Roles and Responsibilities in Dating vs. Marriage
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- We’re chatting about the difference in duties between a girlfriend versus a wife. Real fam, do you think there are certain things you should do for your partner only when you’re married?
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Jeannie's point in this segment is PERFECT! I agree a HUNDRED per cent with what she said : Be yourself from the beginning.
1000% !!
It's true. I don't really care about " traditional roles" and and and. I don't care whether we're married or not. But I'm not about to leave his dirty laundry in the bathroom because we aren't married, that's gross 🤣
100% GO JEANNIE!!
@@eslChelsea Right but he should be grown enough to do his own dirty laundry as a non married man though? Noo? Lol
@@eslChelsea Loni , Garcelle are bitter black women who only deal with white men.Adrienne is a phony church girl fronting.
All Aunty Loni is saying is stop doing wife duties on girlfriend prices 😂
Exactly! Especially if you want to be a wife!
Judge Toler voice 😂
Whew girl! I learned that real quick. I caught myself and was like aht aht don't do it Britt 🤣🤣
Haha
Thank you! I understand everyone is different and has their own standards but stop making it easy for these men.
Loni was speaking straight facts. I don't understand how Adrienne and Jeannie weren't understanding what she was saying. Doing dishes after you've both eaten is completely different than doing his laundry.
As you see the two married women have a different point of view. Question if y’all live together ur only ur own laundry not the laundry in the house.
@@cindyben3089 Take turns
@@cindyben3089 I found it odd when Adrienne said her husband does his laundry and not hers as well. I mean don't most married ppl have one clothes basket and wouldn't you wash the family clothes together
Jeannie and Adrienne will use the words like submissive and cater.. Loni will never and I won’t either. That’s so icky to me. Each to their own
@@TRINI818 Every couple is different. My Husband and I don't share a closet, so we don't share a clothes hamper. We also don't do each other's laundry, but similar to Adrienne and Isreal if we're washing whites we may wash them together.
I am not doing wifely duties for a BF. If you want me to be your wife then put a ring on my finger. Stop making it easy for these men! they get too comfortable and you end up wasting years of your life because you gave everything during the bf/gf stage. If you are cooking, cleaning and holding the house down what's the point of marriage? Y'all already doing what married people do. We deserve more ladies, stop doing that 💯
👏👏👏 Women supporting women!!!
I learn that the hard way but i didn't do his laundry but long story short i left his ass an he was a cheater an lier i kick his as out
Oh my God I'm so sick of Jeannie talking about Jay your divorce is in 3 2 1
Loni is right! Don’t give a boyfriend husband privileges
i wish i saw this video sooner, but with that thinking, i can almost guarantee that you're single. You need to show your man that you can be a good wife before actually being a wife. If you're saying you won't do certain things that your man wants, he's gonna assume you're DEFINITELY not gonna do them when you're actually married. Do you like being single?
@@cutedude13 I mean that may not be totally accurate. The 2 involved in the relationship should definitely discuss what they are willing to do in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship vs a husband and wife relationship. If your already acting married what is the point of getting married. There are just some things reserved for my husband and vice versa.
@@TheGetchaweightup24 Are you currently actually married? That’s a very dangerous mentality to have. We as men need to see what you’re willing to bring to this relationship including your attitude. If you’re gonna be carrying a negative attitude and mindset into a relationship, we’re not just gonna assume those will go away after marriage. I agree that the conversation needs to be had but to say “what’s the point of marriage?” is absolutely insane. There’s much more that goes on in a marriage vs a relationship meaning much more adventures and more rewarding lifestyle. Plus the peace that comes with raising children in a relationship vs in a marriage is so different bc the gf can wake up one day and say she’s bored and cheat on her man. We need to see that you ladies will be cooperative and submissive to us in the beginning, otherwise we can’t assume that you will be that way after marriage. There’s no talking about it that can change that. If we have to have a conversation where the woman says “I’ll be submissive and cooperative after you put a ring on my finger” We’re out the door and will find a younger woman that can do those things for us.
@@cutedude13 So as for me I am happily single, not dating nor entertaining. To me marriage is a beautiful thing and it is a GOD given gift. So do I believe I should be submissive to a man who is Not my husband of course I do not. As I said there are certain things I am Only going to give to my husband not a boyfriend. Can I cook yes can I clean yes can I do everything else's under the sun most certainly but I have chosen to reserve those things for my husband. And most assuredly I can tell you that whomever I will date will clearly know the line I draw between a girlfriend and wife. As the man himself should do the same. Being cooperative and submissive is not for us to be with Every man. But if a man can not handle this knowledge of who I am as a woman he is free to go on in his life and find someone else who he finds more suitable to his liking. As me as a woman I will Not change my stance to simply suit any man but there may be others who may. As I said I will give my husband all that I as a woman have to offer and Only to my husband will it be given.
@@TheGetchaweightup24 crickets? No answer? Would you like to know what men look for in a woman or would you like to continue living in your delusion? I think it’s BS when a woman says she’s happily single. Deep down you know you want and need a man even tho you don’t wanna admit it. The first step to getting one is asking me what they look for
u know what sucks? Men do the things to get the girl and not to keep the girl...
Because she messed up.
Sis wallahi so true sadly
Facts
Or maybe if he just wanted sex and once he got it, it was a wrap.
@Connor Dusty Hickory II someone break your heart Connor?
I agree with Loni, don't start off doing all that because he'll expect you to keep doing it.
If you dont want to do wife like things, well stop the sex you give because that's a wife type of thing.
@@mightyblack1 "Wife" things? When were you born, at the turn of the century? If a woman is working full time and not a stay at home mom, all household chores should be shared. If the husband is a stay-at-home Dad and the wife is earning the money, he should do the majority of household chores.
I agree with Loni, don't play yourself being a gf doing wife things.
That should mean stop having sex if youre not married to him.Sex is married people stuff.
@Agatha z But acting like a husband is supposed to give you confidence in the man that is proposin g to you. If a man did none of these things and proposed, you'd be anxious about marrying that man. Personally, i act like a husband from day 1 because i have to put my best foot forward and its not something i can switch on & off. I'd expect the same for my partner.
Loni and Garcelle are both anti black man.
@@mightyblack1
You: Loni and Garcelles are both anti black men
Me: Sources?
You: Trust me bro
@@mightyblack1 I don't think you realize how bad that makes black men look here....
It’s so nice seeing how Adrienne evolved bc she used to have micro aggressive misogynistic undertones & now she’s realizing women don’t need to be put in a box and can do anything men can with no double standards
When was she ever like this?
@@francescadeyo7045 she’s been a bit passive aggressive towards women in past segments usually when it came to the duties of wife and marriage/relationships but she has Grown so much that I find myself agreeing with her more than Jeanie nowadays.
@Neta S Completely! Jeanie has taken on this weird 'submissive Asian' stereotype since she's started dating her 'dominant black man' Jeezy. She was the one always telling the other hosts about equality and the value of women in relationships and she's Ms. submit to him. It makes it seem like everything she said in the past was just a lie
@@Sali-yw1rd Whenever a black rapper is involved, Jeanie loses her beliefs and sense of self. She contradicts herself boldly and she's losing her credibility
@@niolab7 come on we all knew her and Freddie weren't meant for each other every time she spoke about him I cringed soooo hard. She's actually in loved and he's clearly treating her right, don't be mad, jealous much?
Garcelle is a great hype woman. I’m loving her ♥️
My fellow haitian beauty 😍 she's great
@@melissalitus8879
Yeah i did not know she was créole, that's so cool 😁
This is why some women have been the girlfriend for 12 years with 4 kids and still got no ring and then when they ask their man “when are we gonna get married?” he hits her with the “it’s like we’re married.” 💀
🤦♀️ well that's what you get when u think marriage license is just a piece of paper and you dnt expect commitment and you dnt even knw how to introduce him
@@flipflopy8538 Exactly! A lot of women need to wake up and stop letting these men walk all over them. It doesn't take that long for a man to know that he wants to marry you. There is no need to wait so long to get a ring.
It's allowing yourself to be walked over. If some women prefer to be married, having kids won't seal deals or speed thing up. A guy knows less than 2 years if you're worthy to be his wife. If he's not talking about it (on his own), then he's not interested. Set a time limit to bounce.
YOU are all dumb!
Lmao
They made a great decision by hiring Garcelle!!!!!!!.....This is so far the best season ever
Straight up
When I tell you Jeannie truly has improved every single week to the point where I think she was has been the most improved non dancer outside of the people at the top... she is the only dancer who HAS BEEN CONSISTENT and has gone up and up and up and has gotten constructive criticism and the viewers and the judges love her ! NEXT WEEK IS GONNA BE DOUBLE ELIMINATION SO IF U WANNA SEE JEANNIE BEANS MAKE IT PAST WEEK 8 THEN VOTE VOTE VOTE !!!
Realistically it’s a bit hard the other contestants are a lot better. It’s probably time for her and Chrishelle to go
@@MJ-vb7un not really cuz her average is close to Skai’s and higher than Chrishell & Nelly...
@@MajesticMyronn Nellys fan base is huge. Skais is even bigger. So when you mix dancing skills and fan base ......
@@MJ-vb7un yes... but Skai has been in the bottom 3 not once but several times this season... and some of her low scores didn’t help cuz they left her vulnerable to almost end up in bottom two
@@MajesticMyronn bottom 3 isn’t about the votes. It’s only the bottom 2 that reflects the lowest amount of votes with judges scored. The rest is not in order. Anyway let’s see
This is one of the times where I completely agree with Loni. Unless he has intentions of making you his actual wife, do not act like you are. I honestly don't get women who have the girlfriend title for more than 10 years, have children with this person, yet they can't commit to marriage. If he can commit to impregnating you, he can certainly marry you. Another thing I completely hate is when men call their girlfriends "wife" and vice versa. Do not be using marital terms with me if you have zero intentions of marrying me.
That’s why you have the title “girlfriend” for 10 years
Yep...
If he ain't talking about marriage within 1-3 years of being together. Then time to exit cause no one has time to be a GF for 10 years.
Bingo.
@@melissalitus8879 exactly. I will said 6months to 1year and half. 3years even if too long. 6 to 18months is enough for us to know if we want to be together forever
Not everyone cares about that. I'm married 5 years, but I believe marriage is a legal/business arrangement but not everyone wants all their money and liabilities mixed up or the government involved in their union. I'm married mainly bc I'm in a international relationship and it was needed to give us stability so we can live together. People who think marriage is this relationship necessity are usually broke people. It's not that deep. Its just a generic set of legal agreements held together by a single piece of paper.
Garcelle is such a great addition to The Real. She has a wonderful to presence.
agree! i wasnt feeling her at first but shes good!!
I agree with Loni don’t be wife to boyfriend coz u will never know if y’all would end up to together so why waste ur time
Well stop having sex.
All of this is relative to the type of guy you are entertaining. When my boyfriend and I were dating, he had to be at work super early in the morning. When he stayed over my place, I was up at 5am scrambling eggs and packing his lunch. I would also invite him over to dinner after work.
I did not do his laundry because #1 we didn’t live together and #2 I didn’t own a washer and dryer. I was going to the laundry mat to do mine. BUT, because of the kind of guy he is, one day I came home to a new washer and dryer that he carried up 3 flights of stairs by himself.
That was our entire relationship. I did a lot, but so did he. Fast forward, we dated for a year. He put a ring on it, we’ve been married 6 years with a beautiful daughter and he just built me a home.
Again, it’s all relative to the type of guy. Most of the men women do “wifey” things for never intend to make you a wife. To Garcelle’s point, a man KNOWS if he wants the cow. So believe him when he shows you. My then boyfriend made it clear from the jump that he was looking for a wife.
But to Jeanie’s point, I am not longer up at 5am scrambling eggs. I slacked off big time. All of that went away once the child came. Just yesterday , we settled for IHOP for breakfast. 😂😂😂😂
Yes, the type of man is the absolute key
My husband cooks and cleans for me ALL the time and I freaking love it. But when I have more time in my schedule I do things for our household that he doesn't really do. We just pick up the slack where and when we can. It's not about gender roles..
💯💯💯 yessss
You said "husband". You two are a team. My husband throws down in the kitchen, also.
Yes you said husband tho, I don’t think many boyfriends would do that lol
Amen!! My husband is the cook in our house. I cook once in a while but my husband does most of the cooking and he cooked for me before we got married. We don't have gender role behavior in our marriage. We do what needs to be done, as long as it gets done it doesn't matter which one of us does it.
@@couturegalx3 My boyfriend does... ALL the time
I am loving the contributions that Garcelle is making on this show!
A self hating Haitian who only desl with white men only .She only add more black man hate.Garcelle had two white husbands who left her selfish ass.Adrienne husband must be a simp or it's just TB talk.
@@mightyblack1 Oh go sleep
This is why alot of women fall apart after a break up because she invested so much of herself and expected the guy to be loyal and stay. No guarantees ladies.
But there isnt a guarantee even if they are married
I agree with Jeannie in that you should remain who you show up as from the beginning of a relationship but that doesn't mean that you need to start doing laundry, cleaning dishes from the onset. Those are definitely husband privileges like Loni said!
I totally agree with Loni. Somethings you just don’t do as a gf!! Again, if you’re doing wife stuff with your bf why in the world does he need to marry you? He already has what he wants..
People are going to have sex... that’s marriage stuff.
@@biancalord488 this is showing the double standard stuff in theyre mindset.
V.B exactly my point
Blair Bear I also agree with Loni. I've seen cases where guys aren't motivated to marry their girlfriends because their girlfriends have already gone full wife mode before he has even presented a ring.
The dish washing example was a weak one by Jeannie. Dish-washing when someone has served you dinner is just common courtesy and good upbringing, - like giving up your seat to an older person/pregnant lady. It's impersonal. BUT doing laundry... taking someone's personally clothing items that they wear, and washing them denotes a much MUCH higher level of familiarity. I have to agree with Loni.
Awande Zwane I agree
I agree with Loni. I was always taught “don’t give a boyfriend husband privileges!”
How bout this. Don't live together if you're just boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't play house when you ain't married and that expectation won't even be there.
Thank you!!!
What if you don't want to get married?🤷🏽♀️
@@qutielove2208 then that’s different
@@qutielove2208 u don't want to get married but you want to live together with a man😄😄😄
This whole living together with a man and you are not considered husband and wife is only normal is western countries 😄😄😄 and i hv never understood it.
In my country if you live with a man for more than six months you are considered married no need for the ring and all the stuff even guys will stop coming at you for serious reasons and elders will exclude you in the non married category.
If you just choose to live with a man in Africa... trust me girl you are married without a wedding no body will say thats her boyfriend they will all say that is her husband. Worst part if you guys break up even if its after two years in this society you are a divorcee 😂😂😂😂.
NO MOVING IN IN AFRICA UNLESS YOU ARE SURE ITS OFFICIAL AND I MEAN FOREVER. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Married or not. If you are comfortable doing certain things in a relationship, so long as he appreciates it and does things that help and support you too...DO YOU! You know your relationship.
Jeannie and Adrienne 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Jeannie’s right don’t be phony show him who you are
Garcelle be having them shook lol!
I am Muslim so we don’t even move in or have boyfriends. Yes you can court with the intention of marriage. I am now married and was speaking with my husband 6 months then we got married. We are now married 9 years.
I wouldn’t recommend cleaning his laundry, cooking or doing all the things you would do in a marriage. Even in a marriage is partnership so we don’t even have chores just assigned to me. We help one another. The one task I don’t like he does and the ones he doesn’t enjoy I do. Is give and take.
My dad always said you are exclusive don’t be everywhere and cheapen yourself before marriage. Men lose interest and can have someone long term gf/bf with no interest in marriage
About to be a married women in 9 days 💕
Congratulations. All the best ❤️
Congratulations 🎉!! May your union be full of love, light, loyalty & faith🦋💖🌸‼️
Congratulations 🥳🙏🏼💌💯
girl all the happiness to you!
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree with Loni 💯. Each level of the relationship has it's own levels of access, benefits and perks. Don't blur the lines.
I loveeeeee this dynamic, they blend so well. I didn’t think I could love Garcelle more 🥺
LOVED that Jeannie talked about "Positions"! It's truly AMAZING ❤️
I gotta check it out. I would've thought it was about something else based on the name .
yeah everyone thought the same thing too. In some lyrics it could refer to "other things" if you know what i mean haha but the music video gives it a whole other perspective. You should check it out 👌🏼
I think it's different for every stage in a relationship. I would never do a man's laundry or housework, for him, during the dating phase of the relationship. If it's marriage or us living together, different story.
I'm not doing anyone's laundry regardless. My g strings are mine their boxer briefs are theress
I agreed... if we're just dating and living in separate house... then no. But if we are living under the same roof (married or not)... taking turn doing laundry is ok...
@V.B Exactly... my relationship we are equal... like he'll wash and dry the laundry, and I'll fold it and vice versa... or he'll wash, and I dry, and we fold together... it's all about taking turns and being considerate with one another... everyone has the roles... not just to one person.
This is something that has always been said but? Never elaborated on. Don’t do wifely duties or he won’t wife you up. I would say only put in what you receive. I’ve seen women buy their boyfriend’s rolexes but, they’ll get them a bday card from the gas station.
SCREAMIN 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😫😫😫😫😫😫
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just celebrated my first year of marriage this month!!! Trust me ladies set your boundaries. I did it early just as a girlfriend and you will thank yourself later. No crazy expectations and I can be my damn self in my marriage. The right man won’t have an issue with it.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 congrats!!
How in the world is Garcelle 53 yet she looks 35?! Her ootd is on fleek. They all look good too
I like how Loni is promoting her book in the background lol
So agree with Loni here. There should be a clear distinction between a wife and a girlfriend. Boyfriends shouldn't be getting husband privileges
I love when Adrienne lays knowledge on us. Yall notice how when she speaks everyone listens . I love her 💞
they say a lot about loni love but she has a good head on her shoulders with this comment....women out here trying to impress men during the dating process...let him impress you; point blank, "you" the prize!
I’m not a prize I’m an asset. Prizes can get old and replaceable... both men and women are priceless assets who don’t depreciate in value. Not just a women so let’s think of ourselves that way.
Ok in my opinion... this is just me right ?! I truly believe is it ok to do things for your partner?! ABSOLUTELY... is it ok for it to be s routine if that’s you choose to do ! Yes ! Is it ok if you choose for it not to be a routine... YES ! I think the one thing that would turn me on as a man that is looking for a wife and seeing what makes her wife material is not what she does for me but what she does for herself! Is she a boss woman ( cuz a strong man has no problem being with a strong woman ) , does she take care of herself first and not always tend to my needs as soon as I need it ...is she aware and (not self conscious) but confident in who she is without needing to be perfect , does she have independent traits but knows when to be interdependent and lean on me without being overbearing !!! Every woman and every man and every relationship is different ! Not Every man likes a independent woman , not every man wants to be codependent on their woman either ! So that’s me !
😎 OK MYRONN I HEAR YOU REAL TALK I AGREE I NEVER WAS A SUZZY HOMEMAKER WIFEY & MY HUSBAND LOVED ME CAUSE I ALWAY'S KEPT IT REAL I NEVER PLAYED THE SUPER HERO WOMAN 💃🎶🏃
ALSO I HIT BINGO MY HUBBY IS A GREAT COOK 😇 I'M VERY SPOIL HE DOES THE MOST COOKING 💞 ALL I HAVE TOO DUE IS SERVE HIM HIS DESSERT & THAT'S ME 😂💃😅
@Pink Salt that's because you choose wrong. Y'all be looking at the wrong things and be surprised when the scorpion stings u.
@Pink Salt but u are because according to u if u do anything for a man they just cheat on u and divorce u. that just shows the type of women and men who u deal with. I am glad that you see that too which is why u should stay away from commiting to the scrubs in ur life.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Insightful and truthful.
- a woman
As a woman, I agree with you 100%
My husband and I have had such a long talk before marriage. I never came in acting like a soldier or doing all chores. We both came in being honest and being ourself. He loves cooking so he does it I hate ironing so he does it. But I like the cleaning toilet and flooring. We share things. I always tell my sisters don’t fake it from the beginning. Be honest. Is not a wife’s job to do everything
love you Jeannie, you are the BEST EVER on DWTS, Hands down!!! :)
Woahhhhh Jeannie! Good advice!!! Be yourself from day 1! 🙌🏼
I agree with Loni!
Me too
Me too
My girl was speaking facts!
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Jeannie 🤫. Just because Loni isn't married doesn't mean she can't voice her opinion.
You of all people always have an opinion on everything so why shouldn't Loni? Just because Jay decide to make you his wife doesn't mean your above Loni or any other female who isn't married because not everyone wants marriage.
I agree with Loni.
If you start playing the role of a wife when your only dating a man who has not given you the commitment of marriage then, it's likely he will never marry you.
"Why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free!". Just saying 🤭
You're delusional get some help.
You're absolutely on point! I can't stand her ass... Ever since she got with Jay she swears she black! And we know what's going to happen in 5 years tops.. 5 years was me being generous😂😂😂
@@yaya78774 no you are if you can't see it. Also the way she tries to act like she's black... but it's okay 5 years tops🤭😂
Yo when I tell you... as soon as I saw the video... Ariana basically let it be said that it’s ok for women to have multiple roles in life and let each role be different from the other without it carrying over into a different role ! Each role is within its own lane... women in the work life and outside of the household can be very different very from their household life and that conscious choice can be beautiful if you let it play out !
Jeannie said a great point about doing you from the start of the relationship. That way, there won’t be any surprises two years down the line.
All the ladies look lovely, but loni is especially radiant today 😊😍😊
Jeannie's "submission" in a relationship is in my mind the message in the song "cater to you" by Destiny's Child. Now stop fussing and getting all offended folks lol
I'm loving Loni's look today 😍 🔥 its the eyeshadow for me.
Garcelle, you are doing amazing!! Good job. Keep it real. God bless 💞💕
I'm loving Jeannie and Loni look in this video. I agreed with Loni. Being a girlfriend is fun and nothing is wrong with that. I don't understand why people don't enjoy that stage of their relationship and just do girlfriend stuff. I'm a wife now, and I can say I'm glad I enjoy each stage of my relationship being a girlfriend, fiancé, wife, and soon to be a mother. I knew I wasn't going to be a girlfriend or a fiance for long so I took the time to really enjoyed those stages.
Garcelle is such a great addition to the show, and I really love her voice
I love Garcelle, she is sooo positive and adds so much to the show!! 💕🥰💕 plus she's beautiful
I agree with Loni! Don’t give them EVERYTHING when dating . Show things little by little . My husband and I do laundry together, he loves helping me ❤️
I love this one. “Will he buy the cow if he is getting the milk for free” 😂
damnn I really didn’t know what to expect when they announced Garcelle but I must say she’s great!
in yesteryears women were courted and taken out for dates. These women didn't move in, or Netflix/chill. So if you want to overstep those limits and be a modern woman, pitfalls ahead -men will use you for sex, chores errands, split bills
You should wash your own dish when you’re done eating - that’s just called having manners. Shouldn’t be any gender to that 💁🏽♀️
Jeannie has truly improved. Dont set the precedent in a relationship doing anything you dont like to do. Be yourself through and through babe.
Edit: lol Jeannie literally said exactly what I was saying. Yes girl
I love Jeannie mai,just amazing.
I LOVE Loni’s makeup here! Gorgeous
Such a sweet intro 😢 awww ❤️ J
I agree with Adrienne, it really depends on the relationship and it both parties are on the same page because what about the people who don’t believe in marriage but they want to stay committed to each other? It really comes down to communication and and letting the other person know what is expected and what isn’t. Loni and Jeannie made good points as well.
Love that Loni has Garcelle there to understand when she makes mature or outside of showbiz observations now! 💗
Also fun tl see Adrienne explain why she loves Sex and the City more now! She's been talking about it the whole show but that was a really cool tidbit to learn about it
All these conversations are so good with Garcelle in the mix. Such a good group!
Good day Ladies. This ist my 1sr time ever commenting .
Garcelll I love what you did when your stopped your mother helping out when she visited and you first got married. You knew thats not what you would be doing as constant chore. Don't spoil men and be left in the struggles 100%.
I support Loni comment 100% on separation of Girlfriend's and wife's roles. You should not give your all when you just dating or you a Girlfriend.
I believein having separate homes for a good while before you move in if you gonna get married. Its good to know whats you gonna live with and you will get more information when you share a space/home. That when you both decide marriage is the next step. Even then you should not give your all because you ain't married yet. After your marriage be yourself as well don't start doing thing you know will not keep up and hate doing.
I like the 1st comment that Jeanie said about don't try to be someone you are not in a relationship to impress and get a man. The hardest part and role to have a man is to keep him. If you are not truthful being the true you then disappointment will happen and may affect the relationship etc.. for example If you hate cooking don't be cooking up a storm and then if you get married then you stop.
Lady Loni you speak some real hard facts that I love. I have lived alone for so long I dread going back to living with a man to compromise with the liberty that I have with my home and space
Adrianne I love the fact your man can do stuff and see that for example if he is wasting whites then ask you if you have any whites to wash to put with his load.
Great segment. Ade is on point at 7:27 . Then Loni comes in on point 💯💯💪🏾💪🏾
I agree with Loni with the dating and marriage positions. Congratulations Jeanie !!!
Loving the pink eye shadow Loni Love. Love it. I agree don’t do the Laundry unless if you both share household chores. Half half or just do your own clothes no arguments x
For me, there are boundaries of what I was willing to do as a girlfriend before I became a wife. It wasn't necessarily traditional role type things but I was okay with not doing certain things and he also didn't have an expectation of me to do certain things before we got married. He respected my boundaries and had some of his own that I had to respect.
For example, I'd always wanted to take trips with my HUSBAND and not my boyfriend. It was something special to me to make a memory in another place with my Husband. I created that boundary for trips and now that we're married, every trip feels special for us to have an experience together because I didn't wanna make memories like that with a boyfriend even though I knew I would marry him. My Husband respected that as my boyfriend even though he didn't like it.
Boundaries are good for each relationship. No one can determine what boundaries work for someone else's relationship, but if a person doesn't set boundaries, they can find themselves being taken advantage of or not being able to get to the next level with a person because they have given everything they have in a stage that may have been premature.
I agree with you and this is what I would do. What kind of things would you both do when you go out on a regular?
Preach!!!
I think that’s actually pretty cool.. the trip idea
Idk if i would do it but i can see how that becomes a special thing afterwards.. especially if he didn’t like the rule before
@@Bibi_xoxoo We would go to the movies, hangout with friends, go grab food (upscale spots and chill spots as well), music festivals/concerts, museums, etc. We had so much fun together and always doing new things! Ahhh lol.
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I totally agree with Jeannie - Don't introduce people to a vibe you can't maintain - if you know you don't cook everyday then don't do that!
Loni is right! If you don’t understand go and watch Divorce court...might help you understand better
Preach Loni preach! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I agree act like a girlfriend not a wife. He will use you in the process waste your time n in 2 to 3 months actually marry someone else. Do not act as a Wife until you get the ring.
I agree with Loni set a standard.Some men get too comfortable and lay back when you spoil them too much to quick, let it be worth it work .Make sure your labour is not in vain lol.
Loving garcelle too💋 I tried to be fair with everyone before her but with her it's just so easy. She's gracious and intelligent but funny and seems so down to earth ♥️♥️💕
I needed to hear dis cause I be feelin the love comin real soon.
Love A´s look here. Au naturel! No overlined lips , no heavy contouring of well...her whole face! Rock your natural beauty A, cause it´s beautiful!
Loni out here spitting game ladies GAME! I love her ❤️
I remember this Steve Harvey statement: show him what he can have but let him expect what he might get
I'm really loving the topics this season. It reminds me of the earlier seasons
Preach loni!
Honestly, they all had great points. I do think every relationship is different and it does depend on the stage of a relationship. If the boyfriend/girlfriend is a serious and committed one, I don’t see anything wrong with doing their laundry. But if it’s super early in the relationship and you barely know each other I wouldn’t be doing too much too soon-if that makes sense.
I agree with Loni.. if you are doing wifely things as a girlfriend, a lot of men figure, why do I have to marry her if she's already doing what a wife does (not to say that laundry, chores, etc solely pertain to a woman). Here you are 10 years down the road still expecting a marriage and the man is perfectly fine with the way things are, NOT married. This is even more so a problem if you're not even living together. You don't live together and you're constantly going over to his, or her, place and cooking, doing laundry, etc. To Jeannie's point, if you are invited to someone's home for a meal, it is POLITE to help with the clean-up process to simply give the host a break.
Yasssssss Loni.
Never do wifey duties at a girlfriend’s price.
They hired a good lady. Her energy is great
beautiful Jeannie and A!! totally agreeeeeee
Everybody does their own laundry at my house - kids, man, etc... They learn responsibility, and he knows that it's all of our responsibility to maintain our home. Of course we'll wash a piece or two of each others clothes, but we all share in keeping our house a home.
Yep, I hear you Loni. It’s not specifically of what the chore is, it’s what y’all decide to do as a married couple. Every relationship is different. When you’re married you should be willing to serve each other. Not one pulling the weight more than the other. Girlfriend has her place and so does the wife. If you give wifely actions to a man that’s only your boyfriend he’s going to treat you as such. Thinking why do I need to marry her if she gives me everything now.
Her hair is gorgeous and on point!
Jeannie thank you for being honest. Be consistent from the beginning
One of my friends about had a cow when I told her that I do the housework in my family. I work part time from home and my man works full time and has a really stressful job. He brings home more $$ than we need and I’m so grateful for that. I’m not going to berate him to mop the floor or clean the bathroom when I am the one with more time on my hands, and a low stress flexible job, it all depends on your situation. Don’t let people make you feel bad if you do choose a more “traditional” way of marriage. I couldn’t be happier with my man- and he is satisfied as well lol
I agree with you Loni!
6:50 garcelle and loni 😂😂😂 loni said "who you talking to" ☠
“What are you talkin about” 🤔
Yasssss Loni !! 100 percent ! Yup bc too many girlfriends act like a wife,...
Perfect timing ladies