THINGS I WISH I KNEW AT 22: RELATIONSHIP EDITION *10 YEARS LATER*
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That digression was necessary 😢 the ex(I'm not a fan of saying "my Ex" coz why still give him that tag of "My") well that's also a digression 😂😂😂😂 Well broda said he was finding it "hard to love me". Those words broke me for the longest time. Imagine growing up with a single mum and I never got to know my dad until I was 28, imagine how those words could mean so many things.
I started to read and meditate on God's love for me. And I had light one day.
I told myself anyone who is finding it hard to love me is because I have so much love to give and they can't handle it. For God is Love and His little miss is loveable!!!! Trust me I know I am a work in progress but don't come rubbing your insecurities one me
How timely this is for me. I'll be 22 in September and I'm glad I get to watch this before then. Thank you Solutions Mama ❤️. More grace 🙏🏽
Thank you for this!
I am 34, quit my three years relationship because of some of the things you mentioned here and I am on the verge of reconsidering and going back to mend things with him out of fear that I might be wrong about some of these things.
This video right here is a confirmation that I’m on the right path.
Dating can wait! And Dating is not waiting. To my self at 22, await! Don’t date! Wait! Wait until you’re ready to date for marriage not date for fun.
I'm exactly the same age and feel the same way
I really appreciate you both for knowing yourselves well and when you are ready for marriage it will all make sense to date for the purpose of marriage not "let's see where it will lead"
We know ages don't really mean a lot but avoid start a serious relationship until you have certain knowledge. Let your frontal lobe develop fully before choosing who to spend the rest of your life with. Also do it with God, let God guide you. Thank you mama for this video, the bags are lovely
That's true!!! You are welcome
I am dating someone that we met when I was in 200lv, I'll be 25 this year b4 I was so sure he would be my husband but right now I'm not really seeing that vision and it's so hard to break from him
@@mamnengeorkpe2588 I've been there, the best way to break free is to think about the future. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you are not sure about?
Wise words @@graceijiola1238
I've been following you for over 5 years and one of the reasons i followed you is first of all because i noticed we had a lot in common like....i can relate soooo much with you and my friends usually say I sound like you when i eventually introduced them to your channel lol. I don't know why this message is coming now, I'm also not one to enter into purposeless relationships so I usually gravitate towards church boys, smart and mature ones of course lol but previously, my friend advised me to step out of my comfort zone and date outside of my "spec" which i tried and that lead me down a dark path. I'm grateful to God now that I'm out of it and I'm currently on a healing journey but I need help with feeling like I'm a bit too "messed up" for the kind of man i want. I took a break off dating and I've been celibate, not because of relationship but because I'm really working on my relationship with God but! Sometimes i just feel sad like it's too late and all. I know I'm not supposed to be feeling this way but i do 😩😪 please help!
Hey Sis! Don’t be too hard on urself and No ! U’re not too messed up to find the kind of man that you want or rather the kind of man GOD has for you. I have once walked through this path u’re in and I can boldly say to you STOP TRYING TO FIND A MAN FOR YOURSELF!!!! I just had to write it in capitals. See sis the moment you stop finding a man for urself everything changes, just surrender to the holy spirit see I can’t over emphasize it enough. Tell the holy spirit what you want I mean be very specific, every single detail and be faithful while u’re at it he never fails. Also keep these tips our mama Solutions has given us in mind they are really wholesome. May GOD continue to help us all in our decision making.
I really understand what you are saying and where you are coming from. I was once in your shoes. I know it can be really hard but I want you to know that God still loves you the way you are. All you need to do is to genuinely retrace your steps back to God. Infact, he is eagerly waiting for you. Your thought of being 'messed up' is the devil speaking into your ear. Yes, you strayed but you don't have to remain there! Remember the prodigal son. When he came back to his father, the father did not castigate him but rather received him with open arms. God is waiting for you too. Please, don't listen to the devil's lies that you are messed up. Once you come back to God genuinely, he will give you a man that surpasses your own imaginations. I want you to know that God wants to make a message out of your mess. Be encouraged sis. 🫂.
God is an on-time father. There is nothing called too late. When you pray, be specific. The Lord will show up for you. Date yourself and see how living life on your own terms will lead you. God bless you.
Thanks for sharing, Solutions.
When a guy asks you out on a date, don't let him get physical with you that quickly. Some use it as an avenue to want to satisfy themselves, not really date you.
Church Boys? Most are red flags, be on the look out and don't be deceived by label.
Thanks solutions! I agree with everything you have said..i want to add that at 22 , i wish I voiced my needs clearly in relationships so as to avoid those sub standard men i dated!! Stand your ground ladies.. know who you are and don't compromise for less
Mama!!! Wisdom is too muchhhh🤯🔥🔥
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!!🔥🔥🩷🩷🩷🩷
Thank you for sharing, God bless you! Your locs are flourishing 🥰🥰
Thank you so much for this! It's the exact words I need in this time and season and at this my age 22!!!
This was so good, Tolulope!!! More people need to talk about this!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
You don’t know how much this just blessed me. Thank you 🙏
This was such a breathe of fresh air. So real and so honest. Thank you so much Solutions❤
Loving our new backdrop ❤ I can totally relate to everything and above all taking responsibility for your actions. One thing I wrote in my letter to self last year during my reflection was that everything that happened in the year happened because I let it happen. Taking full control of the amount of access I give men going forward! Thank you Solutions ❤
I wish I listened to this message when I was 22 but thank GOD for growth! . Thank you solutions for dropping these gems
I love the editing of this video, it's giving excellence ❤
Is it coincidence that I had this topic with someone few days ago and I'm turning 22 on April😩, I wanna scream!!
I love you honestly😩😭😭💝💝
Thank you so very much ma❤💝
Mama solutions the quality is giving..More grace 👏
All that you have said is very true. It has happened to me. This church guy preys on girls from good Christian homes. He does his homework and he mentions all the big names pastors he has worked with. But me being who I am saw through him and I also asked some Christian big brothers close to me and my family and their answers was a loud NO NO.
Good for u that you sought good counsel
May God order your steps
@@TolulopeSolutionswhat if people around are saying yes go ahead, but I feel heavy in my heart, I don’t know if it is insecurities. I am just confuse😢
This is beautiful.....thank you for all this information
That statement," If he wanted to,he will" I hear it all the time from women. Lol
Its a very loose term that does not always capture the realities of where a man is and what his best intentions are.
However, since its a common theme song it means a TON of women have been strung along too.
Everyone is simply trying to do this dating thing properly. Church people dont automatically have it all figured it out. May God give us all wisdom 😊
How can I love this video Million time🙌 This message is so timely👌
Amazing video!!! The editing is top-notch 🎉🎉. Love it 🥰
Profound❤️..God bless you mama. That fourth point🔥… The Holy Spirit told me this some years ago and it changed the way I approached any relationship. You really cannot change or fix a man. The best you can do is to allow the Holy Spirit convict him of whatever and trust God to do what God does. Thank you again!❤️
I love the new look of our office❤❤❤. Thank you for this video momma
My younger self would be financially independent before having children and not buying in the idea of I'll take care of you. This can be true until the family starts expanding, bills are picking up and resentment starts creeping in. Have your own and be the support for when that time comes. Also finish enough schooling before the children come, sometimes unplanned but in 2024, no more unplanned babies. Because going to school with little ones can be stressful. When your little one says, "School is more important to you Mommy, you do not spend time with me anymore. The mom guilt is a thing, but you can avoid it. Be financially stable to reduce some of the stress. Two income households according to research have thriving children given all things equal and less stress.
Who looks after the children, while mum & dad are at work?
So apt. I hope that ladies truly learn from this video.
This was so good! And you're looking gorgeous as ever 😍
'say no my darling, I can't see it.....'😂😂😂. Thank you, mama Solutions❤. GOD bless you for the good work you do.
beautiful content ❤❤Do you mind sharing your recording space and how you edit plus your lighting setup i love the quality of your content
So much value. Thanks Solutions
OH my, how you speak the truth so simply. Yes, it makes sense. Some of us fall for krife" lifestyle as we say it in Ghana. If he wants to, HE WILL! Shoo Mama Tolu, my husband from day #1 has always said he is not romantic in so many ways and I have resigned myself to all those euphorias of love, candles, and stuff. However he does other amazing stuff on my bdays, valentines, etc but a part of me, sometimes, quotes this phrase and I don't want to lose sight of the other beautiful thoughtful, and considerate things he does. lol. Heyyyyyyy women, oh Lord help us all.
God bless you for this enlightening piece ma. The part where you said men know what they want struck me because that's something God has been making me realise lately. Christian sisters easily miss this point. May God help us.
Amen!
Thank you for sharing Solutions.
I absolutely love your hair.
Me too
Always spilling wisdom ❤❤
This is so timely and resonates perfectly 💯💯. Thank you so much Ma❤❤
Much needed video!!!❤️❤️❤️ loves it
Thank you for sharing this, ma'am.
Mama, your hair is giving 10/10 minus nothing.
Soon much points in one video❤
Your videos are the best
Thank God for the blessing of you❤
Solutions ❤
Thank you for this message.
Since I started watching your videos, my mind, and my life have not remained the same.
Thank you for always dishing out God's wisdom.
Thank you for allowing yourself to be a vessel that God is using for us( especially me, I'm so blessed to have someone like you in my life).
God has used you for me in so many ways.
I love you ma♥
Hmmm I really wish I learnt all of this before I started dating at all. The heartbreaks back to back I won’t lie has left me unusually hardened in terms of developing that soft side of me for someone else. I still believe God for his complete healing, unfortunately it feels like time is running out.
This was very wholesome. Thanks for sharing
Valuable content. Good job, I appreciate
This video is the confirmation I needed. Thanks mama solutions
The video quality!! the background!! Solution’s beauty!!! all giving premium!!!!! ❤❤
Love it!!!
Thank you our T. Solutions 💃🏻💃🏻
Ayyyeee thank u
Even some doctors and nurses are actually sick. Going through their own health issues
But they still get up and go do their work
I'm a young woman in my 30s and one thing I wish I knew earlier is the fact that men will abandon some responsibilities to you once you show capacity to handle them. I really wish I could turn back the hands of time to set a brand new pace.
This video really resonates with me and I can fully relate.
God bless you mama Soteria for always bringing us wholesome content.
Thank you so much for this content.
Please may you expand more on the last pointer of taking responsibility in your relationship as a lady.
On Point!!! Thank you Ma ❤
Wow! Thank you for sharing this
This is what I needed to hear...so timely... Lord help us to leave all this toxicity
This is Amazing ❤, Thank you MAMA ❤
Thank you so much for this video🥹❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much Ma😊
I really appreciate this; I'm glad i saw this now.
And I'm even turning 22 in June 😂
What a coincidence🤭
Same here.
Thanks big sis!
I checked this channel like 100 times for a new upload , I think im safe to say Im addicted
Im in love with everything in this video the speaker, the background, the ambience and all.
Well done Momma🥰
When you see behavior that you know you can’t cope with, don’t stay because you have built castles in your mind. Tell yourself the truth. Going to get married doesn’t magically mean a persons behavior will change. If the person you’re looking at marrying didn’t change for the next 59 years would you still be happy marrying them ?
YES!!!! 🙌🏽 That’s the one question to always ask: “If this person NEVER changes, can I live with them as they are for the rest of my life?”
Thank you so much for this... always refreshing to listen to you🤗😊
You are very welcome
Thank you ma
This is so timely
Very insightful nuggets,keeping them in my pockets for when I start dating 🥰
Kwana biyu!(two days). I've missed you mama🤭🤭❤. Wonderful content, as always🎉🎉
Love this video. God bless you ma for sharing❤❤ btw your jewelries are always stylish..Where do you get them ?
Phew This is so timely. Also I’ll be 25 soon but wish I knew this when I was 22
I’m watching this video and I’m 22, I pray for God’s grace to find my own person and love that doesn’t need suffering first.
God bless your mama solutions!!!
❤❤ This is beautiful 😊 Thank you mama Sols😊❤
Thankyou very much!
"it's your head that's on the line"😂 Bless you Mama!🥰
I'm yet to watch the video, but I know that I won't regret it. Thank you, mama, for sharing your story.❤
Thank you mama Sols❤
Thank you for this video big sis @tolulopesolutions🙏 I really love your hair🔥 pls make a video on how you treat your natural hair
I did a couple of videos back. Thank u
@@TolulopeSolutions Ok ma, I'll go watch them
Thank you Mama 🥺
Thank you so much for this video 😊❤
Thanks for sharing 🤩
This is a really valuable video
THANK YOU JESUS😭😭😭🙏🏻🙏🏻
INDEED ELROI SEES ME AND HE'S STILL FAITHFUL, I CAN'T GIVE UP, I WON'T GIVE UP, NOT NOW, NOT EVER😭🙌🏻🙌🏻
THANK YOU MA FOR THE PRAYERS FOR JAMES AND LYDIA, I RECEIVED THEM TOO🙌🏻❤❤💝
I wish I can download this video into an audio format and play it offline again and again.
Point 3 hit the nail. We just like drama 😂😂😂😂. Thank you Ma for enlightening us
Too much
God bless you
Exactly my story. Trying not to set boundaries because he is a church guy. I had to put him right
Solution , this video was made for me
Thank you Solutions❤
Awesomeness 😊😊 video. Especially them PK - awon Pastors children, watch them.
Pls ma, share your editor info??
This editinggg🎉🎉
To whom brain is given, sense is expected…..courtesy Pastor Jerry Eze.
Sisters, be very very guided.
Tolulope Solutions is giving valuable advice here.
👍🏽👏🏽
Nsppd 🥰🥰😍... We dey there 🔥
My older sister badly needs this video😢.
Thank you Mama solutions
😂😂😂😂the part you said I can fix that man he’s an abuser I have the hack for abusers😂😂😂 this got me off my seat 😂 a good laugh I had.ma you can be hilarious sometimes 😂. I love this teachings it’s very insightful it’s mind transforming ❤ no human on earth can change or fix another. I have learned so much from you in this video. These teachings came timely thank you immensely for this teachings words on a marble. You’re so deep and insightful so much wisdom thank you thank you thank you. God bless you enormously great Grace mama solution shalom 👏👏👏💜💜💜❤🔥🙏it resonates with me 🙌
No. 1 i agree totally. I met 1 church boy like type and My God 😂😂😂😂😂 i really had it...... i had enough. Seemed perfect at start but where it ended...... in lessons
Thank you mama Solutions
good work you ❤❤❤
Why didn’t I meet you earlier 😢thank you so much
‘The man who is worthy of where I am!!!’ I felt that! Thank you
Yes and Amen
Thanks a lot Solutions. I'll be 22 in July and this is great advise for my current experience. All very valid points, thank you again
You are welcome
please we need a video on friendship🤩😍🥰
I love how you edit your videos. Well done
Amen Bless you mama❤
Thanks for sharing
This blessed me ❤
Glad to hear
This year we receive sense by force in Jesus name 😂😂😂
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