eliciel Cajigas this is just wrong. You can never say with absolutely certainty what a 100% of any group likes/will do in every circumstance. I have never dated someone for their wallet. I am very good looking too and have many choices. My current boyfriend is younger than me and is not wealthy. I adore him and actually wait on him too, making sure he always has what he needs and wants. I hate anti men feminists as much as anti women red-pilled men simply because you can’t paint everyone with the same brush.
@@gordodacat Dan Blizarian's lifestyle proves your whole statement wrong lol
I am a fairly earthy person myself but if a date is showing up in the 'getting to know you' phase and they didn't shower that day...that is a problem. Either they literally do not care at all or they have significant hygiene issues. Take a shower and put clean clothing on.
Im deffinatly gonna use more of these skills the next time im out clubing or sosial drinking with the wife. Thanks Caitlyn
As a non-drinker, I don't go to bars. It would be very difficult for me to be interested in a girl I met in a bar (but life is full of surprises).
These tips are accurate for being attractive, and I like the depth they have because a guy could be very attractive if he really embodies these traits. However, I do fear that only an "advanced pickup guy" (guys that have practiced for at least 2 years generally) can understand why these tips work. They communicate a guy that loves himself, has had an abundance of women in his life and knows how to be attuned to what women around him want. These things take experience in the real world for a guy to learn, so I don't think the me 4 years ago before I internalized these ideas would believe or know how to do them.
Also a lot guys believe in cherrypicked science that shows them why they believe their existence is a stain on humanity and that it's a physical law that they are chosen to fail for who they are. Use the actual science and the stats that go with to prove from a third party (they won't trust positivity, it looks like an agenda or manipulation, frame it as it's impossible not to be attractive because the science is incontrovertible, rather than "I really feel that you should be good enough please feel better" that comes off as condescending, as they believe it's the outside world that has decided for them that they are judged to be the scum of the earth because they don't naturally fit into an attractive stereotype. They believe that they have been exposed to a truth that can't be changed, "working harder" isn't an option and that causes despair. That won't go away with "my experience tells me" sorts of advice, but more impersonal "mathematical proof this works" sort of advice.
Caitlyn V I don't have many regrets in my 63 years I really don't
But here's one I wish you'd have been around 30 years ago with your advice. The advice I've gotten from you is outstanding. It truly is
THANK YOU!!! 🖖👍👍👍👍👍👍😍🥰🇺🇸🎼🎶🎶🎶live long and prosper
Thank you Jim!!!
I love your chanel and I'm learning so much. Thank you for such of a good content
Stevie:"he was the love of my life"
Joe :" I was inI love with her like a sister"
Ouch 😟
Yeah, that Old Spice works every time.
I have one woman to please and she likes Old Spice.
Caitlin, I want to say that You are a Genius; your advice is very on point, I’m glad that I came across your CZcams channel! I thank you! 🙏
Me: Hi!
Her: what's up bud?
*everytime*
You are a smart lady who is very good with communication, I appreciate this about you...thx
I was at a bar and I was by myself but I started shifting my weight to the beat of the music and a girl came over and said she liked my vibe. It's real
Whoa ! What a compliment !
Women like stability and financially strong . Be loving to your women and your good
My tips to guys , never listen to women when it comes to seduction .
Ask the hunter not the prey .
I'm autistic and a lot of this is hard for me to do. I don't know how I'm supposed to carry myself or tone my voice. I look and act awkward. It's frustrating. I wish I knew how to flirt and pick up on when girls are flirting back
I wonder if there are any dating courses specifically for autistic men? Keep trying and keep looking for resources, you are not alone!
I am guessing he was tall.
And big bucks.
WE have a winner!
He was 5'9" foot and probably made about $50k/year, pessimists!
Height isn’t that important once you’re about 5’9” you’re tall enough to be taller than most women, height isn’t usually a deal breaker on its own.
Agreed height is not that important, and women who really care about height can be educated on the hurt that their beliefs cause and how they are misguided
ok so....Masculine, Sexual, Dominant, Present, Positive Energy, Smile, Eyes, and Smell Good. Sounds pretty simple. Okkkkkkk Ladies.......Who's first ? Wait, WHAT ? Yea Yea, I'm 5'6", kinda chubby, slightly balding, 24K Pre Tax........Whoa, Whoa, Whoa........Where y'all going ?
Feeling attracted to another person without actually knowing this man/woman results from compatible Venus/Mars in both birth charts. But this type of attraction doesn't say anything about intellectual or spiritual compatibility. That's why nowadays deep relationships mainly start when people come to know each other at their workplace.
Also personal planets conjunct the nodes has an immediate effect, as well as the angular houses.
You’re such an absolutely stunning woman Caitlin. Thanks for your time and wisdom!
My god theres a list of demands women put on men.
And vice versa so its all good
@@danielmwendwa791 No women put way more demands you just have to listen to all these vids that women put out on what a guy must be.
@@danielmwendwa791 preach
Daniel Mwendwa stop women dont have a hard time getting dick thats bs they dont have to do anything but stand their and point and they get dick. In the relationship women demand even more but most men dont know how to handle it, tell her to shut up when she talks to much, say no when she says WE have to go out because men are afraid of the loss.
lol I think they're not trying to "get dick" they're trying to get love, connection, and respect. Which I think is actually what men (esp MGTOW) want: love, connection, respect.
YES ! Posture is so important and it doesnt cost a dime !
Be meek - have a sword, know how to use it, but keep it sheathed
j peterson
What makes people attractive is the same for both men and women. Physical vitality, good posture, happiness, warmth, humor...all these qualities are simply expressed differently. The male expression is more expansive while the female expression is more introverted.
Soo...I just watched the video where she touts semen retention and it's benefits....then in this video (which I realize is older) she touts "loving yourself" so you don't have pent up desperation...
I really don’t understand why people put negative comments in. Just move on. I guess none of you had a mama tell you if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything. Anyway, another great video.
This woman clearly loves that women are spoiled for choice. This advice seems to be geared at bar scene cold approaches.
What you are saying is true Savvy. Most guys would turn a blind eye most of the things she mentioned. Posture? Most women carry themselves well enough. I'm not going out with an 80yo women with a hunched back:)
You might want to join forces with a narcissism coach and disability coach. My friend and I both have Spina Bifida and are bound to power wheelchairs. What is one to do with posture, scoliosis, catheters, depends, urostomys, colostomies and wounds associated with our conditions? We both have either been financially and emotionally used and cast aside into the friend zone even after intimate encounters and in one case, being proposed to and running around picking engagement/wedding rings?
Rule #1 never take a relationship advice from a woman.
How's that working out for you?
Wrong...i take advice from my mom all the tym....nd it always work
Unfortunately all this shaming tactics won’t work with me. No woman can advice a man on dating period.
MGTOW.
@@Ali01007 That's not you really showing off your masculine polarity by 'not taking advice from the fish' but that's just your ego. Caitlin is a certified expert and whatever advice she's giving is pretty valid.
Caitlin, I have to say I think this was the BEST video you have ever made!
This video confirms the RedPill. It is definitely a feminine point of view. I don't think a man can understand what he is seeing and hearing at all unless he aware of and well versed in the Red Pill. But with the Red Pill it is most informative. I want to call attention to one thing she said that stood out to me like a sore thumb, something I would have missed before the Red Pill, and point them out to men.
7:10 - She mention posture.
7:23 - In regards to posture she says that pulling your arms back, (which is a natural by-product of being muscular or of deliberately sticking out your chest), makes you look courageous, brave, compassionate, and willing to connect with other people. I want to call attention to COMPASSIONATE?
I am sure she is unaware of this, but in essence she said that being muscular makes you look compassionate. From a logical perspective this would make no sense. Whether or not a man is muscular enough that his arms naturally pull back and his chest sticks out has 0 correlation with whether or not that man is compassionate. However, what this tells me is that a woman's mind projects qualities of compassion on to muscular men.
From a red pill perspective this makes perfect sense. She thinks, no, she FEELS that the strong guy who is never actually treats her with any compassion is actually compassionate, while the nice guy who treats her with nothing but compassion is not compassionate at all but is only treating her with compassion because he wants to get sex from her. It explains why Chad can kick the crap out of his woman but she stays with him while she gives her beta orbiter no shot. It explains why nice guys finish last with women. It explains why chasing women and working to get women don't work. It just explains a lot.
The lesson to take from it is that if you want a woman to view you as compassionate, don't worry about actually treating her with compassion; worry about making sure she views you as strong.
Darrius Cole one hundred percent! I used to feel baffled by the amount of women who sticks with someone who treats them like crap.
@Bob Smith - It's not about changing who you are; it's about seeing the reality for what it is. Once we see it for what it is we can deal accordingly.
It's not about doing what she tells men to do either; you never take dating advice from women anyway. But that doesn't mean that we can't learn anything from listening to what women say.
What she gave us in this video is in my opinion one of the few things that we can take from women, that is their memories on how they feel. She spoke about feelings, complete with all the illogical vagueness that we expect women to have when they are caught up in attractions. I think this video and videos like it can be valuable compliments to red pill knowledge.
If a man is well versed in the Red Pill, it will tell him what women respond to. However, knowing what they respond to is not the same as knowing WHY they respond to it. If I know why they respond to what they respond to, then it becomes easier for me to see how they will respond to other things I have not tried yet. Since we all know women act based on their feelings, then honest, slut defense free, reports on how they feel are most insightful. Furthering that insight broadens our knowledge and is valuable.
Caitlin !!!!! Am soooooo in love with ....... you.....R extraordinary content 👏👏👏👏 You are honestly one of, if not the BEST, coaches on this entire platform!!!!!! I’m in my 40’s and am a creative person....the fact of the matter is that I’m just starting to get out there after having recently been with a narcissist!!!
Anyhow, your info is sooo bloody fantastic !! I have nothing but praise for you and the amount of "inside info" you’re offering us all!
Would love to do your course but atm I am courting a lass in her late 20’s.... I have to add ....I look like I’m in my 30’s fortunately as am of Latin American background...(way more cooler if you grew up in Australia like me !)
I digress, am so grateful to you for verifying a lot of things that I kinda forgot about but also had a hunch about. No doubt You are helping millions of men out there!!
Thanks heaps you legend!! Hugs..
I smell garlic. Princess Fiona fell for me from the first whiff.
I use 99 Store Blue Skin Brazure with Lemon Grass Oil. KILLS EM DEAD 😁
Dear Ms. V, I just learned of your podcast not too long ago and my girlfriend and I really enjoy it. I hope this is as rewarding to you as it is to us. Just to discuss likes, dislikes, feelings, wants and desires w/ no judgement attachedWe are pretty vanilla, but it is really amazing to just lay down and talk of what does and doesn't turn us on. Before this, I believe she and I just expected our intuition to guide us--but once we really started communicating w/ each other, Ithink we became much better lovers, and, much better partners. Thank you SO MUCH for your time and effort--you have definitely made our relationship--and our lives--better! It is truly amazing what open and honest communication can do. Again, we thank you so very much for your efforts! Take care of yourself and stay safe! Warmly, Don Bailey
Caitlin, was that guy at the party that you were attracted to Bill Cosby?
It was the droopy eye
@@CaitlinV LOL, you are great!
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Well I feel you are very attractive. I'm not sure if it's your accent..hair style..smile..voice..hand talking..clothing.. jewellery.. advice..aah eyes..but your presentation is very nice. Cheers from an Aussie
best pickup advice is: don't go for "pickups."if she's down for that you're better off w someone else. I've walked away from way more women than I've "picked up" and I've had so many walk straight up to me. I've even had friends tell me: " dude, she came over here just to talk to you!" yeah, so what? wait for the woman you get to know and about whom you decide after getting to know her you don't want to be without her. If you practice shallow superficial relationship(s) that will just grow more dominant in your personality in time and you'll never have a real connection with another person. And even if you don't like that last sentence I guarantee you that what you ultimately want is someone who will not cheat on you, someone who will stand beside you even if all hell breaks loose and you get laid low. someone who can laugh w you. and live life w you as it comes however unpredictable and crazy it gets. Also remember, this chick's opinion is just her opinion not an expression of collective female conviction and consciousness on the subject. And bottom line you will usually end up attracting those who are most like you, not less so hold out for a mutual connection that is real and that grows into genuione knowledge of the other, not some superficial "pickup" crap, I did that when I was a teenager and it was generally a large waste of time and a dead-end. sheez. Pickup? If you're an adult and you even think in these terms you need to grow up.
I actually couldn’t care less; sometimes a woman and all her baggage just isn’t worth it.